Order of Man - How to Communicate Like a Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 They say the tongue is sharper than the sword.

00:00:02.400 I agree with that, especially in modern times.

00:00:04.640 Our ability to communicate effectively

00:00:06.240 can spell the difference between success and failure

00:00:09.400 on the home front, professional front,

00:00:11.300 and in our own personal lives.

00:00:13.520 Thou shalt not claim that because a premise is popular,

00:00:16.080 therefore it must be true.

00:00:17.300 10 commandments of healthy dialogue and conversation.

00:00:21.420 And in the context of this discussion,

00:00:23.480 how a man converses successfully, responsibly,

00:00:27.980 and gets his point across.

00:00:31.000 You're a man of action.

00:00:32.780 You live life to the fullest.

00:00:34.240 Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:37.180 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time,

00:00:40.540 every time.

00:00:41.600 You are not easily deterred or defeated,

00:00:43.880 rugged, resilient, strong.

00:00:46.400 This is your life.

00:00:47.800 This is who you are.

00:00:49.200 This is who you will become.

00:00:51.000 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:53.960 you can call yourself a man.

00:00:56.920 Gentlemen, welcome to the Order of Man podcast.

00:00:59.060 My name is Ryan Mickler.

00:01:00.760 I'm your host and also the founder of this movement

00:01:02.880 to reclaim and restore masculinity called Order of Man.

00:01:07.160 Thank you for tuning in.

00:01:08.060 Thank you for joining with us.

00:01:09.200 I've got a very, very important conversation with you today.

00:01:12.800 We're going to be talking about how to converse like a man.

00:01:15.640 And I've got 10 points that I'm going to share with you that if you want to have any sort of respectful,

00:01:23.200 constructive, productive conversation with a loved one, a colleague, a client, a co-worker,

00:01:29.300 or even a random stranger on the interwebs, on social media,

00:01:34.160 these are the 10 rules that you must follow.

00:01:36.680 These are the 10 rules that other people must follow.

00:01:39.580 And I would suggest to you that if these 10 rules aren't followed by either you or the other party,

00:01:44.440 that you discontinue the conversation.

00:01:46.460 I believe fully and wholeheartedly that if we abuse these rules,

00:01:52.940 if we do the antithesis of these rules, that no good, no positive.

00:01:58.860 In fact, if anything, it's going to be worse off than having this constructive feedback and conversation.

00:02:06.500 It's going to end up in personal resentment, animosity, contention, and frustration.

00:02:13.120 So, we're going to get into that in just a minute.

00:02:15.720 Before I do, just want to mention really quickly a couple of things.

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00:03:44.300 All right, guys.

00:03:44.740 So you've got the hunter hat.

00:03:46.400 You've got Montana Knife Company.

00:03:48.060 Let's get into the discussion today.

00:03:50.080 These are 10 rules that every person must follow if you want to have a productive,

00:03:55.500 healthy dialogue and conversation.

00:03:57.140 I wish I could tell you where I learned these.

00:04:00.360 I can't remember if I did.

00:04:02.200 And you know, I'm happy to give credit where credit is due.

00:04:05.820 So please, if you know where these came from,

00:04:07.520 these are the 10 commandments of healthy dialogue and conversation.

00:04:11.420 And in the context of this discussion,

00:04:13.920 how a man converses successfully, responsibly, and gets his point across.

00:04:21.000 All right.

00:04:21.180 So number one, these come in the form of the 10 commandments.

00:04:23.500 So we'll start like that.

00:04:24.820 Number one is thou shalt not claim that because a premise is popular,

00:04:31.740 therefore it must be true.

00:04:35.320 Let me say that again.

00:04:36.700 Thou shalt not claim that because a premise is popular,

00:04:39.300 therefore it must be true.

00:04:40.620 You're going to hear this all the time.

00:04:42.120 We see it a lot on social media.

00:04:43.920 We see it with the talking heads of political pundits and everything else,

00:04:47.080 where people will say just because it happens to be popular,

00:04:51.580 that it is accurate, true, relevant, credible, and value-driven.

00:04:58.860 Well, that obviously isn't the case.

00:05:00.780 There's a term that I've dubbed called the doctrine of popular culture.

00:05:07.060 And what I've learned in my 43 years spending on this spinning rock

00:05:12.120 is that the doctrine of popular culture, meaning that most people,

00:05:17.680 pop culture in general, is typically wrong.

00:05:21.300 I know that sounds antithetical to what you might believe,

00:05:24.520 and there might be some things where it definitely applies.

00:05:27.120 But when we're talking about societal conditions, cultural beliefs,

00:05:34.340 that the doctrine of popular culture is often misguided, irrelevant, confused,

00:05:42.260 and maybe even malicious in its intent.

00:05:46.000 A great example of that is the transgender movement 0.69

00:05:49.120 that is becoming increasingly popular.

00:05:51.960 And just because more and more people are buying into this idea

00:05:55.060 that a boy can be a girl and a girl can be a boy,

00:05:58.180 that somehow it must be true because more and more people believe it.

00:06:02.380 I found the opposite to be true.

00:06:04.500 That the more people who believe in this nonsensical ideology,

00:06:10.540 the more that you can rest assured that it's probably not true.

00:06:15.380 Another great example of this is something that we've seen during COVID.

00:06:18.620 The popular narrative was that COVID wasn't due to a leak in Wuhan,

00:06:27.280 that we needed to do the 15 days to slow the spread,

00:06:32.320 that we needed to social distance six feet,

00:06:35.020 that we needed to wear masks.

00:06:36.580 And this is what so much of the populace believed and acted upon.

00:06:42.300 And now we're finding out in rational, logical, smart, intelligent people

00:06:47.140 pretty much had this pegged within about four or five days,

00:06:51.580 have been saying all along.

00:06:53.300 Now the experts, the quote-unquote experts are saying,

00:06:57.640 well, you know, the six feet distancing rule was arbitrary.

00:07:02.920 That comes from Fauci in his congressional discussions that he had.

00:07:11.680 This is relatively recently.

00:07:13.660 It also, with regards to the masks, like that wasn't effective.

00:07:20.120 We know that wasn't effective.

00:07:21.720 The people who had this right are the bros.

00:07:24.300 It's the bro science.

00:07:25.540 It's the guys who said, you know what?

00:07:28.040 Like, let's protect the people who are fat. 0.96

00:07:31.140 They're obese.

00:07:31.900 Maybe they have some other pre-existing conditions,

00:07:35.120 heart disease, other illnesses.

