FFN 028： Complacency Kills
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Summary
In this episode, Ryan talks about how to deal with complacency and how it can rob us of the drive and drivelessness that we need to have in order to achieve our full potential in life and in business.
Transcript
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You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
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You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
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Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
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You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
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And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
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Men, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and founder of Order of Man.
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Now, I want to talk about a topic that each and every one of us slip into,
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It's this world of complacency that we have a tendency to fall into.
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Someone asked me the other day what the biggest mental hurdle or struggle that I deal with.
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I get going really, really well in one area of life.
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We take her to fancy restaurants and then we get the girl, right?
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And then before you know it, your wife says, the passion's gone.
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You forgot to keep bringing that passion to the relationship, right?
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I speak from experience on this, but this shows up at work too, right?
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You land your dream job or you get the killer client.
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And essentially you begin to think that you can take the rest of the year off.
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And before long, you realize that your bank account is about to hit zero.
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You immediately pick up the phone and you start dialing prospects, right?
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But guys, in case you haven't heard me talk about this and say this, this is the idea
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and the concept of what I call the natural man.
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Literally and figuratively, the natural man, he's lazy.
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He wants everything right now and he doesn't want to work for it.
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Now, for those of you who don't know, I spent some time in the military.
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I actually spent 2005 and much of 2006 in Iraq.
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And during that time, I had the chance every single day to look at a sign on our base that
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Soldiers would leave our operating base for a mission.
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And because they had done that route so many times before or nothing ever happened when
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they left, they would let their guard down and unexpectedly and without being ready,
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they'd get ambushed or they'd get hit with an IED.
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Now, I'm not suggesting that vigilance is always going to keep you out of harm's way
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every time in your life, but it certainly will mitigate the risk of getting caught with
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Frankly, the world needs us more than it ever has.
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There's going to be those that would prey upon the wheat.
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There's wolves in our midst and less obvious, but equally as dangerous.
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I don't want any of us to ever take it easy or even take the easy route because as soon
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as we do, the enemy will meet us there and destroy us.
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And I'm not talking about a physical enemy, although it could be that I'm talking about
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getting fired or demoted because you forgot to keep getting the job done.
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I'm talking about your wife blindsiding you with divorce papers because you forgot to
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I'm talking about a medical diagnosis that could have been prevented through a simple
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I'm talking about depression or even a loss of purpose and clarity in your life because
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you got too busy to be deliberate about taking time for yourself.
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None of these things will literally kill you, but they do have the potential to destroy you.
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I talk with men dealing with each of these situations on a daily basis, and I can tell
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you that all of them, every single one of them wish they would have done a little bit
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more, push themselves just a little bit harder.
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You guys, my, uh, my wife's grandfather, he grew amazing tomatoes.
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He would take a shovel and he would literally chop a quarter of the roots off of each plant.
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And he said that putting those tomatoes under a little bit of stress, help the fruit grow
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If the tomato plant believed that it was in trouble, it would work harder to stay alive.
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I'm not a botanist, but I can tell you that every time I've been under stress, I have
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Now I don't want to suggest to you that you necessarily need to put undue amounts of stress
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on yourself for the sake of growing, because I also believe that if you chop off all the
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roots of that same tomato plant, it's probably going to die, but a healthy dose of pressure
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of hardship, of stress challenge, all of that's going to test you.
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It will push you beyond your perceived limitations and it will keep you from growing complacent.
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Now I did a podcast earlier this week with the founder of on it, Aubrey Marcus on Tuesday.
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And one of the things that he said to me, which I'll remember forever was pressure
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makes the diamonds, dragons make the heroes and demons make the angels.
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So with that said, here are your marching orders for the week, guys.
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I want you to get out a piece of paper right now.
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Now, if you're driving or working out, I'm going to give you a little leniency on this
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But I want you to divide that paper into four sections and I want you to title those four
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sections, relationships, health, wealth, and self.
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Now on a scale from one to 10, 10 being the highest, how much are you pushing yourself
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How much pressure have you exposed yourself to?
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If you're not ranking at at least a seven, you do not have enough pressure in your life.
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So the next thing I need you to do is to write down three things, three tasks that you're
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That's going to put a little bit more stress on you than you currently have.
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And I want you to get those tasks done in the next week.
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So before our next Friday field notes, I want you to have these tasks done in relationships.
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It could be spending undivided attention with each of your children.
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And with your health, it could be going to the gym for the first time in years.
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It might mean that you sign up for that Spartan race that you've been meaning to sign up for
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It could mean that you finished that product that you've been meaning to finish.
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Maybe you asked someone to buy something from you.
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And of course, with yourself, we don't want to leave ourselves out.
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Maybe it's carving time out for reading a book every single day.
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You could pick up a hobby that you haven't been able to do in years, or it could mean
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You are either pushing to new heights or you are falling behind.
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So on that note, guys, if you do want to surround yourself with 170 men who are going to ensure
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that you continue pushing yourself, I just want to invite you to join our mastermind group,
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Each and every one of the men inside the council are pushing.
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They're stepping outside of their comfort zone.
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So if you're interested, you can join us at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
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But guys, in the meantime, you have your marching orders.
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And until next week, guys, take action and live manfully.
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Now it's time to crush your excuses, own your choices, accept responsibility, and live manfully.
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Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash field notes.