Order of Man

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.160 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.700 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:27.820 I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here and welcome

00:00:31.860 back. And speaking of being back, I am back. I've been out of town for about a week. I was hunting

00:00:38.800 in Minnesota on a hunt that I go on every year for the past four years now. And finally, finally,

00:00:46.660 I was able to put down a big, mature buck. You guys can go check that out at my Instagram account

00:00:53.740 at Ryan Michler and see, uh, had a great experience out there on the hunt, had a great experience with

00:00:59.160 good friends I've known for years and years. And, uh, it's always good to be surrounded by

00:01:03.640 the brotherhood and the camaraderie and the accountability and the Jack and John, everything

00:01:07.680 else that goes on at hunt camp. So I got back late last night, but I wanted to make sure that I got you

00:01:13.100 guys a Friday field notes because at this point we have not missed a single episode, uh, for about

00:01:20.200 six and a half years. So I'm not going to miss one just because I got back late and I'm tired, but I do

00:01:26.140 have a quick message for you today. Some of the things that I've been thinking about as I got back

00:01:30.200 home and I was driving into Portland, Maine, and then driving up, uh, about an hour and a half, two

00:01:36.020 hours North from Portland where I live, uh, how incredible it is to live here in the state. So I wanted

00:01:41.720 to talk with you about why we made this transition in this move here, uh, and then help you shift maybe

00:01:47.000 your mindset from the concept of, uh, what if I think a lot of guys have this, what if mindset,

00:01:54.160 like, Oh, what if I did this? What if I did that? Wouldn't it be nice? Dot, dot, dot, uh, to let's

00:02:00.180 find out the let's find out mentality. So I'm going to explain that in a minute. Uh, before I do, let me

00:02:05.800 just share with you a very quick, uh, announcement from my friends, our podcast sponsors origin. Uh, these

00:02:13.840 guys make jujitsu geese, rash guards, lifestyle apparel. I just picked up and I would highly,

00:02:20.200 highly recommend this to you guys, a brand new pair of origin Lincoln boots. These things are

00:02:27.080 incredible. I've had the bison boot. Now I have the oxblood Lincoln boot in my, in my collection of

00:02:33.940 origin boots. Uh, and you guys need to check it out as well. It's going to be boot season. You need

00:02:39.380 denims. They got denim. Uh, you need lifestyle apparel. You need hoodies. You need jackets. You

00:02:44.800 need denim, but I think it's already said denim boots, all that kind of stuff. Go check it out.

00:02:49.540 All right. Origin usa.com origin usa.com. And when you do, when you get those brand new pair of boots,

00:02:56.460 which you're going to love, make sure you use the code order or D E R at checkout for a discount.

00:03:01.660 Cause you're going to buy boots. Anyways, you're going to buy jeans. Anyways, get the discount,

00:03:05.480 save some money, support 100% made and sourced in America without compromise origin usa.com.

00:03:12.600 All right, guys, let's talk about this mentality shift. So in June, June, July, somewhere right in

00:03:22.400 there of 2019, uh, my wife and I had made the decision over thinking about it for months and

00:03:30.020 months and months about moving from Southern Utah to Maine. And in June, July of 2019, we decided to

00:03:37.080 pull the trigger and we moved our family out here. And when I say our family, I'm talking about my

00:03:40.940 wife, myself, and then our four children and our, our two dogs. Uh, we moved ourselves out here and

00:03:46.720 guys, I fully at the time anticipated and expected that we would live out here for two or three or four

00:03:53.280 years tops. Uh, and then moved back to Utah with some cool experiences with, uh, an opportunity to get

00:04:01.980 closer to each other. Uh, but I am amazed at how quickly Maine became home for us. Uh, I love it. You

00:04:11.160 know, my wife loves it here. My children love it here. And we've had an incredible time. We've gotten

00:04:15.860 closer together. Uh, we've taken some risks and gone on some adventures and we've done some amazing

00:04:21.640 things. And it got me thinking as I drove home last night from being out of state for about a week,

00:04:27.040 what other opportunities I've missed, what other chances that, you know, I could have taken,

