Order of Man - Dominate Your Day ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.500 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gents, what's going on today? My name is Brian Michler,

00:00:27.540 and I am the host and founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. I'm going to talk with

00:00:32.760 you today about dominating your day. This one's going to be different though than you've heard

00:00:36.800 in the past because you've heard all the other advice about eating right and exercising and waking

00:00:43.120 up on time, having a morning routine. I'm going to talk with you about some unconventional ways to

00:00:48.880 dominate your day. Things that we overlooked and often don't think about. And I think it's going

00:00:54.240 to help you on your path to becoming a better man, which is what we're doing here. So stay tuned

00:00:58.600 because in a minute, I'll get to that. But first I want to mention my friends over at Origin Maine.

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00:02:09.220 All right, guys, let's talk about dominating the day. Again, you've heard all the stuff about

00:02:13.220 eating right, planning out your day, exercise. And what I'm going to share with you is different,

00:02:18.980 not that it's more important than any of that, because I think you should be doing that. I think

00:02:22.780 you should be eating right. I think you should plan out every single day. I think you should

00:02:27.440 have a morning routine. I think that you should be getting rid of the junk food, all the things that

00:02:31.560 you already know that you've heard. Okay. So, but this is going to be a little bit more unconventional.

00:02:35.640 Now, the first one I will admit maybe is not that all that unconventional. I feel like maybe it's a bit

00:02:40.820 of a cop-out because I talk about it all the time, but I'm telling you, this is so important.

00:02:45.600 If you aren't planning out your day, gentlemen, taking 5, 10, 15 minutes every single morning

00:02:50.800 without fail, yes, even on the weekends, even on vacation, even on the holidays, if you're not

00:02:56.960 having a planning system and executing that on a daily basis, you are leaving room for growth on

00:03:02.980 the table. You're just not as effective as you could be. There's been studies that have actually shown

00:03:07.700 that we believe, especially as men, ourselves to be more effective than we are, more productive,

00:03:13.620 more profitable, et cetera, et cetera. And when the rubber meets the road, we realize that we're

00:03:18.880 falling short and we delude ourselves and we make ourselves believe that we're better than we are.

00:03:24.020 And we lie to ourselves. But if you're truthful about how you're showing up, you know that you're

00:03:30.020 underperforming regardless of where you are on the spectrum of success and productivity,

00:03:35.060 you are underperforming as am I. And I don't want to be that way. I want to perform at my maximum

00:03:40.460 capacity, not only in my business, but in my personal life and my exercise and all the other

00:03:44.660 things that I have going on and having a plan every single morning where I sit down and I review

00:03:50.440 for specific things. So let me talk with you about what those are. Number one, I go through my daily

00:03:55.620 non-negotiables. These are the things that I just talked to you about earlier, exercise, eating right,

00:04:00.380 morning routine, et cetera, et cetera. Then I go through my daily tasks. What are the things that

00:04:05.020 I have to get done today? I have to call this person. I have to make this new shirt available

00:04:09.800 in the store. I have to plan an event. I have to email these individuals. Those are the things that

00:04:15.120 are going to change on a daily basis. And those are my daily tasks. From there, I'm going to go

00:04:19.520 into each one of my objectives. If you're following along on YouTube, you can see I'm holding up the

00:04:25.300 battle planner right here. If you're not, basically I have objectives for each of four quadrants. Now I'm not

00:04:32.220 going to get into this because we've talked about it at length. You can go back and check out any

00:04:35.880 time we talk about the battle planner. This is what we're talking about here. And I'm going to go

00:04:39.740 through those four objectives and the tactic that I need to get done for each of those objectives.

00:04:44.440 And I'm going to track it. And this is my day. It's very simple. It takes five minutes, 10 minutes,

00:04:50.060 maybe 15 if I need to tweak or adjust some things, but it doesn't take any longer than that.

00:04:54.020 But how in the world are you going to know if you're going to be a success? How in the world are you

00:04:57.120 going to know what is going to make today the best day possible if you can't write it down?

00:05:01.000 A lot of guys have ideas and thoughts bouncing around their brain and that's great,

00:05:04.740 but you're going to forget stuff. Things are going to fall through the cracks unless you have a

00:05:08.780 planning system to make sure that you're making the most of each day. So that's number one, plan each

00:05:15.000 day. Number two, read a book, guys, please go read a book. And I'm not telling you have to read the

00:05:21.440 entire thing. I certainly am not Theodore Roosevelt who was known to read one to three books a day.

