Order of Man - April 20, 2018


FFN 104： Building a Thriving Tribe


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Length

12 minutes

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183.33379

Word count

2,225

Sentence count

156

Harmful content

Misogyny

1

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Hate speech

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Summary

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As men, we need to reclaim what it means to be a man in a society that has completely lost sight of it. In this episode, Ryan talks about the importance of building a thriving tribe and how you can do so.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Hey, gentlemen. What is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and founder of the Order of Man movement and this podcast.
00:00:33.400 Guys, I'm glad that you are one of the hundreds of thousands of men who listen to this podcast each and every month.
00:00:39.080 But truth be told, we need more men in this fight.
00:00:42.440 And if you've been listening to this podcast for any amount of time, you're here for a reason.
00:00:47.080 You are likely finding value in what we're doing here.
00:00:50.040 If you didn't, I don't think you'd be here.
00:00:51.500 And I believe that if you have something of value, the best thing that you can do is share it.
00:00:56.840 Share it with the people that you know. Share it with the world.
00:00:59.200 It's what I've been doing over the past three years, and it's what I ask you to do.
00:01:04.040 Share this with your friends, your brothers, your colleagues, your co-workers, your neighbors, your dad.
00:01:08.920 Scream it from the rooftop.
00:01:10.580 And at the end of the day, if you just invite one man who you know that would benefit from what we're doing here,
00:01:16.580 we turn this into millions of men inside this brotherhood tackling real issues and reclaiming what it means to be a man in a society that has completely, completely lost sight of it.
00:01:28.540 Share it on social media.
00:01:30.140 Text a link to somebody.
00:01:31.700 A lot of guys are actually listening to the podcast together on a lunch break.
00:01:35.300 I've seen other men who have local meetings of men, and they listen in each and every month.
00:01:39.740 And I don't share this very often, but guys, we get over 350,000 downloads each and every month on this podcast.
00:01:46.160 And it's my goal, and you know I'm big on goals because we've talked a lot about it, to break the 1 million downloads per month number.
00:01:54.540 And I can't do that without you.
00:01:56.400 So, if you've been sharing, I want to thank you for that.
00:01:59.440 If not, I ask that you share this message.
00:02:03.160 All right, guys. Enough of that.
00:02:04.480 And I don't have any other announcements today.
00:02:06.380 The only announcement that I had is that I ask you to share this podcast and movement.
00:02:10.540 So, let's just jump right into the topic of this week's Friday Field Notes.
00:02:15.300 I want to talk with you about building a thriving tribe.
00:02:18.380 Now, this may be a conversation geared towards those who are working to build their own businesses, social media tribes, whatever it may be, like we've done here.
00:02:26.740 But really, it's for any man who wants to lead.
00:02:29.580 And as men, we are all leaders.
00:02:32.400 So, whether you're leading a tribe of hundreds of thousands that spans the entire planet, like we are here, or you've been tasked with leading a new project at work, or you've got a wife and children to protect, provide, and preside for, or you're a coach or a school teacher, or you're in the military, whether you're going to school, we all have tribes to lead.
00:02:52.140 And today, I'm going to walk you through a few key insights that have helped me build this tribe.
00:02:57.360 This tribe is significantly larger and more significant than I ever could have imagined.
00:03:02.140 And the first thing I wanted to share with you is that you need to care.
00:03:05.720 All right? You need to care about your tribe.
00:03:07.560 It's a shame, I know, that I even need to mention this, but I bring it up first for a reason.
00:03:12.060 Because if you don't care about your tribe, you will never succeed, at least not in the long term.
00:03:16.820 Sure, you might be able to trick a few people into believing that you have their best interest at heart, but I can assure you that unless you genuinely do, you will be found out.
00:03:27.300 So, put your tribe's needs at the forefront of your mind.
