Order of Man - February 16, 2018


FFN 095： Connecting with Powerful People


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15 minutes

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197.93814

Word Count

2,976

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206

Misogynist Sentences

1

Hate Speech Sentences

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Summary

In this episode, Ryan talks about the importance of surrounding yourself with like-minded men and how you can set yourself up for success in life and in business. He also shares 5 ways to put yourself in a better position to surround yourself with these types of people.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast, The Order of Man.
00:00:31.480 Guys, our mission and purpose here is to help you become a better man, a better father, husband, business owner, community leader, athlete, teacher, coach, whatever it is that you're trying to work on to that end.
00:00:42.020 We are working to equip you with the tools and the resources and the brotherhood that you need to succeed.
00:00:46.700 We're doing that through the podcast here, obviously, through our Facebook group, through our exclusive brotherhood, the Iron Council, and through our live experiences, which we have one coming up in May.
00:00:57.660 And I'll get to that in a minute. Guys, in the meantime, you will have to forgive my voice.
00:01:01.640 Last week had a little cold or whatever it may have been that was going around, and this is the fallout, but we're driving on, we're carrying through.
00:01:07.940 Well, that said, this is our Friday Field Notes, where you get to hear me ramble and sometimes rant a little bit about what I've been thinking about over the past week.
00:01:16.580 Earlier this week, I was out in St. Louis meeting with the one and only Andy Priscilla.
00:01:21.640 A lot of you guys follow him in MFCEO, and it got me thinking about how I've been able to connect myself with Andy and other powerful, powerful people.
00:01:30.520 So today, I'm going to share with you five ways to put yourself in a better position to surround yourself with those type of people and set yourself up for success.
00:01:39.960 But before I get into that, I do want to share with you two very quick resources because there's always those of you who want to go above and beyond and take the next step here within Order of Man.
00:01:50.540 So first, if you are interested in banding together with like-minded men, I would encourage you to consider joining the Iron Council.
00:01:57.660 This is our exclusive brotherhood.
00:01:59.220 It's designed to give you the tools and the conversation and the challenges and the framework, the topics, the accountability in all of the areas that are important to you.
00:02:07.540 I'm hearing from men every single day that tell me how they've been able to connect with other members of the Iron Council for guidance and feedback and support, and maybe even a kick in the pants when that's necessary.
00:02:19.220 I'm seeing guys lose weight, get promotions, rekindling their marriages.
00:02:22.900 They're connecting with their kids and otherwise doing the things they've been talking about doing for a very, very long time.
00:02:29.020 They're just making it happen now.
00:02:30.300 So if you are interested in that, you can learn more and claim your seat at the table at orderofman.com slash Iron Council.
00:02:37.340 In addition to that, you will definitely want to check out our Order of Man Uprising, which is going down on May 3rd through the 6th in the mountains of Southern Utah, my hometown, my home area.
00:02:48.340 This is a three and a half day immersive experience.
00:02:50.920 It's designed to push you, to test you, and to help you walk away with a new framework and foundation for success in your life.
00:02:58.400 You're going to be tested.
00:02:59.240 You're going to be challenged, but you're also going to walk away with a completely new perspective on how to be more effective and efficient and fulfilled.
00:03:05.920 And that's a big one.
00:03:06.740 Purpose and fulfillment and satisfaction in your life.
00:03:09.840 You can get the details and claim one of the last remaining 14 spots at orderofman.com slash Uprising.
00:03:16.100 All right, guys.
00:03:17.140 So let's talk about connecting with powerful people.
00:03:20.460 We've all heard the adage that you are the average of the five closest friends.
00:03:24.180 I don't really take that too literally because we all know what statistics are and how those can be manipulated and made up.
00:03:29.840 But I do know, I do know that when I surround myself with powerful people, life just has a way of changing.
