Order of Man - Discipline is the Great Equalizer ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is

00:00:17.080 who you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan

00:00:27.540 Mickler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and this movement, The Order

00:00:31.620 of Man. I want to welcome you. I'm glad you're here. I know this week has probably been a

00:00:36.500 little chaotic, a little hectic for you with the Christmas holiday and, of course, New

00:00:40.080 Year's coming up. I've had a great week so far. I did the Christmas thing with my family

00:00:45.400 and just enjoyed some time off, and it was much needed. But I'm back to it like I'm sure

00:00:50.260 you are, and I've got a good one lined up for you today. It's actually kind of a part

00:00:55.260 two to what I talked about last week on the Friday Field Notes, which was crafting the

00:00:59.800 perfect battle plan. So today I'm going to talk about how and why discipline is the great

00:01:04.760 equalizer. Before I get into that, I just want to mention my friends over at Origin Maine.

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00:02:21.600 I've got them in my gym, out in the shop, and I've also got them in my living room. So when the kids

00:02:27.980 are in bed and my wife and I are winding down for the night, I can do some basic movements and

00:02:32.360 workouts with those. But they've got other stuff as well. The racks, the weights, the bars, all of it.

00:02:37.180 You can check that out at Sorenex, S-O-R-I-N-E-X.com. All right, guys, let's get into this.

00:02:43.680 Discipline is the great equalizer. I had made a post the other day, I think,

00:02:47.360 it was maybe, I don't know, Monday or Tuesday. And I talked about how I don't have the luxury of

00:02:52.900 relying solely on my wealth because I'm not wealthy enough. I don't have the luxury of relying

00:02:57.560 upon my level of fitness because I'm not strong enough. I don't have the luxury of relying upon

00:03:03.220 my network because I'm not that well connected. And that's not how I've achieved any level of

00:03:09.520 success anyways. And now I will say that, of course, I use those because they're tools to the best of my

00:03:14.560 ability. But at the end of the day, the reason I think that we've experienced so much success here

00:03:19.560 with Order of Man and other facets of my life, the relationship, my fitness, my other businesses that

00:03:24.740 I've run and are running is because of my discipline. You know, if there's one thing I feel

00:03:29.440 like I'm pretty good at, it's my level of commitment and discipline. I was actually talking

00:03:34.340 with my wife, I think it was last week. And she was telling me that when I make a decision to

00:03:42.220 engage in an activity or a venture or a project that I go all in, that there's no sitting the

00:03:48.400 fence, there's no waffling, there's no maybe kind of sorta, or, Hey, I'll try it out or test the waters.

00:03:53.820 When I go in, I go all in. And that's what I wanted to talk with you about today is, is discipline

00:03:59.840 because you don't need to be strong. You don't need to be wealthy. You don't need to be well

00:04:03.560 connected. You don't need to be ruggedly handsome. You don't need to be any of these things in

00:04:08.440 order to be disciplined in your life. And I believe that there's people out there who do

00:04:13.280 have a certain set of gifts and talents and abilities, but guys, that alone is not enough

00:04:18.740 because there's, there's plenty of people out there who are talented, who are gifted, who

00:04:24.420 were born with, with certain abilities and skillsets that frankly, I don't have. And a lot of us don't

00:04:30.000 have, and yet they haven't achieved any measure of success in their life. And so I've thought

00:04:34.880 to myself, what is, what is it that is the, is the common denominator? What is it that

00:04:41.680 makes all successful people successful? And I think there's a lot of variables. Sure.

00:04:46.700 I'm not suggesting that what I'm going to talk with you about today is the only one, but I

00:04:50.600 believe that discipline, discipline levels the playing field. You can achieve so much in your

00:04:57.840 life by the way of your relationship, your fitness, your business, your activities, your

00:05:02.980 hobbies, your interests. If you can learn to develop discipline, everybody can exercise

00:05:10.000 discipline. Everybody can get up when the alarm goes off. Everybody can get into the gym.

