Order of Man

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.500 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.820 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is

00:00:27.220 Ryan Mickler. I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here and

00:00:31.800 welcome back. And speaking of being back, I am back. I've been out of town for about a week. I

00:00:38.520 was hunting in Minnesota on a hunt that I go on every year for the past four years now. And finally,

00:00:46.540 finally, I was able to put down a big mature buck. You guys can go check that out at my Instagram

00:00:53.300 account at Ryan Mickler and see. I had a great experience out there on the hunt. Had a great

00:00:58.780 experience with good friends I've known for years and years. And it's always good to be surrounded by

00:01:03.820 the brotherhood and the camaraderie and the accountability and the jack and jaw and everything

00:01:07.880 else that goes on at hunt camp. So, I got back late last night, but I wanted to make sure that I

00:01:12.900 got you guys a Friday field notes because at this point, we have not missed a single episode

00:01:18.260 for about six and a half years. So, I'm not going to miss one just because I got back late and I'm

00:01:25.660 tired. But I do have a quick message for you today. Some of the things that I've been thinking

00:01:29.320 about as I got back home and I was driving into Portland, Maine, and then driving up about an hour

00:01:35.660 and a half, two hours north from Portland where I live, how incredible it is to live here in the

00:01:41.100 state. So, I wanted to talk with you about why we made this transition and this move here

00:01:45.060 and then help you shift maybe your mindset from the concept of what if. I think a lot of guys have

00:01:53.060 this what if mindset like, oh, what if I did this? What if I did that? Wouldn't it be nice? Dot,

00:01:57.880 dot, dot. To let's find out, the let's find out mentality. So, I'm going to explain that in a

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00:03:21.160 June, July, somewhere right in there of 2019, my wife and I had made the decision over thinking about

00:03:29.420 it for months and months and months about moving from Southern Utah to Maine. And in June, July of

00:03:35.280 2019, we decided to pull the trigger and we moved our family out here. And when I say our family,

00:03:40.520 I'm talking about my wife, myself, and then our four children and our two dogs. We moved ourselves

00:03:45.520 out here. And guys, I fully at the time anticipated and expected that we would live out here for two or

00:03:52.900 three or four years tops. And then moved back to Utah with some cool experiences, with an opportunity

00:04:01.240 to get closer to each other. But I am amazed at how quickly Maine became home for us. I love it here.

00:04:11.240 You know, my wife loves it here. My children love it here. And we've had an incredible time. We've gotten

00:04:16.040 closer together. We've taken some risks and gone on some adventures and we've done some amazing things.

00:04:22.280 And it got me thinking as I drove home last night from being out of state for about a week,

00:04:27.820 what other opportunities I've missed? What other chances that, you know, I could have taken, but I let

00:04:35.520 fear dictate that, or I let my rationality, maybe even being overly rational at times, keep myself from

00:04:45.480 doing these big things. You know, I've talked with so many people who have said to me, Ryan, you know, I wish I

00:04:50.580 could move. I wish I could do that. I wish I could leave and go to this other place. And, but usually

00:04:56.840 what they say when they, when they say that is, well, you know, but I've got responsibilities,

00:05:00.820 I've got obligations, I've got friends, I've got this, I've got that. Well, dude, I had that same

00:05:05.040 stuff. You know, I had a job at obligations. I had responsibilities. I had to pull my kids from

00:05:11.200 school. We had to find renters for our home. We had to leave friends. Like we had to do all that

00:05:17.680 stuff too. You aren't the only one who has those things. And if you think you are, then that's just

00:05:22.840 a little bit of a little bit of arrogance, believing that, you know, your situation is

00:05:27.240 different guys. Your situation is no different than mine. There might be nuances to our situation,

00:05:31.420 but generally speaking, we're all the same. You know, we all have obligations and responsibilities,

00:05:36.360 but you know what? I decided to make this shift years ago from this, what if mentality and how many of

00:05:41.640 you have said, what if, you know, what if I chased that job? What if I went on that adventure? What if

00:05:47.580 I went on that hunt? What if I tried this new hobby or this interest or activity? And then it's

00:05:53.000 immediately met with, well, I have this and I have that, and I have a job and I have responsibilities

00:05:58.840 and I have bills. And what about my kids? And what if this, what if that? I'm telling you right now,

00:06:05.840 just based on my last couple of years of experience and shifting from that, what if mentality to

00:06:10.480 the let's find out mentality? Guys, life is short. I was walking around the field with my son.

