Order of Man - Dust Yourself Off, Get Back on the Path

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:05.020 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.260 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.840 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Brian Michler.

00:00:27.820 I'm your host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. My voice today sounds

00:00:33.940 uncharacteristically deep, and that's because I'm dealing with a bit of a head cold right now.

00:00:40.060 I got the crud. I was supposed to spend about five or six hours recording my book over the

00:00:48.400 next couple of days, but that's not going to happen because of my voice. So anyways, I'll

00:00:54.380 be back on the path and back on track here shortly, but I did want to put out this Friday

00:00:57.660 field notes. It's important I get you this information. And regardless of how we feel

00:01:02.180 at times, it is important that we show up and honor our commitments and do what we can to

00:01:06.340 make sure that we follow through on the things that we say we're going to do. And one of the

00:01:10.400 things that I've said that I'm going to do, and it continues to hold true, is that I will

00:01:14.680 put out a podcast every single week. In fact, I'll put out three per week, barring some

00:01:20.500 sort of catastrophic event and a bit of a man cold ain't a catastrophic event. So today,

00:01:27.220 guys, I want to talk with you about getting back on the path because we all slip from time

00:01:32.000 to time. We all fall. We all get banged up. We've got external and extenuating circumstances

00:01:37.760 that arise that some within our control and some are outside of our control. And it's really

00:01:44.600 what we do in those moments that define us as men. A lot of the times it's easy to look

00:01:50.380 at another person and believe that individual has it all figured out and how wonderful and

00:01:55.940 great and they've got the Midas touch, but you're not really tested until things go wrong.

00:02:00.360 You're not really tested until things become challenging. And I wanted to talk with you about

00:02:04.540 this today because I alluded to it on Wednesday's Ask Me Anything that over the past 60 to 90 days

00:02:12.320 or so, I feel like I've gotten off the path that I've slipped quite a bit. So I've got some points

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00:03:02.340 All right, guys, let's get into it. And like I said, I feel like I've gotten off track the past

00:03:09.140 several months. And part of that is because I felt so overwhelmed with the success that

00:03:14.060 we're having with order of man. And I know that sounds silly and even pretentious to say that

00:03:19.120 I'm overwhelmed with how good things are going. I'm not sure I ever thought that I up until recently

00:03:28.380 would believe that's the case. And so what ends up happening is I have opportunities and

00:03:34.100 demands for my time and energy and attention from all sorts of different sources and outlets and

00:03:40.340 places. And I'm trying to decipher what's going to be best for what we're doing and best for my family

00:03:45.820 and best for me versus what I can let go. And I've always wanted to be a high value man. That's

00:03:51.360 something that we talk a lot about here on this podcast, of course, and I know you do as well.

00:03:55.080 And so I became very overwhelmed with all of these opportunities and things knocking on our door

00:04:01.260 and I wanted to do everything. And because I wanted to do everything, I realized very quickly

00:04:08.340 that I would say yes. And then I was letting things fall through the cracks because I just didn't have

00:04:15.620 the time or energy or capacity to do all of the things that I wanted to do and serve all of the

00:04:20.480 people I wanted to serve in a meaningful and significant way, at least in my perspective.

00:04:26.620 And so I felt guilty that I was letting things fall through the cracks and I felt guilty that I

00:04:31.920 wasn't serving the people that I wanted to serve and those even closest to me. And so rather than

00:04:37.920 figuring it out, here's where I slipped. And I think a lot of us do this as men is we withdraw.