00:05:27.740 I can't do that. I got other things to do and I can't read that fast and retain any of that

00:05:32.660 information, but you can take 10 minutes. You can take five minutes in the morning and just

00:05:38.000 sit with your coffee or sit on the deck or while you're maybe thinking about what you want to get

00:05:43.160 done or whatever. Whatever it looks like for you is you're actually going to sit down. You're going

00:05:46.440 to read a book. You're going to read a few pages. You're going to read a chapter, however you can

00:05:51.060 squeeze that in. And I would suggest that it isn't always self-development and self-help because

00:05:57.260 I've been down this path where all I would do is read self-help books. I'd listen to self-help

00:06:02.280 podcasts. I'd watched all the videos. I'd go to all the conferences and I got inundated with all this

00:06:07.780 information and it became overwhelming to the point where I wasn't doing anything. But if you can pick

00:06:13.640 up a nonfiction book, I think that would probably round out a little bit of the information that's

00:06:20.840 being put into your brain. Jack Carr just came out with his latest, his fourth book in the series,

00:06:26.520 the James Reese series called The Devil's Hand. So you can check that book out, but maybe read

00:06:31.460 something you wouldn't normally read. And this is what makes it unconventional. Don't read the self-help

00:06:37.780 guru books. Yes, there's a time and a place for that, but mix it up, change it up because now you're

00:06:42.580 going to be able to flex your creative muscle. You're going to be looking at things from new

00:06:46.460 perspectives and new angles. You're going to free your mind up to think in new ways that it

00:06:50.660 wouldn't previously have thought if all you're doing is inundating yourself with the self-help

00:06:55.780 stuff. Again, not bad, but you know, mix it up. That's what we're trying to do. All right. Number

00:07:01.720 three, call somebody from your network. Okay. This is where it starts to get a little bit more

00:07:05.720 unconventional for you guys. Call somebody from your network. And I'm suggesting that you do this every

00:07:09.960 single day. There might be somebody that you haven't connected with for a while. There might

00:07:16.860 be a connection that you can actually make for another individual, or maybe it's somebody who

00:07:21.780 you aren't really all that connected with and you want to develop and foster a deeper relationship

00:07:26.980 with that person. But I would suggest to you that every single day, you ought to pick up this little

00:07:32.020 device that does more than just social media, the likes and whatnot on YouTube and Instagram and

00:07:37.420 Twitter and everywhere else and actually use it to connect with somebody who you want to develop a

00:07:44.660 deeper, more connected relationship with. Again, that could be a business alliance, a strategic

00:07:50.980 partner. It could be a friend. It could be somebody who, again, you want to develop a deeper relationship

00:07:56.520 with, but calling somebody every day and getting in the habit of using this device to connect with

00:08:02.680 people, what it's actually used, supposed to be used for is a very powerful thing. And if you compound

00:08:08.560 enough of what I'm talking about with you today on a daily basis, you cannot help, but when you will

00:08:13.640 win inevitably, if you compound enough of what I'm going to share with you today over and over and over

00:08:18.740 again, every single day, month in, month out, year in, year out, and, and be consistent in this stuff.

00:08:26.860 So what I would say, and I should have reminded you of this earlier is get a notepad out and write

00:08:32.780 these 10 things down, put them in, put them in your daily plan. Your, however you're planning out

00:08:36.400 your day, put it in your daily plan, write these 10 things down. Again, number one, planning out every

00:08:40.620 single day. Number two, reading a book or at least a portion of a book. And number three, calling somebody

00:08:47.160 from your network. And by the way, when I say call somebody from your network, it doesn't mean that you

00:08:52.140 have to ask them for something that you're trying to get something. In fact, it shouldn't always be

00:08:57.860 like that. And maybe you want to pay somebody a compliment, or you saw an article about somebody

00:09:03.220 you want to connect with that you have a loose connection with. And so you, you forward that

00:09:06.540 along to them in a text or a DM on social media and follow up. That's what I'm talking about.

00:09:11.760 Connect with the people you want to connect with and forge deeper relationships with.

