Order of Man - January 27, 2017


FFN 040： Masculine Sovereignty, Part I


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

200.3118

Word Count

2,013

Sentence Count

130

Misogynist Sentences

1

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary

In this episode, Ryan discusses the importance of self-governance and how it is a fundamental part of being a good man. He also discusses the 12 principles of masculinity and why it is so critical for men to learn how to take care of themselves.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:25.220 Gentlemen, I hope all is going well today. My name is Ryan Michler and I am the host and the founder of Order of Man.
00:00:29.680 Whether you are new to the show today or you've been with us since the beginning or even some time in between,
00:00:33.960 I want to welcome you to what I consider the manliest podcast available today.
00:00:37.880 Each and every week, my goal is to get the world's most successful men, whether that's athletes, warriors, entrepreneurs,
00:00:44.100 New York Times bestselling authors, or basically anybody who has a message to share with us about being a better man.
00:00:50.140 That's who we're going to bring on the show.
00:00:51.940 Now, if you don't already know, we have this show, our Friday Field Notes, where I share some of my thoughts and my ideas,
00:00:56.560 my ramblings from throughout the week, but we also have an interview show I just mentioned,
00:01:01.000 which is released each and every Tuesday.
00:01:03.000 So I suggest you just subscribe wherever you get your fix of podcasts so you never miss a single episode.
00:01:08.460 Now, with that said, I do want to make you aware of a couple of resources before I get into the meat of the discussion.
00:01:13.160 First, if you haven't already done so, make sure you go join right now our closed Facebook group with thousands of men.
00:01:18.720 I think we're close to 19,000 men in the group and thousands of conversations centered around the topic of masculinity.
00:01:24.960 And you can do that at facebook.com slash groups slash order of men.
00:01:28.760 And next, make sure you take a quick minute to check out our exclusive mastermind, The Iron Council.
00:01:33.540 This is designed to help you take your life to the next level with regards to your relationships,
00:01:38.300 your health, your wealth, yourself, your life.
00:01:41.000 And you can see what we're all about and what's included.
00:01:42.920 And you can join this incredible brotherhood of men who are committed to being better leaders,
00:01:47.100 better fathers, better husbands, business owners, better men in their lives.
00:01:50.540 And of course, the lives of those they care about.
00:01:52.380 You can do that at order of man.com slash iron council.
00:01:55.040 Now let's get into the discussion today, which is that of sovereignty.
00:01:58.180 The idea of sovereignty is the ability that you and I have to govern ourselves.
00:02:03.320 And if you're going to be the man that you want to be,
00:02:05.280 you are going to have to latch on to and embrace this idea fully.
00:02:09.480 And there's a reason you're going to have to do this.
00:02:11.420 And that's because there is not a single person on this planet
00:02:14.580 who can take care of you better than you should be able to take care of yourself.
00:02:18.920 Now I've got to throw a disclaimer out.
00:02:20.360 It seems like I have to do this every week because inevitably somebody is going to tell me
00:02:23.440 that a quote unquote real man does not live for himself,
00:02:26.860 that he should be there to serve others.
00:02:28.800 And while I definitely agree with that, wholeheartedly agree with that,
00:02:32.360 if you can't learn to govern and be responsible and accountable for yourself,
00:02:36.760 you are not going to be able to serve those that you feel like you have a responsibility
00:02:40.740 and even obligation to serve.
00:02:42.720 A man is somebody who is a protector.
00:02:45.740 He's a provider.
00:02:46.620 He's a presider.
00:02:47.320 We've talked a lot about this in his life and others' lives as well.
00:02:50.740 And so to that end, it is critical that you and I learn how to take care of ourselves first.
00:02:55.920 And that's what I want to talk with you about today.
00:02:57.440 Now I've broken this down into 12 principles.
00:03:00.300 And I think I'm going to break this into two shows for the sake of time.
00:03:02.800 But today I'm going to break down the first six.
00:03:04.780 Then next week I'll give you the next six.
00:03:06.280 Now the sad reality is that most men have all but given away their individual sovereignty
00:03:11.780 to some organization or government, some party, even their spouses in some cases.
00:03:17.300 They're expecting that somebody else will do it all for them
00:03:20.220 and believe they're entitled to some things in this life.
00:03:23.780 And the fact remains, nobody owes us anything.
00:03:27.640 And if you're going to have more, do more, be more,
00:03:30.480 it is up to you and me to develop the mindset and the skills and the tools that we need to do that.
00:03:37.000 These aren't in any particular order today, but let's break this down.
00:03:39.720 First and foremost, no one owes you a thing.
00:03:41.720 I already talked about this one a little bit,
00:03:43.560 but understanding that it is not anyone else's responsibility to make sure you have in this life
00:03:49.560 is a crucial step in controlling your own destiny.
00:03:53.200 It's not your boss's job to make sure you're employed.
00:03:56.200 It's not your client's job to make sure you're paid.
00:03:59.040 It's not your wife's responsibility to ensure that you're fulfilled in your marriage.
00:04:03.440 It's not your fitness coach's responsibility to ensure you're in shape.
00:04:07.520 And it's definitely not the government's job to ensure that you and I prosper.
00:04:11.340 It is all on us.
00:04:13.620 And when you and I come to that realization and we live our life accordingly,
00:04:17.240 we have taken the first step to power and control over our fate, our future, our destiny.
00:04:24.180 Next, everything in life is a choice.
00:04:26.560 A lot of people don't like when I say this because there are no doubt some things that happen to us
00:04:31.320 that are beyond our control.
00:04:33.060 I understand this.
