Combating Burnout, When Enough is Enough, and Finding Your Next Mission ｜ ASK ME ANYTHING
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Summary
On this episode of the podcast, we have special guest, Kip Sorensen, join us to talk about a variety of topics. We discuss the recent events that have happened in the New Jersey Governor's office, and how they affect the people of New Jersey. We also talk about when we can say "enough is enough" with the mob rule, Antifa, and when we think enough is enough.
Transcript
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
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When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
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This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
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At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
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Mr. Kip Sorensen, what's up, man? Good to see you after the weekend. It's good to be back.
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It's always nice to start my week off with you, Kip.
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Well, you know, that's why I'm here, just to make you feel good about yourself.
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You look good and handsome, by the way, as well.
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That's the telltale sign that everyone's like, I know he's lying now.
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That's right. That's right. I see you got the good stuff today, the go instead of the bang.
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Yeah, I think I've officially moved over to orange, but I have some inside knowledge about some new flavors coming out that I'm not sure I can talk about.
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Mr. Kip Sorensen and myself going to do the best that we can to answer some questions for you.
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I don't know if we'll get them right, but we are going to answer them.
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Are these coming from Instagram from a couple weeks ago or a week ago or whatever it was?
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We got flooded, as always, to follow Mr. Mickler on Instagram for an opportunity to submit your questions in the future.
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You can follow him on Insta, at Ryan Mickler, M-I-C-H-L-E-R.
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XX, Covenix, when will people say enough is enough with the mob rule, i.e. BLM and Antifa?
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I don't know what the line is, but my wife and I were talking about this, I think, over the weekend.
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If we had less to lose, I think we've already hit that line.
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And because of that, we've become pacified, sedated, domesticated wimps.
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And until it gets bad enough that it threatens that comfort, or we don't have anything else to lose, I think at that point, people will start standing up to some of the things that we're seeing in culture today.
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And it's still removed from everybody right now.
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It's still like, oh, well, that's happening, you know, over there.
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Like, how he's standing up to Governor Murphy, and he's in court right now.
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When they have had no, I think, I don't want to quote this, but I don't think they've had any confirmed cases of COVID.
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They're smart about the way they're doing it, but for whatever reason, not for whatever reason, we know why, but the government, the state of New Jersey has pointed him out and his business owners and deliberately and intentionally gone after him.
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And let's, I think it's important to say this, and maybe you can clarify, because you know, Ian, and obviously you guys had a conversation.
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So, like, people need to really, people need to realize, like, that he made a choice because he's standing for what he believes is right.
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And so, kind of the suffering that, and there's a little bit of force in his hand, but I really do feel like he decided to take this on.
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He decided to take this on, and that's memorable, because how many of us would be like, oh, you know what?
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So, if you want to support this guy for actually, like, putting his life through hell, possibly, to actually stand for something.
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Dragging, you know, standing up and putting his life through hell because he wants to stand up for something that he believes in.
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Man, you should support the guy because he's not doing it just for him.
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He's doing it for, I'm assuming he's doing it for the greater masses, right, for the greater good.
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And he's willing to take a stand where a lot of people are not willing to do so.
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And I'm sure he could have gotten a job somewhere else.
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He could have adjusted, you know, and bypassed this all.
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You know, they're not just, I think what a lot of people just assume is they're being reckless,
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and they're being stupid and careless with their members and their business.
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They've done things with integrity, I think, you know, and trying to make sure that his members who he serves are being protected and safe.
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Yeah, if you can support, absolutely, because I know he's going to need it.
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They're going through the court process right now and potential jail time and permanently closing his business.
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But, yeah, it's going to take a lot of guys like that standing up and saying, no, I'm not doing this.
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That's what it comes with as well is there's an element of risk to it.
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And, again, that goes back to that docile, complacent life that we live.
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Like, we don't want to take those risks because we have so much to lose.
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Unless that's threatened, it's just going to continue to slip.
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Every young boy needs to watch The First Blood by age of 12.
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It's not a really critical question, but I actually want to know.
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Don't feel tempted just because they've been on the podcast.
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Give me a second because I've got a few that I'm trying to debate and decide between.
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That wasn't on my list, but as soon as you say that, I'm like, yeah, that's pretty amazing.
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You know, in addition to that, I would say I really like DC.
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I think just the fact that he, it's not even so much his abilities inside the ring, just the fact that he coaches wrestling and he's helping the youth.
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And he seems to be a pretty good and engaged father that, that to me speaks volumes about him.
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And did you see that him in DC getting into it?
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I think it looks bad for the sport, but man, he fights Mayweather.
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But I don't think, Jake Paul's not fighting him, right?
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But just the fact that he's even a conversation is like, how in the hell did you pull this off as some YouTuber?
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And now he has people piss off when you're fighting him.
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Like, I don't, I mean, the guy doesn't deeply resonate with me, but it's clear that he's more than a YouTuber.
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He's, and when people say that there, it's a slight, right?
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Does he have a whole lot of depth and substance?
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I mean, I don't know the guy, but, and I don't like that tactic, but for what he's trying to accomplish, it seems to be working.
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Over the past year, year and a half, maybe two years, way more.
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And I'll tell you where it changed for me on McGregor.
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I've always liked him as a fighter, maybe not necessarily as a person.
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Again, I don't know him, but this is from my perspective, but what really turned it for me is his demeanor in the Saroni when he fought Saroni.
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There was just something about him that was completely different.
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It was a level of confidence and maturity and that, that really got my attention.
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Stipe of course is on that list, but again, that comes back to not only his behavior and his performance in the ring, but what he does outside of the ring.
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I mean, there's just so many, there's just so many, but yeah, Saroni is awesome.
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I would say maybe Saroni DC or Stipe are high on my list.
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Now that I think about it, I'd say my top three would be GSP, probably BJ Penn, and then Saroni.
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And, and, and the reason why Cowboy is so cool is just his willingness to take fights.
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Like, I believe he, didn't he have like, he had a surgery where like an intestines got like jacked up on an ATV.
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And I think he took a fight like within a few weeks after, like the guy.
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I would say maybe five, six months ago, talked to him and he was just out working his farm and his ranch and he was on a tractor and just working the land, you know?
