Order of Man - March 31, 2017


FFN 049： Like Sheep to the Slaughter


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11 minutes

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2,200

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In this episode, Ryan talks about the dangers of the herd mentality and how to become your own man by questioning where the rest of the pack is going. He also shares a few tactical strategies that you can implement right now that are going to allow you to become a better man.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.500 and I am the host and the founder of the podcast you're listening to right now, The Order of Man.
00:00:32.060 Guys, you are going to have to forgive me today. I'm a little under the weather, but I wanted to
00:00:35.780 have this conversation with you. It's really important that we do. I have not missed a podcast
00:00:40.220 since we started over two years ago now, which is crazy to think about. So here I am a little under
00:00:47.240 the weather, but I'm here nonetheless. My goal, guys, is to help us all become better men, better
00:00:52.760 leaders in our communities, better business owners, better entrepreneurs, better fathers,
00:00:56.640 better husbands, just better men in general. So each and every week, we bring on the world's
00:01:01.280 most successful men from New York Times bestselling authors to warriors, to athletes, entrepreneurs,
00:01:07.440 anybody that we feel like might have a message to share with you about becoming the man that you
00:01:12.200 want to be. But we also have the show that you're listening to right now, our Friday Field Notes,
00:01:16.700 where you get to listen to me for the next 10 minutes or so on some things that I've been
00:01:19.500 thinking about throughout the week. So if you are new to the show, I just want to invite you to
00:01:25.020 subscribe to this show. And while you're there, if you would, please leave us a rating and review
00:01:29.960 so we can keep doing what we're doing here at The Order of Men. And before I dive into the subject
00:01:34.200 to today, I just want to give a quick shout out to one of our members, JC Borg, who actually helped
00:01:38.900 me come up with a topic, which if you notice the title of this podcast, you saw that this show is
00:01:43.580 titled Like Sheep to the Slaughter. What do I mean by this? What do I mean when I say sheep to the
00:01:48.420 slaughter? What I mean is that I think that there is a tendency for men and women in society
00:01:53.680 today to put a blindfold on, to blindly follow other people, to go with the status quo, and
00:02:00.100 frankly, to do what everybody else is doing. There's a lot of reasons that I think that we do this,
00:02:05.340 but at the end of the day, that pack or herd mentality is designed. It's literally designed
00:02:12.540 to keep us safe and to keep us alive. It's been programmed into us since the dawn of man,
00:02:18.260 that if we stick together, that we'll survive. And I know that there's probably some truth in
00:02:23.520 certain circumstances to that, but I think it's become less and less relevant. I'm not suggesting
00:02:28.440 though that we don't stick together. I'm not suggesting that we shouldn't find people that
00:02:33.500 we can rally around and also people who can rally around us. But I do believe there is a danger in
00:02:39.700 following the pack without questioning where that pack is headed. And that's exactly what I want to
00:02:45.920 talk with you about today. I want to talk with you about the dangers. I want to talk with you about
00:02:49.880 a few tactical strategies that I've used that you can employ starting right now that are going to
00:02:56.100 allow you to become your own man, which is something I think all of us want. So let's talk about the
00:03:01.020 dangers of this herd mentality. First and foremost, I think it's important that we understand that we
00:03:07.060 don't always have a good idea. In fact, very rarely do we have a good idea of what the
00:03:12.360 quote unquote herd's motives are? Is the government, for example, really there to protect us? Is the
00:03:19.880 healthcare industry really there to heal us? Is it really even my intention to help you become
00:03:25.640 a better man? I know what they'd say. I know what I'd say. But unless you know with 100% certainty
00:03:32.040 what another party or institution or organization or person's motives are, I think it's important that
00:03:39.520 you approach every single interaction and every engagement that you have with a healthy dose of
00:03:45.100 skepticism. Next, there's this fake news. I'm not just talking about what you see on Facebook with
00:03:50.640 those clickbait titles, but what I'm talking about is everything from your friend's Instagram account to
00:03:57.080 the way people take pictures and how they talk about their life to the cars they drive to the houses
00:04:02.480 they live in. Are those stories, the stories that people are telling us really what's going on? A lot of
00:04:08.900 you know, for example, I'm a financial advisor. I can tell you from experience that there are a lot
00:04:13.880 of people who are driving some fancy cars. They're living in some big homes and they're going on some
00:04:20.260 exotic vacations that they really shouldn't be. They're up to their eyeballs in debt and they are
00:04:27.320 miserable, but they have to keep up that persona. They have to maintain that veneer. They want everybody
00:04:34.860 to think that they're happy when in all reality, they're anything but. Which leads me to talk about
00:04:41.940 this next point, misery. We've all heard the adage that misery loves company. It's true. I know a lot
00:04:48.880 of people who are miserable. There is absolutely nothing good about their life according to them.
00:04:54.580 And rather than trying to lift themselves out of it, they'd rather spend that time and energy
00:04:59.000 focused on dragging you down. And the catch is that sometimes it's really difficult. It's hard
00:05:05.280 for us to see and tell if somebody's miserable because they've got that persona I was talking
00:05:09.580 about to uphold. And I'm going to talk with you a little bit more about what you can do about that,
00:05:13.460 but understand that there are a lot of miserable people out there and they want you to be miserable
00:05:18.640 too. And the last point that I wanted to touch on is this oversensitive world that we are living in.