00:05:15.840 Everybody can focus on certain tactics that are inevitably going to produce the results.

00:05:21.000 Everybody, I don't care about your wealth or your gifts and abilities or your talents or your

00:05:26.400 special little uniquenesses. Every single person can be disciplined. And when I fall short and where

00:05:32.480 I fall short in my life, I can make up and more than make up with being ruthlessly committed and

00:05:39.380 disciplined to a process that I know that is proven to yield the type of results that I'm after in my

00:05:47.140 life. And so if I can choose one thing to be good at, it's not going to be to be insanely strong or

00:05:53.780 insanely wealthy or insanely connected. Although don't get me wrong, those things would be nice.

00:05:59.280 That's not the skillset I would choose. What I would choose is to have this, this power, this ability

00:06:05.660 to be disciplined and all of us can learn to develop this, to foster it, to grow it. And because we

00:06:13.440 exercise discipline in our lives, we will inevitably produce results that we would be incapable of producing

00:06:20.160 in any other way. So I'm going to break this down for you today. Uh, again, discipline is the great

00:06:26.460 equalizer is what we're talking about. I want to share with you four or five little tactics. I don't

00:06:31.920 want to just tell you that, Oh, discipline, just be disciplined. Just do it. Just be disciplined.

00:06:36.020 Although sometimes I think that's just what, what is required. You need to make a decision and do it,

00:06:40.160 but I don't want it to be that. I want to be more in depth here. I want to go a little deeper for you.

00:06:44.760 Uh, and again, this is why I believe it ties in nicely with what I talked about on,

00:06:48.160 on the Friday field notes last week, which was creating and crafting the perfect battle plan.

00:06:52.380 Now that you have this battle plan created, now, how do you stick with it? Right? How do you do it?

00:06:57.400 And as we come upon new years, we're going to see a lot of people, uh, who are, who are in the gym,

00:07:02.100 who we don't recognize, right? They're coming to the gym for the first time because they're hyped

00:07:05.180 up on their new year's resolutions. Uh, and there's a lot of things that they're going to be

00:07:08.740 trying to accomplish. And what I've seen, and you've seen, of course, is these guys fizzle out,

00:07:12.720 right? They fizzle out after a week or two weeks, or maybe they're, uh, some of the rare

00:07:17.760 people who make it a month, you know, 30 days, and then they fizzle out with the gym specifically.

00:07:23.060 I've been going consistently for five years now. And I know there's people who've been doing it

00:07:27.780 for 20 years. It's no surprise to me that these are, these are the most successful people because

00:07:33.700 they are disciplined. So let's break this down. Let's talk about why this is the case. Let's talk

00:07:37.180 about how to be more disciplined and, uh, and then ultimately go out into your life and produce what

00:07:41.280 it is you're trying to produce this year in 2019. Uh, and, and I will say this before we,

00:07:46.860 we really dive into these, you know, these four or five points that I have right here is that

00:07:51.220 if you're looking for a resource, I've got three resources for you right now. And I'll recap later

00:07:56.420 too, but number one is our battle planner. It's a leather bound journal that you actually go through

00:08:02.500 and create. It's got a one page for each of the 52 weeks in the year. I would definitely recommend

00:08:08.660 picking that up. This is something that I personally use. In fact, I'm looking at mine

00:08:11.700 right now because I just updated it this morning as I came into the office. So it's the battle

00:08:15.820 planner. If you go to store.orderofman.com, uh, what else? The book, if you haven't picked up a

00:08:20.640 copy of sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men, I wrote that in February of this year,

00:08:25.300 2018, and it's a good book, but towards the end of it, uh, there is the last section in there is how

00:08:33.620 to craft and create your own battle plan, uh, where you're going to actually walk away at the end of the

00:08:38.000 book with an actionable, actionable strategy, uh, for accomplishing what it is you want to

00:08:42.280 accomplish. Uh, and then the third, uh, tool that you can use is the iron council. That's our

00:08:47.380 exclusive brotherhood. And there's a lot of built-in accountability and battle planning and

00:08:51.240 everything else that we do inside of there. So if you're looking for a brotherhood, uh, some

00:08:54.640 accountability, a kick in the pants, if you might need it, then head to, uh, orderofman.com slash iron

00:08:59.880 council. So it's those three things. Again, I'll recap them later, but those three things.

