In this episode, Ryan talks about the importance of work-life balance, why men struggle with it, and 3 simple ways to strike a good one. (Note: I am not an expert on this topic, but I have learned a few things that have helped me achieve a better balance in my own life.)
00:00:25.440Men, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and founder of Order of Man.
00:00:29.600If you're listening to this show, you know by now that we're a show about all things manly.
00:00:33.380We talk about leadership and health and wealth and relationships, self-mastery, self-defense, and every other topic that is going to help you become the man that you want to be.
00:00:41.920Bottom line, we want you to be a better leader, guys.
00:00:43.980A better leader with yourself, a better leader in your family, your business, your community, a better leader in your life.
00:00:49.840Now, if you're new to the show today, this is our Friday Field Notes show, which is basically five to seven minutes of me rambling about a given topic for the week.
00:00:57.420Specifically today, I'm going to be talking about work-life balance.
00:01:00.700But if you haven't subscribed yet, you need to, because each Tuesday, we release another show where we interview the world's most successful people and help you take those manly lessons back into your own life.
00:01:11.820We've interviewed guys like Navy Seal Jocko Willing, Brett McKay with Art of Manliness, Andy Frisilla with MFCEO, Jordan Harbinger with the Art of Charm, and a ton more.
00:01:20.700Now, with that said, I want to get into the show today because, as I said a second ago, we just don't have that much time.
00:01:25.460I want to talk with you about a reoccurring topic that continues to come up in the emails I receive and on our Facebook group.
00:01:31.640And by the way, if you're a man and you aren't a member of our Facebook group, where have you been?
00:05:00.580And if you're doing work that you don't love, why are you doing it?
00:05:04.340If you're in a marriage that is falling apart, why aren't you fixing it?
00:05:08.060The most frustrating thing a man can experience, in my opinion, because I've lived through this,
00:05:12.120is living a life that is not in line with the way you view the world and your thoughts about the way your life should be lived.
00:05:20.780You need to start aligning your work with your passion.
00:05:24.260You need to build a marriage that coordinates with the work that you're doing.
00:05:27.020You need to include your children in your community activities.
00:05:29.760You need to serve your community the same way that you serve your family.
00:05:33.560This is the congruency I'm talking about.
00:05:35.500And when you do that, you're going to be so much more effective on those little course corrections that you're making throughout the course of your life.
00:05:43.680Now, the next tactic I want to share with you is communication.
00:05:46.200This is something men are generally bad at.
00:05:48.580Are you communicating with your family regarding the expectations they should have of you and the expectations you have of them?
00:05:55.540Are you communicating with your boss or your coworkers when you'll be in the office and when you'll be available and when you won't?
00:06:01.380If not, you need to work on that ASAP, as soon as possible.
00:06:05.200You cannot live life in balance without letting people know what you want, what you'll do, and what you won't do.
00:06:16.720Are you good at saying no to the things that aren't congruent with your vision for life?
00:06:20.060If not, you need to get better and you need to do it quickly or you'll be inundated with unimportant, trivial, meaningless work.
00:06:28.140So communicate with your boss, communicate with your kids, communicate with your spouse, communicate with everyone that needs to know, everyone that has a vested interest in whatever it is you're going to be doing.
00:06:37.800And the last thing I want to talk with you about is commitment.
00:06:40.820Look, you've started to build a life that's congruent with your beliefs about the world.
00:06:44.360You've communicated your vision and your expectations with those that need to know.
00:06:48.400Now it's a matter of being committed, a matter of sticking to it.
00:06:52.140If you tell your wife and kids you're going to be home at five o'clock, you better be home at five o'clock.
00:07:01.800It's a breakdown in your communication.
00:07:03.700It's a breakdown in the congruency that you have in your life.
00:07:06.240You need to stick to what you say you're going to do.
00:07:08.540If your boss asks you to work this weekend and you've already communicated to him that you cannot or you will not work weekends, you better learn to get good at saying no.
00:07:53.960So it's congruency, it's communication, and it's commitment.
00:07:57.200I know this is going to help you with the work-life balance and the course corrections you need to make along the way.
00:08:01.700If you want to learn how to apply this in your life a little bit better than what we can talk about on a five- to eight-minute podcast, I want to invite you to join the Iron Council.
00:08:10.360This is a mastermind designed to take your life to the next level.
00:08:19.380Whatever it is, me and the rest of the guys inside of the Iron Council, we're going to help you earn that for yourself.
00:08:25.520Now, this month, we're talking all about the second C I mentioned today, which is communication.
00:08:29.920So I want you to join us at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
00:08:34.120In the meantime, get out there, start creating balance in your life by building a life of congruency, communicating your expectations with other people, and then committing for the rest of your life to that course of action.
00:08:46.860I'm looking forward to talking to you next week, guys.
00:08:48.520But until then, take action and become the man you were meant to be.