GREG HARDEN ｜ Create Sanity in an Insane World
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Greg Harden is a coach to some of the greatest athletes to play, like Tom Brady, Desmond Howard, and Michael Phelps, to name a few. His name is Greg Harden, and he makes the case for creating sanity out of our lives.
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It's no surprise that there is an increasing amount of insanity in the world today, most of
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it outside of our control, but there is also an immense amount of insanity taking place in the
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space six inches between our ears, our brains. Fortunately, that's the realm we can control,
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and once we learn to do just that, we can achieve sanity in the otherwise chaotic experience of life.
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My guest today is mindset coach to some of the greatest athletes to play,
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like Tom Brady, Desmond Howard, and Michael Phelps, to name a few. His name is Greg Harden,
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and he makes the case for creating sanity out of our lives. We talk about becoming an expert on
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one subject, the narcissistic tinge of self-love and a better alternative, why you must learn to grow
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through adversity, not merely go through it, four basic needs every man desires and how he can create
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fulfillment in those things for himself, and learning to know yourself and embrace complete
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acceptance of who you are. You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears
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and boldly chart your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
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You are not easily deterred, defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who
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you are. This is who you will become at the end of the day. And after all is said and done,
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you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler. I'm the
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host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. I am glad that you're tuning in and
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glad that you've been with us for 10 seconds or 10 months or almost 10 years now. I think we're just
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about nine years. So I'm glad that we're still moving along. I'm glad that we're still growing.
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I'm glad that we're still able to serve you guys. I get messages every day from men all over the world
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who are implementing the advice from some of our guests. They're using our tools, they're using
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our systems, and they're bettering their lives for it. And I am grateful and honored to be a small
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part of your mission to improve yourself as a man. Guys, I've got a very, very good one for you today
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with Greg Harden. We're going to introduce him here in just a minute. But before I do, I want to
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out. Again, montananifecompany.com. All right, guys, let me introduce you to my guest. Greg Harden
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is a peak performance coach. He's a motivational speaker. He's an executive consultant, and he's best
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known for his work with seven times Superbowl champion quarterback, Tom Brady. He's also
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worked with Heisman trophy winner and Superbowl MVP, Desmond Howard, and 23 time Olympic gold
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medalist, Michael Phelps. So his resume speaks for itself, but he spent over 30 years building these
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athletes at the university of Michigan, including 400 future professional athletes, 50 NFL first round
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draft picks, 120 Olympians from over 20 countries. And he gained national recognition when 60 minutes
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sports profiled him as Michigan's secret weapon. Guys, you are going to enjoy this one. Let him speak
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for himself and implement what you can enjoy guys. Mr. Greg Harden. Good to see you today. I'm glad we
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could finally make this work. I know we had a little, little mishap on my end, not your end on my end.
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I'm taking responsibility for that one, but I am really honored and glad that you're here and
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I'm excited about your work. Well, thank you, sir. I appreciate this opportunity and I've heard
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great things about you. Yeah. Well, first things first, I want to say congrats. Adam talked to me
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yesterday. He said that you just hit the New York Times and did you hit Wall Street Journal bestseller
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list as well? Yes, oddly enough. And I'm humbled completely because it's not something I expected,
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but it's my team. It's been outstanding and the response and the reaction to the book exceeded my
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expectations. Is that right? What do you attribute the growth of the book, the excitement, the buzz,
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everything else around, and the success of the book? What would you attribute to that too if it
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exceeded your expectation and you weren't quite sure if it would hit that?
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Um, you know, I just thought I was going to try to sell the book and I didn't know about all the
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marketing and all the opportunities to meet people like you and the people like you got,
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got excited and your people got excited, things like that. I mean, some of the characters that I've
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met in the last three weeks would blow your mind. Oh, I bet. I bet. I bet you met some fascinating
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people. What, what was the, what was the reasoning behind writing the book? I published two books now
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and I have my own reasoning, but I'm always curious why authors, especially those like yourself who were
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ultra successful with their releases, what, what drove you to write a book in the first place?
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Well, uh, people have been, uh, asking me with sincerity and earnest to write down, capture what I
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taught them. Uh, and, and, and it's, I'm in the fourth quarter, sir. If you like hockey, I'm in the
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third period. We'll stick with quarters. I like quarters. We'll stick with quarters.
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All right. So, um, I really felt a calling, uh, to make sure that before I left this planet,
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I did everything I could to share with people what I've learned working with high performance
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individuals because, um, I've learned more from them than, than they learned from me. Just being
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around the type of people I've been around and, and them being just regular folks. And then they
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turn into goats and mega, mega monsters has been quite an education. And so I've had, uh, uh, people
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like Desmond has been bugging me. Desmond Howard has been bugging me for years to capture what I taught
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him. Uh, and so, uh, it was during a very interesting time, uh, medically speaking during,
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uh, 2020 when things were shut down, I had nothing but time. And what was real for me is the title.
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I think the title sells the book. This title makes sense. Even before you pick up the book.
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Oh, no doubt. No doubt. Which is stay sane, but in an insane, but what, what's the, what's,
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what's the subtitle control the controllable bulls or something along those lines. I can't remember
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right offhand. Uh, uh, uh, you, you know, stay sane in an insane world, how to control the
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controllables and thrive with everything. You talk about everything that the people who
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are like-minded understand that at some point is going to come to you in such a way that you need
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to be in control of what you can control and stop fantasizing. You can control everybody and
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everything else. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's where we get ourselves into a lot of trouble when we start
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to fret and worry about the things that are beyond our control. It's hard to do because
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like with me, I want to control everything. I don't know. I don't know if you have that
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personality, but for me, I want to control it all. Even the weather today. I'm like, I don't want it to
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be rainy. I want it to be sunny. And it's like, okay, well you don't have any, any say in the matter at
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all. Yeah. I'm a bonafide U S grade eight choice control freak. And I am not alone.