00:09:15.140 So that's number three. Uh, number four is to learn to say no and also learn to say yes,

00:09:22.920 because those should only be the only two choices that you make on a daily basis. When you're

00:09:27.760 thinking about what needs to get done, no. And yes. So why am I telling you to do both? Well,

00:09:33.500 here's what I would suggest. A lot of us have a tendency of saying yes to the things that we know

00:09:39.020 we should say no to, but we lack the spine to be able to do it.

00:09:45.140 And what I want you to do is I want you to get stronger in the department of managing your time

00:09:51.400 effectively so that it can be allocated towards the things that are the most important to you,

00:09:56.840 your family, your church, your business, your charitable services, whatever it is that is

00:10:02.900 important to you. I want you to learn how to say no to the things that get in the way of doing that.

00:10:09.260 We aren't really good at that. And it's as with anything, if you practice it,

00:10:14.660 you make a deliberate and conscious effort of, of doing it, you will get better. It's harder at

00:10:20.620 first and harder and harder. And then it gradually becomes easier and easier and easier and more

00:10:26.340 manageable, but you have to start somewhere. So here's what I would suggest when it comes to the

00:10:31.120 no department, try not to make your decisions so quickly. Give yourself a little bit of margin.

00:10:37.260 If somebody comes to you with a request that you aren't interested in entertaining or you can't

00:10:41.600 for whatever reason, and you're inclined to say yes all the time, and you don't quite know how to say

00:10:47.280 no, what I would say to that individual is, thank you for bringing that to my attention, or thank you

00:10:53.260 for asking me about that. I've got to look at my schedule. I've got to think about how that might

00:10:58.180 work. And I will get back with you before noon or whatever, whenever's appropriate.

00:11:03.340 What that's going to do is that's going to allow you the margin and the space to be able to formulate

00:11:10.880 an answer. Now, I wish I could just tell you, yeah, you just say no. And some of you have no

00:11:15.040 problem with that. I don't have a problem with that, but I've also practiced it. But I know there's

00:11:18.520 a lot of guys who have a problem with that. And so create the space, create the margin. Then you can

00:11:23.820 really think, I actually don't have time for this. You can look at your schedule. You can look at what

00:11:27.840 your priorities are. You can look at your daily plan that you actually just went through earlier

00:11:33.120 in the day. And you can see you don't have time for it. And then you can formulate a solid response

00:11:39.100 to that individual. And I wouldn't say lie to the individual. We're not formulating a lie or a story.

00:11:44.720 You're just formulating your thoughts so that you can give that person the respect of an intelligent,

00:11:51.180 thoughtful answer or a polite decline and how you're going to say it and how you're going to frame it.

00:11:55.660 So say no to the things that you should be saying no to. Now, in point number four,

00:12:01.000 which is say no, I also said and say yes. I'm saying say yes to things that normally you wouldn't

00:12:06.820 say yes to. Maybe there's an opportunity for a luncheon or a connection or to go on a camp out

00:12:13.360 with somebody that you want to get to know better or whatever. There's a thousand different things it

00:12:18.040 could be. And a lot of the times the things that we should say yes to, we don't because we're afraid.

00:12:23.720 Just like we're afraid of saying no to somebody, we're afraid to say yes to something that could

00:12:28.260 actually present a real opportunity for you. I get offers occasionally from individuals who listen.

00:12:36.700 And although I can't entertain all of those offers, I do make a conscious effort to say

00:12:40.960 yes to more than I normally would because I realize there are opportunities there to meet new people,

00:12:46.680 to develop new skills, which is something I'm going to talk with you about here in a minute.

00:12:49.740 But think about, really think about what you're saying no to and what you're saying yes to and

00:12:56.000 ask yourself, what if I did the opposite? What if all the things I would say yes to normally,

00:13:01.460 I said no to, and all the things I would say no to normally, I would say yes to. And try it,

00:13:06.520 experiment with it because there's going to be some very cool experiences, opportunities, life lessons,

00:13:13.000 connections, networking situations that are going to arise. If you say yes to the things that fear

00:13:19.840 would normally keep you from saying yes to that's number four, say no and say yes. Number five,

00:13:25.920 I want you to just try something new. It does not matter what it is guys. Just try something new,

00:13:32.900 push yourself outside of your comfort zone, get uncomfortable, make it challenging. And really you

00:13:40.320 don't have to have any reason to do this. It doesn't have to be to some end. There doesn't