00:04:45.000 Instead of doubling down, instead of coming up with systems and processes and figuring out a path

00:04:51.400 forward, a lot of the times we withdraw as men. Now, I don't like talking with you guys about

00:04:56.100 this stuff. I know as I do, there's going to be comments from people, idiots who make light of the

00:05:04.820 situation and whatever they're going to say. But I think that's also part of the problem that we're not

00:05:11.240 really willing to talk about the issues and the challenges that we deal with. And I want you to

00:05:16.620 know that you may look at me, which is still a foreign concept to me, that you may look at me as

00:05:23.120 somebody who has all of his stuff figured out. And I've got a lot figured out, but even I get

00:05:29.320 overwhelmed and inundated and consumed and frustrated and I slip and I get off the path. And so I stopped

00:05:35.820 working out and my horrible nutrition choices get the better of me. Or I deviate from doing my daily

00:05:44.540 planning, which means I'm not as effective, which means that in my home life, I lose my patience and

00:05:51.380 lose my temper because I'm guilty about not getting as much done at work. So it's this perpetual cycle

00:05:58.600 of destruction unless we as men can figure out a way to overcome the things that are frustrating us in our

00:06:06.780 lives and come up with a solution moving forward. So I can't tell you I have the perfect solution. This is

00:06:13.160 something that I deal with from time to time. I know that about myself. My wife actually calls it

00:06:18.340 entrepreneurial PMS, which is pretty fitting, actually. I'm not sure if I know what cycle it's on

00:06:24.200 necessarily, but there are bouts of frustration, growing pains, which is what we're dealing with

00:06:33.500 now and just falling off the cliff, so to speak. So I've got five points that I've been working on

00:06:42.000 over the past several weeks and over the past several months that have really gotten me back

00:06:45.300 on track. And I'm feeling pretty good minus my man cold I'm dealing with about getting myself back

00:06:50.840 on the path. And here's what I would say, number one, is you guys have to come to the realization

00:06:55.420 that something's actually wrong. Because a lot of times we won't come to that conclusion because we

00:07:01.220 don't have time set aside every single day and other people in our corner to help us evaluate our

00:07:07.100 performance from an objective standpoint. It's hard to know that you're slipping because it happens so

00:07:15.100 gradually and slowly, and it could take months or even years. And a year or two down the road,

00:07:21.600 you look back and think, man, I'm not happy. Why am I not happy? Why am I not productive? Why am I

00:07:26.520 not doing the things that I know I should be doing? Why am I not fulfilled? Why am I losing my patience?

00:07:31.380 Why do I have anger issues? All of these things that we deal with as men on a daily basis.

00:07:38.120 Well, I would submit to you that it didn't just happen last night, that it's happened over weeks and

00:07:42.740 months and years of slipping and falling and then never really being intentional about how that's

00:07:50.420 happening. So, what I would encourage you to do, as I have done over the past several months, and I've

00:07:56.340 certainly done in the past, is to have dedicated reflection time to consider your performance and

00:08:03.720 consider how you feel. I know emotions are bad. I get all that stoicism and all that. That's a

00:08:10.280 misunderstanding of the concept of stoicism, by the way. And I cringe a bit when I hear people even

00:08:18.100 allude to the fact that men shouldn't be emotional. Well, we're human beings and we are emotional

00:08:25.000 creatures. Now, we shouldn't react emotionally. If I'm pissed off at something, I don't need to

00:08:31.280 hit somebody or yell at somebody or break something. Okay, that's an emotional reaction.

00:08:37.560 Instead, we should be responding. So, you're considering how you feel. Hey, I'm angry. I'm

00:08:43.940 impatient. I feel stressed. And we take these things that we feel and then we use them as a

00:08:51.060 litmus test, so to speak, to really try to understand if we are indeed on the path that we want to be on.

00:08:58.940 Now, look, things happen from day to day and I'm going to be glad one day and sad another and happy

00:09:04.520 this day and angry the next based on what's happening around me. But if you notice trends

00:09:09.960 of a general sense of unhappiness, impatience, anger issues, and those become trends, it's time to start

00:09:19.680 evaluating what in the world is going on. And we'll move into what you do when you start to

00:09:23.840 experience that. But if you don't have dedicated time, and I would suggest to you that maybe it's 15,

00:09:28.580 20 minutes in the morning, and maybe it's 15 to 20 minutes in the evening, then these should be times

00:09:33.860 where there's no distractions. You're not on your phone. You're not on your computer. The kids aren't

00:09:38.680 bouncing on your leg. Your wife isn't asking you about your day or anything like that. Not that any

00:09:43.980 of that is necessarily wrong, but it needs to be dedicated time where you can go and you can go into

00:09:49.760 your office or you can go to your garage or you can go to your happy place, if you will. And if you

00:09:56.020 don't have a place where you can go and you feel good and it's conducive to the type of thinking and

00:10:02.440 visualization that you want in your life, then that might be something to consider as well.