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Do you think that high achievers have that same personality trait? I mean, we're talking about
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Desmond Howard, talking about Tom Brady, we're talking about Michael Phelps and hundreds, if not
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thousands of some of the greatest athletes in multiple sports to ever walk, you know, the face
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of the earth. Do they have the same mentality of like, I want to control everything or do they know
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how to focus on just what's within their purview? Well, I don't want to generalize, but many of them
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would be labeled, uh, uh, the way that you just described it. I mean, think about Michael
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Jordan. Michael Jordan was identified as one of the best ever. And you did not want to be on his
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team. If you were not prepared for him to get in your butt. Yeah. Right. Right. He's notorious for
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that because he was going to control the outcome as best he could. So, I mean, you've seen it
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everywhere you've been and, and, and some of the best situations and some of the worst situations
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you've been in control freaks were, were there. So is it a, uh, I guess the, the burning question
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then is the, is the control freak mentality an asset or a liability? It depends on if you understand
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that that's who you are. See, the key is, okay. The phrase today is I want to be the absolute best
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version of myself, right? You've heard it. You've said it. Sure. We talk about it, but how do you do
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that? By become the world's greatest expert on one subject. You learning your own strengths and your
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own weaknesses, what works and what doesn't work. So I know I'm a control freak. So I have to tone
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that crap down. I deliberately and intentionally catch myself. I deliberately and intentionally
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tap into my humility and, and try to be humble enough to stop thinking it has to be all be about
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me. That's an art form and it's something we can coach. And that's what the book pushes. It pushes the
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whole idea of like, how do you balance out your obsession with being Peter perfect? If you, if you have
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any, any, any spiritual fitness, you realize that the job is taken perfect is not going to be who
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you're going to be. The job is taken. I like that. I'm not going to pray to you tonight. I'm sorry.
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I like, I never heard it put like that. The job is taken. I, there's only one person, right? And I like,
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I like what you're saying here. That makes sense to me. So with, with regards to perfection though,
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is that something worth striving towards? Or would you suggest that those men who want to be high
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achievers strive towards something else? Or is it just semantics? What would you suggest that somebody
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who wants to excel at the highest level strive towards if it's not perfection?
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Ryan, your stock just went up with me. I'm serious. That is the question. I, I need you to be perfectly
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okay. With not being perfect. I need you to be so balanced, so cool. So, so, so grounded in the skin
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you're in that you begin to understand the pursuit of perfection is more fun than bubblegum. Think about it.
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What, what, what, why wouldn't you want to get a hundred on the exam? Why wouldn't you want to get
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a perfect 10? Why wouldn't you want to be a marksman that's like this and all the time?
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The pursuit of perfection is legit to think and demand that you must be perfect or kill you.
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Well, this is something I get hung up on quite often is if, and you talk about this in your book,
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you talk about the, the, I think you say that the, the devil on your left shoulder or the demon on
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your left shoulder and the angel on your right shoulder, I can't remember the terminology you use.
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And so on here's, here's my dilemma here in this is on one hand, I hear what you're saying. I agree
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with what you're saying. And on the other hand, are we creating this internal dialogue when we say to
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ourselves, I want to be perfect. I know I can't, but I'm going to chase it. And does that create a weird
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dialogue in our head that creates contention that keeps us from moving forward?
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It depends on who you are and who you're trying to become this because remember the job is already
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taken. That's not an option, right? You will never be perfect. So I need you to be perfectly okay
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with not being perfect and understand the concept of harmony, yin and yang, buddy. That's who we are.
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You know, we, we are ordering chaos. We are not just order.
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Yeah. I know that whole things. I am 360 degrees. Just look at that whole yin and yang phenomenon.
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You know, there's good in me and there's bad in me. And so my job is to constantly pursue
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balance and understand how to, how to work with those extremes in my nature. That's who we are.
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So it's not a false. You know, when you're going to college, you're inundated with false dichotomies.
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Is it this or is it that there is no this or that it's all of the above. I like that. Not I like that.
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Not I'm thinking I'm the wheels are turning the wheel. I've learned, I've learned to slow down a
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little bit, or at least I'm learning too. Because your survival and your success is depending on you
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continuing to learn how to manage your own emotions. But self-mastery is the mission. And that means
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trying to be so, so grounded and enjoying being Ryan. I need you to be so invested in being you
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that self-love and self-acceptance is what you're pursuing. And self-acceptance means
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flaws and all. I dig, like me, flaws and all. I know there's, there's four A's that you talk
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about and you're, you're hitting on it. You're, you're talking a little bit about it and we'll
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get to it. I want to get to it, but I want to talk about the self-acceptance concept because
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sometimes I think, and this is a popular culture thing I believe is that a lot of people with regards
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to self-acceptance believe that means accept yourself for who you are, or maybe say it this
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way, accept and become comfortable with a lesser version of who you could be. I think that's the
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popular narrative, but I don't think that's what you're saying. I don't think that's what I'm saying.
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I'm saying that if I really, Ryan, I'll give it to you straight because I think you're a straight
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shooter. I think you can handle it. I was doing a lecture to a lacrosse team, you know, the richest
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little white boys in America. And they were cool. Do they have quarters or periods? I don't even know.
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Hey, look, all I know is that it was, it was a new sport for me. I had to learn and train,
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boom, boom, boom. But these guys were totally invested. They were totally engaged. And I was
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telling them, uh, I introduced them to, if by word you're Kipling, if you can keep your head
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when all about you're losing theirs and blaming it on you. And I introduced them to, uh, the serenity
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prayer, boom, boom, boom, which is control the controllables. God grants you serenity.
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He can't ride. Sure. Son. Yeah. All right. Sure. I gave this, I mean, we're there. This is our third
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session and I'm bringing it home. And I say, we've walked, uh, through a lot of doors. I've
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introduced you to a lot of things. And I introduced you to the four A's, the need for attention,
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affection, approval, and acceptance. And sometimes, and we talked about it, we defined the terms.
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And I just want you to be clear that I want to confuse you. I really do hope you guys like me.
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I really hope that you approve of what I've done for you. But if you don't, I'm okay.
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I'm going to be all right. So when we're talking about self-acceptance, we're talking about taking
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it to a level that I, I accept myself so well that I'm even willing to look at the things I need to
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change. I am so comfortable that I'm willing to look at my weaknesses and stop being intimidated
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or pretend they don't exist. I'm willing to be honest with myself. That's total acceptance, right?
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Think about what I'm saying. And I'm saying that even if I'm not perfect, look, God made one creature
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that has the ability, oh my God, has the ability to wake up one day and decide today, I've decided not
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to be the same as I was yesterday. What other creature can do that?
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That idea of consciousness doesn't exist anywhere else but us.
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Come on, man. A lion going to be a lion, a dog going to be a dog, but a human being can decide
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I can look at myself honestly. And what I don't like, I can change.
