Order of Man - How to Develop the "X-Factor"

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:04.980 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.160 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.700 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:27.800 I'm your host. I'm also the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement.

00:00:31.860 Welcome here and welcome back. I had a really interesting experience the other day. I went

00:00:38.480 bowling with my family because my oldest just turned 14 and he wanted to go bowling with us and

00:00:44.600 the cousins. And so we went and I had gone to the restroom and I came out and somebody had stopped

00:00:50.060 me and said, Hey, are you Ryan? And I said, yeah, I'm Ryan. He said, Oh man, I love your podcast.

00:00:54.780 And we talked for a minute and it was very cool that he came up and was appreciative of what we're

00:00:59.220 doing. And we parted ways and I went to bowling and we had a good time. We spent some time at the

00:01:04.160 arcade and just had a good time with the family. And then we were leaving. We were putting away our

00:01:07.680 shoes and putting away the bowling balls that we had used. And somebody had seen my Order of Man

00:01:13.200 shirt. And they said, Hey man, that's a great podcast. And I said, Oh, thank you very much.

00:01:18.300 And he's like, wait, are you the guy? And I said, well, I'm, I'm the founder of Order of Man. I'm

00:01:24.020 like, it's my podcast. He's like, I had no idea. And the fact, the fact that I'm being recognized

00:01:31.440 is a very strange, it's still weird to me when somebody comes up and says, Hey, I listened to

00:01:35.640 your podcast. And I, my knee jerk reaction is why there's, there's so many other better podcasts to

00:01:42.280 listen to. Uh, but it's also flattering. And, uh, I appreciate when you guys come up and you say

00:01:47.380 hello and, uh, you, you know who I am, or at least, you know what the podcast is. And it's pretty cool

00:01:53.200 that we're growing. And I just want to first and foremost say, thank you. Uh, it humbles me. Um,

00:01:58.820 it, it makes me feel good, frankly, to know that what we're doing here is having a tremendous impact

00:02:02.840 in your life as a husband and father and business owner, community leader, the ways that you're showing

00:02:07.680 up. So this is your Friday field notes, guys. If you don't know what it is, I'm going to share

00:02:11.000 some thoughts with you from, uh, my interactions and conversations and discussions from throughout

00:02:15.900 the week. And so they're fairly fast paced and short and very actionable. And today I want to

00:02:20.920 talk with you about something called the X factor. We have all seen it. Uh, we've all acknowledged it

00:02:26.680 to some group, some degree, we recognize what it is. And I would be willing to bet that all of us want

00:02:30.940 it, right? We want that X factor, but what I need to explain to you before we get into anything else

00:02:36.360 is that the X factor is not some mythical mystical unknown factor that is only available to the chosen

00:02:46.360 ones. That's what we think, right? Because the X represents what a variable, right? If we're in

00:02:52.880 algebra or pre-calc, we're always solving for X four plus six equals X. Well, we know the answer is 10,

00:03:00.520 right? But it could be the square root of a hundred equals X. And we know the answer is also

00:03:05.560 10. Okay. But what we're trying to do is we're trying to solve for that variable. But guys, when

00:03:10.840 we see a man that we're interacting with, whether it's me, maybe, or the way that I felt when I met

00:03:18.240 Tim Tebow or, or David Goggins, uh, or Jocko Willink or the people that we're just generally inspired by

00:03:26.200 the first thing that we do is we rush to assume that they have something about them that a, we

00:03:34.960 cannot quantify and B is not available to us. And that isn't true at all. It's very quantifiable

00:03:42.940 and it is very accessible. If you follow what I'm going to share with you today, which is a five-part

00:03:47.900 framework for developing the quote unquote X factor in your life. And let's just remove

00:03:55.080 the mystery from the X factor. It's not, it's what it is. It's confidence guys. It's confidence.

00:04:02.000 It's not ego. It's not pride. It's not an overly inflated sense of self-worth. It's confidence,

00:04:10.680 ego, pride, overly inflated, a sense of self-worth. Those things can be manufactured.