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I mean, look, let's like, it's how you answer is we need.
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Well, and the phrase you guys have heard me say a lot is the quality of your life will be determined by the quality of questions that you ask.
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If you ask broad, generalized, weak questions, you're going to get broad, generalized, weak answers because you're not giving anybody anything to work with.
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But if you ask hyper-specific, hyper-focused results oriented, performance-based questions, you're going to get answers that are going to facilitate the growth that you're looking for.
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So if you say, well, you know, like, how do you be a good person?
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I mean, it's a good thing to consider, but it's probably not a great question.
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Or if you ask a guy, a strength trainer, for example, well, how do you get strong?
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Like, give me something to work with so people can actually give you a good answer that you can apply in your life.
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So this brother, Caleb, he's in the infantry military.
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He brings that up because most days he doesn't know what he's doing for work until he gets there.
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It makes my day really hard to plan out because I don't know when I'm going home or what short breaks or recesses are going to come.
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I feel that other men possibly have the same issue.
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So how do you get around and have a cadence around a schedule that is so hectic and doesn't really provide space for planning?
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I mean, this would be hard for me because I operate best under regimented schedules.
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And so it's very, very regimented and that works best for me.
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I'll give you a metaphor based on jujitsu like we talk about all the time.
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Ty's probably – I hover between 190 to 200 is my weight.
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Ty's probably, I would say, 160 to 170 if I had to guess, somewhere in there.
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And I was rolling with him the other day and he was like floating on top of me wherever he wanted to go.
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Throwing me in arm locks, headlocks, loop chokes, everything.
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I was like – it was embarrassing actually because I'm better than that.
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He's probably getting close to his purple belt at this point, but he's super good.
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But the reason I bring it up is that he's very good at adapting and adjusting
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But as he does that, he'll do something and you'll move
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and he'll adjust before you've finished moving because he's anticipating what's going to happen
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And that's what you need to be with a schedule like you have.
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You need to be able to float and move and adapt when this thing comes up.
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Then you need to pivot and adjust and you need to be able to do that on the fly
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because if you don't, you're just going to be frustrated and pissed off.
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If you're so rigid that it has to be this certain way,
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you're going to be bent out of shape and pissed off that it's not that way.
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So you might have certain things throughout the day that you need to check off the list.
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I want to make sure that my family knows I care about them.
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And so you have these boxes you want to check off.
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But in your circumstance and other men who are listening that have these same circumstances,
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You just have to be okay with knowing that it's not always going to be at 6 a.m.
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Sometimes it's going to be at 4 in the afternoon.
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And what you can begin to do is you can begin to look at what types of days you're having.
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You could, for example, consider a day that, and I'm just throwing these out here.
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It could be completely off, but you'll understand the point.
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You could look at a day that starts, for example, at 6 and ends at 5 as this is my traditional day.
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A non-traditional day is we're going to work in the morning.
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We're going to take a long break, and then we're going to have to come back that evening.
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So you start placing these days in different categories because you'll start to notice trends.
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No, they're going to fit into 3 or 4 or 5 maybe types of days.
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And you base your schedule on each of those days.
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And so you start placing these in categories so you can still systematize it, but you've
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created some flexibility and adaptability in your planning and processes.
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And I've done that because I used to work retail.
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Sometimes on long weekends or holiday weekends or Christmas, the month of December, end of
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But again, you build schedules based on what types of days are taking place because there's
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Well, and I think two additional thoughts is one, you got to act on the moment, right?
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When I think about times where I'm most agile, it's I take advantage of the moment and I'm
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Because if that meeting gets scheduled or canceled today at noon, I'm going to go train.
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But if that meeting gets scheduled or something changes, I'm ready to go train immediately.
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And so I'm thinking about like a really crazy schedule.
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So the minute someone says, hey, we're taking an hour break.
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It's like, bam, taking advantage of the moment.
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I'm going to go work out immediately right now.
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The other thing that came to mind too is I think you have to be a little unreasonable
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I'm not going to push my two-year-old for 12 miles on a run.
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Or you run three miles instead of 12 with your kid.
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You know, like you can probably last three months, right?
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Or maybe I can get a five in and then a three and a two, and that's better than nothing.
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So it's, you have to kind of be a little unreasonable and be committed to whatever it is
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I mean, those are very practical points, but I think ultimately this comes down to
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You could be completely pissed and bent out of shape and this should be this way.
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I may want to pivot to something else, which is a completely reasonable consideration.
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Let's not be all pissed off and bent out of shape about our own current circumstance.
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So like you said, pivot, adjust, tweak, change.
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But don't drone on about how this shouldn't be this way.
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And then you move into a solution-oriented mindset.
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Like Carol Dweck, I think would say, the growth versus the fixed mindset.
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Move into the growth mindset, which is, hey, what opportunities are presenting themselves
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How can I learn to be creative, to come up with some solutions on demand, to build up
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Yeah, that comment that you just made of unset or unmet expectations and dealing in reality
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I mean, disrupted relationship, upset with someone.
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You have some expectation, but the reality is, is this.
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And if you don't like, and here's what you need to hear though.
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We're not saying just be, just settle with reality.
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We're saying acknowledge reality so you can do something about it, which is either to
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pivot, to adjust, to be creative, to come up with different solutions or change your
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Because if you're making things up about the current situation, you're not giving yourself
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the foothold or the framework to create reasonable solutions to your perceived problems.
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Like they'll be so set on the fact that they shouldn't have to be doing X that they just
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won't even take action because they shouldn't have to, you know?
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This is a big problem too, with this, this whole victim mindset where people look, there,
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You know, when I say that some people will come back and inevitably say, well, you know,
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some people actually, yes, I acknowledge that some people have been victimized.
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You know, if, if, if, if you're a, if you're an employee and your boss continues to miss
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his agreements that he's made with you, you know, that, that is a form of somebody else
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taking advantage of you or manipulating you that, that is beyond your control to a degree.
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But then at some point you have to acknowledge that this is what's happening and you need to
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come up with a solution by either being more assertive in your current position or finding
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It's the same thing with abusive relationships.
