Order of Man - June 17, 2016


FFN 008： The Age of Fragility


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

213.54921

Word Count

1,574

Sentence Count

116

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary

In this episode, Ryan talks about the age of fragility and the three areas of toughness that all men need to work on: physical strength, mental fortitude, and emotional resiliency. He also gives a challenge to all men to get off the couch and get moving.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
00:00:04.600 Your blood. Your sweat. Your tears.
00:00:07.720 You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
00:00:11.480 Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
00:00:14.640 You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
00:00:18.420 And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
00:00:22.400 Welcome to your Friday Field Notes.
00:00:25.280 Men, what's going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and founder of Order of Men.
00:00:29.360 Now, if you're listening to this podcast for the first time, I am glad you're here.
00:00:32.280 I'm glad every one of you are here, but I do want to give you a quick heads up.
00:00:35.280 If this is the first show you've listened to, this is a short show that we do each and every Friday,
00:00:39.680 but we also have a longer interview-type show we release each Tuesday.
00:00:43.060 I've interviewed Joe DeSena with Spartan Races, Brett McKay with Artemanius,
00:00:46.640 and Jocko Willink, author of Extreme Ownership, just to name a few.
00:00:50.140 So be sure to subscribe and leave us an iTunes rating and review while you're there at orderofmen.com slash iTunes
00:00:57.320 so you don't miss any of the Friday Field Notes or the interview shows that we do each Tuesday.
00:01:01.560 Now, since this is a short show, we just get right into the discussion
00:01:04.780 because I don't have a lot of time to get my point across.
00:01:06.940 Today, I want to talk with you about what I refer to as the age of fragility.
00:01:11.020 And if you don't know by now, we are currently living in that era.
00:01:14.280 You cannot turn around, watch the media, or even have a conversation with anyone these days
00:01:19.400 without running across this virus, this plague of fragility that we are currently experiencing.
00:01:25.780 Seems someone's always hurt or injured, or they're having a difficult time mentally
00:01:29.180 with something they're experiencing, or they're offended by a few simple words
00:01:32.840 to the point of having a difficult time functioning in society.
00:01:36.880 So this is what I want to address with you today.
00:01:38.400 I'm going to break this down into three key areas of toughness that all men,
00:01:41.760 each and every one of us need to work on.
00:01:43.640 Physical strength, mental fortitude, and emotional resiliency.
00:01:47.880 Each one of these areas is vital.
00:01:50.060 It's vital.
00:01:50.580 It's so important if we are to experience any level of success in our lives.
00:01:53.940 So first and foremost, let's talk about physical toughness.
00:01:56.620 I play basketball occasionally with some of the guys my age, and I'm always shocked.
00:02:00.100 I'm shocked to see how many guys are actually missing from basketball
00:02:04.340 because they've rolled their ankle, or their back is hurting, or they're having knee troubles.
00:02:08.580 Now, don't get me wrong.
00:02:09.260 I understand injury is just part of the deal.
00:02:12.000 But is it just me, or is these injuries and these sicknesses and illnesses
00:02:16.180 becoming more and more common?
00:02:18.160 And the sad reality is that most of us blame our poor health conditions
00:02:22.260 on the fact that we're getting older.
00:02:23.780 But heaven forbid, we actually place the blame where it really belongs, on us.
00:02:27.900 We're fat, we're lazy, we're unmotivated, and we don't really want to get off the couch.
00:02:32.580 And then we blame our old age.
00:02:33.980 We fall on the default of old age for the fact that we're experiencing health issues.
00:02:38.120 It's ridiculous to think that you can't enjoy physical health just because you're getting older.
00:02:42.080 I've seen 60 and 70-year-olds that would run circles around you and I
00:02:45.740 because they've decided to make health a priority in their lives.
00:02:50.460 So my challenge to you is to get your ass off the couch and get out of the house and get moving.
00:02:55.800 I don't care what you do.
00:02:57.240 It doesn't matter at this point what you do.
00:02:58.860 It's running, push-ups, go to a box gym, go to CrossFit, just do something.
00:03:03.220 Forget about competing in Spartan races or forget about competing in marathons.
00:03:06.260 I just want you to be fully present for your family and your business and your community.
00:03:11.480 And when you neglect your health, you just won't be able to do that.
00:03:15.400 So let's talk next about mental fortitude.
00:03:17.440 I cannot believe how many mentally weak people are out there in the world today.
00:03:21.020 We call them mental midgets.
00:03:22.040 I'm having conversations with graduating high school boys who are having anxiety over leaving the house.
00:03:27.220 Are you kidding me?
00:03:28.360 When I was 18, I could not wait to leave.