00:04:16.620 And so you see some loud, boisterous, obnoxious individual walk into the room and pretends like

00:04:23.040 he owns the place, you know, that that's not really somebody with the X factor. That's somebody

00:04:28.400 who's trying to replicate or fabricate what the X factor is confidence. Alternatively, you can see a

00:04:35.420 individual walk into a room and without even looking at that person, know that somebody important just

00:04:41.940 walked into the room and maybe they didn't even say a thing yet. That's the X factor. And that's the

00:04:49.300 confidence that permeates from a man who knows what he wants and is actively pursuing that.

00:04:54.320 And that's the magic formula, knowing what you want and actively pursuing it. So let's break this

00:05:00.060 down even further. Number one, I already said it. You have to know what you want. If you don't know

00:05:06.640 what you want, you're never going to develop the X factor. You're never going to develop any sense of

00:05:11.400 confidence in yourself. You're going to be basically a boat, a sailboat in the wind, like wherever the

00:05:17.720 wind's going to take you. And you're just going to drift where the coast and the current and the wind

00:05:21.520 takes you. And if you end up in a good place, congratulations, but you may or may not. Guys,

00:05:27.180 you have to know exactly where you're going, exactly where you're going. This is why we talk about with

00:05:33.300 our battle plan and inside of our exclusive brotherhood, the iron council, our vision so

00:05:38.560 frequently, because I want you to think about what kind of husband you want to be, what kind of father,

00:05:44.300 what kind of man, when you engage with people in the community or your neighbors, what are you doing?

00:05:49.640 How are you showing up? How are you making money? How much money? What do you look like? What's your

00:05:55.040 physical presence look like? What's your mission? What are you here on this world to do? And who are

00:06:02.720 you here to serve? And so if somebody comes up to me in the bowling alley and says, hey, man, I listen

00:06:07.760 to your show all the time. It's amazing. And I love what you're doing. Right. Because I'm somebody

00:06:12.680 who's stepping into my calling. I'm not unique. I'm not gifted. I'm not special. I'm not worthy of

00:06:19.660 much of the praise and admiration that I receive periodically. I'm just on a mission. And people

00:06:26.820 see that. And men and women alike recognize it because that's what they want for themselves.

00:06:31.640 When's the last time you sat down and you took a notepad out and you really started to think about

00:06:36.640 what you want out of life? But this is hard because a lot of you are in positions where you're doing

00:06:41.760 something that maybe is considered meaningful. You're doing something that you're creating some

00:06:47.120 decent income. You've got a decent lifestyle. These are the golden handcuffs. Everything is good.

00:06:52.740 It's so, so it's okay. And so you don't want to rock the boat, right? You're afraid of the uncertainty.

00:06:59.440 And I've been here early on in my financial planning practice. I felt like I was doing the right thing.

00:07:05.280 I felt like it was a noble calling. I was making decent money. The business was growing.

00:07:10.060 I saw the potential. I saw how I was serving and helping other people. But deep down inside,

00:07:15.980 and I really had to dig this up for myself, is I just wasn't happy. I wasn't satisfied. I wasn't

00:07:23.720 fulfilled. I did not find deep, unrelenting purpose and value in helping people with their money. Now,

00:07:31.780 I know people do. And I'm not mocking that or diminishing or downplaying because everybody's

00:07:36.300 mission is different. But that wasn't it for me. And I quite literally had to talk myself out of it

00:07:42.500 because it was all defensive. Like, oh no, Ryan, you have a good job. You're making good money.

00:07:48.740 Whatever you would do on the side isn't going to do as well as this. This is what you're meant to do.