00:03:36.200 There was a time in my life where I lacked any real intentionality about who I was surrounding myself with and the results or maybe the lack thereof really showed.
00:03:47.160 Since those days, I've made a very deliberate and strategic decision to find people who are thriving in ways that I want to thrive and then put into action some strategies that have connected me with New York Times bestselling authors, elite warriors and athletes, multimillionaire business owners,
00:04:04.580 and frankly, some of the most successful people on the planet.
00:04:07.340 And the reason I want you to listen very, very closely to this episode is that I'm not particularly anything special.
00:04:14.280 There are a lot of men out there who believe that the reason that I've been able to connect with these types of people is because I'm successful.
00:04:21.600 Guys, that just is not true.
00:04:24.320 I may be experiencing some success now, but when I started order of man, when I started doing this, I had absolutely no track record of success.
00:04:33.000 I've simply figured out some things and executed relentlessly on those things.
00:04:37.600 So this isn't something only extraordinary people can do, whether you're achieving huge levels of success or frankly, not at all.
00:04:46.060 Everyone, everyone can implement the five steps that I'm going to share with you and do the same thing that I've been able to do over the past three years.
00:04:54.000 So the first point I need to make as I go through this is that all five of these steps have the foundational element of adding value, add value, add value, add value.
00:05:04.440 I want you to focus on serving others and enhancing their lives.
00:05:08.720 That's it.
00:05:09.820 At its most basic level, that is how you succeed and position yourself in the company with the right people.
00:05:16.300 So let's break this down even further because I don't want to just say add value and then let you go off to it.
00:05:21.380 Let's, let's really break this down further.
00:05:23.360 So step number one is finding the right people to begin with.
00:05:27.840 You've got to identify these right people.
00:05:29.680 That's very easy to lose intentionality about this and hang out with the people that you've always hung out with.
00:05:35.580 It's easy to hang out with your buddies or your coworkers.
00:05:38.740 And while that might be great and it might be fun, it may not really be serving you in the best way possible.
00:05:44.680 So you're going to have to be guys more deliberate about your time and attention.
00:05:49.400 Who do you know that is killing it?
00:05:51.880 For example, on the home front, who do you know that has a business that is absolutely exploding right now?
00:05:58.280 Who's the wealthiest person, you know, who's the healthiest person, you know, you start answering questions like these and identifying who these people are in your immediate circle.
00:06:07.760 And even outside of your immediate circle, you get them on your radar.
00:06:12.520 And that's really important.
00:06:13.940 You've got to get these people on your radar and then you start moving into the other four areas that I'm going to mention.
00:06:19.660 So again, step number one, identify the right people.
00:06:22.620 Number two, look for reasons to connect.
00:06:25.820 If you have no reason to connect with those people from step one that you identified, you're not ever, ever going to get on their radar.
00:06:32.840 It's not about who you know.
00:06:35.340 It's about who knows you and do they know you for the right reason?
00:06:39.180 One simple way to do this is just go where they go.
00:06:43.000 Do what they do.
00:06:44.280 One of the men, for example, I've been able to connect with and have admired for some time now is Cameron Haynes.
00:06:50.200 I know a lot of you guys are familiar with Cameron Haynes.
00:06:52.360 I learned that he was going to be doing a 5K in Salt Lake City last week.
00:06:55.620 So I purchased the tickets.
00:06:57.420 They're like 25 bucks a ticket.
00:06:58.940 I told my boys to hop in the vehicle, hop in the truck, and we made the four-hour long drive to run the race.
00:07:05.580 Very simple, very affordable, had a good time with my boys and was able to connect with Cam.
00:07:11.320 When I started Order of Man, I learned Brett McKay with The Art of Manliness.
00:07:15.200 Again, I know a lot of you guys know who that is.
00:07:17.120 He was speaking at an event in Atlanta.
00:07:19.140 So again, I purchased the tickets, made some arrangements, and I went.
00:07:22.720 It's really that simple.
00:07:23.900 You know where people are going to be, and if you don't, again, it's easier than ever to find out.
00:07:29.700 Just take some time, do a little research, and put yourself in their path.