00:07:37.760 Let's protect our elderly. 0.97

00:07:40.360 And the rest of us, let's just go on ahead

00:07:43.260 like we were meant to go ahead doing.

00:07:47.120 You know, it's the Cuomos of the world who would say, for example,

00:07:52.520 when we need to protect people,

00:07:54.020 what we're going to take our elderly population,

00:07:56.120 and then we're going to go ahead and take those people

00:07:58.840 who have been diagnosed with COVID,

00:08:01.900 we're going to go ahead and put those people back into the rest homes 0.95

00:08:04.680 so they can go ahead and affect all of our other elderly individuals. 0.97

00:08:08.760 This stuff is ridiculous, okay? 0.82

00:08:11.760 When somebody appeals to the popular narrative, 1.00

00:08:15.680 you can have a healthy dose of skepticism because most people are dumb. 1.00

00:08:21.860 Most people are ignorant. 1.00

00:08:24.540 Most people are easily led by this, what I call the doctrine of popular culture. 0.98

00:08:32.200 So what I would say to you is question, look for evidence, be intelligent,

00:08:38.080 use your gut, use your intuition, use divine inspiration.

00:08:41.760 But if anybody ever comes to you and says, well, everybody else believes in whatever form that looks like,

00:08:48.280 you can rest assured that this is not something that you should take to heart.

00:08:51.860 Number two, thou shalt not assume, quote unquote,

00:08:56.280 this follows that when it has no logical conclusion.

00:09:01.380 We would call this a non sequitur.

00:09:05.800 A silly example might be something like, you know,

00:09:10.120 I need to make my bed today because apples are red. 0.96

00:09:15.340 Like, that's a silly example.

00:09:17.140 Obviously, it has no correlation whatsoever. 0.71

00:09:20.880 And yet we see this all the time.

00:09:23.860 That because something is true, then this obviously has to be true.

00:09:27.900 Well, as an intelligent, rational man, you have to be able to draw the logical conclusion to that scenario.

00:09:36.980 Is what somebody is saying, this is important because of X, Y, and Z.

00:09:42.160 Is that logical?

00:09:43.620 If it's not logical, then it's just not worth really taking into consideration.

00:09:50.640 It's called a non sequitur.

00:09:52.420 It has nothing to do with anything else.

00:09:54.860 You'll hear this a lot.

00:09:55.720 Like, for example, I've often heard that people will say things like,

00:09:59.420 and this is the common example, oranges are the best fruit out there.

00:10:05.220 Oranges are so good for your health.

00:10:06.920 And then somebody inevitably will come in and say, well, what about apples?

00:10:09.900 Why do you hate apples?

00:10:12.160 I don't hate apples.

00:10:13.660 I'm just saying oranges are really good for your health.

00:10:16.120 But this is portrayed by bad actors.

00:10:19.600 This is portrayed by people who want to appear smart, who really aren't.

00:10:23.520 This is portrayed by people who want to manipulate you into doing something that you shouldn't be doing.

00:10:30.080 And so you need to look for the difference between correlation and causation.

00:10:34.620 Just because I happen to be wearing, for example, an orange hat doesn't necessarily mean that I love the color orange.

00:10:44.220 It doesn't necessarily mean that I like oranges. 0.88

00:10:49.080 It's silly. 1.00

00:10:49.800 It sounds stupid. 0.99

00:10:50.620 But most of these things do when you really dive a little bit deeper and you ask yourself, 0.98

00:10:55.180 what does this person saying have to do with anything I believe?

00:11:00.960 This is the non sequitur I'm talking about.

00:11:03.960 So be smart.

00:11:05.100 Make sure that if you're going to make an appeal or a case or a suggestion that it actually has to do with something else.

00:11:13.440 Typically it doesn't and you'll begin, if you pay any amount of attention, you'll begin to see how many people employ this strategy as a way to, quote unquote, win the argument or appear smart.

00:11:25.580 Let's go to number three.

00:11:26.780 Number three is thou shalt not lay the burden of proof onto him that is questioning the claim.

00:11:36.340 So, for example, if somebody says to me, and I'm going to go back to the transgender issue, and this is something that's very important and something that I've been thinking a lot about lately, this transgender issue, because it's so prevalent and it's something that is discussed so much.

00:11:51.100 So oftentimes people will say, well, you know, you need to reaffirm, that's the language they use, reaffirm somebody's belief about who they are.

00:12:01.800 And this is what they'll say, this is the claim they'll make, this is healthcare, right?

00:12:08.200 We're going to reaffirm this person's belief in who they are.

00:12:13.440 Now, this is a claim some people will make.

00:12:15.380 And then I will say, for example, hey, you know what?

00:12:18.220 I don't think it's healthy to, use your language, reaffirm somebody's misguided, delusional idea that they are a boy when in fact they're a girl,

00:12:30.320 or they're a girl when in fact they're a boy.

00:12:32.580 And then the person who makes the original claim will say, well, show me your proof.

00:12:36.940 That isn't how this works.

00:12:38.880 You're the one who made the claim.

00:12:40.660 So you show me your proof.

00:12:44.420 You show me, since you're making the claim, you're making this bold assertion that transitioning our sons and daughters into the opposite sex, 0.74

00:12:55.860 you can't do that.

00:12:56.600 So I'm using these quotations here, if you're watching on YouTube, it's on you.

00:13:01.540 The burden is on you to prove to me that that is actually a healthy thing for that individual.

00:13:07.700 I don't need to prove anything.

00:13:09.120 I didn't make the initial claim.

00:13:10.900 You made the claim.

00:13:12.600 So guys, if you're going to make a claim, then please understand.

00:13:16.460 And I learned this.

00:13:17.240 I haven't always been great at this, by the way.

00:13:19.240 And all of these things I'm not great at.

00:13:21.400 I'm learning these things.

00:13:22.500 I'm learning to become a better communicator.

00:13:25.440 I'm learning to articulate my thoughts and ideas.

00:13:28.060 I'm learning to back these ideas up even more than I have in the past.

00:13:31.380 So I'm telling you, I'm not great at this stuff.

00:13:33.440 And this is why this is good for me.

00:13:35.200 But I learned this quickly when I started writing a book.

00:13:38.780 Now, I had a publisher on my second book called The Masculinity Manifesto.

00:13:44.120 And I would make claims and they came back in the documents and they would say,

00:13:48.820 okay, you made this claim, prove it.