00:04:34.720 but I let fear dictate that. Or, um, I let my, my rationality, maybe even being overly rational at

00:04:43.220 times, uh, keep myself from doing these big things. You know, I've talked with so many people who have

00:04:48.280 said to me, Ryan, you know, I w I wish I could move. I wish I could do that. I wish I could,

00:04:52.220 uh, leave and go to this other place. And, but usually what they say when they, when they say

00:04:58.440 that is, well, you know, but I've got responsibilities, I've got obligations, I've got

00:05:02.040 friends, I've got this, I've got that. Well, dude, I had that same stuff. You know, I had a job

00:05:07.060 at obligations. I had responsibilities. I had to pull my kids from school. Uh, we had to find

00:05:13.240 renters for our home. Uh, we had to leave friends. Like we had to do all that stuff too.

00:05:18.280 You aren't the only one who has those things. And if you think you are, then, uh, that's just a

00:05:22.800 little bit of a little bit of arrogance, believing that, you know, your situation is different guys.

00:05:27.720 Your situation is no different than mine. There might be nuances to our situation, but generally

00:05:31.760 speaking, we're all the same. You know, we all have obligations and responsibilities, but you know

00:05:36.840 what? I decided to make this shift years ago from this, what if mentality and how many of you

00:05:41.700 have said, what if, you know, what if I chased that job? What if I went on that adventure? What

00:05:47.280 if I went on that hunt? What if I tried this new hobby or this interest or activity? And then it's

00:05:52.820 immediately met with, well, I have this and I have that, and I have a job and I have responsibilities

00:05:58.660 and I have bills. And what about my kids? And what if this, and what if that I'm telling you right

00:06:05.340 now, just based on my last couple of years of experience and shifting from that, what if

00:06:09.380 mentality to the let's find out mentality, guys, life is short. I was walking around the field

00:06:16.220 with my son. Uh, this was last year. And I vividly remember this as walking with him. And it was so,

00:06:22.360 it was so real at the time. And I just thought, you know, at 39 years old last year, 40 years old

00:06:28.200 this year, uh, I'm getting older and time is going faster. And I, I'm, if I lived a life expectancy,

00:06:37.300 I'm halfway through my life, maybe, maybe even a little bit more than halfway through my life at

00:06:41.880 this point. And I'll be damned. If I'm going to spend my life, the rest of my life thinking about

00:06:48.020 what had could have been, what opportunities could have presented themselves, what, what,

00:06:52.860 what incredible things could have taken place. Had I only taken a shot. And I got thinking about this

00:06:59.140 a little bit too, on our hunt, you know, we, we hunt with a bunch of guys and I've been hunting

00:07:02.820 there at this place in Minnesota for the past four years. And there's shots that I've taken that I've

00:07:08.920 missed. Uh, there's shots that I think I should have looking back taken that I didn't. And this,

00:07:16.540 what if scenario plays in my mind and it's, it's horrible. I hate it. I despise it. I don't want to

00:07:25.240 know. What if I don't want to think about what if, what I want to know is let's find out,

00:07:32.820 let's throw all the chips on the table. Let's take a rip and let's actually find out if moving

00:07:39.560 across the country or taking that new job or asking that woman on a date or doing any number

00:07:45.180 of things that you guys think about on a daily basis, let's find out if it's going to play out

00:07:49.680 guys, you aren't performing brain surgery. You know, if you decide to move across the country,

00:07:54.740 because you have the inclination to do so and your wife's on board and, and you can make it work.

00:07:59.680 Like, why wouldn't you find out what's the worst that can happen? You're miserable for a couple

00:08:05.060 of years. You decide you don't like it. And so you move back. Damn. That's worst case scenario.

00:08:12.880 And some of you guys are playing so small in life and you're playing not to lose that you

00:08:18.400 aren't willing to throw it all on the table and let it ride. And you know, what is the upside of doing

00:08:23.120 that? That you create meaning and significance in your life, that you develop deeper and closer

00:08:29.260 relationships with your family, that you gain new friends, that you have new experiences that you

00:08:35.740 learn more than you ever could have in your stagnant, stale state. That's the upside. And the downside is

00:08:41.400 you don't like it. And so you move home guys. Look, this is look, I'm not going to say it this way,

00:08:47.700 but well, I will say it this way. And so it's a cost benefit analysis.

