FFN 005： Power of Choices
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Summary
When you own the fact that your day is a series of choices, you start to wrest some of the control and power back from the people, institutions, and governments that you have given power to. Choices are a powerful word. It's powerful because when you own your day, your life, and your life's circumstances, you begin to wrest control back from those people and institutions that you've given control to.
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You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
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You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
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Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
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You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
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And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
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Men, what is going on? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am your host and the founder of Order of Men.
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Now, if you're new to the show for the first time today, I want you to understand that this is just a short show.
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It's called Friday Field Notes. Obviously, we release them every Friday.
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But, in addition to this show, you need to make sure that you check out our Tuesday show.
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Now, if you're not new to the show, you know that I typically just jump right into this each and every week.
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You're busy. I'm busy. I don't want to bore you with a bunch of fluff and frills and things that don't matter.
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So, let's just get right into the meat and the material I want to talk about today.
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So, on that note, we're going to talk about choices.
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It's powerful because when you own the fact that your day and your life is a series of choices,
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you start to wrestle some of the control and power back from the people and the companies and the institutions
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and the governments, in some cases, that you've given that power to.
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So, let me tell you what the opposite of this is, giving away choices or giving away power.
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And frankly, you need to get that vocabulary out of your head right now.
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Won't and can't are different and you better start understanding that difference really quick.
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And this is such a horrible phrase in our house.
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Every time I hear one of my children do it, they have to give me 10 burpees.
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It's an illusion that we as humans create to get out of the work that's required to do whatever.
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Have a good marriage, go to the gym, start a new business, yada, yada, yada.
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So, let's think about, for example, your morning.
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When you hear the alarm go off, why did you set it for 6 or 7 or 8 o'clock?
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Most of the time, you say it's because I had to.
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Well, Ryan, if I don't get up at 7, I won't be ready for work in time.
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Like, have you really resigned to a life of I have to?
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But, Ryan, what if I can't find a job in my area?
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You really think your family wants you to be miserable?
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You really think that you're serving them when you're unhappy?
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Can you see how weak it is to resign to this have to or to rely on some outside factor?
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And when something doesn't work quite right the way that they would have liked it to work,
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So, I want you to see how powerful choices can be in your life.
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Now, notice I didn't say that choosing makes things easier.
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It just means that your life is going to be more fulfilling, more meaningful.
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Every day, every decision, every situation, every circumstance is a choice in your life.
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I went golfing with a couple of friends the other day.
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And one of them asked if I wanted to join a men's golfing league.
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I would have loved to do that, but I decided, guys, I decided not to.
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Now, most guys would have made an excuse, right?
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My wife won't let me or money doesn't allow it or the million other excuses
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But for me, it was a matter of choosing where to allocate my time.
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Or do I choose to allocate that time to my business?
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And if you truly want to be happy and satisfied and fulfilled,
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No one dictates for me how I'm going to run my life.
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So, we can't get in this default mode of going with the flow.
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What I want to do is I just want to give you three quick and easy tips that you can use
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in order to be better at choices, to own your life.
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So, the first thing I want to tell you is you need to, and I already hit on this a minute
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to go, eliminate the words, I can't, from your vocabulary.
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Eliminating the words, I can't, puts the responsibility back on where it belongs, which is your shoulders.
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And when you say, I can't, you're shucking or shirking that responsibility.
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We're not going to get better at it until we do it.
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When somebody invites me to lunch or dinner and then asks me where I want to go to lunch.
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If a business associate asks you where you'd like to go to lunch, decide.
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If a friend asks you where you'd like to go golfing, decide.
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If your wife asks you which color she should get, decide.
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Practice making choices will help you get better at making choices.
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And then the third thing I want to share with you is that each and every day, you need to review
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Ask yourself if it's what you meant to get done.
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Ask yourself what the disparity is between what you did and didn't get done.
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Ask yourself what choices are you going to make tomorrow to be more effective.
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Ask what priorities do you have for the following day?
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You need to review your day and think critically about where you allowed things to slip through
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the cracks and then how you can deliberately make better choices tomorrow so that that doesn't
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So there's three quick and easy tools that you can use.
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I promise you, you're going to be more happy, more successful, more respected, more influential,
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My oldest son rolls his eyes every time I say it.
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And on that note, if you want to learn more about how to do that, you need to join our
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We're working side by side to take charge of our lives, relationships, health, wealth,
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So if you're stuck in life, if you've reached a plateau, if you're not growing, chances
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are that you've probably started to coast somewhere in life.
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You're probably not making as many choices as you should, and you're living that life of
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So it's my goal and the goal of the men inside the council to shake you out of the
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habits that are keeping you there, including your indecisiveness.
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So if you're interested, head to orderofman.com slash ironcouncil and join us right now.
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Guys, I look forward to talking with you next week, but until then, choose, choose how you
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Now it's time to crush your excuses, own your choices, accept responsibility, and live
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Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash field notes.