00:13:51.440 Now, full disclosure, some things I could prove through readily available information

00:13:56.100 and other things I really struggled with proving that the claim I was making was actually true and relevant.

00:14:02.480 But that's on me.

00:14:04.660 That wouldn't be on the reader to either prove or disprove what I'm saying is true.

00:14:09.440 If I'm going to make a bold assertion that I need to be able to back it up with evidence.

00:14:13.380 And if you can't back it up with evidence, then maybe we oughtn't be flapping our gums.

00:14:20.460 Or we shouldn't get upset when somebody says, hey, like you said this thing, show me.

00:14:26.780 We see that a lot in politics.

00:14:29.640 You know, we can experts say is the common phrase.

00:14:33.180 Well, experts say, well, which experts?

00:14:35.580 Oh, how dare you question me?

00:14:38.120 Well, of course I'm questioning you.

00:14:39.480 You're making this claim about transgenderism or you're making this claim about economic principles

00:14:46.820 or this trickle-down economy or you're making this claim that most people don't necessarily agree with.

00:14:54.700 So show me.

00:14:57.040 And the people making these claims will often say, I can't.

00:14:59.520 How dare you?

00:15:00.360 How dare you question the science?

00:15:02.180 Fauci will say this.

00:15:03.100 Questioning me, and I'm using quotations here.

00:15:06.180 Fauci will say this.

00:15:07.320 Questioning me is questioning science. 1.00

00:15:10.180 No, asshole. 1.00

00:15:11.540 I'm questioning you. 1.00

00:15:14.900 I'm questioning your interpretation of science.

00:15:20.000 I'm questioning your motives and your intentions.

00:15:24.340 I'm not questioning science as a concept.

00:15:29.800 I'm questioning you and your interpretation of science.

00:15:34.520 How dare you?

00:15:36.040 Well, right.

00:15:37.900 That's what we ought to be doing.

00:15:39.700 And then he, Fauci in this case, ought to back it up.

00:15:43.620 Show me.

00:15:44.440 Prove to me that the claim you're making is true.

00:15:47.060 If you're telling me that we need to do six feet of distancing, show me.

00:15:51.880 Show me the evidence.

00:15:53.060 Well, show me that it isn't true.

00:15:55.020 No, that's not how it works.

00:15:57.100 You made the claim.

00:15:58.620 You're trying to impact other people's lives.

00:16:00.920 So you show me why that actually is relevant and accurate.

00:16:05.820 All right.

00:16:06.060 I think you get the point.

00:16:06.840 Getting on a soapbox a little bit here.

00:16:08.400 Let's go to number four.

00:16:09.320 Number four is thou shall not argue because of ignorance.

00:16:14.140 The claim must be true or false.

00:16:18.180 So for example, I don't know any different.

00:16:20.860 Therefore, it must be true.

00:16:23.060 Right.

00:16:23.360 So if I say to you, hey, an individual is supposed to have one gram of protein per desired body

00:16:34.060 weight per day and somebody else says, well, I don't know if that's true, so I don't agree

00:16:40.000 with it.

00:16:40.820 That's not intelligent.

00:16:43.100 Okay.

00:16:43.780 Ignorance is not an excuse.

00:16:46.640 And I'm ignorant about all sorts of things. 0.99

00:16:48.860 And so are you. 0.93

00:16:49.820 But I think as men, if we're going to be ignorant about certain things, then we ought to flap

00:16:54.640 our gums about things we know nothing about.

00:16:58.640 On a personal level, I get this all the time.

00:17:01.180 It's crazy to me.

00:17:02.320 People have such a vested interest in my life and they will ask me about my divorce.

00:17:07.860 They'll ask me about my custodial arrangement with my ex-wife and my children.

00:17:13.140 And they'll make these bold assumptions and assertions and they don't know anything.

00:17:18.960 And so what they do is they assume the worst.

00:17:22.300 I've had dozens and dozens of people, for example, say, oh, Ryan, I can't believe you'd

00:17:27.540 move away from your kids.

00:17:28.520 Your kids need you now more than ever. 1.00

00:17:30.160 Well, number one, they're ignorant. 0.99

00:17:31.360 And number two, like they're just making an assumption that is entirely inaccurate. 0.99

00:17:39.200 I live two miles away from my ex-wife.

00:17:42.180 I see my kids just about every single day.

00:17:45.900 I have conversations and discussions and texts and phone calls with my kids.

00:17:50.540 But if you make the assumption out of ignorance that you know anything about my circumstance, 1.00

00:17:56.200 you're going to sound pretty stupid. 1.00

00:17:57.980 So guys, we can't operate from a level of ignorance. 1.00

00:18:04.340 If you don't know what you're talking about, that's okay.

00:18:08.740 There's an infinite number of things and skills and hobbies and interests and activities and

00:18:16.180 places and geography and geopolitical conflict.

00:18:19.600 I have no idea about, zero idea about.

00:18:23.540 In fact, I don't even care about most of it.

00:18:25.440 But I try not to flap my gums at those things when I know nothing about it. 0.99

00:18:34.940 If you're ignorant, it's okay. 0.99

00:18:37.280 Just don't pretend like you know. 0.98

00:18:40.960 And if you are going to make comments and suggestions and share ideas and concepts,

00:18:47.980 then have some information.

00:18:50.520 Know where you're coming from.

00:18:52.320 Guys do this a lot.

00:18:53.340 Like, you'll see these fight videos and people will get into fights and get themselves into

00:18:58.900 compromising situations. 1.00

00:19:00.400 And guys will come in and like, oh, I'd kick his ass. 1.00

00:19:02.960 Really? 1.00

00:19:04.040 Why do you believe that?

00:19:05.420 Just because I would.

00:19:07.280 Do you have any training in fighting?

00:19:09.300 No, but I don't need it.

00:19:10.820 I'm a man. 1.00

00:19:11.640 Okay, you're ignorant. 1.00

00:19:12.780 You're stupid. 1.00

00:19:14.360 You're being dumb. 1.00

00:19:16.160 And that's likely to get you in a whole heap of trouble if you ever find yourself in a 1.00

00:19:21.860 compromising situation.

00:19:23.980 Your ego, as the phrase goes, is writing checks that you can't cash.

00:19:31.380 So be smart.

00:19:32.580 Be intelligent.

00:19:33.220 If you have something to say and it's intelligent, share it.

00:19:35.540 If you don't, keep your mouth closed.

00:19:38.420 Again, I'm not pointing fingers at you as much as I'm pointing fingers at myself.