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That's a major breakthrough when we begin to embrace that and see that as something that I have in me
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that I need to understand and take stock of and become so talented and so gifted, so invested in
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developing the best version of myself, I'm willing to develop the skills to do self-assessment,
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self-evaluation. Self-awareness has to grow and evolve. And we're not talking about self-love and
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self-acceptance with the narcissistic nonsense that we've seen around us, but we're talking about
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How do you become, oh, let me back up. I'll say it this way. I've been through some real shit
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over the past year. Much of it is my own doing. I'm willing to admit that. That's self-acceptance.
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Much of it is my own doing. But how does a guy who's been through in the trenches, been through hell,
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been through the ringer, as I'm sure you have in your own ways?
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Good for you. I sometimes wonder, I'm like, man, I look like I've been through some stuff.
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But how do you begin to come to that realization of self-acceptance? Here's what I'm not good at.
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I'm willing to look at my flaws. I'm willing to look at these challenges.
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When what we've done in the past is so evidently clear that we're not the ideal version of ourself
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to bring that phrase in. One thing you talk about is, and I can't remember the terminology you use.
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I wrote it down because I thought it was important. What was it? In sports, it's what you do,
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not who you are. Right. That's a game changer. You know, you've been a soldier, right? And you've
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been a soldier, a real soldier, son. You've been a soldier. You've been a parent. You've been,
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you're an entrepreneur. You're an author. You're all these things. But who you are is even bigger
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than each one of those categories? So imagine telling a 19-year-old football player, and that's
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very popular today, that you've got to decide, with or without football, your life is going to be
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amazing. If God takes it from you, if you worship football, God will take it away from you.
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Are you talking about false idols here? If you're worshiping certain things, it's like you're done
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Being a soldier, being an athlete, being a star, you know, if you're worshiping any kind of idol,
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it could backfire. And sometimes if you're 18, 19 years old, you're worshiping the sport and you
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don't even know that's what you're doing because you believe in the sport. I'm a football player,
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among other things. I'm a soldier. I'm a man. I'm a manly man, among other things. You better look and
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see your whole self and develop your whole self. There are three levels of fitness.
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It's Mickler. It's three levels of fitness, physical, mental, and spiritual. And you must
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develop each one. You must sometimes take time out to push one over the others. Because in my
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argument, I'm saying that if you cheat in one, the other two will not be fully developed. Doesn't mean
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it won't be developed, but be fully developed. If you want to be that guy, because you know you
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physically, you've pushed yourself like no other, right? You know, mentally you, you working hard
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and you know that you love God with all your heart and soul, but have you developed yourself in that
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area even more? Have you been deliberate and intentional of getting better at all three on
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purpose? That's a balancing act that you're pursuing. That's worth pursuing. Take time out
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for every now and then you take time out to, to upgrade your physical. You've taken time out to
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upgrade your mental. I need you to take time out in your definition. You don't have to believe what I
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believe, but you better believe in something. You understand? So that's how I roll. I'm sorry. I get
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excited about this. I'm glad I can hear the passion in your voice. I am curious how you specifically
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would recommend whether it's tactics or strategies for implementing mental and spiritual health. I
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think the physical health is the simplest. I'm not going to say easiest because there's a lot of work
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required for it. Simpler to understand. It is. It's like, you just go to the gym. Just don't eat that
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hamburger today. Like just do it, do what you already know. You should drink enough water,
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get enough sleep. Like we, we all know that now, whether we do it, it's a different story. We all
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do it to varying degrees, but we all know what it is. But I think a lot of us, myself included at times
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wonder how to develop mental and spiritual strength. I think even the spiritual side, you know,
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go to church, pray, read the Bible. That's my belief. I know that other people have different
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thoughts, but maybe that's meditation. Um, maybe that's being around other people who believe in a
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higher power or a higher purpose. But I think the mental thing is where a lot of guys get hung up.
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Well, think about that for a minute. If I came from another planet and, and I said, I heard about
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this physical health, physical fitness thing. What does that mean? Well, you of course say, well,
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that means your cardiovascular, uh, your, uh, endurance, your, your strength, your flexibility.
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Um, you know, and you would break it down for me in all these categories, but until you say the
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word recovery time, you're not really breaking it down for me because you have been in show enough
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shape. And there's been times when you could give everything you got completely spent, take a minute,
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do it again, do it again. Right. We could go, you and I could go out right now and run a hundred yard
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dash. And a minute later, you could do it again. And three months later, I could do it again.
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Yeah, no doubt. But my recovery time is different than it used to be.
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But if you understand recovery time, you understand fitness. So what's mental fitness?
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Think about this in your world. I mean, mental fitness is not just being able to, uh, uh, get an IQ
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test. We're talking about in your, in the real world, you're going to be tested in the real world.
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You're going to be heartbroken. You're going to be, have to survive grief and loss,
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disappointment, trials, and tribulations. You will be tested. How fast you recover talks about your
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mental fitness, training yourself to understand a, how to let go, how to not just go through it,
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but to deliberately grow through it. You admit it. You said you took ownership and responsibility
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about what has happened in the last year that you have looked at your taking your, your,
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looked at your role and what, what you did and didn't do. Are you going to go through it?
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Be miserable, negative, and depressed. Are you going to grow through it and learn and evolve
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and keep growing? Cause bruh, everything that's happened to you is designed by a higher power to set
00:26:19.620
you up to be the guy that you dream of being. It's all you're saying. It's all conspiring for us.
00:26:25.300
We need to allow it to happen. The obstacle is the way as Ryan holiday. That's the, that's the
00:26:32.660
stoic, right? Stoics. Yeah. Come on, son. It's your, your, your trials and tribulations
00:26:40.160
give you a mission. You turn it in a part of your mission. How am I going to get better? I really
00:26:48.600
know what I did wrong. Are you going to repeat it again and again and again?
00:26:57.020
Probably if you don't self-reflect like you're talking about, right?
00:27:00.120
I'm just saying opportunity is knocking. You can whine and wallow and beat yourself up.
00:27:07.560
Or you can say, okay, now, cause you already are articulating the, the, what opens the door.
00:27:15.320
I take full responsibility for the role I play. I am also going to take responsibility for how I'm
00:27:22.320
going to respond and how I'm going to recover and how I'm going to move forward and what I'm going
00:27:27.440
to learn. And I'm going to grow through this, not go through this. Cause I, this is a pattern that I
00:27:33.640
can break. I'm a, I'm taking notes as you're doing it. Like I tell the guy, I tell the guys I'm the
00:27:41.180
most fortunate person with regards to this podcast. Cause I get to ask the questions I want to ask.
