Order of Man - Break Free From Imposter Syndrome

00:00:00.000 I don't want us to get wrapped up

00:00:01.540 in this imposter syndrome thing anymore.

00:00:03.480 There's so much weight and baggage that comes with this.

00:00:06.340 The insecurities that you're facing are,

00:00:08.720 you're not good enough.

00:00:09.780 You don't deserve something.

00:00:11.140 You're not worth something.

00:00:12.520 All of that you embraced probably at an early age

00:00:15.220 and told yourself that whatever that person

00:00:17.260 was saying about you was right.

00:00:18.960 You know what?

00:00:19.420 They weren't.

00:00:19.880 They were not objectively right.

00:00:22.060 Maybe they weren't right.

00:00:23.360 Maybe I am divine.

00:00:24.700 Maybe God put me here for a reason.

00:00:27.020 Who am I to spit in the face of God?

00:00:30.000 Men, today I wanna talk with you

00:00:33.060 about the concept of imposter syndrome.

00:00:36.680 This is one of the questions and conversations

00:00:39.220 that gets brought up all the time over the past 10 years.

00:00:43.180 And there are so many men, probably at this point,

00:00:45.620 millions of men who feel like they're dealing

00:00:47.680 with imposter syndrome.

00:00:49.060 And I'm gonna be a little harsh.

00:00:50.740 I'm gonna be a little frank with you guys today.

00:00:53.660 Enough, okay?

00:00:55.000 Enough with the imposter syndrome thing.

00:00:57.420 I know in modern times,

00:00:59.880 we're supposed to be sorry about us being men.

00:01:03.160 We're supposed to be humble.

00:01:05.380 We're supposed to be meek and mild and weak

00:01:07.880 and pathetic and cowardly

00:01:09.140 and everything else that modern society

00:01:10.860 would tell you to be.

00:01:12.360 Guys, just get over it.

00:01:14.760 I've got some ideas for you

00:01:16.360 and I'm gonna share some ideas.

00:01:18.320 But I hear this so often

00:01:20.200 and everything that I hear

00:01:22.380 just holds no weight or relevancy

00:01:25.200 around how you ought to feel about yourself

00:01:28.180 and producing in your life.

00:01:30.100 So what I want to address today is imposter syndrome,

00:01:34.300 but I wanna give you the man's perspective.

00:01:37.660 Because what we often hear

00:01:39.500 is a watered down, weak, pathetic version

00:01:44.360 of why you should feel inadequate in your life

00:01:47.680 about who you are.

00:01:48.820 So this is gonna rub some people in the wrong way.

00:01:52.960 And if you've ever felt like,

00:01:54.440 oh, I'm an imposter,

00:01:55.740 you're probably gonna be rubbed the wrong way

00:01:57.820 when you hear what I'm about to share with you today.

00:01:59.860 And you know what?

00:02:00.740 Good.

00:02:02.680 I want you to be rubbed the wrong way.

00:02:05.580 I want you to critically think

00:02:07.320 about what I'm about to share with you

00:02:08.840 and ask yourself

00:02:09.680 if this is even something that you should entertain.

00:02:13.440 If this concept of them being an imposter

00:02:17.000 is something that you should even buy into,

00:02:20.560 that you should even embrace to any degree in your life.

00:02:24.540 And I'm just telling you right offhand, it's not.

00:02:28.120 So I'm gonna give you some reasons why that is.

00:02:30.080 So I'm gonna share with you

00:02:31.420 where this comes from

00:02:33.080 for the men that I've dealt with over the past 10 years.

00:02:35.440 And I'm also gonna give you some steps

00:02:37.060 on what you can do about it

00:02:38.880 if you feel like you're a quote unquote imposter.

00:02:41.380 But let's address this thing first.

00:02:44.720 Imposter syndrome is the idea

00:02:46.920 that wherever you are in life,

00:02:49.320 whatever results that you're enjoying,

00:02:52.120 whatever benefits of life you're enjoying,

00:02:54.160 whatever happiness or fulfillment or satisfaction

00:02:56.760 that you have in your life,

00:02:59.040 that you're not worthy of it.

00:03:00.500 And who are you to say you're not worthy of it?

00:03:04.760 Maybe somebody else acknowledged that you were.

00:03:08.060 Maybe you're out there serving other people

00:03:09.800 and they are telling you that you served and helped them.

00:03:14.220 And are you gonna be the one to say

00:03:16.080 that wasn't good enough?

00:03:18.240 This is, imposter syndrome is very selfish.

00:03:22.560 Again, stick with me on this, guys.

00:03:24.740 You're not gonna like what I'm gonna share with you,

00:03:26.560 especially if you suffer from this.

00:03:28.060 But I need you to hear it.

00:03:29.340 You're being selfish.

00:03:31.420 You're being self-centered.

00:03:32.600 You're so focused on how you present,

00:03:36.860 how you show up,

00:03:38.020 what other people think about you,

00:03:40.080 whether or not you do or don't deserve X, Y, and Z.

00:03:43.180 And all of that is centered around you

00:03:45.020 as if you're the center of the universe.

00:03:46.840 And you know what?

00:03:47.380 You're not.

00:03:48.300 You're not.

00:03:49.380 You're not the center of the universe.

00:03:51.440 And I'm not the center of the universe.

00:03:54.140 Our job is to serve other people.

00:03:56.720 So if it's your kids or your wife,

00:03:58.920 your significant other,

00:04:00.160 your colleagues, your clients, your friends,

00:04:02.480 your family members, your neighbors,

00:04:04.020 make them the center of the universe.

00:04:06.620 Now, that's not to say

00:04:07.660 that you shouldn't continue to work on yourself

00:04:09.440 and make yourself capable of serving others,

00:04:11.600 but stop worrying about yourself.

00:04:14.080 I don't deserve this.

00:04:15.420 I don't deserve that.

00:04:16.980 I feel like a fraud.

00:04:18.780 I feel like a phony.

00:04:20.340 I, I, I, I, I, I.

00:04:22.420 Stop it.

00:04:23.240 Just stop, please.

00:04:27.000 Okay, all of this imposter syndrome stuff

00:04:29.420 is rooted in insecurity.

00:04:32.540 You're insecure about who you are.

00:04:36.320 I don't know if I've ever felt like an imposter

00:04:39.120 because I'm not.

00:04:43.140 I acknowledge the truth about where I am.