00:10:07.020 I know a lot of the times when you have your wife and you have children that in many ways you start to

00:10:13.820 lose control of the house and areas start to become less and less yours. You need to establish those

00:10:21.760 boundaries. This office, for example, is mine. The barn is mine. People don't come in here and dump

00:10:26.620 all their stuff. They don't come in here and make a mess. My sons or daughter might come in here to

00:10:33.000 clean occasionally because they want to earn an extra few dollars or something like that. But outside of

00:10:37.780 that, this is my space. Same thing with the barn. And when my kids and my wife start putting stuff in

00:10:42.000 the barn, I have to remind them, hey, uh-uh, your mess, your trash, your stuff does not migrate over here.

00:10:47.740 You have the rest of the house and you can do that in your room. You can do that wherever it

00:10:52.380 is you do, but it ain't happening here. And so I have time and I have a place where I can go

00:10:58.520 and not escape. I'm not talking about escapism, but go as a reprieve where I can start thinking about

00:11:07.760 how I'm showing up, how I'm performing, what I want my life to look like, what a successful day is

00:11:13.840 going to be planning out my day, those sorts of things. Number two, we have to get better

00:11:20.140 at saying no, gentlemen. It is more difficult than it should be for a lot of guys. And it has

00:11:26.780 been for me in the past and it has been recently. I've gotten away from saying no because I want to

00:11:32.980 serve people. I want to help other people. I want people to win. I want to be a value add to my

00:11:38.260 community, to my neighborhood, to my family and friends, to you guys. And so I've gotten in the

00:11:44.100 habit of saying, yes, sure. Yes, sure. Yes, sure. And I've had people reach out and want to have

00:11:49.900 meetings and appointments and things like this that I'm frankly, I'm just not interested in having,

00:11:55.240 and that's okay. That's another realization you need to come to is that you don't have to do

00:12:00.400 something if you don't want to do it. A lot of times we believe we do because again, we want to be

00:12:06.000 high value men. So I've got good at saying, no, I'm sorry. I'm not going to do that. And I don't

00:12:11.100 need to offer an excuse. I don't need to offer an explanation. I don't need to do any sort of thing

00:12:17.060 other than just say, Hey, appreciate the opportunity or I appreciate the offer. Seems like you're doing

00:12:21.180 great things, but that's not for me. No, I'm not going to be able to do that. Whatever you need to

00:12:26.000 say. Sometimes the best thing you can do is say, Hey, when do you need an answer by? Well, I need it by

00:12:30.640 Sunday. Well, okay. That gives you two days, right? And you can withdraw yourself from the

00:12:37.220 environment, not escapism, just withdraw for a minute and really begin to look at the thing,

00:12:43.200 the opportunity, the ask, the request, the phone call, the appointment from an objective space when

00:12:49.760 you're not so pressed for time. And that person actually has you on the phone or in person.