00:27:45.660
And then I take notes for myself. So I've got like a journal full of notes on everything. My guests
00:27:51.000
talk about what you just said that really struck something with me. As you said, I'm going to grow
00:27:55.520
through this, not go through this. That was powerful. It's a game changer. It's a mindset.
00:28:02.660
We hear the phrase all the time. That's a mindset that you can develop. I'm deliberately and
00:28:08.620
intentionally going to take everything that's happening and not just say I was wrong. I say,
00:28:16.120
I ain't, I won't do that again. How, and I have to train myself. I got to deprogram reprogram my way
00:28:23.880
of thinking and seeing the world in order to make sure that if it doesn't work, it ain't going to be
00:28:29.120
because of me. Is this the concept that you're talking about? We visited earlier, but the concept
00:28:37.240
of that, that demon on your left shoulder, who's self-sabotaging and telling you you're no good and
00:28:43.820
planting these little thoughts in your mind versus the right shoulder that saying, Hey, you know what?
00:28:48.460
Yeah, you messed up, but you can do this. You're capable. You're strong. You have the ability to grow
00:28:53.440
from this. Is this the conversation that addresses in the book? And you are obsessed with trying to
00:28:58.860
get the angel to win. Remember in the cartoons where the, uh, the, the, that, that comes from my
00:29:05.100
memory of, of that, a little devil on one shoulder and every now and then the angel that take off his
00:29:12.640
halo to go whip the devil's behind. Right. Sometimes the devil's, well, I'll say there's sometimes the
00:29:19.140
devil's a little bit more fun, a little bit more appealing. And sometimes we just, I think that kind
00:29:25.260
of sometimes we want to feel like garbage. We like that victim mentality sometimes look, and we can
00:29:31.140
change that and upgrade all we're talking about. And we're not saying that you're wrong. See what we,
00:29:37.320
what we end up here. Well, am I right or wrong? No, I'm not saying you're right or wrong. I'm saying
00:29:43.000
you get to decide. Cause I'm going to tell you, man. Um, I used to get high. I would be high as a
00:29:50.180
Georgia pine. Right. And like, uh, you know, one day it dawned on me. Oh, that was fun. Okay. I think
00:29:57.760
I'll move on. Not recovering. Not just, but it was fun. But now it's, it's time to do something else
00:30:07.880
to move into another realm. So you guys who are getting high with me, let's go on to the next level.
00:30:13.680
And what? The next level. Well, what you learn from getting high in my book and my experience
00:30:24.100
was that you see that your mind is capable of so much more. Now, is it the drug or is it your mind?
00:30:32.620
So I decided it was my mind and the doors were being open that were in my mind. So I decided
00:30:41.620
I could, I could stay high and never come down. And I can't do that with artificial stimulation.
00:30:48.260
That's how crazy I was. Ryan, that's how crazy I was. I was convinced that, Hmm, that's all in my head.
00:30:56.340
Perhaps I can be excited and insanely happy without needing artificial stimulation.
00:31:07.520
These, uh, these guys you're with, as you were talking about taking the next level, they were
00:31:13.340
wondering, are you high right now? Exactly. I, so when I became an expert, a so-called expert on
00:31:21.020
alcohol and drugs, you know, I didn't have the heart to tell people that I figured this stuff out
00:31:28.520
the hard way. Right. And so I would be giving a lecture to like seventh and eighth graders and
00:31:35.860
I'd be all giddy. Mick, I'd be all giddy and excited and being me. And they say, Mr. Harden, you get high,
00:31:43.680
don't you? It would crush me. Ryan, it would break my heart. Then it dawned on me. Oh, y'all
00:31:51.800
haven't seen anyone this excited and this happy unless they were high.
00:31:56.960
Hmm. Yeah. Right. I was like, gang, let me tell you the truth. If I was getting high, I would have
00:32:04.120
taken 10 breaks to maintain this energy. I'd have to go to the bathroom a few times. This is really me.
00:32:13.520
And they go, wow. I say, I'm like this consistently, 24 seven. I don't get, I don't have to use artificial
00:32:22.720
aids to assist me. And I don't have to crash and burn when they come down. They go, whoa.
00:32:31.080
So it's, yeah, the devil will convince you that he's more fun. She's more fun, whatever you want
00:32:39.140
to call it. And I'm gonna convince you it's you. It's not an animated nonsensical devil. That's you.
00:32:49.880
And if you, if you fun, you fun. Well, the coach isn't look hockey player. I'm falling out of love
00:32:59.260
with hockey. I'm thinking about quitting. I mean, the coach is taking all the fun out of the game.
00:33:04.860
So you saying you're not having fun. You're saying that it's the coach's fault that you're not having
00:33:12.260
fun. Well, I'm afraid it's probably not to coach. I mean, unless you're telling me you're going to let
00:33:22.340
someone's personality steal your joy. I said, bro, either, either, either having fun because that's
00:33:31.020
who you are, or you getting broke down and worn out because you're preoccupied thinking about what
00:33:36.960
the coach's thinking and what the coach is saying. And if we're talking about learning to control the
00:33:41.340
controllables, I don't care what your, your coach's personality ain't going to decide whether or not
00:33:46.620
you love playing a game. Hockey is a game that you play. And I know it's a radical concept, but it's
00:33:53.880
supposed to be game play equal fun. But, you know, but it's hockey.
00:33:59.160
I said, bro, serious, serious business. This is a true story. I had a guy that I'm talking about
00:34:06.580
who is now an amazing NHL player and he was ready to quit. And I told him, bro, I tell you, this is
00:34:16.320
what I want you to do now. This is an experiment because I know you get ready to quit. So if it
00:34:21.240
doesn't work, it's okay. You're right. I said, I want you to go on the ice and practice.
00:34:26.840
I want you to have more fun than anybody on the ice all day. I want you to piss people off. You
00:34:33.720
having such a good time. And then when you get in the game, I want the opponents hating you
00:34:39.760
because you having so much fun. I mean, just try. Well, we started this routine and he went to
00:34:47.540
practice and he, I said, you know, and the coach, nobody has, has the power to take this from you.
00:34:53.980
All right. So a couple of weeks goes by Ryan, this fool had a hat trick
00:35:00.760
going three goals. And again, one of the next games he played, of course, he came back a true
00:35:08.440
believer. I bet he did. I bet he did. So he decided to stick around. It sounds like,
00:35:13.260
let's keep working, but bruh, it's all mindset. So don't get a devil credit for, cause you know how
00:35:21.000
to get drunk and have a good time. You better learn how to have a good time, whether you're
00:35:26.380
drunk or you not drunk. You supposed to have more fun than any fool in the room. That's how I roll.
