Order of Man

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler,

00:00:27.780 and I am the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here and

00:00:32.600 welcome back. This is a podcast and a movement dedicated to giving you what you need to step

00:00:38.700 up more fully as a man. That's actually what I want to talk with you about today. Not the stepping

00:00:42.120 up as a man necessarily, although we'll get into that a bit, but creating a movement. I want to

00:00:47.740 talk with you about this today because, well, for a couple of reasons. Number one, we need more men 0.99

00:00:51.320 in this battle, the battle to reclaim and restore masculinity. I can't do it on my own. Of course,

00:00:56.640 we've got some huge leverage with what we're doing here with the podcast and we're reaching millions

00:01:01.360 and millions of people throughout the world, but there's more to be done and there's more

00:01:06.280 opportunity to serve and to step up and to lead effectively as men. So that's number one.

00:01:11.580 Number two, a bunch of you guys are asking me for advice on how to start something similar to what

00:01:18.720 we're doing here. Now, there used to be a point in time where I was intimidated by that,

00:01:24.960 concerned with that, threatened even to a degree with that, but I've since grown out of that.

00:01:31.860 A lot of that has to do with my confidence level and of course the success that we've been able to

00:01:35.600 develop and foster here over the past six years. But it's also the abundance mentality that I've

00:01:41.160 been able to hone and refine and create and embrace where I'm not threatened by men who want

00:01:48.460 to start things similar to what we're doing here. In fact, I consider those guys advocates and the work

00:01:52.360 that we need to do. And you know, as well as I do, there's a lot of it. So we're going to talk about

00:01:56.740 some tips, some commonly overlooked things and some strategies and ideas that I think will help

00:02:02.280 you get the right mindset and get you going. Things that I've learned over the past six years of

00:02:06.040 creating a thriving movement that not only has impacted positively hundreds of thousands,

00:02:11.840 if not millions of people, but has created a very lucrative career for me as well.

00:02:16.780 And they aren't mutually exclusive, by the way. I know there's a lot of people out there who think,

00:02:20.760 you know, man, shouldn't I just be doing this out of the goodness of my heart?

00:02:24.420 And contrary to some of that belief, it is possible to do things like this out of the

00:02:29.200 goodness of your heart. And also again, make a lucrative, profitable career out of it.

00:02:35.300 And isn't that what you guys want? Don't you want to do meaningful work and get paid well to do it?

00:02:40.900 There isn't any contradiction with that. I've got to put food on the table, just like you do.

00:02:45.680 I have experiences and things that I want to create for myself and opportunities and

00:02:49.840 investments I want to make. And if it's done through meaningful work, valuable work that helps

00:02:56.220 not just me, but society and those like you who are tuning in, then that's a win-win.

00:03:02.040 So before I get into that, I do want to mention very quickly, if you're watching this, by the way,

00:03:06.500 on video, you can see my hands are kind of a mess. I've got paint all over my hands because I've been

00:03:11.300 painting the barn and the garage show. You'll just have to bear with the paint

00:03:14.580 because I do other stuff outside of just yapping, flapping my gums behind this microphone.

00:03:21.040 Although I like doing this better, I like being outside and painting and using my hands and

00:03:25.200 building and stuff like that too. What I was going to say before I got distracted there

00:03:29.840 is that we are bringing our events back this fall. So we've got our legacy event,

00:03:34.500 which is our father-son event. It's for men and their boys between the ages of eight to 15.

00:03:40.080 We have 20 spots total for that event. And I believe we've already registered 11 men with

00:03:47.380 their sons. So if you're interested in running that event, that's going to be September.

00:03:53.340 I should have wrote this down. I didn't write this down. I believe it's September 23rd to the 26th.

00:03:58.720 You can look if you go to orderofman.com slash main event, orderofman.com slash main event. I think

00:04:04.720 I want to say we have about nine spots of the 20 left. Again, I believe that September 23rd through

00:04:11.280 the 26th. Go look at the page if you're interested because we're going to give you the tools, the

00:04:15.260 resources, everything you need to do to forge a tighter bond with your son and help usher him

00:04:20.980 into manhood and masculinity. So that's the main, excuse me, that's a legacy event. Then October 7th

00:04:28.060 through the 10th, we have our main event. That's a hundred man event. So we have a hundred guys out

00:04:35.280 here to my property. We've got a campsite located on the property. You can stay or you can get an

00:04:39.940 Airbnb, but we're going to spend about three days talking, conversing, building up camaraderie,

00:04:46.820 sharing best practices, learning how to plan out our day and our week and our quarter and achieve

00:04:51.520 success. We're going to be doing physical fitness stuff. We're going to be training some jujitsu

00:04:54.980 and lifting and maybe we'll get the bows out. I've got some other good plans, some surprises

00:04:59.800 worked into the plan. We've got 71. Last I checked, 71 of the 100 spots already filled.