00:12:55.120 So give yourself some margin, give yourself some space. And then you can say no to the things that

00:13:00.060 don't excite you, the things that aren't going to move the needle. This goes back to point number

00:13:03.880 one. You actually have to know what it is you want to. I want to grow a business, but not at the

00:13:08.980 expense of my family. So I want to be there for my daughter's swim lessons. I want to be there for

00:13:14.860 my son's powerlifting competitions. I want to be there in the evenings and available for my wife and

00:13:20.920 have dinner together as a family. And so if I'm saying yes to everything else, where's that time

00:13:27.520 going to come from? Well, it's going to come from my other priorities. And that's what gets

00:13:32.040 frustrating. Now, Kip mentioned on Wednesday, he would really like me to talk about this concept

00:13:38.200 of FOMO, which is an acronym for fear of missing out, fear of missing out. I get it. Just this last

00:13:47.560 weekend, there was a total archery challenge in Utah. I'm pretty tied into the community. I know a lot

00:13:53.520 of people that go to total archery challenge from Bert Soren and with Soren X and Josh Smith with

00:13:58.420 Montana knife and Dudley and a bunch of other people as well. And I would like to hang out with

00:14:05.840 those guys, black rifle coffee guys. So many of my friends are there doing their thing. And I'm on

00:14:09.880 social media and I'm seeing all these guys at total archery challenge. I'm like, man, I wish I could be

00:14:13.220 there, but I chose not to because my family and I were camping this last weekend. So how do you

00:14:19.780 overcome the fear of missing out? It's point number one, sitting down and getting crystal clear

00:14:25.760 about what you want. Because if I'm clear about, Hey, I want to spend more time with my family than

00:14:32.420 I do traveling and going to total archery challenge. Not that my friends aren't important. They are not

00:14:37.560 that those networking and business opportunities aren't crucial. They are. But again, I already made my

00:14:42.400 decision. And because I already made my decision, I can close that chapter of the book and feel

00:14:47.660 completely confident with it. I did reach out to a couple of guys and like, Hey, man, it looks like

00:14:53.140 total archery challenge was a blast. I wish I could have been there. I was thinking about you.

00:14:56.920 Football's going well, brother. And that allows me to participate to some degree and let people know

00:15:01.960 I'm thinking about them, but not actually having to be there and be present. The reason that most people

00:15:07.360 I believe have fear of missing out is because they don't even know what they want.

00:15:12.780 They have no idea about what their goals and objectives and outcomes and desires are.

00:15:17.660 And so they're just kind of tossed to and fro with the, the winds and the culture and the

00:15:23.760 current, wherever it's taking them. Oh, this is cool. Oh, that guy's cool. Oh, there's an event.

00:15:27.980 Oh, there's this. And they never really measure it against what they want. Does total archery

00:15:33.560 challenge last weekend, move me towards my objectives in some instances. And in some ways,

00:15:39.800 yes, but because I know what the objectives are, I can look at it and say, okay, well,

00:15:44.880 that's a decision that I've had to make this year because other things are more important to me

00:15:50.980 right now. Same thing with our book launch coming out the end of September, a lot of opportunities.

00:15:56.440 I could run other events. There's a lot of other things I could be doing and going places. And I've

00:16:01.180 just told people no, because I know what the season requires and it's going to require me being present,

00:16:07.740 being available for the launch of the book, because that's something that's important to me.

00:16:12.320 That's the season I'm in. And that's what I want to do. So, when I look and I'm like, oh man,

00:16:17.300 these people are doing this thing and I didn't get invited, or maybe I did get invited, but I

00:16:22.020 couldn't go for whatever reason. When I'm feeling bad, all I have to do is say, oh, well, I did that

00:16:27.460 because I have the book tour coming up. Or I did that because my son's powerlifting meet is happening.

00:16:34.360 And I made a conscious decision to not go to that thing and instead choose my priority.

00:16:43.280 All right. Number three, guys, this goes along the lines of saying no, but number three is protecting

00:16:51.360 your time and your schedule. So, I want you to start getting crystal clear as I have tried to do over

00:16:58.220 the past several months about how I'm going to spend my time. I noticed that when I'm not clear

00:17:05.520 and deliberate and intentional about how I want to spend my time, activities, interests, phone calls,

00:17:12.640 meetings, tasks, they tend to bleed into other areas. And that's where a lot of my source of

00:17:19.180 frustration comes from. Because I'm not being as efficient as I could in one area. And therefore,

00:17:26.100 it sinks over into another area. Think about it this way. Imagine you come home from work and you've

00:17:33.300 got a task list stacked up to your eyeballs at work and you really didn't accomplish as much as

00:17:41.620 you would have liked. And you get home. Are you going to be present at home? No. No. I mean,

00:17:46.520 you're going to be physically there, but mentally and emotionally, we as men know what that's like to

00:17:50.380 be physically somewhere, but not actually be mentally and emotionally present and available.