00:06:17.520 This was last year. And I vividly remember this as walking with him. And it was so,

00:06:22.280 it was so real at the time. And I just thought, you know, at 39 years old last year, 40 years old

00:06:28.380 this year, I'm getting older and time is going faster. And I I'm, if I lived a life expectancy,

00:06:37.480 I'm halfway through my life, maybe, maybe even a little bit more than halfway through my life at

00:06:42.060 this point. And I'll be damned if I'm going to spend my life, the rest of my life thinking about

00:06:48.200 what could have been, what opportunities could have presented themselves, what, what, what incredible

00:06:53.620 things could have taken place. Had I only taken a shot. And I got thinking about this a little bit

00:06:59.680 on our hunt. You know, we, we hunt with a bunch of guys and I've been hunting there at this place

00:07:03.740 in Minnesota for the past four years. And there's shots that I've taken that I've missed. Uh, there's

00:07:10.600 shots that I think I should have looking back taken that I didn't. And this, what if scenario plays in

00:07:18.200 my mind and it's, it's horrible, I hate it. I despise it. I don't want to know. What if I don't

00:07:27.000 want to think about what if, what I want to know is let's find out, let's throw all the chips on the

00:07:34.740 table. Let's take a rip and let's actually find out if moving across the country or taking that new job

00:07:42.340 or asking that woman on a date or doing any number of things that you guys think about on a daily basis,

00:07:47.760 let's find out if it's going to play out guys. You weren't performing brain surgery. You know,

00:07:53.520 if you decide to move across the country because you have the inclination to do so

00:07:56.800 and your wife's on board and, and you can make it work, like, why wouldn't you find out what's

00:08:02.340 the worst that can happen? You're miserable for a couple of years. You decide you don't like it.

00:08:06.980 And so you move back. Damn. That's worst case scenario. And some of you guys are playing so small

00:08:15.740 in life and you're playing not to lose that you weren't willing to throw it all on the table

00:08:20.260 and let it ride. And you know, what is the upside of doing that?

00:08:24.800 That you create meaning and significance in your life, that you develop deeper and closer

00:08:29.440 relationships with your family, that you gain new friends, that you have new experiences,

00:08:35.520 that you learn more than you ever could have in your stagnant, stale state. That's the upside.

00:08:40.300 Right. And the downside is you don't like it. And so you move home. Guys, look, this is, look,

00:08:46.680 I'm not going to say it this way, but well, I will say it this way. And so it's a cost benefit analysis.

00:08:55.320 And I'm actually talking kind of about emotion right now, but if you want to just take the

00:08:59.300 emotional side of things and say, let's look at the cost benefit analysis, you know, the cost,

00:09:03.760 the downside risk of uprooting your family and moving across the country is relatively low in

00:09:10.400 the grand scheme of things. It is, you're going to be out, you know, some money, some time,

00:09:17.040 some, some headaches, some heartache, maybe, but what's the upside potential, man, unlimited.

00:09:27.280 What new experiences are you going to have? What new friendships are you going to develop?

00:09:30.660 What new hobbies and skillsets are you going to learn? It's incalculable. And all you guys are

00:09:38.420 playing it safe thinking, well, you know, I have an obligation and I have a family and I have

00:09:43.080 responsibilities and I have this and I have that. Dude, you know how many people are hiring across

00:09:47.680 this country? You know, some of you are really worried about a job. You could go get a job this

00:09:53.160 afternoon if you needed to. There's what, eight to 10 million jobs open right now. And you're like,

00:09:59.280 well, what if I can't find a job? Instead of that, what, think about this. What if you live

00:10:05.960 your life in mediocrity and then you're sitting there on your deathbed and you're about to die?

00:10:10.280 And what are you thinking about? Not all the things that you did, but all the things that you wish you

00:10:14.280 could have done. And all you guys are scared and afraid, just like everybody, just like me,

00:10:21.080 man, I had reservations. I remember the first week we moved here. I was like,

00:10:24.240 I remember vividly, my wife and I were walking in that main field of ours and we were talking

00:10:30.920 and I said, hon, did we make the right decision? And she said, I don't know. She was just as nervous,

00:10:37.640 just as scared. But we didn't retreat. We didn't withdraw. We didn't hide and cower in fear. We

00:10:44.820 doubled down. And we decided to embed ourselves in the community. And we decided to meet people.

00:10:53.880 We decided to go to church. We decided to get involved in activities. We decided to go to the

00:10:58.540 gym. We decided to get our kids involved in sports. We decided to learn new hobbies and skills and

00:11:04.100 things that weren't available to us before. And you know how quickly that doubt and hesitation

00:11:10.980 and fear dissipated almost instantaneously because we didn't let that bullshit get in the way

00:11:18.280 of us going out and doing something great with our lives.

00:11:21.360 Some of you guys are playing in mediocrity. You're complacent. You're conforming. You're

00:11:27.180 mediocre. You're average. You know you're destined for more. How many of you feel that way? Honestly,

00:11:33.800 answer that question because I've had countless conversations with family members and friends

00:11:38.980 about being destined for more. Well, destiny only comes to those who are willing to act upon it.

00:11:44.560 Nothing's going to happen to you. You have to go act upon the world. You have to assert yourself.

00:11:51.900 You have to stake your claim. I mean, imagine that for a second.