00:07:53.160 Oh, so you're helping people. And now you're not going to help them. You're going to step away from

00:07:56.060 them. All sorts of stories that I concocted in my mind. So knowing what you want poses a real risk to

00:08:02.220 you and your livelihood and the wellbeing of your family, because you might need to, for the first

00:08:07.700 time in your life, come to the realization that the way you're showing up and the work you're doing

00:08:12.460 isn't what you are destined and called to do on this earth. And that's hard to deal with because

00:08:19.700 there's real life consequences to stepping away from that work. I'm going to give you some other

00:08:25.560 thoughts and ideas on how to make this work more effectively and efficiently. But the first step

00:08:30.880 is to remove the clutter, remove the chaos, remove the excuses. All we're doing is exploring purpose

00:08:38.080 and meaning right now. If you want some information on this, go back and listen to my conversation

00:08:42.400 on Tuesday of last week with Ken Coleman. He talks about purpose. He talks about the things that

00:08:48.640 you're good at. And he talks about the intersection between the things you're good at, the purpose that

00:08:53.060 you have, and your ability to make money doing it. And that intersection could very well be what

00:08:58.380 you're meant to do, but you are going to need to sacrifice in order to do it. Number two,

00:09:04.000 once you have an idea of what maybe you want to do in life, you have to start formulating a plan.

00:09:10.100 Now, it isn't going to be a perfect plan. If I told you that I had a perfect formula for the way that

00:09:15.520 we were going to build Order of Man over seven years, and here's how many people we're going to

00:09:18.600 reach, and here's the events and the programs and the courses and the brotherhood, and here's how we're

00:09:22.380 going to make money, and here's the hats, and here's the this, and here's the that. Here's the people

00:09:25.500 we're going to have on the podcast. I would have been lying to you. I had no idea whatsoever,

00:09:30.060 but what I did know is that I wanted to start a podcast. And so, Eileen, you needed to know five

00:09:34.820 steps. What are the next five steps? A, B, C, D, E, F. Those are the five steps. I think that was six,

00:09:42.240 maybe. Those are the six steps. Which is first? A, good, do it. What's next? B, good, do that. C,

00:09:49.860 good, do that. But formulate a plan and know that it isn't going to be perfect. It isn't going to be

00:09:55.680 ideal. You're going to need to adjust and address issues and changes and things that come up along

00:10:02.140 the way, but that's okay. You have to formulate a plan first, but don't let it be so elaborate

00:10:07.360 and so complex that you never do it. That's the greater risk. It's not that you don't have the

00:10:14.020 perfectly crafted plan, but that you don't execute the somewhat decent plan. What is it?

00:10:20.240 Was it a George Patton who said something like a perfectly executed or a perfectly formulated plan

00:10:29.880 is worse than a, some sort of a, like a mediocre plan that's actually executed. I butchered that.

00:10:35.480 You guys know what I'm saying. Okay. Doesn't have to be perfect, but you have to have a few steps.

00:10:40.440 You have to know in which direction you're going, right? If my vision for myself is to get up to

00:10:45.220 that mountain that's just outside of my window here in my office, my first plan is, okay, how far

00:10:50.180 is that? Well, it's 20 miles. Okay. How long does it take me to walk a mile? Maybe it takes me 10

00:10:56.440 minutes. Okay. Some of it is uphill. So maybe let's say 11 minutes, 11 minutes times 20. Here's how many

00:11:02.040 minutes it's going to take. And then there's a river that you need to cross. So what are you going to do?

00:11:05.820 Are you going to go in your wet clothes? Are you going to bring a change of clothes? Maybe that's going to

00:11:09.660 take you a five or six hours. Do you need to bring water? How much water? What food do you need to

00:11:15.040 bring? Who's done this before? Do they know that there's a trail? Is there a trail? If there is a

00:11:20.360 trail, does that trail make it longer than the 20 miles it is from here to that mountain? This is the

00:11:25.540 formulation of the strategy. Now, what's going to happen is I'm going to start walking on that trail

00:11:30.880 and I'm going to see that because we had a big windstorm over the past couple of weeks,

00:11:34.160 that there's probably some downed trees that are obstructing my path. And so I might need to go

00:11:40.800 around those things. There might be some sort of wildlife that I run into that I would like to

00:11:46.040 avoid like a black bear or something on my journey. Well, I think I probably should avoid that. And so

00:11:50.600 we make adjustments and we pivot and we adapt as we start walking on the trail, but I don't get to

00:11:56.880 know what's next until I take the first step. And that's point number three. Guys, execute the plan.