00:04:45.860 I acknowledge the deficiencies I have in my life.

00:04:48.460 I acknowledge where I need to improve.

00:04:51.240 I acknowledge my weaknesses.

00:04:52.680 I'm also willing to acknowledge my strengths.

00:04:54.540 And I know that my purpose goes above and beyond

00:04:57.560 what I can produce for myself,

00:04:59.680 but what I can do for other people.

00:05:01.660 And therefore, when somebody promotes me

00:05:04.020 or somebody compliments me

00:05:05.880 or somebody congratulates me,

00:05:07.740 I can say, thank you.

00:05:09.080 I know I did a good job.

00:05:10.300 I'm not arrogant about it,

00:05:12.820 but I know I did a good job

00:05:14.280 because I prepared and trained and worked hard

00:05:16.420 for the results that I've produced in my life

00:05:18.860 at the behest of other people,

00:05:21.320 at the benefit of other people.

00:05:24.160 So let's break this down

00:05:25.080 on the insecurities thing, number one.

00:05:27.240 You feel like you're not good enough.

00:05:31.180 You feel like you're not good enough.

00:05:33.100 And you know what?

00:05:33.640 Maybe you're not.

00:05:35.760 Well, frankly, you'll never be good enough.

00:05:38.380 John Eldridge talks about the idea

00:05:41.240 that every man is answering the question,

00:05:43.040 do I have what it takes?

00:05:44.260 The answer is yes, you have some of what it takes.

00:05:46.480 And the other answer is no,

00:05:47.980 you don't have what it takes

00:05:49.220 to be fully who you want to be,

00:05:50.760 or at least who you ought to think you want to be.

00:05:54.220 You're gonna fall short.

00:05:56.980 You're not gonna get the promotion.

00:05:58.500 You're not gonna get the woman.

00:06:00.120 You're not gonna have the career that you want.

00:06:02.200 You're not gonna have

00:06:02.700 the financial prosperity and abundance.

00:06:04.220 You're not gonna be praised

00:06:05.720 and worshiped by other people

00:06:08.120 the way that maybe you have dreams in your sleep

00:06:10.540 about how you'd like it to be.

00:06:12.720 It's fine.

00:06:15.040 It's fine.

00:06:16.240 Who says you're not good enough?

00:06:19.560 You're a divine entity.

00:06:22.660 God has put you on this planet to do something.

00:06:25.720 Something to serve other people,

00:06:27.400 to be better, to serve other people,

00:06:28.980 to help people on their own progress,

00:06:30.340 and then eventually return to Him.

00:06:32.420 So yeah, maybe you're not good enough right now.

00:06:34.520 So what?

00:06:36.560 Somebody believes that you are.

00:06:39.280 Somebody's asking you for questions

00:06:40.800 or answers to their questions.

00:06:43.440 Somebody's asking for advice.

00:06:44.900 Somebody's looking to you for influence.

00:06:46.740 Be that person.

00:06:47.580 Stop saying I'm not good enough.

00:06:48.900 You don't get to decide.

00:06:50.580 That's the interesting thing about value.

00:06:52.400 You don't get to decide how valuable you are.

00:06:55.900 Other people get to decide.

00:06:57.740 And when you start thinking,

00:06:59.040 even for a second,

00:07:00.000 that I'm the one who gets to determine

00:07:01.740 what my value is to others,

00:07:03.520 you're being arrogant.

00:07:04.320 If somebody comes to you and says,

00:07:06.380 hey, I need advice about this,

00:07:07.620 it's because they're asking you advice

00:07:09.600 for something they think you know.

00:07:12.680 Be gracious.

00:07:14.880 Accept the compliment,

00:07:17.240 and then give them the feedback they're looking for.

00:07:19.480 Number two is you don't feel like you deserve something.

00:07:23.520 I don't deserve the promotion.

00:07:25.440 I don't deserve the happy marriage.

00:07:27.180 I don't deserve my children.

00:07:29.400 I don't deserve this award.

00:07:32.840 Who said?

00:07:34.040 Because somebody clearly says you do deserve it.

00:07:37.460 Your wife married you.

00:07:39.740 Your kids are looking at you.

00:07:41.880 You just got the promotion.

00:07:43.740 You just got the acknowledgement,

00:07:45.160 the recognition,

00:07:45.840 the notoriety,

00:07:46.660 the congratulations,

00:07:47.580 the award.

00:07:48.880 Who are you to decide what you deserve?

00:07:52.080 Now, look,

00:07:53.380 I know there's some nuance and caveat to that.

00:07:55.760 Like,

00:07:56.000 you should know your worth

00:07:57.500 as a human being,

00:07:59.420 as a divine entity,

00:08:00.680 but if somebody else is congratulating you

00:08:02.920 or acknowledging you

00:08:03.840 or awarding you for a job well done,

00:08:06.340 you don't get to decide that.

00:08:08.440 They decide that.

00:08:10.680 Value is always subjective,

00:08:13.580 meaning it's only as valuable

00:08:16.100 as other people believe it is,

00:08:17.540 and if somebody comes to you,

00:08:18.520 if your boss comes to you and says,

00:08:19.760 hey, we want to promote you,

00:08:20.720 then you deserve it

00:08:21.660 because that person acknowledges it in you.

00:08:28.220 If your wife comes to you and says,

00:08:29.720 hey, I've had a hard day.

00:08:30.540 I need some advice,

00:08:31.840 then you deserve it

00:08:33.000 because she honors and acknowledges

00:08:35.700 that you might be able to give her

00:08:36.920 the insight she needs to get through her day.

00:08:40.160 If your kids are struggling

00:08:41.260 with something at school

00:08:42.140 and they come to you

00:08:42.760 and tell you about

00:08:43.880 what they're struggling with,

00:08:44.860 then you deserve the notoriety

00:08:46.240 and accolades

00:08:46.820 that come with being a father

00:08:47.840 or the pride

00:08:48.680 that comes with being a father

00:08:50.140 because your kids

00:08:50.860 actually reached out to you,

00:08:52.080 which means

00:08:52.920 that they think you're worth it.

00:08:55.920 And if they didn't,

00:08:56.720 they wouldn't come to you.

00:08:57.900 Number three,

00:08:59.020 feeling like

00:09:00.320 you're not worth something,

00:09:03.460 that somehow

00:09:04.060 you're this inferior,

00:09:05.480 not that you don't deserve it,

00:09:06.700 but that you're just

00:09:07.280 an inferior person.

