Order of Man - June 16, 2017


FFN 060： 4 Domains of Manliness


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What does it mean to be a man? What are the four quadrants of masculinity? How do we become a better version of ourselves? How can we be more like a man in all areas of our lives? In this episode of Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down what he believes it means to become a man.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast, The Order of Men.
00:00:31.600 If you are listening in for the first time, this is our Friday Field Notes.
00:00:35.320 I'm going to be talking with you for the next 10 minutes or so to share with you some things that I've been thinking about from throughout the week.
00:00:40.760 But we also have a show which is released each Tuesday where I interview the world's most successful and powerful men,
00:00:46.980 ask them some really good questions, and get their even better answers.
00:00:51.160 Guys, I know first and foremost that we have talked about this before, but you have got to check out our upcoming Order of Men meetup
00:00:58.140 with the one and only Stephen Mansfield.
00:01:00.420 He is the author of Mansfield's Book of Manly Men and Building Your Band of Brothers, among others.
00:01:05.400 I'm going to be there. Stephen's going to be there.
00:01:06.980 We just brought in three more powerful speakers.
00:01:09.340 Josiah Novak to talk about fitness and nutrition.
00:01:11.580 Stephen Heiner, who's been helping behind the scenes with Order of Men.
00:01:14.760 And Larry Hagner with The Good Dad Project, who I know a lot of you know.
00:01:18.720 It's going to be held August 12th, 2017, and the first 50 guys to sign up will get a free copy of Stephen Mansfield's book,
00:01:27.060 Building Your Band of Brothers.
00:01:28.900 You can get the details and register at orderofman.com slash event.
00:01:33.000 Now, let's just get right into the conversation today.
00:01:36.160 When I started Order of Men a little over two years ago, I made a post originally and a video available called
00:01:41.620 The Eight Skillsets Every Man Must Master. 0.86
00:01:44.200 That video and the post have been viewed tens of thousands of times, which led me to believe that men really wanted to know what they needed to be able to do in order to call themselves men.
00:01:54.800 And while I still wholeheartedly agree with the eight skill sets that I shared, over time, my thought process has changed.
00:02:01.260 And through my own personal experience, I've been able to articulate a little bit more clearly about what I think it means to be a man.
00:02:08.060 Of course, that's open for interpretation.
00:02:10.240 I've asked over 130 men in our interview podcast what it means to be a man, and I have received over 130 answers.
00:02:17.980 Coming up with the exact formula for masculinity is proving to be a pretty difficult process and a never-ending process, I'm sure.
00:02:26.080 But what I have discovered through thousands of hours of work and reading and personal observation is that in order to fulfill our responsibilities as men,
00:02:34.600 there are four quadrants, four domains that I believe every single man must address in order to become the best possible version of himself.
00:02:43.580 So I thought it would be a good idea to break down those domains a bit more and share with you some of what I've learned over the past couple of years.
00:02:49.480 The domains that I want to cover and talk about with you are calibration, connection, condition, and contribution.
00:02:56.160 I'm going to explain what all of those mean and how you can become more proficient in each one of those areas so that you and I can fully step up as the protector and the provider and the presider that we are all meant to be.
00:03:08.080 The first one is calibration.
00:03:10.020 And when I talk about calibration, I'm talking about getting right with yourself first.
00:03:14.580 Yes, our job is to provide and protect others.
00:03:17.320 But as I've said it in other podcasts and other platforms, it is impossible, impossible to do that when we haven't fully learned how to take care of ourselves first.
00:03:27.540 And I'm talking with you about mindset.
00:03:29.480 I'm talking about your psyche.
00:03:30.740 I'm talking with you about the virtues of honor and integrity that all of us have to adhere to.
00:03:36.920 I'm talking about your soul and if you believe even your spirituality.
00:03:41.580 And this is not an easy thing to do, but the fact remains that calibrating yourself to a vision and a purpose and a direction and objective for your life lies at the core of your ability to function as a man.
00:03:53.700 You've seen men who are what I would call wanderers or worse, zombies. 1.00
00:03:58.760 These are the guys that have no purpose, no direction.
00:04:01.500 They seem to go wherever the wind blows them.
00:04:03.640 They're burnt out.
00:04:04.340 They're exhausted because in a lot of cases, they've given so much of themselves to others.
00:04:09.960 And that's not a problem in and of itself, but they've given so much of themselves to others at the expense of their own well-being.
00:04:18.080 Personally, I meditate even if I have to go through a very quick session of Mark Devine's box breathing.
00:04:23.980 I read scriptures.
00:04:25.380 I read other books.
00:04:26.260 I've even started reading more nonfiction books.
00:04:28.500 I go on walks with my family.
00:04:30.180 I reflect.
00:04:30.660 I spend time thinking about what it actually is that's important in my life and how I'm actually going to get it.
00:04:36.700 And on the flip side of that is connection.
00:04:39.320 This is the second domain.
00:04:40.880 This is your ability to connect with others, your family, your neighbors, your coworkers, your friends, everyone that you connect with.