00:35:32.980
Man, let me just step away from the conversation very quickly on the subject of chaos and sanity.
00:35:39.480
You're familiar with it. Breakups, layoffs, bankruptcies, and everything in between guys,
00:35:45.500
you don't have to fight those battles alone. In fact, you're, you're not supposed to. For as long
00:35:50.360
as men have been walking this planet, we have operated in tribes and packs and gangs, but somewhere
00:35:56.380
along the way in developing ways to be more connected through technology than we ever have before,
00:36:01.260
we forgot what happens when men band together towards common objectives and against common
00:36:07.620
demons. And that's where the iron council comes in over a thousand men operate inside the iron
00:36:13.180
council, all with a singular pursuit. And that is to better their own lives by learning skills and
00:36:17.780
service to their brothers. Besides them, uh, we're going to be opening up our brotherhood back again
00:36:22.460
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00:36:27.620
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00:36:46.080
after this podcast. For now, let's get back to it with Greg. That's a powerful concept. I actually
00:36:52.600
hear it a lot in the context of, uh, men who are dissatisfied at work and the advice we often give
00:36:59.500
is, well, go all in first. You know, you don't like your job. You don't like your boss. You don't
00:37:03.920
like your work. You don't like whatever you feel like you're hindered from growth. Like, have you
00:37:08.620
gone all in yet? Have you done everything that you absolutely can do? And if you have, then we can
00:37:13.180
talk about it. But if you haven't, like you need to give that a shot first. And what I found is that
00:37:18.080
people don't, when they tend to do that, they don't need to go look for anything anywhere else
00:37:22.620
because they realize they're going to run into the same stuff they have currently. Cause it's not
00:37:26.320
about the boss or the job. The same insight with them. Right. Geographical cure doesn't work.
00:37:34.200
You're taking the same person with you. Boom. You heard about the guy that the family rolled up to
00:37:41.620
the gas station. That's when people used to pump gas for you. And they rolled up and say, you know,
00:37:46.000
we're just moving into this town and you know, the town we're leaving, it was just horrible.
00:37:53.620
The people were just mean spirited there, you know, they were just jerks and we hated it. And
00:38:00.120
we're looking for someplace else. And we're, we're looking at your town and we're, we're hoping that
00:38:04.820
it's a different place. What's this town like in the gas station of Tennessee? Pretty much the same.
00:38:11.540
Another car rides up and the people say, Hey, we really excited about being in this town. You know,
00:38:23.300
the town we left was outstanding. It was absolutely, the people were just wonderful and we hated to
00:38:28.800
leave, but we have to move on. And like, we're just hoping that we can find a place similar to the
00:38:33.520
one we just left. What's this town like? Pretty much the same. That's right. That's right. I actually
00:38:40.780
had a real world experience with that. And I moved and I had, when we, when we moved in,
00:38:46.000
I had somebody tell me, Hey, you know, you got to be careful around here. They don't like outsiders.
00:38:50.540
They don't like people coming in and buying up land or property and you're going to get ostracized. And
00:38:56.480
you know, people are going to kind of wonder about you and look at you a little weird. It may not be as,
00:39:02.720
as welcoming as you'd like. And I didn't experience any bit of that. Not a single bit of that.
00:39:09.160
I experienced hospitable, you know, hospitableness and, and, and, and people who are friendly and
00:39:14.680
people who are excited to have a new family there. And it's like, Hmm.
00:39:18.940
Because that's because of what you projected you and your family, they were, they were excited because
00:39:26.460
of y'all and that other person, that's how they roll. And they were describing his view of the
00:39:34.960
community. Now, bro, people treat you the way you treat yourself. And if they don't,
00:39:40.520
it's their problem. Not mine. Yeah. Yeah. I do want to ask maybe more of a sensitive subject along
00:39:48.060
those same lines with regards to even racism. You know, I, I, I, I obviously you and I, you know,
00:39:54.140
have a different experience with that. And I'm curious what your take is on that. When we hear so
00:39:58.220
much from mainstream media about racism and how it's more divided than it's ever been. And I don't
00:40:05.300
experience that, but I'm not on the different side of the table. I'm curious about what your
00:40:09.600
thought is when it comes to that. Uh, you sure you want to open up this door? I do. I want to open
00:40:16.080
the door. I want to talk about the real stuff. You got to remember I'm old as, and so I've been
00:40:23.340
through it, um, in extremes. I mean, I was a, uh, uh, adolescent in the sixties, the seventies,
00:40:32.820
the eighties, the nineties, I've seen a lot. And so I remember, and if you go, if you want to be
00:40:40.200
entertained, go check out my Ted talk. And I talked about, I remember, uh, being everyone recruits you,
00:40:48.480
you know, come on in here. And this is, this is how we see the world. And, you know, they recruit
00:40:53.800
you to, uh, their politics, to their way mindset, to the way of seeing other people. And they recruit
00:41:01.480
you to hate and, and, and, and, and prejudice. And they're always recruiting. Sure. I mean, I'm like,
00:41:08.040
I'm all in this to sixties and seventies and the hate that hate made. I could justify it.
00:41:14.080
Y'all don't don't like me. Hell, I don't like you. And I remember clearly and distinctly hating
00:41:19.720
white folks as best I could. And one day it dawned on me is too many damn white folks.
00:41:25.620
It's not enough hate to go around for all these white guys. I mean, the hate that hate made
00:41:30.560
consumes you. So if you hating black folks, you hate yourself. And so you have to help people
00:41:40.640
balance it out by beginning to understand that there's good people and there's people that ain't
00:41:46.700
so good everywhere you go. And at some point you better be clear about who you are and how you roll.
00:41:54.160
And if you, and if you really are serious about understanding, uh, how to value other people,
00:42:00.720
if you treat me the way you want to be treated, we straight. If you don't like me, I would don't give a
00:42:07.680
shit. You know, that's on you. And so that's where I, that's where I am in the world. And like,
00:42:16.000
if you want to roll with me, we cool. If you don't, I don't care. Cause it's your, it's your loss
00:42:24.500
not to know a brother like me. Oh, you, I ain't mad at you. Cause I got some folks over here. Just
00:42:30.900
where's he at? We want to meet him. You understand? And so the isms are just part of life.
