Order of Man - Communication is King ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.820 Gentlemen, this Friday Field Notes is a little bit different.

00:00:03.520 Normally, I would record something specifically for you,

00:00:06.100 but in this case, I gave a quick presentation

00:00:08.680 on seven effective communication strategies

00:00:11.500 as the receiver of information.

00:00:14.040 Often when we talk about or hear about

00:00:16.640 being a better communicator,

00:00:18.480 it's filtered through the lens

00:00:19.860 of when you communicate with others.

00:00:21.920 But how do we be good listeners?

00:00:23.900 How do we be good receivers of that information?

00:00:26.520 And this is crucial,

00:00:27.360 whether it's a personal platonic or romantic relationship

00:00:32.040 or in the professional space,

00:00:33.640 your ability to listen effectively,

00:00:36.060 hear what people are saying,

00:00:38.080 process the information that needs to be processed,

00:00:39.960 and then come up with a course of action

00:00:42.100 is going to differentiate between failure and success.

00:00:46.340 So this is a recording that I did

00:00:48.480 in our exclusive brotherhood, the Iron Council.

00:00:51.160 And I hope you enjoy, I hope you get some good feedback.

00:00:54.120 If you're interested in what the Iron Council is all about,

00:00:56.680 we are closed for enrollment right now,

00:00:58.600 but we will be opening back up in a couple of months.

00:01:01.380 And you can check that out at orderofman.com

00:01:03.740 slash ironcouncil.

00:01:05.780 In the meantime, guys, please enjoy this topic,

00:01:10.300 this presentation on effective communication

00:01:12.620 for the receiver.

00:01:14.160 You're a man of action.

00:01:15.500 You live life to the fullest.

00:01:17.120 Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:01:19.960 When life knocks you down,

00:01:21.280 you get back up one more time, every time.

00:01:24.140 You are not easily deterred or defeated,

00:01:26.760 rugged, resilient, strong.

00:01:29.580 This is your life.

00:01:30.660 This is who you are.

00:01:32.080 This is who you will become.

00:01:33.780 At the end of the day,

00:01:34.980 and after all is said and done,

00:01:36.820 you can call yourself a man.

00:01:39.620 And I want to talk about effective communication with people,

00:01:42.900 but I want to talk about it

00:01:43.980 in a little bit different context than we normally hear it.

00:01:47.000 When we typically hear effective communication,

00:01:49.300 we hear it through the lens of how you're

00:01:51.000 to communicate effectively with other people.

00:01:52.800 And there's value in that.

00:01:54.200 Obviously, we need to know how to do that.

00:01:56.040 And I think we talk about that ad nauseum at times.

00:01:59.760 But I want to talk with you guys

00:02:01.440 about effective communication

00:02:03.040 from the position of the receiver of that information.

00:02:07.080 Because I believe there is a huge, huge responsibility

00:02:09.800 that the receiver of information has too

00:02:12.240 in a healthy discussion and conversation.

00:02:15.000 Whether it's something here

00:02:16.340 where you guys are sharing feedback with me

00:02:18.100 and I'm receiving it,

00:02:19.180 or an employee-employer relationship,

00:02:21.500 and maybe your employer is telling you

00:02:23.100 that he has a new initiative,

00:02:24.380 or your wife is communicating with you

00:02:26.680 and she's explaining how she feels.

00:02:28.800 We have a really, really powerful opportunity

00:02:30.980 to be a great communicator

00:02:32.620 in that conversation as the receiver.

00:02:35.860 And I tend to look at communication

00:02:37.900 as 100%, 100% activity.

00:02:41.140 It's like the adage when you hear about a marriage

00:02:43.320 and they say a marriage is not 50-50,

00:02:45.360 it's 100-100, meaning the husband's pouring 100% in

00:02:48.980 and the wife is pouring 100% in. 1.00

00:02:51.140 If it doesn't work that way, it doesn't work.

00:02:53.340 Communication's the same way.