00:17:56.100 So what if instead we started scheduling our time a little bit more effectively and efficiently,

00:18:02.120 and then we became not a slave necessarily, but subject to our calendar. Subject to our calendar.

00:18:14.080 Meaning that you schedule out your day. I'm going to do emails here. I'm going to get to the office

00:18:18.240 here. I'm going to take a break at lunch for this long. I'm going to write for this long. I'm going to

00:18:23.220 make these phone calls here. When I go home, I'm going to spend my time this way. I'm not going to

00:18:27.640 get on the phone. I'm not going to look at emails. And we become subject to our calendars.

00:18:35.800 And how much more beautiful is that? Hey, I said I was going to be done at four. I'm done at four.

00:18:41.660 I'm done at five. I'm done at whatever time it is for you. And now you're done and you can wash your

00:18:46.360 hands of it because you know, you've maximized that time. Another thing you need to be aware of

00:18:53.380 is that you can lose your calendar by a thousand little cuts. Every time you check your phone,

00:19:02.020 every time you get up to go to the bathroom, every time you get a drink, every time somebody's like,

00:19:06.960 Hey man, can I jump on a call with you for five minutes? There is no such thing as a five minute

00:19:10.960 phone call. If somebody is like, Hey, can I get five minutes of your time? That's at least 20

00:19:16.060 minutes, at least if not more. And even if it is five minutes, why should I do that? I have a

00:19:22.300 calendar. I'm subject to my calendar. So if somebody does want to meet with me, and that's something

00:19:27.320 that I actually also want to do, then it goes into my calendar and I schedule it. I had somebody reach

00:19:33.080 out the other day. They're like, Hey, I'd like to talk to you. And this is an individual I need to

00:19:36.720 talk with about some things. And they said, Oh, just, I'll call you whenever. Nope. Wrong answer.

00:19:42.940 That's not how I operate. Well, I just don't know my schedule. Okay. That's your problem.

00:19:48.080 It's not my problem. And I'm not going to make your problem, my problem. So you figure out your

00:19:54.440 schedule. I can meet you at three or I can meet you at four, but not just whenever.

00:19:59.420 However, this is the importance of scheduling and protecting your time. It isn't just whenever my

00:20:08.140 wife, she always gets after me a little. Cause sometimes I'll be here and, and my wife and

00:20:13.800 kids are gone right now that I think they're at the Lake. And so somebody might ring the doorbell

00:20:17.820 and I won't answer it. And she'll come back. Well, who's at the door? I don't know.

00:20:23.140 We didn't get it. No, why not? You were home because I'm doing something else.

00:20:27.900 And whatever that, whatever that person needed, I'm not going to make that my priority. If I

00:20:35.180 already have something set up now, if it's crucial and they need to get ahold of me and

00:20:40.400 it's scheduled, they can set that up with me, but I'm not going to let people pop into my calendar

00:20:46.840 just whenever, because what I've noticed is that I start to lose control of my calendar,

00:20:53.780 of my efficiency, of my effectiveness, which stresses me out, which makes me irritable,

00:21:00.120 which makes me impatient. And then I lash out at the people that I love.

00:21:04.240 And you might think that's quite the stretch. It really isn't. Can you imagine? And you guys have

00:21:08.560 all been here where you have a day and there's no distractions. You're cranking it out. You're,

00:21:13.800 you're, you're busy. You're effective. You're productive. Nobody's distracting you.