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If, if, if you're a man or a woman who's an abusive relationship, physical, mental, whatever
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They're taking advantage of you, but it's still your responsibility to get out of that situation
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Just because somebody's taking advantage of you does not tie your hands and mean that
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you no longer have any responsibility in the matter.
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It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility to put yourself in a better situation.
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And I think it's important to address the person that, well, this happened to me, Ryan, a long
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And it, because those people are like, well, there's nothing I could do about it.
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The one thing that I would suggest for, for those of you that feel hindered by some past
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experience, even your interpretation of what occurred to you is not accurate.
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And, and, and, and the probability is your interpretation of that event is probably more
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And, and I'm thinking about like parents, abusive parents, you know, what the most damaging
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thing of a, of a parent that was probably abusive to a child when you were younger is
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the fact that you felt your parents did not love you, that what it meant that you're not
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good enough, that you will never be good enough.
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That interpretation is probably more dangerous than the physical harm in which your parents
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So, I mean, at some point we have to be, become mature men and acknowledge the situations
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for what they are, even if they were scary or demanding or difficult or challenging or
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dangerous, acknowledge it for what it is and then say, okay, well, I'm not going to allow
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Here's how I'm going to improve in spite of this.
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Owlski77, how do you feel about people copying you, basically doing the same general thing?
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Is it good because it helps the cause or bad because it can draw attention when people take
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And I think this is a kind of a good question because I think it's, how's this?
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When I read this question, I'm like, oh, this is so specific for Ryan, but, but I think
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we might have areas, all of us might have areas in our life where, I don't know, we're at
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work and a coworker's like, quote unquote, stealing your idea and doing it.
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I mean, there's, there's things where it's like blatantly knocking off what we do, whether
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it's a phrase or a system that we use or our logo or, or motto where, where people would
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blatantly rip it off that I have legal protection in place.
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Like I, I have made sure that we protect ourselves from that, from that type of, uh, infringement,
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Now, if somebody wants to start something similar or has an idea or wants to do what we're
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We have programs and courses that teach other men how to do what it is we're doing that I've,
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I've taught people at a podcast, I've taught people how to build movements, somebody who's
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I should, the better way to frame it would for me to say, I'm doing something similar to
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I hired him when I very first started and he coached and showed me.
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How do you get past the scarcity mentality, Ryan, of like, I got to keep this to myself.
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Otherwise it's going to diminish the value that you, that you bring you to the table.
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Here's how there's, there's, I'm going to make a broad generalization here, but there's
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really only two types of individuals that, that would do this.
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Either they're, they're going to, you could tell them everything about what you're doing
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to, to the T, every little thing, spell it all out.
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They just think you just show up and it's, yes.
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There's another type of individual who, this is the type of individual I tend to be.
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And I was, as we started order of man, who will hire a coach or look at what somebody
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else is doing and, and mimic it and make it their own, or they'll, they'll do everything
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to the T again, that their coach tells them to do.
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That person was going to do it even without me.
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So somebody comes to me and they're doing something similar to what I'm doing.
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And they come to me and they say, Hey, Ryan, you know, I really like what you're doing.
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Um, I'm, I'm considering, uh, starting something similar, growing something, a movement similar
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If it's that type of individual, they're going to do it with or without me.
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So if I can help them, I can be an ally and I'd rather be an ally to these individuals.
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Those people like that are going to do it again without, without me, or they're just not going
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Like I, there's been, there's so many people who have started to do what we've done over
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Some have blatantly tried to rip us off and copy exactly verbatim what we're doing.
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And I just know that those individuals, the majority of them just aren't going to last.
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That's the one thing I know about myself in spite of all of my other flaws and shortcomings.
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As long as I have a desire to be in it, there's nothing.
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As long as my desire is still there, there's nothing that's going to take me out of this game.
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That's not everybody can say that they're flippant.
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They bounce from thing to thing and task to task project.
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Well, Ryan, how's your podcast been so successful?
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Because we've done it for six years and we have not missed a single episode.
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Well, that, that just goes without saying, I don't even think I needed to say that.
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So I don't, I don't mind when somebody wants to do something similar.
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If somebody, if somebody comes to me and they ask for guidance and direction,
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you know, if they want to have a call, like a one-to-one call with me, I don't do that.
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I do that with my coaching clients only, but if they came to me and they had like one specific
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Now I'm not going to give them the phone numbers to my vendors and all the backend legal
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Like, I'm not going to do that, but I'm going to give them the thoughts and the ideas so
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that they can go out and learn to do it for themselves.
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And, and, and I want to, I mean, I don't want to dive into this too much, but like, is that
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I mean, you can do that because you have the confidence that, that helping that individual
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is not going to take away from what you're doing.
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And that's what we need to be careful of because some, sometimes men believe that.
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The confidence is just the result of my work ethic.
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So what a lot of men believe is some men are just more confident than others just because
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So let's not, let's not point to the result of the actual solution as why I can feel the
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It's the fact that I've worked my balls off for six years on this one thing, hyper-focused
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on this one thing for six years that has developed and built the confidence for me to say, it's
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okay if somebody wants to do something similar.
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Because I'll tell you, when I started, I took that more as a threat.
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I didn't have the abundance that I did, that I do now.
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And I was significantly more scarce because I hadn't earned that level of confidence through
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There's guys that I've helped that have started different things and branched off in different
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And, and then I've incorporated some of those ideas into what I'm doing.
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Here's what I would say though, because there are a lot of men who are listening to this
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podcast who want to do things that we're doing.
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Not because I'm scared or whatever, but because you're going to be more successful if you do
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When I started order of man, I was making something that was very, very similar to art of manliness.
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And I had one individual who said something to me, it was very abrasive the way that he
00:32:30.720
And I was taken back at first, but the more I thought about it, I was like, oh, and he
00:32:35.820
was asking how, essentially how I was different from art of manliness.
00:32:41.560
I can't even remember exactly the way he said it, but the way he said it, I was like, well,
00:32:44.220
I found a jerk thing to say, but, oh, but yeah, that actually makes sense.
00:32:48.340
And so very quickly I pivoted, adjusted, started to make it my own.