00:19:42.240 All right, let's go to number five.

00:19:43.540 Thou shall not claim that because something occurred before, that it must be the cause.

00:19:50.580 So we see this a lot.

00:19:52.260 You know, and I saw this a lot in my financial planning industry.

00:19:55.000 When I was a financial advisor in another life, one of the phrases that you often hear

00:19:59.540 with financial advisors is as a disclaimer that we'd have to share with our clients is

00:20:04.540 that past performance does not predict future results.

00:20:10.540 Past performance does not predict future results.

00:20:13.160 Now, there are some areas where I think you can probably make some assumptions based on

00:20:17.760 the way, for example, a person shows up.

00:20:20.680 You know, if a person shows up as a loser and a lazy individual and somebody who can't

00:20:25.740 complete assignments and somebody who takes advantages of others, yeah, maybe you can make

00:20:31.040 the assumption that this wouldn't be a good employee to hire, right?

00:20:34.300 But we can't just assume that because something happened in the past that it's inevitably going

00:20:38.820 to happen again.

00:20:39.800 We don't know.

00:20:41.200 We need to look at the litany of variables and questionable scenarios and situations and

00:20:51.000 circumstances that we see.

00:20:52.520 Guys, don't just believe that just because something happened before that it's going to

00:20:57.160 happen again.

00:20:57.940 It might have been a fluke.

00:21:01.680 Somebody might have got lucky.

00:21:04.180 Somebody might have been at the right place at the right time and like, okay, well, that's

00:21:09.180 great and that's wonderful for them.

00:21:11.460 But don't believe that just because somebody was in the right place at the right time that

00:21:15.380 they're inevitably going to be right for the rest of their lives.

00:21:18.760 You start doing that, you're going to make decisions based on faulty data.

00:21:22.520 All right, let's move into number six.

00:21:26.480 Thou shall not reduce the argument down to two possibilities.

00:21:31.600 This is what we would call a false dichotomy.

00:21:36.120 Many times I met with, here's the false dichotomy I hear more than anything else.

00:21:42.380 It's very similar.

00:21:44.060 I hear it every single day and guys will say something like this.

00:21:48.760 Hey, Ryan, I've got a job and I'm making good money, but I'm not really satisfied with

00:21:56.460 where I'm at right now.

00:21:58.020 But I have a job offer where there's a lot of upward mobility and trajectory.

00:22:02.600 I think I'd be more happy and fulfilled with my life, but I'm not going to make as much

00:22:08.080 money as I did before.

00:22:10.980 So what should I do?

00:22:12.220 Or another example is I have this great job where I'm working right now.

00:22:16.500 I love what I do.

00:22:18.000 I'm here with my kids, but I'm not making great money and I can't make ends meet.

00:22:22.860 But I've got another job which will pay me all sorts of money, all the money that I want,

00:22:26.660 but I'll be away from my kids four to five days a week.

00:22:29.460 What should I do?

00:22:31.540 These are false dichotomies.

00:22:34.260 In both scenarios, you believe that either you have to chase, again, in this example,

00:22:40.220 either money or life fulfillment.

00:22:45.160 If I keep this job, I'm going to be filled, but I'm not going to make any money.

00:22:49.060 Or the other example is if I take that job, I'm going to make a bunch of money,

00:22:53.180 but I'm not going to be fulfilled and happy and see my kids.

00:22:56.240 That's a false dichotomy.

00:22:57.980 We're not going to reduce this down to its simplest version.

00:23:01.280 We're not going to reduce this down to two options.

00:23:03.760 If you believe there's only two options in your life, you have to pick one or the other.

00:23:08.560 There's nothing else that could possibly exist.

00:23:11.000 But I'm here to tell you that there are an infinite number of answers to most of your problems.

00:23:17.820 For example, to go back to what we shared earlier,

00:23:20.560 what if you could find a really rewarding, profitable, fulfilling, meaningful, and significant

00:23:28.140 job where you are, but still have the opportunity to see your kids every night 0.99

00:23:33.280 and to be home and to engage with your wife and have sex with her every night 0.99

00:23:37.640 and play with your kids and be the kind of father that you want to be. 1.00

00:23:41.760 Wouldn't that be amazing?

00:23:42.860 Well, guys, it exists.

00:23:45.660 It absolutely exists.

00:23:47.760 I'm living it.

00:23:50.400 We have this organization called Order of Man.

00:23:53.000 Now, I travel a little bit because I like to travel.

00:23:55.860 I like to hunt.

00:23:56.960 I like to go see people.

00:23:58.140 I like to go to events and conferences and learn new things.

00:24:01.520 And I also really like spending time with my kids.

00:24:07.560 I really like spending time with my girlfriend.

00:24:13.800 I enjoy these things.

00:24:15.860 And I want to create a life where I can have it all.

00:24:19.920 And you can, if you believe that you can.

00:24:24.820 But if you reduce it down to two choices, that it has to be this or that,

00:24:29.260 then you're going to choose one of those options.

00:24:31.840 And inevitably, by choosing one of those options,

00:24:34.920 you are making a sacrifice of something that matters to you.

00:24:40.040 Fulfillment on one hand, time with your family on the other.

00:24:44.920 Which are you willing to sacrifice?

00:24:46.920 What if I told you you didn't have to sacrifice either?

00:24:50.380 And that's what you can have when you start looking for other options

00:24:54.660 that are available in your life.

00:24:56.520 All right, let's go to number seven, I believe I'm on.

00:24:59.440 So this one is,

00:25:00.600 thou shall not argue thy position by assuming one of its premises is true.

00:25:04.740 I would say that this is the game, two truths and a lie.

00:25:08.680 When people are lying to you,

00:25:10.760 they're often going to sprinkle truth in there.

00:25:14.040 Because if they were just blatantly lying and none of it was accurate,

00:25:18.500 then you'd be able to see through it very, very quickly.

00:25:22.240 So individuals who are somewhat intelligent and self-preserving

00:25:27.820 are going to be able to manipulate others by telling them a lie

00:25:32.820 with sprinkling some truth in there.

00:25:36.180 So again, the thing is,

00:25:37.700 thou shalt not position by assuming that one of its premises is true,

00:25:42.920 even though the others are false.

00:25:45.760 You need to understand that just because some element of it might be true

00:25:52.780 doesn't mean the entirety of the message is true.

00:25:55.300 So for example, if you suspect your wife of stepping out on you,

00:26:03.320 she might say, well, you know, it doesn't mean anything.