00:13:46.580 always have to be some end in mind. I know I'm very goal oriented. I talk about this a lot,

00:13:51.380 how to create and establish goals, why they're important, why it's going to move you in the

00:13:55.580 right direction. And there's a time and a place for that. But there's also a time and a place to do

00:14:00.240 things just because, because they're intrinsically valuable. Reading, for example, I told you earlier to

00:14:05.240 read a fictional work. Okay. Well, a lot of you are thinking, yeah, but I could be reading the

00:14:11.660 self-help thing and it's going to help me make more money or better my relationships. And while

00:14:15.980 that is true, there's also value in just reading for the sake of reading. It's intrinsically valuable.

00:14:22.840 It doesn't have to move you to some ultimate desire and objective. Now it probably will,

00:14:28.300 but there's things that are just valuable because you're doing them.

00:14:31.040 So maybe there's a new hobby. Maybe there's a new restaurant that's open that you want to take

00:14:38.620 your wife to. Maybe it's a new book that you wanted to read. Maybe there's an opportunity to

00:14:44.180 present to your business partners or to some sort of networking group like Business Network

00:14:50.120 International or your Chamber of Commerce. These are all opportunities to push outside of your comfort

00:14:55.640 zone to do something that you've never done before and to give you a new perspective and potentially

00:15:01.420 a new skillset that you can work on and develop over time that will serve you well. So again,

00:15:07.100 these are things that I'm suggesting that you do every single day. Now, the odds of you implementing

00:15:11.800 these 10 things that I'm sharing with you on top of what you're already doing is probably not

00:15:17.080 extremely likely, but maybe you do something new once a week, or maybe you implement five of these

00:15:25.640 things a day. And on Tuesday, you do the other five. And then on Wednesday, you pick five random

00:15:30.640 ones. And on Thursday, you pick the other five random ones you didn't choose on Wednesday.

00:15:34.820 Mix it up. These are all very effective strategies for improving your life and trying something new

00:15:40.720 is a big way to do that. All right. Number six, develop a valuable skill set. Now, this is different

00:15:48.400 from trying something new. What I'm actually telling you to do now is to dive deeper into something that

00:15:53.600 you already know. So this is a learning opportunity that you can actually pinpoint and isolate what you

00:15:59.880 want to get better at. So if you want to get better at public speaking, then maybe you need to prepare

00:16:07.000 a presentation. Maybe you need to pitch this or present this to your friends or your colleagues,

00:16:12.680 coworkers. Maybe there's an opportunity to, like I said, a minute ago to present to BNI or to your

00:16:17.720 chamber or in your church congregation or a men's group. Maybe it's, you want to, you want to learn to

00:16:24.220 hunt. This is something that, you know, I'm doing is we are going to be fast approaching hunting season

00:16:28.500 for us is I'll go outside and I'll go shoot. And it doesn't have to be long, but I'll go out and shoot

00:16:33.800 five or 10 or 20 arrows. And I'm developing a skill set that I already have, but I'm getting

00:16:39.780 better. I'm refining. I'm honing that skill set so I can be much more effective when it comes to

00:16:46.460 whatever it is I'm after. And one, one thing I want to share as I go through this list is a lot

00:16:52.020 of guys will talk to me about confidence issues. I'm not confident. I don't feel confident in who I am.

00:16:56.260 I feel uneasy. I feel nervous. I don't feel like I have my footing or grounding. These are all ways to

00:17:03.100 develop and build confidence guys. Like if you're trying, if you're trying something new and you're

00:17:08.440 reaching out and you're reading books and your day is planned and you're honing other skills that you

00:17:12.560 already have, you're just getting better at them. How can you not be more confident? And then that

00:17:18.140 confidence is going to breed more confidence. And it's also going to breed courage, which is going

00:17:22.240 to allow you to do even more down the road. This is what we want. Confidence isn't something that

00:17:29.140 you just get to have. It isn't something that you stumble upon. It isn't something that's just

00:17:32.940 some people are born with. Now we earn it and we earn it by doing these things, by putting ourselves

00:17:39.060 into action and by making ourselves better. And regardless of where you are on, on, on the spectrum

00:17:46.900 of skillsets and, and how good or how bad you are at that thing, if you're moving the needle, how could