00:32:52.260
And it's no surprise now looking back that when order of man started to take off, it
00:32:57.240
was when I stopped doing it like art of manliness or Sean Whalen with lions, not sheep, or any
00:33:03.100
of these other Garrett white or any of these other programs that are out there that are
00:33:06.520
well-known and started to do it my own way that we really got traction and intention.
00:33:17.200
I've been a follower for order of man for about two years and a two and a half years now.
00:33:22.300
My wife had been having a very hard time with her mental toughness and stability.
00:33:26.760
I've tried to encourage, uh, I've tried encouragement, tough love, and even given the gym has, I can't
00:33:34.580
read today and have even gone to the gym with her to help.
00:33:38.400
How can I get her more motivated and help her achieve her goals?
00:33:44.160
I have not experienced it too much because my wife is pretty motivated, not pretty motivated.
00:33:53.460
So fortunately I haven't had to ever feel like I need to inspire here, but here's what I would
00:33:58.780
You're, you're talking about going to the gym and motivating her and talking with her
00:34:04.340
Can I have an ask really quick as you answer this, you know, maybe we say, you know, your
00:34:10.320
spouse and maybe even some sites of, you know, uh, a child, you know, you have a child that
00:34:19.660
I just want to, yeah, the answers are one of the same.
00:34:21.880
Sometimes I think we, as men have a tendency of placing our own views and perspectives and
00:34:37.200
Certainly, especially our sons, like our first born son is like the son who needs to follow
00:34:42.480
in dad's footsteps and he needs to do what dad does and he needs to act like him and he
00:34:53.120
And not only will they not, you'll actually, you'll actually drive them away from you.
00:34:58.980
And therefore you won't have the opportunities to train and coach and teach and motivate and
00:35:05.220
inspire because they despise you because you try to pigeonhole them into something that
00:35:17.280
And how come she doesn't want to read the self-help book?
00:35:19.120
And how come she won't even listen to one of my podcasts?
00:35:22.720
Because she's not motivated by the same things you are, which doesn't mean she's not motivated.
00:35:31.660
If she doesn't do it the same way, well, she just doesn't care about being good.
00:35:36.620
Self-improvement, self-development, motivation, inspiring.
00:35:42.100
She just doesn't care about it in the same lens that you do.
00:35:44.740
So yeah, she's looking at it through a different lens.
00:35:47.440
And I've realized this over the past, I would say five, six, seven years now, maybe slightly
00:35:51.500
longer, but somewhere in there, I realized, oh, she actually is very motivated and she's
00:35:58.640
We spent the last, I would say of the last 48 hours, because we're recording on Monday,
00:36:03.420
we spent probably, I would say at least half, 25 to maybe even 30 hours over the past two
00:36:12.320
days outside working in her garden, building garden boxes, putting dirt, filling up garden
00:36:21.800
I built a couple of new planters, mowing the lawn.
00:36:25.000
Like we were outside doing all of this and she didn't, she wasn't unmotivated.
00:36:30.860
It wasn't, I didn't have to convince her to go out there.
00:36:50.280
So it sounds weird saying in this frame, she's exhibiting positive behavior.
00:36:56.600
But it is, that's what I'd actually like out of her as a wife.
00:37:05.220
I want her to improve herself as my wife would expect.
00:37:10.880
So when she does those things of her own accord, or even if with a little prodding,
00:37:16.520
maybe from me here and there, then I'm going to reward that by encouraging that behavior.
00:37:28.520
You don't have to be totally bought into it, but you should be at least interested in it.
00:37:33.940
You, you, you help, you assist, you support, you encourage, you foster, you, you, you,
00:37:42.300
This goes for kids too, like you were saying earlier.
00:37:44.680
So I think everybody's motivated by some, by something.
00:37:50.240
I also think other, everybody's demotivated by things.
00:37:54.940
And maybe you're just touching on the things that aren't motivating to her.
00:38:02.980
You know, if I told my wife, Hey, we're going to go do jujitsu and you're going to come
00:38:11.480
And of course, every number one, North and South.
00:38:20.700
Every, uh, every time we'd go would be a battle.
00:38:38.960
And I didn't have to tell her she should go get certified by the way.
00:38:42.900
Like I didn't say, Helen, you should, you know, you should really know what I, what
00:38:46.800
I did is when she came to me and said, she's going to do this.
00:38:51.980
What can I do to help you study and train for it and everything else?
00:38:55.260
And then she took her test and I think we celebrated it.
00:38:59.400
We probably did dinner that night or something, you know, so it's good.
00:39:04.660
One thing that might help, man, I wish I had my notes from the book.
00:39:10.560
What book did we read two months ago in iron council part of impossible?
00:39:14.760
Yeah, he, he has a, he has a section in the book where he breaks down what is motivation
00:39:26.240
I can't remember all three, but one of them is clarity of purpose and goal.
00:39:32.920
I mean, sometimes we're not motivated because we don't, we don't see what's possible, right?
00:39:39.180
So why would I work out if I, if I don't know what that's going to provide me, right?
00:39:44.400
And so I would really dive in, maybe read that book and dive into like, what really drives
00:39:49.700
people from a psychology perspective to get motivate, motivated and, and to be able to
00:39:55.440
act on things there, there might be some, you know what I mean?
00:39:58.960
Atomic habit, habit looping and some other stuff there too.
00:40:02.460
So there's another good book called coactive coaching.
00:40:04.920
And, and I, I read that book years ago, but, and I thought it would help me with this movement
00:40:11.380
and it has, but I didn't know it would help me as much as it had with raising my children
00:40:16.200
and leading my wife because co-active coaching, co-active coaching.
00:40:22.800
So a lot of the times we think, because we're assertive when we want to, we want to exert
00:40:26.900
ourselves and our will, and we want things to be done right.
00:40:31.300
And so I would be a taskmaster, drive, drive, drive, drive, drive, drive, drive, do this,
00:40:40.120
My wife, my kids, but co-active coaching is a different philosophy.
