Order of Man - Elevate Your Problems ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.420 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.780 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,

00:00:27.900 and I am the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here. Welcome

00:00:32.800 back. Glad you're tuning in. This movement is more important than it's ever been over the past six

00:00:39.080 years because we've got a lot of work to do, guys. We've got a lot of work to do in our communities,

00:00:43.880 our businesses, our families, and it's our job as men to step up as the leaders that our people need

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00:02:05.580 shared and how this is impacting your life is, is powerful. And it's inspiring to know that what

00:02:10.400 we're doing here is, is meaningful and significant. Today, I want to talk with you. This is our Friday

00:02:15.480 field notes. So if you're not familiar, it's just me riffing and a little bit of a monologue and some

00:02:20.800 thoughts that have been bouncing around in my brain. And I was having a conversation earlier today

00:02:25.400 with a friend of mine about problems and how we, how we deal with problems and how we create and

00:02:32.520 provide solutions to the problems that, that were dealt with in, in our lives. And, and as we were

00:02:38.900 talking, we said, you know, the ultimate goal of life is not necessarily to ensure that you have no

00:02:44.960 problems. Because if you have no problems, what, what, what good is it? Like, how are you improving?

00:02:51.240 How are you growing? How are you getting better? If everything is handed to you on a silver platter,

00:02:56.360 or there's nothing difficult or demanding that you're dealing with, you're not improving.

00:03:00.560 And we know that we can't remain in some sort of stagnant state. We're always either growing and

00:03:05.820 expanding or contracting and devolving. And so, as we were talking, I said to him, I said, you know,

00:03:11.580 the whole goal of life is not to get rid of your problems. It's to elevate them. It's to have,

00:03:18.240 have, have the problems that you're dealing with be more significant and more meaningful and more

00:03:23.840 impactful and greater problems that you're solving that will create more solutions and provide more

00:03:30.120 answers, not only for yourself, but the people that you have an obligation for is in it. And isn't

00:03:34.920 that at the root of what it means to be a man is our ability to serve and to lead and to guide and

00:03:43.680 instruct and coach and mentor and father, other individuals that we may come in contact with.

00:03:50.620 And we do that by making ourselves more capable. I think it was Bruce Lee who said something along the

00:03:56.360 lines of, uh, do not wish for an easier life, pray for the strength to, uh, become stronger.

00:04:04.340 So I'm paraphrasing, but that's the concept I wanted to riff with you about today is so many of us are

00:04:10.720 running away from our problems. You know, you've got a marriage or a marital issue, uh, divorce. I don't

00:04:16.660 want to deal with this too hard. I'm out. You know, you have a, some sort of contentious relationship or

00:04:22.000 work environment. Oh, just go find new employment. If you're, uh, dealing with some sort of personal

00:04:29.780 issue, you sedate yourself, right? Drugs, alcohol, pornography, sedate yourself. I don't want to deal

00:04:34.980 with it. Forget about it. And so we never address these issues. And then what happens is that we

00:04:40.900 continue to run across the same problems over and over and over and over again, and they never get

00:04:47.900 resolved. They never go away. And then the guys who deal with the same types of problems,

00:04:52.000 problems they've always been dealing with are wondering why they get the short end of the

00:04:56.960 stick. And there is no short end of the stick. There's no situation where life or God or whatever

00:05:04.760 continues to give you problems because out of spite or to get you, it's because you haven't learned

00:05:13.720 to grow past those problems. I've told you in the past, there was times in my life where I would

00:05:19.220 literally wear a dirt path in the grass in our backyard, because I was pacing around the yard,

00:05:26.480 wondering how I was going to put food on the table and make the mortgage mortgage payment.