00:26:07.200 We're just really good friends.

00:26:08.540 Well, that might be true, but they also might be sleeping together.

00:26:14.120 And that's what people will do.

00:26:16.520 They'll sprinkle a little bit of truth.

00:26:19.120 You'll see this a lot in politics.

00:26:20.480 Start evaluating political messages,

00:26:24.200 whether it's on the conservative or liberal side of the equation.

00:26:28.200 Start evaluating political messages and ask yourself,

00:26:30.940 is the entirety of this message true or is just part of it true?

00:26:35.900 We see this a lot in congressional spending.

00:26:40.720 They'll earmark certain things,

00:26:42.760 or they'll add this extra little bill

00:26:47.480 or a little spending measure inside of a bill that is nonpartisan.

00:26:54.380 You know, you could have 60, 70, 80% of our elected officials

00:27:00.400 agree on something.

00:27:03.060 And so you think, well, this has got to be really good.

00:27:04.880 And then you look a little deeper

00:27:06.180 and there's just a little bit of pork added to it. 0.96

00:27:09.300 A little bit of nonsense, to put it mildly. 1.00

00:27:12.200 A little bit of bullshit in there. 1.00

00:27:15.560 That's the game. 1.00

00:27:17.840 If somebody was blatantly lying to you,

00:27:20.300 you would acknowledge it very quickly.

00:27:21.900 And so we can't assume that just because

00:27:25.060 one element of the thing is true

00:27:28.120 or two out of the three are true,

00:27:29.780 that the entirety of the message is true.

00:27:31.680 And we have to be able to, as men,

00:27:33.520 exercise some discernment.

00:27:35.180 Well, yes, what you just said right there

00:27:38.040 about you guys being friends, that is true.

00:27:40.300 I can see how that is true, 1.00

00:27:41.640 but also you're fucking. 0.99

00:27:42.960 Okay, like that's kind of a critical part of the equation. 0.99

00:27:52.160 You guys might be friends,

00:27:53.880 but you're also sleeping together on the weekend.

00:27:55.980 I think that's kind of important to know.

00:28:00.260 The fact that you guys are friends,

00:28:01.900 that really isn't as relevant to me

00:28:03.800 as the fact that you're sleeping with somebody else.

00:28:07.480 Very important to know.

00:28:08.620 So be smart when you hear people try to manipulate you

00:28:16.020 by being truthful in one aspect

00:28:19.040 so that they can conflate that

00:28:21.920 with the falsities and the lies

00:28:23.200 that they're trying to tell you.

00:28:24.680 Number eight, we'll go to number eight here.

00:28:26.400 Thou shalt not use small numbers to represent the whole.

00:28:32.760 This ties closely with anecdotal evidence.

00:28:36.460 To go back to the transgender issue, 0.99

00:28:39.680 people might say,

00:28:41.240 well, Ryan, have you ever spent any time

00:28:42.920 with a transgender person?

00:28:45.240 My sister or my brother is a transgender person.

00:28:48.620 He or her, they are the most amazing person

00:28:52.360 that you'll ever meet.

00:28:53.220 Okay, and what does that have to do with the argument?

00:29:04.320 I believe that you believe that person

00:29:06.460 is the best person that you've ever met,

00:29:08.480 but that's a small sample of what is actually happening.

00:29:13.640 That is not the entirety.

00:29:15.400 I mean, we see this in polls all the time

00:29:17.040 when we talk about politics.

00:29:18.420 You know, you can manipulate polls very easily.

00:29:21.020 And this is why there are so many polls

00:29:23.100 and this is why so many people believe certain polls

00:29:25.920 and don't believe others.

00:29:28.840 If I choose 10 people today to talk with

00:29:33.100 about who they're going to vote for,

00:29:35.420 I would be willing to bet that of my circle,

00:29:38.180 I could probably find eight to nine to 10 people

00:29:41.280 who are voting for Trump.

00:29:43.280 Does that represent the whole?

00:29:45.780 No, of course not.

00:29:46.760 It's such a small biased sample

00:29:49.640 that it has no relevancy in the greater scheme of things.

00:29:53.520 If on the other hand, I go out and I ask a thousand people,

00:29:56.760 not just in my inner circle,

00:29:58.240 but outside of my circle, in other areas,

00:30:01.360 in other states, other political affiliations,

00:30:04.420 I'm probably going to get closer to an accurate answer

00:30:08.100 than just asking 10 family members.

00:30:10.580 Of course, my 10 family members are going to say

00:30:13.080 they're voting for Trump.

00:30:14.400 Of course they are.

00:30:16.460 Because I probably, frankly,

00:30:18.360 wouldn't be spending much time with those individuals

00:30:20.460 if that wasn't the case.

00:30:21.880 And you could make the same argument

00:30:23.400 about voting for Biden.

00:30:26.200 You know, if you're listening to this podcast

00:30:27.600 and you're voting for Biden,

00:30:29.240 the odds of you having people in your circle

00:30:32.060 who vote for Biden

00:30:33.180 are significantly greater

00:30:34.760 than the odds of you having people in your circle

00:30:36.620 who are going to vote for Trump.

00:30:37.660 You've got to play the numbers game.

00:30:42.840 And some people will manipulate numbers

00:30:45.140 and they'll use anecdotal evidence

00:30:47.480 to make their case.

00:30:51.020 Oh, Ryan, have you ever met this kind? 0.60

00:30:54.840 Have you ever met a gay person?

00:30:56.140 I have a sister who, 0.96

00:30:57.580 I don't care about your sister.

00:31:01.540 Except in the context of the grand scheme of things.

00:31:07.660 You know, another one is,

00:31:10.400 well, to go back to Biden.

00:31:12.200 You know, a lot of people will say,

00:31:13.700 you know, Biden's 80, whatever he is,

00:31:16.460 83 years old.

00:31:17.300 I don't even know how old he is.

00:31:18.280 But let's say he's 83 years old.

00:31:19.520 I could be slightly off, give or take.

00:31:21.020 But let's say he's 83 years old.

00:31:22.180 And people say,

00:31:22.800 well, how could you question his age?

00:31:26.640 I know all sorts of people.

00:31:28.180 My grandma's 97 and she's sharp as a tack. 1.00

00:31:31.300 I don't fucking care about your grandma. 0.99

00:31:35.400 I'm glad that she's 97 years old 0.99

00:31:38.320 and she's sharp as a tack,

00:31:39.740 but we're not talking about Graham over here.