00:42:38.600
See, I'm going to get in trouble. Look, I'm an equal opportunity. I'm going to tell, I'm going to
00:42:45.360
tell white folks what's wrong with them. I'm going to tell black folks what's wrong with them. And
00:42:48.840
it's going to be, Oh, this is what's wrong with people over and over and over and over and over
00:42:54.560
everywhere you go. The world is like that. Those who got want to keep those who ain't got want to
00:43:01.500
get it. Ain't that deep. I'm sorry, Ryan, open up a door. You body wants to think it is. If I ain't
00:43:11.020
got fool, I won't. If I got fool, I want to keep. And so there has to be a balancing act until you
00:43:19.940
teach white folks what's in it for them. They'll stay stuck. What do you mean by that? What's in
00:43:27.180
it for them? Explain that. I was a devout sexist. I worshiped at the altar. And until I could see what
00:43:39.780
was in it for me, why would I change? I had power and control. And until I could see it cost me,
00:43:49.020
until I could see that I'm missing out on something, until white folks begin to see they
00:43:54.400
missing out on something, that it costs them. Do you understand what the world is like today?
00:44:00.780
If you don't invest in your own poor and disenfranchised, there's other countries
00:44:05.680
ready to take over. If you really want to compete, it seemed to me you'd be invested in all the people
00:44:13.000
you have as your people, as Americans. But you get stuck in this media, pop culture nonsense,
00:44:23.260
and you get trapped into this old, ancient preoccupation with who's the best and who's,
00:44:30.160
man, please. Look, if you want to be rich, diversify. If you want to be that guy, be that
00:44:43.260
guy comfortable working with any and everybody. Ryan, you know I'm comfortable with the White House,
00:44:48.340
the Dope House. Bruh, I could have raised a gang of hillbillies back in the day and take over a county.
00:44:57.480
And how I learned to work with teams and groups was in my alcohol drug treatment program,
00:45:06.440
where 85% were Southern Appalachian region guys who didn't want to be there. They were sent by their
00:45:14.780
boss, they were sent by the court, or they were sent by their spouse. They were not happy campers.
00:45:21.300
So if I had 45 clients in my lecture, they were not happy. And boy, we had the time of our lives.
00:45:33.580
Because, and now here's his brother in front of him, who's got on a tie and got this master's degree
00:45:42.220
talking about this is what we're going to work on. It was not a good, good group dynamic.
00:45:48.760
However, I had the time of my life. We had such a great time in my lecture series.
00:45:57.820
These hillbillies would bring their cousins and their brothers and their kids over to my lecture
00:46:02.760
and say, you got to hear this boy. He crazy. You understand? Because I was not talking to them
00:46:11.180
like they were problem people. I was not afraid of them because of where they came from.
00:46:16.540
You understand? I didn't have the time for all that. I'm trying to get somebody to re-evaluate
00:46:21.900
their relationship with alcohol and drugs. So you can trip, dip, and slip. You can look at me
00:46:27.260
and judge me all you want. But my life is working, fool. Let me help you if you will allow me to.
00:46:36.360
And boy, this boy, all right. And so that prepared me to work with anybody.
00:46:42.680
So come work with our football team. I ain't 140 cats playing. I ain't play football. I ain't go to
00:46:50.820
the NFL. What am I going to bring you? But I ain't scared of you. If I ain't scared of these cats,
00:46:56.380
why would I be scared of you? That's an interesting way to look at it. You've worked with some of the
00:47:02.420
greatest athletes of all time. It's like, yeah, you probably got in their face and told them the
00:47:06.220
reality of the situation too. You know, what's a guy like me going to stand a chance against somebody
00:47:11.000
like, you know, Tom Brady or Michael Phelps, who's achieving at the highest pinnacle of their success?
00:47:17.620
Bruh, I love Michael Phelps. You know why? Michael Phelps was at, in my environment, because
00:47:24.820
we hired his coach. We don't know. He's, I mean, okay. He's working for Olympians. All right.
00:47:32.580
But we're not really thinking it through, right? So Bob Bowman, one of my favorite coaches of all time,
00:47:39.200
shows up at the university. And I'm the sport administrator for swimming, diving, and water polo.
00:47:49.100
So Bob Bowman turns out to be a coachable coach. I know it's an oxymoron,
00:47:54.220
but, but he's this guy who was hungry. Tell me what works, what doesn't work. Okay.
00:48:01.460
His, he brings Michael Phelps with him because they're still training. I'm like, oh, that's
00:48:08.060
Michael Phelps. That's cool. So now Michael Phelps is the volunteer assistant coach for our swim team.
00:48:15.020
Hmm. So I see him every day and we kicking it. Mike, Bob Bowman, the coach says, you know,
00:48:23.360
could you talk to Mike? Cause you know, right now he's going through some stuff. I say, if Mike wants
00:48:29.040
to talk to me, tell him that I, I I'm thrilled to chat with him, but only if he wants, I don't care
00:48:34.400
that you want me to talk to him, coach. If he don't want to talk to me, I don't want to talk to him.
00:48:40.820
So just tell him that, you know, the guy that worked with Tom Brady is fascinated and likes to spend
00:48:47.180
some time with you. You're all right. Here's the deal. I treated Michael Phelps. Like he was a human
00:49:00.840
You know, man, please sit down. What's going on? How you, how you doing?
00:49:06.920
He has a breath of fresh air for a guy like that.
00:49:14.720
What are these types of, uh, high performers? You talk about the, um, the fact that they look a
00:49:21.720
little different than a lot of people. And what are some of those attributes? What are some of
00:49:26.560
those characteristics and what ways do they look different than the guy who may, maybe just as
00:49:31.340
talented or maybe even more. So you take it that guy like Tom Brady and where are you, where he wound
00:49:36.660
up in the, in, in the overall draft. And, you know, look, look at the pictures. We've all seen
00:49:40.480
the draft pictures. Like that guy's nothing when it comes to this sport. And yet all of a sudden,
00:49:45.540
you know, we have the greatest football player of all time. I don't even think that's arguable at
00:49:49.760
this point. What makes a guy like that different?