00:40:44.780
And instead you're, you're leading them, you're guiding them, you're walking them through
00:40:49.260
And so you're asking questions to go back to what we said earlier about asking powerful
00:40:53.940
questions that move the conversation forward, trying to elicit desires like you're talking
00:41:02.680
Not what I'm not, I'm going to tell you what you should be interested in, but really trying
00:41:06.760
to help them explore and unpack and uncover what it is they're interested in through asking
00:41:12.500
questions, through engaging and insightful conversation.
00:41:18.060
It's a, it's a valuable, valuable resource in my repertoire of books up there.
00:41:30.280
It takes you 20 minutes to add a book there or what?
00:41:33.060
Well, I got an iPhone and so it doesn't work as good.
00:41:38.300
So it's going to take 20 minutes instead of a 30 with your, with your Android device.
00:41:56.940
I mean, they got the redneck part, genius part.
00:41:59.500
I was going to say, if you take genius off, we haven't razzed and made fun of Bubba for
00:42:10.320
I've heard a lot about pain, joint pain from jujitsu on the podcast.
00:42:15.080
Is earlier life arthritis a normal end result of intense training, planning to check out some
00:42:24.300
So here's one thing I'm dealing with right now.
00:42:40.420
I don't pop that one because I can't like all my fingers.
00:42:44.360
Like I can, like I have good dexterity in the hands.
00:42:48.000
But this finger right here just doesn't like, it doesn't work the way that it should.
00:42:56.320
And what was interesting is I remember when I started the jujitsu journey, these, when
00:43:02.160
I got done with class, these two, these two fingers would like hurt, like really hurt.
00:43:07.880
And I asked my buddy, Matt Arrington, I'm like, man, like after jujitsu, these fingers,
00:43:12.600
I don't even know why he's like, that's, that's your, it's your grip.
00:43:15.460
That's where you're holding it with these two fingers.
00:43:17.620
I was like, Oh, I never really understood that.
00:43:20.280
And then after that, these two fingers started hurting because I adjusted my grip because
00:43:27.240
So I adjusted my grip to get more fingers involved.
00:43:30.920
So now they all hurt instead of just these two.
00:43:37.620
It makes me know that, Hey, and you know, the right elbow is just constant little, little
00:43:47.100
Especially when I roll with Ty, who I was talking about earlier for, for some reason,
00:44:05.520
I'm not saying that, but just a constant little, like reminder that you're working and you're
00:44:09.460
doing something and you're using your body is I think good.
00:44:14.240
And, and some guys might be, well, in redneck genius, just, just do a Google search for jiu-jitsu
00:44:26.220
Like totally guys, knuckles get jacked really bad.
00:44:32.860
And, and he's, it sounds like he's looking for a gym, like, but he wants to know this
00:44:43.140
Most guys know that like, Hey, I'm going to crack ribs.
00:44:47.260
I'm going to, my fingers are going to be jacked.
00:44:58.800
I think the thing I have, I've only trained at two, two schools, one school.
00:45:02.940
And then I trained privately with, with Pete and some of the origin guys, but I've never
00:45:09.260
been in a situation where somebody wasn't respectful of an injury that I vocalized.
00:45:17.400
Like, like the other night I went and trained and, and one of the guys like, Hey man, I'm
00:45:25.780
I'm going to deliberately attack your right shoulder now.
00:45:32.040
And if I do happen to get something, just, you know, tap, just tap.
00:45:37.100
Like I, so when I very first started, I haven't been training that long.
00:45:45.040
And now if somebody, if Ty gets me in an arm bar and I'm like, he's got me, I'm not going
00:46:07.180
You're like, okay, I can feel like you feel this, but don't get yourself hurt because
00:46:11.000
your ego is too big and you want, you don't want to prove yourself.
00:46:17.800
You're not nearly as good as the other people you're going to roll with.
00:46:21.620
So deal with it and try not to prove it because you're going to, it's going to hurt.
00:46:30.420
Like that's, you know, you got to take that approach.
00:46:32.600
And, and to like adjustment of game, like we, we've had guys that unified where, where
00:46:41.920
And so he brought like in a foam mattress, like a egg foam mattress that you put on your
00:46:49.280
We use belts to tie his legs together and kept training, right?
00:46:56.120
And so he's wearing the burrito, training with the burrito.
00:47:02.320
I tie my arm to my body and I'm training with one arm.
00:47:09.860
You know, but a spider guard, I don't hardly ever work spider guard.
00:47:18.380
I stay away from that game, you know, cause I'm trying to save my knuckles.
00:47:24.020
You just pivot and adjust just like life, right?
00:47:32.200
Drew B 70 made a list when I was young and accomplished everything I wrote in it.
00:47:40.980
And now I felt repetitive, goalless ever since.
00:47:44.400
How do I get back in control and become driven again?
00:47:51.120
I have an example of this where I remember when I was so set on college, it was all in
00:47:58.640
And then I got done and I had like kind of depression.
00:48:03.080
I have a father-in-law retired from work, kind of got depressed, right?
00:48:19.900
People often say that I see things too black and white, or that's easier said than done,
00:48:35.140
So my, one of my baseball coaches used to say, you're only as good as your last at bat.
00:48:43.560
If you struck out, well, that was your last at bat.
00:48:52.580
You're only as good as your, you better keep playing so you can get back at bat again.
00:49:00.760
You wrapped up your identity in accomplishing these things.
00:49:09.040
You're going to, you're going to live in the past about how you guys would have taken state 30 years ago if they would have put you in that game.
00:49:17.060
Because that's what you're saying is, well, I used to be so good and I used to this and that and that.
00:49:24.080
Because you're living on the back of your last at bat.
00:49:33.640
And it's going to, it might take you a while to figure out what that's going to be.
00:49:36.600
To explore and try new things and take some risks and go on some adventures and say yes to some things that maybe you wouldn't normally say yes to.
00:49:45.200
I think this is a reoccurring trend here in the ask me anything.
00:49:49.460
And eventually you're going to find your way into something that is really engaging to you and very exciting.
00:49:55.580
And you'll feel how you felt before because you're on a meaningful purpose-driven path.
00:50:02.940
But you got to explore what that is and get over what you used to be and what you used to do positively and negatively and start recreating yourself.
00:50:14.740
The other thing that we do too, I've done this.