00:09:03.520 So let's talk about this. Uh, number one is I wrote down here and I, I just wrote down some

00:09:07.720 bullet points I wanted to talk with you about is that if you want to be more disciplined in your

00:09:11.600 life, stop focusing so heavily on the end result. I mean, you need to have the end result, but stop

00:09:16.400 focusing so heavily on that end result and instead focus on the tactics, focus on the lowest common

00:09:23.480 denominator, the lowest action that you can take, that you can do day in and day out, regardless of

00:09:30.620 the weather or regardless of how you feel or regardless of any outside circumstances, focus on

00:09:36.280 those tactics, those measurable, actionable steps is what is going to produce the results.

00:09:44.560 I was thinking about this. Uh, and I, as I was, as I was considering what professional athletes do

00:09:50.040 and specifically in baseball, if you look at these guys and these, and these men, they're at the height

00:09:55.520 of their careers. I mean, they're in prime physical condition. They are superior athletes, obviously

00:10:01.920 masters at their craft. Otherwise they wouldn't have reached this level. But if you look at them

00:10:05.720 warm up and you look at these guys, take batting practice, they're actually taking batting practice

00:10:10.240 off of a tee. It's the same tool that my five-year-old learns to play the game of baseball

00:10:17.120 on that is, if that doesn't speak to the fundamentals of what you're doing and to do the same thing

00:10:25.240 over and over and over and over again, I don't know what does guys, the tactics are important.

00:10:32.240 And what I would suggest is that you don't really look at the win as being you reaching

00:10:37.080 and achieving the end result, but you look at the win as the action you took to get there,

00:10:42.220 right? Because if I wake up without hitting the snooze and then I go into the gym and I do my

00:10:46.940 workout, although I might feel like crap, and then I come back and I connect with my family and I eat

00:10:50.920 correctly and I do all the things that I've identified for myself as being important. That is

00:10:55.020 a win. That is a win. The problem with focusing on the end result is that a lot of the time,

00:10:59.920 some of this stuff is outside of our control. We have to be aware of that. Not everything is

00:11:03.820 within our control, but you can control how you show up. You can control these actionable

00:11:09.480 steps that you're taking on a daily basis. And then ultimately you allow the chips to fall where

00:11:14.780 they may. And if you're doing these things day in and day out, then the chips are going to fall

00:11:19.240 in your favor. The majority of times, I'm not going to say that it's always going to work out

00:11:22.520 because there's of course exceptions to that, but the overwhelming majority of the time,

00:11:26.900 if you take these steps day in and day out and you focus heavily on the tactics, you are equalizing,

00:11:34.340 you are leveling the playing field for some other individual who has a greater skillset or more

00:11:40.680 experience than you might have. So step number one, focus on the tactics. Step number two, we have this

00:11:48.200 incredible, incredible ability to lie to ourselves. You know, we lie to ourselves about, and I'm just going

00:11:54.680 to use the gym again, uh, is, is that, you know, I'm going to take the next couple of days off.

00:11:59.480 It's Christmas or, you know, new year's is coming up. And in about a week when it's January 1st,

00:12:06.040 then I'll go to the gym. Then I'll do it right. Or when all the conditions are aligned in perfectly,

00:12:11.240 then I will. Or if I feel better, that's, that's when I'll do it. I'm under the weather. And so when I

00:12:16.600 feel better, then I'll go to the gym guys. Don't lie to yourself. All right. You can lie to other

00:12:22.200 people. You can trick other people. Ultimately the results don't lie, but it's very easy to deceive

00:12:28.580 other people, but you can't deceive yourself. You can attempt to, you can lie to yourself and you can