00:08:55.120 And I'm actually talking kind of about emotion right now, but if you want to just take the

00:08:59.120 emotional side of things and say, let's look at the cost benefit analysis, you know, the cost,

00:09:03.680 the downside risk of uprooting your family and moving across the country is relatively low in the

00:09:10.340 grand scheme of things. It is, you're going to be out, you know, some money, some time,

00:09:16.280 some, some headaches, some heartache, maybe, but what's the upside potential, man, unlimited.

00:09:27.100 What new experiences are you going to have? What new friendships are you going to develop?

00:09:31.000 What new hobbies and skillsets are you going to learn? It's incalculable. And all you guys are

00:09:38.240 playing it safe thinking, well, you know, I have an obligation and I have a family and I have

00:09:42.900 responsibilities and I have this and I have that. Dude, do you know how many people are hiring across

00:09:47.500 this country? You know, some of you are really worried about a job. You could go get a job this

00:09:52.980 afternoon if you needed to. There's what, eight to 10 million jobs open right now. And you're like,

00:09:59.160 well, what if I can't find a job? Instead of that, what, think about this. What if you live your life

00:10:06.140 in mediocrity? And then you're sitting there on your deathbed and you're about to die.

00:10:10.160 And what are you thinking about? Not all the things that you did, but all the things that you

00:10:13.760 wish you could have done. And all you guys are scared and afraid, just like everybody, just like

00:10:20.500 me, man, I had reservations. I remember the first week we moved here. I was like, I remember vividly

00:10:25.860 my wife and I were walking in that main field of ours and we were talking and I said, hon,

00:10:32.400 did we make the right decision? And she said, I don't know. She was just as nervous, just as scared,

00:10:38.200 but we didn't retreat. We didn't withdraw. We didn't hide and cower in fear. We doubled down

00:10:45.480 and we decided to embed ourselves in the community. And we decided to meet people. We decided to go to

00:10:54.540 church. We decided to get involved in activities. We decided to go to the gym. We decided to get our

00:11:00.020 kids involved in sports. We decided to learn new hobbies and skills and things that weren't

00:11:04.760 available to us before. And you know how quickly that doubt and hesitation and fear dissipated

00:11:12.520 almost instantaneously because we didn't let that bullshit get in the way of us going out and doing

00:11:19.840 something great with our lives. And some of you guys are playing in mediocrity. You're complacent.

00:11:24.980 You're conforming. You're mediocre. You're average. You know, you're destined for more.

00:11:31.080 How many of you feel that way? Honestly, answer that question because I've had countless conversations

00:11:36.920 with family members and friends about being destined for more. Well, destiny only comes to

00:11:42.880 those who are willing to act upon it. Nothing's going to happen to you. You have to go act upon the world.

00:11:49.540 You have to assert yourself. You have to stake your claim. I mean, imagine that for a second.

00:11:56.240 Your pioneer ancestors literally traveled from the East Coast to the West Coast. And they said,

00:12:01.980 I'm going to stake my claim right here. And they put a stake or a rock in the ground.

00:12:06.720 And then they went and chopped down trees. And then they built a cabin. And then they brought in

00:12:11.820 livestock. And then they planted a seed that turned into a garden to feed their family.

00:12:17.040 And they enlisted other people, community members to come in. And they built cities.

00:12:23.300 They built communities first, which turned into towns, which turned into cities,

00:12:27.260 which turned into what you see in this country. And those people have balls. Do you?

00:12:34.100 Do you have the balls to do it? Or is it, I'm nervous. I'm afraid. I'm scared.

00:12:43.120 What if things happen? Yeah, things will happen. Good things and some negative things that you learn

00:12:51.080 from and grow from and become better. I'm so tired of the mediocrity and the conformity and the

00:12:59.940 complacency and the loser bullshit that so many men who are following quote unquote order of man

00:13:06.500 are ascribing to. Are you a man? What did your ancestors do? They left the safety and the warmth

00:13:16.840 of the cave and they went out to kill the woolly mammoth, the saber tooth tiger, because that was

00:13:22.480 their job and the responsibility. And every day they went out, they risked death, literal death.