00:09:09.600 So we fall into comparison trap.

00:09:11.780 We might say to ourselves,

00:09:13.240 well, you know,

00:09:14.060 I'm really glad

00:09:14.720 I got the promotion,

00:09:15.680 but that guy

00:09:16.260 is better than me.

00:09:19.040 I'm really glad

00:09:19.940 that my wife loves me,

00:09:21.160 but that guy

00:09:21.820 has the better marriage.

00:09:23.980 I'm really glad

00:09:25.140 that my kids

00:09:26.580 will turn to me,

00:09:27.480 but those kids over there

00:09:28.860 love their father

00:09:29.640 more than my kids love me.

00:09:32.320 None of that

00:09:33.040 has any bearing

00:09:33.960 in reality, okay?

00:09:35.120 First of all,

00:09:35.780 you don't know.

00:09:36.960 You don't know

00:09:37.680 what's going on

00:09:38.300 behind closed doors.

00:09:39.320 And second,

00:09:39.720 why are you comparing

00:09:40.700 yourself to other people?

00:09:43.500 Compare yourself

00:09:44.220 to who you were yesterday.

00:09:45.700 Maybe you weren't as good

00:09:46.520 as you could have been yesterday.

00:09:48.160 I talked with a close

00:09:48.960 friend of mine today.

00:09:49.740 He said he blew up

00:09:50.480 at one of his kids today,

00:09:51.880 didn't mean to do it,

00:09:52.740 hasn't done it in the past,

00:09:53.840 felt really bad

00:09:54.540 and tried to make amends.

00:09:55.860 That's all we can do.

00:09:57.140 That's life.

00:09:59.540 It's hard being a father.

00:10:01.320 It's hard being a leader.

00:10:02.420 It's hard being a business owner.

00:10:03.720 It's hard being a husband.

00:10:05.560 And if somebody else

00:10:06.400 is acknowledging you

00:10:07.380 or somebody else

00:10:08.060 is doing quote unquote

00:10:09.380 better than you,

00:10:10.580 first of all,

00:10:11.120 don't believe

00:10:11.780 everything that you see

00:10:13.380 because you don't see

00:10:14.020 all that's going on.

00:10:14.880 And number two,

00:10:15.460 you're not at competition

00:10:16.480 with that guy.

00:10:18.120 You're not trying

00:10:18.760 to win his wife over.

00:10:19.880 He's not trying

00:10:20.340 to win your wife over.

00:10:22.200 You're not trying

00:10:22.660 to be as influential

00:10:23.480 in the lives of their kids

00:10:24.540 as I hope you're trying

00:10:25.600 to be influential

00:10:26.180 in the lives of your kids.

00:10:27.620 Just worry about you

00:10:28.680 and yours.

00:10:29.880 And then you won't have

00:10:30.620 issues with

00:10:31.380 I'm worth something

00:10:32.660 or I'm not worth something

00:10:33.740 compared to the arbitrary

00:10:35.400 comparisons that we make

00:10:37.080 throughout life.

00:10:39.380 We got to get over

00:10:40.760 these insecurities, guys.

00:10:42.660 I'm so tired

00:10:43.940 of hearing the concept

00:10:45.520 of imposter syndrome.

00:10:46.800 It's not relevant.

00:10:50.480 You know,

00:10:50.680 we would never,

00:10:51.980 never,

00:10:53.340 in a million years,

00:10:55.120 tell ourselves

00:10:56.260 that,

00:10:57.660 you know,

00:10:57.900 we just had the NFL draft

00:10:59.460 not too long ago,

00:11:01.020 maybe a month or two ago.

00:11:02.200 We would never tell ourselves

00:11:03.820 that one of the

00:11:04.840 premier draft picks

00:11:07.200 was an imposter

00:11:08.320 because he was practicing

00:11:09.880 on improving

00:11:10.560 and eventually made

00:11:11.420 his way into the NFL.

00:11:14.840 You would never say that.

00:11:17.060 Even though

00:11:17.860 some things they do well

00:11:19.400 and some things

00:11:19.980 they do not so well.

00:11:21.960 You would never say

00:11:23.060 to a person who says,

00:11:24.280 you know,

00:11:24.460 I'd like to learn the guitar

00:11:25.740 and that individual

00:11:27.520 starts practicing

00:11:28.480 20, 30, 40 minutes a day.

00:11:30.220 You would never say

00:11:30.740 to that person,

00:11:31.320 well, you're an imposter.

00:11:32.820 No, they're learning.

00:11:36.040 They're not telling you

00:11:37.140 they're the best.

00:11:38.100 They're not telling you

00:11:39.020 they're God's gift

00:11:39.880 at the NFL

00:11:40.740 or the next,

00:11:42.880 you know,

00:11:43.780 incredible rock star.

00:11:45.100 They're just saying,

00:11:45.760 I want to improve.

00:11:46.380 I want to get better.

00:11:47.080 And isn't that

00:11:47.520 all you're trying to do?

00:11:48.440 So you're not an imposter.

00:11:49.480 You're just trying

00:11:49.820 to get better.

00:11:51.560 And I know,

00:11:52.840 excuse me,

00:11:54.040 people will try

00:11:54.520 to pull you down.

00:11:55.200 They'll try to drag you down

00:11:56.340 because they don't want

00:11:57.420 to face their own inadequacies.

00:11:59.100 And so it feels

00:12:00.000 hard at times.

00:12:02.960 Because you'll either

00:12:03.880 see people who are

00:12:04.640 doing really well

00:12:05.500 or you'll see people

00:12:06.420 who are trying

00:12:06.800 to hold you back.

00:12:08.220 You can't be distracted

00:12:09.140 with either of those things.

00:12:10.200 But let's talk about

00:12:10.900 five things specifically

00:12:12.240 that you can actually do

00:12:13.940 about the concept

00:12:15.320 of imposter syndrome.

00:12:16.920 Number one,

00:12:18.440 understand that

00:12:19.420 when you feel like

00:12:20.480 you're being a

00:12:21.040 quote unquote imposter,

00:12:22.400 it's just a story.

00:12:25.640 And in stories,

00:12:27.500 some of them,

00:12:28.220 all of them,

00:12:28.860 I would say,

00:12:29.260 are infused

00:12:30.680 with an element

00:12:31.440 of truth

00:12:32.220 and all stories

00:12:34.180 are embellished

00:12:36.100 with elements

00:12:38.080 of fiction.