00:12:34.000 pretend like you're fooling yourself. But when you look in the mirror and you look at that man staring

00:12:37.760 back, you know exactly, exactly what you've done and exactly what you haven't done. So stop lying to

00:12:44.780 yourself. Stop telling yourself you're, you're better than you are, or that when things are perfect

00:12:49.240 or that, or, or, or that you're actually going to accomplish these things when you know damn well

00:12:54.480 that you won't, it feels good because it lets you off the hook in a way. But at the end of the day,

00:13:00.320 if you're not doing the things, if you're not going to the gym, if you're not waking up early,

00:13:04.220 if you're not reading books, if you're not exercising, if you're not communicating with

00:13:08.340 your, your family, if you're not making the phone calls at work and you're not doing the things that

00:13:12.580 you know, you should be doing the things that you've identified based on last week's Friday field

00:13:16.280 notes, then, then, you know, and that's where this guilt comes into play. And so we see a lot

00:13:20.840 of guys who are depressed and down and beating themselves up. And this is a, a, a downward

00:13:25.240 spiral, right? You don't do the things that you know, you know, you were supposed to do because

00:13:29.180 you're too busy lying to yourself about it. And then, and then at the end of the day, you feel

00:13:33.300 guilty because you didn't accomplish anything. And because you feel guilty, you're like, well,

00:13:36.660 I guess I'm a loser. So there's no use to doing it now. And so you don't do anything

00:13:41.220 tomorrow. And then you feel more guilty. And it's just, this, this horrible, tragic spiral

00:13:45.720 that we have a tendency of creating for ourselves. So how do we get out of this downward spiral

00:13:50.960 with the truth, with the truth, look in the mirror. Hey, I'm 50 pounds overweight. Hey,

00:13:57.220 I look like a fat piece of shit, frankly, or, you know, my business isn't thriving or my relationship

00:14:03.540 is really struggling. And guess what? It doesn't have anything to do with her, or it doesn't have

00:14:07.020 anything to do with your boss or the economy or the fact that maybe there's, there's no gym near you.

00:14:11.720 It has to do with you. It has to do with the decisions that you're making and the decisions

00:14:17.160 you're not making and uncomfortable truth that you are inadequate, but that's not designed to

00:14:23.820 beat you up guys. It's not designed to throw a pity party. It's designed to base your future in an

00:14:28.880 objective reality. That is the foundation for growth. I am 50 pounds overweight. It doesn't mean

00:14:36.040 you're a loser. It doesn't mean that you're destined to continue to live that way, but it's

00:14:40.460 truth. My marriage is struggling because I don't put in the effort to communicate with and or date

00:14:46.800 my wife. That's not comfortable to hear. It's way more comfortable to say, well, our marriage isn't

00:14:53.100 going well because she doesn't love me and she doesn't support me and she doesn't want me around

00:14:57.900 and she doesn't date me and she doesn't tell me I love, I love you and all the things that I need

00:15:01.820 to hear. It's that's so much easier than turning it around on you and telling yourself that you're

00:15:07.420 inadequate. But if you truly want to grow this year, that's exactly what you'll do. So guys,

00:15:11.740 stop lying to yourself and be truthful about it. Step number three, we've talked about the tactics.

00:15:19.160 We've talked about telling yourself the truth. Now it's about creating systems. You have to create

00:15:25.360 systems in place and excuse me, put systems in place that are going to help you focus on the

00:15:32.260 tactics. You are weak and I'm not pointing fingers. I'm as much as I'm saying you are weak. I'm saying

00:15:37.940 it about myself as well. When I'm lying in that bed in the morning and I, and I ate a big bowl of chips

00:15:43.340 and salsa the night before, and I know it's cold outside and I know I'm about to go get my ass kicked

00:15:48.460 at the gym. It is so much easier when the alarm goes off to hit the little snooze and to say,

00:15:55.100 Oh, I'll do it later. And I'm comfortable. And I got my wife here and the bed is cozy and warm.