00:03:30.720 Really have a desire to help and see them win in a way that's important to them.
00:03:36.520 And if you can't do that, at a minimum, then nothing else I'm going to share with you today will even matter.
00:03:41.880 So, make sure you are caring about your tribe.
00:03:45.240 Number two is know your tribe's concerns.
00:03:48.240 Your job as a leader is to address the concerns of your tribe.
00:03:52.540 But in order to do that, you have to know what concerns they actually have.
00:03:56.920 What are your people's pain points?
00:03:59.040 What are they struggling with?
00:04:00.320 What solutions are they after?
00:04:02.140 How do they define success?
00:04:03.560 Take a look at the most influential leaders in history, and I think you'll quickly recognize that their ability to solve their tribe's problems put them at the front of the pack.
00:04:13.660 Whether you're referring to Martin Luther King Jr. or Steve Jobs, Gandhi, George Washington, Jesus Christ, Henry Ford, Bill Gates, Winston Churchill, even Hitler.
00:04:26.240 They all had the ability to solve the concerns of the people they were leading.
00:04:32.180 Although, disclaimer here, I would add that Hitler violated the first rule I mentioned a minute ago, as well as many others.
00:04:39.420 But if you want to lead effectively, gentlemen, you have to know your tribe's concerns.
00:04:44.960 What are the people that you are serving worried about?
00:04:48.000 Whether that's your family, your clients, your colleagues, your coworkers, what are they worried about?
00:04:52.580 And then address those concerns accordingly.
00:04:56.040 Number three, speak their language.
00:04:58.080 And let's just take a lesson out of the order of man playbook right here.
00:05:00.860 One of the most common comments I get when I make a post or publish an article about masculinity is, quote unquote, well, this applies to women too. 0.95
00:05:10.560 Of course it does.
00:05:12.080 There's a lot that I talk about that is universal to both men and women.
00:05:15.540 Not all of it, but a lot of it.
00:05:17.880 But I don't talk about it from the context of appealing to women.
00:05:20.640 Why?
00:05:21.720 Well, it's not because I don't like women or that I want to alienate them or I think less of women like some people believe of me.
00:05:29.420 It simply means that I have a desire to share some universal truths and some information in a way which will resonate with men.
00:05:37.680 Men are my audience. 1.00
00:05:39.300 Sure, women listen to the podcast too, but men are my audience.
00:05:43.520 So I speak in a way that will connect with you as men.
00:05:47.320 Now, some people will say that's disingenuous or it's manipulative.
00:05:52.020 That's not true at all.
00:05:53.480 In fact, if anything, I think that should be taken as a compliment.
00:05:57.500 I care so much about my audience that I craft and deliver a message so that it connects with the people that I'm working to serve.
00:06:04.300 The burden of articulating a message like I am here or the message that you're delivering falls upon you and me as the deliverer of that message.
00:06:12.220 It's not the burden of the receiver of the message.
00:06:15.500 So if you aren't getting any traction with your family or your coworkers or employees or clients, I'd have you consider that maybe you aren't speaking their language and to focus on delivering a message in a way that they'll be able to receive it.
00:06:30.660 Number four, guys, be ruthlessly consistent.
00:06:34.520 It is amazing how distracted that we have become as individuals.
00:06:38.800 You have heard it been called the bright, shiny object syndrome.
00:06:42.440 I mean, how often have you been hopped up and excited to start some new venture only to wake up the very next morning, less than 24 hours with absolutely zero desire to follow through on it.
00:06:53.480 If you're anything like me, that happens to you all the time.
00:06:56.040 Look, if you want to succeed at building a thriving tribe, you have to be consistent in your actions over years and years and years long after that thrill of the new venture wears off.
00:07:08.520 This is, to me, the single greatest differentiating factor between our organization, Order of Man, and the dozens, if not hundreds of other movements around men that started about the same time that I did.
00:07:21.860 I'm not smarter. I'm not smarter. I'm not better connected or more capable or better financed.
00:07:27.920 I'm just really, really good at being robotic about the actions I take to build a movement.
