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Develop the "Let's Find Out" Mentality ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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In this episode, Ryan talks about why he and his family moved from Utah to Maine and why they chose to make the move. He also talks about the mindset shift that went into making the decision to move to Maine.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.160 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.700 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.
00:00:27.820 I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here and welcome
00:00:31.860 back. And speaking of being back, I am back. I've been out of town for about a week. I was hunting
00:00:38.800 in Minnesota on a hunt that I go on every year for the past four years now. And finally, finally,
00:00:46.660 I was able to put down a big, mature buck. You guys can go check that out at my Instagram account
00:00:53.740 at Ryan Michler and see, uh, had a great experience out there on the hunt, had a great experience with
00:00:59.160 good friends I've known for years and years. And, uh, it's always good to be surrounded by
00:01:03.640 the brotherhood and the camaraderie and the accountability and the Jack and John, everything
00:01:07.680 else that goes on at hunt camp. So I got back late last night, but I wanted to make sure that I got you
00:01:13.100 guys a Friday field notes because at this point we have not missed a single episode, uh, for about
00:01:20.200 six and a half years. So I'm not going to miss one just because I got back late and I'm tired, but I do
00:01:26.140 have a quick message for you today. Some of the things that I've been thinking about as I got back
00:01:30.200 home and I was driving into Portland, Maine, and then driving up, uh, about an hour and a half, two
00:01:36.020 hours North from Portland where I live, uh, how incredible it is to live here in the state. So I wanted
00:01:41.720 to talk with you about why we made this transition in this move here, uh, and then help you shift maybe
00:01:47.000 your mindset from the concept of, uh, what if I think a lot of guys have this, what if mindset,
00:01:54.160 like, Oh, what if I did this? What if I did that? Wouldn't it be nice? Dot, dot, dot, uh, to let's
00:02:00.180 find out the let's find out mentality. So I'm going to explain that in a minute. Uh, before I do, let me
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00:03:12.600 All right, guys, let's talk about this mentality shift. So in June, June, July, somewhere right in
00:03:22.400 there of 2019, uh, my wife and I had made the decision over thinking about it for months and
00:03:30.020 months and months about moving from Southern Utah to Maine. And in June, July of 2019, we decided to
00:03:37.080 pull the trigger and we moved our family out here. And when I say our family, I'm talking about my
00:03:40.940 wife, myself, and then our four children and our, our two dogs. Uh, we moved ourselves out here and
00:03:46.720 guys, I fully at the time anticipated and expected that we would live out here for two or three or four
00:03:53.280 years tops. Uh, and then moved back to Utah with some cool experiences with, uh, an opportunity to get
00:04:01.980 closer to each other. Uh, but I am amazed at how quickly Maine became home for us. Uh, I love it. You
00:04:11.160 know, my wife loves it here. My children love it here. And we've had an incredible time. We've gotten
00:04:15.860 closer together. Uh, we've taken some risks and gone on some adventures and we've done some amazing
00:04:21.640 things. And it got me thinking as I drove home last night from being out of state for about a week,
00:04:27.040 what other opportunities I've missed, what other chances that, you know, I could have taken,
00:04:34.720 but I let fear dictate that. Or, um, I let my, my rationality, maybe even being overly rational at
00:04:43.220 times, uh, keep myself from doing these big things. You know, I've talked with so many people who have
00:04:48.280 said to me, Ryan, you know, I w I wish I could move. I wish I could do that. I wish I could,
00:04:52.220 uh, leave and go to this other place. And, but usually what they say when they, when they say
00:04:58.440 that is, well, you know, but I've got responsibilities, I've got obligations, I've got
00:05:02.040 friends, I've got this, I've got that. Well, dude, I had that same stuff. You know, I had a job
00:05:07.060 at obligations. I had responsibilities. I had to pull my kids from school. Uh, we had to find
00:05:13.240 renters for our home. Uh, we had to leave friends. Like we had to do all that stuff too.
00:05:18.280 You aren't the only one who has those things. And if you think you are, then, uh, that's just a
00:05:22.800 little bit of a little bit of arrogance, believing that, you know, your situation is different guys.