00:04:46.940 And as I've thought about how we've been able to grow order of man to what it is today, I can't help but think of the hundreds of thousands of you who listen in each and every week.
00:04:55.980 I can't help but think of the guys that I met at StyleCon two years ago who helped me launch this thing in the first place.
00:05:01.240 Now, when I think about the times I've been the most fulfilled and happy, I can't help but think about going on vacations with my family or going for a walk or eating dinner together.
00:05:10.740 When I think about times where I've been falling and more importantly, how I've recovered from that.
00:05:15.800 I can't help but think of my band of brothers who have done and said exactly what needed to be done and said in order to kick my butt in gear.
00:05:24.680 But I think it's critical that we step back occasionally and we have to evaluate, evaluate the relationships that we want and the relationships that we already have.
00:05:33.220 We should also consider how we, how we are going to show up in that relationship.
00:05:38.780 I'm going to talk with you more about that in a minute.
00:05:41.040 But are the people in your life inspiring you or are they deflating you?
00:05:45.040 Are the people in your life helping you get where you want to go or are they hindering you?
00:05:49.440 Do you enjoy being around and are you energized by the people in your life or do they detract and drain you?
00:05:55.760 So as you take inventory, you're going to identify people that frankly, they should not be in your life.
00:06:00.800 Get rid of them.
00:06:01.480 I know that's hard, but it's imperative that you do it.
00:06:04.840 You're also going to find people that you should double down on.
00:06:07.440 Do it because you never know what will come from one of these relationships if you're willing to invest a little time and energy into them.
00:06:14.780 The third piece is condition.
00:06:16.920 Now, when I talk about condition, I'm talking about your physical health and more specifically your diet, nutrition, exercise, strength, stamina, conditioning, sleep, those types of things.
00:06:27.280 So many of you have heard a bit about my fitness journey and I'm not going to bore you with all the details here.
00:06:32.160 But what I will say is that I was nowhere near the man I am today, even just three or four years ago.
00:06:39.000 I did not have the energy and the physical capacity to show up fully at work or at home or any other place that we as men are required to show up.
00:06:47.060 So, guys, get your health in check.
00:06:50.560 Go to the gym.
00:06:51.820 Get the right amount of sleep.
00:06:53.220 Stop looking at food as a luxury and start looking at it as fuel for your body.
00:06:57.580 Go on a run or a walk.
00:06:58.620 Be active.
00:06:59.300 Play sports.
00:07:00.360 Just get your body moving.
00:07:01.420 I haven't always been great at this, but the more you can get your physical health in check, the better man that you are going to be.
00:07:09.180 And the last domain I wanted to cover with you today is contribution.
00:07:11.940 What I mean when I say contribution is your ability to add value into this world.
00:07:17.160 Sometimes that value is going to be a monetary exchange as in an employment or with a client.
00:07:23.160 But sometimes it's going to be charitable.
00:07:24.720 It might be community service.
00:07:25.800 If you truly want to show up as a man, you are going to have to find ways to make yourself more valuable.
00:07:31.740 Bottom line.
00:07:32.440 So, get educated.
00:07:33.600 Read books.
00:07:34.460 Listen to podcasts like this one.
00:07:36.280 Learn a new skill.
00:07:37.120 Hone an old one.
00:07:38.460 Constantly be improving yourself.
00:07:40.140 Connect with people who are further down the track than you are.
00:07:43.180 That overlaps into connection.
00:07:44.740 But be a student.
00:07:45.680 Constantly be learning.
00:07:47.240 And more importantly, guys, implement.
00:07:49.000 Please implement what you learn.
00:07:50.740 You've got to look for problems.
00:07:51.840 You've got to offer solutions.
00:07:53.220 Be a connector.
00:07:54.400 Again, that one also overlaps with connection.
00:07:57.560 Just leave every engagement and encounter and environment better than the way that you found it.
00:08:02.800 I don't care if you're trying to find love or a meaningful career or grow your bank account.
00:08:08.320 The answer always, always, always lies in providing more value or as I like to call it, being a producer.
00:08:15.560 I know I haven't given you a lot of detail.
00:08:17.220 I haven't gone into depth very specifically into each one of these domains of manliness.
00:08:21.040 But I did give you the framework.
00:08:22.320 So, I encourage you to study that further.
00:08:24.480 I encourage you to join our Facebook group and converse with the tens of thousands of men there.
00:08:29.740 I encourage you to connect with the guys that we've had on this show in the past.
00:08:32.680 I encourage you to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode.
00:08:36.280 And, of course, it'd be remiss of me if I didn't mention our exclusive brotherhood, The Iron Council.
00:08:40.780 This is your own band of brothers who will not let you fail and help you master these four domains of manliness.
00:08:46.800 Gentlemen, that's all I have for you today.
00:08:49.260 Until next week, take action, master those four domains of manliness, and become the man you are meant to be.
00:08:55.900 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
00:08:58.880 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,
00:09:02.560 We invite you to join the Order at orderofman.com.