00:17:52.280 you not feel better? And I talk with a lot of guys who are anxious and depressed and even suicidal

00:17:57.740 and barring, you know, mental illness. And of course I would recommend therapy where that's

00:18:03.140 appropriate as well. Oftentimes I tell these individuals to get moving, get up, get off the

00:18:08.660 couch, go engage in something, move your body, move your mind, try a new skill, get better at something

00:18:15.980 you're already pretty decent at. How, how, how could you feel bad about yourself by doing that? Of course you

00:18:21.620 can't. So get, get it done. All right. So that's number six, develop a new skill. Number seven,

00:18:26.200 this one's a little different. Probably haven't heard this a whole lot, but your day is going to

00:18:30.260 be incredibly more successful and not just that day, but the day after and the day after and the

00:18:34.920 day after. And you're going to stack these together. When you do this, ask powerful questions,

00:18:40.560 ask powerful questions. Guys, one of the quotes that I like, you've heard me talk about it is

00:18:45.300 the quality of your life will be determined by the quality of questions that you ask. Now I'm in a,

00:18:51.620 unique position that I ask questions for a living. I interview successful men. I have them on the

00:18:57.860 podcast. I ask them questions. They give me their answers. And then I try to implement those things

00:19:02.400 into my life. And of course, share that with you. So you can do the same. So I get to see real time

00:19:08.500 how my questions work. And I get to experiment with those questions. I think over the past six years

00:19:13.980 now that I've gotten better at asking those questions relative to what I was doing six years ago,

00:19:19.860 but that's because I'm deliberate and intentional about it. That's because I'm spending time thinking

00:19:24.160 about it. And so there are people in your circle who are better at things than you are.

00:19:29.740 And if you're not asking them questions, what a wasted opportunity.

00:19:34.480 And you know, the other thing that is kind of an unintended consequence of, or result, I should say,

00:19:40.520 because consequence kind of has a negative connotation. So a result of asking questions

00:19:45.280 is people are going to like you more flat out. People are going to like you more.

00:19:50.040 If you ask individuals about their lives, about a specific skill set they have that you want to

00:19:56.880 develop, or you want to learn, and you want to get better at, or you're just curious about,

00:20:01.120 and you ask those individuals about that, they're going to like you more. Yeah. You're going to pick

00:20:05.000 up the information and hopefully you're going to apply it. That's why we ask the questions,

00:20:08.420 but people are going to be connected with you. They're going to like you. And they may not even

00:20:12.340 fully understand or know why, but they know that, Hey, this is somebody who's interested.

00:20:19.480 This is somebody who's interesting. This is somebody who cares about what I have to say.

00:20:25.000 It's flattering. You're going to be a more likable person. So what makes a powerful question?

00:20:30.560 Something that's specific, something that's relevant. Okay. If it's not relevant to the issue

00:20:36.880 or conversation or an individual, it's not a very powerful question and something that's open-ended.

00:20:42.340 If it's just a yet, how's your day? Oh, it's good. Okay. Well, that's not really a very powerful

00:20:49.160 question. If you said, on the other hand, what was the best part of your day or what do you enjoy

00:20:55.200 most about your day? Okay. That's more powerful. It's specific. It's relevant in a certain context

00:21:02.880 and it's open-ended. Now the person actually has to answer and engage in a dialogue, which is what you

00:21:08.520 want. If you asked a closed question, how's your day? Good. Conversation's over. Your goal is to open

00:21:14.720 up conversation. What do you enjoy most about your day? That's a very simple way to reframe a very

00:21:23.520 rudimentary question that everybody knows. They ask about the day. What do you like best about your job?

00:21:29.800 Hey, you've been pretty successful financially. What's your single best piece of advice for

00:21:37.380 building wealth or somebody who's in the stock market? What stock do you like at the most? I

00:21:43.160 like this. Why do you like that one? What is it about that? Or how do you choose the best stock to

00:21:47.760 invest in? That's an even better question. You have to experiment with this, play around with this a

00:21:52.600 little bit. But again, it has to be specific. Can't just be broad. Like, oh, how does the universe

00:21:59.600 work? I don't even like, I don't know what you're asking. Okay. That's not a great question. So it

00:22:06.240 has to be specific. It has to be relevant. If I have a business owner in front of me and I get to ask him

00:22:13.280 about starting a business and I'm asking about him playing baseball when he was seven, that's a waste

00:22:20.780 of questioning. Like ask something that's relevant and then make sure it's open-ended. Focus on that.