00:05:08.020 So there's less than 30. There's like 28, 29 spots left. So if you want to come to the main event,

00:05:13.280 October 7th through the 10th, then make sure you get registered at orderofman.com slash main event.

00:05:19.820 And main is spelled M-A-I-N-E. Main is in the state. So orderofman.com slash

00:05:24.700 main event, orderofman.com slash legacy, orderofman.com slash main event. Go check it out.

00:05:30.840 Get registered now today. I imagine we'll have that filled up maybe this weekend, maybe early

00:05:35.040 next week, but get it taken care of. All right. Enough of that. We want to see you in the fall.

00:05:39.080 Hopefully we can make it so you can come out here and we'd love to have you. But

00:05:42.420 onto what I really wanted to talk with you about today, which is creating a thriving movement.

00:05:47.600 Again, there was a time where I was intimidated by people who would reach out and say they wanted to

00:05:51.680 start things similar to what I was doing, right? You know, jump on Instagram or the socials and I'd

00:05:56.080 see some new men's movement pop up and I didn't like it, but I do now because, well, there's a lot 0.96

00:06:04.220 of reasons. I feel like we've built this to a point where I have the confidence not to be worried about

00:06:08.700 that. But I also see that you and other people are going to be talking about masculinity differently

00:06:13.560 than I am. And you're going to reach different people. You know, there's almost what? 8 billion

00:06:17.560 people on the planet. Now we've, we've reached millions and millions, but that means we have

00:06:22.180 billions of people quite literally that we have not even remotely touched or influenced in any way.

00:06:29.900 So that leaves a lot of room on the table for you to create something similar to what we're doing

00:06:34.700 here. And it's important that more and more of us talk about masculinity. Now I say in a different

00:06:40.900 way, different is important. Although there's a lot of similar thread lines that we talk about and

00:06:48.240 address. And I feel like as long as we're all on the same page with the basic fundamentals of what

00:06:52.740 it means to be a man, then we can approach it at different angles and reach different people and

00:06:56.280 help each other and be advocates for each other. You know, there's guys that I've personally

00:07:00.180 coached. They've hired me to coach them and to walk them through what we do here so they can do

00:07:05.780 something similar. And there's people that I know who, you know, they'll call me or they'll shoot me a

00:07:09.340 message. And these are people I know and friends where I can just have, you know, a conversation

00:07:15.560 or answer a few questions here and there for them. I'm not intimidated by that. So if you're in the

00:07:20.420 position where you feel like you'd really like to start something like this, where it's meaningful to

00:07:25.360 you, it's purpose-driven and you want to make a lucrative career, or maybe just even a hobby,

00:07:30.000 then here's five tips to help you do that. So number one is just get started. All right. I hear from a lot

00:07:35.880 of guys who are like, you know, Ryan, I want to do this thing and I just don't really know where to

00:07:40.120 start. You do. You do know where to start. The first thing you need to do is you need to start

00:07:45.720 talking about it on social media. Then you need to get a website. Then you need to get some social

00:07:51.180 media pages up. Maybe it's putting some videos out there. Maybe it's getting the website up and

00:07:55.920 running. Perhaps you want to start a podcast. You know where to start. I think when guys say,

00:08:00.300 I don't know where to start, they don't know the best place to start. And I think even that

00:08:05.680 is a bit of an excuse not to get started. There is no best place to start. There is no one way to do

00:08:12.700 it. You just have to start. And if that means you're going to put out a video every day or every week,

00:08:18.880 you're going to set up your website. You're going to start and launch the podcast. You're going to learn

00:08:23.340 as you go. You're not going to have everything 100% figured out. I still, six years after doing

00:08:29.620 this, which is not a lot of time by the way, because there's people who've been doing this

00:08:33.960 significantly longer than I have. I still don't entirely know what I'm doing. And just when I

00:08:39.940 think I have it figured out, some sort of wrench gets thrown in the system. The algorithm changes or

00:08:45.060 there's some new book or some new trend or some new thing in society that I need to be aware of.

00:08:51.400 And I need to change and adapt and evolve. So six years into doing this thing, I'm still evolving.

00:08:56.380 I'm still learning. I'm still adapting. I'm still growing. In fact, we've got some really

00:09:00.700 good plans over the next several months that are going to, I won't say revolutionize what we're

00:09:05.280 doing, but they're going to be an enhancement to what we're doing. And we're going to start

00:09:08.520 having little branches of masculinity and teaching young men and different things that I feel like

00:09:14.200 are important that I didn't initially acknowledge. And that's what it's going to be like for you.

00:09:19.480 You're not going to initially acknowledge or even recognize everything that it could possibly be.