00:50:20.220
We'll do it to the people ahead of us where we'll think, well, why am I not there?
00:50:25.380
But the other thing that we do, and people don't talk about this all the time, is we compare ourselves to other men who are not as far down the path as we are in certain areas.
00:50:38.660
You know, like I'm making, you know, $500,000 a year and, you know, that puts me in the 1%.
00:50:46.560
I don't give a shit what percent I'm in anyways.
00:50:51.140
I remember years ago in our financial planning practice, we had this trainer.
00:50:54.620
He came to our office and he was training us on some of the proprietary, excuse me if I could say that, proprietary systems that we're using for financial planning.
00:51:08.160
And I believe he was in Florida, but he came to Utah to do some training.
00:51:12.180
And that the head of our office said, hey, you know, we would, we would love, we want to recruit you.
00:51:20.660
If you, if you moved here, you would be in the top 1% of all of our agents throughout this organization.
00:51:29.200
He's like, I don't want to be in the top 1% of this organization.
00:51:38.800
But the guy who was talking to him was playing on, was playing on his vanity.
00:51:50.140
And essentially what he said is I want, I'm not playing in this pond.
00:51:53.000
I'm playing in the, in the, in the, in the ocean.
00:52:04.980
I accomplished all this stuff when I was young.
00:52:07.060
I, you know, I did so well and I got all this done and.
00:52:24.100
I think this is next question is a good segue, right?
00:52:27.000
So, you know, you, you might be here in last at bat.
00:52:30.940
I need to get my game plan together, start taking some action.
00:52:34.280
And then we kind of get into this guy's, this gentleman's question, crowd hall.
00:52:39.260
How do you prevent yourself from getting burned out?
00:52:42.580
I put it together based upon the battle planner, but I've been feeling worn out for the last
00:52:46.680
few weeks, everything in the schedule is to improve myself as a man or a hubby.
00:52:51.740
I enjoy, but lately it just feels like a box that's getting checked off the list.
00:52:58.860
And, and, and Krav here, he mentions the battle planner really quick.
00:53:04.400
You can purchase a battle planner, store.orderofman.com.
00:53:07.760
You can learn about what is a battle planner by buying sovereignty, Ryan's book, or actually
00:53:14.620
you can even get the battle ready, orderofman.com slash battle ready.
00:53:19.660
It's a free thing that you guys can sign up for.
00:53:21.900
And we have a mobile app called the battle planner to learn more orderofman.com 12 week
00:53:30.560
Cause it ends up being again, a reoccurring theme.
00:53:34.180
I mean, we talk about planning, not cause we want to sell more battle planners, although
00:53:38.240
that helps fund what we're doing, but because this is legitimately the answer.
00:53:43.680
So, so this past weekend, I spent a lot of time in the yard.
00:53:48.220
And part of that was getting all the vehicles out of the barn from the winter and getting
00:53:53.060
them all turned on and making sure the batteries were running and make sure, making sure oil
00:53:59.740
We got my son's, my oldest son's bike up and running.
00:54:02.620
We got my youngest son's or my second son's bike up and running.
00:54:05.880
Uh, we got the, the mowers running, uh, the weed whackers running, the tractor running,
00:54:15.420
So I got to do a little more work there, but we did a lot of work and getting these things
00:54:19.620
And so there's a point to me telling you this engines don't like to just sit and they
00:54:54.080
And those two things are bad for engines, dry and heat bad.
00:54:59.240
You need to lubricate and you need to bring the temperature down.
00:55:06.960
By taking your foot off the dang gas for a second and getting under the hood of the engine
00:55:15.040
or under the hood of the car and checking that the belts are working properly, checking
00:55:21.280
that everything's lubricated the way that it should, that the fluid levels are where they
00:55:31.860
So that might mean, Hey, I'm going to go, I'm going to take a vacation.
00:55:40.240
I'm going to work out, but I'm going to do a different workout than I've done in the past.
00:55:47.080
Just something drastically different that you've never done.
00:55:49.200
Or I'm not going to do strength training today, but you know what I am going to do?
00:55:52.600
I'm going to go on a five mile hike with my family.
00:55:56.180
I'm going to, I'm going to take my wife out and we're going to go see a play, which isn't
00:56:02.100
something that like I'm extremely excited about, but it's different.
00:56:10.180
Instead of reading that self-development book, we talked about this, you and I, Kip, I think
00:56:19.880
Don't keep consuming the self-help and self-development.
00:56:23.300
That's, that's your foot on the throttle and it's okay.
00:56:26.000
But here's the problem I have with a lot of these people on, on social media is they're
00:56:29.320
like balls to the wall, all in a hundred percent.
00:56:39.940
And there's people who work really well like that.
00:56:45.420
I like going hard as I can for a period of time and then just kind of recycling and resetting
00:56:51.800
and doing the, the, the maintenance on the, on the engine, if you will, to use that analogy
00:56:57.400
And then if you do the maintenance, here's the cool thing about it.
00:56:59.860
You can keep operating at the same, the same performance that you want to operate at, but
00:57:05.400
if you don't maintain it, it's going to gradually just gradually reduce until you're
00:57:10.340
just burnt into the ground and you're useless and you just, you know, are out to
00:57:20.500
And then you can get back into the, I mean, look, look at NASCAR, look at any rate.
00:57:27.500
Like these are the best performing vehicles in the world.
00:57:30.020
And yet they know we're going to take, even during the, they, they literally stopped to
00:57:46.720
They're putting more fuel into the, into the car in the middle of a race.
00:58:04.960
I, I, I, I don't like the idea of a business partner.
00:58:14.320
But how about like partnering up with like origin maybe, or yeah.
00:58:18.820
No, I mean, I'll definitely answer, answer the question for sure.
00:58:21.200
I'm just saying like from a, from a bit, like having a business partner, if you're talking
00:58:24.780
about partnerships in the business, I, I, again, I don't like that.
00:58:27.760
But if you're talking about people or companies or people that you have relationships with, like,
00:58:32.500
like you said, origin or black rifle or, you know, any of these Soren X, any of these
00:58:37.040
companies that we work quite a bit with, uh, I, I look for, I mean, the first is integrity.