00:05:31.580 That was a problem, but I didn't not address it. I didn't avoid it. I didn't hope that somebody else

00:05:40.220 would come in and rescue me from my problems. I gradually and slowly and inevitably came up with the

00:05:47.900 solutions with the help of others and mentors and programs and coaches and processes came up with

00:05:54.020 a solution to my own problem. And at this point in my life, as I'm almost 40 years old, taking care of

00:06:01.180 the mortgage payment isn't an issue. I don't say that to be braggadocious. I don't say that to make

00:06:07.400 you feel bad about the situation you may be in. I'm just painting the reality that that problem

00:06:12.260 is no longer a problem of mine. Could it be in the future? Sure. If I forget the lessons that I

00:06:18.320 learned and I devolve rather than evolve and I don't continue to elevate the problems that I have.

00:06:25.940 And it's not about making your problems better or elevating your problems. It's about you making

00:06:31.640 yourself more capable so that you can deal with more complex scenarios and situations,

00:06:38.220 and then have more impact in your life, in the lives of the people that you care about.

00:06:43.460 So as I was thinking about what I wanted to talk with you about today, I wrote three things down

00:06:50.200 and it's a very simple formula. It's a very simple framework. I'm going to try to get into the

00:06:55.480 generalized notion and the specific notion of how you can continue to elevate your problems. 0.97

00:07:01.640 So you're not concerned with and not wrapped up with the same petty bullshit that you've been 0.64

00:07:07.640 wrapped up in over the past several years, or even potentially decades of your life. 0.97

00:07:12.880 I want you to grow. I want you to expand. I want you to evolve. And that doesn't mean that your

00:07:16.940 problems are going to go away. It just means that you replace your current problems with better

00:07:22.420 problems. And what does that mean to have a better problem? How do you define better problem?

00:07:30.460 Cause it's a bit of an oxymoron, right? I've got a problem. Oh, but this one's good. This one's

00:07:35.160 better. That's an oxymoron. Well, I'll tell you what a better problem is. Something that

00:07:40.120 challenges you. It stimulates growth mentally, physically, emotionally. And sure. I mean,

00:07:47.400 who wants to deal with scenarios that are uncomfortable or difficult or potentially even

00:07:53.620 dangerous? Nobody wants to deal with that, but there is something deeply satisfying in knowing that

00:08:00.140 you don't have to worry about making the mortgage payment. Now you're worried about having

00:08:05.000 to pay 10 or 20 or a hundred employees because you've gone past having to worry about the

00:08:10.280 mortgage. And now you're actually focused and you have the capacity to worry about helping other

00:08:16.660 people pay their mortgages. Isn't there something deeply satisfying and rewarding about knowing that

00:08:24.360 you're more capable of dealing with that than you were with dealing with just making one mortgage

00:08:29.720 payment? Of course, of course, of course that feels better. And the actions and our capabilities and

00:08:35.640 the way we serve other people is what defines us as men. So I want you to really take some time over

00:08:43.740 the next, what do we have? It's December 11th. So we've got about 20 days left of the month, of the

00:08:50.360 month, of the year actually. And I want you to take the next three weeks and I want you to document

00:08:58.360 an inventory your problems. Is it the mortgage payment? Is it an issue that you have with your

00:09:04.020 child? Is it something that you're dealing with without work? Is it a promotion? Is it growing your

00:09:09.400 business? Is it health and wealth related? Like what, what are your problems? And I want you to write

00:09:15.180 all of those problems down. So get out a notepad, a blank notepad. I've got one with me at all times.

00:09:20.740 Here it is. I've got a few notes for today's podcast, but I've always got a blank notepad and I've always

00:09:26.480 got, well, I say I've always got, frankly, I actually don't know where it is. My battle planner.

00:09:33.060 I think it's over there on my other desk, but I've always got those two things with me. I've got a

00:09:37.560 blank notepad and my battle planner. I was going to say within arm's reach, but that would be a lie

00:09:42.120 because I can't reach my battle planner from where it is today. But I've always got those two things

00:09:46.980 with me because there's always thoughts and ideas and things bouncing around in my brain and things I

00:09:51.240 want to talk about and conversations I want to have and just, just ideas. I want you to get that

00:09:57.080 notepad out. And I want you to first and foremost, document every problem that you have, whether that's

00:10:02.400 external, internal, big, small, whatever, whatever you're concerned with things that are keeping you

00:10:06.840 up at night, just document them all. Because what I'm going to help you do is give you a framework to

00:10:11.880 deal with those problems and to trade those problems in for better problems that are more significant,

00:10:17.320 more meaningful, more impactful, more rewarding, more beneficial for you and other people.