00:09:26.520 Now, you might look at what I'm doing or somebody like my friend and mentor, Sean Whalen, or

00:09:31.100 Garrett White is another guy, Bajos Coulion, Steve Weatherford, Andy Frisilla, Jocko. I mean, look,

00:09:39.740 the guys I've had on the podcast, right? And we all kind of operate in the same circles and same groups

00:09:44.300 and talk about the same types of things from different perspectives. So you might look at

00:09:48.960 these guys and think, well, I want to do it exactly like that. I'm going to talk about that in a

00:09:52.880 minute, but yeah, just fine. Good. Go do it. You know, if you see something I'm doing, you're like,

00:09:58.020 man, I really liked that idea. Then do that. Just start there. And you're going to figure it out as

00:10:02.700 you go, but you have to start. If you just wait and you just wait for things to be perfect and you want

00:10:08.280 everything to be just right. And you spend a lot of time with a notepad or just contemplating and

00:10:13.560 thinking about, well, what if I did this? And what if I did that? Now you're in paralysis by

00:10:16.820 analysis. And the longer you do that, the longer it's going to take you to actually launch and

00:10:22.300 impact people's lives. You know, I often am asked, what is my greatest regret? I don't really play the

00:10:28.080 regret game. I mean, there's things, sure. I wish I would have done differently, but I'm happy with

00:10:33.360 where I am in my life. But I will tell you, one of the things is I wish I would have started earlier

00:10:37.660 because I had these types of ideas, not in 2015. It was like 2010, 2011, 2012. And I often wonder

00:10:45.580 how much further down the track, how many more men we will have impacted had I started two, three,

00:10:51.300 four, five years earlier. And that's going to be you. When you start and you get the thing going

00:10:55.720 and you start to see some success, one of your regrets is going to be that you didn't start earlier.

00:11:00.420 So listen to that. Be aware of that and start right now. And then you'll develop it. You'll hone it.

00:11:05.640 You'll fine tune it. You'll start taking different paths, different veins. In fact,

00:11:10.380 a lot of what we talk about now is completely unrecognizable from what it was when I started

00:11:14.320 in 2015. I think the very first blog post I did was how to throw a baseball effectively,

00:11:20.760 which is good. I mean, every man should know how to throw a baseball, sure.

00:11:24.280 But it is not in line with what we talk about now because that's changed. That's evolved.

00:11:29.060 I think I did a blog post or a podcast or something on the six simple machines. Again,

00:11:34.460 you should know what simple machines are, but that's not really what we, it's not even all

00:11:40.160 what we talk about now. It's changed. It's evolved as I've evolved, as I found things that I want to

00:11:46.500 talk about and things that I don't want to talk about. And I move towards the things I do and

00:11:50.120 things evolve from there. So that's point number one is just start. Okay. Number two, don't copy me.

00:11:56.180 All right. Look, here's my logo. If you guys are watching this on YouTube, you can see the logo.

00:12:01.380 You got order, man, protect, provide, preside. You got the crossed axes. You got OM. Okay. You can

00:12:06.300 see the hat. You can see this. You can see my shirt. You can see the way I communicate, the way

00:12:10.080 I talk, the things I do. Don't copy that. And it's not because I'm worried about you knocking off what

00:12:14.720 we're doing because you can't do it like me. Not that you're not capable of it. Actually, no,

00:12:20.500 that is what it is. You're not capable of doing it like me. Just like I'm not capable of doing it

00:12:24.560 like you. All right. You're different. I'm different. I'm a weird guy. You're a weird guy.

00:12:30.600 Just embrace it. Own it. I'm so much better at being me than you are at being me. 0.67

00:12:36.700 So be yourself. Now there's things that we do. There's principles. There's foundational elements

00:12:43.560 of what we do that you should mimic because they work, right? A podcast works. We know that a podcast

00:12:48.380 dedicated to men works. You know that. I know that with a hundred percent certainty.

00:12:53.760 How? Because we're doing it. So we know. So you don't have to question whether or not a podcast

00:12:59.280 is going to work. Now, are you going to use the same intro music, the same introduction? Are you

00:13:04.840 going to talk about the same subjects? Are you going to present in the same way that I do?

00:13:08.340 I mean, you might try. Again, I'm not worried about you knocking me off. I'm worried about you

00:13:12.760 feeling like a poser and throwing in the towel too soon because you feel like you have this imposter

00:13:17.220 syndrome. And that's exactly what you're doing. You're impersonating me. Why would you want to do 0.88

00:13:23.140 that? Now I get the draw. The reason to do it is because you see this proven formula of success and

00:13:29.620 you think, well, if I just do it just like that. I remember early in this movement, somebody had

00:13:37.200 reached out to me and they said that they wanted to start a podcast or a website called Order of

00:13:42.460 Gentlemen. And I messaged back. I'm like, look, bro, if you want to create Order of Gentlemen,

00:13:50.900 I mean, who am I to stop you? I've got these things copyrighted and trademarked and all that.

