Order of Man - April 06, 2018


FFN 102： Fuel to the Fire


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14 minutes

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198.13411

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2,952

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197

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Summary

In this episode, Ryan talks about how adding fuel to the fire will help you create the life you want for yourself and the people you want to become. He also talks about the 13 Virtues and how you can reclaim what it means to be a man.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,
00:00:27.960 and I am the host and founder of this podcast, The Order of Man, and this movement, this movement
00:00:32.920 that has been going strong for three years now. And I can't tell you how excited I am about the
00:00:38.000 current trajectory that we're on. We're starting to hit this growth curve within the podcast and
00:00:42.680 the blog and the website and the Facebook group and the other social media platforms and the things
00:00:47.260 that we're sharing. And I'm so excited. It's so honored that you are joining us today. Now,
00:00:52.260 if you've been with us for any amount of time, you have a pretty good idea of what we're all about.
00:00:55.640 And that is this notion and this idea of reclaiming what it means to be a man, defining
00:01:00.440 what it means to be a man, and then reclaiming what it means to be a man. This is something that is
00:01:05.380 much, much needed in society. If you're joining us, you probably know, you're probably looking for
00:01:10.300 something that is going to help you become a better man, a better father, a better husband,
00:01:14.900 a better business owner, community leader, just a better man on every front and every facet of your
00:01:20.720 life. So we do this, your Friday field notes. We also have an interview show, which is released
00:01:25.460 each and every Tuesday where I am interviewing New York times, bestselling authors, warriors,
00:01:30.420 athletes, scholars, entrepreneurs, extremely, extremely successful men. We are extracting
00:01:36.500 their knowledge, their wisdom, their lessons, their experiences, and then we are delivering
00:01:41.060 them straight to you so that you can implement them in your life. That's on Tuesday today being Friday.
00:01:47.040 Again, this is our Friday field notes. I've got some thoughts today on adding fuel to the fire.
00:01:52.600 I mean, I see so many guys who have lost all of the fire inside of them. Maybe not all of it,
00:01:58.960 but a lot of it. And today we're going to talk about how adding fuel to the fire will help you
00:02:02.840 create the life that you want for yourself. And for those you have an obligation responsibility for
00:02:07.580 before I get into the subject of that, a couple of quick announcements. I've been mentioning the
00:02:13.040 store a little bit here and there. One of the things that we just came out with in the store
00:02:16.620 is our code of conduct poster. So I wrote a book called sovereignty, the battle for the hearts
00:02:21.260 and minds of men. And inside of that book, I illustrate 13 virtues that we as men ought to
00:02:27.260 consider adhering to. I call it the code of conduct. We just came out with a poster, the code of conduct
00:02:32.860 poster that illustrates those 13 virtues, the mindset as well, that goes with each of those
00:02:38.540 virtues so that you can have that as a physical reminder in your house or in your office or wherever
00:02:42.560 it may be. So with that and the hats and the shirts and the decals and patches and everything
00:02:49.220 else that we have going on, I'm sure that you'll find something over there. And what a great way to
00:02:52.600 support the movement of the order head to store.orderofman.com. And I know we've been talking
00:02:59.140 about this over the past couple of weeks or so, but if you are interested in jujitsu and training gear
00:03:04.620 and lifestyle apparel, and then their nutritional side and supplements, go check out what my friend,
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00:03:15.580 lifestyle apparel, and they've got an amazing, amazing story when it comes to creating everything
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00:03:28.480 with the quality of the work they're doing. I've been taking their supplements lately. I do the krill
00:03:33.520 and I do the joint warfare, which is Jocko's joint warfare. Jocko and Pete are business partners.
00:03:39.520 And then they've also got discipline, which is a supplemental drink as well. And I do all three
00:03:44.440 of those. And I can tell you that they have made a visible, a noticeable improvement in my life.
00:03:49.280 So if you are interested, head to origin, Maine, Maine is in the state Maine. So origin,
00:03:54.080 maine.com slash order of man, and then use order O R D E R in all caps at checkout. And you'll get a
00:04:01.780 discount on your first order again, origin, maine.com slash order of man. All right, guys,
00:04:06.980 let's get into this. Let's talk about adding fuel to the fire. You know, I spend a lot of time talking
00:04:12.980 with men on a daily basis. And one thing I'm always intrigued by is this fire that I can see,
00:04:19.260 or in a lot of cases can't see simply by looking into a man's eyes. It's been said that the eyes are
00:04:26.160 the window to the soul. And if that's true, you can tell a lot about a man and his passion and
00:04:31.680 enthusiasm through a very quick glance and a connection of the eyes. And unfortunately,
00:04:37.200 all too often, what I see when I look is lifelessness, it's soullessness. It's a general
00:04:43.560 complacency and even signs of defeat. And I can certainly understand and even relate with that