00:16:01.500 It's so much easier to do that than it is to roll over, turn the alarm off, put the feet on the floor,

00:16:10.260 get up, change, brush your teeth, take a shower, and then get your butt to the gym. I mean,

00:16:14.340 that's more difficult, right? We all know that that is. So if we know that the natural man,

00:16:19.340 and I've talked about this concept before, that the natural man is weak. He's a lazy. He he's,

00:16:25.300 he's immediate gratification. He wants everything for nothing. If we know that because we're being

00:16:29.620 truthful with ourselves, then what we can do is create systems that combat the natural man.

00:16:36.380 We can put things in place that although we know we have a tendency to slack off, that we give

00:16:41.340 ourselves the inability to slack off. Let's take the alarm clock, for example, put it in the other

00:16:47.340 room, put, you know, you really want some accountability, put it, put it near the baby

00:16:51.800 so that if you don't get over there quick enough, that baby wakes up and starts crying. This is a

00:16:56.340 system that you can actually use in your life to ensure that you will get your butt out of bed and

00:17:01.020 do the things that you've committed to doing. So it's along the lines of working out. It could be

00:17:07.140 as simple as programming your gym the night before, because if you wake up in the morning

00:17:13.780 and you don't have any idea of what you're going to do, well, it's, it's really easy to say,

00:17:16.660 I don't know. I don't know what I'm going to program today. I don't know what workouts. I

00:17:21.220 don't know what I did yesterday. I don't know. I guess I'll just, I'll just wait. Like I'll

00:17:24.640 program it tonight and then tomorrow I'll do it. Tomorrow I'll do it. So guys get up, get a program

00:17:28.300 in place, get the alarm clock situation figured out, use a calendar, use the battle planner that I just

00:17:34.120 told you about in our store. Because if you have these systems in place and you're just plugging

00:17:39.720 into the system and they're already there guys, you don't need to reinvent the wheel. You just

00:17:43.280 need to do what other people are doing. And I should say, you need to do what other successful

00:17:47.220 people are doing. If you can find out what systems, what strategies, what tools, and what

00:17:51.960 tactics they're using in their life. And you can just tap into that like a robot. And it should be

00:17:57.220 very robotic because our emotions get in the way of us doing what we know we should be doing.

00:18:03.020 And then we experience more emotions like guilt and regret and remorse and all these things.

00:18:07.840 Be robotic in creating systems that you have to accomplish. And the more systems you have in

00:18:14.040 place, I have systems for everything. Systems for this podcast, systems for spending time with my

00:18:19.760 family. I have that all calendared. I have it all documented. They know, I know, there's no question

00:18:25.720 about when or what we're doing in our relationship. Systems for everything. And some people will say,

00:18:30.580 I even have systems for friends. Like how often I want to communicate and connect with friends

00:18:34.560 and people in my network, people that I want to have on the podcast. And some people say,

00:18:38.280 well, that's disingenuous. No, it isn't at all. In fact, what it means is that I actually care.

00:18:43.360 I care enough to create a system to ensure that I connect with you because I care about you

00:18:48.220 and I appreciate you. And I want to develop this, this friendship or this business relationship.

00:18:53.600 Having these systems in place is critical. That's step number three.

00:18:56.100 Step number four, guys, build in some accountability. I don't, I don't think we're

00:19:00.260 a lot of the times, and this comes back to the natural man. I don't, I don't think we're accountable

00:19:03.920 enough to ourselves, frankly. And I think there's different tiers of accountability. There's

00:19:07.820 accountability to other people. That would be a lower tier of accountability in my mind.

00:19:12.100 And then there's, there's tiers of higher accountability, which is accountability

00:19:15.020 ourselves. That's just being a man of your word. Frankly, I said, I would do X, Y, and Z.

00:19:19.440 And so I will do X, Y, and Z. So when I don't follow through on the commitment,

00:19:23.520 maybe I told you guys that I was going to get a podcast out on time and I didn't do it.