00:02:55.220 The person communicating the message

00:02:56.740 has a 100% responsibility

00:02:58.760 of an effective delivery of that message

00:03:01.520 so it's received and acted on.

00:03:03.920 Also, the receiver of the information

00:03:07.180 has 100% responsibility

00:03:09.260 in receiving that information correctly,

00:03:12.120 accurately, and processing it

00:03:14.100 in a way that leads to results.

00:03:16.360 So again, we talk a lot about communication

00:03:18.500 from the delivery.

00:03:19.900 I want to talk about it from the receiver.

00:03:22.000 So I've got six points

00:03:23.120 and actually seven points here

00:03:24.500 based on our conversation today

00:03:25.920 that I just added one to it.

00:03:27.440 But number one, here's the first point.

00:03:29.820 Know the outcome of what's happening.

00:03:33.080 Know the outcome of what's happening.

00:03:35.480 And we can actually use a lot of the

00:03:37.680 more heated conversations that we had today

00:03:40.120 to explain some of these points.

00:03:41.500 The outcome, as guys are sharing what they're sharing,

00:03:44.720 is not anything personal.

00:03:47.340 It's not to get at somebody.

00:03:49.960 It's to move the mission forward.

00:03:53.420 So what I think it's important to understand

00:03:56.060 is that people are people.

00:03:58.440 Human beings are flawed.

00:03:59.760 We have emotions.

00:04:01.120 We don't always say what we mean.

00:04:03.540 And our job as receivers of the information

00:04:06.980 is to know what the outcome is

00:04:08.940 before we get into the conversation.

00:04:11.840 Because if you know what the point of the conversation is,

00:04:14.540 then you can afford people a little bit more grace

00:04:16.840 and you can have a little bit more of an understanding

00:04:19.560 and a litmus test

00:04:20.520 in how to filter the message

00:04:22.940 through the outcome that's trying to be received.

00:04:25.780 And you can also be an active participant

00:04:27.460 in the conversation

00:04:28.720 because you know what the end result is.

00:04:31.180 So if there's ever a point

00:04:32.580 where somebody's delivering a message

00:04:34.200 and you have no idea

00:04:35.420 why they're delivering that message

00:04:37.080 or communicating it with you,

00:04:38.420 it's really important to understand or ask,

00:04:41.180 hey, where do you see this going?

00:04:44.280 What would you like the outcome to be

00:04:46.000 of this conversation when we're all done?

00:04:48.140 If that isn't clearly stated

00:04:49.720 and you don't know what that is,

00:04:51.080 I think it's entirely appropriate

00:04:52.560 to ask the person,

00:04:54.320 what is it that they're trying to achieve?

00:04:56.680 Because then everything else can filter around that.

00:04:59.520 Number two, have established boundaries.

00:05:03.120 Have established boundaries.

00:05:04.560 As the receiver of the information,

00:05:06.920 it's still okay for you to have parameters

00:05:09.380 in which you expect to be treated.

00:05:11.620 So if you're getting into a heated argument

00:05:13.400 with your wife

00:05:14.000 and she's telling you 1.00

00:05:14.780 how big of a piece of shit you are 1.00

00:05:16.180 because of what you did or didn't do, 1.00

00:05:18.080 that might not be acceptable to you.

00:05:21.220 And you need to be able to understand

00:05:23.060 what is an acceptable

00:05:24.280 and not acceptable to you

00:05:25.900 and then communicate that to her.

00:05:27.980 Hey hon,

00:05:28.900 I'm willing to have this conversation with you.

00:05:31.280 I want to hear what feedback you have for me

00:05:33.520 because I want to be a better husband

00:05:35.220 and father for you and the family.

00:05:37.680 But I expect that to be done in a civil way.

00:05:40.900 So you will not call me names.

00:05:43.740 You will not raise your voice to me

00:05:45.480 and you will treat me with the respect I deserve.

00:05:47.880 And by the way,

00:05:48.320 I'll do the same things for you.

