Order of Man - FFN 057： Strikeout Swinging

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

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00:01:02.120 listened to that one yet, you now know what you're going to do after you listen to me ramble for the

00:01:06.760 next couple of minutes about a subject I think all of us could probably adhere to just a little bit

00:01:12.080 more in our lives, and I'm going to get into that here in a minute, but I just wanted to give you

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00:02:04.240 at order of man.com slash iron council. All right, guys, enough of that. Let's talk about the subject of

00:02:10.340 today's Friday field notes, striking out swinging. We just wrapped up another baseball season here in

00:02:15.900 Southern Utah and overall is a pretty great season. I just coached my two oldest boys teams and both

00:02:21.040 teams are good. Both teams are strong. They did a lot of right things this year. They learned a ton.

00:02:26.060 I learned a ton, but there is one thing I really had to work on with them. And that is of never

00:02:32.600 striking out looking. I can understand a strikeout. It happens to everybody. It happens to the best

00:02:38.040 players in the world. But one of the things that is so difficult for me to see an experience

00:02:42.580 is when an opposing pitcher throws a strike and my team just stands there and looks at it.

00:02:49.480 They don't even make an attempt to swing at the ball. It is infuriating. They might get out,

00:02:54.100 but if they don't swing at strikes, they're guaranteed to. And as I was working on the

00:02:59.780 patience that is required to coach eight and nine-year-old boys, it got me thinking how often

00:03:05.420 I've watched opportunities pass me by because I'm unprepared or I'm caught like a deer in the

00:03:11.720 headlights. How often have you passed up opportunities? How often do we fail to miss

00:03:16.380 what could have been a chance for us to do something great in our lives if only we were

00:03:21.600 in the position mentally, physically to actually take a swing? And it's got me thinking about

00:03:26.760 why we do this and more importantly, how, how we can avoid doing it in the future. So let's

00:03:32.780 talk about why we look when we should be swinging. First, I think it comes down to a lack of

00:03:39.000 preparation. Professional baseball players spend their entire lives focusing on the mechanics

00:03:44.620 of swinging. The best players actually even focus on the mechanics of pitching so they can better

00:03:49.740 understand the windup of a pitcher, the arm movement, the hand, the release, the spin of the

00:03:55.040 ball, so much more so that they can give themselves that much better of a chance. But what do we do in

00:04:00.540 our daily lives? We don't prepare like that. We do everything the exact same way we've always done.

00:04:05.600 We never look for efficiencies because we're too stuck in our ways. We don't look for opportunities

00:04:10.780 to improve or take it on a new project because it's not our responsibility. So for example, when

00:04:17.340 that job promotion becomes available at work, we aren't even considered. We're not even considered

00:04:22.880 for it because we haven't been doing the work required to perform in that new position. Every

00:04:28.140 single moment, every single conversation, every single encounter or interaction is an opportunity

00:04:34.520 to prepare for what is coming down the road. And the second component of this is fear. I mean,

00:04:41.000 we are so afraid of looking ridiculous that we won't even put ourselves in the ballgame.

00:04:46.560 Look, I get it. Baseball as is life is tough. It's a hard sport. It's scary. People are going to have

00:04:53.440 their eyes on you. They're going to be watching you, especially as you're trying to become a new man,

00:04:58.160 the man that you are meant to be. But what we fail to realize is that when we try to keep

00:05:02.740 from sabotaging ourselves and that's what we're trying to do, we don't want to look foolish.

00:05:06.840 We don't want to sabotage ourselves. We actually end up sabotaging ourselves. If you swing, you might

00:05:12.140 miss. But if you don't, you're guaranteed to. So if you haven't done this already, I would encourage

00:05:18.000 you to go read Teddy Roosevelt's speech, The Man in the Arena. It's going to tell you everything

00:05:22.420 that you need to know. All right. So lack of preparation and fear keep us from swinging. So

00:05:27.900 what is it that we need to do in order to be in the position and actually have the desire

00:05:32.820 to swing in the future? First and foremost, you've got to understand the rules of the game

