Order of Man - FFN 102： Fuel to the Fire

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,

00:00:27.960 and I am the host and founder of this podcast, The Order of Man, and this movement, this movement

00:00:32.920 that has been going strong for three years now. And I can't tell you how excited I am about the

00:00:38.000 current trajectory that we're on. We're starting to hit this growth curve within the podcast and

00:00:42.680 the blog and the website and the Facebook group and the other social media platforms and the things

00:00:47.260 that we're sharing. And I'm so excited. It's so honored that you are joining us today. Now,

00:00:52.260 if you've been with us for any amount of time, you have a pretty good idea of what we're all about.

00:00:55.640 And that is this notion and this idea of reclaiming what it means to be a man, defining

00:01:00.440 what it means to be a man, and then reclaiming what it means to be a man. This is something that is

00:01:05.380 much, much needed in society. If you're joining us, you probably know, you're probably looking for

00:01:10.300 something that is going to help you become a better man, a better father, a better husband,

00:01:14.900 a better business owner, community leader, just a better man on every front and every facet of your

00:01:20.720 life. So we do this, your Friday field notes. We also have an interview show, which is released

00:01:25.460 each and every Tuesday where I am interviewing New York times, bestselling authors, warriors,

00:01:30.420 athletes, scholars, entrepreneurs, extremely, extremely successful men. We are extracting

00:01:36.500 their knowledge, their wisdom, their lessons, their experiences, and then we are delivering

00:01:41.060 them straight to you so that you can implement them in your life. That's on Tuesday today being Friday.

00:01:47.040 Again, this is our Friday field notes. I've got some thoughts today on adding fuel to the fire.

00:01:52.600 I mean, I see so many guys who have lost all of the fire inside of them. Maybe not all of it,

00:01:58.960 but a lot of it. And today we're going to talk about how adding fuel to the fire will help you

00:02:02.840 create the life that you want for yourself. And for those you have an obligation responsibility for

00:02:07.580 before I get into the subject of that, a couple of quick announcements. I've been mentioning the

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00:02:16.620 is our code of conduct poster. So I wrote a book called sovereignty, the battle for the hearts

00:02:21.260 and minds of men. And inside of that book, I illustrate 13 virtues that we as men ought to

00:02:27.260 consider adhering to. I call it the code of conduct. We just came out with a poster, the code of conduct

00:02:32.860 poster that illustrates those 13 virtues, the mindset as well, that goes with each of those

00:02:38.540 virtues so that you can have that as a physical reminder in your house or in your office or wherever

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00:03:44.440 of those. And I can tell you that they have made a visible, a noticeable improvement in my life.

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00:04:06.980 let's get into this. Let's talk about adding fuel to the fire. You know, I spend a lot of time talking

00:04:12.980 with men on a daily basis. And one thing I'm always intrigued by is this fire that I can see,

00:04:19.260 or in a lot of cases can't see simply by looking into a man's eyes. It's been said that the eyes are

00:04:26.160 the window to the soul. And if that's true, you can tell a lot about a man and his passion and

00:04:31.680 enthusiasm through a very quick glance and a connection of the eyes. And unfortunately,

00:04:37.200 all too often, what I see when I look is lifelessness, it's soullessness. It's a general

00:04:43.560 complacency and even signs of defeat. And I can certainly understand and even relate with that

00:04:49.940 feeling for a lot of years. I felt that exact same way. I do not feel that way anymore, but I did feel

00:04:55.440 that way. I occasionally look at old pictures of myself and I recognize a very defeated man when I

00:05:02.500 see him. And we've got to be real about this. We've got to face the fact that life is tough.

00:05:07.380 You know, it gets challenging, it gets routine and boring and monotonous. And what I experience more

00:05:13.600 often than not is men who allow those circumstances to defeat them. I think one of the biggest dangers in

00:05:21.120 society today is a lack of men who are passionate and fired up and engaged in creating a meaningful

00:05:28.000 life for themselves. And of course, for those people around them. And if you're one of those

00:05:32.180 guys who has lost his passion for life, I want you to have hope. The fire is still there. It's inside

00:05:39.360 of you. You just need to add a little fuel to it to get it stoked again. So what I thought I would do

00:05:43.820 today is share 10 strategies that you can implement in your life right now for adding fuel to the fire.

00:05:49.980 So get out your notepad. If you can, if you're running or driving or whatever it may be,

00:05:54.820 come back, check it out later. But here are 10 strategies again for adding fuel to the fire.