00:05:50.120 And if at any point in time,

00:05:51.640 it moves outside of that,

00:05:53.260 then I'm going to go ahead

00:05:54.440 and step away from the conversation

00:05:55.700 because this is how I expect to be treated.

00:05:58.220 We teach people how to communicate with us

00:06:00.620 through our responses.

00:06:01.500 And if you let somebody run all over you 0.99

00:06:04.260 or treat you like garbage, 0.99

00:06:05.700 they're going to. 0.99

00:06:07.280 And it might not even be deceitful,

00:06:09.120 but that's what's going to happen.

00:06:10.680 So know what your boundaries are,

00:06:12.140 know what you expect.

00:06:13.180 Also time boundaries.

00:06:15.120 You know,

00:06:15.380 some of us are a little bit more long-winded than others.

00:06:17.880 If we're having a conversation

00:06:19.680 and you have a time constraint,

00:06:22.420 it's okay to communicate the time constraint.

00:06:25.060 If I've got something going on,

00:06:27.220 Frank,

00:06:27.760 I might have to say to you,

00:06:29.740 hey, Frank,

00:06:30.220 I have a half an hour today

00:06:31.360 and that's it.

00:06:33.880 And if we need to finish the conversation up,

00:06:36.000 we can finish it at a later date,

00:06:37.280 but I only have 30 minutes today

00:06:38.720 and it's okay to end a conversation.

00:06:42.040 So if we bump up on that half hour mark,

00:06:44.040 hey, Frank,

00:06:45.380 I told you I only have a half an hour.

00:06:47.020 I have to get to this other meeting

00:06:48.160 because it's doing that other meeting

00:06:50.420 a disservice too

00:06:51.800 if you don't honor that other meeting

00:06:53.000 that you created.

00:06:54.100 So have the boundaries.

00:06:55.820 Frank,

00:06:56.140 I'm kind of giving you a hard time,

00:06:58.140 but kind of telling the truth.

00:06:59.980 All right.

00:07:00.540 Number three,

00:07:01.980 strive for understanding.

00:07:04.120 Okay.

00:07:04.520 Strive for understanding in the conversation. 0.99

00:07:07.120 Do not play dumb. 0.98

00:07:10.780 Okay. 0.97

00:07:11.240 It's not conducive to a healthy conversation.

00:07:16.520 I just told you,

00:07:17.620 we mess up,

00:07:18.560 we screw up,

00:07:19.580 we get emotional,

00:07:21.140 we say the wrong things,

00:07:22.340 we trip over our words,

00:07:23.720 we say things that we don't mean

00:07:25.100 or it doesn't come out the way

00:07:26.140 that we see it in our minds.

00:07:27.200 You don't need to get tripped up

00:07:29.200 in all of that.

00:07:31.000 You need to strive for understanding

00:07:32.860 to the goal that we just talked about

00:07:35.120 in point number one.

00:07:36.080 What was the goal

00:07:37.060 and what is this person saying?

00:07:38.900 And try to understand

00:07:40.140 where that person's coming from.

00:07:42.060 Try to see it from their point of view.

00:07:44.780 Try to offer a little bit of grace

00:07:46.600 and class

00:07:47.240 and afford that person

00:07:48.280 the respect that they deserve.

00:07:50.120 You're having a conversation.

00:07:51.120 They deserve some level of respect.

00:07:53.460 If you didn't respect them at all,

00:07:54.860 probably just disengage

00:07:55.720 from the conversation entirely,

00:07:57.020 but you're having the conversation.

00:07:58.780 So what is it

00:08:00.180 that they're trying to communicate

00:08:01.300 and give them some grace

00:08:02.520 because they're going to mess up

00:08:03.780 the same way we do

00:08:04.800 when we communicate.