00:13:28.500 All I'm asking you to do is to go to the gym tonight, to pursue jujitsu, to make a move across

00:13:38.200 the country, to drive your nice brand new vehicle that has climate control in it. We'll get you

00:13:45.760 somewhere in four hours, what it took maybe 40 days to do 150 years ago. And you're telling me it's

00:13:53.960 hard. It's not hard guys. Hard is relative. You've made it too easy on yourself. And now you're playing

00:14:02.100 not to lose, right? You're ahead on the scoreboard, seven points, 14 points. And you think, man,

00:14:09.120 I just got to maintain this lead. And so what do you do? You do the dumb shit that isn't going to help

00:14:15.820 you win that didn't get you to that point. It will actually create a loss for you.

00:14:23.960 So I want you to shift your mindset. And I hope this podcast fires you up enough to do it

00:14:29.940 from, well, what if all this bad stuff happens? Some of it will, and you'll learn and you'll grow

00:14:38.440 and you'll adapt and you'll get better. Shift from the what if mindset to the let's find out.

00:14:45.840 Let's put it to the test. Let's really see how far I can take this. Let's put it all on the table and

00:14:54.560 let it ride. That's the mentality of winners. What if is the mentality of losers?

00:15:04.460 So if you're thinking to yourself, well, Ryan, I haven't ever been successful in life and I don't

00:15:10.220 know what I'm... Yes, that's a loser mentality. And some of you are going to be upset about that.

00:15:14.800 And some of you are going to be offended by that. And some of you, that's going to sting to your core

00:15:18.600 and it's going to hurt your heart. And it should. Because you don't want to be a loser.

00:15:25.400 You want to be a winner. So what do winners do? They put it all on the line.

00:15:31.260 They develop the skillset. They don't make stupid decisions, of course, but they pull it all on the

00:15:36.400 line. They develop that skillset. They hone their craft. They get better. They look for inefficiencies

00:15:42.980 and deficiencies in their life. And they shore those areas up and they acquire the assets and

00:15:46.940 they acquire this skillset. And then they go out and they act and they do big things.

00:15:53.960 How many of you guys are wishing that you were like Joe Rogan or Elon Musk or Jordan Peterson,

00:16:02.180 or maybe even me. Oh man, I wish I had that. You can have it. But you got to shift from the

00:16:11.840 what if mentality to the let's find out. Men are designed to take calculated risks,

00:16:21.520 even more so than women. We are uniquely hardwired to go out and risk in order to provide for ourselves

00:16:32.060 and the people that we care about. And I want you to take more risks. I want you to put it all on the

00:16:38.980 line. I want you to put your nuts on the chopping block. And I want you to get after it. Because

00:16:44.880 what I think you'll find is that there's a world of opportunity and availability and growth and

00:16:54.000 learning and prosperity and fulfillment. And all of that is hiding on the other side of the hill

00:16:59.380 that you're not willing to look at because you're afraid and you're scared. And I get it. I

00:17:05.320 understand. But get over yourself and make some moves. All right, guys. That's all I've got. I'm

00:17:11.680 going to go spend some time with my family today. I've been gone for a week. I can hear my kids playing

00:17:15.280 in the background. Maybe you can too. I'm going to go do Legos and my son's out on the trail camera

00:17:20.100 putting cards in the trail cams. He does that stuff way more than I do. But these are the experiences

00:17:27.820 and the memories that we've been able to create over the past two and a half years because I

00:17:30.940 decided to move from, well, what if this goes wrong? And what if that goes wrong too? Let's find out.

00:17:37.760 And I've been pleasantly surprised with the outcome. All right, guys. We'll be back next week. Until

00:17:43.760 then, go out there, take action, move to that. Let's find out mentality and become the man you are meant

00:17:50.740 to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:17:55.620 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

Develop the "Let's Find Out" Mentality ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

Episode Stats

Misogynist Sentences

Hate Speech Sentences

Summary

Transcript