00:13:55.660 There might be some sort of legal options I can take there. But why would you want to create

00:14:04.440 exactly? That's the same thing. No, it's gentlemen, not man. No, it's the same, guys.

00:14:11.760 So don't plagiarize. That's the better way of saying it, not copy. Don't plagiarize.

00:14:17.500 Don't knock off other people's shit. Look for the basic foundational principles like podcasting, 0.97

00:14:26.800 being hyper-consistent on social media, talking about these particular subjects.

00:14:32.140 These are the foundational principles. Having the battle plan, having merchandise, having events,

00:14:39.280 having the brotherhood like we have, the Iron Council. Those are the foundational principles,

00:14:44.280 but then don't go and call it like Copper Council or that sounds stupid, but you know what I'm saying? 0.67

00:14:52.360 Don't plagiarize. It's not effective. It doesn't work. You're going to feel like a poser. You're going 0.92

00:14:57.140 to feel like a loser and you kind of are being a loser and it's just not going to work. Be you, 0.99

00:15:01.260 be uniquely you. Now, sometimes that's going to take time. There was a lot of organizations that

00:15:07.400 I followed. I talked about Sean Whalen earlier where I mimicked a lot of what he did and what

00:15:12.880 other people did, maybe a little too closely to begin with, but I realized fortunately very quickly,

00:15:17.440 and he shared this with me very quickly, that I should take what works, but do it in my own way,

00:15:24.240 put my own unique spin on it. And as I put my own unique spin on it, it's no surprise now that

00:15:29.040 that's where I actually started to gain the traction. I tuned out. In fact, I unfollowed a

00:15:33.420 lot of what these other organizations were doing initially because I didn't want to be influenced

00:15:36.900 by it because I was, and I wanted to do it my own way. So I unfollowed, I stopped tuning in,

00:15:43.280 I stopped getting their newsletter and I just went my own way and it worked. Not all of it,

00:15:49.100 some of it, a large portion of it worked and some didn't. I'm going to talk about that here in a

00:15:53.520 minute, but it worked when I did it my own way. So do it your own way, find your own voice, tune

00:15:59.340 out exactly from what other people are doing. Don't plagiarize, look at what they're doing,

00:16:04.360 the foundational principles and implement those things. Number three is know your lines.

00:16:09.980 Now, as I was, I was thinking about what I wanted to talk with you about

00:16:12.920 today, I was thinking about knowing your line. I'm not talking about what you should say and how

00:16:18.920 you should say it. That's not the lines I'm talking about. Okay. The lines I'm talking about

00:16:22.840 are your lines in the sand. What are you going to talk about? What are you not going to talk about?

00:16:29.100 What will you stand for? What won't you stand for? And what are you willing to be the bad guy about?

00:16:34.140 Because here's the deal. When you start something like this and you put yourself out in public,

00:16:37.640 initially it's going to be your family and friends. And they may not directly say this to your face,

00:16:41.500 but they're going to laugh at you. They're going to mock you. They're going to ridicule you.

00:16:45.760 They're going to make light and poke at what you're doing. That all is to be

00:16:48.820 expected. And if you don't expect that, you should. I'm telling you right now,

00:16:51.880 that's going to happen. They may not get right in your face and tell you you're an idiot, 1.00

00:16:56.140 but they're thinking it. Because I had people that are close to me in my own personal life 1.00

00:17:01.800 who thought that. And I know that because they've shared that with me. Oh, Ryan, I couldn't believe

00:17:07.320 that you'd leave your financial planning practice and you'd start this other thing. And I just thought

00:17:11.020 it would fizzle out and fade out. And I thought it was stupid or ridiculous and nobody would listen. 1.00

00:17:15.760 And it was a dumb idea. They said that to me now. So they were thinking that at the time. Well, 1.00

00:17:20.460 I don't think that now, but you're going to piss people off. All right. You're going to have your

00:17:25.240 family members and friends who are going to poke at you. And then you're going to have strangers who

00:17:28.380 are going to be pissed off by what you're doing. They're threatened by what you're saying,

00:17:31.860 or simply they don't agree, but they're not mature enough to handle a disagreement or even consider

00:17:37.700 that maybe somebody sees it differently than them in a mature, rational, level-headed manner.

00:17:42.380 So what do they do? They lash out like my five-year-old. They throw temper tantrums.

00:17:46.520 They call other people, you know, poopoo heads and stuff like that. Like my five-year-old does.