00:12:40.980 There is no story

00:12:42.720 that has ever been told

00:12:44.360 in the history

00:12:45.220 of mankind

00:12:45.820 that is 100%

00:12:48.040 objectively accurate.

00:12:50.160 It's all viewed

00:12:51.140 through a lens.

00:12:52.280 It's all viewed

00:12:53.160 through bias.

00:12:54.000 It's all viewed

00:12:55.280 through different

00:12:56.020 perceptions

00:12:56.700 or vantage points.

00:12:58.940 It's all viewed

00:13:00.120 through a distorted

00:13:01.440 and skewed reality

00:13:02.860 of what actually happened.

00:13:05.040 You know,

00:13:05.300 we see this

00:13:05.720 in police reports.

00:13:06.620 You can take two people

00:13:07.560 who are standing

00:13:08.040 side by side

00:13:08.900 that saw a crash

00:13:10.200 or an accident

00:13:10.840 and one person

00:13:12.920 will give one account

00:13:14.340 and the other person

00:13:15.260 will give another account.

00:13:16.400 Why don't they

00:13:16.880 always match up?

00:13:18.880 Because we see it

00:13:20.500 through our own lens.

00:13:22.320 Everything that you're

00:13:23.160 telling yourself

00:13:23.860 about your life

00:13:24.680 is a story.

00:13:25.740 All the good,

00:13:26.540 all the bad,

00:13:27.220 all the ugly,

00:13:27.860 all the indifferent

00:13:28.500 is a story

00:13:29.340 that you've made up

00:13:30.620 to cope with

00:13:31.800 the realities of life.

00:13:34.160 So when you're

00:13:34.940 telling yourself

00:13:35.560 I'm not good enough,

00:13:36.620 that's a story

00:13:37.520 that you've either

00:13:38.860 written

00:13:39.620 or embraced.

00:13:41.860 We're going to talk

00:13:42.620 a little bit more

00:13:43.200 about that here shortly

00:13:44.160 but it's not real.

00:13:48.960 And if you're going

00:13:49.840 to make up a story

00:13:50.980 about your life

00:13:51.880 or your circumstances

00:13:52.840 and tell yourself

00:13:53.600 I'm not good enough,

00:13:54.480 I don't deserve,

00:13:55.200 I'm not worthy,

00:13:57.780 make up a different story.

00:14:00.240 It's not real, guys.

00:14:02.360 Nothing that we deal with

00:14:03.900 when it comes

00:14:04.460 to interpersonal communication

00:14:05.780 or the way people see us

00:14:07.660 or the score

00:14:08.960 that we get

00:14:09.620 from other people

00:14:10.500 is real.

00:14:11.860 It's just made up.

00:14:14.220 I'm not going to say

00:14:15.140 it's arbitrary.

00:14:16.060 It isn't.

00:14:16.520 People are making up stories

00:14:17.640 based on their own perceptions

00:14:18.780 and realities of life

00:14:19.800 but what you're dealing with

00:14:21.060 is a culmination

00:14:22.240 of the stories

00:14:23.040 that other people

00:14:23.780 have come up with

00:14:24.500 and the stories

00:14:24.980 you've told yourself

00:14:25.660 about your life.

00:14:27.060 Number two,

00:14:28.180 you need to unpack

00:14:29.240 where these insecurities

00:14:30.340 are coming from.

00:14:31.280 So the insecurities are

00:14:32.320 you're not feeling

00:14:33.040 like you're good enough,

00:14:34.820 that you don't deserve something,

00:14:36.640 that you're not worth something.

00:14:38.760 These are just stories

00:14:39.760 but where are they coming from?

00:14:42.860 Excuse me.

00:14:43.560 Where are they coming from?

00:14:47.400 When did you start believing

00:14:48.640 that you're not good enough?

00:14:51.840 When did you start believing

00:14:53.140 that you weren't worth

00:14:54.280 some measured result in life?

00:14:59.220 I use the five W's

00:15:01.240 which is the when,

00:15:02.280 where, what,

00:15:03.080 why, and who

00:15:03.700 and maybe even how.

00:15:04.800 Let's break that down.

00:15:05.920 Number one,

00:15:06.500 you have to reflect.

00:15:07.980 When you start telling yourself,

00:15:09.420 I don't deserve this,

00:15:10.520 I don't deserve this,

00:15:11.620 this acknowledgement.

00:15:13.540 I don't deserve this promotion.

00:15:14.720 I don't deserve this marriage.

00:15:15.860 I'm not good enough for this.

00:15:17.040 I'm not worth that.

00:15:19.280 Ask yourself,

00:15:20.040 where's it coming from?

00:15:21.060 Number one,

00:15:21.740 when did I adopt this idea?

00:15:23.900 When did I embrace this idea

00:15:25.420 that I'm not good enough?

00:15:26.400 Number two,

00:15:26.880 where was I?

00:15:28.760 Was I with my parents?

00:15:30.000 Was I with my friends?

00:15:31.480 Was I with other people

00:15:32.940 I thought that were better than me?

00:15:34.580 What was I doing?

00:15:36.700 You know,

00:15:37.020 maybe I was 10 years old

00:15:38.720 and I was playing

00:15:40.440 baseball

00:15:41.000 and it was a very close game

00:15:43.520 in the championship

00:15:44.400 and I struck out

00:15:47.160 and then my dad yelled at me

00:15:48.900 because I struck out

00:15:50.000 and lost the game

00:15:50.700 and he said that.

00:15:51.440 I lost the game.

00:15:52.380 That did not happen to me.

00:15:53.240 I'm just creating this story

00:15:54.360 for you guys.

00:15:55.600 What was I doing?

00:15:57.540 And then,

00:15:58.200 what did I make that mean

00:15:59.360 about myself?

00:16:00.500 Why?

00:16:01.060 Why did I embrace it?

00:16:02.920 Why did that person say it?

00:16:04.160 Why did my dad maybe say,

00:16:05.920 hey, you're a loser

00:16:06.600 because you lost the game?

00:16:07.780 Probably because that's

00:16:11.180 what his dad instilled in him.

00:16:12.760 It had nothing to do with you.

00:16:14.540 It was just a manifestation

00:16:15.780 or realization

00:16:16.580 of what his dad told to him.

