Order of Man - April 29, 2016


Friday Field Notes： Introduction and Keeping Score


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

206.33647

Word count

1,715

Sentence count

150


Summary

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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, I talk about the importance of being a man and how to become a better one. I also talk about how important it is to take a step outside of your comfort zone and see things from a different perspective.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
00:00:04.600 Your blood. Your sweat. Your tears.
00:00:07.740 You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
00:00:11.480 Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
00:00:14.640 You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
00:00:18.420 And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
00:00:22.480 Welcome to your Friday Field Notes.
00:00:25.040 What is up, guys? Welcome to the inaugural episode of Friday Field Notes.
00:00:29.000 Here is where you come to get my rants, my reviews, my recap of the week,
00:00:33.160 and other randomness that I just feel like sharing with you at the end of every week.
00:00:38.200 Now, these are going to be powerful shows.
00:00:39.920 They're going to be short shows because I figure if I can't explain it to you in 5 to 10 minutes,
00:00:44.380 maybe, just maybe, I don't understand it well enough myself.
00:00:48.860 Now, during this show, I'm going to ask you to think critically about some areas in your life.
00:00:52.820 I'm going to ask you to step outside of your comfort zone,
00:00:55.220 and I'm going to ask you to see a different perspective.
00:00:59.000 I'm going to ask you to do some things that might just change your life.
00:01:03.620 Why? Because that's why you're here, right?
00:01:05.220 That's why you're listening to this show, to change your life.
00:01:07.680 You might want to be entertained. You might want to learn something new.
00:01:10.120 But, ultimately, you want to make a change.
00:01:12.520 Now, you don't have to agree with everything that I say here.
00:01:14.880 That is not the point of Friday Field Notes.
00:01:16.960 The point is to challenge you to expand.
00:01:19.460 Expand your mind. Expand your wealth. Expand your health.
00:01:22.220 Expand your relationships. Expand your life.
00:01:25.600 And, in order to do that, you are going to need to hear some things that you have not yet heard
00:01:30.800 and expose yourself to new information.
00:01:33.980 So, with that said, here is what you're not going to get when listening to the Friday Field Notes.
00:01:39.940 I will not be pandering to you.
00:01:41.980 I will not be contemplating your feelings.
00:01:44.300 This is not a quote-unquote safe place.
00:01:46.820 This is what some might refer to as a war room.
00:01:50.160 The place where you go to prepare for battle.
00:01:53.880 Now, some of you might be thinking, that's a little overboard.
00:01:56.520 No, it isn't.
00:01:57.480 Because, every day, you and I go to battle.
00:02:00.140 We fight for our marriages.
00:02:01.280 We fight for our businesses.
00:02:02.700 We fight for our communities.
00:02:03.900 We literally are fighting for our lives.
00:02:06.980 And, deep down, each of us wants to be a warrior.
00:02:11.160 John Eldridge, the author of Wild at Heart, has a great quote.
00:02:14.480 And, it says, deep in his heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.
00:02:24.320 Now, if that does not sound like you, you are definitely in the wrong place today.
00:02:29.140 So, let's get real here for a minute.
00:02:30.440 Not all of us need to be warriors in that traditional sense.
00:02:34.020 But, I never met a man who didn't want to live an honorable life.
00:02:37.740 One who didn't want to be more brave.
00:02:39.440 One who didn't want to show more courage.
00:02:41.060 And, that's exactly what I'm here to share with you in the Friday Field Notes.
00:02:45.200 So, you can see that maybe this episode is a little bit more intense than some of my other shows have been in the past.
00:02:50.900 Maybe you're thinking, I don't want to hear this guy's opinion.
00:02:53.600 Maybe you're thinking, I've got this all figured out.
00:02:56.720 And, to that I say, maybe you do.
00:02:58.940 You're a grown man.
00:02:59.920 But, remember, all of that, all of those ideas got you to where you are today.
00:03:04.480 If you're in a place you'd like to be right now with your business, and your health, and your wealth, and your relationships,
00:03:09.440 maybe this isn't the show for you.
00:03:12.020 But, if you want to improve in every single area of your life, then you are in the right place.
00:03:17.760 So, that's what I'm doing.
00:03:19.080 I'm coming to you each and every Friday.
00:03:21.040 I'm going to tell it like it is.
00:03:22.560 I'm going to share with you how I see the world.
00:03:25.000 If you don't like it, tough stuff.
00:03:26.600 I'm not asking you to agree with me, because frankly, I don't care if you agree with me.
00:03:29.700 If you truly want to become the man you were meant to be,
00:03:31.820 you're going to have to learn to think critically for yourself.
00:03:35.360 Not for me.
00:03:36.360 Not for your family, your boss, or anyone else.
00:03:38.560 So, let's get into this today.
00:03:41.700 The other day, I shared some thoughts on Facebook, which I tend to do,
00:03:45.780 about keeping score for your kids in competitive sports.
00:03:49.040 And frankly, I was a bit surprised by some of the answers.
00:03:51.980 About 90-95% of you agreed with what I had to say,
00:03:55.140 but we have this small minority who actually disagreed with what I had to say,
00:03:59.180 and I cannot, for the life of me, figure this out.
00:04:02.340 So, I want to share the post with you, and then I'm going to give you a recap.
00:04:05.440 Here's the post.