00:10:22.540 And that's what we want. We do not want to live a life free of challenge and strife and hardship and

00:10:29.480 struggle. That's boring. That's lame. That's not growing us. And we know it. And so it might feel

00:10:35.800 good for a couple of hours or a couple of days at most. And then you're going to be bored. This is why

00:10:40.840 men who retire struggle. No more problems. You're right off into the sunset. You've got the pension

00:10:48.940 coming in. Hopefully you've got an income coming in. You're golfing and you're sipping Mai Tais on the

00:10:54.280 beach and we die literally and figuratively because we have nothing to pit ourselves against. And that's

00:11:00.980 what we need as men. So how do you elevate your problems? Number one, document. You've got to list

00:11:07.780 them out. You've got to know the enemy. You've got to know what you're dealing with. You've got to look at it

00:11:11.640 as objectively as possible. And so many of us have things that are just floating around up here in this

00:11:17.480 headspace and we never extract it out of our minds and document it on paper. And so we don't really

00:11:24.700 exactly know what it is we're dealing with. So pull it out of your head. Stop just thinking about it,

00:11:31.860 toying around with it up here and make it tangible. Put, put, put something to it so you can sink your

00:11:38.460 teeth into it. Write it down. This is actually the power of journaling. So many of us are just

00:11:44.060 thinking and we're trapped and ideas aren't going anywhere else. They're just bouncing off the walls

00:11:49.320 of our skull. And it could be bouncing off the walls of other people's skulls and other information

00:11:54.240 that could actually serve us and get us out of the situation we're in. So guys, get out a piece of

00:11:59.700 paper, write down all of your problems. So from there, step number two, you need to understand

00:12:07.100 what your priorities are and you can't do it all. I know you want to do it all. I know it feels good

00:12:15.220 to want to do it all because doesn't it feel good as a man to be wanted, to be needed, to have somebody

00:12:19.820 rely upon you. I know that feels good for me. So I assume that it feels good for many of you.

00:12:25.640 And we wear this busyness and this baggage and all of the actions and all of the things that we're

00:12:32.620 doing on a daily basis. We wear as much as we possibly can. And we just load ourselves to max

00:12:38.860 capacity and more because it feels good. And then we, we measure our sense of worth or masculinity or

00:12:47.380 who we are by our ability to shoulder the load guys. You don't have to shoulder at all. And by the way,

00:12:52.800 if you shoulder at all, you're not going to be as efficient as you could be.

00:12:57.360 If you're carrying everybody else's baggage and you're carrying your baggage and, and, and these

00:13:02.360 things are weighing you down and it doesn't allow you to grow and to evolve and to expand and to try

00:13:07.120 new things, to face new challenges, to pick up new skills and hobbies and activities that are going

00:13:12.620 to advance you and push you. I mean, are you really serving people? Do you want to be the, the,

00:13:18.280 the bell boy of life for everybody else where you're just running their luggage and their baggage up and

00:13:23.940 down to and fro from, and wherever they're going, or do you want to assert yourself in life

00:13:29.060 and carry your own baggage and worry about your own? Now, sometimes you're going to have to shoulder

00:13:35.680 somebody else's baggage, those people closest to you. And that's where this first step comes in.

00:13:40.680 I guess it's step two after inventory is your priorities. You're not obligated to make other

00:13:48.200 people's problems, your priorities, and you're not obligated to do things because you're quote unquote

00:13:52.640 supposed to do them. I know there's a lot of things I talk about on this podcast where you might think,

00:13:58.280 well, oh, well, Ryan says, you know, this is the way of men. This is what men do. Some of you are

00:14:02.700 thinking that. I don't think that's objectively true. I think you need to decide it for yourself.