00:49:53.340
Let's be real clear. And that's a great question. The difference between the guys, the peak performers
00:49:59.180
that, that are, we're talking about in the book and in the book, you'll be introduced to a wide
00:50:04.900
range of peak performers, not all superstars, not all professional athletes, but regular folk
00:50:11.560
who were able to, to harness the lessons that, that I'm teaching in this book, but the distinct
00:50:19.020
difference in, and you'll see it in chapter two, what makes them different? Not only were they hungry
00:50:26.720
and hungrier than most, and I'm talking about hungry. I'm talking about mad dog hungry. I'm talking
00:50:32.320
about burning a fire in your belly hungry. You understand? Not only were they hungry,
00:50:38.840
they were humble. Think about it. That's the, as soon as you hear hungry and humble, you say, oh,
00:50:46.720
you, you get it, right? As soon as I said it, you can say, whoa, humble, meaning that they were able
00:50:53.080
to surrender their ego long enough to be coachable. They were coachable. They were committed to
00:51:00.380
continuous improvement. They had that extra gear that they could tap into at any time and shift
00:51:07.720
their mind to go to another level. Those are the characteristics, hungry and humble, coachable,
00:51:15.860
committed to continuous improvement. And they had that extra gear. That's all in the book.
00:51:22.900
Do you think the, so I think, I think being, well, I question one, a couple of these, but I think being
00:51:30.280
humble and coachable and committed, I think are all learned attributes. I think those are very,
00:51:35.780
not easy, but I think those are very attainable through learning and making decisions. But what
00:51:40.900
about having the extra gear and also being hungry? That seems like it's more innate in somebody than
00:51:46.360
a learned skill, a developed skill. I'm sure it can be harnessed, but it seems like it's innate.
00:51:51.700
For many people it is, but it's not an either or. Yes, you're right. For many people it's innate.
00:52:01.580
For some people they have to develop it over time. And if a person is hungry and they want to be
00:52:08.700
hungrier and learn how to use that power, they're coachable. So I always say, I mean, there, there are
00:52:17.200
some champions that were born. We get it. But bruh, when you look at, look, look at your training.
00:52:25.920
There are some cats came in there and you're like, this, this guy never be a soldier. And he ended up
00:52:32.380
being one of the best you've ever seen. He trained for it. He surrendered his ego. He allowed
00:52:40.040
the brotherhood to transform. Am I making sense? Yeah. I'm processing that. You're talking about
00:52:47.840
being able to, yeah, allow these types of things to transform. That's humility, right? Allowing these
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things to transform you, allowing yourself to grow. I think this kind of ties back into what you were
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talking about with the four needs that we have, which was attention, affection, approval,
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and acceptance. Yes. I'd like to revisit that because I think initially when I was going through
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the book, I'm like, Oh, okay. Well, like those are all externals, right? Because you can't rely on
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anybody giving you attention. You can't rely on anybody giving you affection or approval or acceptance.
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And if you do, you're just setting yourself up for failure. People will give that to you, but if that's
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what you need to thrive, but then later in the book, you, you changed the game a little bit and you said
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self-attention, self-affection, self-approval and self-acceptance, uh, which made more sense and
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resonated with me more deeply. I'm like, Oh, okay. You need to create that for yourself.
00:53:42.340
Okay. But think about this. I have made a complete fool of myself. Pick one in the quest for
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attention. Okay. Okay. Pick two. Okay. All four. I've made a complete fool of myself
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through life, trying to achieve getting someone else's attention, affection, approval, or acceptance.
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I've also been a fantastic shaker and mover, craving attention, affection, approval, and acceptance.
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What we discover is that many people end up settling for attention and approval when what
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we really need, one is affection and acceptance. So as long as I'm looking outside of myself,
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this is a manly show, right? Yes, sir. So can I be candid and take risks? I would love nothing more
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than for you to be that. Ryan, did you hear about the guy that got an STD in his eye? No.
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You didn't? I mean, you, you didn't hear, hear about that? He was looking for love in all the wrong
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places. I'm sorry, man. I can't use that material anymore. You can use it here.
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Think about it. You, you got it. As soon as, as soon as you got the joke, you said,
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this idiot. Oh my God, that was so crazy. That makes sense. All we're talking about is stop
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looking for love in all the wrong places. I want your approval. I crave it, but I'm going to be okay
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if I don't get it. You've had friends. You've been a friend. You've been one of the best friends
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anybody could possibly have, except to yourself. Agreed. Agreed.
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Bruh, you've had friends that were the greatest person you could be around, but how they treated
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themselves saddened you. Am I right or wrong? Yeah, you're right. So what we're trying to do
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is simply open the door for you to consider the next level of self-awareness increases your ability
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to love yourself unconditionally and accept yourself as is. Accept yourself, flaws and all.
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That's a game changer. How do you reconcile that with, even if we're looking at,
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we're looking at it from the Christian perspective. Yes. Accept yourself, flaws and all. We know we're
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fallen, right? If we're going by the Christian doctrine, we know we're fallen. We know that we
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are to strive to repent and improve ourselves. So how do you do that and also fully accept
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the reality of your sin? Again, we're looking at it through the Christian lens.
00:56:35.960
Okay, let's stay with the Christian lens, because what's confusing for us is the whole concept of
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forgiveness. We know that we should forgive others, but we struggle mightily at forgiving
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ourselves for being flawed. If you want a breakthrough, you begin to not only increase your ability to
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forgive others, but you have to look in the mirror and let go. So when we talk about self-defeating
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attitudes and behaviors, we have to learn to let go of yesterday, brah. We got to let yesterday be what
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it was. P-A-S-T, previous action somewhere in time. We've got to let the past be exactly what it is,
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the past. We got to stop tripping, dipping, and slipping about the future. So we're talking about
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one is history and the other one is a mystery. So when we're talking about self-awareness
00:57:37.500
and mindfulness, we're talking about how do I embrace the here and now, the current truth of
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who I am and who I want to become. I have to let go of yesterday's baggage because you've got a 12-year-old
00:57:54.940
running your life, not you, you, but the universal you. Yes, you know what I'm saying? You got a 12-year-old
00:58:00.360
who's frustrated and angry and disappointed and broken and damaged by what someone else did
00:58:06.920
when they were 12. Now, I got a 40-year-old man with an adolescent running his life.
00:58:14.960
I got a 16-year-old treating women a certain way because of what happened to him when he was 16.
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Bruh, when you can learn to not just forgive others, but to forgive yourself for not being perfect,
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you just open up doors. That's just my opinion, which you asked for. I could be wrong.
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No, I value it. I don't know if you're wrong. I think too many of us haven't really tried it.