00:12:04.040 Execute the plan, please. I don't know how many times I've seen men with a vision for what they want,

00:12:11.460 a decently formulated plan, not perfect because we don't know what's going to happen,

00:12:16.220 but decent. And then they don't do anything about it. Holy cow. What a shame. What a shame that you

00:12:24.860 are put on this earth to do something meaningful, to do something that would bring you pride and

00:12:30.900 fulfillment and satisfaction that would serve other people. And you're so hung up on it being

00:12:37.000 perfect or your own inadequacy that you're not willing to address it. Do you want the X factor

00:12:42.440 or not? Do you want to be confident or not? Do you want a fulfilled life or not? And if you do,

00:12:47.640 you have to pay the price and the price is work. The price is effort. The price is financial capital.

00:12:53.800 The price is potential humiliation. The price is the consequence, financial and otherwise,

00:13:01.640 of stepping into what you need to step into. So the guys that you see and you're like, man,

00:13:06.080 that guy has it, whatever it is, that guy's paid the price. So don't tell me you want what he has

00:13:13.040 and you're not willing to do what he's done. Now, if you do what he's done, maybe not specifically,

00:13:19.780 but at least follow his framework, then one day people are going to look at you and think,

00:13:24.640 man, that guy has something I want. That guy has it. That guy's got the X factor. And you'll know

00:13:31.900 deep down inside that it isn't some mystical force. It's what you've earned. You've earned it

00:13:37.680 through knowing what you want, formulating a decent plan, and then executing on that plan.

00:13:44.220 Now, the next point, when you're on that plan, you can't deviate.

00:13:50.580 Hey, you cannot deviate. And that doesn't mean you don't adapt. We do adapt, right? Because if

00:13:56.160 I'm using that metaphor of climbing up that mountain and I come up to a black bear sow with

00:14:03.300 her cubs, I'm probably not just going to keep walking straight. I'm going to stop. I'm going to

00:14:09.380 be still. Hopefully she doesn't see me. I'm going to back up and I'm going to go a different route

00:14:14.740 because I don't want to entangle myself with that bear with cubs. That isn't something I'm interested

00:14:19.240 in. That's not a sacrifice I'm willing to make, but I am willing to sacrifice walking a little bit

00:14:25.200 longer to avoid the bear and to get where I want to go. I am willing to do that. And so when I say

00:14:32.600 don't deviate, I'm not saying don't adapt and pivot. What I'm saying is don't say, that's too hard.

00:14:39.100 I really wanted to go to that mountain, but that black bear is right there. So I guess I'll just go

00:14:42.180 to that mountain instead. And what you're going to do is for the rest of your life, you're going to

00:14:46.360 mope and you're going to sulk and you're going to ask yourself what could have been had I had the

00:14:51.640 balls and the audacity and the tenacity to move forward, to drive towards what I wanted to accomplish

00:14:57.400 in my life. So yeah, there's going to be some bears along the way. There's going to be some

00:15:01.840 down trees. There's going to be some people who don't want you to win. There's going to be some

00:15:06.340 humiliation. There's going to be some failure. There's going to be a loss of financial capital.

00:15:11.940 That's the price. And if you don't want to pay the price, that's okay. It really is okay.

00:15:18.580 But admit it and stop talking about how everybody else has the X factor and you don't.

00:15:25.420 Pay the price. Don't deviate. Now there's an exception to every rule.

00:15:29.800 And there's been times in my life, again, with my financial planning practice,

00:15:34.300 because that was a goal of mine and I had a plan and I was executing the plan.

00:15:38.500 And then I deviated, right? I quit. For all intents and purposes, I quit. I stepped away from it.