00:16:19.120 And that might afford you

00:16:20.340 a little bit more grace

00:16:21.160 for what your dads

00:16:22.040 have said and done

00:16:23.680 as you were growing up,

00:16:24.700 but it's just a story.

00:16:27.220 And then,

00:16:27.720 the last one is who?

00:16:30.080 Who told you that?

00:16:31.120 Did your dad tell you

00:16:33.420 you weren't worthy?

00:16:35.440 Did your mom tell you

00:16:36.720 you weren't worthy?

00:16:39.180 Were there enough

00:16:39.940 other people in your life

00:16:41.080 who were so insecure

00:16:41.980 about themselves

00:16:42.660 that they didn't want

00:16:43.380 to see you excel

00:16:44.060 and so instead of trying

00:16:45.100 to improve themselves,

00:16:45.980 they tried to drag you down?

00:16:47.520 Like, who actually told you that?

00:16:50.340 It wasn't you.

00:16:52.380 I don't think,

00:16:53.540 for the most part,

00:16:54.360 we have a lot of new ideas.

00:16:57.140 I think we can formulate

00:16:58.520 new concepts

00:16:59.580 based on an equation

00:17:01.440 of new ideas

00:17:02.180 that we've been exposed to

00:17:03.880 and embraced throughout life,

00:17:04.900 but at the end of the day,

00:17:06.120 other people are speaking into us

00:17:08.140 and we get to decide

00:17:09.300 if we're embracing that or not.

00:17:11.900 When did you learn that?

00:17:13.800 Where were you

00:17:14.680 when you learned that?

00:17:16.060 What did you make it believe?

00:17:18.260 Why were people telling you that?

00:17:20.320 And who actually told you that?

00:17:23.200 Part of the other equation

00:17:24.340 for unpacking

00:17:25.140 where these insecurities come from

00:17:26.420 is just reflection and journaling.

00:17:28.820 Journaling has been huge in my life.

00:17:30.200 When I have anything go wrong,

00:17:32.000 whether it's a bout of insecurity

00:17:34.000 or maybe I lost a client

00:17:36.700 or a relationship broke down

00:17:38.580 or I've had a hard time

00:17:40.560 with one of my children

00:17:41.560 or the business isn't doing well,

00:17:44.040 I really spent a lot of time

00:17:45.220 reflecting and thinking

00:17:46.180 and journaling.

00:17:46.940 I have my journals right here.

00:17:50.380 Excuse me.

00:17:52.540 Here's my latest journal.

00:17:54.200 I've got a couple others in my drawer

00:17:55.540 but this is my latest one

00:17:56.520 and I write down

00:17:57.240 just about every day

00:17:59.060 what I'm feeling,

00:18:01.620 what my insecurities are,

00:18:02.720 why I'm feeling that way.

00:18:03.940 And as I write it down,

00:18:04.700 I realize,

00:18:05.440 oh, they're not as real

00:18:06.160 as I made them out to be.

00:18:07.420 They're not the giants

00:18:08.420 or the monsters

00:18:09.340 I thought they were.

00:18:10.980 So unpack the insecurities.

00:18:13.260 Reflection,

00:18:13.780 when, where, why,

00:18:14.740 what, and who

00:18:15.360 and second, journaling.

00:18:17.720 Number three,

00:18:19.240 rewrite the past and current story.

00:18:20.780 So I already alluded to this

00:18:22.500 that when you tell yourself

00:18:24.080 you're not good enough,

00:18:24.920 we know based on

00:18:25.980 what I've already said

00:18:26.700 that it's not objectively true

00:18:28.000 but we've written that story

00:18:29.420 and we've read it so many times

00:18:31.020 even in our own minds

00:18:33.000 that we begin to believe

00:18:34.060 that it is objectively true.

00:18:35.440 It's not.

00:18:36.140 It's not.

00:18:38.280 Nothing you believe about life

00:18:39.800 is objectively true.

00:18:43.440 Maybe you could make the case

00:18:45.060 that two plus two is four.

00:18:46.700 Maybe you could make the case

00:18:50.220 that the way that you spell

00:18:51.720 imposter syndrome

00:18:53.320 is a certain way

00:18:54.600 but even that is subjective

00:18:55.920 because if you're speaking

00:18:56.820 a different language

00:18:57.580 it's spelled a different way

00:18:58.620 and it might mean

00:18:59.540 something completely different.

00:19:01.100 Everything is subjective.

00:19:02.440 Literally,

00:19:03.160 everything is subjective.

00:19:04.560 So what you need to do

00:19:05.500 is rewrite the story

00:19:06.720 so now you have an idea

00:19:07.860 of where that came from

00:19:08.920 and instead of thinking

00:19:10.240 that your dad was a dickhead

00:19:12.680 about the way he treated you,

00:19:14.680 maybe the story

00:19:15.580 you need to tell yourself

00:19:16.720 is that my dad

00:19:18.220 was treated like garbage

00:19:19.360 and therefore he learned that

00:19:21.940 and he emulated that on me.

00:19:23.920 Now, does that absolve him

00:19:25.420 of responsibility

00:19:26.140 of being a good father?

00:19:27.400 Of course not.

00:19:28.540 It just means

00:19:29.140 you're a grown-ass man

00:19:30.540 and you can write

00:19:31.580 your own stories.

00:19:34.440 Why are you so trapped

00:19:36.040 in what other people think

00:19:37.640 and believe

00:19:38.140 in their own stories?

00:19:39.420 Write your own story.

00:19:41.060 Joseph Campbell talks about this

00:19:42.460 in The Hero's Journey.

00:19:43.260 This is your life.

00:19:45.580 It's not your dad's life.

00:19:52.340 It's not the past relationship,

00:19:54.540 your ex's life.

00:19:57.880 It's not the high school teacher

00:19:59.540 who told you

00:20:00.540 you'll amount to nothing's life.

00:20:03.560 It's yours.

00:20:05.840 Rewrite your story.

00:20:07.760 Hey, maybe I'm not an imposter,

00:20:10.000 but maybe I'm on the path.

00:20:11.260 Maybe I'm learning.

00:20:12.040 Maybe I'm growing.

00:20:12.720 Maybe I'm getting better.