00:22:26.740 It's very powerful and it's often overlooked. I mean, think about the most successful people in

00:22:31.580 the world. I think about even in the podcasting space, you know, think about Joe Rogan, very good

00:22:35.380 at leading a discussion through asking questions. All sorts of individuals are good at this. And the

00:22:41.060 people who ask the best questions and then implement them are the people who are always going to win.

00:22:45.780 All right. Number, so that was number seven. Number eight, just help somebody in need.

00:22:50.780 Just help somebody in need. That's it. And it, and it doesn't have to be a little old lady that 1.00

00:22:58.060 you're helping cross the street. Okay. I mean, that might be a way to help. Sure. But you should

00:23:03.100 do that by the way, if you didn't already know that. But just, it might just be some, maybe it's

00:23:10.080 a colleague who's struggling with an element at work. Just help that individual. Hey, how's it going?

00:23:15.920 I know you got the deadline coming up. You seem a little stressed out about it. Are you, are you

00:23:20.780 okay? Are there things you're struggling with? Is there something that I can do to assist, to help?

00:23:25.300 Can I make a connection? Can I offer a resource? Can I offer a set of extra set of eyeballs to look at

00:23:29.480 whatever we're looking at? Like, what is it that I can do to help you and look for those opportunities?

00:23:34.100 This is how you make yourself valuable. And don't you want to be valuable? Don't you feel good when

00:23:38.980 you're valuable to other people? Of course. And it's also just doing the right thing.

00:23:44.520 Helping other people as they need it. If somebody needs a connection and you happen to have that

00:23:49.000 connection, then you should bend over backwards to be able to make that connection. Because that's

00:23:52.920 what, that's the right thing to do. But also everybody wins. The person that you're connecting,

00:23:59.360 the person that you're connecting to the other individual and yourself, you all win in that

00:24:03.940 environment. The little old lady who's crossing the street. Yeah, man, she needs some help. So 1.00

00:24:09.660 go help her. She's going to win because she's going to get safely across the street. And you're

00:24:14.980 going to win because you're going to feel good about yourself and the value that you add to society.

00:24:19.480 And I actually think that's one of the biggest problems in society. Everybody is so self-absorbed.

00:24:25.140 Me, me, me. How can I get mine? Well, I got to get it while the getting's good. Screw everybody else.

00:24:30.460 I'm just going to worry about myself. That's, that's one of the biggest problems with culture

00:24:36.880 today. And we overcome that by just stop doing that and start looking outwards. What can I do

00:24:43.640 to serve other individuals? And how can you not win? And how can you not feel better about yourself?

00:24:49.140 And now how can you not open up doors and create opportunities that would not otherwise be

00:24:53.580 available if you just shut yourself in and worry about yourself the entire time?

00:24:57.400 Let's stop being so selfish and focus on how we can help other individuals.

00:25:03.720 All right. Number nine, create abundance, create abundance. So number eight was about creating

00:25:10.480 value, right? You're helping other people. Now I'm talking about creating abundance. And what I mean

00:25:14.660 by this is not just financial, but it certainly could be is that at the end of today, you should be

00:25:19.920 wealthier than you were yesterday. Even if it's a dollar or $5 or $10,

00:25:26.040 take a look at your financial statements. What can you do? Can you put $1 aside into a separate

00:25:31.520 account? That's abundance. When you're going to the grocery store, can you buy extra cans of food

00:25:37.640 to put in your food storage? That's abundance. It's only going to cost you $3. That's abundance.

00:25:43.160 Look for ways that you can set assets and resources and provisions financially, physically aside away

00:25:54.460 for a rainy day. Because when you do that, you're going to be in a better position and you're going

00:25:59.260 to feel more confident about your position. You're going to feel better about where you are right now.

00:26:03.900 And you're also going to feel better about the future. And if you feel better about the future,

00:26:08.680 you have more hope for the future, which means that you will work harder, that you will be more

00:26:13.760 directed in your activities and endeavors, because you see that there's a reason for doing it.

00:26:19.380 If there's no hope, there wouldn't be a reason for you to get out of bed.

00:26:24.080 I mean, I even think about this when it comes to men who are suicidal. They believe there's no hope.

