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Develop the "Let's Find Out" Mentality ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES [REPLAY]


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In this episode, Ryan talks about why he and his wife decided to move their family from Utah to Maine and why they chose to make the move. He also talks about the benefits of making the move and why you should do the same.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.500 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.820 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is
00:00:27.220 Ryan Mickler. I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here and
00:00:31.800 welcome back. And speaking of being back, I am back. I've been out of town for about a week. I
00:00:38.520 was hunting in Minnesota on a hunt that I go on every year for the past four years now. And finally,
00:00:46.540 finally, I was able to put down a big mature buck. You guys can go check that out at my Instagram
00:00:53.300 account at Ryan Mickler and see. I had a great experience out there on the hunt. Had a great
00:00:58.780 experience with good friends I've known for years and years. And it's always good to be surrounded by
00:01:03.820 the brotherhood and the camaraderie and the accountability and the jack and jaw and everything
00:01:07.880 else that goes on at hunt camp. So, I got back late last night, but I wanted to make sure that I
00:01:12.900 got you guys a Friday field notes because at this point, we have not missed a single episode
00:01:18.260 for about six and a half years. So, I'm not going to miss one just because I got back late and I'm
00:01:25.660 tired. But I do have a quick message for you today. Some of the things that I've been thinking
00:01:29.320 about as I got back home and I was driving into Portland, Maine, and then driving up about an hour
00:01:35.660 and a half, two hours north from Portland where I live, how incredible it is to live here in the
00:01:41.100 state. So, I wanted to talk with you about why we made this transition and this move here
00:01:45.060 and then help you shift maybe your mindset from the concept of what if. I think a lot of guys have
00:01:53.060 this what if mindset like, oh, what if I did this? What if I did that? Wouldn't it be nice? Dot,
00:01:57.880 dot, dot. To let's find out, the let's find out mentality. So, I'm going to explain that in a
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00:03:21.160 June, July, somewhere right in there of 2019, my wife and I had made the decision over thinking about
00:03:29.420 it for months and months and months about moving from Southern Utah to Maine. And in June, July of
00:03:35.280 2019, we decided to pull the trigger and we moved our family out here. And when I say our family,
00:03:40.520 I'm talking about my wife, myself, and then our four children and our two dogs. We moved ourselves
00:03:45.520 out here. And guys, I fully at the time anticipated and expected that we would live out here for two or
00:03:52.900 three or four years tops. And then moved back to Utah with some cool experiences, with an opportunity
00:04:01.240 to get closer to each other. But I am amazed at how quickly Maine became home for us. I love it here.
00:04:11.240 You know, my wife loves it here. My children love it here. And we've had an incredible time. We've gotten
00:04:16.040 closer together. We've taken some risks and gone on some adventures and we've done some amazing things.
00:04:22.280 And it got me thinking as I drove home last night from being out of state for about a week,
00:04:27.820 what other opportunities I've missed? What other chances that, you know, I could have taken, but I let
00:04:35.520 fear dictate that, or I let my rationality, maybe even being overly rational at times, keep myself from
00:04:45.480 doing these big things. You know, I've talked with so many people who have said to me, Ryan, you know, I wish I
00:04:50.580 could move. I wish I could do that. I wish I could leave and go to this other place. And, but usually
00:04:56.840 what they say when they, when they say that is, well, you know, but I've got responsibilities,
00:05:00.820 I've got obligations, I've got friends, I've got this, I've got that. Well, dude, I had that same
00:05:05.040 stuff. You know, I had a job at obligations. I had responsibilities. I had to pull my kids from
00:05:11.200 school. We had to find renters for our home. We had to leave friends. Like we had to do all that
00:05:17.680 stuff too. You aren't the only one who has those things. And if you think you are, then that's just
00:05:22.840 a little bit of a little bit of arrogance, believing that, you know, your situation is
00:05:27.240 different guys. Your situation is no different than mine. There might be nuances to our situation,
00:05:31.420 but generally speaking, we're all the same. You know, we all have obligations and responsibilities,
00:05:36.360 but you know what? I decided to make this shift years ago from this, what if mentality and how many of
00:05:41.640 you have said, what if, you know, what if I chased that job? What if I went on that adventure? What if
00:05:47.580 I went on that hunt? What if I tried this new hobby or this interest or activity? And then it's
00:05:53.000 immediately met with, well, I have this and I have that, and I have a job and I have responsibilities
00:05:58.840 and I have bills. And what about my kids? And what if this, what if that? I'm telling you right now,
00:06:05.840 just based on my last couple of years of experience and shifting from that, what if mentality to
00:06:10.480 the let's find out mentality? Guys, life is short. I was walking around the field with my son.