00:17:51.860 I mean, that's what these guys are doing. You know, when people, strangers who I've never met

00:17:56.620 will message me and they'll sling insults. They'll call me names. They'll just poke and prod. I'm like,

00:18:03.680 man, you're like a five-year-old and your vocabulary actually isn't very much better than my five-year-old,

00:18:09.000 but that's what's going to happen. And you're going to piss a lot of people off. 0.95

00:18:12.820 And if you're not okay with that, you're going into the wrong thing. All right. If you don't

00:18:18.180 want people to be pissed, like go, I don't know, go, go sell ice cream to people that like, that's

00:18:25.520 the only thing I can think of that isn't going to piss people off. Everything else is going to piss

00:18:28.740 people off. So you can cower and you could hide and you can shrink and you can worry about how, you know,

00:18:33.860 how everybody is going to feel. And what if somebody is offended? Yeah. People are going to be

00:18:37.140 offended. You know, I say things every day and I don't set out to offend people, but I say things

00:18:41.720 every day that people find offensive and I'm okay with that. You know, and I've also had a lot of guys

00:18:47.540 who are like, man, Ryan, every time you used to share things, I used to get so pissed off and I 1.00

00:18:51.620 thought you were a moron and a jerk and everything else. And the more I think about it, the more I 1.00

00:18:55.900 listen and the more I tune in, the more I hear what you're saying. It's actually pretty true. And I've

00:18:59.380 implemented this stuff in my life, but I had to be willing to rub people the wrong way.

00:19:03.200 And so what are your lines in the sand? And if you don't have them and you want to please

00:19:07.760 everybody, well, that's not going to work. Somebody asked me, cause I made a post about

00:19:12.560 this on Instagram, by the way, follow me on Instagram. Cause that's where I'm most active

00:19:15.980 and I'm very active over there. So I'll communicate with you guys. It's at Ryan Nickler. But the guy on

00:19:20.240 Instagram said something to the effect of, uh, you know, is it better to niche down? I think it is

00:19:26.780 because if you go so broad and so wide, it's just, it's boring. It's mundane. It's monotonous.

00:19:35.720 It's already been shared. You know, if I'll make a post about men, a lot of people will chime and say,

00:19:40.540 well, this applies to women too. Sure. Yeah, of course. Because I'm at the end of the day, 0.92

00:19:43.900 I'm talking about being a good person, but I'm talking to men. So the terms I use, the words I use,

00:19:48.940 the analogies I share, the way I communicate, the, the, the assertive nature of it is going to appeal

00:19:55.520 more generally to men. And I do it like that on purpose. So should you niche down? Yes,

00:20:01.780 you should niche down. Cause I don't want to be this milquetoast, bland, boring guy who, you know, 0.81

00:20:07.700 everybody's happy with, but nobody actually really knows. So the five people that listen to me are

00:20:12.680 very happy. No, I'd rather reach millions and millions and millions of people and have even

00:20:17.460 hundreds of thousands of those pissed off, but that's a better ratio than getting into five people

00:20:24.220 and them all being satisfied with you. Now I want to reach millions, hundreds of millions,

00:20:29.060 if not billions of people on the planet. And, and I know that if I'm going to do that,

00:20:32.820 that some people are going to dislike me and it's stupid stuff too. It's like, yeah, 0.99

00:20:37.540 I don't like the way your beard looks. I don't like your hat. I don't like the speed or the pace

00:20:42.520 at which you talk crazy stuff. And then there's more serious stuff. Like the, the, the,

00:20:48.300 the views I have on feminism, for example, or what it actually means to be a man or transgenderism.

00:20:55.740 And that pisses people off. Yep. That's my line in the sand. I made a post speaking of Instagram

00:21:01.340 the other day about these little crocheted, their, their little crocheted penises is what they are. 0.99

00:21:07.440 And, and whoever's making these things made them for transgender children. So they felt like they had 0.99

00:21:15.120 the right, well, you don't have the right anatomy. That's why you'd have to even crochet that it's 0.99

00:21:18.380 despicable. It's disgusting. And I, and I, and I had a lot of people say, Hey, you know, 0.94

00:21:23.340 Bravo for standing up and being bold. And I had a lot of people say, well, you don't know, Ryan,

00:21:26.480 this, I can't believe you, you would talk about this and you should be more sensitive. And if it was

00:21:30.360 your kid, no, this is my line in the sand. And if you don't like it, you can do one of a few things.

00:21:37.600 You can ignore it and stick around and, and enjoy the things that you, you know, do like,

00:21:45.040 or make you feel comfortable. Uh, you can, you can complain about it. I guess that's an option.

00:21:50.460 That's what you're doing, or you can get the hell out of here. And that's fine too. I don't care.

00:21:57.540 You know, people will always announce, Oh, you'd share that. I'm going to leave. Yeah,

00:22:01.660 go ahead. I don't care. I didn't even know you were here in the first place,

00:22:04.820 but you have to be willing to be bold and assertive and have lines drawn in the sand and

00:22:10.440 talk about the things you want to talk about in the way that you want to talk about knowing that

00:22:14.680 not everybody's going to see it the same way as you. And some people are going to be pissed

00:22:18.680 because they're immature little babies deal with it. All right. But you got to know the lines in 0.91

00:22:24.080 the sand. It's very, very important. And then niching down with that and everything else.