00:14:08.020 You know, I don't have the corner. I don't have the market on what it means to be a man. I've got

00:14:11.920 some ideas about what I think it means to be a man. And you've got to evaluate and consider if

00:14:16.460 that's the same meaning for you, but ultimately it's your life and it's your priorities and it's

00:14:21.120 your goals and your objectives. So ask yourself, what do you want? Do you want to do everything

00:14:27.400 mediocre? Or do you want to do a few things that you have your priorities set on in an exceptional way?

00:14:33.940 What hobbies do you want to get yourself in? And by the way, if you pick up one hobby,

00:14:39.060 something else has to give. Time is finite. I'm going to talk about another strategy to expand

00:14:45.800 our capabilities and time in general. Talk about that in a minute, but frankly, time is finite.

00:14:50.400 All of us have the same 24 hours in a day. How is Jeff Bezos making billions and billions of dollars

00:14:56.300 and I'm not, or you're not because he knows how to manage that time more effectively than we do.

00:15:04.160 And he's got his priorities straight. I think maybe, I don't know. I'm not going to,

00:15:07.960 not going to assume, but you know, people have their priorities straight and some don't.

00:15:12.280 And you've got to ask yourself if you do, the only way for you to know, this is really, frankly,

00:15:17.380 this is kind of a negative way of looking at it, but what are, what are you willing to say no to?

00:15:22.440 Because if you never say no, then you have no priorities. We're talking about this in the iron

00:15:29.300 council. We're talking about nice guys and nice guys have a very difficult time saying no to things.

00:15:35.200 And if you have a difficult time saying no to anything, then you have no priorities.

00:15:41.880 Nothing's important to you. If everything is important to you, nothing is important to you.

00:15:47.300 The counter to that is that you know what to say yes to, and you know what to say no to. And

00:15:51.080 occasionally you do say no, because it's not a priority. It's not important for you.

00:15:56.520 So if you need and want and have a desire to elevate your problems and in turn, expand your

00:16:01.980 capacity, then you need to know what your priorities are. Is it your business? Is it your family? Is it

00:16:06.860 your health? Is it your finances? And in order to know exactly what it is, you also need to know what

00:16:13.240 it isn't. So on that piece of paper, where you listed out all the problems that you're dealing with

00:16:19.080 right now, you might be able to check off 10, 20, 30% of those issues, because guess what?

00:16:24.800 You don't care about them. And guys, I'm giving you permission as if you needed it

00:16:29.800 to check some of those things off the list and say, you know what? That's not an issue.

00:16:36.460 That's not something I'm willing to pour into. That's not something I'm invested in. That's not

00:16:40.440 something I care about. And I'm not telling you to remove any sort of obligation or responsibility

00:16:48.240 that you've committed to. That's not what I'm saying, but I am saying there are things on your

00:16:53.320 list, potentially a third or half or more of your list is things that you never volunteered for.

00:16:59.500 You never agreed to, you never contractually obligated yourself to, and you're free to check

00:17:05.000 those off your list. Some of you might be thinking, well, that makes me a quitter. Fine.

00:17:09.860 Whatever. So be it. There's things that I've quit on. That doesn't make me a loser. I don't equate

00:17:16.560 quitting something to being a loser. If I'm still interested in it and then I quit. Okay. That might

00:17:21.780 be loser mentality or loser behavior. But if I'm no longer interested in something,

00:17:29.160 barring some sort of commitment that I've had to somebody, then I think it's okay to check it off

00:17:33.580 your list. And it's okay to tell yourself, you know what, maybe at one point, this was a priority,

00:17:38.740 but this is not a priority right now. There's elements of my fitness journey running. Somebody

00:17:43.980 asked me about running the other day. They said, are you still running? How come you, how come I don't

00:17:47.840 see you posting about you running anymore? Cause it's not a priority. Did I quit? Yeah, I guess

00:17:55.340 technically I stopped running, but there's other facets of my life, my fitness life in particular,

00:18:01.440 that are more important. And that's how you give yourself the capacity to elevate your problems.