00:21:18.340 And you get done with the day and you're like, man, that felt amazing. And then you go home

00:21:24.700 and home life is good, right? You're excited to see the kids. You go for a walk. Maybe you go

00:21:31.600 swimming. Maybe you help them with their homework. Maybe there's a baseball game for one of the kids

00:21:35.840 that you go watch, or you have dinner together as a family and you're engaged and asking them

00:21:39.860 questions and actually listening to the stories about their day. And when the kids are in bed,

00:21:45.360 you and your wife are talking and communicating and being present with each other and you're

00:21:50.680 intimate, you know, later that evening, all because your day was effective and productive.

00:21:55.720 So guys be ruthless and be relentless on protecting that time and that schedule. Don't let other

00:22:02.080 people's baggage and priorities slip into yours. Now, if it's a priority of yours too, okay, that's a

00:22:07.920 different, that's a different conversation, but if they have a priority and it's not matched or synced

00:22:13.040 with yours, that's their problem, not yours. The next thing is that you have to have systems

00:22:20.860 in place for being effective. I'm working with Evernote right now. I've really dived into Evernote

00:22:26.740 and making sure that all my notes are compiled in one place. And I'm organizing those and making sure

00:22:33.320 that the people who need access to certain information have access to those folders and those files.

00:22:38.520 So now all of a sudden they're not having to reach out to me every time, or I'm not having to get on

00:22:42.480 a text and say, Hey, where's X, Y, and Z. Nope. It's all right there in that system.

00:22:49.460 There's no guesswork. There's no concern. There's no question. Another thing it helps me do is just

00:22:53.500 get the stuff, the ideas that are on my brain, out of my brain and onto paper or onto the computer

00:22:58.900 screen. So I can actually organize it, prioritize it, and then execute on it in some proficient way.

00:23:05.460 So you've got to have a system in place. And the other thing, in addition to having systems in

00:23:09.820 place, you need to work on getting better at delegation. Delegation is huge, guys. You can't

00:23:15.860 do it all and you shouldn't do it all. Not only can you not, but you actually are a leader, or at least

00:23:22.320 you should be acting like one. And that means giving other people opportunities to thrive, giving them

00:23:28.640 opportunities to excel, giving them opportunities to do things on their own and figure out some things.

00:23:33.780 Who knows? Maybe they surprise you. Maybe they come up with a new solution you hadn't considered

00:23:38.460 before. But if you're hanging onto everything because you're so arrogant or you're so ego-driven

00:23:44.160 that you have to do it all, or maybe even distrusting that you have to do it all, you're

00:23:50.640 going to burn out. And that's a bit where I was getting, where I felt like I had to do everything.

00:23:55.920 If I wanted it done right, I had to do it. Nobody was there to help. Nobody could do it as good as I did.

00:24:00.600 And some of that may be true in some instances, but I've been pleasantly surprised over the past

00:24:06.460 several months as I begin to delegate more of this stuff out. And then I hold people to getting

00:24:12.180 it done. I'm very clear about what I want there. I expect them to be very clear and forthright with

00:24:19.420 me. And then I hold them to that standard. And if they can't meet that standard, I find somebody else

00:24:25.360 because I don't have time or the desire to try to babysit somebody who isn't interested in taking

00:24:33.640 initiative. Somebody who is not a self-starter, somebody who's not creative, somebody who can't

00:24:39.000 come up with some solutions on their own. Now, I'm not going to feed people to the wolves.

00:24:43.660 I give them all the information, tools, and resources they need to thrive and win,

00:24:47.860 but I can't spoon feed it to them. If it's all there and I've done a good job explaining it

00:24:53.320 and articulating it and teaching them how to use the tools at their disposal,

00:24:56.920 and they're not using those tools, I'm out. I'm done. I'm going to find somebody else.

00:25:02.940 And there are plenty of other people who would love these opportunities.

