Order of Man - May 04, 2018


FFN 106： The Folly of "Zero Fu＊ks Given"

Topics
zero F's mentality plank challenge relevance ego caring words are powerful
Hosted by
Ryan Michler
Mentioned
Pete Roberts Ryan Holiday
ITT 009： From Complacency to Contentment ｜ Doug Hershberger 164： A Man's Responsibility to Future Generations ｜ Matt Labrum

Episode Stats


Length

15 minutes

Words per minute

192.33

Word count

2,897

Sentence count

224

Harmful content

Toxicity

4

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Summary

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In this episode, Ryan talks about the importance of being a man of action and how to be a better father, husband, friend, and business owner. He also talks about how to become a better martial artist and martial arts instructor.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:25.540 Gentlemen, what is going on today? You are listening to the Order of Man podcast.
00:00:29.720 I am your host and the founder of this movement, Ryan Michler.
00:00:33.020 I want to welcome you to this show, whether you've been a long-time listener or this is your very first time.
00:00:39.140 And it might be your very first time. I'm looking at the download numbers.
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00:00:52.740 They're resonating with the message and the information that we're sharing about becoming better men.
00:00:57.100 And about stepping into the role of protector, provider, and presider.
00:01:01.040 And the trends are up.
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00:01:04.900 More and more people joining the Facebook group.
00:01:07.380 And more and more people banding together with us the Order to grow this movement of masculinity.
00:01:11.980 So again, if you are here for the first time, I want to welcome you.
00:01:14.960 This is our Friday Field Notes.
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00:01:22.240 And some things that I've been thinking about from throughout the week.
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00:03:47.460 All right, guys, let's get into this.
00:03:49.720 You have likely heard this phrase, zero F's given.
00:03:54.120 This is a phrase that I hear more and more and I figured we'd talk about this because while I can understand to a degree what anyone might be saying when they use that term, I can't help but see the folly, see the mistake in that line of thinking, especially for men.
00:04:11.040 Because your job and my job as a man, I think is the exact opposite of that sentiment.
00:04:16.520 Your job is to care about a lot and be a man of value in the walls, again, of your home and your business and out in your community.
00:04:24.820 But if you walk around with a chip on your shoulder and that's what it feels like when guys say this, it feels like they just have a chip on their shoulder and you take this stance that everyone else should leave you alone and there's nothing that you should really care about.
00:04:37.160 I've got to think that you're missing a big element of what it means to be a man.
00:04:41.480 And if you've been with us for any amount of time, like, you know, that this is at direct odds with what we're trying to do here.
00:04:48.340 And not to mention, you're limiting your potential and the potential of the people around you.
00:04:52.940 If you look at our motto, which is so much more than just a few little clever marketing words, it's a lifestyle.
00:04:59.480 It's a way that we operate and show up.
00:05:01.320 It's protect, provide, and preside.
00:05:03.620 Now, all three of those factors or responsibilities, they have an element of service.
00:05:08.360 That is the root of those words, service.
00:05:11.180 And that's our job is meant to serve.
00:05:13.480 Now, look, I get it.
00:05:14.920 There are certain things that you probably just shouldn't care about.
00:05:18.860 Certainly, there's things that I don't care about.
00:05:21.140 There's certain people that you shouldn't listen to.
00:05:23.560 And it's extremely, extremely important that we actually inventory, that we look at our lives, every facet of our lives and ask ourselves what should and should not be included.
00:05:34.140 But this quote unquote zero F's mentality, it seems to be different than that.
00:05:39.780 And from my perspective, it seems to be a little more than tough talk from men who don't understand the value and caring about certain parts of their life.
00:05:50.900 You know, if you take opinions, for example, now, again, I know, okay, I know that not everyone's opinion is relevant, but some are some opinions are relevant.
00:06:00.320 If I recognize that someone has an opinion worth listening to, you better believe I'm going to listen to it.
00:06:06.380 Even if somebody disagrees with me, I still think there's value in listening and striving to understand before we completely dismiss the disagreeing party as an idiot, which I've seen, or that you don't really care what he or she has to say. 0.55
00:06:23.520 Even the so-called the haters, right? The haters of the world can simply just be ignored. And I've had to learn how to do that. That's a skill that, that can be developed and should be developed. 0.96
00:06:34.040 But when you give a response, whether that's a negative or a positive response, you attract more of that in your life. And I'm just not interested in attracting negativity.
00:06:44.040 So rather than get mad and offended or result to these childish answers, I just simply qualify the source of information.
00:06:53.520 Is the person sharing this feedback, even a credible source of information? If the answer is no, just move on, just move on. If the answer is yes, then, well, you can probably make a case to listen, at least consider that that information may be accurate or it might improve your current position.
00:07:12.560 Evaluating critical feedback even has been valuable for me. It does one of two things. It further enhances my belief about my current perspective again, or it opens me up to broader horizons and options. In both scenarios, I win. They're a good scenario, regardless of what happens. And besides automatically dismissing valuable information that could serve you, it weakens your position.
00:07:35.860 And of course, the way you do one thing. And of course, the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. We've all heard that as well. In some of the events that we run, for example, I've been thinking about this. We have attendees do a plank challenge.
00:07:46.940 And the challenge is designed to see how long any of the participants can hold their plank. Among the top reasons for participants dropping out of that plank is that it's quote unquote stupid. 0.99
00:08:01.880 It's irrelevant or it's unimportant to what they want in life. That's what the attendees are saying. 0.99
00:08:07.380 And this couldn't be further from the truth. I know it's a plank challenge, but it's relevant still. If you can't do a simple plank challenge without conjuring up the excuse that it's stupid when it gets a little challenging, what makes you think you're going to be able to stick with a marriage when it gets tough or a business when it takes longer to build than you thought it would?