00:08:06.400 I,

00:08:06.620 one thing I often kind of laugh at is,

00:08:09.280 it's kind of an interesting thing,

00:08:12.700 but when you look at presidents,

00:08:14.400 for example,

00:08:15.460 you know,

00:08:15.840 the media takes

00:08:16.920 their words

00:08:18.300 and takes all of their,

00:08:19.280 their messaging

00:08:20.000 and their speeches

00:08:20.780 and they just like pick apart

00:08:22.560 every little stumble

00:08:23.660 of every little word.

00:08:25.000 I mean,

00:08:25.220 can you imagine

00:08:26.080 if you and I

00:08:27.660 were scrutinized to that level?

00:08:29.460 We'd have so many mess ups too.

00:08:32.400 And that's not to excuse

00:08:33.440 behavior necessarily,

00:08:34.580 but it is okay

00:08:36.080 to afford some grace

00:08:36.980 and leniency 1.00

00:08:37.500 because people suck 0.94

00:08:39.000 at communicating. 0.96

00:08:40.060 Myself included.

00:08:41.320 And this leads me

00:08:42.180 to point number four,

00:08:43.000 which is giving people

00:08:44.420 the benefit of the doubt.

00:08:45.460 Like how often

00:08:48.260 do we get offended

00:08:49.160 and do we get upset?

00:08:51.280 And then what we start to do

00:08:52.340 is we assume

00:08:53.040 the worst of other people. 1.00

00:08:54.440 This person's an asshole. 1.00

00:08:55.720 They're out to get me. 1.00

00:08:56.680 They don't like me. 1.00

00:08:57.500 Why is he a dick? 1.00

00:08:58.560 He's an idiot. 1.00

00:08:59.800 And we attack that person 1.00

00:09:01.600 because of how we feel about that.

00:09:05.000 Just give people

00:09:06.120 the benefit of the doubt.

00:09:07.240 Even if you're wrong,

00:09:08.240 I think it's better

00:09:09.000 to give people

00:09:10.080 the benefit of the doubt.

00:09:11.760 One of the,

00:09:12.380 one of my favorite quotes

00:09:13.300 around this subject is

00:09:14.560 never attribute to malice

00:09:16.680 what could be attributed 1.00

00:09:17.660 to stupidity. 1.00

00:09:18.840 We're dumb, guys. 1.00

00:09:20.720 We are dumb. 1.00

00:09:22.040 We're emotional. 1.00

00:09:23.000 We stumble over our words.

00:09:24.580 We often don't have

00:09:25.540 the right words.

00:09:26.400 We lose focus.

00:09:27.480 We're distracted.

00:09:28.880 We're thinking

00:09:29.400 about other things.

00:09:30.620 So when I communicate something,

00:09:32.360 I would hope

00:09:33.120 that you guys

00:09:33.780 give me a little bit

00:09:35.860 of grace

00:09:36.800 and give me

00:09:37.360 the benefit of the doubt

00:09:38.200 the same way

00:09:39.080 that you would want

00:09:39.760 that benefit of the doubt

00:09:40.760 when it comes

00:09:42.620 to you communicating.

00:09:44.240 Number five,

00:09:45.600 a willingness to clarify.

00:09:47.680 It's okay

00:09:48.440 that you don't

00:09:49.000 always understand things.

00:09:51.220 People communicate differently.

00:09:53.020 They have different

00:09:53.680 communication styles.

00:09:55.440 Sometimes they see things

00:09:56.480 so clearly over here,

00:09:57.420 but they can't articulate it

00:09:58.520 in a way you can receive it.

00:09:59.900 And that's okay.

00:10:00.900 If you don't understand

00:10:02.260 what somebody is saying,

00:10:03.920 clarify respectfully.

00:10:05.960 Hey,

00:10:06.580 I don't understand

00:10:08.020 what you mean by that.

00:10:09.060 Can you help me

00:10:09.660 understand what you're saying?

00:10:11.560 Hey,

00:10:12.040 can you say that

00:10:12.820 a different way?

00:10:13.460 Because I'm having

00:10:14.020 a hard time following

00:10:14.980 it the way

00:10:16.100 you're sharing it with me.

00:10:17.080 Is there another way

00:10:17.880 you can explain that?