00:22:27.700 Number four, don't quit. Don't quit guys. Like, well, let me throw this caveat in here.

00:22:33.760 Don't quit as long as there's still enthusiasm and excitement about it. So let me share a quick

00:22:39.280 story. A lot of you guys have heard the story. I had been doing financial planning for roughly eight,

00:22:44.180 nine years and I had started order of man in 2015. And so I was doing my financial planning practice

00:22:49.780 that I owned during my regular hours. And then I was doing order of man in the morning, lunch break

00:22:55.300 and the evening and order of man start started to grow and gradually take over some time with my

00:23:01.080 financial planning practice. And I remember one day in particular, I get a text or a phone call on my

00:23:07.200 phone. And I grabbed my phone and I look at it. And I just remember just thinking,

00:23:12.420 I do not want to talk with this person. And it had nothing to do with that client.

00:23:18.920 It had nothing to do with that individual. It just, I just didn't want to have the conversation.

00:23:25.020 I was so sick and tired of talking about money and debt and investments and the stock market and real

00:23:31.960 estate. I just didn't want to talk about it anymore. And my clients hired me as a fiduciary. It was my

00:23:39.220 responsibility. I was, I was obligated, legally obligated to do what was in my client's best

00:23:47.260 interest. And at that point I realized I'm no longer doing what's in my client's best interest.

00:23:54.000 And I'm going to move from the financial planning practice to order of man full-time. And I ended up

00:24:01.580 selling my financial planning practice and I had to call every one of my clients and tell them what

00:24:05.900 I was doing and how it was all going to work and the transition and it ended up working out well.

00:24:10.780 The reason I share that with you is because there actually is a time and place to quit.

00:24:15.440 Contrary to popular opinion. Oh, you should never quit. Don't, don't quit. Never quit. No,

00:24:19.940 there's times where you should quit. If your heart and mind are no longer in it, you should consider

00:24:25.020 quitting, but you got to be careful because sometimes your mind will deceive you. Your

00:24:29.800 heart will deceive you. You'll have a bad day and think, well, I guess this is just not meant to be.

00:24:33.620 No, it just means you had a bad day and we all have shitty days. Okay. That's just the part of it. 0.64

00:24:38.920 And some people say, well, I guess if I have a bad day or it doesn't, things don't go right,

00:24:42.280 then I'm on the wrong path. No, it just means you're a human. And sometimes life sucks.

00:24:47.020 Even if you're on the right path, you're on the perfect path. And I am, 0.52

00:24:49.940 I feel like I'm on the right path right now, but that doesn't mean that life is always sunshine and

00:24:56.600 rainbows. Really what it means is that in spite of it being a shitty day to, in fact, today is one

00:25:06.320 of those days for me, in spite of it, I've found meaning and satisfaction, fulfillment in that

00:25:13.920 suffering, in that pain. And pain is the price. It's the price that you're going to have to pay.

00:25:20.780 And are you willing to pay it or not? Are you willing to suffer? Probably not physically,

00:25:28.720 but mentally, emotionally, every day, rollercoaster for me, ups and downs and highs and lows,

00:25:33.740 success and failure and everything else in between. But my heart is still in it. My mind is still in it.

00:25:39.920 I'm still excited about it. I'm still engaged about it. It still has my attention. And because I'm

00:25:46.600 still passionate about what I'm doing, it's not time to quit. But if there ever came a point in time

00:25:53.020 where I was exhausted with it, I didn't find value in it, and it was just, it was more of a chore and

00:26:00.660 it became a trend, that's the point. Because outside of that, don't ever quit. Just maintain

00:26:08.300 focus, keep going, make small incremental progress as you go. You're going to eventually win. You're

00:26:17.000 going to figure some things out. You're going to lose and succeed and fail and win and trial and

00:26:22.880 error. And some things are going to work and other things aren't. And you're going to start to

00:26:26.620 navigate through this path. You're going to find, I had a neighbor who came and knocked on my door

00:26:32.920 the other day. And he said, Hey, Ryan, we're going to build a snowmobile trail down the lower end of

00:26:38.920 our property. And it butts up to yours. And I'm wondering if we can cut that trail through this

00:26:43.860 part of your property and meet up with the bigger snowmobile trail. And I said, well, yeah, let's go,

00:26:49.160 you know, let's go take a look and see what we're looking at here. There's a point to the story,

00:26:53.200 by the way. And so Tony and I were walking through the thing and none of it was cleared or cut and

00:26:58.880 it's springtime here in Maine. And so everything's just lush and green and filled and there's trees

00:27:04.260 and shrubs and bushes and ticks everywhere. So we're walking through and we're trying to like

00:27:09.460 figure out, okay, well, we went this way and this part got swampy. And so we kind of backtracked a

00:27:13.940 little bit and went this other way. And that way had a bunch of thorns and thistles. And so we

00:27:17.660 ducked under some things and went around some others and moved this way, backtracked a couple of times.