00:04:06.120 Keeping score.
00:04:07.500 Everyone is so afraid of keeping score for little Tommy and Susie.
00:04:11.080 In all reality, keeping score is exactly what we should be doing.
00:04:14.360 Here's what you're saying to your children when you don't keep score.
00:04:17.620 Winning isn't important.
00:04:19.100 Wrong.
00:04:20.020 Winning is the most important.
00:04:21.700 When's the last time you felt okay about getting fired, going bankrupt, or going through a divorce?
00:04:26.340 You're just as good as everyone else out here playing.
00:04:29.100 Wrong.
00:04:29.700 You're either better or you're worse.
00:04:31.580 Let's find out.
00:04:32.340 It's okay.
00:04:33.800 What matters is that you tried.
00:04:35.580 Wrong.
00:04:36.340 How else are you going to know if what you're doing is actually right?
00:04:40.480 It's okay you lost.
00:04:41.680 You played really hard.
00:04:43.200 Wrong.
00:04:43.660 It's not okay that you lost.
00:04:45.200 Let's figure out how to win next time.
00:04:48.520 I don't know who won.
00:04:49.580 We didn't keep score.
00:04:50.680 Wrong.
00:04:51.200 Everyone knows who won.
00:04:52.580 You, the coaches, the kids, the other team.
00:04:54.580 How about we share the results with the kids who earned them?
00:04:58.340 We don't want to keep score.
00:04:59.640 We're more worried about kids learning the game.
00:05:01.860 Wrong.
00:05:02.740 What better way to learn than through the instant feedback of losing and winning?
00:05:07.500 We just want to have a good time out here.
00:05:09.700 Wrong.
00:05:10.060 Winning is fun.
00:05:10.760 You want to have more fun?
00:05:11.680 Start winning more.
00:05:13.320 We don't want anybody to feel bad.
00:05:15.640 Wrong.
00:05:16.460 You just don't want the losers to feel bad.
00:05:18.620 But what about the kids who work their tails off to succeed?
00:05:21.880 They're too young to keep score.
00:05:23.660 Wrong.
00:05:24.660 Why then do kids get excited when they take their first step, say their first word, poop
00:05:28.940 in the toilet for the first time, sleep in their bed all night, and eat all their dinner?
00:05:32.520 I know we're all worried about our kids' precious little feelings, but seriously, we're
00:05:36.380 turning them into wimps mentally, physically, and emotionally.
00:05:39.640 Our kids are going out in the world and they're getting their asses kicked.
00:05:43.120 Kids are resilient and you are breaking them of that when you don't let them experience
00:05:47.000 loss.
00:05:47.660 Life is about winning and losing.
00:05:49.640 You keep score, don't you?
00:05:50.700 The size of your bank account, your latest job promotion, the success of your relationships,
00:05:55.200 your current weight, your current body fat percentage, the size of your house, your
00:05:58.460 GPA, your degree, your current profession.
00:06:00.440 See, all of us keep score.
00:06:01.500 It's human nature.
00:06:02.280 It's a good thing.
00:06:03.160 It drives us to try harder when we fail and it recognizes our efforts when we succeed.
00:06:07.200 Let your children participate in this thing we call life.
00:06:10.640 Stop trying to protect them from it because you're actually crippling them.
00:06:13.980 If we can teach our kids how to win and lose now, they'll be better equipped to deal
00:06:18.880 with it when it really counts.
00:06:20.980 All right.
00:06:21.240 So that was my post on Facebook and I just cannot see how anybody would disagree with
00:06:26.180 that.
00:06:26.800 I get that our kids' feelings are important.
00:06:28.280 I get that they need to learn the skills.
00:06:29.940 I get that we should let them fall in love with the game first, but that's not what I'm
00:06:32.820 saying here.
00:06:33.880 Keeping score, keeping track of the winners and the losers and teaching them the fundamentals
00:06:39.440 of baseball or football or dance or whatever are not mutually exclusive.
00:06:45.800 But there seems to be some people out there who think that it is, that somehow if we keep
00:06:51.140 track of the score, that it will deter children from falling in love with a game or even learning
00:06:56.960 how to play it right.
00:06:58.120 And to that, I say BS.
00:07:00.200 This is life, guys.
00:07:01.640 As much as we'd like to shelter our children from it, you are doing a disservice to your
00:07:06.280 kids when you're more worried about being their friend and making them feel good than
00:07:11.360 you are about teaching them how to be self-reliant adults and teaching them how to win and lose.
00:07:17.880 So if you agree and you want to give me a virtual fist bump, or if you disagree with
00:07:22.420 me and you want to give me the virtual middle finger, hit me up on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube,
00:07:27.200 Twitter, Periscope, anywhere else, all at order of man.
00:07:31.260 So there you have it, guys.
00:07:32.060 First Friday field notes in the books.
00:07:34.400 This is the kind of thing that we're going to be talking about on the Friday field notes.
00:07:38.100 Again, we don't have to agree on everything.
00:07:39.880 The point is to have some discussions to expand our level of thinking and get us talking about
00:07:44.200 the things that actually matter, not unimportant, trivial stuff that we get consumed with.
00:07:49.680 So make sure that you catch our full show every single Tuesday.
00:07:53.380 We've got Friday field notes and then our full show on Tuesday.
00:07:55.720 We've got some great guests coming up in the coming weeks, including three Navy SEALs
00:08:00.880 that you will not want to miss.
00:08:02.720 Now, go out there, take action, and live manfully.
00:08:06.660 Those are your Friday field notes.
00:08:08.520 Now, it's time to crush your excuses, own your choices, accept responsibility, and live manfully.
00:08:15.200 Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash field notes.