00:10:18.840 Again,

00:10:19.160 I'm not putting it on them.

00:10:20.160 Is there another way

00:10:20.740 you can explain that

00:10:21.400 so I can understand?

00:10:24.660 You're not pointing

00:10:25.540 at them like,

00:10:26.440 well,

00:10:26.560 you're not explaining

00:10:27.340 that right.

00:10:29.180 Why are you explaining 1.00

00:10:30.040 like that's dumb? 0.99

00:10:31.000 Nobody gets it 0.99

00:10:31.780 when you explain it like that.

00:10:32.780 You see the difference?

00:10:34.820 At that point,

00:10:35.660 you're just, 1.00

00:10:36.060 you're being kind of a dick. 0.99

00:10:38.480 It's not to get at them 0.99

00:10:40.180 look at it

00:10:41.060 through your own lens.

00:10:42.060 Hey,

00:10:42.500 Jay,

00:10:42.880 you're sharing this idea

00:10:43.980 with me.

00:10:44.300 It's important to me.

00:10:45.140 I want to know

00:10:45.460 what you're saying.

00:10:46.180 I'm having a hard time

00:10:47.260 following.

00:10:47.900 Can you say that

00:10:48.380 a different way?

00:10:48.920 Because I'm a little

00:10:49.620 thick and dense at times.

00:10:51.260 Even make fun of yourself.

00:10:53.380 Okay,

00:10:53.500 that's the grace

00:10:54.180 that we need to give

00:10:55.240 to other people.

00:10:56.080 I don't need to say it.

00:10:56.840 Jay, 1.00

00:10:57.040 you're an idiot. 1.00

00:10:57.580 You can't explain that right. 1.00

00:10:59.960 That's not the case.

00:11:01.020 He sees it very clearly

00:11:01.960 in his mind

00:11:02.560 and it's different

00:11:03.060 than the way I see it.

00:11:03.960 So just let's talk

00:11:05.440 about it a little differently

00:11:06.400 so we both understand.

00:11:08.020 And I'm trying

00:11:09.340 to rush through

00:11:09.800 this a little bit,

00:11:10.320 guys,

00:11:10.500 because I do want

00:11:10.940 to get you

00:11:11.220 out of here on time.

00:11:12.340 Number six,

00:11:13.220 and then I have

00:11:13.680 number seven,

00:11:14.500 so I have two other points.

00:11:15.800 Number six,

00:11:16.900 do not engage

00:11:17.800 in logical fallacies.

00:11:20.180 They do not engage

00:11:21.420 in logical fallacies.

00:11:22.520 There's a really good resource.

00:11:23.720 I'm going to pull it up

00:11:24.260 here real quick.

00:11:24.840 And it's called

00:11:28.340 yourlogicalfallacyis.com

00:11:31.720 yourlogicalfallacyis.com

00:11:34.040 And right on the homepage,

00:11:35.460 they've got about,

00:11:36.260 it looks like 20 or so

00:11:37.760 logical fallacies

00:11:39.260 that you can look at.

00:11:40.660 The ones that stand out

00:11:41.420 to me that I often hear

00:11:42.440 is the straw man argument,

00:11:45.080 right?

00:11:45.220 And the way they define

00:11:46.000 the straw man,

00:11:46.660 for example,

00:11:47.140 is misrepresenting

00:11:48.220 someone's argument

00:11:48.940 to make it easier

00:11:50.060 to attack.

00:11:51.820 How often do you have

00:11:52.660 conversations like that

00:11:53.880 where somebody

00:11:55.260 makes a point

00:11:56.240 or clarifies

00:11:57.220 on something

00:11:57.960 that you're not even arguing?

00:11:59.280 That's a straw man.