00:31:42.160 We're talking about Biden.

00:31:45.760 So I don't really care about your anecdotal evidence.

00:31:49.140 I don't really care that your grandma is amazing

00:31:52.060 and she's 97 years old.

00:31:53.720 Good on her.

00:31:54.740 What does that have to do

00:31:55.800 with the conversation we're having over here?

00:31:57.600 All right, let's go to number nine.

00:32:01.400 Thou shall not misrepresent

00:32:02.900 or exaggerate a person's argument

00:32:04.880 in order to make them easier to attack.

00:32:07.060 This is classic.

00:32:08.140 We know this as a straw man argument.

00:32:10.320 Guys, you're not going to straw man.

00:32:12.960 You're not going to manipulate.

00:32:14.840 You're not going to misinterpret. 0.97

00:32:16.420 You're not going to play dumb. 0.69

00:32:18.360 People do this on social media all the time. 0.54

00:32:21.760 A guy, for example, the other day on social media,

00:32:25.000 he was using the term my truth.

00:32:27.680 And I said, there's no my truth.

00:32:29.420 I made this as comment.

00:32:30.380 There's no my truth.

00:32:31.880 There's the truth.

00:32:33.040 And there's a lie or a falsity,

00:32:35.300 but there's no my truth.

00:32:38.460 And they said, well, my truth is how I experience life.

00:32:41.120 And I'm like, that's great.

00:32:42.140 Then that's how you experience life,

00:32:43.760 but that's not my truth.

00:32:45.980 And then he wrote back, well, who are you?

00:32:48.760 Who are you to tell other people

00:32:51.320 what language they should use?

00:32:54.420 I'm not telling you what language to use.

00:32:56.780 I'm sharing a perspective.

00:32:58.360 I'm sharing an opinion. 1.00

00:33:01.060 And you're deliberately playing dumb 0.99

00:33:04.260 in order to make your point. 0.99

00:33:07.480 Like, do you honestly believe that I think

00:33:10.700 that I speak on behalf of everybody

00:33:12.660 and that I'm the supreme ruler of the world?

00:33:15.420 Of course I'm not.

00:33:16.520 I'm just articulating an opinion. 0.99

00:33:20.000 But so many people on social media play dumb 0.99

00:33:23.400 to appear smart, 0.99

00:33:26.660 to pretend as if they don't know

00:33:28.640 what you're talking about,

00:33:29.720 to misrepresent your argument

00:33:31.320 so they can confirm

00:33:32.360 they're already previously held bias. 0.99

00:33:35.400 You sound ridiculous when you do that. 0.84

00:33:38.060 Don't do that. 0.98

00:33:38.760 If somebody's making a point

00:33:41.620 and it's a valid point,

00:33:42.820 acknowledge that it's a valid point.

00:33:44.180 I mean, I've gotten to a lot of debates

00:33:45.540 specifically on social media

00:33:46.940 where somebody has said something.

00:33:48.120 I'm like, yeah, I agree with about 90% of that.

00:33:50.840 The other 10% I don't agree with.

00:33:52.660 That goes back to number seven,

00:33:55.820 argue a position assuming one of its premises is true.

00:33:59.920 Like I can take a statement

00:34:01.580 and I can say, well, I believe in some of that

00:34:03.640 and I agree with some of what you're saying

00:34:05.060 and I don't agree with 20% of what you're saying.

00:34:07.720 And that's the mark, I think,

00:34:09.140 of an intelligent person

00:34:10.240 or at least an honest person.

00:34:13.660 Maybe not even intelligent, honest.

00:34:17.620 Like how often have you been so frustrated

00:34:19.980 or emotionally charged

00:34:21.000 that you won't even agree with somebody

00:34:22.640 even though you know they're right?

00:34:24.420 At least part of what they're saying is accurate.

00:34:26.560 Well, just acknowledge it.

00:34:27.380 It's fine.

00:34:29.300 Hey man, you made a really good point here,

00:34:30.900 but this other point, nah, you're off on that.

00:34:33.540 And here's why.

00:34:34.100 And let me share with you why that's the case.

00:34:38.660 I think it's really, really important

00:34:40.860 for civil discourse

00:34:42.560 not to engage in straw man arguments. 1.00

00:34:44.940 First of all, you sound dumb. 1.00

00:34:47.520 Okay, you're not an idiot. 1.00

00:34:49.180 I remember years ago, 0.99

00:34:50.680 I had this guy who's very closely tied

00:34:52.760 with our organization

00:34:53.600 and very closely tied with the Iron Council.

00:34:55.940 And he started making statements

00:34:57.400 on my social media account.

00:34:58.740 I knew this guy was smarter

00:34:59.920 than he was pretending to be.

00:35:01.240 And I finally said, 0.99

00:35:03.340 dude, why are you playing dumb? 0.99

00:35:06.960 Like, why are you pretending 1.00

00:35:08.340 you don't understand things?

00:35:11.040 Why are you pretending

00:35:12.180 that you don't understand

00:35:14.660 the meaning of words

00:35:15.940 that are well-defined?

00:35:17.840 And he got very offended. 0.98

00:35:20.380 You're calling me dumb? 0.94

00:35:21.780 Like, no, I actually think 0.95

00:35:22.780 you're fairly intelligent,

00:35:23.820 which is why I'm so confused 1.00

00:35:24.960 because you're playing dumb. 1.00

00:35:27.180 You're acting like an idiot. 1.00

00:35:29.820 So please help me understand 1.00

00:35:31.880 why you're doing that

00:35:33.280 because I know you know better.

00:35:34.680 You've seen it all the time.

00:35:37.360 Guys will deliberately,

00:35:38.560 like, misinterpret your words.

00:35:41.640 They'll take them out of context.

00:35:43.960 They'll manipulate them

00:35:45.400 and tweak them

00:35:46.060 to mean something entirely different

00:35:47.940 than what you're saying.

00:35:48.900 They'll argue positions

00:35:49.900 you're not even making.

00:35:52.140 These are called straw man arguments.

00:35:54.120 Smart people, rational people,

00:35:57.000 honest people

00:35:57.780 who actually want to have civil discourse,

00:36:00.140 they won't do that.

00:36:01.660 They'll say, hey, you know what?

00:36:02.640 I think this is what you're saying.

00:36:04.300 Is that accurate?

00:36:05.080 Okay, I believe that

00:36:05.900 or I don't believe that

00:36:06.800 or I agree with 10% of that

00:36:08.180 and the 90% I don't 0.93

00:36:09.260 or vice versa.