00:27:22.320 And we kind of worked our way through the path that we thought would work. Well, this is a perfect

00:27:28.200 analogy for business. This goes back to actually point number one, just starting. You just got to

00:27:33.320 pick a starting point. You know, we were on his property, very well maintained and it was all

00:27:37.040 mowed. And we got to the edge where it was forest and thicket. And he's like, I don't know, let's just

00:27:41.820 go right here. That's exactly right. Let's just go right here and see where it takes us and figure out

00:27:45.920 if this is the best spot. And we navigated and it took us a little time. We got scratched up. I picked

00:27:50.520 a few ticks off me during the adventure, but we figured it out because we went. If we never went,

00:27:57.140 we just sat on the sideline. We never would have figured it out. And so don't quit. Just keep

00:28:03.260 working through, just keep finding your ways. And eventually you're going to find a way and it's

00:28:06.860 going to work for you. Okay. All right. Last point here I want to make with you is that you need to

00:28:13.580 experiment. And this kind of ties into what I was just talking about. You need to experiment.

00:28:17.040 I call it tuition payments. I learned that from my friend, Pete Roberts. So many kids will spend

00:28:23.260 50, 60, 80, $200,000 on schooling or more. And they'll come out of school and they'll have all

00:28:32.260 this education, no practical application necessary of it necessarily, but they'll have the education

00:28:38.640 and they're okay with strapping themselves with, like I said, 50, 60, 100, $200,000 worth of debt with no

00:28:44.520 real knowledge of how it's going to work in the real world. Well, what if you did the same thing

00:28:51.620 with your business or a movement and decided that you're going to pay tuition, but you're going to

00:28:55.760 apply it practically, pragmatically. There's things that I've done that have cost me money. I've bought

00:29:01.480 too much merchandise or not enough merchandise. Or I one time created a shirt that was very similar to

00:29:08.960 another companies and they came after me and I pulled those shirts out. And so I had like two or

00:29:13.800 300 shirts that were basically just dirty rags I could use around the house. And I've experimented

00:29:19.760 with different elements of the podcast and some really resonated with people and others just flopped.

00:29:24.080 And so I pivoted and changed and adjusted. And so if you come at it with the mentality of not

00:29:29.140 everything has to be perfect, but you're just testing the waters. I know a lot of you guys know,

00:29:33.820 since we were talking about events earlier, our main event and our legacy event, that the very first

00:29:38.780 uprising event, which we probably will do one of those in 2022. So stay tuned for that. But our

00:29:44.680 very first uprising event, we didn't have a single person register. And I had put a sizable deposit on

00:29:50.760 a lodge that we were going to be doing it at. Well, I lost some money. Then I went back to the

00:29:56.860 drawing board and I figured out how to tell a better story, how to articulate a message that would

00:30:02.200 resonate a compelling reason for men to show up. And we sold the first one out or I should say the

00:30:08.140 second iteration out because the first one flopped, not a single soul registered. The next event,

00:30:13.220 we had 20 guys there and we call ourselves the terrible 20 because I was willing to experiment.

00:30:19.600 And I was willing to put my money where my mouth was. A lot of guys will talk tough and tell themselves

00:30:24.060 how great they are and wonderful. And they're willing to do all these things. And then when push comes to

00:30:28.580 shove, they won't back it up with their mouth or their actions or, excuse me, not their mouth,

00:30:33.380 their money or their actions. You got to be willing to do that. You got to put your money where your

00:30:39.940 mouth is. And if all you're going to be is just talk and tell everybody how great you are and try

00:30:44.860 to convince yourself that you're great, but not really do anything about it, then this is the wrong

00:30:48.640 line of work for you. Trying to motivate and inspire people and create a movement and rally people

00:30:53.100 together isn't going to work. You got to be willing to lose. There's an element of risk.

00:30:58.120 And I think more men generally are more prone to, prone is maybe not the right word, but more

00:31:05.980 likely to be willing to step into risk. But some of you guys are so risk adverse that if there's any

00:31:12.520 sign at all of potential loss, financial, emotional, time, energy, you won't even move.

00:31:20.160 Move. And be honest with yourself about that. If you're scared to the point where you're not going

00:31:26.820 to move, then just stop thinking about it and just drive on with your career and be happy and

00:31:31.700 satisfied and fulfilled and good in that. And there are people out there who make great employees,

00:31:38.000 for example. I personally have friends who are employed by organizations and they get their annual

00:31:45.040 raise and they clock out at five o'clock and that's what they want.

