Order of Man - October 20, 2017


FFN 078： Every Man Needs a Battle to Fight


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10 minutes

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2,118

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In this episode of the podcast, Ryan Michler discusses the difference between former military service members who maintain their discipline after leaving the service and those who aren t. Ryan also discusses the importance of discipline when transitioning into civilian life.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.840 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.480 and I am the host and the founder of this podcast, The Order of Man. If you aren't already
00:00:32.680 subscribed to this show, you need to take care of that. We've had some incredible guests over the
00:00:37.500 past couple of weeks. Jocko Willink earlier this week, and then Gary John Bishop last week,
00:00:42.480 and we've got some more incredible, incredible guests coming up in the coming weeks as well.
00:00:46.700 This podcast, guys, if you don't already know, is a podcast about becoming a better man,
00:00:51.400 a better man in your family, your business, your community, and a better man for yourself.
00:00:56.540 Uh, we've got the interview shows that I just alluded to, which are released each and every
00:01:00.960 Tuesday. Uh, then we've got this show, your Friday field notes, which are released each Friday.
00:01:05.100 That makes sense. Uh, you get to hear me and some of my thoughts from throughout the week.
00:01:09.880 Now, before I get into the discussion for today, and it is a powerful discussion,
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00:02:03.760 That's me undies.com slash man. Outside of that gentlemen, make sure again, that you subscribe
00:02:09.360 to the show. We've got Lewis house on next week and some other incredible guests. And if you haven't
00:02:14.840 already done so, make sure you join our closed Facebook group with over 37,000 men. Now
00:02:20.380 at facebook.com slash groups slash order of man, we're having thousands and thousands of
00:02:25.900 incredible conversations there. Now, a lot of you already know, I interviewed earlier in the week,
00:02:30.760 Navy SEAL and New York times bestselling author Jocko Willink earlier this week. If you haven't
00:02:35.360 checked out that show yet, you can do that at order of man.com slash one three five, or just look
00:02:40.660 for the last episode, wherever you're listening to this podcast. One thing that he said to me that
00:02:44.880 really stuck out was the difference between former military members who are able to maintain
00:02:51.000 their discipline after the service and those who aren't. And I've personally seen both. I've seen
00:02:56.600 veterans who make a seamless transition into civilian life. And I see those that are really
00:03:01.300 floundering. And I've often wondered what the difference is between the two. What Jocko said is
00:03:06.660 that the difference between them is whether or not they found a new mission, a new mission in life.
00:03:12.040 During my time in the military, the mission was always very clear to me and the rest of the
00:03:17.180 soldiers. We were instructed on the objective. We were given our marching orders and then we were
00:03:21.820 left to carry them out. But when you transition out of the military, there's no one to give you any
00:03:27.600 marching orders. There's no one to tell you what to do, when to do it, how to do it. And you're left
00:03:32.160 on your own to figure all of this stuff out. Now, what's interesting to me is that one of my
00:03:37.500 favorite authors, John Eldridge, he's the author of Wild at Heart and many other books,
00:03:41.580 who, by the way, just agreed to come on the podcast. So that'll be coming out in about a
00:03:45.180 month or so. He happens to be also the author of one of my favorite quotes. He says, deep in his
00:03:51.660 heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.
00:03:57.480 I want to focus the conversation today on that first component of that quote, the battle to fight.
00:04:02.700 Men are warriors and not all warriors have to be battle proven in war, but I do believe it's in
00:04:08.520 our nature as men to look for problems, to be on the lookout for the enemy, or at a minimum,
00:04:13.480 a threat to our livelihood and the people that we have a responsibility for. I look around in society
00:04:19.040 and I know you do too. And I see men who have no real sense of direction or purpose. Maybe that even
00:04:25.200 describes you. You know, you look into your eyes or you look in the mirror and you can see all the
00:04:29.540 enthusiasm and the excitement that you once had. And it's all but gone. I would argue that it's
00:04:35.980 because these men, or perhaps even yourself, as Jocka would say, have no mission, or as John
00:04:41.440 Eldridge would say, no battle to fight. So today I'm going to encourage you to pick a fight,
00:04:46.560 to pick a battle. I don't mean a literal fight with someone or a group of people. I mean that
00:04:51.060 I want you to take a look around at society and engage in a cause worth fighting for.
00:04:56.560 This could be a career calling or a fitness journey, the family that you're working to provide
00:05:02.580 and preside and protect for. I really don't care what it is, but I do want to give you four steps
00:05:07.340 to engaging in what I call the fight of your life. This is a battle. This is the fight of your life.
00:05:13.760 And as I talk about these four steps, I'm going to give you a lot of questions
00:05:16.540 to consider as opposed to the answers. I can't decide what your battle is. You have to decide that
00:05:22.900 for yourself. And the best way for me to help you do that is to give you some questions to ponder and