00:26:32.080 There might be some mental illness, not discounting that for sure.

00:26:35.540 But these guys believe that there is no hope. Because if they believe there was hope,

00:26:41.120 even just to that amount, they would be less inclined to take themselves out of this world.

00:26:49.140 So we have to give ourselves hope. I mean, it would be nice if people stepped up to help us.

00:26:53.980 And that's why we should strive to help other individuals, as I said earlier. But in the absence

00:26:58.520 of that, or even in the presence of that, you should be helping yourself. Build abundance,

00:27:04.620 build wealth, pay off debt, set provisions aside, and you're going to feel better.

00:27:10.440 You're going to feel more productive. You're going to feel like a man, frankly,

00:27:14.340 because that's what men do. We plan and we anticipate, and we look for threats to our

00:27:20.200 livelihood, to our well-being, to the well-being of our family and friends and people we care about.

00:27:24.600 And when you're setting provisions aside, you're acting manly, and you will feel manly.

00:27:30.960 If you take a little boy, for example, he's not setting anything aside. He's a consumer of

00:27:36.720 resources. That's why there's some men, I should say age, the age of men, but they're acting more

00:27:45.760 like boys because they can't even provide for themselves, let alone for anybody else.

00:27:50.960 Be a man. Set the provisions aside. All right. And the last one here, guys,

00:27:56.920 this kind of goes back, not kind of, it does go back into point number one. And that is that you

00:28:02.800 should be recapping each day. Every day needs to be recapped. Don't just shut down the computer.

00:28:09.480 Don't just veg out at the end of the day with a beer and in front of the TV. Don't just fall asleep

00:28:15.920 wherever you are. No. Recap your day. What did you get done? What didn't you get done?

00:28:22.260 What do you need to do tomorrow? How can you improve? Start planning your day tonight for

00:28:28.080 tomorrow. You're going to be better off when you do. It's easy to overlook. And it doesn't take

00:28:33.900 that long, actually. Again, five, 10 minutes, five, 10, 15 minutes before, five, 10, 15 minutes after,

00:28:39.920 at the end of every day. If that's all you did in listening to the 10 points I just gave you,

00:28:44.500 your life would drastically improve. It would radically improve over the next week. I promise.

00:28:50.340 I guarantee you. Over the next seven days, if you were to do that, plan out the day and recap every

00:28:56.680 day, your life would drastically improve over a seven-day period. Very simple. If you did all of

00:29:03.880 these things, your life would be almost unrecognizable in a very, very short period of time.

00:29:09.000 Opportunities would unfold themselves before you. People would want to be around you.

00:29:16.020 You're going to be making connections. You're going to be wheeling and dealing. You're going

00:29:19.320 to be making deals. You're going to be building wealth. You're going to be getting strong.

00:29:23.300 You're going to feel good about yourself. Forget about everything else. You're going to feel good

00:29:27.300 about yourself for once in your life. I mean, I know there's a lot of guys who do not feel good

00:29:33.760 about themselves. And there's no amount of popular phrasing and thoughts about the body

00:29:42.980 positive movement and just love yourself for who you are. No amount of that is going to make you feel

00:29:48.240 better. And no amount of alcohol or drugs or pornography or whatever at TV, whatever else it

00:29:55.440 is that you sedate yourself with is going to make you feel better. Yeah. Temporarily as you're high and

00:30:00.500 buzzed. Yeah, for sure. You're going to feel better for an hour. And then guess what? You're

00:30:05.900 going to feel worse than you did before because not only did that stuff all come back to your mind,

00:30:11.040 now you feel guilty because you, again, didn't address it properly and you did something you

00:30:17.360 didn't want to do. So here's what I would suggest that you replace it with. These 10 steps,

00:30:22.180 10 points to dominate your day. So let's recap them. Number one, plan out every single day.

00:30:27.280 Use the battle planner, use your own planner, use a blank piece of paper, use Google calendar. I don't

00:30:32.060 care, but plan out every single day. Look at your non-negotiables, look at your daily tasks,

00:30:36.760 and look at your objectives that you need to accomplish for the day. Number two, read a book.

00:30:41.900 And I would suggest to you that it be a fictional work. You need something different. You need to mix

00:30:48.260 it up. If you're anything like me, you've read all the self-help books, you've read them multiple times

00:30:51.880 over. They're good and they serve their purpose. And I will continue to read self-help books.