00:18:05.740 You start, you, excuse me, you stop focusing on the things that are unimportant and trivial.

00:18:11.940 And you start focusing on the things that are important and that have meaning and significance

00:18:16.140 because you only have so much time in the day. So you're going to have four action steps today.

00:18:21.720 Number one is document all your problems. Number two, go through and prioritize. Some of those things

00:18:26.980 need to come off the list altogether. You have my permission. You didn't need it, but now you have

00:18:31.540 it. So that's what you were looking for. You got it. Check them off the list, then rank them.

00:18:37.580 First and foremost for me is my family. That is my priority and everything that goes with it,

00:18:42.780 making sure they're emotionally and spiritually and physically fed and taken care of. And then I get

00:18:51.200 into my work and I get into my fitness and I get into other things that are important to me,

00:18:54.460 but I know what those are. I know exactly what they are. And so when other opportunities or other

00:19:00.060 baggage is expected to be dumped upon me, I say, Whoa, Whoa, Whoa. Nope. Not carrying that baggage

00:19:06.320 because I know what my priorities are. Number two, look for the activities and the problems in your

00:19:12.500 life that are going to create the most impact. Again, we only have this, the, a few hours in the day,

00:19:17.960 right? I say 24 hours, but we've got less than that. We've got 16 or 17 hours of waking.

00:19:23.660 hours where we can actually do something. And so if you're going to spend any amount of time

00:19:28.960 towards something, then you need to spend your time towards the things that are going to make

00:19:32.760 the largest impact. If I need to decide between two things and that's all that I have time for,

00:19:39.800 I'm always going to pick the one that is going to provide maximum impact in the shortest amount

00:19:46.440 of time possible with as few resources as possible. That is how we maximize our time.

00:19:53.120 That is how we elevate our problems. And with limited time, a finite number of minutes in the day,

00:19:58.860 it's important for me to say, okay, what is going to make the largest impact for me right now? In

00:20:05.980 particular, what's going to make the largest impact is for me to record a 25 or 30 minute podcast,

00:20:11.480 talking to you about elevating your problems. And if that wasn't the case, this is not what I would

00:20:17.280 be doing. I would be doing something else. And later in the day, I will be doing something else.

00:20:21.980 That's a priority at that point. So you've got to ask yourself, is the work that you're doing right

00:20:26.540 now, whether it's dinging off, playing around, working on a project, looking at your hair,

00:20:31.680 checking your phone, whatever it is you're doing, is that creating maximum impact?

00:20:36.920 And if it's not, then your priorities are off and they're skewed and they're distorted.

00:20:42.400 And some of you will say things like, well, you know, like getting ready for the day doesn't

00:20:45.900 provide, provide maximum impact. I disagree. That's a critical component of the way that you

00:20:52.200 show up and present yourself. If you look good and you feel good about who you are and how you're

00:20:56.260 showing up, you're going to perform well. If I feel confident in the way I look and my ability

00:21:01.400 to communicate and present myself to you, then I'm going to show up and create maximum impact

00:21:05.500 towards something that is important. This podcast, serving men, helping you and giving you the tools

00:21:11.660 and guidance and resource and direction that you need to lead your families, yourself, your businesses

00:21:15.780 and your communities. Well, look for maximum impact. And if you have to, if you're having to choose

00:21:23.460 between two things, choose the one that provides maximum impact. The third component of this guy's or

00:21:30.480 the fourth, if we count your inventory. So again, we've got inventory. Step number one,

00:21:35.160 number two, prioritize and eliminate some of those things that are unimportant. Number three,

00:21:39.860 look for maximum impact. And number four, we're always going to run into some scenarios and situations

00:21:44.840 where things need to get done. Podcast, for example, needs to be edited, needs to be cleaned up.