00:05:36.140 you're playing. And I know a lot of people are going to say that life isn't a game. I

00:05:39.480 know it's not a game, but there are rules to this experience we call life. Some of those

00:05:43.900 rules are written. Most of them are unwritten. Imagine, for example, if you tried investing

00:05:48.580 without knowing what interest was or even how the stock market worked to some small degree,

00:05:52.840 you're going to get blindsided with fees and losses. And it's actually going to keep you

00:05:57.760 from doing it again. It's going to keep you from trying or swinging again. You might even

00:06:01.540 attempt to blame the loss you experienced on somebody else, your advisor or the president

00:06:06.380 or the economy. And while I can see that there might be some validity to that, there wasn't

00:06:11.680 anything keeping you from learning the rules. In fact, you're probably listening to this podcast

00:06:16.720 on a device that gives you access to a lifetime or more of information. Our friend, Google,

00:06:23.140 and outside of Google, it is possible and highly recommended that you consider hiring a coach to

00:06:30.220 help you learn the rules and swing when it's appropriate. I have a business coach. I have

00:06:35.380 multiple fitness coaches. At one point I had a life coach. Every one of these coaches taught me

00:06:40.760 something about some element of life and helped me understand the game a bit more. So I knew when to

00:06:47.300 swing and I knew when not to our brotherhood, the iron council. I mentioned it earlier. This is a

00:06:52.280 prime example of this. I have individual coaching clients. All of these men are attempting to learn

00:06:56.900 something they don't already know and shorten that learning curve of doing it. But the other side of

00:07:03.020 this, and we have to be aware of that, is that there are those who would like to see you fail.

00:07:08.880 When you're standing in the batter's box, the catcher might be whispering little things in your

00:07:13.700 ear. You're probably hearing the crowd behind you. Some of them are here to cheer you on and others are

00:07:19.080 here to revel in your failure. And you have to have the ability to discern who is helping you,

00:07:25.520 who is on your side and who isn't. They're telling you when to swing, when it's a ball,

00:07:30.340 when it's a strike. But if you stop and think about it, they have no idea. Your mother, however noble

00:07:36.620 her intentions might be, has never stood in the batter's box. She might be telling you things that

00:07:41.980 will keep you safe and that's her job, but she isn't telling you things that are going to help

00:07:47.260 you win. That is your coach's job. And outside of that, guys, it's practice. The only thing that

00:07:53.440 it's going to help you to recognize when to swing and when not to is to look at a boatload of pitches.

00:07:59.200 There's nothing that can replicate real world implementation of the things you and your coach

00:08:04.160 have been learning. There might be a couple boys this year, in fact, who give up on baseball

00:08:09.760 because they didn't do it as well as they would have liked. But the ones that stick around,

00:08:14.320 the ones that get the most pitches and the most looks and the most at-bats are the ones who will

00:08:18.400 learn most and find a way to grow and thrive. Keep taking the at-bats. Keep learning on your own.

00:08:26.460 Keep hiring coaches. But most importantly, keep swinging. Never strike out looking. So if you want

00:08:32.980 to learn more about how to succeed with your finances and your business, your health,

00:08:37.020 your relationships, I want to work with you. And we can do that in one of two ways. The Iron

00:08:41.260 Council, which again is our exclusive band of brothers. These guys are dedicated. They're

00:08:45.580 ambitious. They want to succeed. They want you to succeed. And we've built a solid framework,

00:08:51.380 including something we just launched, which is a 30-day quick start guide to get you off to the

00:08:56.160 races fast. So you can check out what we're doing at orderaman.com slash Iron Council. Outside of that,

00:09:01.460 if you're interested in one-on-one coaching, you can shoot me an email at Ryan at orderaman.com.

00:09:06.180 I'll ask you some powerful questions. We'll get you some clarity and see how and if I can

00:09:11.040 even help. Gentlemen, I will look forward to talking to you next week. But until then,

00:09:15.000 take action, strike out swinging, and become the man you are meant to be.

00:09:20.120 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your

00:09:24.420 life and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

Order of Man - May 26, 2017

FFN 057： Strikeout Swinging

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