00:05:26.180 You cannot say anything without somebody getting upset or even crying foul. In fact,
00:05:31.800 somebody is probably going to be upset about this podcast and the fact that I use the word
00:05:36.440 slaughter because heaven forbid we remind anybody that human beings eat meat. It's absolutely
00:05:42.960 ridiculous. I'm not sure how far this goes, but I can tell you that I believe that part of the
00:05:49.180 reason we're so sensitive is because silent workers, silent workers are good workers. Society
00:05:56.860 does not want people to buck the system. It's the reason that we love the rebel in a movie so much.
00:06:03.020 It's because he's challenging the status quo and society or the government or an organization is
00:06:08.740 working so hard to keep him silent. Those entities, they don't want heroes. They want workers. They want
00:06:15.360 drones. They want robots. They want sheep. And the more silent you are, the more you conform,
00:06:21.700 the more profitable you are for them. So consider that next time you say something that you might
00:06:28.480 really think and feel, but it challenges the system. If you're put on blast for being a racist or a bigot
00:06:36.920 or a sexist or an extremist, maybe just maybe you'll think twice about opening your rebellious
00:06:43.460 mouth next time. And those are just a few of the symptoms and the reasons that I think we're
00:06:48.040 encouraged to sit down, to shut up, to play nice. So I want to talk with you about how you can avoid
00:06:54.220 being led away to this slaughterhouse. First and foremost, you have to know exactly what you want.
00:06:59.460 This is not new. I've talked about this at length before. If you don't, it's going to be easier
00:07:04.260 to lead you astray. What do you want in your business? What do you want in your fitness? What
00:07:09.420 do you want for your family? What do you want with your spirituality? What do you want exactly in every
00:07:14.660 aspect of your life? Very few people can answer that question, which is why we have so many sheep
00:07:19.900 and not enough independent thinkers. Men who can stand on their own two feet and say with certainty,
00:07:25.900 this is what I want. So knowing what that is will make it less and less likely that you're going to
00:07:31.640 be led to slaughter because you're going to be able to engage in this second point that I wanted
00:07:35.260 to make, which is learning to say no. It is critical, critical that you learn how to say no
00:07:40.000 and becoming your own man. Everybody wants you to say yes. Everyone wants you to do what they're
00:07:43.840 doing. I already told you why. Everyone wants you to conform, but because you now know exactly what
00:07:50.420 you want, you can have a very clear conscience when it comes to saying no to the things that are not
00:07:56.880 in line with what you're trying to accomplish. Next, qualify your sources. Where are you getting
00:08:03.660 your information? Are you getting it from people and from sources that aren't qualified to even give
00:08:10.240 you that advice? If you are, it's more likely that you'll be led away to a place that you do not want
00:08:14.800 to go. And too often we realize this before it's too late. You need to look for people who know what
00:08:20.660 they are doing. And more importantly, probably most importantly, are already experiencing the
00:08:26.300 results that you're after. And doing that will alleviate a lot of the chances of you being led
00:08:31.840 down the wrong path, but it's not going to completely remove that threat. That's why it's
00:08:35.400 important that you also approach everything with a healthy dose of skepticism. You should be questioning
00:08:41.420 everything. Everything that I'm saying on this podcast right now, you should be questioning
00:08:46.360 whether or not it's true. Is this really the way it is? Is this really what I want? Am I qualified
00:08:52.900 to even give you this advice? What is in it for me? What is in it for you when you give me a
00:08:57.920 recommendation? Now, I'm not telling you to be a cynic here, guys. There's a line that you should avoid
00:09:02.620 crossing because you don't want to turn into that bitter, angry old man. But you do want to know what
00:09:10.000 you're getting yourself into before you get yourself into it. And the last point that I want to make is
00:09:15.760 that you should always engage your mind in addition to your emotions. We as humans, we are emotional
00:09:21.320 creatures. You know that. I know that. We've been in emotional situations. Those emotions, guys,
00:09:26.640 they're there to serve us. They're there to help. But I know there's been a lot of times in my life
00:09:30.720 where my emotions have got the better of me because I wasn't willing to engage the six inches between my
00:09:37.940 ears, my brain for just a second and ask myself what was really happening in any given scenario.
00:09:45.760 Patience is a virtue. If you can't take a step back and evaluate and analyze what's actually
00:09:52.480 happening, you're going to get burned more often than you'd like to admit. Gentlemen, as I wrap
00:09:57.600 things up today, I just want you to know that we as men are supposed to lead. We're supposed to be
00:10:02.840 leaders. That's why I talk about presiding. It's leadership. But in order to do that, we have to be
00:10:08.080 able to think independently about what is going on around us. I know there's going to be times where
00:10:13.000 following is also required. But if you arm yourself with an understanding of people's motives,
00:10:19.920 their intentions, the tools that I talked about today, I think you're less likely to be led to the
00:10:25.800 slaughter. So if you want to learn more about becoming your own man, I want to invite you to join
00:10:31.260 our exclusive mastermind, the Iron Council. It's a bit of an oxymoron. I get it. This is a band of
00:10:36.080 brothers. I get that. But they're going to help you on your journey. This is important. We also
00:10:40.520 strive to give you the tools and the guidance and the resources that you'll need to determine what
00:10:46.600 you, what you want out of your life and how you can earn it. So if you want to learn more about that
00:10:53.140 and what's included in our mastermind, head to orderofman.com slash Iron Council. Guys, I look
00:10:59.120 forward to talking to you next week. But until then, take action and become your own man.
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