00:21:51.540 The intro and the outro and the music and the artwork and everything else needs to be added to this

00:21:55.320 podcast. Could I do it without it? Sure. But I think it's important, as I said earlier,

00:21:59.320 that we present ourselves in the best light possible. Is that going through and editing

00:22:05.200 and cleaning up the audio and scrubbing the background noise and all that kind of stuff.

00:22:09.120 Is that maximum impact for me specifically with what my strengths and my gifts and my priorities are?

00:22:17.440 The answer is no. So I've got a friend. His name is Cody Lanham. He's the one that edits our podcast.

00:22:23.260 He does a phenomenal job. And for him, that's maximum impact. He enjoys it. He's good at it.

00:22:28.760 He likes doing it. He sees it as a challenge and something that he can get better at and improve in.

00:22:33.920 So this is where the art and science of delegation comes into play.

00:22:39.080 Just because it's not important to you doesn't mean that it doesn't need to get done. A lot of times

00:22:43.700 it still does. Budgeting, for example, is a thing that a lot of you guys don't want to do. We talked

00:22:48.780 about this on the ask me anything on Wednesday. Does that mean because you don't feel like it's

00:22:54.520 meaningful or impactful work that it doesn't need to get done? No, it still needs to get done. But

00:22:59.200 here's the beauty of what we can do and how we can expand timeframes. I said, we only have 24 hours

00:23:08.120 in a day. And I used Jeff Bezos as an example, Elon Musk, look at the most successful people,

00:23:13.460 the guys, even that we've had on the podcast, same 24 hours. How do they maximize that time?

00:23:18.120 They focus on their priorities. They focus on impact and everything else that they know that

00:23:23.920 needs to get done. They delegate it to people who feel like that's a priority and that's maximum

00:23:31.240 impact for them. So I have somebody edit our podcast. I have somebody who does outreach to

00:23:38.840 people to get amazing guests on the podcast. Her name is Brandy Kane. She does a phenomenal job. 1.00

00:23:43.800 This is what she's good at. This is what she excels at way better than I can ever do.

00:23:48.100 And that leverages my time to have the conversations, to have these types of podcasts,

00:23:55.340 to jump in our iron council, our exclusive brotherhood and have the conversations there.

00:23:59.760 I've freed up my time. All that stuff still needs to get done.

00:24:04.300 I'm just not going to be the one to do it. This is very difficult for an assertive man,

00:24:09.200 a high achiever, a hard charger who wants to make sure that everything is done correctly.

00:24:13.340 You know what? You don't have to do it all. In fact, I'm realizing, and this is a great lesson

00:24:18.320 for me in 2020, that the more effective and better I can get at recognizing people's strengths

00:24:24.080 and then bringing them into what we're doing here, not only is it going to get done, it's going to get

00:24:30.860 done significantly better than if I were to do it. And then I don't have to get bogged down mentally

00:24:36.100 and physically with stuff. I just don't find valuable or rewarding guys. You've all heard

00:24:45.260 about delegation. You know how important it is. And yet very few of us do it because we feel like

00:24:50.260 if we delegate that we're not as significant or important, or maybe it's not going to be done

00:24:56.040 as well as it can. And that's not true. That's a script that we've bought into. That's a lie that we

00:25:03.060 tell ourselves to feel important because we're doing everything. I know I feel important when

00:25:07.320 I'm doing everything, but doing everything isn't my priority. I don't derive my sense of worth and

00:25:14.340 value in the world by doing it all. I derive my sense of value by providing maximum value for the

00:25:21.020 people I'm trying to serve. That's my wife. That's my children. That's my neighbors, my friends. And

00:25:27.180 that's you guys listening to this podcast. And in order to accomplish that, I can't do it all. In

00:25:32.920 fact, it's not possible. And it would do a disservice to those. I just told you I care about.