00:05:59.100 Number one, say yes. I just mentioned that life can get boring at times, but there's nobody that

00:06:05.880 says it has to be. So I want you to consider saying yes to some things that you might not normally say

00:06:10.760 yes to. As of the release of this recording, for example, I am hunting with some friends in Hawaii.

00:06:16.040 This is something I would have normally turned down because I'm quote unquote, too busy with life.

00:06:22.340 But this time I said yes. And I'm creating some incredible, incredible memories. You never know

00:06:28.380 unless you give it a try. So say yes to more. Number two, stop doing things that you hate.

00:06:34.100 Look, we all have to do things we don't like to do or don't want to do. I believe that's part of the

00:06:39.160 job of men. But if it has become the status quo, as opposed to the occasional rarity

00:06:44.960 or duty, you need to reevaluate what you're doing with your life. No one is forcing you to do

00:06:53.000 anything you don't want to do. You, you have imposed those limitations and restrictions on yourself.

00:06:59.300 So rather than doing all the things you hate, just stop, just stop doing those things. Or if they

00:07:05.140 have to get done, because I know that's probably what you're saying right now, if they do have to

00:07:09.120 get done, figure out a way to delegate those things to someone who is more suited to doing

00:07:15.080 those. Again, stop doing the things you hate. Number three, change your environment. This

00:07:20.360 suggestion goes hand in hand with the first one of saying yes to more. The simple fact is that

00:07:24.960 routines, they can be very, very powerful, but they can also be draining. Sometimes you've got to

00:07:30.940 break the mold and occasionally change your surroundings. If you're stuck in an office

00:07:34.960 all day, try going for a walk. Occasionally, that's one thing I do when I have to get on

00:07:38.860 the phone with people. I actually go outside and I walk while I'm talking with people because it

00:07:44.080 breaks up the grind. It breaks up the monotony. If you go to the same restaurants for every single

00:07:48.900 lunch, try a new restaurant. If you plop yourself on the couch every night before going to bed,

00:07:53.380 try going for a walk. Instead of that, these changes in the environment are going to provide you

00:07:58.900 with new experiences and more importantly, and I think this is really important, new perspectives

00:08:03.340 that you could draw upon moving forward. And again, re-engage and add fuel to that fire.

00:08:09.780 Number four, I think I'm on number four, exercise. I think this one goes without saying, but

00:08:15.320 it is a little counterintuitive. You've got to get your body moving. See, most people think that

00:08:20.340 exercise will drain you even further and it might, it might, especially if you haven't been working out

00:08:26.460 for years. But once your body gets used to moving and the fact that your mind is going to demand it

00:08:32.460 to move, it starts to crave that movement and build up the energy that you haven't experienced in years.

00:08:38.640 I know, for example, that every time I go into the gym and work out in the morning, I have a better day,

00:08:44.400 a more energetic day, and I'm a lot more productive throughout the next 24 hours.

00:08:49.980 Now, number five, go to bed earlier. So many men stay up late watching their favorite TV show or 0.99

00:08:56.500 doing whatever it is they do. And then they wonder why they're so drained in the morning and have no

00:09:01.740 desire to get out of bed. The body needs rest, guys. We hear these things like you can rest when

00:09:06.680 you're dead. Well, that's not true. The body needs rest. It needs to recover. And if it's not doing it

00:09:11.820 properly, your performance will suffer and you will not be able to gain or even sustain any type of

00:09:18.620 momentum in your life. I'll do another episode in the future on the power of sleep. But as soon as I

00:09:23.140 started to change my sleep habits and patterns, I was so much more energetic and so much more

00:09:28.180 productive. We'll get into the intricacies of creating an environment where you can maximize your rest.

00:09:33.900 But for now, you can listen to one of our interviews with Ted Rice. It's called Sleep Done Right.

00:09:40.000 And you can find it at orderofman.com slash zero seven one. All right. Number six, plan your day the

00:09:47.820 night before. Before you go to bed, plan out exactly what you're going to do the next morning.

00:09:53.640 What time are you going to wake up? What is your workout going to look like? What items do you need

00:09:57.960 to get accomplished? When I go to bed with a clear sense of direction and purpose for what I want to

00:10:03.260 accomplish the next day, the likelihood of me getting out of bed on time and getting after my day is

00:10:10.080 significantly lower. If on the other hand, I know exactly, exactly what I'm going to do. And I'm

00:10:17.320 excited about it. I find it significantly easier to jump out of bed when the alarm goes off and

00:10:22.200 attack the day. So plan your day the night before. Number seven, serve others. I see so many men

00:10:27.940 throwing pity parties for themselves. They get consumed with wallowing in their own self-pity.