00:19:27.320 Then I go hurry and do it because I'm accountable to myself, but not only am I accountable to myself,

00:19:31.860 I'm accountable to the millions and millions of men who listen to this podcast every single month.

00:19:36.500 I've got to be in line with what it's integrity, right? I've got to be in integrity with what I say

00:19:43.520 I'm going to do. I remember one time in particular, and this wasn't too long ago. I think this was maybe

00:19:47.240 three months or so ago I had, uh, I had failed to put out an ask me anything or a, I think it was a

00:19:55.240 Friday field notes actually. And it was, it must've been 10 30 at night on a Friday. And I had realized

00:20:01.160 it hit me like a light bulb that I didn't put out the Friday field notes. So I got with, with Kip and

00:20:06.640 a lot of you guys are familiar with Kip because he does the, uh, the ask me anything on Wednesday

00:20:09.900 with me. So I got on the, uh, on the, on the microphone with, with him. Cause we happened to be

00:20:13.680 in the same place at origins, uh, uh, Brazilian jujitsu immersion camp. And I said, dude, I got

00:20:18.640 to do this, this podcast real quick. Will you jump on with me? He says, yeah, absolutely. I'll jump on

00:20:22.320 with you. And I put that podcast out. I think I got that done. It may be, I don't know, 11, 1130 that

00:20:28.300 night. I had made a commitment. I had committed to you that I was going to put out a Friday field

00:20:33.680 notes. And if I wouldn't have put that out, I would have been a liar. There's no way to sugar coat

00:20:37.920 that. You know, I could have come up with excuses like, Oh, you know, I was at, I was an immersion

00:20:41.940 camp or was late or I was tired and I wasn't feeling well. And all of those things could

00:20:46.500 have been true, but none of it actually mattered because I would have been a liar and I'm not

00:20:51.800 interested in that. So I've got accountability to you. I've got accountability to me. Uh, I've

00:20:57.240 got accountability to my brothers inside of the iron council who I report to and they report

00:21:03.360 to me. Uh, I have accountability to my kids because I tell them, Hey, here's what we're going

00:21:07.420 to do. And here's when we're going to do it. I have accountability to my wife and these

00:21:11.180 are the relationships that are important to me. And because they're important to me and because

00:21:14.940 I make commitments to them and I also give them permission to call me when I don't uphold those

00:21:22.800 commitments, I'm a better man for it. I'm better because I have these systems of accountability

00:21:28.040 built into place. That's step number four. And the last step guys, step number five, the thing I

00:21:32.920 wanted to share with you today is, uh, that you got to track this stuff. All right. It's been said

00:21:36.700 that what gets measured gets improved. So if you aren't measuring it on a daily basis and

00:21:43.500 actually tracking the amount of business phone calls you make, the amount of sales pitches

00:21:48.200 that you give, the amount of reps that you did, the weight that you did, the hours that

00:21:52.440 you spend with your kids, the, the amount of shots that you took with, with your bow or

00:21:57.180 how much would you chopped or whatever, whatever your thing is. If you're not tracking it on a

00:22:04.560 daily basis and you don't have that documented somewhere, you are doing yourself a huge, huge

00:22:09.300 disservice. Will you improve? Like if you did four of these five steps, if you did the first

00:22:14.760 four steps, but you forgot to track it, will you improve? Probably you probably will. You

00:22:20.840 don't need all these things, but you will not improve as steadily as consistently and at the

00:22:27.300 rate at which you could, if you were simply tracking it. So one of the things that I've got

00:22:31.900 as a goal of mine for this, this 90 days, cause I do my 90 day planning. If you're curious about

00:22:36.840 that and you're listening for the first time, go back to last week's Friday field notes. In fact,

00:22:40.920 just subscribe. So you don't miss these things. Go back to last week's Friday field notes and listen

00:22:45.740 to crafting and executing a perfect battle plan. I think that's what I titled it. And you can see how

00:22:50.560 I do my planning. But one of the, uh, one of the things that I have planned for the next 90 days

00:22:55.040 is to get down to 15% body fat. Well, I have a very simple field notes. It doesn't have to be