00:25:38.640 The only way I can provide maximum value to them is by delegating the things I don't want to do.

00:25:43.280 So I can focus on the things that I do want to do and the things that I'm good at. So this is a very

00:25:48.680 simple conversation for you today. It's not always easy, but I'm trying to give you a simple

00:25:53.140 framework that will help you elevate your problems beyond worrying about the mortgage,

00:25:58.280 beyond putting food on the table, beyond cleaning the toilets, beyond whatever it is you're doing

00:26:02.740 right now and dealing with now. Guys, let's not run away from our problems. And it's not,

00:26:07.000 let's not hope that 2021 will provide this utopian environment and circumstances where nothing ever

00:26:14.500 goes wrong. And instead, like Bruce Lee said, let's worry more about and focus more on making

00:26:21.440 ourselves stronger and more capable so that we're equipped to deal with more significant

00:26:25.860 and meaningful problems. It's about elevating, not eliminating your problems. Again, as a recap,

00:26:32.320 we do that by number one, taking an inventory of the problems we're dealing with. Number two,

00:26:36.900 prioritizing what is important to us. Number three, looking at those priorities and focusing on the

00:26:43.940 things that can provide maximum impact in the way that we feel meaningful and significant.

00:26:48.320 And then number four is looking at delegating the things that need to get done, but don't fall

00:26:55.380 into your priorities or the impact and meaning that you have. Guys, I hope that serves you.

00:27:01.600 We're rolling into 2021. This conversation, although it's only what, 25 minutes is going to be very,

00:27:08.020 very powerful if you incorporate it and adopt it into your life. And by the end of 2021, you'll look back

00:27:13.820 and think, Oh my gosh, those are the things I was worrying about. I don't even have time to worry

00:27:18.340 about that stuff anymore. That's a pretty good indicator that you've done this right. And you're

00:27:22.940 worried about greater, better, bigger problems. And of course the solution to those problems as well.

00:27:29.600 If you want to know more about guys, what we're doing here and how we're doing it and, and these

00:27:34.000 types of frameworks I'm talking with you about today, consider joining us in our exclusive

00:27:38.260 brotherhood, the iron council. Uh, we've got, I think 740 ish members of the iron council right

00:27:44.780 now. Uh, this month for the month of December, we're focused on no more Mr. Nice guy for the

00:27:50.640 month of January. We're focused on dealing with imposter syndrome. We're working in small teams

00:27:55.700 of 12 to 15 men to holding each other accountable to using these frameworks, to issuing challenges.

00:28:01.420 We've got a leadership development course coming soon and guys are making more money.

00:28:05.980 They're reconnecting with their wives. They're bonding with their children. They're getting

00:28:09.920 promotions. They're starting businesses. They're getting fit. They're achieving fitness goals.

00:28:14.920 It's incredible. It's phenomenal. And it's all because we're dealing with better problems than I

00:28:19.340 dealt with five, six years ago when we started this thing. I hope it serves you. Let me know if it does

00:28:24.080 again, as I started this conversation, share this episode, take a screenshot, wherever you're listening,

00:28:30.220 post it on Facebook, post it on Instagram, post it on Twitter, and then go in, take two minutes,

00:28:35.740 go into your phone, type in order, man, leave a rating and review. We've got 52, 5,300 reviews.

00:28:45.520 We need to get that. We need to double it, double it. We need to get to 10,000. It's not about the

00:28:50.500 10,000. It's about how many more people will be impacted when we get to that number. Appreciate

00:28:55.060 you guys. We'll be in touch. I'll be back next week. Uh, Marcus and Morgan Latrell are joining me on

00:29:01.300 the podcast next week. I just recorded with Steve Rinella. Chris Hogan's coming on the podcast.

00:29:06.520 Phenomenal things coming up for 2021. Stay tuned, stay subscribed, go out there, take action and

00:29:12.580 become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast.

00:29:17.280 You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.

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Order of Man - October 25, 2019

Elevate Your Problems ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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