00:30:55.760 But as I mature, I see the value in fictional work. Go pick up The Devil's Hand by Jack Hart. That's a

00:31:03.400 good resource for you. Or Endurance is another good one by Alfred Lansing. That's another good one.

00:31:12.860 That's not a fictional work. That's a historical book about Ernest Shackleton's ill-fated adventures

00:31:20.820 in the Antarctic. Check that one out. So that was number two, read a book. Number three,

00:31:26.160 call somebody from your network, somebody you want to develop a relationship with,

00:31:29.540 somebody that you want to connect deeper with, somebody you haven't talked with for a while,

00:31:32.880 or somebody you can make a connection for, but network, get good at networking.

00:31:36.240 Number four, learn to say no to the things you should say no to, and yes to the things that you

00:31:42.820 should say yes to. Number five, try something new. Push yourself outside of your comfort zone.

00:31:48.440 Every day, could be little, could be major, but every day doing something new. Number six,

00:31:53.920 developing, honing, refining, fostering a skillset that you already possess, that you want to get

00:31:58.920 better at, that you want to improve. It could be physical, mental, emotional. It could be something

00:32:03.360 about communication or a hobby or an activity, whatever, but develop a skillset that you already

00:32:08.720 have. You just want to improve and get better at it. Number seven, ask powerful questions. Again,

00:32:14.380 powerful questions are specific, they are relevant, and they are open-ended. Those are powerful

00:32:21.300 questions. Number eight, help somebody in need. This is how we add value. It could be the little old

00:32:27.400 lady who's crossing the street or the neighbor who needs their lawn mode, or it could be that you're

00:32:32.280 serving in your church, and somebody needs a word of advice or encouragement, or it could be that

00:32:39.820 your colleague needs help on that new task or project they've been assigned. That's how you add

00:32:44.480 value. That's how men add value, help somebody in need. Number nine is create abundance and prosperity

00:32:50.360 in your life. Set aside a dollar or five dollars or a hundred dollars. I don't know what your financial

00:32:54.560 situation is, but do it every single day. I'm going to be wealthier today. When you're at the grocery

00:32:59.200 store, buy two, three, five extra cans of beans or a bag of rice, whatever, so that you can put

00:33:05.800 into your food storage. This is how we build and create abundance in our lives. It's not going to

00:33:09.800 always be easy. It's not always going to be convenient. That's why so many people don't do it.

00:33:14.300 Be one of the people who does, who can push, even though it is not easy, even though it is not

00:33:18.560 comfortable or not always convenient. And then number 10 is recap your day. I started with plan your day,

00:33:25.020 and I'm ending with recap your day. Look at what went well, look at what didn't go so well,

00:33:30.740 figure out what you need to do tomorrow. And I promise if you implement this into your life,

00:33:34.280 man, you're going to be unstoppable in a very short period of time. You don't have to do them

00:33:38.680 all every day, do as many as you can. Sure. But if you picked three or four or five off that list,

00:33:44.460 it's you're going to change your life. And that's what I want. And you got to do it consistently.

00:33:49.840 If you do it today and don't ever do it again, well, okay, that was probably a wasted effort,

00:33:53.280 but you got to be in this thing all day, every day, every month, every year for the rest of your

00:33:58.280 life. That's what it's going to take. And if you want to be successful, if you want to have a good

00:34:02.780 relationship, you want to grow your business, you want to start a business, you want to move up in

00:34:06.040 your career. You want to feel better about who you are. This is what it takes. There's no body positive

00:34:12.460 movement. There's no feel good, you know, hippie bull crap. It's going to make you feel better 1.00

00:34:17.400 permanently about yourself. Yeah. You can, you can lie to yourself. You can be delusional for a little bit.

00:34:22.960 You can be all hopped up and inspirational and motivated about things because somebody told

00:34:28.020 you, you know, you're special, just the way you are. I mean, you, you have the potential to be

00:34:33.300 sure as do I, and I know I feel best when not I'm comfortable with where I am, but I'm actively

00:34:41.080 moving to where I could be. That's when I feel the best about myself. And I think you will too.

00:34:46.200 All right, guys, that's all I've got. We'll be back next week until then go out there,

00:34:50.420 take action and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man

00:34:55.060 podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.

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