00:12:00.440 The next one I hear

00:12:01.240 quite often

00:12:01.760 is the ad hominem attacks

00:12:03.040 where, you know,

00:12:04.720 you make a point

00:12:05.440 that somebody

00:12:05.820 doesn't agree with

00:12:06.500 and they say, 1.00

00:12:06.960 well, you're an idiot. 1.00

00:12:07.680 What the hell do you know? 1.00

00:12:09.140 It has nothing to do

00:12:10.560 with the argument.

00:12:12.040 Now you're attacking

00:12:12.800 their character

00:12:13.520 or attacking

00:12:14.840 their motive,

00:12:15.860 right?

00:12:16.260 The only reason he's,

00:12:17.460 here's one I hear a lot.

00:12:18.400 The only reason he's doing that

00:12:19.460 is because you're trying

00:12:19.960 to make money.

00:12:21.580 You're attacking the motive.

00:12:22.820 You don't know

00:12:23.600 another person's motives.

00:12:25.420 So attack the issues,

00:12:27.140 address the issues.

00:12:28.540 And the other one

00:12:29.400 I hear quite often

00:12:30.160 is appeal to authority.

00:12:32.280 Well, what do you know?

00:12:33.840 You didn't go to college

00:12:35.020 as if college

00:12:36.180 is the ultimate authority

00:12:37.540 on that particular subject

00:12:39.060 or show me your source.

00:12:41.520 Where's your source, right?

00:12:43.680 These are the things

00:12:44.220 you often hear.

00:12:45.000 It's these appeals

00:12:45.580 to authority.

00:12:46.400 If the other party

00:12:47.140 doesn't acknowledge

00:12:48.200 the authority, 0.92

00:12:49.240 it's useless. 0.82

00:12:51.240 It's pointless.

00:12:52.400 Another one you hear often

00:12:53.420 is appeal to God.

00:12:54.560 That's also appeal to authority.

00:12:56.240 Well, we shouldn't do that

00:12:58.200 because it's in the Bible.

00:12:59.960 Well, what about the people

00:13:00.900 who don't believe in the Bible?

00:13:03.000 Like that just weakens your case.

00:13:04.520 There's no case.

00:13:05.340 You might think it's a case,

00:13:06.520 but you're communicating

00:13:07.920 with somebody else

00:13:08.840 and they don't believe

00:13:09.660 it's a case

00:13:10.140 because they don't believe

00:13:10.860 in that authority.

00:13:12.360 So you have to be careful

00:13:13.460 of appealing to authority.

00:13:14.560 Those are a couple

00:13:15.000 that stand out to me.

00:13:16.420 The last point, guys,

00:13:17.620 here when it comes

00:13:18.160 to receiving information,

00:13:19.540 this might be

00:13:21.060 one of the hardest ones to do.

00:13:23.200 And I think it really

00:13:24.560 can be underscored

00:13:26.360 in difficult conversations

00:13:27.800 like we had today.

00:13:28.740 And that is

00:13:29.500 don't take things personally.

00:13:33.540 Do not take things personally,

00:13:35.760 even if they're personal.

00:13:38.520 Because it makes you

00:13:39.520 sound emotional. 0.99

00:13:40.380 It makes you sound silly. 0.95

00:13:41.840 It makes you say 1.00

00:13:42.700 and do dumb things. 0.99

00:13:43.940 And it makes you sound petty. 0.94

00:13:45.340 Don't take things personal.

00:13:49.700 Again, to go back

00:13:50.580 to the point number four,

00:13:53.480 give people the benefit

00:13:54.500 of the doubt.

00:13:56.280 If Jay and I

00:13:57.100 are having a conversation

00:13:58.040 and he's never done this

00:13:58.880 and I can't imagine he would

00:13:59.880 and he gets really heated

00:14:00.820 about something,

00:14:01.400 he says, 1.00

00:14:01.960 dude, you're such an asshole. 1.00

00:14:04.580 I'm not going to take 1.00

00:14:05.600 that personally.

00:14:07.080 Now, he's right.

00:14:08.060 I am.

00:14:08.960 But I'm not going

00:14:09.840 to take it personal

00:14:10.620 because it does nothing

00:14:11.740 to help this conversation.