00:22:59.640 complex. In fact, the more complex your systems are and your, your tracking tools are the less

00:23:04.880 likely it is that you'll actually do them because they're complicated and a pain in the butt, 0.64

00:23:07.900 frankly. And so you just won't do it. So I've got a very simple, uh, field notes that I use

00:23:11.920 and I just write three columns. One is the date. One is my weight. And the last column is my body fat

00:23:18.700 percentage. So I can go in there and I've been doing it for, I think I've, I'm at a week now. I think

00:23:23.900 there's six or seven entries in there now. So I go, I go through, write the date. Okay. And then I jump on

00:23:28.480 the scale, same scale every time and same clothes that I'm wearing, you know, or, or same, you know,

00:23:34.560 gym clothes. Uh, so I'll track my weight and then it'll pull up the body fat percentage. And I write

00:23:41.420 that down. And the next day I write it down. And the next day I write it down. So for the first three

00:23:45.700 or four days I was doing really, really well. And then Christmas I fell behind. I saw it visibly.

00:23:50.620 Like I could see it. I fell behind. And then over the past a couple of days, I've actually got back

00:23:55.740 on track because I look at it and I'm accountable to it. I see it. It's staring there right in my

00:24:01.380 face. I can't lie about it because the numbers don't lie. So track it, track your calls, track

00:24:08.760 your hours, track your, your shots, track everything that you possibly can. And I think inevitably you're,

00:24:14.340 you're going, you're going to improve. And the only time you're not going to improve is if you stop

00:24:18.740 tracking it truly. So that's it guys. Pretty simple one for you today. Pretty short one, I think. Um,

00:24:24.020 but let me go through these again and then you guys go out and get it done. I'll give you a couple

00:24:27.700 additional resources and, uh, we'll call it a day. We'll let you get to your weekend and get to your

00:24:31.680 planning so that, uh, we hit the ground running. You know, I want you to start this stuff right now

00:24:35.120 or tomorrow at the latest. So let's go through these as a recap. Number one, focus on the tactics.

00:24:40.620 All right. Don't focus so heavily on the end result. Just focus on the day-to-day activities you can do

00:24:45.160 day in, day out, uh, inevitably, inevitably produce those, uh, those results. Number two,

00:24:49.740 don't lie to yourself. Be truthful. Be a man of your word. Understand that you're weak,

00:24:54.860 that you're lazy, that you're immediate gratification, that you want something for

00:24:57.820 nothing, but you're not unlike me or anybody else. That's just who we are. The natural man.

00:25:03.500 So don't lie to yourself. Tell yourself the truth. I'm fat. I'm overweight. I'm broke. I'm not making

00:25:09.660 the calls. I'm not putting in the hours. I'm not putting in the time with, with my family. I'm not

00:25:13.340 doing X, Y, and Z. Tell yourself the truth. It might be very, very difficult and uncomfortable.

00:25:19.200 That's okay. That's a starting point. Now you can actually improve. Now, if you lie to yourself and

00:25:23.800 say, well, I'm great and I'm wonderful and I'm doing everything I can and anything that I'm falling

00:25:28.220 short on is because of everybody else. Well, that feels good, but it doesn't produce the results.

00:25:32.700 And that lie will inevitably catch up with you. Uh, number three, create the systems,

00:25:36.900 put systems in place so that you, the weak natural man can overcome your weaknesses and your

00:25:42.680 shortcomings and the, and the pitfalls that you inevitably fall into. Put those systems in place and

00:25:47.500 get it done. Create the systems. Step number four, build in some accountability and accountability

00:25:52.540 to other people who will be impacted by the decisions you're making. Uh, also accountability

00:25:56.760 to those who have no vested interest in your life. Why? Because they can tell you the things

00:26:01.880 that you need to hear. They're not relying upon you. They don't have to live with your choices,

00:26:05.280 your baggage, so they can call you out without this, this cloud of, of emotions that tends to get

00:26:11.240 into the way at times. And then be accountable to yourself, be a man of your word. So building

00:26:15.160 that accountability, that's number four. And then number, uh, number five is track it guys,

00:26:20.040 track it, document it, write it down, get Friday field or excuse me. I say Friday field notes.