00:06:17.520 This was last year. And I vividly remember this as walking with him. And it was so,
00:06:22.280 it was so real at the time. And I just thought, you know, at 39 years old last year, 40 years old
00:06:28.380 this year, I'm getting older and time is going faster. And I I'm, if I lived a life expectancy,
00:06:37.480 I'm halfway through my life, maybe, maybe even a little bit more than halfway through my life at
00:06:42.060 this point. And I'll be damned if I'm going to spend my life, the rest of my life thinking about
00:06:48.200 what could have been, what opportunities could have presented themselves, what, what, what incredible
00:06:53.620 things could have taken place. Had I only taken a shot. And I got thinking about this a little bit
00:06:59.680 on our hunt. You know, we, we hunt with a bunch of guys and I've been hunting there at this place
00:07:03.740 in Minnesota for the past four years. And there's shots that I've taken that I've missed. Uh, there's
00:07:10.600 shots that I think I should have looking back taken that I didn't. And this, what if scenario plays in
00:07:18.200 my mind and it's, it's horrible, I hate it. I despise it. I don't want to know. What if I don't
00:07:27.000 want to think about what if, what I want to know is let's find out, let's throw all the chips on the
00:07:34.740 table. Let's take a rip and let's actually find out if moving across the country or taking that new job 0.91
00:07:42.340 or asking that woman on a date or doing any number of things that you guys think about on a daily basis,
00:07:47.760 let's find out if it's going to play out guys. You weren't performing brain surgery. You know,
00:07:53.520 if you decide to move across the country because you have the inclination to do so
00:07:56.800 and your wife's on board and, and you can make it work, like, why wouldn't you find out what's
00:08:02.340 the worst that can happen? You're miserable for a couple of years. You decide you don't like it.
00:08:06.980 And so you move back. Damn. That's worst case scenario. And some of you guys are playing so small
00:08:15.740 in life and you're playing not to lose that you weren't willing to throw it all on the table
00:08:20.260 and let it ride. And you know, what is the upside of doing that?
00:08:24.800 That you create meaning and significance in your life, that you develop deeper and closer
00:08:29.440 relationships with your family, that you gain new friends, that you have new experiences,
00:08:35.520 that you learn more than you ever could have in your stagnant, stale state. That's the upside.
00:08:40.300 Right. And the downside is you don't like it. And so you move home. Guys, look, this is, look,
00:08:46.680 I'm not going to say it this way, but well, I will say it this way. And so it's a cost benefit analysis.
00:08:55.320 And I'm actually talking kind of about emotion right now, but if you want to just take the
00:08:59.300 emotional side of things and say, let's look at the cost benefit analysis, you know, the cost,
00:09:03.760 the downside risk of uprooting your family and moving across the country is relatively low in
00:09:10.400 the grand scheme of things. It is, you're going to be out, you know, some money, some time,
00:09:17.040 some, some headaches, some heartache, maybe, but what's the upside potential, man, unlimited.
00:09:27.280 What new experiences are you going to have? What new friendships are you going to develop?
00:09:30.660 What new hobbies and skillsets are you going to learn? It's incalculable. And all you guys are
00:09:38.420 playing it safe thinking, well, you know, I have an obligation and I have a family and I have
00:09:43.080 responsibilities and I have this and I have that. Dude, you know how many people are hiring across
00:09:47.680 this country? You know, some of you are really worried about a job. You could go get a job this
00:09:53.160 afternoon if you needed to. There's what, eight to 10 million jobs open right now. And you're like,
00:09:59.280 well, what if I can't find a job? Instead of that, what, think about this. What if you live
00:10:05.960 your life in mediocrity and then you're sitting there on your deathbed and you're about to die?
00:10:10.280 And what are you thinking about? Not all the things that you did, but all the things that you wish you
00:10:14.280 could have done. And all you guys are scared and afraid, just like everybody, just like me,
00:10:21.080 man, I had reservations. I remember the first week we moved here. I was like,
00:10:24.240 I remember vividly, my wife and I were walking in that main field of ours and we were talking
00:10:30.920 and I said, hon, did we make the right decision? And she said, I don't know. She was just as nervous,
00:10:37.640 just as scared. But we didn't retreat. We didn't withdraw. We didn't hide and cower in fear. We
00:10:44.820 doubled down. And we decided to embed ourselves in the community. And we decided to meet people.
00:10:53.880 We decided to go to church. We decided to get involved in activities. We decided to go to the
00:10:58.540 gym. We decided to get our kids involved in sports. We decided to learn new hobbies and skills and
00:11:04.100 things that weren't available to us before. And you know how quickly that doubt and hesitation
00:11:10.980 and fear dissipated almost instantaneously because we didn't let that bullshit get in the way
00:11:18.280 of us going out and doing something great with our lives.
00:11:21.360 Some of you guys are playing in mediocrity. You're complacent. You're conforming. You're
00:11:27.180 mediocre. You're average. You know you're destined for more. How many of you feel that way? Honestly,
00:11:33.800 answer that question because I've had countless conversations with family members and friends
00:11:38.980 about being destined for more. Well, destiny only comes to those who are willing to act upon it.
00:11:44.560 Nothing's going to happen to you. You have to go act upon the world. You have to assert yourself.
00:11:51.900 You have to stake your claim. I mean, imagine that for a second.