00:20:13.760 How many of us

00:20:14.780 have got better at something

00:20:16.020 over the past 10 years now

00:20:18.980 because we're celebrating

00:20:19.820 our 10-year anniversary

00:20:20.820 for Order of Man?

00:20:21.700 I've got better at podcasting.

00:20:23.240 Does that mean

00:20:23.800 for nine and a half years

00:20:25.580 or every podcast,

00:20:27.720 the 1,500 plus podcasts

00:20:29.480 I've done up to this point

00:20:30.540 that I'm an imposter?

00:20:31.880 No, it means I was learning.

00:20:32.920 I was on the path.

00:20:33.520 I was growing.

00:20:34.300 And I'm better.

00:20:35.040 I went and watched

00:20:37.100 my very first YouTube video

00:20:39.020 that I ever did 10 years ago.

00:20:40.780 And it's horrible.

00:20:41.860 It's still up.

00:20:42.400 I leave it up on purpose.

00:20:43.440 I don't want to.

00:20:44.040 I'd love to take it down.

00:20:45.260 But I want you guys

00:20:46.180 to see what it looks like.

00:20:47.200 Go to it.

00:20:49.720 Go to youtube.com

00:20:50.900 slash Order of Man.

00:20:52.260 Scroll all the way down

00:20:53.420 10 years ago

00:20:54.300 to the very first video

00:20:55.620 I ever did.

00:20:56.200 And you'll look at it and say,

00:20:57.160 this guy's full of shit.

00:20:58.460 And I was.

00:21:00.060 I didn't think I was an imposter

00:21:01.320 because I was honest about it.

00:21:02.560 But you know what?

00:21:02.960 I'm better.

00:21:04.600 And 10 years from now

00:21:05.540 when I look back on this video

00:21:06.860 and this conversation

00:21:07.800 I'm going to look at myself

00:21:08.800 and say, man,

00:21:09.440 I was full of shit.

00:21:10.360 I was not good at that.

00:21:11.600 But I am now.

00:21:13.180 Because I'm rewriting

00:21:14.140 the story every day

00:21:15.120 about what I want to do

00:21:16.800 and who I want to be

00:21:18.380 and what I believe I deserve

00:21:20.040 on the path to being better

00:21:21.860 to serving more people.

00:21:24.020 Number four,

00:21:25.120 now that you've rewritten the past,

00:21:27.240 it very likely

00:21:29.000 had little to do with you

00:21:30.060 and more to do

00:21:30.820 with what other people

00:21:31.620 were dealing with.

00:21:32.780 Now you get to rewrite

00:21:33.740 a new story.

00:21:36.120 So the guy that wants

00:21:37.100 to pick up a guitar

00:21:37.820 and learn how to play the guitar

00:21:39.020 and be the next,

00:21:40.120 you know,

00:21:41.400 rock star

00:21:42.380 doesn't have to live

00:21:45.200 in who he is

00:21:45.800 but he gets to decide

00:21:46.760 as an exercise

00:21:48.820 in consciousness

00:21:49.780 that I want to be

00:21:50.960 something more.

00:21:53.220 And all that's standing

00:21:54.240 in my way

00:21:54.680 between where I am right now

00:21:55.940 and where I want to be

00:21:56.940 is my own practice,

00:21:58.320 my own reps,

00:21:59.020 my own ability to grow

00:21:59.960 and develop

00:22:00.480 and learn

00:22:01.060 and improve

00:22:01.580 and learn

00:22:02.160 from shortcomings.

00:22:03.400 If you want

00:22:04.160 some more information

00:22:05.160 on this,

00:22:05.660 you can go back

00:22:06.100 to last week's

00:22:06.760 Friday Field Notes

00:22:07.400 where I talked

00:22:07.940 about the integrity gap.

00:22:10.280 If I told you

00:22:11.320 I'm an incredible

00:22:12.040 guitarist

00:22:13.540 but I don't spend

00:22:14.580 any time playing

00:22:15.240 the guitar,

00:22:15.920 then I'm full of shit

00:22:16.740 and I am an imposter

00:22:18.880 because I'm lying.

00:22:22.020 But if I say to you,

00:22:23.380 hey,

00:22:23.540 I really want to learn

00:22:24.160 to play the guitar

00:22:24.800 and here's where

00:22:25.460 I was last week

00:22:26.120 and here's the chords

00:22:26.840 I learned this week

00:22:27.540 and here's how many hours

00:22:28.440 I practiced this week

00:22:29.380 and here's how much

00:22:29.980 better I am today

00:22:30.700 than I was

00:22:31.280 at the same time

00:22:32.280 last week,

00:22:32.980 that's not an imposter.

00:22:34.380 That's just being honest.

00:22:38.160 If you're willing

00:22:38.820 to admit that maybe

00:22:39.680 you aren't the best husband

00:22:40.660 that you can be

00:22:41.520 but you know

00:22:42.620 where you're falling short

00:22:43.480 and you know

00:22:43.800 where you're struggling

00:22:44.440 and you've talked

00:22:44.980 with your wife

00:22:45.480 and you've talked

00:22:45.980 with your kids

00:22:46.460 about how you can improve

00:22:47.420 and you're actually

00:22:47.880 doing something about it,

00:22:49.040 you're not an imposter,

00:22:50.120 you're just on the path

00:22:50.800 to getting better.

00:22:52.280 Don't sell yourself short

00:22:53.540 and don't let other people

00:22:54.840 sell yourself short either.

00:22:56.600 It's none of their business.

00:22:59.580 This is your life.

00:23:01.780 Rewrite the story.

00:23:03.500 I'm going to be blank,

00:23:05.080 therefore I need to do blank

00:23:06.560 and then start backfilling it.

00:23:08.900 Go back and listen

00:23:09.480 to last week's

00:23:10.200 Integrity Gap episode.

00:23:12.000 Number five.

00:23:12.560 This one's tough

00:23:15.520 because

00:23:17.000 we typically place

00:23:19.840 the most heavily

00:23:21.140 weighted beliefs

00:23:21.860 and ideas

00:23:22.420 on our own thoughts

00:23:23.340 and behaviors.