00:08:30.040 Or your fitness regimen when you don't see those results as quickly as you would hope for. The truth is, guys, it all matters. Again, the way you do one thing is the way you do everything.
00:08:40.920 Now, I know that there's some activities that you truly don't care about. I mentioned that before. There's certainly activities I don't care about. I get that.
00:08:48.140 And you shouldn't be expected to or even participate in every possible task and conversation or project or event or whatever that you could ever be part of.
00:08:58.720 But I believe the better response as the first response is one of at least consideration. Why not consider the project or why not consider the opinion before you completely dismiss it?
00:09:11.540 I like to use sports as an example because I believe it's such a great metaphor for life. If when I was playing football, I completely dismissed another team because, quote, I don't care what they're going to do. We're going to destroy them.
00:09:24.000 Well, in that case, I opened myself up to the very real likelihood of not training for and not preparing for the game. And we all know how that's going to turn out.
00:09:34.140 Ryan Holiday actually covers this at length in his book. Ego is the enemy. I know a lot of you guys have read that book. It's a great book if you haven't picked it up yet.
00:09:40.740 But our arrogance has a way of becoming our own worst enemy. It opens us up to all sorts of blind spots and, of course, the potential loss that comes with it.
00:09:50.420 I believe that this, quote, unquote, zero F's mentality does not come, guys, from a position of growth and expansion. It comes from a place of closed mindedness and arrogance.
00:10:01.400 I don't need to beat my chest and tell everyone how little I care about life. I did that as a child when I wanted the approval of my friends. That's what it was. When I wanted the approval of other people, I pretended I didn't care about things and I was too cool or cooler than I really was.
00:10:17.780 And I guess more than anything, that's the point that I'm making. This mentality is rooted in insecurity and a position of scarcity. Basically, you're saying, I want people to think that I don't care.
00:10:30.160 So I'm going to yell it as loudly and obnoxiously as I possibly can. But isn't that a little ironic to do that? If you feel the need to tell people you don't care, you probably actually do care.
00:10:42.400 And what's wrong with caring anyways, guys? I care about an infinite number of things in my life. I care about my family. I care about my community. I care about this movement. I care about the state of affairs for men. I care about this country.
00:10:55.340 I care about putting food on the table. I care about people that I've never even met. I even care about those who disagree with me.
00:11:02.640 That doesn't make you or me weak or my personal favorite is a quote unquote cuck or a beta. It just makes you a man of value because you care about those things.
00:11:13.220 You're going to invest the time and the energy and the resources that you can. And whenever you invest your energy into something worthwhile, it always has a way of returning to you.
00:11:23.400 And if there's things that I genuinely don't care about, I just dismiss them. I free up my bandwidth from more important matters and I drive on.
00:11:30.020 There's no need to tell people how little I care. I just don't have time for it because I'm more focused on the things that I do care about.
00:11:36.740 Now, some people are going to dismiss this information. They're going to tell me I'm blowing it way out of proportion.
00:11:41.720 I disagree. Words matter. I believe they're powerful. When we were boys, we always heard the adage, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
00:11:50.260 It's cute. And there's a point to be made there, but generally it's just not true.
00:11:55.680 Again, words are powerful. They've been used to form world changing partnerships. They've started and ended wars.
00:12:03.600 They've communicated and expressed love to the people that we care about building businesses and just about any other worthwhile endeavor that you could possibly think of.
00:12:12.720 And it's been said that the complexity of our language is one of the very things that makes us human in the first place.
00:12:19.400 And if it really has that much relevancy, our language has that much relevancy to who we are as a species.
00:12:26.460 I think it's probably pretty safe to assume that it's powerful.
00:12:29.720 So, guys, I'll end on this. If language is that powerful, powerful enough to do all those wonderful things and unfortunately some of those horrific things I talked about, then isn't it safe to assume that our own brains process the things that we say in very much the same way?
00:12:46.180 If you keep telling yourself you don't care and quote unquote zero F's this and zero F's that, what signals are you sending to your brain about the amount of effort you put into the things that you say you do care about?
00:12:59.660 It's something to consider.
00:13:01.220 Take it for what it's worth, gentlemen. I hope it helps. I hope it gives you some insight and something to think about.
00:13:06.300 I'm going to sign off for today.
00:13:08.700 I do want to make mention very quickly of our band of brothers.
00:13:12.620 We've had so many men join us inside the Iron Council over the past week or so, and I want to make sure that I personally invite you to join us as well.
00:13:20.960 385 or so members in the Iron Council.
00:13:23.420 These are men who are banded together as battle teams.
00:13:26.540 These are 15-man teams that we operate in.
00:13:28.700 They're working together. They're working on goals.
00:13:30.900 They're coming up with things they need to do on a daily basis.
00:13:33.180 They're losing weight. They're building businesses.
00:13:35.820 They're connecting with their wives.
00:13:37.560 What? What do you want?
00:13:38.740 And we have the framework for helping you identify what that actually looks like.
00:13:42.980 And more importantly, and this is the most important part, we're helping you establish and build the framework and the road to achieving the results that you say you're after.
00:13:53.040 So if you're ready for more than just talking about what it means to be a better man, you want to do something about it, I invite you to join us in the Iron Council.
00:13:59.820 Orderofman.com slash Iron Council.
00:14:01.940 So guys, I will sign out for today.
00:14:04.800 But again, remember, words are powerful.
00:14:06.620 The things that we say are powerful.
00:14:08.620 Have confidence in who you are.
00:14:10.340 Know that it's our job as men to care about certain things, even the things that we don't care about.
00:14:14.860 There's no need to beat our chest and talk about those things.
00:14:17.380 We simply move on.
00:14:18.740 But until next week, guys, take action and become the man you are meant to be.
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