00:58:46.740
They have to, they have to be honest and integrity.
00:58:55.100
Uh, I also have to believe in what they believe in.
00:59:01.700
If it's in alignment with mine, that's going to be a better likelihood that we're going to
00:59:05.520
If it's out of alignment, then no, I'm not, I'm not going to do that.
00:59:08.580
We can be friends or we can do other things, but we're not going to do business together
00:59:17.120
If people can't communicate with me, uh, then again, it's going to create all sorts of problems
00:59:23.460
and issues that are going to keep you from, from moving down the path or working through
00:59:29.340
issues that you might have together and, and, and, and working together.
00:59:35.540
Integrity, uh, mission or what other, what's our purpose, what drives them and communication.
00:59:52.200
They're willing to back it up with their actions.
01:00:04.500
I think that comes back to the, the, the mission or the purpose thing.
01:00:11.700
And there's companies out there and people out there who are great people and great organizations
01:00:15.920
and companies that I don't think any less of, but they're just not on the same mission
01:00:24.660
Like do your thing, but we're not going to work together in that capacity, but I'll
01:00:28.640
be over here supporting you and buying your products and stuff, but we're not working
01:00:36.860
How long do you think it will take to shift the cultural tide back towards personal responsibility
01:00:42.700
and towards the importance of key principles of our Republic?
01:00:47.640
Well, there's, there's an, there's an assumption there.
01:00:50.180
And that is that we're actually on the right track and right.
01:00:56.980
Because if we were on the right path, then, okay, surely at some point we would completely
01:01:07.760
And I don't know how, and I don't know how that's like, if you just think about on an
01:01:12.100
individual level, what, what, what causes a person to shift, to take personal responsibility
01:01:23.940
You got to get your ass kicked and, or you have to have somebody show you a path to
01:01:30.580
And most of the time it's you getting your ass kicked, but it doesn't have to be that
01:01:36.580
For a lot of people it is, but you don't have to get your ass kicked in order to realize
01:01:45.840
Like, well, an example that we've used in the past is I had to come to a near divorce
01:01:52.260
for me to begin to fix myself and then ultimately fix our relationship.
01:02:00.220
I didn't have to wait until my wife and I separated to, to do that.
01:02:04.480
Or, or even, even we're talking about getting your ass kicked.
01:02:08.100
Literally, you don't have to wait until you're in a violent encounter or you get a gun pulled
01:02:13.120
on you, or somebody punches you, or you're at the bar and you try to defend somebody.
01:02:16.880
You don't have to wait until that happens to realize that maybe you should start getting
01:02:21.620
strong and start training and learning how to use firearms and learning how to defend
01:02:25.740
You don't have to wait for that, but we do because we're lazy and we're complacent and
01:02:34.200
We, we prop up our expectations of how we'll perform in these circumstances and situations.
01:02:50.700
And, you know, here's a, here's an example over the, over the past couple of days, the
01:02:55.380
jobs reports have come out and there was like 266,000 new jobs coming in, uh, which, you
01:03:02.300
Well, you know, it was projected and anticipated that it would be over a million.
01:03:06.040
So it's a quarter of what the projection was, or it's less than a quarter, I should
01:03:13.580
Uh, and then the other part of the story was that, uh, there's a labor shortage and
01:03:21.040
you know, the, the, the current unemployment is high.
01:03:26.400
And the current administration says, yeah, see, this is why we need immigration because
01:03:30.660
We need to bring people in who will fill these jobs.
01:03:32.420
Well, no, the reason is, is because we're literally paying people not to work.
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I, I, I understand somebody can just collect a paycheck.
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Why would they go to work if they could just collect a paycheck?
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I, that's hard for me to think that I would do that.
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I thought you said you would not go to work if you had that paycheck.
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No, but there's, there's millions, hundreds of millions of people who would do that.
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They're getting paid and incentivized not to work, not to get after it.
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Uh, you look at, um, birth rates are, are, are going down so that that's dwindling.
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People are, are not getting married, uh, which, which creates all sorts of problems.
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Well, what, regardless of what you think about marriage, there's a degeneracy in sleeping
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You see the decline of, of church and religion.
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And again, what, regardless of what you think about the spiritual component of that, that,
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that, that, that, that's a place where people go to learn values and principles that serve
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And, and, and get purpose driven lives and something beyond oneself and to promote service
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It depends on how long before we get ourselves back on track and what's going to happen to
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derail us hard enough where we need to, to, to wake up kind of jolt us back into, into
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Cause I, I don't know, like, you know, guys that are listening that feel like disheartened
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a little bit like, oh, it's our society, you know, it's, when are they, you know, going
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And, and the very center of this question is taking responsibility.
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What are you doing to share this message and that way of being with other people that
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Like how many relationships or, or confrontations or arguments do you have where you circle back
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around and you go, you know what, Ryan, that's my bad.
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Or are we looking to point the finger and push the blame on other people, right?
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Like how you show up in all these areas of life, that's how we inspire people.
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That's how we teach people like, oh, that's what responsibility looks like.
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So I would ask all you guys, like, what the hell are you doing?
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You know, we can, we can complain all we want about our country and how it's, you know,
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everyone's woke and everyone's a victim, but what are you doing?
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I hope if you're listening to this, you realize that's what we've been talking about for the
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And that's the path that you're on, but we could always be better.
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We can always go a little harder, always do a little more, always improve ourselves.
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And, and in turn influence the people who would, who would listen and follow and gladly
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If they had a, an example, a path to, to, to run on, that could be you or not.
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And you can hope that they'll figure it out on their own.
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They won't, or it'll take them longer than necessary.
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There's nothing, there's nothing to, to feel bad about when you say that that is exactly
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And what are you doing to help those under your care do about it?
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You know, we've said it in the past, the difference between one of the differences between a boy
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and a man is that a man produces more than he consumes.
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A boy consumes more than he produces just by their nature.
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But as a man, it's your job to produce more than you consume, which means that you have
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the capacity to A, take care of yourself and B, begin to take care of other people.
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Not by giving them everything, but by supporting and teaching and coaching and guiding and instructing
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because you're better than just being able to take care of yourself.
