Friday Field Notes： Introduction and Keeping Score
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Summary
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, I talk about the importance of being a man and how to become a better one. I also talk about how important it is to take a step outside of your comfort zone and see things from a different perspective.
Transcript
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You're a man. You're committed to the work required to forge your own destiny.
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You will not be defeated. You cannot be deterred.
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Nothing stands between you and the victory you seek.
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You're a rock. Steadfast, resolute, and unwavering.
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And, at the end of the day, the job will be done.
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What is up, guys? Welcome to the inaugural episode of Friday Field Notes.
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Here is where you come to get my rants, my reviews, my recap of the week,
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and other randomness that I just feel like sharing with you at the end of every week.
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They're going to be short shows because I figure if I can't explain it to you in 5 to 10 minutes,
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maybe, just maybe, I don't understand it well enough myself.
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Now, during this show, I'm going to ask you to think critically about some areas in your life.
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I'm going to ask you to step outside of your comfort zone,
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and I'm going to ask you to see a different perspective.
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I'm going to ask you to do some things that might just change your life.
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That's why you're listening to this show, to change your life.
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You might want to be entertained. You might want to learn something new.
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Now, you don't have to agree with everything that I say here.
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Expand your mind. Expand your wealth. Expand your health.
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And, in order to do that, you are going to need to hear some things that you have not yet heard
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So, with that said, here is what you're not going to get when listening to the Friday Field Notes.
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This is what some might refer to as a war room.
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Now, some of you might be thinking, that's a little overboard.
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And, deep down, each of us wants to be a warrior.
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John Eldridge, the author of Wild at Heart, has a great quote.
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And, it says, deep in his heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.
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Now, if that does not sound like you, you are definitely in the wrong place today.
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Not all of us need to be warriors in that traditional sense.
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But, I never met a man who didn't want to live an honorable life.
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And, that's exactly what I'm here to share with you in the Friday Field Notes.
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So, you can see that maybe this episode is a little bit more intense than some of my other shows have been in the past.
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Maybe you're thinking, I don't want to hear this guy's opinion.
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Maybe you're thinking, I've got this all figured out.
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But, remember, all of that, all of those ideas got you to where you are today.
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If you're in a place you'd like to be right now with your business, and your health, and your wealth, and your relationships,
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But, if you want to improve in every single area of your life, then you are in the right place.
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I'm going to share with you how I see the world.
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I'm not asking you to agree with me, because frankly, I don't care if you agree with me.
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If you truly want to become the man you were meant to be,
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you're going to have to learn to think critically for yourself.
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Not for your family, your boss, or anyone else.
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The other day, I shared some thoughts on Facebook, which I tend to do,
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about keeping score for your kids in competitive sports.
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And frankly, I was a bit surprised by some of the answers.
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About 90-95% of you agreed with what I had to say,
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but we have this small minority who actually disagreed with what I had to say,
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and I cannot, for the life of me, figure this out.
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So, I want to share the post with you, and then I'm going to give you a recap.
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Everyone is so afraid of keeping score for little Tommy and Susie.
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In all reality, keeping score is exactly what we should be doing.
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Here's what you're saying to your children when you don't keep score.
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When's the last time you felt okay about getting fired, going bankrupt, or going through a divorce?
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You're just as good as everyone else out here playing.
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How else are you going to know if what you're doing is actually right?
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How about we share the results with the kids who earned them?
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We're more worried about kids learning the game.
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What better way to learn than through the instant feedback of losing and winning?
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But what about the kids who work their tails off to succeed?
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Why then do kids get excited when they take their first step, say their first word, poop
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in the toilet for the first time, sleep in their bed all night, and eat all their dinner?
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I know we're all worried about our kids' precious little feelings, but seriously, we're
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turning them into wimps mentally, physically, and emotionally.
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Our kids are going out in the world and they're getting their asses kicked.
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Kids are resilient and you are breaking them of that when you don't let them experience
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The size of your bank account, your latest job promotion, the success of your relationships,
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your current weight, your current body fat percentage, the size of your house, your
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It drives us to try harder when we fail and it recognizes our efforts when we succeed.
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Let your children participate in this thing we call life.
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Stop trying to protect them from it because you're actually crippling them.
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If we can teach our kids how to win and lose now, they'll be better equipped to deal
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So that was my post on Facebook and I just cannot see how anybody would disagree with
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I get that we should let them fall in love with the game first, but that's not what I'm
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Keeping score, keeping track of the winners and the losers and teaching them the fundamentals
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of baseball or football or dance or whatever are not mutually exclusive.
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But there seems to be some people out there who think that it is, that somehow if we keep
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track of the score, that it will deter children from falling in love with a game or even learning
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As much as we'd like to shelter our children from it, you are doing a disservice to your
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kids when you're more worried about being their friend and making them feel good than
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you are about teaching them how to be self-reliant adults and teaching them how to win and lose.
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So if you agree and you want to give me a virtual fist bump, or if you disagree with
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me and you want to give me the virtual middle finger, hit me up on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube,
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Twitter, Periscope, anywhere else, all at order of man.
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This is the kind of thing that we're going to be talking about on the Friday field notes.
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The point is to have some discussions to expand our level of thinking and get us talking about
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the things that actually matter, not unimportant, trivial stuff that we get consumed with.
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So make sure that you catch our full show every single Tuesday.
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We've got Friday field notes and then our full show on Tuesday.
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We've got some great guests coming up in the coming weeks, including three Navy SEALs
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Now, go out there, take action, and live manfully.
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Now, it's time to crush your excuses, own your choices, accept responsibility, and live manfully.
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Learn how at orderofman.com forward slash field notes.