00:04:33.940 But that said, those situations probably represent less than 1% of the way that we actually live our lives.
00:04:40.360 And even if something does happen to us that we can't control,
00:04:43.800 we still have a choice in how we respond to that event.
00:04:47.300 And another point I want to make here is that you are constantly making choices every single day.
00:04:54.100 Sometimes you not making a choice is actually making a choice not to choose.
00:04:59.720 So understanding that you get to choose your life and the results of your choices determine how successful you'll be
00:05:07.440 in your relationships, your fitness journey, your money, your business, every other area of life.
00:05:14.640 Now, along those same lines of things happening outside of our control,
00:05:18.400 you need to understand that you can choose to consume yourself with the things that you have no control over
00:05:26.200 or you can choose to focus only on what you can control.
00:05:31.300 And that's point number three.
00:05:32.720 You cannot control another person's behavior.
00:05:35.140 You cannot change the economy.
00:05:36.680 You cannot change the weather.
00:05:37.880 There's a lot of things that we cannot change.
00:05:39.800 And to believe that we can is arrogant at best and destructive to our own success and well-being at worst.
00:05:46.000 A lot of people will focus on the way that the world quote-unquote should be.
00:05:49.700 Unicorns, rainbows, fairy tales, instead of focusing on the way it actually is and then acting accordingly.
00:05:56.720 And this brings me to the very next point, which is operating in reality.
00:06:00.900 Most of us walk around with a fog, a haziness in our lives.
00:06:05.160 We deliberately or even unintentionally pull this wool over our eyes because the world is too difficult to handle at times.
00:06:12.420 We don't want to jump on the scale, for example, because we're afraid of what that scale, what that number will actually say.
00:06:18.240 We don't want to ask our wife how the relationship is going because we know that it sucks.
00:06:24.320 And we don't want to pull up the bank account because we know it's in the negative.
00:06:27.660 This is how children behave.
00:06:30.520 For example, my daughter, she will cover her eyes when she gets scared.
00:06:34.560 Does that mean the threat is now gone because she can't see it?
00:06:37.800 Of course not.
00:06:38.580 It only means that she can no longer react to it properly because she can't even see what's going on.
00:06:43.860 We laugh when we see a child doing this, but forget to actually look in the mirror and realize that we do it only with much more at stake.
00:06:52.980 Gentlemen, pull the blindfold off.
00:06:55.600 Step into the reality of the life that you have created through your choices.
00:07:00.500 As difficult as I know that this can be to face, it is the only way to progress.
00:07:06.260 Next, accept responsibility.
00:07:08.160 How easy is it to say it's somebody else's fault?
00:07:10.740 How easy is it to blame our wife for the marital problems?
00:07:14.940 How easy is it for us to blame a vendor for not getting the product out on time?
00:07:19.840 How easy is it to blame the economy for our lack of financial resources?
00:07:24.460 Men, we live in a time where relatively few people are actually willing to accept any measure of responsibility in their lives.
00:07:32.620 Quite honestly, it's pathetic.
00:07:34.260 Men accept responsibility.
00:07:35.960 That's exactly what we do.
00:07:37.400 I know that burden can be heavy to bear, but welcome to manhood.
00:07:41.960 And keep in mind that accepting responsibility for something does not mean that you're accepting blame.
00:07:47.400 It only means that you recognize that something isn't quite right and you are willing to shoulder that weight and say,
00:07:55.100 I will make this right.
00:07:57.600 And the last thing I wanted to talk with you about, point number six today, is this idea of accountability.
00:08:03.160 It's a buzzword.
00:08:03.940 It gets tossed around all the time and I want to talk with you about what it actually means.
00:08:09.780 And I want to share with you that there's actually two levels of accountability.
00:08:12.720 Number one, being accountable to others.
00:08:14.640 This is the foundational element, I believe, of accountability.
00:08:17.740 I'm going to be accountable to a boss or my coach or my wife, etc.
00:08:22.280 And there's nothing wrong with being able to be accountable to others.
00:08:25.560 But there's a higher level of accountability, and that is the idea of being accountable to yourself.
00:08:31.120 This is the higher tier of accountability.
00:08:33.340 This is about being a man of your word.
00:08:35.340 This is about taking initiative and understanding that you should be holding yourself to the highest standard.
00:08:42.020 That you don't need anybody else to keep your feet to the fire and that you can do it for yourself.
00:08:47.840 Both tiers of accountability are important, but we ought to be continually striving for that higher level, that higher tier of accountability to ourselves.
00:08:56.840 Gentlemen, self-governance is a critical component on this path to masculinity.
00:09:03.480 I've given you six of the 12 principles to individual sovereignty today, but make sure you tune in next week.
00:09:08.560 Subscribe if you need to for the remaining six.
00:09:10.560 The first six, again, are no one owes you a thing, everything in life is a choice, focus only on what you can control, operate in reality, accept responsibility, and be accountable to yourself.
00:09:24.460 Until next week, gentlemen, make sure you check out our exclusive mastermind where we're teaching these principles and a ton more.
00:09:30.780 You're going to get the tools, the resources, the guidance, the direction, and that first tier of accountability to others, to the other 200 plus men already part of this brotherhood.
00:09:39.200 And you can do that, and you can join this brotherhood at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil.
00:09:44.380 Until next week, remember and implement the ideas of individual sovereignty I shared with you today.
00:09:49.240 Take action and become the man you were meant to be.
00:09:52.820 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
00:09:55.800 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.