00:11:56.420 Your pioneer ancestors literally traveled from the East Coast to the West Coast. And they said,

00:12:02.160 I'm going to stake my claim right here. And they put a stake or a rock in the ground. And then they went

00:12:07.560 and chopped down trees. And then they built a cabin. And then they brought in livestock. And then they

00:12:13.320 planted a seed that turned into a garden to feed their family. And they enlisted other people,

00:12:20.160 community members to come in. And they built cities. They built communities first, which turned

00:12:25.760 into towns, which turned into cities, which turned into what you see in this country. And those people

00:12:30.460 have balls. Do you? Do you have the balls to do it? Or is it, I'm nervous? I'm afraid. I'm scared.

00:12:43.880 What if things happen? Yeah, things will happen. Good things and some negative things that you learn

00:12:51.240 from and grow from and become better. I'm so tired of the mediocrity and the conformity and the

00:13:00.120 complacency and the loser bullshit that so many men who are following quote unquote order of man

00:13:06.680 are ascribing to. Are you a man? What did your ancestors do? They left the safety and the warmth

00:13:17.020 of the cave and they went out to kill the woolly mammoth, the saber tooth tiger, because that was

00:13:22.660 their job and the responsibility. And every day they went out, they risked death, literal death.

00:13:28.680 And all I'm asking you to do is to go to the gym tonight, to pursue jujitsu,

00:13:35.740 to make a move across the country, to drive your nice brand new vehicle that has climate control in

00:13:44.760 it. We'll get you somewhere in four hours, what it took maybe 40 days to do 150 years ago.

00:13:52.220 And you're telling me it's hard. It's not hard guys. Hard is relative. You've made it too easy

00:13:59.980 on yourself and now you're playing not to lose, right? You're ahead on the scoreboard, seven points,

00:14:07.420 14 points. And you think, man, I just got to maintain this lead. And so what do you do? You do

00:14:12.480 the dumb shit that isn't going to help you win, that didn't get you to that point. It will actually

00:14:20.320 create a loss for you. So I want you to shift your mindset. And I hope this podcast fires you up enough

00:14:29.620 to do it from, well, what if all this bad stuff happens? Some of it will, and you'll learn and

00:14:38.160 you'll grow and you'll adapt and you'll get better. Shift from the what if mindset to the let's find

00:14:45.200 out. Let's put it to the test. Let's really see how far I can take this. Let's put it all on the

00:14:54.240 table and let it ride. That's the mentality of winners. What if is the mentality of losers?

00:15:01.640 So if you're thinking to yourself, well, Ryan, I, you know, I, I haven't ever been successful in

00:15:09.540 life and I, I don't know what I'm, yes, that's a loser mentality. And some of you are going to be

00:15:14.060 upset about that. And some of you are going to be offended by that. And some of you, that's going

00:15:17.780 to sting to your core and it's going to hurt your heart. And it should, because you don't want to be

00:15:24.320 a loser. You want to be a winner. So what do winners do? They put it all on the line.

00:15:31.640 They develop the skillset. They don't make stupid decisions, of course, but they pull it all on the

00:15:36.580 line. They develop that skillset. They hone their, their, their craft. They get better. They look for

00:15:42.200 inefficiencies and deficiencies in their life. And they shore those areas up and they acquire the

00:15:46.540 assets and they acquire this skillset. And then they go out and they act and they do big things.

00:15:51.400 How many of you guys are wishing that you were like Joe Rogan or Elon Musk or Jordan Peterson,

00:16:02.360 or maybe even me. Oh man, I wish I had that. You can have it, but you got to shift from the

00:16:12.020 what if mentality to the let's find out. Men are designed to take calculated risks,

00:16:21.680 even more so than women. We are uniquely hardwired to go out and risk in order to provide for ourselves

00:16:32.240 and the people that we care about. And I want you to take more risks.

00:16:36.440 I want you to put it all on the line. I want you to put your nuts on the chopping block and I want you

00:16:43.880 to get after it because of what I think you'll find is that there's a world of opportunity

00:16:50.620 and availability and growth and learning and prosperity and fulfillment. And all of that is

00:16:57.940 hiding on the other side of the hill that you're not willing to look at because you're afraid and

00:17:03.640 you're scared. And I get it. I understand. Get over yourself and make some moves. All right,

00:17:10.220 guys. That's all I've got. I'm going to go spend some time with my family today. I've been gone for

00:17:13.740 a week. I can hear my kids playing in the background. Maybe you can too. I'm going to go

00:17:17.640 do Legos and my son's out on the trail camera, putting cards in the, in the trail cams. He does

00:17:23.340 that stuff way more than I do. Um, but these are the experiences and the memories that we've been

00:17:29.020 able to create over the past two and a half years, because I decided to move from, well,

00:17:32.460 what if this goes wrong? And what if that goes wrong too? Let's find out. And I've been pleasantly

00:17:39.520 surprised with the outcome. All right, guys, we'll be back next week until then go out there,

00:17:45.520 take action, move to that. Let's find out mentality and become the man. You are meant to be.

00:17:51.580 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:17:55.960 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.

00:18:02.460 Thank you.

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