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Because it ain't easy. I have to pray. Not only do I pray at night to be forgiven,
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I had to pray to increase my ability to forgive myself because it's hard to forgive you. It's hard
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to forgive some folk. It's even harder to forgive yourself. Mick, you know, I ain't lying.
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No, I know you're right. I think where a lot of guys get hung up, I hear this quite often.
00:59:10.680
And it's this idea that self-attention, self-affection, self-approval, self-acceptance,
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they get hung up on this idea that it's selfish. Like I have to serve my wife. I have to serve my kids.
00:59:22.920
I have to serve my community. I have to serve my business. These are all things we talk about in
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the podcast and the movement here, which we should be doing. We should be striving for as men.
00:59:30.960
But if I take time for myself to accept myself or to love myself or approve of who I am,
00:59:39.980
Yeah. But what you understand different from them is that you just increase your ability to care,
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to give care, compassion, and concern to the people you love and to serve more efficiently
00:59:52.880
because now you have evolved and becoming a man of substance and a man who is grounded and a man who
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is capable of letting go of yesterday because love is in love till you give it away. And sometimes we're
01:00:07.060
so busy. We think that we loving somebody and all we're looking for is, okay, if I do this and I love
01:00:14.060
you this way, will you love me that way? No, I need to give because that's who I am. It's in my heart
01:00:19.980
and it's the right thing to do. And this is what I'm going to do to build my... See, if we're talking
01:00:25.660
about staying sane in an insane world, controlling the controllables, we're going to go to a space
01:00:33.400
where I am so invested in being the type of guy I'm capable of becoming, all of a sudden,
01:00:40.880
everybody benefits because I've shifted. I've changed. I've grown. I've evolved. And I'm capable
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of even more than I thought I was. That's where we're going, young blood. We're stacking the deck
01:00:55.480
in our favor because if I love my... The more I love myself, the more authentic my love for you will be.
01:01:01.720
I think that's well said. I think where a lot of guys get hung up is this... We talked about it
01:01:08.000
early in the conversation, this idea of false dichotomies. If I'm selfish, then I can't be
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selfless. If I'm selfless, which a lot of us have a desire to be, then I can't be selfish.
01:01:18.020
I can't take time for me. And that's a false choice.
01:01:20.940
Come on, man. Because you have to be selfish in the most positive sense of the word.
01:01:24.760
Let me tell you how I train high-performance pro athletes to understand why they shouldn't beat
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their wife. How I teach anybody in corporate or anybody else why they shouldn't beat their wife.
01:01:44.300
Selfish self-interest, idiot. It's in your own best self-interest to not indulge in what you may
01:01:52.760
have gotten honestly from your uncles, your cousins, your pals. And I ain't blaming you.
01:01:57.880
I'm saying that if you... I can't get a grown man to change his attitude about women.
01:02:06.640
if you want your life to work, you will eliminate some of these negatives. You ain't got to do it
01:02:15.080
because I think it's right and because the world think it's right, you better do...
01:02:18.500
If you don't even understand the proper selfish self-interest. So you can take selfish to another
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realm. But most importantly, to be that guy who understands
01:02:32.600
positive addiction. What's a positive addiction? Your workout.
01:02:38.300
So we have to be able to understand how words can be shaped in such a way that we can see a higher
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calling, even when we understand... When we use the word self, it's not always leaning towards selfish.
01:02:59.860
And if so, I need to turn the selfish into what will make me better.
01:03:04.220
I need to spend time with me. I need to take vacations. I need to be selfish enough to say,
01:03:11.880
I'm taking my wife, my kids on a vacation. And I'm going to cut all this nonsense over here loose.
01:03:18.960
I'll be back. Well, you're so selfish. That... I don't think so.
01:03:24.900
So you've got to... You got to be careful with these words. These words are
01:03:28.440
so dramatic. And we put so much drama around. And I need you to be so cool and so clear about who
01:03:36.000
you're trying to become. That when I say self-aware, when I say self-discipline, self-control,
01:03:45.940
self-mastery, I'm not talking about being selfish. I'm talking about being yourself,
01:03:53.260
your authentic self, a self that is trying to go to the next level of self-mastery. And everyone
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benefits as you grow and evolve. It's good stuff. It's really good stuff.
01:04:07.340
Greg, I appreciate you taking some time this morning and coming on the podcast. Can you let
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the guys know where to learn more about what you're doing? Obviously, you talk about where to pick up a
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copy of the book. They can all get a book, which I'd highly recommend, and then let them know where to
01:04:20.440
connect more with you. Look, I know I'm old school. I have a website.
01:04:31.180
And I mean, I have Twitter accounts and Instagram, and I rarely look at them. But I heard they're on
01:04:38.740
fire right now. But I have contact through my agent, my manager, Shane Salerno, who is the most amazing,
01:04:47.460
insane individual I've ever met in my life. And that's on gregharden.com. The book is available
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on Amazon. It's available at Barnes and Noble. It's available at Apple. It's all over the place.
01:05:01.820
And you can find this book in all kinds of stores. The independent bookstores are amazing.
01:05:09.160
And so in some of these joints, you can walk in and there it is. But right now,
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God has a sense of humor and has made me a New York Times bestselling author.
01:05:22.360
Yeah. What do you call it? There is so many different categories.
01:05:30.360
Yeah. Amazon, Wall Street Journal. Yeah. Wall Street Journal. I mean, it's unbelievable how hot
01:05:40.180
the book is right now and how many people are trying to get it to the people they care about
01:05:46.300
and the people they love. You talk about Christmas presents, make it easy on yourself. Get them a book.
01:05:55.560
Well, I can see why after going through the book and after talking with you, why that's the case.
01:06:00.660
Greg Harden, I appreciate you. Thanks for joining us. Thanks for imparting some of your wisdom.
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I've taken copious notes here that I'm going to share with some of the guys as well. So I appreciate it.
01:06:11.600
Well, thank you for the opportunity. I know your heart is in the right place, my brother.
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And people who are paying attention to you will understand where we're trying to go today with this podcast.
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All right, guys, there you go. My conversation with Greg Harden. I hope you enjoyed that one.
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His book. Got to read his book. Phenomenal, phenomenal information. Testimonials in there.
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Highlights some of the athletes that he's worked with, including Tom Brady and Desmond Howard and
01:06:39.720
Michael Phelps and others. And it's called Stay Sane in an Insane World. New York Times bestseller,
01:06:45.660
Wall Street bestseller, and the man's resume speaks for itself. So connect with Greg, connect with myself,
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