00:07:35.440 So that's step number two.
00:07:36.520 Look for reasons to connect.
00:07:38.520 Number three, help these people get what they want.
00:07:42.280 Once you know who it is you want to connect with and you put yourself in their path,
00:07:46.700 you need to help them, again, get what they want.
00:07:49.740 Not what you want or what you think they might want.
00:07:54.080 It's all about what they actually want.
00:07:56.740 I'll give you an example.
00:07:57.780 I reached out to Aubrey Marcus.
00:07:59.540 He's the founder of Onnit.
00:08:01.120 And for months and months, I had absolutely no response, but I knew I wanted to connect with him.
00:08:06.880 Again, that's step number one.
00:08:08.560 And then I followed his social media channels.
00:08:10.900 I subscribed to his emails.
00:08:12.760 Step number two, get in his path, right?
00:08:14.380 And I found out that he was going to be offering a paid course to help with some meditation practices.
00:08:20.120 So when I saw that email come through, I immediately, I immediately reached out to his team.
00:08:25.300 I offered to have him on the podcast to promote that course.
00:08:28.180 And I also told his team that I'd bump my podcast lineup so we could actually coordinate the launch of
00:08:34.280 our conversation with the release date of his course.
00:08:37.360 And I heard back from them immediately, immediately.
00:08:40.840 And I booked that interview and it went so well that I messaged him just a couple of weeks ago
00:08:45.740 and booked him again for a second interview for the release of his new book,
00:08:50.000 Own the Day, Own Your Life.
00:08:51.280 And that interview will actually be available next week.
00:08:53.660 So if you haven't, this is a shameless plug here.
00:08:56.120 If you haven't already done this, make sure you subscribe to the Order of Man podcast
00:08:58.940 so you don't miss that show or any of these shows.
00:09:01.320 But this is one very simple strategy, simple solution for helping other people get what they want.
00:09:09.620 That's how you connect with powerful people.
00:09:11.840 Now, number four, guys, maintain contact.
00:09:15.240 You have to maintain contact with these people you're working so hard to connect with.
00:09:20.420 This is a relationship that you're trying to develop and foster over the long haul.
00:09:26.580 You must have a plan and a system, a plan and a system in place for maintaining contact with these people.
00:09:32.980 Whether it's through social media or periodic messages or maybe an email, a phone call, a text, an invitation to an event,
00:09:41.160 you've got to maintain contact.
00:09:44.000 I was down in Las Vegas a couple of months after my first interview with Andy Frisilla and I saw a Lamborghini.
00:09:51.480 Now, he's a car guy.
00:09:52.280 If you know Andy, he's a car guy.
00:09:54.280 And this Lamborghini happened to be the color of his company's colors, first form.
00:09:58.660 It's that first form blue.
00:10:00.060 And I just sent him a quick text with a picture of the car.
00:10:02.860 And I said, hey, man, I just ran across this.
00:10:05.200 I thought of you.
00:10:06.200 Hope all's well.
00:10:07.420 That's it.
00:10:08.440 I wasn't asking for anything.
00:10:09.960 I wasn't even asking him to respond.
00:10:12.380 I simply put myself back on his radar by sharing something that is significant.
00:10:19.260 A, it's significant.
00:10:20.340 And B, it's relevant to him, not to me.
00:10:23.860 Again, it's about him.
00:10:25.000 I've sent clippings from magazines to people that featured them.
00:10:29.440 I've texted others when their name is dropped in a podcast that maybe they didn't even know
00:10:34.080 or weren't aware of.
00:10:35.280 I've facilitated introductions that would help these people make these connections along the way.
00:10:40.960 I've offered to promote courses.
00:10:42.660 I mentioned that earlier.
00:10:43.460 I've shared their material on my social media accounts.
00:10:46.020 Whatever I can do to get another touch point with somebody that I want to maintain contact
00:10:51.520 with and build a relationship with, that's exactly what I'm going to do.
00:10:55.040 So again, step number four, maintaining contact with people.
00:10:58.480 And the fifth one, the last step I want to share with you is that you have to be worthy.
00:11:04.540 And I know that's probably not the right word because I'm not talking about a person's
00:11:08.700 worth as an individual, but this word of worth will help us illustrate the point and help you
00:11:14.780 get the idea and the message behind what I'm trying to tell you.
00:11:17.340 Regardless of what you think or how fair or how right you think it is, the fact is winners