00:14:13.920 I'm going to give him

00:14:14.720 the benefit of the doubt

00:14:15.400 because Jay has never

00:14:16.260 said that to me.

00:14:16.820 I can't imagine him doing that.

00:14:18.140 If he did,

00:14:18.540 I might say,

00:14:19.440 Jay, hold on.

00:14:20.380 Let's take a pause.

00:14:21.240 Boundaries, right?

00:14:22.700 Let's take a pause.

00:14:23.760 We're not going

00:14:24.260 to attack each other.

00:14:25.080 I'm not going

00:14:25.440 to engage in that.

00:14:26.640 But hey, man,

00:14:27.520 like this doesn't

00:14:28.340 sound like you.

00:14:29.260 Is everything okay?

00:14:31.880 That's point number four,

00:14:33.020 giving people

00:14:33.520 the benefit of the doubt.

00:14:35.640 Guys, it's important

00:14:36.600 not to take things personally,

00:14:38.160 even if they are.

00:14:40.620 Rise above that.

00:14:42.000 Even today,

00:14:42.820 I can tell you

00:14:43.600 and full disclosure,

00:14:45.180 as I hear these things,

00:14:46.500 I feel it.

00:14:47.620 I can feel it.

00:14:49.060 The temperature rise.

00:14:50.380 The blood starts

00:14:51.060 to boil a little bit.

00:14:52.260 You get defensive.

00:14:53.400 Ego gets in the way.

00:14:54.380 I felt that today

00:14:55.400 as I'm trying

00:14:56.740 to communicate this

00:14:57.480 with you.

00:14:58.440 But again,

00:14:58.980 we're not taking

00:15:00.080 things personally.

00:15:01.980 I think if all of us

00:15:03.300 adopted these seven strategies

00:15:04.760 a little bit more effectively,

00:15:06.480 we would have

00:15:07.220 better relationships.

00:15:08.720 More opportunities

00:15:09.660 would be presented

00:15:10.760 to us.

00:15:11.720 More people

00:15:12.400 would give us

00:15:12.960 the benefit of the doubt.

00:15:13.940 We would have

00:15:14.660 a greater understanding

00:15:15.600 about who people are,

00:15:16.820 the people that we love

00:15:17.620 and care about in our lives, 0.99

00:15:18.600 and more shit 0.99

00:15:19.760 would get done. 1.00

00:15:21.320 So that's my message

00:15:22.380 to you guys.

00:15:22.960 Again,

00:15:23.260 just to rehash real quick.

00:15:25.120 Number one,

00:15:25.900 know the outcome.

00:15:26.840 Number two,

00:15:28.020 have established boundaries.

00:15:29.400 Number three,

00:15:30.060 strive for understanding. 0.97

00:15:31.180 Don't play dumb. 0.96

00:15:32.020 Number four, 0.99

00:15:32.900 give people

00:15:33.380 the benefit of the doubt.

00:15:34.280 Never attribute to malice

00:15:35.300 what could be attributed 1.00

00:15:36.120 to stupidity. 1.00

00:15:37.320 Number five, 1.00

00:15:37.940 a willingness to clarify

00:15:39.080 if you don't understand something.

00:15:40.700 Number six,

00:15:41.220 do not engage

00:15:41.860 in logical fallacies.

00:15:43.200 And number seven,

00:15:44.320 never take anything personal,

00:15:46.200 even if it is.

00:15:47.400 Rise above that.

00:15:48.180 Be better than that.

00:15:49.300 All right, guys.

00:15:50.040 That's it.

00:15:54.460 Thank you for listening

00:15:55.320 to the Order of Man podcast.

00:15:57.400 You're ready to take charge

00:15:58.460 of your life

00:15:59.020 and be more of the man

00:16:00.160 you were meant to be.

00:16:01.420 We invite you to join the order

00:16:02.760 at orderofman.com.

00:16:10.300 Thank you.

Order of Man - April 19, 2024

Communication is King ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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