00:04:49.940 feeling for a lot of years. I felt that exact same way. I do not feel that way anymore, but I did feel
00:04:55.440 that way. I occasionally look at old pictures of myself and I recognize a very defeated man when I
00:05:02.500 see him. And we've got to be real about this. We've got to face the fact that life is tough.
00:05:07.380 You know, it gets challenging, it gets routine and boring and monotonous. And what I experience more
00:05:13.600 often than not is men who allow those circumstances to defeat them. I think one of the biggest dangers in
00:05:21.120 society today is a lack of men who are passionate and fired up and engaged in creating a meaningful
00:05:28.000 life for themselves. And of course, for those people around them. And if you're one of those
00:05:32.180 guys who has lost his passion for life, I want you to have hope. The fire is still there. It's inside
00:05:39.360 of you. You just need to add a little fuel to it to get it stoked again. So what I thought I would do
00:05:43.820 today is share 10 strategies that you can implement in your life right now for adding fuel to the fire.
00:05:49.980 So get out your notepad. If you can, if you're running or driving or whatever it may be,
00:05:54.820 come back, check it out later. But here are 10 strategies again for adding fuel to the fire.
00:05:59.100 Number one, say yes. I just mentioned that life can get boring at times, but there's nobody that
00:06:05.880 says it has to be. So I want you to consider saying yes to some things that you might not normally say
00:06:10.760 yes to. As of the release of this recording, for example, I am hunting with some friends in Hawaii.
00:06:16.040 This is something I would have normally turned down because I'm quote unquote, too busy with life.
00:06:22.340 But this time I said yes. And I'm creating some incredible, incredible memories. You never know
00:06:28.380 unless you give it a try. So say yes to more. Number two, stop doing things that you hate.
00:06:34.100 Look, we all have to do things we don't like to do or don't want to do. I believe that's part of the
00:06:39.160 job of men. But if it has become the status quo, as opposed to the occasional rarity
00:06:44.960 or duty, you need to reevaluate what you're doing with your life. No one is forcing you to do
00:06:53.000 anything you don't want to do. You, you have imposed those limitations and restrictions on yourself.
00:06:59.300 So rather than doing all the things you hate, just stop, just stop doing those things. Or if they
00:07:05.140 have to get done, because I know that's probably what you're saying right now, if they do have to
00:07:09.120 get done, figure out a way to delegate those things to someone who is more suited to doing
00:07:15.080 those. Again, stop doing the things you hate. Number three, change your environment. This
00:07:20.360 suggestion goes hand in hand with the first one of saying yes to more. The simple fact is that
00:07:24.960 routines, they can be very, very powerful, but they can also be draining. Sometimes you've got to
00:07:30.940 break the mold and occasionally change your surroundings. If you're stuck in an office
00:07:34.960 all day, try going for a walk. Occasionally, that's one thing I do when I have to get on
00:07:38.860 the phone with people. I actually go outside and I walk while I'm talking with people because it
00:07:44.080 breaks up the grind. It breaks up the monotony. If you go to the same restaurants for every single
00:07:48.900 lunch, try a new restaurant. If you plop yourself on the couch every night before going to bed,
00:07:53.380 try going for a walk. Instead of that, these changes in the environment are going to provide you
00:07:58.900 with new experiences and more importantly, and I think this is really important, new perspectives
00:08:03.340 that you could draw upon moving forward. And again, re-engage and add fuel to that fire.
00:08:09.780 Number four, I think I'm on number four, exercise. I think this one goes without saying, but
00:08:15.320 it is a little counterintuitive. You've got to get your body moving. See, most people think that
00:08:20.340 exercise will drain you even further and it might, it might, especially if you haven't been working out
00:08:26.460 for years. But once your body gets used to moving and the fact that your mind is going to demand it
00:08:32.460 to move, it starts to crave that movement and build up the energy that you haven't experienced in years.
00:08:38.640 I know, for example, that every time I go into the gym and work out in the morning, I have a better day,
00:08:44.400 a more energetic day, and I'm a lot more productive throughout the next 24 hours.
00:08:49.980 Now, number five, go to bed earlier. So many men stay up late watching their favorite TV show or
00:08:56.500 doing whatever it is they do. And then they wonder why they're so drained in the morning and have no
00:09:01.740 desire to get out of bed. The body needs rest, guys. We hear these things like you can rest when
00:09:06.680 you're dead. Well, that's not true. The body needs rest. It needs to recover. And if it's not doing it
00:09:11.820 properly, your performance will suffer and you will not be able to gain or even sustain any type of
00:09:18.620 momentum in your life. I'll do another episode in the future on the power of sleep. But as soon as I
00:09:23.140 started to change my sleep habits and patterns, I was so much more energetic and so much more
00:09:28.180 productive. We'll get into the intricacies of creating an environment where you can maximize your rest.
00:09:33.900 But for now, you can listen to one of our interviews with Ted Rice. It's called Sleep Done Right.
00:09:40.000 And you can find it at orderofman.com slash zero seven one. All right. Number six, plan your day the