00:03:32.080 And it wasn't because I had a bad upbringing, but because my mom actually raised me to be mentally tough enough to handle what the world wanted to throw at me.
00:03:41.100 And I wanted to get out into the world and I wanted to test my resolve.
00:03:43.940 I didn't want to wait any longer.
00:03:45.200 But these days, what do we do?
00:03:46.680 We coddle our children.
00:03:48.160 We try to make it easy for everyone that we can.
00:03:50.220 We're afraid to have tough conversations.
00:03:52.020 We're afraid to do hard things.
00:03:53.320 And then we're surprised when the world beats us down and we end up going back home with our tail between our legs and crying to mommy or daddy about how the world isn't fair.
00:04:02.880 Suicide is on the rise.
00:04:03.920 I don't want to be insensitive here, but maybe, just maybe, the real reason we're seeing this is because children and adults, for that matter, aren't allowed to experience what real life is all about.
00:04:14.320 Again, we don't expose our children to hardship.
00:04:16.280 We make all kinds of laws that shelter adults from negativity, and then we expect them to perform when they haven't built up the mental fortitude to actually do so.
00:04:26.960 So my challenge for this, for mental fortitude this weekend, is I want you to get out and I want you to do something hard.
00:04:33.520 Take on a new assignment at work.
00:04:35.220 Have a difficult conversation you've been meaning to have.
00:04:37.360 Tell someone no that you've always said yes to and you'll see that you won't die.
00:04:41.660 You'll see that it's not the end of the world and you'll get tougher when you do.
00:04:46.700 So let's talk about this last component, emotional resiliency.
00:04:49.600 We really need to stop acting like a bunch of crybabies.
00:04:52.360 Look, if someone says something you don't agree with, who cares?
00:04:55.960 It's not the end of the world to have a disagreement.
00:04:58.260 You don't need to let it affect your day or your week or your life.
00:05:02.020 And I don't really know what else to say here other than let's toughen up.
00:05:05.860 Now, some people are going to hear that or the term man up and say, that's not really fair, Ryan.
00:05:11.240 It's damaging to tell people toughen up or man up.
00:05:13.820 You know what?
00:05:14.180 It's damaging not to.
00:05:15.200 We're creating a society of collective wimps and we're getting trashed when we get out
00:05:20.360 in the real world.
00:05:21.800 We quit too soon.
00:05:23.200 We divorce too quickly.
00:05:24.780 We let other people trample us because we're too emotionally sensitive to stand up for ourselves.
00:05:30.260 Look, I don't have any research to back up what I'm talking with you about today.
00:05:33.620 I don't need it.
00:05:34.220 Common sense tells me we're headed down the wrong path.
00:05:36.520 So a little physical strength, some mental fortitude, emotional resiliency will go a long
00:05:42.020 way in helping you and I and everyone live the life that they want.
00:05:46.580 And at the end of the day, I think each and every one of us, we want to make some money.
00:05:49.520 We want to spend some time with our families.
00:05:51.180 We want to do the things that we want to do.
00:05:52.620 And we just want to have a good life.
00:05:53.840 And if those are things that you really want, not just talk about wanting those things,
00:05:58.040 that you actually do want to do the things you're going to need to toughen up in each
00:06:02.600 one of those areas.
00:06:03.400 So you've got your marching orders for the weekend, guys.
00:06:05.740 First, get out of bed and get moving.
00:06:07.380 Second, do something difficult that pushes you outside of your comfort zone.
00:06:11.520 It's the only time you're going to get tougher.
00:06:13.260 And third, just learn to shake things off.
00:06:15.880 No harm, no foul.
00:06:17.440 So if you want to learn more about how to implement physical strength, mental fortitude,
00:06:21.940 and emotional resiliency in your life, I want to invite you right now to join our elite
00:06:25.620 mastermind, The Iron Council.
00:06:27.100 This is a collection of men who will work alongside you to help you achieve your biggest goals
00:06:32.380 in life.
00:06:32.860 Whatever it is you want, money, relationships, wealth, whatever, we're going to show you how
00:06:36.740 to do that.
00:06:37.180 We've got weekly assignments, daily challenges, battle teams, and a ton more.
00:06:41.360 Check out the details at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
00:06:44.340 And I really hope to see you there.
00:06:46.440 In the meantime, guys, make sure to subscribe to the podcast, leave us a rating and review
00:06:50.600 at orderofman.com slash iTunes.
00:06:53.640 That's huge for getting visibility for the show.
00:06:56.240 And I know there's a lot of guys that need to hear the message that we're sharing each
00:06:59.540 and every week.
00:07:00.380 Physical strength, mental fortitude, emotional resiliency.
00:07:03.960 It's what makes a man, a man.
00:07:06.900 Catch you next week, guys.
00:07:10.040 Those are your Friday field notes.
00:07:12.040 Now it's time to crush your excuses, own your choices, accept responses.
00:07:16.440 Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash field notes.