FFN 033： Be a Lighthouse
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Summary
In this episode, Ryan talks about the concept of living your life as a lighthouse and why living as a man is so critical in order to be a better one. He explains why we should live our lives as lighthouses to keep others safe.
Transcript
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
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When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
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Men, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler and I am the host and the founder of Order of Men.
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And of course, this podcast. If you are new to the show today, welcome.
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which are my thoughts, ideas, inspirations that I've had throughout the week.
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or my conversations with some incredible men doing some incredible things.
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Now, with this being a short show, I just get right into the meat of the discussion.
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I want to talk with you today about a concept that I've heard, and I've really latched onto this in my personal life,
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and that is the idea of living your life as a lighthouse.
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But before I get too much into the theory and the concept of living as a lighthouse,
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I do want to give credit where credit is due. This is not a concept I came up with.
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In fact, it's been around for a long time. I initially heard it from Sean Whalen,
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who I believe heard it from Jesse Elder, who probably heard it from somebody else.
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But regardless, I'm going to give you my spin on this.
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I'm going to tell you why it's so critical that you and I as men adopt this belief and this way of living into our lives.
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Now, before I tell you what it means to actually be a lighthouse,
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I just want you to consider for a minute what our primary responsibilities as men are.
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I've talked about this at length. It's protect, it's provide, it's preside.
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So in other words, what makes you and I men is our ability to be responsible and accountable for not only ourselves,
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but for those that we have an obligation to care for.
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Our families, our co-workers, our employees, our neighbors, our communities,
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and also those who cannot take care of themselves.
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So I want you to think about that for a second. That is a huge responsibility.
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Not only do we have to take care of ourselves, but we have to take care of others.
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It's a tough job. It truly is, but it is our duty.
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So now with that said, let's talk about the function of a lighthouse.
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A lighthouse is built to save. It's built to warn. It's built to protect.
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It's built to keep ships from running into land when that land is actually difficult to see.
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And I think you can already see where I'm going with this.
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We as men should operate our lives as lighthouses.
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We save. We warn. We keep those in our care safe.
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But here's where it gets a little tough and a little tricky.
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A lighthouse cannot physically go out and rescue a boat.
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Those are the words to the introduction to this podcast.
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See, the problem with acting like a tugboat when you should be acting like a lighthouse
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And this is a ship that may not even want to be saved.
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A ship that may end up bringing you down with it.
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So as I got into the financial field, I had a trainer.
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He once told me, I will never work with anyone when I can see that I care more about his success
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And I'm beginning to recognize this more and more as Order of Man expands its reach
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and continues to have a larger and larger impact.
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I cannot possibly save everyone by going out to rescue them one at a time.
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And what I've come to notice is that more often than not, the ones that actually need
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to be rescued that are calling for your help, in all reality, they want you to do it for
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They don't want to exert any effort of their own.
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Now, when I talk about this, this is about the time that the naysayers or the critics
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of the lighthouse concept come in with something like, that's a selfish way to live your life
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or isn't that one person important or don't you care about others?
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It's one job is to shine so that others can see.
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And what I can see now is that I can have a far greater impact in people's lives by
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shining bright and allowing those who are ready and more importantly, those who are
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willing to exert effort of their own to see that light and actually do something about
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An example for his children, an example for other men, an example for his neighbors, employees,
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A lighthouse does not adapt or conform or bend to the will of others or even what society
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says about the way it should behave or what it should be doing or how it should be spending
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Are you acting like that rock, that lighthouse?
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So I want to share with you a couple of things that you can do to let your light shine so that
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First, in order for you to serve others as the pillar of strength and stability, you
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need to know what you stand for and what you don't.
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You need to have and know what your code of conduct is.
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How are you going to behave when the waves are crashing around you?
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How are you going to respond when there are those who will frankly mock you, ridicule you,
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If you don't know what that looks like now, if you haven't already decided before that storm
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You've got to take what you know about who you are and who you aren't and you've got to
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Are people going to be mad because they don't agree with the way I see the world?
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But unless you're willing to share, you are never going to accomplish at the level in which
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That means you've stood up for something at some point in your life.
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When you learn to shine, regardless, regardless of what other people think of you or how they
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treat you or how they look at you, congratulations because you are now a lighthouse.
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People are going to see you shining and sharing your light and they're going to ask you to come
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They're going to ask you to leave your post and they're going to ask you to do that for
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Number one, they don't want, again, to exert any of their own effort in creating and implementing
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solutions to their own problems, the problems they probably created for themselves.
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There are certain people that when they see you on that hill, they will not be inspired,
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But again, they're not willing to put forth the effort required to have that.
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So they'll take the easy route and ask you not to shine so brightly.
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Do not be tempted to chase others who will not help themselves.
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Keep shining and let those who are counting on you to hold fast see you fulfill your duty
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If you want to learn more about the concept of being a lighthouse and how you can serve
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as a beacon of light and strength for your family and your business and your community,
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I want to personally invite you to join our elite mastermind, the Iron Council.
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Guys, this is a group of 170 plus men working together to achieve more in their lives.
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We're learning new things, but we are banding together to help us accomplish big things
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So if you're interested, check it out at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
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But until next week, guys, stand strong, shine brightly, and be a lighthouse.
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Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
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