00:26:23.600 Cause I'm used to saying that get field notes and write those things down, get a journal,

00:26:27.580 get the battle planner that I told you about at inside the store. Uh, whatever, whatever you have

00:26:33.260 to do, track it, have a calendar on your wall and, and, and get a big red marker and just cross out

00:26:38.740 every day that you go to the gym or every day that you spend some quality time with your wife

00:26:42.780 or every day that you drink a hundred ounces of water or every day that you make a hundred sales

00:26:48.400 calls, because that's your goal or your quota. We just find some, find, find some systems,

00:26:53.380 find a way to track it. This is how we improve. So guys get out there. All right. Discipline is

00:26:57.680 the great equalizer. I don't want to hear anybody, including myself complain about, Oh, this guy's

00:27:02.540 gifted. And this guy has this, and this guy's lucky and he's fortunate and he has all the good

00:27:06.000 opportunities and the rich get richer. And all these kinds of little things that we tell

00:27:08.760 ourselves, I don't want to hear that stuff. What I do want to hear is that discipline is the

00:27:12.660 great equalizer. That guy may have a stronger foothold. Maybe he's been doing it for longer.

00:27:18.160 Maybe he's smarter. Maybe he's more connected. Maybe he has more money. I don't know. I don't

00:27:22.540 know what it is, but I'll tell you what I can even and level this playing field. I can be

00:27:27.600 at that individual's level. I can surpass that individual's level. If I can be more disciplined

00:27:33.740 than he can. Discipline is the great equalizer guys. It makes up for everything, everything where

00:27:41.040 you fall short and every place that you struggle, if you can learn to adopt and incorporate a level

00:27:47.140 of discipline that is unparalleled into your life, you will make up those gaps. You will

00:27:54.220 make up those inadequacies and those shortfalls and all the little things that we as men fall

00:27:58.940 into. So guys get out there. All right, get it done. Spend some time this afternoon or this

00:28:02.980 morning or tomorrow or whenever it is you're listening to this, spend some time, document this

00:28:07.640 stuff, three resources. Then I'll let you go. Uh, number one is the battle planner in

00:28:12.580 the store store.orderofman.com. Uh, number two is the book. You can go onto Amazon type

00:28:19.140 in sovereignty. It's a beautiful red cover book with a big heart on there. You'll see

00:28:23.580 it. The battle for the hearts and minds of men. It's called sovereignty. Uh, in the end

00:28:27.720 of the book, it's got a battle plan tool system that you can actually incorporate. So you're

00:28:32.020 walking away at the end of the book with, with an actual plan in place. And then the third

00:28:35.680 component is the iron council. All right. This is, we go deep in this stuff. All right.

00:28:39.760 We dive deep into this. We have accountability. Uh, we, we make goals. We have conversations.

00:28:44.800 We have challenges. We're doing all that, all of that over there. All right. So check

00:28:48.980 that out at, uh, orderofman.com slash iron council. So gentlemen, get out there, get after

00:28:54.020 it. All right. We're coming up on new year's. Everybody's thinking about this stuff. I want

00:28:56.840 this year to be different than it has in the past. Everybody says, Oh, you know, 2018 was just

00:29:00.460 a warmup. Great. Let's ensure that 2019 is your best year ever. Let's be disciplined.

00:29:06.880 Let's understand it as the great equalizer. And let's go out there and be the man that

00:29:10.780 we are supposed to be. The reason that other people are relying upon us, the foundation

00:29:16.900 for those, for our family, our friends, our colleagues, our coworkers, our community, our

00:29:21.300 neighbors, and, uh, let's get it done. So guys go out there, take action, become the man

00:29:25.580 you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to

00:29:30.540 take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to

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Discipline is the Great Equalizer ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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