00:05:28.040 consider. The first step guys in picking a battle to fight is to take a look around in society
00:05:33.900 and identify what you see as being wrong with the world. Write down everything, everything that
00:05:39.960 comes to mind in a way you're identifying the enemy, not the literal enemy, but the thing that
00:05:44.880 you're going to fight against. For me, three years ago, I saw that there was a real problem with the
00:05:49.340 state of affairs for men. Like I mentioned before, I've seen too many men who have lost the spark of
00:05:54.160 life and don't know where to turn. You couple that with the fact that society in general doesn't like
00:06:00.200 or approve of masculinity until they actually need men to do something. And it becomes painfully
00:06:05.780 obvious to me that there is a problem with men and masculinity. And in many ways, I set out to solve
00:06:11.560 my own problems as I was one of the men in which I'm referring. So the questions are, what bothers you?
00:06:17.640 What injustices do you see in the world? What problems do you have in your own life, in your personal
00:06:22.840 life, in your marriage, or your career, your fitness, or your bank account, whatever it may be?
00:06:26.620 What could be better about this life? The answers to those questions will help you identify the battle
00:06:31.940 that you may have been born to fight. Remember, you're not limiting yourself. You're just
00:06:36.560 brainstorming here. So write down as many as possible. Now, once you've identified some problems
00:06:41.340 with the world, the ones that are meaningful to you, not anybody else, this is meaningful to you,
00:06:45.480 you're probably going to find some common themes between the things that you see as being wrong.
00:06:50.080 Now, there's probably a few that overlap or stand out to you. If that's the case,
00:06:54.140 I'd recommend that you start doing some reconnaissance. This is step number two,
00:06:57.820 reconnaissance. The questions are, who's already addressing this problem?
00:07:02.400 What solutions are already available? How has this problem been addressed in the past?
00:07:07.940 This one's really important. What gaps are there in the solution to this problem? When you start
00:07:13.140 answering questions like these, you start giving yourself the power to do something about the
00:07:17.720 problems that you see in the world and the problems that you want to start addressing.
00:07:22.680 Now, once you've identified the enemy, step number one, and you've done some reconnaissance,
00:07:27.940 step number two, regarding the battle that's already being waged and the gaps that need to be filled,
00:07:32.700 you can start planning your battle. This is battle planning now. What solutions will you offer?
00:07:39.120 Why are you uniquely qualified to address this? What in your past has made you capable of addressing
00:07:45.740 this problem? How are you going to offer solutions to the world? What assets, what assets do you need
00:07:52.160 in order to address this problem? And what in your life do you need to improve in order to be the
00:07:57.600 champion of this cause? You might even ask yourself who you need to know, who you need to be connected
00:08:02.380 with in order to bring this fight. Once you know the answers to these questions, you should then ask
00:08:07.280 yourself, what is the next first step? That is probably one of the most powerful questions that you can ask.
00:08:13.320 What is the next first step? You don't need to have this all mapped out. You just need to know
00:08:18.280 what the next step is because the next step in your battle is to engage. Maybe it's to create a
00:08:24.840 website or a podcast like I did. Maybe you need to ask for a promotion at work or propose a project
00:08:31.060 to your employer. Maybe you just need to start talking about some of this stuff on social media.
00:08:35.340 I don't know what this looks like for you, but you're going to feel if it's right only when you
00:08:39.880 start engaging in the fight. It does no good to do all of this planning without actually taking
00:08:45.180 the fight to the enemy. I see too many men who plan and strategize and think about what they want
00:08:51.980 and then never do anything about it. I want you to take the next first step. Once you've done that,
00:08:58.400 I want you to take the next first step over and over and over again. When you find yourself getting
00:09:04.740 off track, adjust, adjust along the way and keep driving. You're going to feel if it's right.
00:09:10.620 I know guys, this isn't easy, especially if you feel like your soul has been dead for some time
00:09:16.120 now, but I can promise you that when you follow these steps and you choose your battle, your soul
00:09:23.240 will come alive for the first time in years. You'll feel like you have a calling, a purpose in life.
00:09:28.680 You'll walk around with your head held high, knowing that you're doing the work of a man.
00:09:34.560 I know that's certainly been true for me. Guys, if you want some guidance and direction in how to do
00:09:41.000 this a little bit more specifically, I would encourage you and invite you to join the Iron
00:09:45.060 Council. This is our exclusive brotherhood and we're going to walk you through our battle plan,
00:09:50.400 which is the planning tool we use to help you pick your battles and engage in something
00:09:54.840 meaningful, something that you feel is meaningful in your life. If you want to learn more,
00:09:59.600 you can do that and join the battle at orderofman.com slash ironcouncil, orderofman.com
00:10:05.600 slash ironcouncil. Until next week, gentlemen, find a battle to fight, take action, and become the man
00:10:12.160 you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take
00:10:17.840 charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order
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