FFN 019： Communication Solves Everything
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Communication is one of the most important things you can do for your business, your family, your relationships, your clients, and your overall sanity and well-being. And if you don't learn how to be a better communicator, you're not going to be able to do it. In this episode, Ryan talks about the different communication styles and how to become a better one.
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You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
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You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
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Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
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You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
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And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
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Men, what is going on today? This is Ryan Michler.
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I am your host and the founder of Order of Man.
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Order of Man is a group. It's a community, a tribe, a fraternity, a band of men coming together to help each other become better men,
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better husbands, better fathers, better business owners, better community leaders, just better men, guys.
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To do that, we have this podcast where we release shows each Tuesday and Friday.
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We have a blog. We have a Facebook community, which you can join if you haven't already, at facebook.com slash groups slash Order of Man.
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And we have an elite mastermind, The Iron Council, which you can get all the details of that at orderofman.com slash Iron Council.
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All right. Now that we have that out of the way, let's get into the topic of today's show, which is communication.
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If you've been listening to the show for a while now, you know that this is a short show.
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It's released each Friday on a topic I've been thinking about throughout the week.
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So make sure you subscribe, if you haven't already, to this podcast so you never miss a Friday Field Notes
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or our interview show with some of the world's greatest men, which that type of show is released each Tuesday.
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Now, why do I want to talk about communication?
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Because, guys, it literally solves everything, hence the title of the podcast.
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Now, I know, without fail, I'm going to have some of you reach out and suggest a situation
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in which communication doesn't solve the problem.
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But look, guys, I'm talking about the big stuff, the real stuff here, the stuff that's actually important to you,
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your relationship with your wife or your girlfriend, your children, your business, your clients, your health,
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And if you can't wrap your head around communication, you, at best, are not going to measure up to your full potential.
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My marriage nearly fell apart seven years ago because I couldn't communicate.
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My businesses were not growing as fast because I did not know how to communicate.
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I didn't have as much wealth in my life because I haven't always been a great communicator.
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Now, I've obviously got some room for improvement.
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But through some of the things I'm going to share with you today, I've become better.
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And I've seen huge, huge improvements in just about every area of my life.
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Now, before I give you some real tactical tips, which I will do for becoming a better communicator
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that you can start implementing, you could actually implement this stuff today.
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I want to run a couple of communication styles past you.
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And as I do, I want you to picture someone in your life who would fall under each of these styles.
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Do they drive you to be better or do they pull you down?
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This is what I would refer to as the aggressive communicator.
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They do and they say anything to get the job done regardless of the wake of destruction
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Now, there's positives too to this type of communicator.
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Obviously, this is someone who knows what he wants.
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This is not a leader you or anyone else would follow for long.
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And they typically end up burning through their relationships extremely quickly.
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If I don't check myself regularly, I'm really capable of falling into this category fast.
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Now, on the opposite side of the spectrum, we have the next style of communication, which
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They typically get trampled and let others say and do anything they want.
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They probably know what they want to some degree, but they don't want to tell anyone
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It would put someone out or it would challenge the status quo.
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So, this person's strengths are kindness and compassion.
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But again, it comes at the expense of their own well-being, their satisfaction, their fulfillment.
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In fact, this is the kind of person that snaps without any warning and goes completely insane,
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They make comments that are disguised, frankly, as humor, but underneath, they're actually insults.
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They don't know how to stand up for themselves in a mature way.
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So, they use humor and they use sarcasm as a tool to create a wall between what they actually
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It wears off because we begin to see the person isn't really all that funny.
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Now, the fourth communicator is the assertive communicator.
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This is a person who knows exactly what they want and they have no problem telling anybody.
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When you ask an assertive communicator their opinion, they will share it with you.
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Whether that's telling you where they'd like to eat or what they want to accomplish in life,
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Now, this isn't necessarily a person who likes confrontation, but they won't shy away from
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it just because someone may not like it and may get offended by what they say.
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They know when to be more aggressive and they know how to use humor to lighten the conversation
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Now, there is a misconception that says the assertive communicator is someone who wants
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It's about understanding them and then acting accordingly.
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If the situation calls for silence, an assertive communicator can be silent.
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But if the situation calls for violence, an assertive communicator is willing and able
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Now that we know them, I think it goes without saying that we should all be striving to be
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So let me give you some quick insights, some of your marching orders for this week for yourself.
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First, I want you to reflect on what type of communicator you currently are.
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Like I mentioned before, I have a tendency to revert back to the aggressive style, which
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is something that I'm always, always working on.
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Ask the people closest to you what they think about the way that you communicate.
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The key here, guys, is to understand your baseline of communication so that you can improve.
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Next, look around at people you admire and observe what type of communicators they are.
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What words, tempo, inflection, and pace do they use in their everyday talk?
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Make suggestions and recommendations to people.
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Remove yourself from a bad or a negative situation and find a new way to approach it.
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This comes back to that evaluation, that first step.
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At the end of every day, you should be going back on the conversations that you're having.
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And then how are you going to do that better tomorrow?
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Why it's so important you learn to be a better communicator.
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And then things that you can do today to be a more effective communicator,
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which makes you a better leader, which makes you a better man.
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So if you're interested in taking the next step, I would encourage you to join the Iron
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This is our elite mastermind with over 100 strong now.
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These are men who are taking serious strides in their relationships and their money and
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wealth building and their health and fitness goals and their personal goals as well.
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And they're learning how to be better communicators.
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We communicate through our closed Facebook group.
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And some of these guys have even become team leaders and they're communicating with
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their teams of 10 men now inside of the Iron Council.
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So if you want to learn more about that, go to orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
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But until then and until next week, guys, be a better communicator, be a better leader,
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Now it's time to crush your excuses, own your choices, accept responsibility and live manfully.
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Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash field notes.