00:31:49.400 And I don't think less of those individuals, but if you say you want to create something different

00:31:54.260 out of your life and you want to start a business, you want to start a movement, you want to inspire

00:31:57.740 people, you want to create your own schedule and your own work and be creative like I do.

00:32:03.680 That's how I feel. Then know that it's going to, that you're going to get kicked in the teeth from 0.65

00:32:08.140 time to time. And it's going to be expensive and it's going to be time consuming. And there's going

00:32:13.140 to be nights where you're not going to sleep. And you're probably going to drive your wife nuts 1.00

00:32:17.120 because you're running all these ideas, pastor. And, and it's scary. Look, I'll give you another,

00:32:22.860 another example. We're considering starting something new. I'm not going to disclose a lot

00:32:28.500 right now, but starting something new, not to replace what we're doing here, but to add to what

00:32:32.460 we're doing. And I, I am brokering a deal with somebody who owns a domain, a website domain that I

00:32:41.760 want to own. And this individual wants a lot of money for it. And I'm very close to just pulling

00:32:50.460 the trigger on it. You know, five years ago, I'd be like, I'm not going to do that. I'm going to pay

00:32:54.780 eight bucks or a hundred bucks a year or whatever for a website. And now I'm thinking, well, okay,

00:33:00.420 here's what they want. I can make that back. And you know what? I might not be able to,

00:33:05.620 it might be a horrible investment, but it won't be because I have faith in myself.

00:33:11.240 And if it doesn't work out, we'll work. We'll do something else. We'll figure it out as we go.

00:33:14.800 Like I was talking about earlier. But you got to be willing to, to, to put your balls on the line a 0.95

00:33:19.740 little bit. And I'm willing to do that. And you'll learn and great. Gradually you'll make bigger risks 0.98

00:33:26.100 and because they're not going to be as risky, you know, investing in this is not as risky as it would

00:33:30.440 have been five years ago. Cause I've proven some things, but it's all about experimentation.

00:33:34.080 And I'm good with that. If it flops, okay. I learned something new. Yeah. I failed at it,

00:33:38.120 but I also learned how not to do it and got myself some feedback for how to do it next time.

00:33:43.660 So guys, I want you to start. I'm not threatened by anybody who comes to me and says, Hey, you know,

00:33:48.220 Ryan, I don't know if I should ask you. I'm considering starting something like you. And

00:33:51.660 I don't know. My answer, my answer is go for it. You should do it. If you have a desire and it's in

00:33:57.760 your heart and you have a desire to do something similar to what we're doing, then yeah, I think you should.

00:34:01.600 Okay. So here's five tips that'll help. So do it, start, get it going. It's not going to be easy.

00:34:13.140 It's not going to be fun. Always. It's going to be fun a lot. It's not going to always be fun.

00:34:16.200 It's not going to always be comfortable. It's going to be a roller coaster, man, ups and downs and

00:34:19.920 highs and lows. And some days you're riding on cloud nine and other days you feel like you're

00:34:23.780 wallowing in pig shit. Welcome to doing something meaningful. Let me recap and then we'll close it 1.00

00:34:31.840 out. Think about that this weekend, what you can do, how you can get started. Number one,

00:34:35.580 just start. All right, just get started. Number two, don't plagiarize. I was going to say copy.

00:34:40.840 It's not copy. Don't plagiarize me or anybody else. Mimic what works and then put your own spin and your

00:34:46.520 own flair on it. Number three, know your lines. What lines in the sand? What are you going to talk

00:34:50.340 about? What are you not going to talk about? What are you willing to be the bad guy about?

00:34:54.540 What are you willing to piss people off about? Not intentionally, but just because this is what

00:34:58.360 you believe and people see it differently than you. Number four, as long as your heart and mind

00:35:01.700 are still in it, don't ever quit. Just keep going even through the bad days, especially through the

00:35:05.440 bad days. And number five, experiment. Give yourself permission to mess up. Experiment, lose some money,

00:35:11.660 lose some time, lose some energy because it is an investment. It's a tuition payment and it will yield

00:35:15.900 results. All right, guys, let me know how it's going. Shoot me a message on Instagram.

00:35:19.580 Shoot me your website or your podcast or whatever you're doing. Let me know what you're thinking and

00:35:24.820 I'll do my best to get back with you. It's becoming increasingly difficult as we continue to grow,

00:35:28.920 which is a blessing and a curse because I do want to talk with you guys and I value what you have to

00:35:33.180 say. So keep going. If you have this idea and you have this goal, get after it. I'll help you the

00:35:41.160 best way I can. But I think if you follow these five tips, it's going to get you off the ground and

00:35:45.360 get you some early success, which is what you want. All right, guys, we'll be back next week.

00:35:49.160 Until then, go out there, take action and become the man you are meant to be.

00:35:53.120 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your

00:35:57.320 life and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

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