Order of Man - October 30, 2020


Do Not Cast Your Pearls Before Swine ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


Episode Stats

Length

17 minutes

Words per Minute

181.49821

Word Count

3,094

Sentence Count

183

Misogynist Sentences

1

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.780 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.780 and I am the host and the founder of the order of man podcast and movement.
00:00:31.720 Today is your Friday field notes. Get to hear from me and some of my thoughts I've been thinking about
00:00:35.360 from throughout the week. And I think this one is probably going to be a bit shorter than it has in
00:00:40.600 the past. They usually go for 20 to 30 minutes, but I anticipate this one being shorter. Although
00:00:45.100 I do like the sound of my voice and I tend to be a bit long winded at times. Guys, if you're new and
00:00:50.900 you're just joining us for the first time, this is a podcast dedicated to helping you become a better,
00:00:55.360 more capable, more effective, more efficient husband, father, business owner, community leader,
00:01:01.440 whatever facet of life you're showing up. I want to give you the tools, the conversations,
00:01:05.040 and the resources needed to thrive. I was looking at the number of episodes that we've done up to this
00:01:10.200 point. And I want to say we're up above nearly 700 episodes at this point. So over the past nearly
00:01:20.220 six years now, we've put out so much information and I hope, and this is my goal that it's serving
00:01:26.800 you and it's helping you become more effective in the roles that you play. Today, I wanted to talk
00:01:31.640 with you briefly about a scripture. I know I don't talk a whole lot about scripture or spirituality here
00:01:39.780 on this podcast, and that's actually by design. Some of you guys have asked me questions about it,
00:01:44.380 but I did want to share something with you because I had an interesting call the other night with my
00:01:49.840 good friend, JP Donnell. A lot of you guys know who he is. And we got talking about some different
00:01:55.400 things and we got talking about our goals and ambitions and putting ourself out there in the
00:02:00.840 public eye and the pros and cons of doing that. You know, the benefits of putting yourself out there
00:02:05.800 are that you begin to articulate your voice. You have some of those perspectives and assumptions of
00:02:13.240 your life challenged and pushed up against, which helps you to articulate and crystallize and clarify
00:02:19.340 what it is you actually believe in what you think and how you want to behave. It gives you a new
00:02:24.000 perspective, something to consider that maybe you hadn't considered before. And this is all good.
00:02:29.640 You know, this is part of the reason the podcast serves me specifically so well outside of hopefully
00:02:34.040 serving you is that I do get to share my thoughts and my ideas and the things that are important to me.
00:02:41.820 And when you guys have conversations and disagreements, even that helps me, it helps me to
00:02:49.800 be able to articulate my ideas better, which is important as a communicator. And that's what I do for
00:02:55.240 a living, obviously. And it helps me to see things from a more well-rounded approach. And all of that is
00:03:00.960 positive, but there's a downside also to sharing your perspective. And that is that you subject
00:03:10.920 and expose yourself to potential mockery and ridicule and negative criticism and things that
00:03:18.780 are not constructive or beneficial. In fact, they hinder you. So anytime I put one of my comments or
00:03:25.100 thoughts or ideas out there in the public space, there's always a percentage of people who will come back
00:03:30.120 and not just disagree, which I have no problem with, but will be completely disrespectful.
00:03:36.460 Will undermine my efforts or my attempts to be a better man. Will not even remotely attempt to look
00:03:45.580 at how I might view things from a wider, broader perspective. And they just see this one post and
00:03:51.420 they think that it's wrong. And so I must be an evil human being. So, you know, there's downsides to
00:03:57.660 putting yourself out in the world. And as my friend JP and I were talking about this the other night,
00:04:02.160 I was reminded of a scripture. And I don't care if you're a scripture scholar, or even if you're
00:04:09.500 Christian, I think there's a lot of principles that can be learned and applied in our life,
00:04:14.660 regardless of our faith or lack thereof or denomination. And I wanted to read specifically
00:04:21.700 a scripture. And I, and I pulled this up because I don't have it memorized. I'm not a scripturally
00:04:26.860 scholar by any means, but the scripture is Matthew seven, six. And I read from the King James version
00:04:31.740 of the Bible. And again, it's Matthew seven, six. And it says this, give not that which is holy unto
00:04:39.300 the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet and turn
00:04:46.880 again to rend you. Let me read that again. Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast
00:04:55.620 ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet and turn again and rend you.
00:05:03.360 I'm often reminded of this scripture as I share my goals and desires and dreams and ambitions. And I
00:05:08.860 believe they're noble. I wouldn't have those ambitions and goals and desires if that weren't the
00:05:12.780 case. And often as I share this information with the public, I met with negativity, uh, with criticism,
00:05:23.500 with potential hostility, even. And again, this isn't the, uh, the majority of the responses I get,
00:05:29.820 but it's certainly a portion of the responses I get. And you know, what happens when I do that is
00:05:34.360 a little part of me, even as a confident, self-assured man questions, questions, my motives,
00:05:44.720 questions, my desires and my dreams and my ambitions, even though in any other context and