00:09:47.820 night before. Before you go to bed, plan out exactly what you're going to do the next morning.
00:09:53.640 What time are you going to wake up? What is your workout going to look like? What items do you need
00:09:57.960 to get accomplished? When I go to bed with a clear sense of direction and purpose for what I want to
00:10:03.260 accomplish the next day, the likelihood of me getting out of bed on time and getting after my day is
00:10:10.080 significantly lower. If on the other hand, I know exactly, exactly what I'm going to do. And I'm
00:10:17.320 excited about it. I find it significantly easier to jump out of bed when the alarm goes off and
00:10:22.200 attack the day. So plan your day the night before. Number seven, serve others. I see so many men
00:10:27.940 throwing pity parties for themselves. They get consumed with wallowing in their own self-pity.
00:10:33.520 And I don't want you to be that guy. I don't want to be that guy. I've never met a man who is actively
00:10:38.760 engaged, who simultaneously feel sorry for himself. If you're getting down on yourself,
00:10:43.740 go out and serve someone else. Volunteer to coach a youth team, feed the homeless,
00:10:49.720 mow a neighbor's yard, help a friend move, whatever it looks like. Do whatever you can to
00:10:54.460 be active and productive in helping other people thrive and succeed. And I believe that you will
00:11:00.600 inevitably thrive and succeed. Zig Ziglar said, help enough people get what they want and you will get
00:11:06.460 what you want. All right. Number eight, be alone. Guys, we don't spend enough time alone. And when I say
00:11:13.180 alone, I'm talking about by yourself, without anyone else, without any electronics, without any
00:11:18.840 distractions, I can't even begin to describe the power that comes from being alone with your mind
00:11:24.720 only, with your mind only and spending time just thinking about life. What do you want your life to
00:11:31.140 look like? What do you want to accomplish? What type of man do you need to become in order to accomplish
00:11:36.560 those things? I can name several times where, uh, I was working through some very, some sticky
00:11:42.680 situations. I simply went for a run without music or without any stimulus or without anybody else.
00:11:48.360 And I remember one time in particular, I made it about two miles before I turned around.
00:11:52.800 I ran home with new ideas, new insights, new perspectives that solve the problems that I had
00:11:59.080 found myself in. So spend more time alone. And on the opposite side of that is number nine. It's again,
00:12:05.340 completely opposite of that advice, but it's to borrow energy from other people. There are people
00:12:09.960 that I do not get along with, but, but there are others that I get so much excitement and energy from
00:12:17.120 just being around, spend more time around those people. If they energize you be around them. And if
00:12:23.860 they don't distance yourself, human beings are so much more connected than I think we know about.
00:12:29.980 And I fully believe that we have the ability to transfer energy to one another. All we have to
00:12:36.020 do is get within proximity with those that we are inspired by. And we will start to feel inspired too.
00:12:42.480 Now, the last one guys, and I, and I think I saved the best one for last year is to fight a battle.
00:12:47.280 You know, in his book, a wild at heart, uh, John Eldridge, and we did an interview with him as well
00:12:52.440 says deep in his heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to
00:12:58.240 rescue. And I want to address that, that first point, a battle to fight. Every man longs to fight a
00:13:04.920 battle. And I'm not talking about a physical battle necessarily, but a battle of his choosing.
00:13:10.060 My battle is the attack and dismissal of masculinity. That's what we're doing here with order of man.
00:13:14.580 You may have a different battle in mind, whatever it is, pursue it, engage the enemy, come up with a
00:13:21.220 course of action and then attack without purpose. I believe that fire burns out, but with a purpose
00:13:28.600 guys, with a purpose, you're adding fuel to the fire and it will burn bright guys. This is in no
00:13:34.760 way an exhaustive list. I mean, those are 10 very easy steps that you can use to add fuel to the fire
00:13:40.160 to get you started, to get you pointed in the right direction. Life doesn't have to be miserable.
00:13:44.780 That's just a choice. It's a choice that you get to make. The fire doesn't begin to rage overnight guys,
00:13:51.860 but over time, if you're willing to implement what I shared with you today and so many other
00:13:57.040 strategies that are out there, it will burn bright. Say yes more often. Stop doing things you hate,
00:14:04.060 change your environment, exercise, go to bed earlier, plan your day the night before,
00:14:09.140 serve other people, be alone, borrow energy. And that last one, fight a battle and you are well on
00:14:16.160 your way to adding fuel to the fire that will help you live the life that you're capable of living.
00:14:20.660 So gentlemen, those are my thoughts for you today on this Friday field notes. Again, I'm always glad
00:14:25.600 and always honored that you're here joining with us. We definitely need more men in the fight and I'm
00:14:30.580 honored to be standing shoulder to shoulder in the battle of my choosing. Now I want you to find a
00:14:35.500 battle of your choosing and find a way to add fuel to that fire. Until next week, gentlemen,
00:14:40.760 take action and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man
00:14:45.680 podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,
00:14:50.800 we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.