00:23:26.060 So

00:23:26.540 if I tell myself,

00:23:28.720 let's take a

00:23:29.340 professional environment,

00:23:30.400 if I tell myself

00:23:31.380 that I'm a sack of crap

00:23:32.540 and I don't deserve a raise

00:23:33.740 and that I don't add

00:23:34.820 much value to the company

00:23:35.920 and that I'm not worth

00:23:38.040 having around

00:23:38.700 but my boss

00:23:39.540 and coworkers

00:23:40.120 really support

00:23:40.900 and believe in me,

00:23:41.560 they love having me around

00:23:42.540 and they ask me questions

00:23:43.680 and they know

00:23:44.240 I'm a valuable member

00:23:45.260 to the team,

00:23:46.280 who am I going to put

00:23:47.140 the most weight on?

00:23:48.440 Whose opinion?

00:23:49.120 Mine, of course.

00:23:50.960 And it should be that way.

00:23:53.460 But if you're feeling

00:23:54.380 like an imposter,

00:23:55.840 know that value

00:23:56.780 is subjective.

00:23:57.960 So again,

00:23:58.680 I told you this earlier,

00:23:59.760 I don't get to decide

00:24:00.980 what's valuable to you

00:24:02.040 as a listener

00:24:02.520 of this podcast.

00:24:03.720 It's not up for me

00:24:04.600 to decide.

00:24:05.460 Now, I want to be valuable.

00:24:07.220 I want to continue

00:24:08.860 to get better

00:24:09.520 at this craft.

00:24:10.460 I want to learn

00:24:12.520 how to communicate

00:24:13.700 and articulate ideas

00:24:15.120 with you

00:24:15.540 but at the end of the day,

00:24:16.560 it's up to you

00:24:17.180 to decide

00:24:17.740 whether or not

00:24:18.280 this podcast is valuable

00:24:19.440 and literally millions

00:24:20.980 of you believe

00:24:21.600 it's valuable

00:24:22.400 because you download

00:24:23.340 these episodes

00:24:24.060 each and every week,

00:24:24.980 each and every month

00:24:25.540 and each and every year.

00:24:26.860 There are also,

00:24:28.320 if you didn't already guess,

00:24:30.320 plenty of people

00:24:31.080 who send me messages

00:24:32.060 every single day

00:24:33.200 telling me that

00:24:34.080 I am horrible at this,

00:24:36.640 that I can't believe

00:24:38.720 men listen to you,

00:24:40.620 that I'm going to unsubscribe,

00:24:43.160 that you're full of crap.

00:24:44.840 I hear this stuff every day

00:24:46.020 and you know what?

00:24:46.740 They're right,

00:24:47.440 actually,

00:24:48.120 for themselves.

00:24:49.420 Not objectively right

00:24:50.620 and I don't buy into it

00:24:52.680 because I know.

00:24:54.640 I have enough faith

00:24:55.780 in myself

00:24:56.280 that I know

00:24:56.760 that that is not accurate

00:24:58.060 but they can believe that

00:24:59.520 and they're welcome

00:25:00.160 to believe that

00:25:00.820 and as a grown-ass man,

00:25:02.060 I have to acknowledge

00:25:03.140 that other grown-ass men

00:25:04.860 can make their decisions

00:25:06.420 about what is valuable

00:25:07.360 and what isn't

00:25:08.120 but if somebody

00:25:09.060 is acknowledging you

00:25:10.120 for something,

00:25:10.840 just say thank you

00:25:11.860 and embrace it.

00:25:13.040 You don't get to decide

00:25:14.160 what's valuable in their life.

00:25:15.360 If somebody says,

00:25:16.060 hey, you know what,

00:25:16.920 Steve,

00:25:17.840 we had this project at work

00:25:20.760 and I was a little behind

00:25:21.660 and you came in

00:25:22.500 and you gave me some support

00:25:23.720 and guidance and direction

00:25:24.760 and we caught back up

00:25:26.220 and we got this project

00:25:27.120 released on time,

00:25:28.400 that's their reality

00:25:29.460 and so all you need to do

00:25:31.160 is say thank you

00:25:31.960 and then feel good

00:25:32.900 about the work that you did.

00:25:34.140 If somebody sends you

00:25:35.380 a message and says,

00:25:36.640 hey, you know,

00:25:38.280 it's been hard lately

00:25:39.640 and my wife and I

00:25:40.760 are going through a divorce

00:25:41.680 and I reached out

00:25:42.860 to you last week

00:25:43.580 and you talked to me

00:25:44.340 for an hour

00:25:44.880 about your own divorce

00:25:46.360 and what you were struggling with

00:25:47.700 and I just want to tell you

00:25:48.820 that really kept me sane.

00:25:51.920 Maybe it kept me sober.

00:25:53.880 Maybe it even kept me

00:25:54.940 from committing suicide.

00:25:56.580 I've had situations like that

00:25:58.000 and you can just say thank you

00:26:00.020 because it's not up to you,

00:26:01.600 it's up to somebody else

00:26:02.960 and so point number five

00:26:04.120 is just lean,

00:26:06.260 lean on other people's belief in you.

00:26:10.080 If your wife says to you,

00:26:11.620 I believe in you,

00:26:12.940 lean on her,

00:26:14.460 not to her own detriment,

00:26:16.660 but just lean on the fact

00:26:17.760 that what she's saying

00:26:18.640 is true for her

00:26:19.700 and embrace that idea,

00:26:21.700 borrow it from her.

00:26:23.640 If your boss calls you

00:26:24.880 and says,

00:26:25.360 hey, I want to give you a raise

00:26:26.440 or I want to give you a promotion,

00:26:27.960 lean on him or her

00:26:29.760 to accept

00:26:31.920 that somebody else

00:26:33.000 sees value in you.

00:26:36.080 If you're working for a client

00:26:37.460 and they're trying to decide

00:26:38.320 between you

00:26:38.940 or two other firms

00:26:39.880 and they choose you,

00:26:42.100 believe and honor

00:26:43.300 that they're grown people,

00:26:44.820 that they're smart

00:26:45.520 and intelligent

00:26:46.220 and capable

00:26:46.820 and whatever system

00:26:48.680 they filtered

00:26:49.300 their decision through

00:26:50.340 led them to your solution.

00:26:53.320 You don't get to decide.

00:26:56.980 Other people do.

00:26:59.600 And when we embrace the idea

00:27:01.320 that other people

00:27:02.100 can be happy

00:27:02.940 or be mad

00:27:03.920 or be satisfied

00:27:04.860 or be satiated

00:27:07.000 or even be pissed

00:27:08.320 and bothered

00:27:08.920 about the things

00:27:09.620 that you're saying

00:27:10.160 and doing,

00:27:10.760 then all of a sudden

00:27:11.700 that becomes less relevant

00:27:13.340 and then you get to decide,

00:27:14.680 I'm going to place more emphasis

00:27:15.780 on the people I've served

00:27:17.040 relative to the people

00:27:18.260 who say I haven't served them.