00:05:51.180 any other situation, I feel good about who I am and how I'm showing up in the work that I'm doing.
00:05:56.660 And I think this is the trap that we could fall into as we put our information out into the world.
00:06:00.980 And we share the things that are important to us that are deeply meaningful and significant.
00:06:05.720 And we just cast these things before people who are negative and vile and disgusting and would like
00:06:17.020 nothing more than to see you and other people. And believe me, I don't think it's personal.
00:06:22.520 And while it's not personal against me or against you, it's personal for them. They're miserable.
00:06:28.400 They hate their lives. They're not doing the work that we've been doing over the past six years on
00:06:34.600 themselves. And because they're not willing to do the work, they're afraid or they're, they're fearful
00:06:41.380 or they, they didn't grow up in an environment where this stuff was, was important or learn these
00:06:47.840 things that I'm teaching you or attempting to anyways. They'd rather you fail than to do the work
00:06:57.220 required for them to thrive and to succeed. And your success poses a very serious and real threat
00:07:06.260 to their own existence. And as we attempt to tell people like this, what our goals and our dreams and
00:07:15.520 our ambitions and our desires and our hopes and our aspirations are, they want to tear that down guys.
00:07:23.180 They want to diminish it. They want to mock it. They want to ridicule it. They don't want you to
00:07:28.380 be the kind of man that you have the capability of becoming. So you got to be very, very careful
00:07:32.960 about who you're telling this information to. Number one, you got to develop some thick skin
00:07:37.280 because if you're going to put yourself in the public space as I have, and even if that's a podcast
00:07:43.080 for you or a blog or a video series, or even if it's just at work or with your family, then you need
00:07:49.960 to toughen up. You need to thicken that skin and realize that not everybody's going to agree with
00:07:53.520 you. And that's fine. That's okay. I don't need everybody to agree with me. I'm confident enough
00:07:57.760 that if somebody has a dissenting voice, I'm okay with that. If somebody has some, some opinions that
00:08:03.900 are less than favorable of me, I'm okay with that. But to, to pretend that it wouldn't affect you even
00:08:13.420 to the slightest degree is a bit naive and it, and it creates some, some problems or exposes some
00:08:24.000 vulnerabilities that may keep you from doing what you want to do. So here's what I would suggest.
00:08:29.780 Be very, very careful about who you're sharing your dreams and aspirations with.
00:08:36.120 Now, I know that the common theme and the common idea and perception is that we should just share
00:08:40.640 whatever it is we want to do. And social media has perpetuated this idea that we should share all of
00:08:45.820 our dreams. I'm going to run a marathon. I'm going to start a business. I'm going to do this. I'm going
00:08:49.420 to do that. And we're just supposed to exclaim it to the world. I would say we probably ought to be a
00:08:56.520 little bit more thoughtful about that because as the scripture, Matthew seven, six says, and I'm going
00:09:00.920 to pull it up again here. So don't butcher. It says, give not that which is holy unto the dogs. And
00:09:06.140 guys, there are dogs out there who want to see you fail miserably and, and actually not just want to
00:09:14.640 see you fail will actually revel in you failing and you being as miserable as they are. Back to
00:09:22.800 scripture. Neither cast ye pearls before the swine, lest they trample them. And isn't that what people
00:09:30.280 do? Trample your dreams and desires, mock, ridicule, belittle, make fun of, diminish, trample them under
00:09:38.580 their feet and turn again and rend you. So they trample your dreams and then they come back for you
00:09:47.040 again. I don't want this to be a negative podcast. So here's what I would suggest on a positive note.
00:09:55.780 And then we'll wrap things up. Like I said, this is going to be a short one today. If we are instructed
00:10:01.340 not to cast our pearls, the things that we desire, the things that are meaningful and significant and
00:10:06.880 important and valuable to us before swine, then I think the opposite holds true that maybe instead we
00:10:13.360 ought to cast those pearls before those who are worthy. What does it mean to be worthy in this
00:10:20.600 context? What I suggest is those people who edify you, those people who uplift you, those people who
00:10:28.800 want you to succeed. Just as my friend JP wants me to succeed. He called me to have these conversations.
00:10:36.160 I want him to succeed. He wants me to succeed. There's other people in my circle. Those of you who
00:10:41.420 know Kip Sorensen, who is my co-host, he wants me to succeed. I want him to succeed. And I am more
00:10:47.780 than happy and willing. And frankly, I should cast my dreams and ambitions and desires before those
00:10:54.240 people, because those are the individuals who are going to help me. Kip's going to help me accomplish
00:11:00.600 my goals. JP is going to help me accomplish my goals. Those of you who believe in what we're doing
00:11:05.880 here are going to help me accomplish my goals. My wife, my children are going to help me accomplish my
00:11:11.040 goals. I may not always be comfortable. I don't have to always be in agreement with what they say,
00:11:15.800 but I always know that what they share is in my best interest. And so I don't share everything with
00:11:24.840 the masses because it isn't relevant to them. And frankly, they haven't proved to me
00:11:33.020 that they do have my best interest at heart. So contrary to popular belief, that belief that you
00:11:41.440 should share everything with everybody, I would suggest that maybe you'd be a little bit more
00:11:45.100 selective with who you share your dreams and ambitions and desires with. And instead of sharing