00:11:56.420 Your pioneer ancestors literally traveled from the East Coast to the West Coast. And they said,
00:12:02.160 I'm going to stake my claim right here. And they put a stake or a rock in the ground. And then they went
00:12:07.560 and chopped down trees. And then they built a cabin. And then they brought in livestock. And then they
00:12:13.320 planted a seed that turned into a garden to feed their family. And they enlisted other people,
00:12:20.160 community members to come in. And they built cities. They built communities first, which turned
00:12:25.760 into towns, which turned into cities, which turned into what you see in this country. And those people
00:12:30.460 have balls. Do you? Do you have the balls to do it? Or is it, I'm nervous? I'm afraid. I'm scared.
00:12:43.880 What if things happen? Yeah, things will happen. Good things and some negative things that you learn
00:12:51.240 from and grow from and become better. I'm so tired of the mediocrity and the conformity and the
00:13:00.120 complacency and the loser bullshit that so many men who are following quote unquote order of man 0.92
00:13:06.680 are ascribing to. Are you a man? What did your ancestors do? They left the safety and the warmth
00:13:17.020 of the cave and they went out to kill the woolly mammoth, the saber tooth tiger, because that was
00:13:22.660 their job and the responsibility. And every day they went out, they risked death, literal death.
00:13:28.680 And all I'm asking you to do is to go to the gym tonight, to pursue jujitsu,
00:13:35.740 to make a move across the country, to drive your nice brand new vehicle that has climate control in
00:13:44.760 it. We'll get you somewhere in four hours, what it took maybe 40 days to do 150 years ago.
00:13:52.220 And you're telling me it's hard. It's not hard guys. Hard is relative. You've made it too easy
00:13:59.980 on yourself and now you're playing not to lose, right? You're ahead on the scoreboard, seven points,
00:14:07.420 14 points. And you think, man, I just got to maintain this lead. And so what do you do? You do
00:14:12.480 the dumb shit that isn't going to help you win, that didn't get you to that point. It will actually
00:14:20.320 create a loss for you. So I want you to shift your mindset. And I hope this podcast fires you up enough
00:14:29.620 to do it from, well, what if all this bad stuff happens? Some of it will, and you'll learn and
00:14:38.160 you'll grow and you'll adapt and you'll get better. Shift from the what if mindset to the let's find
00:14:45.200 out. Let's put it to the test. Let's really see how far I can take this. Let's put it all on the
00:14:54.240 table and let it ride. That's the mentality of winners. What if is the mentality of losers?
00:15:01.640 So if you're thinking to yourself, well, Ryan, I, you know, I, I haven't ever been successful in
00:15:09.540 life and I, I don't know what I'm, yes, that's a loser mentality. And some of you are going to be
00:15:14.060 upset about that. And some of you are going to be offended by that. And some of you, that's going
00:15:17.780 to sting to your core and it's going to hurt your heart. And it should, because you don't want to be
00:15:24.320 a loser. You want to be a winner. So what do winners do? They put it all on the line.
00:15:31.640 They develop the skillset. They don't make stupid decisions, of course, but they pull it all on the
00:15:36.580 line. They develop that skillset. They hone their, their, their craft. They get better. They look for
00:15:42.200 inefficiencies and deficiencies in their life. And they shore those areas up and they acquire the
00:15:46.540 assets and they acquire this skillset. And then they go out and they act and they do big things.
00:15:51.400 How many of you guys are wishing that you were like Joe Rogan or Elon Musk or Jordan Peterson,
00:16:02.360 or maybe even me. Oh man, I wish I had that. You can have it, but you got to shift from the
00:16:12.020 what if mentality to the let's find out. Men are designed to take calculated risks,
00:16:21.680 even more so than women. We are uniquely hardwired to go out and risk in order to provide for ourselves
00:16:32.240 and the people that we care about. And I want you to take more risks.
00:16:36.440 I want you to put it all on the line. I want you to put your nuts on the chopping block and I want you
00:16:43.880 to get after it because of what I think you'll find is that there's a world of opportunity
00:16:50.620 and availability and growth and learning and prosperity and fulfillment. And all of that is
00:16:57.940 hiding on the other side of the hill that you're not willing to look at because you're afraid and
00:17:03.640 you're scared. And I get it. I understand. Get over yourself and make some moves. All right,
00:17:10.220 guys. That's all I've got. I'm going to go spend some time with my family today. I've been gone for
00:17:13.740 a week. I can hear my kids playing in the background. Maybe you can too. I'm going to go
00:17:17.640 do Legos and my son's out on the trail camera, putting cards in the, in the trail cams. He does
00:17:23.340 that stuff way more than I do. Um, but these are the experiences and the memories that we've been
00:17:29.020 able to create over the past two and a half years, because I decided to move from, well,
00:17:32.460 what if this goes wrong? And what if that goes wrong too? Let's find out. And I've been pleasantly
00:17:39.520 surprised with the outcome. All right, guys, we'll be back next week until then go out there,
00:17:45.520 take action, move to that. Let's find out mentality and become the man. You are meant to be.
00:17:51.580 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life
00:17:55.960 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.
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