00:05:27.720 Your situation is no different than mine. There might be nuances to our situation, but generally
00:05:31.760 speaking, we're all the same. You know, we all have obligations and responsibilities, but you know
00:05:36.840 what? I decided to make this shift years ago from this, what if mentality and how many of you
00:05:41.700 have said, what if, you know, what if I chased that job? What if I went on that adventure? What
00:05:47.280 if I went on that hunt? What if I tried this new hobby or this interest or activity? And then it's
00:05:52.820 immediately met with, well, I have this and I have that, and I have a job and I have responsibilities
00:05:58.660 and I have bills. And what about my kids? And what if this, and what if that I'm telling you right
00:06:05.340 now, just based on my last couple of years of experience and shifting from that, what if
00:06:09.380 mentality to the let's find out mentality, guys, life is short. I was walking around the field
00:06:16.220 with my son. Uh, this was last year. And I vividly remember this as walking with him. And it was so,
00:06:22.360 it was so real at the time. And I just thought, you know, at 39 years old last year, 40 years old
00:06:28.200 this year, uh, I'm getting older and time is going faster. And I, I'm, if I lived a life expectancy,
00:06:37.300 I'm halfway through my life, maybe, maybe even a little bit more than halfway through my life at
00:06:41.880 this point. And I'll be damned. If I'm going to spend my life, the rest of my life thinking about
00:06:48.020 what had could have been, what opportunities could have presented themselves, what, what,
00:06:52.860 what incredible things could have taken place. Had I only taken a shot. And I got thinking about this
00:06:59.140 a little bit too, on our hunt, you know, we, we hunt with a bunch of guys and I've been hunting
00:07:02.820 there at this place in Minnesota for the past four years. And there's shots that I've taken that I've
00:07:08.920 missed. Uh, there's shots that I think I should have looking back taken that I didn't. And this,
00:07:16.540 what if scenario plays in my mind and it's, it's horrible. I hate it. I despise it. I don't want to
00:07:25.240 know. What if I don't want to think about what if, what I want to know is let's find out,
00:07:32.820 let's throw all the chips on the table. Let's take a rip and let's actually find out if moving
00:07:39.560 across the country or taking that new job or asking that woman on a date or doing any number
00:07:45.180 of things that you guys think about on a daily basis, let's find out if it's going to play out
00:07:49.680 guys, you aren't performing brain surgery. You know, if you decide to move across the country,
00:07:54.740 because you have the inclination to do so and your wife's on board and, and you can make it work.
00:07:59.680 Like, why wouldn't you find out what's the worst that can happen? You're miserable for a couple
00:08:05.060 of years. You decide you don't like it. And so you move back. Damn. That's worst case scenario.
00:08:12.880 And some of you guys are playing so small in life and you're playing not to lose that you
00:08:18.400 aren't willing to throw it all on the table and let it ride. And you know, what is the upside of doing
00:08:23.120 that? That you create meaning and significance in your life, that you develop deeper and closer
00:08:29.260 relationships with your family, that you gain new friends, that you have new experiences that you
00:08:35.740 learn more than you ever could have in your stagnant, stale state. That's the upside. And the downside is
00:08:41.400 you don't like it. And so you move home guys. Look, this is look, I'm not going to say it this way,
00:08:47.700 but well, I will say it this way. And so it's a cost benefit analysis.
00:08:55.120 And I'm actually talking kind of about emotion right now, but if you want to just take the
00:08:59.120 emotional side of things and say, let's look at the cost benefit analysis, you know, the cost,
00:09:03.680 the downside risk of uprooting your family and moving across the country is relatively low in the
00:09:10.340 grand scheme of things. It is, you're going to be out, you know, some money, some time,
00:09:16.280 some, some headaches, some heartache, maybe, but what's the upside potential, man, unlimited.
00:09:27.100 What new experiences are you going to have? What new friendships are you going to develop?
00:09:31.000 What new hobbies and skillsets are you going to learn? It's incalculable. And all you guys are
00:09:38.240 playing it safe thinking, well, you know, I have an obligation and I have a family and I have
00:09:42.900 responsibilities and I have this and I have that. Dude, do you know how many people are hiring across
00:09:47.500 this country? You know, some of you are really worried about a job. You could go get a job this
00:09:52.980 afternoon if you needed to. There's what, eight to 10 million jobs open right now. And you're like,
00:09:59.160 well, what if I can't find a job? Instead of that, what, think about this. What if you live your life
00:10:06.140 in mediocrity? And then you're sitting there on your deathbed and you're about to die.
00:10:10.160 And what are you thinking about? Not all the things that you did, but all the things that you
00:10:13.760 wish you could have done. And all you guys are scared and afraid, just like everybody, just like
00:10:20.500 me, man, I had reservations. I remember the first week we moved here. I was like, I remember vividly
00:10:25.860 my wife and I were walking in that main field of ours and we were talking and I said, hon,
00:10:32.400 did we make the right decision? And she said, I don't know. She was just as nervous, just as scared,
00:10:38.200 but we didn't retreat. We didn't withdraw. We didn't hide and cower in fear. We doubled down
00:10:45.480 and we decided to embed ourselves in the community. And we decided to meet people. We decided to go to
00:10:54.540 church. We decided to get involved in activities. We decided to go to the gym. We decided to get our
00:11:00.020 kids involved in sports. We decided to learn new hobbies and skills and things that weren't
00:11:04.760 available to us before. And you know how quickly that doubt and hesitation and fear dissipated
00:11:12.520 almost instantaneously because we didn't let that bullshit get in the way of us going out and doing
00:11:19.840 something great with our lives. And some of you guys are playing in mediocrity. You're complacent.
00:11:24.980 You're conforming. You're mediocre. You're average. You know, you're destined for more.
00:11:31.080 How many of you feel that way? Honestly, answer that question because I've had countless conversations
00:11:36.920 with family members and friends about being destined for more. Well, destiny only comes to
00:11:42.880 those who are willing to act upon it. Nothing's going to happen to you. You have to go act upon the world.
00:11:49.540 You have to assert yourself. You have to stake your claim. I mean, imagine that for a second.