00:36:10.260 That's what smart,

00:36:11.200 intelligent people do.

00:36:13.360 And it makes us as men

00:36:15.160 look more credible.

00:36:19.020 Like, isn't that a credibility

00:36:20.480 building exercise

00:36:21.460 when you are in an argument

00:36:23.140 and some people are observing

00:36:24.180 and you're like, hey man,

00:36:25.020 like, that's a valid point.

00:36:26.500 Never really considered that before.

00:36:28.560 Does that undermine you?

00:36:32.640 In other people's eyes

00:36:33.920 or do they look at that

00:36:34.700 and say, oh wow,

00:36:36.560 man, Steve was really open

00:36:37.740 to a new concept

00:36:38.480 he hasn't considered before.

00:36:39.840 Like, it doesn't undermine

00:36:40.840 what you're doing

00:36:41.560 but that's your ego talking.

00:36:43.560 All right, let's get

00:36:44.040 to the last one here, guys.

00:36:45.080 The last one here is

00:36:46.120 thou shall not attack

00:36:47.620 a person's character

00:36:48.540 but the argument.

00:36:49.800 This is called

00:36:50.240 an ad hominem attack.

00:36:53.120 We see this all the time, right?

00:36:55.640 When somebody no longer

00:36:58.200 has a valid case

00:37:00.500 or argument to make,

00:37:01.980 they will say, 1.00

00:37:04.040 you're an idiot. 1.00

00:37:05.300 You're stupid. 1.00

00:37:06.200 What do you know? 1.00

00:37:07.200 Oh, you're bad. 0.98

00:37:08.180 You're this. 0.99

00:37:08.760 You're that.

00:37:10.180 And they start resorting

00:37:11.400 to personal attacks

00:37:12.620 that have nothing to do

00:37:14.160 with the actual argument.

00:37:18.520 I had somebody called me,

00:37:20.680 what did they call me?

00:37:21.440 Like a ranger

00:37:22.200 a ranger or something

00:37:23.680 like, okay, ranger

00:37:25.500 or something like that.

00:37:26.980 I'm like,

00:37:27.240 what does that even mean?

00:37:28.160 So I looked it up

00:37:28.820 because I was confused

00:37:29.680 on what it meant.

00:37:31.880 It's, you guys will maybe

00:37:34.380 know what this is.

00:37:35.160 Maybe I'm just like

00:37:35.920 completely out of the loop here.

00:37:37.060 They called me like a ranger

00:37:38.140 or a ranga or something.

00:37:39.760 I'm like, what is this?

00:37:40.300 So I looked it up

00:37:41.280 and it said that it was

00:37:45.040 short for a orangutan

00:37:46.760 but it's meant to

00:37:48.540 be a derogatory term

00:37:52.140 towards somebody

00:37:52.780 who has red hair.

00:37:54.740 Like, that's their argument.

00:37:57.440 They made a comment.

00:37:59.040 I said something back

00:38:00.200 and they called me

00:38:01.560 something short

00:38:02.800 for a orangutan.

00:38:04.680 Real intelligent.

00:38:06.240 Like very smart stuff here.

00:38:08.160 These are high IQ people.

00:38:10.580 This definitely facilitates

00:38:12.260 healthy discussion and dialogue.

00:38:14.440 It's funny.

00:38:15.820 I mean, I can appreciate

00:38:16.680 the humor in it

00:38:17.500 and I've often referred

00:38:18.580 to myself as an orangutan

00:38:20.180 and I'm not offended

00:38:21.780 that somebody else

00:38:22.520 would say that. 1.00

00:38:23.280 It just sounds stupid. 1.00

00:38:25.560 Like, make the actual case. 1.00

00:38:30.360 You're literally insulting me

00:38:32.660 on immutable characteristics. 0.96

00:38:34.800 It's silly. 0.84

00:38:36.140 It's wild. 0.92

00:38:37.300 It's, at this point,

00:38:38.780 it's just comical.

00:38:40.920 Because when you resort 1.00

00:38:42.240 to saying, you're dumb. 1.00

00:38:44.540 You're an idiot. 1.00

00:38:45.940 You're an orangutan. 1.00

00:38:48.280 Like, you just sound foolish. 1.00

00:38:52.280 You don't sound intelligent. 1.00

00:38:54.660 You're surely not making

00:38:56.100 your own case.

00:38:57.100 You're not convincing

00:38:58.280 anybody else. 1.00

00:39:00.340 And you sound ridiculous. 1.00

00:39:02.720 So when we're debating 0.99

00:39:06.520 really important discussions,

00:39:08.280 I don't think we,

00:39:09.540 and look, I'm guilty of it.

00:39:10.720 I'm not saying that I'm free

00:39:11.940 of not doing this.

00:39:13.320 I am.

00:39:14.620 But the more often

00:39:17.320 we can refrain

00:39:18.900 from resorting

00:39:20.520 to personal attacks

00:39:21.680 that have nothing to do

00:39:22.760 with the argument itself,

00:39:24.880 the more intelligent

00:39:26.580 that we sound

00:39:27.520 and the more credibility

00:39:28.360 that we'll even

00:39:29.200 be able to build,

00:39:31.100 even if people

00:39:31.940 don't agree with us,

00:39:33.220 you still sound intelligent.

00:39:34.980 You can still build influence.

00:39:37.460 So these are the 10 rules

00:39:39.120 on how to communicate

00:39:40.180 like a man.

00:39:40.820 Let's go through them

00:39:41.280 real quick.

00:39:42.500 And I'll skip the thou shalt,

00:39:43.940 but I'll start with it.

00:39:45.360 Excuse me.

00:39:45.900 Thou shalt not claim 0.94

00:39:46.800 that because a premise

00:39:47.600 is popular,

00:39:48.420 therefore it must be true.

00:39:50.580 Not assume that this

00:39:52.080 follows that

00:39:52.820 when it has no

00:39:53.500 logical conclusion.

00:39:55.080 That's called a non sequitur.

00:39:57.320 Not lay the burden

00:39:58.240 of proof onto him

00:39:59.440 that is questioning

00:40:00.320 the claim.

00:40:02.220 Not argue because of ignorance

00:40:03.760 that the claim

00:40:04.240 must be true or false.

00:40:05.400 Like, I don't know.

00:40:05.960 So it must be true.

00:40:07.300 Don't say, I don't know.

00:40:08.320 Figure it out.