00:11:50.620 those with people who would love to see you fail, only share your hopes and dreams and desires with
00:11:55.960 those who would love to see you succeed. And not only love to see it, are actively engaged in helping
00:12:01.680 you accomplish what it is you want to accomplish. Now that doesn't mean they need to follow you
00:12:06.620 blindly or pledge their allegiance to you. It means that they care about you.
00:12:12.420 They care about you enough to say things that aren't always comfortable that maybe you don't
00:12:17.560 necessarily want to hear or won't feel good hearing, but they do it from a position of care and love
00:12:22.820 and wanting to see you thrive. And it's your job. It's your job to decipher and decide who it is
00:12:30.400 that cares about you and who it is that does not care about you guys. Don't share everything with
00:12:37.200 everybody with this, uh, this digital age that we live in. And this it's highly driven by social media.
00:12:44.220 We, we, we would be tempted to, and, and some of the things that, that we could potentially share
00:12:50.980 the things that would get the most engagement interaction and likes and attention and all of
00:12:55.600 that feels wonderful. But you have one asshole who comes in and, and undercuts what it is you're
00:13:02.660 doing. It diminishes to even the slightest degree, your potential of actually realizing that objective.
00:13:08.100 Why would I want to do that? I don't, those people don't care about me and they don't care
00:13:12.880 about you. All they care about doing is, and again, I'm going to reference scripture. I don't
00:13:17.780 want to butcher this trample them, your pearls trample them under their feet. And when they're
00:13:24.340 done trampling your dreams and desires under their feet, they turn again and render, excuse me, and rend you.
00:13:31.800 This is a short one guys, but it's an important lesson. You don't need to share everything with
00:13:38.740 everybody, but you do need to share some of that with the people you care about. And that's up to
00:13:44.660 you to decide who are the people that care about you? Who are the people that want to see you thrive?
00:13:48.300 Who are the people that want to see you win? And who are those who are going to actively engage
00:13:52.160 themselves in the cause that you are? There's people that I deeply, deeply care about that. I want
00:13:57.080 to see when one person I can think of right off hand, two people actually is Pete Roberts and Brian
00:14:02.160 Littlefield with origin. I talk about these guys weekly because they're show sponsors, but they're
00:14:06.560 friends more, more important than show sponsors, they're friends. And I call these guys and I text
00:14:11.340 these guys and I ask about what they're doing. And I ask how I can support them. And I look for
00:14:15.940 opportunities to help them win because I care about them. And I hope that they care about me. I believe
00:14:23.200 they do. And so I can tell these guys things that I wouldn't tell anybody else. If you
00:14:27.000 don't have people like that in your life, you're missing a very powerful opportunity to get an
00:14:31.260 ally in your corner. And, and think about this metaphor, you stepping into the octagon or you
00:14:36.580 stepping into the boxing ring and knowing that there's guys who can't necessarily get in the
00:14:42.880 fight with you. It's against the rules, right? They can't do it for you. They can't fight your battles,
00:14:47.860 but they're in your corner and they're coaching you and they're mentoring you and they're telling
00:14:53.100 things you need to hear. And they're training with you and they're guiding you and they're slapping
00:14:56.940 you in the face when you need it, kicking it in the ass when you need it, celebrating with you,
00:15:01.000 honoring you as you thrive and succeed and do what you're capable of. If you don't have those types
00:15:05.440 of people, you better get those types of people in your corner. And I've been talking about it for
00:15:09.200 six years. I won't drone on about it today. Build a band of brothers, communicate fully and faithfully
00:15:16.060 with your wife and children, find friends, find colleagues, find bosses, find brothers and mentors
00:15:21.760 who will support you so that you can take your pearls, the things that you care about,
00:15:26.100 that you deeply care about and value. And you can cast those things before the people who care about
00:15:31.040 you because they're going to honor that, not dishonor that. Like I said, this would be a short
00:15:37.220 one today, but what a powerful lesson. Let me read it again, just so you can wrap your heads around
00:15:42.860 this. Matthew 7, 6 and the King, excuse me, King James version of the Bible. Give not that which is
00:15:48.260 holy unto dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet and
00:15:54.680 turn again and rend you. And I would add to this instead, consider casting your pearls before
00:16:05.360 those who want to see you thrive and win, because they're going to help you do it. Drop the ego,
00:16:11.580 drop the need to be loved and appreciated and respected and validated by everybody else. And
00:16:18.440 find those people who truly care about you, who truly want you to win, and then open yourself to
00:16:23.740 up to those individuals so they can share things that might actually help you accomplish what it is
00:16:29.300 you desire. All right, guys, that's it. Chew on that this weekend. Think about how you might apply
00:16:35.200 that in your, in your week and in your life. And we'll be back next week for another exciting
00:16:40.320 interview and the AMA and another Friday field notes. And we'll continue to drive on as we have
00:16:44.720 over the past nearly six years now. Guys go out there, take action. Do not cast your pearls before
00:16:49.660 swine. Become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast.
00:16:55.320 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,
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