00:25:07.900 So as you're delegating, give people some responsibility and expect that they're going

00:25:13.120 to do what they say they're going to do. Give them everything they can to do it and then let them do

00:25:17.860 it. If they do it, good. You can give them a little bit more. If they don't, there's some

00:25:23.540 correction necessary. If it's a habit, you need to let that person go and you need to find somebody

00:25:29.180 else who can do it better. Guys, the last thing that I want to share with you today is more

00:25:33.740 physiological in nature as opposed to some of this 30,000 foot view stuff, but I don't want you

00:25:40.540 to underestimate the importance of sleep, nutrition, and exercise. For me, that's the first thing to go

00:25:49.000 when I'm busy. I believe that's probably true of most men. We're busy with work. We're busy with

00:25:55.620 tasks and assignments and hobbies and this and that. And so the first thing to go is the exercise.

00:25:59.860 The next thing to go is the nutrition because you got to just grab a burger at the convenience store

00:26:04.560 because you don't have time for anything else. Next thing to go is your sleep. Hey, I got to

00:26:10.420 stay awake till midnight tonight and I got to wake up at 4 a.m. because I have this deadline I have to

00:26:15.180 hit. We have to do a better job protecting our sleep, our diet, and our exercise regimen.

00:26:23.200 And as I've gotten off track, I put on a few little extra pounds around the midsection that I'm

00:26:28.380 working off now. But I'm telling you over the past couple of months, I've started to lock it in

00:26:33.260 and I immediately feel better almost instantaneously. My energy has gone up. My sex drive has gone up.

00:26:40.340 My efficacy at work and other venues has gone up. And I just feel better. I don't feel as stressed

00:26:46.460 and overwhelmed. I feel better about the way that I look. I'm not carrying around as much weight.

00:26:51.440 It's a better thing. So I know you're busy. I know you have priorities and tasks and all this

00:26:58.900 stuff. And you got people crawling all over you trying to get things done and whatever.

00:27:03.260 So follow those steps so that you can always protect your sleep, the things that you eat,

00:27:09.900 and your exercise time for yourself. Huge. Cannot be overstated, guys.

00:27:16.700 So that's where it is. I know my energy is a little low today. That's not because of any of this. It's

00:27:22.460 because I don't feel all that great. But we're going to drive through. We're going to drive on.

00:27:27.740 I've been very, very effective today to the point that I'm sharing with you.

00:27:31.900 It's 2.30. I'm going to do a few more things, send a few emails and do a little bit of admin

00:27:37.000 stuff. And then I'm going to sign out for the rest of the afternoon. The beautiful thing is I can do

00:27:41.880 that because I'm following these steps and I can do that without feeling guilty. I used to feel guilty.

00:27:47.340 I don't have to feel guilty. I got all my work done. I exercised the system. I got all my work

00:27:52.340 done. Everything's on track. I got ahead of some things. So now if I slip for a day or two, it's

00:27:58.200 okay. I'm still on pace. This is the power of getting back on the path, staying on the path,

00:28:05.920 but having the systems and processes and delegation and nutrition and sleep and exercise and all these

00:28:11.780 things to keep you on the path. All right, you guys, I hope that helps. Don't beat yourself up when

00:28:16.600 you get off the path because we all do. And it's okay to feel bad about it. Actually,

00:28:22.640 much of society will tell you, Oh, you know, you don't have to feel bad about it. You should just

00:28:26.440 be okay with it. You're one man and you can't do it all. I don't agree with that. I think it's okay

00:28:32.280 to feel bad about it. I think that, that experience, that, that, that emotional experience of guilt or

00:28:38.780 sorrow or remorse or frustration, if used correctly and harnessed properly can actually be the fuel

00:28:46.400 that you need to get your life back on track. So don't go wallow in your own self-pity,

00:28:51.860 but don't be numb to it either. Experience it. Yeah, I feel bad. Good. You should. And now what

00:28:57.500 are you going to do about it? Get yourself back on the path. All right, guys, we'll be back next week.

00:29:02.280 Until then, go out there, take action and become the man you are meant to be.

00:29:06.320 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your life and be

00:29:11.440 more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

Order of Man - July 29, 2022

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