00:07:33.740 That is all. Think about this podcast alone.
00:07:36.940 We've done over 160 interview episodes and over 100 Friday field notes.
00:07:42.300 That means in three and a half years, I have not missed a single podcast episode, not a single one.
00:07:50.960 That's what's required. That's what it takes to be successful.
00:07:56.140 All right. The last thing I want to share with you guys is that you need to become a tribesman.
00:08:00.880 What do I mean by this? I want you to take a look at my life for a second.
00:08:05.980 Think about the truck I drive. Think about the dog I own, which is a German shepherd.
00:08:11.400 If you don't know, imagine my glorious beard.
00:08:14.820 Think about what I do for fun, which is CrossFit and hunting and woodworking.
00:08:18.860 What clothes do I wear? How do I communicate? What's my background?
00:08:23.140 Everything that I do is masculine.
00:08:26.780 I am a member of my tribe, period.
00:08:30.140 And this is not something I'm faking. I am genuinely a member of my tribe.
00:08:34.400 If I can't become the best member of my tribe, what right do I have in leading it?
00:08:39.400 If you are not literally living the highest version of what you're asking your tribesmen to do,
00:08:45.820 you will not gain the admiration and respect of those that you want to lead.
00:08:50.600 Whether that's your kids or your wife or your colleagues or your coworkers.
00:08:54.740 If you're not living to that high standard, you're asking them to live to.
00:08:58.780 They will see right through you and you have no business leading, let alone belonging to that tribe. 1.00
00:09:07.540 There's this old, outdated, antiquated way of leading.
00:09:11.780 And that is that you position yourself at the top and cut yourself off from the rest of the tribe.
00:09:17.680 And that may have worked when access to you and the information that people had was limited.
00:09:22.940 But now we all have access to the same information.
00:09:25.840 We all have access to the same opportunities.
00:09:27.620 There is no barrier to entry for just about anything you or someone else may want to do.
00:09:33.340 And that's why it's critical that you find another, a better way to lead.
00:09:38.140 And it has nothing to do with the secret formula that we all know you don't possess.
00:09:43.540 And it has everything to do with how you are the flag bearer for your tribe.
00:09:48.980 It's about being an example.
00:09:50.780 It's about living in integrity to yourself and the people you lead.
00:09:54.940 Now, guys, I know that in those five little points there, I didn't share anything groundbreaking with you today.
00:10:01.580 I know that because I'm telling you the truth.
00:10:03.800 If I told you something that you've never heard before, I'd urge you to be a little skeptical about what it was I was sharing.
00:10:11.500 But here's the catch.
00:10:12.620 Some of you are going to think that this message is so simplistic that you're going to completely overlook the simple truths that I've shared today.
00:10:21.280 I've turned this business and this movement into multiple six figures using those five strategies.
00:10:28.000 I've become a leader of my home.
00:10:30.100 I've become a leader of my family.
00:10:31.840 I've become a leader of myself by using those five strategies.
00:10:36.940 Nothing more, nothing less.
00:10:38.960 Now, the way that we implement those might be different and vary from tribe to tribe, but it's those five foundational principles.
00:10:47.280 If you want to lead, you'll take what I shared with you today to heart.
00:10:51.780 Learn it, live it, internalize it, be it, and you too will create a thriving tribe.
00:10:58.960 Now, guys, as I sign out today, remember what I shared with you at the beginning of this episode.
00:11:04.160 Now is the time.
00:11:05.600 Now is the time to enlist an army of men in the fight for genuine masculinity and manliness.
00:11:11.920 And in order to do that, I ask that you share this with a man you know, just one other man.
00:11:16.700 And we'll watch this thing reach unbelievable levels and in turn show the world what it means to be a man.
00:11:23.340 Until next week, gentlemen, take action and become the man you are meant to be.
00:11:28.160 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
00:11:31.180 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,
00:11:35.200 we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.
00:11:38.320 And we'll see you then.
00:11:41.800 Bye-bye.
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