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Cornwell Arms, as a 25-year-old conservative father of two, should I get involved?
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Like I just reading this and I'm immediately like, I already know.
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So Cornwell Arms, as a 25-year-old conservative father of two, should I get involved in my
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Also, what can I do to keep my kids from being corrupted by the mainstream?
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I would just let everything around you deteriorate and hope that your family is inoculated against it.
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But you have a responsibility to actually create a better environment for you and your family.
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You know, and the second part of your question is, what do I do to help that my kids won't
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Number one, teach them solid foundation, foundational principles.
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And two, make sure the environments aren't going to, that you're in, aren't going to corrupt them.
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So if you send them to public school, know that what they're learning is largely out of
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I'm, that's not an indictment at this point against the public schooling system, although
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I'm just saying that they're going to be learning things that are outside of your control.
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You have to be okay with that or not okay with that.
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If they're hanging out with a bunch of losers, then, you know, they're, they're going to be
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If, if you're poor and people aren't going to like what I say here, if you're poor and
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you live in a poor area, it's going to be more likely that they're going to be corrupted
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because they're not learning what they need to learn to be valuable and produce value in
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That's why go to church, learn to build wealth, put yourself in a better environment, look
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for better opportunities in schooling, work in a different place, build a new company.
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So when, when, when you're talking about getting involved with your, uh, with your community,
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And then, you know, everybody who little Tommy's hanging out with because they're on your team
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and you're teaching those child children, those boys and girls, the same lessons that you want
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And by the way, you might actually be the only male figure in those people's lives,
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I've coached, I've done a lot of coaching with baseball, football, a little bit, a little
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And I was the only present male figure in some of those kids' lives.
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And so I, I saw him, I saw the way those young boys looked at me.
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I could see it because they had nobody else to turn to.
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And then I knew everybody who was my, who my kids were hanging out with and who, what
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They shouldn't hang out with get involved in, in, in other aspects and elements of the
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Now you're not going to be able to probably sit.
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Maybe you can, I shouldn't say that, but sit on, you know, the, the, the school board or
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I don't know how hard that's going to be for you as a young man with kids and a wife.
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If you have the capacity, then yeah, I would consider it.
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If you don't, there's other ways to get involved that don't require all of that time and attention.
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So, uh, the other day was mother's day this past weekend.
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And my wife got a letter, a card, a mother's day card from one of the neighbors.
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You are the heart and soul of this neighborhood.
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So, and, and, and trust me, I already knew this before I saw the card, but like my neighborhood
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feels like, like they're a neighborhood because my wife, that's amazing.
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That's how well they feel connected to each other.
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There's not a single person within a radius of our home that my wife does not know.
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And it's not because the neighbor came over and welcomed us and went out of their way.
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No, it's because my wife went out of her way to go talk to them, to go introduce them.
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My girls take cookies to people on a regular basis.
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Constantly, we're, we're aware that our neighbor, uh, George, you know, recently passed away
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Guess, guess who's in our family prayers every night, his wife, right?
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Like that's community, but far too often we wait to like, oh, well, you know what?
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Have you gone out of your way to get to know them?
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You know, like it's, man, I think our ability to, to leave a lasting impact in those around
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And everyone's sitting back waiting for other people to take that action because they don't
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realize their ability to create a lasting positive impact.
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That's, that's pretty cool that she got that letter or that, that card.
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Well, we talked about that and then start turning it outwards, produce more than you consume.
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And then as you build up your capacity, you know, order a man's a good example of that.
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When, when we started you know, we could reach a certain amount of people because of, of our
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limited influence and our ability to reach and our ability to use the tools that are at
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And here we are six years into this thing, reaching significantly more than we did when
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we started because we developed and built that capacity to do it.
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We learned how to use and leverage technology better.
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We learned how to, how to, how to articulate and share a message that resonated with more people
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So then other people wanted to get involved and wanted to share and wanted to wear like
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the merchandise that, you know, both you and I have on right now and other people.
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I have, I have guys who, uh, will, will send me pictures.
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And he took a picture of a guy's vehicle because it had the order a man, uh, decal on the back
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And so we've learned to produce more than we consume.
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That other people are so heavily engaged with what we're doing that we're not, we didn't,
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I didn't ask him to take a picture of that and send it to me, but he's excited about it,
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which means that the message is working and, and, and what we're doing is resonating with
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And that's what makes us men is that our influence goes much further than even our own
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And what I think a lot of us should, and I think we should all be striving to do more
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It doesn't have to be this way, but in our own way, we should all be striving to do that.
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And, and if you want to get on the court in our way on what we do within the iron council
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and within the order of man movement, we mentioned it earlier, we have the battle plan and the
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battle plan is really kind of our, our, our tactical approach to accomplishing things,
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And we have a couple of resources I mentioned earlier, but this is the call to action today.
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If you are, if you're not working a battle plan now, get your hands on one.
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The easiest item is go to order man.com slash battle ready.
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See what we're doing in the iron council and join us by getting your battle plan together
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for you technical guys or guys that need an automated system.
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You really have two ways to execute against that battle plan.
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To learn more, to download the app, or you can find it in the Apple play store or Google
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play store, Apple store, whatever that's called on the Mac.
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So you don't need, we don't want to help you Mac.
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And yeah, so you don't need to, cause we know exactly where to go.
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And then, uh, and then your, your third option is, is the paper route, right?
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And, uh, so you can get that battle planner, like a physical version of the battle planner,
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It's there for your, uh, for your use and your benefits.
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So just take a screenshot, post it on social media, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, wherever.
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There's a bunch of other ones that people tell me every week to get involved with.
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And every week I say, no, I've rides, hold it out for the, uh, for the new Trump app.
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I heard there's who, no, it's like, it's some sort of like web thing.
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I haven't even looked at some sort of web thing where you can just, you basically tweet tweets
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or quotes or something from Trump or something.
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I don't know what it is, but I was like, I was like, wait, is that it?
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There'll always be something new and exciting to talk about, but guys, we appreciate your
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We'll be back Friday for our Friday field notes, but until then go out there, take action
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Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast.
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we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.