00:10:33.520 And I don't want you to be that guy. I don't want to be that guy. I've never met a man who is actively

00:10:38.760 engaged, who simultaneously feel sorry for himself. If you're getting down on yourself,

00:10:43.740 go out and serve someone else. Volunteer to coach a youth team, feed the homeless,

00:10:49.720 mow a neighbor's yard, help a friend move, whatever it looks like. Do whatever you can to

00:10:54.460 be active and productive in helping other people thrive and succeed. And I believe that you will

00:11:00.600 inevitably thrive and succeed. Zig Ziglar said, help enough people get what they want and you will get

00:11:06.460 what you want. All right. Number eight, be alone. Guys, we don't spend enough time alone. And when I say

00:11:13.180 alone, I'm talking about by yourself, without anyone else, without any electronics, without any

00:11:18.840 distractions, I can't even begin to describe the power that comes from being alone with your mind

00:11:24.720 only, with your mind only and spending time just thinking about life. What do you want your life to

00:11:31.140 look like? What do you want to accomplish? What type of man do you need to become in order to accomplish

00:11:36.560 those things? I can name several times where, uh, I was working through some very, some sticky

00:11:42.680 situations. I simply went for a run without music or without any stimulus or without anybody else.

00:11:48.360 And I remember one time in particular, I made it about two miles before I turned around.

00:11:52.800 I ran home with new ideas, new insights, new perspectives that solve the problems that I had

00:11:59.080 found myself in. So spend more time alone. And on the opposite side of that is number nine. It's again,

00:12:05.340 completely opposite of that advice, but it's to borrow energy from other people. There are people

00:12:09.960 that I do not get along with, but, but there are others that I get so much excitement and energy from

00:12:17.120 just being around, spend more time around those people. If they energize you be around them. And if

00:12:23.860 they don't distance yourself, human beings are so much more connected than I think we know about.

00:12:29.980 And I fully believe that we have the ability to transfer energy to one another. All we have to

00:12:36.020 do is get within proximity with those that we are inspired by. And we will start to feel inspired too.

00:12:42.480 Now, the last one guys, and I, and I think I saved the best one for last year is to fight a battle.

00:12:47.280 You know, in his book, a wild at heart, uh, John Eldridge, and we did an interview with him as well

00:12:52.440 says deep in his heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to

00:12:58.240 rescue. And I want to address that, that first point, a battle to fight. Every man longs to fight a

00:13:04.920 battle. And I'm not talking about a physical battle necessarily, but a battle of his choosing.

00:13:10.060 My battle is the attack and dismissal of masculinity. That's what we're doing here with order of man.

00:13:14.580 You may have a different battle in mind, whatever it is, pursue it, engage the enemy, come up with a

00:13:21.220 course of action and then attack without purpose. I believe that fire burns out, but with a purpose

00:13:28.600 guys, with a purpose, you're adding fuel to the fire and it will burn bright guys. This is in no

00:13:34.760 way an exhaustive list. I mean, those are 10 very easy steps that you can use to add fuel to the fire

00:13:40.160 to get you started, to get you pointed in the right direction. Life doesn't have to be miserable.

00:13:44.780 That's just a choice. It's a choice that you get to make. The fire doesn't begin to rage overnight guys,

00:13:51.860 but over time, if you're willing to implement what I shared with you today and so many other

00:13:57.040 strategies that are out there, it will burn bright. Say yes more often. Stop doing things you hate,

00:14:04.060 change your environment, exercise, go to bed earlier, plan your day the night before,

00:14:09.140 serve other people, be alone, borrow energy. And that last one, fight a battle and you are well on

00:14:16.160 your way to adding fuel to the fire that will help you live the life that you're capable of living.

00:14:20.660 So gentlemen, those are my thoughts for you today on this Friday field notes. Again, I'm always glad

00:14:25.600 and always honored that you're here joining with us. We definitely need more men in the fight and I'm

00:14:30.580 honored to be standing shoulder to shoulder in the battle of my choosing. Now I want you to find a

00:14:35.500 battle of your choosing and find a way to add fuel to that fire. Until next week, gentlemen,

00:14:40.760 take action and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man

00:14:45.680 podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,

00:14:50.800 we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

Order of Man - April 06, 2018

FFN 102： Fuel to the Fire

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