00:40:10.280 Not claim that

00:40:11.060 because something

00:40:11.620 occurred before

00:40:12.280 that it must be the cause.

00:40:13.940 Correlation versus causation.

00:40:16.400 Number six,

00:40:17.640 reduce the argument

00:40:18.740 down to two possibilities.

00:40:20.260 False dichotomy,

00:40:20.980 we call that.

00:40:21.560 Number seven,

00:40:23.280 that thy position,

00:40:25.180 do not argue

00:40:26.420 that thy position

00:40:27.280 by assuming

00:40:27.940 one of its premises

00:40:28.880 is true.

00:40:29.480 This is two truths

00:40:30.240 and a lie.

00:40:31.120 Number eight,

00:40:32.200 do not use small numbers

00:40:33.380 to represent the whole.

00:40:35.580 Number nine,

00:40:36.740 do not misinterpret

00:40:37.740 or exaggerate

00:40:38.520 a person's argument

00:40:39.300 in order to make them

00:40:40.200 easier to attack.

00:40:41.580 That's a straw man argument.

00:40:44.140 And then the last one,

00:40:45.220 do not attack

00:40:45.760 a person's character,

00:40:46.600 but the argument,

00:40:48.040 that would be called

00:40:48.920 an ad hominem attack.

00:40:51.520 There you go, guys.

00:40:52.600 Those are the 10 rules.

00:40:53.600 There's a lot more.

00:40:54.420 There's a really great resource

00:40:55.620 called mylogicalfallacy.com.

00:40:58.360 Let me just make sure

00:40:59.040 that's right here.

00:41:00.780 And I really like this

00:41:01.940 because I communicate

00:41:03.160 on a daily basis

00:41:04.200 and it's part of my job.

00:41:05.860 And you guys communicate too.

00:41:08.040 And it doesn't matter

00:41:10.100 what position you're in,

00:41:11.540 you communicate with people.

00:41:13.460 And I think the more intelligent

00:41:14.800 that we can sound as men

00:41:16.080 and the more we can refrain

00:41:18.240 from these logical fallacies,

00:41:19.660 the better our arguments

00:41:20.720 are going to be,

00:41:21.380 the more compelling

00:41:22.060 they're going to be,

00:41:22.860 and the more influence

00:41:25.000 we'll have with other people.

00:41:26.240 And that's a worthwhile goal

00:41:27.400 to have healthy,

00:41:28.660 righteous influence

00:41:29.720 with the people that we love.

00:41:31.100 So this website is called

00:41:32.480 Your Logical Fallacy Is.

00:41:34.860 Your Logical Fallacy Is.

00:41:36.600 And there's about 20, 25

00:41:38.400 logical fallacies

00:41:40.040 right on the homepage

00:41:40.840 that you can check out.

00:41:42.040 And if you want to be

00:41:42.620 a better debater,

00:41:44.120 you want to be somebody

00:41:45.240 who's going to be able

00:41:46.840 to present their ideas

00:41:47.700 more clearly,

00:41:48.340 whether you're a public speaker

00:41:49.640 speaking in front

00:41:50.360 of thousands of people

00:41:51.300 or you just want to be able

00:41:52.340 to have a good conversation

00:41:53.360 with your wife and kids.

00:41:55.120 Learning what we engage in

00:41:57.060 as humans

00:41:57.760 that are called logical fallacies

00:41:59.640 are very valuable.

00:42:01.740 And even in disagreement,

00:42:03.700 by engaging in these practices,

00:42:05.280 you're going to build up

00:42:06.980 more credibility,

00:42:08.160 influence, and authority.

00:42:09.180 I have a lot of people

00:42:09.940 that I disagree with.

00:42:11.560 Some I really just don't like

00:42:13.680 because they engage

00:42:15.240 in these behaviors.

00:42:16.220 And others,

00:42:16.900 I actually have some level

00:42:18.840 of respect for.

00:42:20.120 Not because I necessarily agree

00:42:21.700 with what they're saying,

00:42:22.600 but because I believe in them

00:42:24.720 and how they're articulating

00:42:26.320 and sharing their differences

00:42:28.240 of opinion.

00:42:30.100 Very valuable stuff, guys.

00:42:32.240 They say the tongue

00:42:32.960 is sharper than the sword.

00:42:34.440 I agree with that,

00:42:35.280 especially in modern times.

00:42:36.680 Our ability to communicate effectively

00:42:38.240 can spell the difference

00:42:39.700 between success and failure

00:42:41.400 on the home front,

00:42:42.460 professional front,

00:42:43.220 and in our own personal lives.

00:42:45.340 I hope that serves you guys.

00:42:46.540 Let me know if there's

00:42:47.140 anything I missed.

00:42:48.000 Let me know if you disagree

00:42:48.820 with anything.

00:42:49.980 If you can do it in a way

00:42:51.360 that refrains from any of these

00:42:53.920 thou shalt nots.

00:42:55.700 All right, guys.

00:42:56.340 I hope that helps.

00:42:57.140 We'll be back next week

00:42:58.580 for our interview.

00:42:59.880 Until then,

00:43:00.700 go out there,

00:43:01.720 take action,

00:43:03.220 engage in healthy,

00:43:05.760 fulfilling,

00:43:06.720 intellectual dialogue

00:43:07.980 and discourse

00:43:08.620 and become the man

00:43:09.760 you are meant to be.

00:43:11.200 Thank you for listening

00:43:15.660 to the Order of Man podcast.

00:43:17.720 If you're ready

00:43:18.100 to take charge of your life

00:43:19.360 and be more of the man

00:43:20.520 you were meant to be,

00:43:21.760 we invite you to join the order

00:43:23.100 at orderofman.com.

00:43:25.520 I hope that you haven't watched it inks with.

00:43:38.700 Do you well have a reality?

00:43:39.160 We'll see you in the next week.

00:43:39.520 We'll be uhhh.

00:43:39.900 We'll see you in the next week.

00:43:41.680 We'll see you in the next week.

00:43:42.780 In the next week,

00:43:43.180 we'll see you in the next week.

00:43:44.460 Finally,

00:43:45.500 we'll be back next week.

00:43:46.400 Pete Herschel Record

00:43:46.980 if we went to work

00:43:47.380 first time.

00:43:47.740 About 10 minutes

00:43:48.140 from you.

00:43:50.320 To leave us

00:43:51.080 and tell us

00:43:51.620 and us

00:43:51.940 we'll see you next week.

Order of Man - June 28, 2024

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