00:11:56.240 Your pioneer ancestors literally traveled from the East Coast to the West Coast. And they said,
00:12:01.980 I'm going to stake my claim right here. And they put a stake or a rock in the ground.
00:12:06.720 And then they went and chopped down trees. And then they built a cabin. And then they brought in
00:12:11.820 livestock. And then they planted a seed that turned into a garden to feed their family. 0.81
00:12:17.040 And they enlisted other people, community members to come in. And they built cities.
00:12:23.300 They built communities first, which turned into towns, which turned into cities,
00:12:27.260 which turned into what you see in this country. And those people have balls. Do you?
00:12:34.100 Do you have the balls to do it? Or is it, I'm nervous. I'm afraid. I'm scared.
00:12:43.120 What if things happen? Yeah, things will happen. Good things and some negative things that you learn
00:12:51.080 from and grow from and become better. I'm so tired of the mediocrity and the conformity and the
00:12:59.940 complacency and the loser bullshit that so many men who are following quote unquote order of man 0.92
00:13:06.500 are ascribing to. Are you a man? What did your ancestors do? They left the safety and the warmth
00:13:16.840 of the cave and they went out to kill the woolly mammoth, the saber tooth tiger, because that was
00:13:22.480 their job and the responsibility. And every day they went out, they risked death, literal death.
00:13:28.500 All I'm asking you to do is to go to the gym tonight, to pursue jujitsu, to make a move across
00:13:38.200 the country, to drive your nice brand new vehicle that has climate control in it. We'll get you
00:13:45.760 somewhere in four hours, what it took maybe 40 days to do 150 years ago. And you're telling me it's
00:13:53.960 hard. It's not hard guys. Hard is relative. You've made it too easy on yourself. And now you're playing
00:14:02.100 not to lose, right? You're ahead on the scoreboard, seven points, 14 points. And you think, man,
00:14:09.120 I just got to maintain this lead. And so what do you do? You do the dumb shit that isn't going to help
00:14:15.820 you win that didn't get you to that point. It will actually create a loss for you.
00:14:23.960 So I want you to shift your mindset. And I hope this podcast fires you up enough to do it
00:14:29.940 from, well, what if all this bad stuff happens? Some of it will, and you'll learn and you'll grow
00:14:38.440 and you'll adapt and you'll get better. Shift from the what if mindset to the let's find out.
00:14:45.840 Let's put it to the test. Let's really see how far I can take this. Let's put it all on the table and
00:14:54.560 let it ride. That's the mentality of winners. What if is the mentality of losers?
00:15:04.460 So if you're thinking to yourself, well, Ryan, I haven't ever been successful in life and I don't
00:15:10.220 know what I'm... Yes, that's a loser mentality. And some of you are going to be upset about that.
00:15:14.800 And some of you are going to be offended by that. And some of you, that's going to sting to your core
00:15:18.600 and it's going to hurt your heart. And it should. Because you don't want to be a loser.
00:15:25.400 You want to be a winner. So what do winners do? They put it all on the line.
00:15:31.260 They develop the skillset. They don't make stupid decisions, of course, but they pull it all on the
00:15:36.400 line. They develop that skillset. They hone their craft. They get better. They look for inefficiencies
00:15:42.980 and deficiencies in their life. And they shore those areas up and they acquire the assets and
00:15:46.940 they acquire this skillset. And then they go out and they act and they do big things.
00:15:53.960 How many of you guys are wishing that you were like Joe Rogan or Elon Musk or Jordan Peterson,
00:16:02.180 or maybe even me. Oh man, I wish I had that. You can have it. But you got to shift from the
00:16:11.840 what if mentality to the let's find out. Men are designed to take calculated risks,
00:16:21.520 even more so than women. We are uniquely hardwired to go out and risk in order to provide for ourselves
00:16:32.060 and the people that we care about. And I want you to take more risks. I want you to put it all on the
00:16:38.980 line. I want you to put your nuts on the chopping block. And I want you to get after it. Because 1.00
00:16:44.880 what I think you'll find is that there's a world of opportunity and availability and growth and
00:16:54.000 learning and prosperity and fulfillment. And all of that is hiding on the other side of the hill
00:16:59.380 that you're not willing to look at because you're afraid and you're scared. And I get it. I
00:17:05.320 understand. But get over yourself and make some moves. All right, guys. That's all I've got. I'm
00:17:11.680 going to go spend some time with my family today. I've been gone for a week. I can hear my kids playing
00:17:15.280 in the background. Maybe you can too. I'm going to go do Legos and my son's out on the trail camera
00:17:20.100 putting cards in the trail cams. He does that stuff way more than I do. But these are the experiences
00:17:27.820 and the memories that we've been able to create over the past two and a half years because I
00:17:30.940 decided to move from, well, what if this goes wrong? And what if that goes wrong too? Let's find out.
00:17:37.760 And I've been pleasantly surprised with the outcome. All right, guys. We'll be back next week. Until
00:17:43.760 then, go out there, take action, move to that. Let's find out mentality and become the man you are meant
00:17:50.740 to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life
00:17:55.620 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.