00:11:24.980 don't hang out with losers.
00:11:27.160 Rich people don't hang out with poor people.
00:11:30.500 Healthy people don't hang out with unhealthy people.
00:11:34.320 Again, I know that's going to upset somebody, but that's the fact of the matter.
00:11:38.120 And the only way that actually happens is if it's some sort of charity experience.
00:11:43.600 And guys, the last thing you want to be is a charity case.
00:11:46.180 That's not what we're talking about here.
00:11:47.400 We're talking about creating win-win relationships with other powerful people.
00:11:51.860 But again, I know there's going to be people that complain.
00:11:54.900 They're going to find fault in that last statement that you have to be worthy.
00:11:58.800 But the truth is the truth.
00:12:00.100 So rather than fight against it, just embrace it.
00:12:03.820 And the best way to embrace that you've got to be worthy in a way to surround yourself with
00:12:08.760 these people is to ask yourself this question, who do I need to become?
00:12:13.940 Then work to become that person.
00:12:17.420 If you want to get the attention of healthy people, you need to exercise healthy habits.
00:12:23.360 If you want to hang out with successful people, you need to start getting some wins under your
00:12:29.080 belt.
00:12:29.900 If you want to hang out with rich people, you'd better get your financial affairs in order.
00:12:34.720 And I'm not suggesting that you need to be at the pinnacle of your game.
00:12:38.380 I'm certainly not.
00:12:39.880 But you do need to start implementing the right habits and actions into your life right now.
00:12:45.020 If you are out of integrity with what you want and what you're doing, the high quality people
00:12:50.720 that you're trying to attract will not respond.
00:12:53.700 They won't respond, plain and simple.
00:12:56.080 So guys, that's it.
00:12:57.320 Five very simple yet effective strategies, the strategies that I'm actually using to
00:13:02.500 connect with these types of individuals, again, for connecting with these powerful people.
00:13:06.880 This isn't going to happen overnight.
00:13:08.440 I've been working at it for three years.
00:13:10.640 I've got a list right now in front of me on my wall of people that I want to connect with
00:13:14.280 that I, for whatever reason, have not been able to make these connections, but I will.
00:13:18.820 It just takes time.
00:13:19.740 And it just takes the disciplined approach to these five steps that I've been talking
00:13:24.540 about over days and months and years, and it will work.
00:13:28.860 You have to do this stuff day in and day out.
00:13:31.640 And if you do, I have no doubt that you will begin to connect with the right people and
00:13:36.280 by default, become the man that you are working to become.
00:13:39.780 So guys, as I sign out, please remember the two additional resources I shared with you
00:13:43.800 earlier.
00:13:44.400 The first one is our exclusive brotherhood, the iron council that can be found at orderofman.com
00:13:49.420 slash iron council.
00:13:50.520 And then our three and a half day immersive experience, the uprising.
00:13:54.720 This is our third time doing this one.
00:13:56.420 We're mixing things up.
00:13:57.660 It's going to be an amazing, amazing event.
00:13:59.640 We have very limited spots on that one.
00:14:01.300 So head over to orderofman.com slash uprising.
00:14:04.720 That's on May 3rd through the 6th of this year, 2018.
00:14:07.600 So I hope to see you in and at both of those things.
00:14:10.240 And then guys, also a quick side note.
00:14:11.920 I wanted to mention this.
00:14:13.180 Some of you may have noticed that I've been doing a lot more on my personal Instagram account,
00:14:18.660 my personal Instagram account.
00:14:19.940 So if you're on Instagram and that's where you're doing the social media thing, make sure
00:14:23.340 that you connect with me at Ryan Mickler.
00:14:25.820 So it's at Ryan, R-Y-A-N Mickler, M-I-C-H-L-E-R, at Ryan Mickler on Instagram.
00:14:32.340 Hope to see you over there and have some conversations there.
00:14:34.780 Until next week, gentlemen, identify the right people.
00:14:37.960 Look for reasons to connect.
00:14:39.700 Help those individuals get what they want.
00:14:41.900 Maintain contact with them.
00:14:44.000 And the last step again, take it for what it's worth.
00:14:46.420 Be worthy of being surrounded by these types of people and become the man that you are meant to be.
00:14:51.960 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
00:14:54.920 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,
00:14:58.600 we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.