00:27:20.660 Guys,

00:27:21.100 I don't want us

00:27:22.600 to get wrapped up

00:27:23.400 in this imposter syndrome

00:27:24.460 thing anymore.

00:27:25.320 There's so much weight

00:27:26.500 and baggage

00:27:26.980 that comes with this

00:27:27.960 and I hope I addressed it

00:27:29.420 to some degree

00:27:30.140 but the insecurities

00:27:31.060 that you're facing

00:27:31.900 are you're not good enough,

00:27:33.780 you don't deserve something,

00:27:35.080 you're not worth something.

00:27:36.920 All of that you embraced

00:27:38.240 probably at an early age

00:27:39.660 and told yourself

00:27:40.440 that whatever that person

00:27:41.700 was saying about you

00:27:42.700 was right

00:27:43.240 and you know what?

00:27:43.860 They weren't.

00:27:44.960 They were not objectively right.

00:27:48.460 You just along the way,

00:27:49.760 whether you were 10 years old

00:27:51.140 or 40 years old

00:27:52.220 or 70 years old

00:27:53.300 decided that that person's right.

00:27:55.060 What if instead

00:27:55.920 you asked yourself,

00:27:57.420 maybe they weren't right.

00:28:00.220 Maybe I am divine.

00:28:04.200 Maybe God put me here

00:28:05.800 for a reason.

00:28:08.540 Maybe there's some value

00:28:10.960 that I'm placed on this planet

00:28:12.860 to offer to other people

00:28:14.400 and who am I?

00:28:15.720 This is the thought

00:28:16.260 that I have.

00:28:16.740 who am I

00:28:17.940 to spit in the face of God?

00:28:21.660 Who am I to say

00:28:22.760 that all the gifts

00:28:23.720 and talents

00:28:24.280 and gifts

00:28:24.780 that you've given me

00:28:25.740 and the skill sets

00:28:26.440 that you've given to me

00:28:27.740 are not enough

00:28:28.960 and I don't think

00:28:31.260 they're good enough

00:28:31.980 and therefore

00:28:33.020 I'm gonna sit and hide

00:28:34.180 because I feel unworthy.

00:28:39.120 I've told a lot of people this.

00:28:40.880 When I have an idea,

00:28:42.480 let me back up.

00:28:44.280 People have asked me,

00:28:45.480 what do you wanna be known for?

00:28:47.600 I've got that question

00:28:49.460 quite a bit actually.

00:28:50.160 What do you wanna be known for?

00:28:51.680 What do you wanna be acknowledged for?

00:28:53.880 If you were on your deathbed

00:28:56.460 or your kids were giving your eulogy,

00:28:58.560 what would you want them

00:28:59.280 to say about yourself?

00:29:00.220 And you know what I would want

00:29:01.020 more than anything else

00:29:02.080 is for them to say,

00:29:03.440 when dad had an idea,

00:29:05.460 he had the balls

00:29:06.500 and moral fortitude

00:29:07.740 to follow through on it.

00:29:11.940 He had the grit to say,

00:29:13.900 I don't know,

00:29:14.580 but let's figure it out.

00:29:16.740 Let's find out

00:29:17.860 if that idea is gonna work.

00:29:19.920 And I've talked with friends

00:29:21.560 and people I care about

00:29:22.540 for years now

00:29:23.160 and I've said,

00:29:23.660 you know,

00:29:23.920 I have a moral imperative

00:29:26.380 to be the best.

00:29:30.240 I have a moral imperative

00:29:31.700 to be the best podcaster.

00:29:33.620 I have a moral imperative

00:29:34.660 to be the best dad.

00:29:35.920 I have the moral imperative

00:29:37.260 to be the best man

00:29:38.980 that I can be

00:29:39.600 in a romantic relationship.

00:29:40.980 I have a moral imperative

00:29:42.120 to be the best friend

00:29:43.160 to my friends

00:29:43.860 that I can be.

00:29:45.640 And I don't get to decide

00:29:47.240 if I'm an imposter or not.

00:29:48.560 If they believe in me

00:29:49.520 and God believes in me,

00:29:51.140 then I have a moral imperative

00:29:52.420 to step fully into that

00:29:53.840 and get over my own insecurities,

00:29:56.760 get over my ego

00:29:57.780 and start embracing the ideas

00:29:59.560 that understanding,

00:30:01.000 number one,

00:30:02.040 their negative stories,

00:30:03.180 number two,

00:30:03.980 unpacking where the insecurities

00:30:05.380 come from,

00:30:06.440 number three,

00:30:07.360 rewriting the past

00:30:08.300 and current stories,

00:30:09.120 number four,

00:30:09.820 writing a new story,

00:30:11.500 and number five,

00:30:12.700 leaning on other people's belief

00:30:14.360 in you.

00:30:16.220 They believe in you.

00:30:17.840 I believe in you.

00:30:18.780 Now you just have to ask yourself

00:30:22.680 what you're going to do with it.

00:30:25.200 Let me know if that serves you guys.

00:30:26.900 I know the imposter syndrome

00:30:28.100 is a big deal.

00:30:30.440 If I was to surmise it up

00:30:31.880 in one sentence,

00:30:33.140 don't be an imposter.

00:30:35.320 And now you have the weight

00:30:36.320 and the context behind

00:30:37.160 what I mean when I say that.

00:30:39.080 All right, guys.

00:30:39.960 We'll be back next week.

00:30:41.280 We've got some really,

00:30:42.440 really powerful conversations

00:30:44.180 lined up in the next three weeks.

00:30:45.680 I'm excited to get out to you.

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00:30:48.460 In the meantime,

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00:30:51.300 and we talk about

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00:30:53.460 and we push and lean on guys

00:30:55.560 so that they will feel better

00:30:57.360 about who they are.

00:30:58.780 We're opening up on June 15th

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00:31:06.860 All right, guys.

00:31:07.380 Again, we'll be back next week.

00:31:08.760 Until then, go out there,

00:31:09.620 take action,

00:31:10.500 deal with your imposter syndrome

00:31:11.960 and become the man

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