00:15:46.060 So there's an exception to the deviation factor that I gave you here. And that is if it's no longer

00:15:54.260 compelling to you, if it's no longer interesting to you, if it doesn't speak to you, if it doesn't

00:15:59.500 call to you, then maybe you should be doing something different. The financial planning

00:16:04.480 stuff, it just stopped calling to me. It just wasn't, it was a dread. I would get, I'm picking

00:16:11.020 up my phone here to show you. Now I'd get a call from a client or a text and I'd pull it up and I'd

00:16:16.120 look at it and I'd just go, not because of that person, but because the work wasn't interesting

00:16:23.900 to me anymore. And so I had to find something interesting. You know, as I'm thinking about

00:16:28.840 my son's 14th birthday, he's getting older. Guys, we don't have a whole lot of time here.

00:16:36.960 And I could have very easily pursued a career in the financial planning practice for the next 10,

00:16:41.240 20, 30 years. And we would have had a decent life. I would have felt mildly successful.

00:16:46.560 I would have been somewhat satisfied, but not fully, not fully. And so if you're no longer

00:16:53.440 interested in something and no longer speaks to your soul, then come up with a plan to get out of that

00:16:59.960 and come up with a plan to do something different. It doesn't make you a loser. It doesn't make you a

00:17:05.420 quitter. These aren't the labels I would put. You pivoted, you changed, you adjusted, you adapt.

00:17:09.700 And that's okay. That's okay to do. Now that said, be cautious because sometimes your mind

00:17:15.940 will play tricks on you and say, Oh, it's, you know, it's too hard. That's why you're not doing

00:17:20.100 it because it's too hard. And then what you do is you tell yourself, well, I just really wasn't

00:17:23.840 interested in it. It was that, is that really the case or are you not doing it because it's too hard?

00:17:30.240 So don't lie to yourself about your deviation either. Be truthful about it. Hey, it really is not

00:17:37.640 something that calls to me anymore or no, it's still caused to me. It's just hard. And I'm feeling

00:17:42.640 a little down on my luck. That's a different thing because in that case, you're going to need to go

00:17:47.780 over, around, under, through. I was at jujitsu earlier this week and my instructor, Pete Roberts

00:17:53.820 was talking about different ways that we can pass the guard. And you can go over the guard.

00:18:00.200 You can go under the guard. You can go around and you can go through. And so, you know, we roll

00:18:08.460 with somebody and the way that I might train and roll with one individual, maybe that's a big, strong

00:18:14.840 physical person for me just to do a smash pass and try to plow through his guard just isn't going to

00:18:21.300 work. But maybe if I can be a little quicker and I can disengage and I can step around and cut some

00:18:26.880 angles on that particular individual, I'm able to get past that person. Now, alternatively,

00:18:33.220 maybe I'm rolling with somebody like Ty Nichols, who is, you know, I probably got 30 pounds on the

00:18:40.880 guy, maybe, maybe a little more. And he's super fast. He's super quick. He's super dynamic. The way

00:18:47.900 that he trains, like you don't know where he's going. And then all of a sudden he's choking you out

00:18:52.100 from behind and you're just trying to grab onto anything that you can. Well, that guy, I'm probably

00:18:56.700 not going to disengage and try to step around. He's too quick for me. But what I will try to do

00:19:01.260 is keep them very close and very tight and just smash him, right? Different strategies, different

00:19:07.380 tactics for different objectives and different things that you're running up against. Okay. So

00:19:13.340 look at your objective, look at what you're trying to accomplish and ask yourself,

00:19:17.500 is it that I'm not interested in it? Or is it that I don't know how to deal with it yet?

00:19:21.820 And if you don't know how to deal with it yet, that's okay. Now we make ourselves capable of

00:19:27.380 dealing with it. All right, guys. One other thing I'd say about the deviation thing.

00:19:33.040 If you do mess up on your path and you will. So let's say again, I'm on that trail, I'm going to

00:19:39.660 that mountain and I look up and all of a sudden the mountain's over to my left and I'm veering off to

00:19:46.120 the right. And I've been veering off to the right for the last two miles. At some point you might

00:19:52.120 question, is this still the right way to go? And if it isn't, and that's what you determine

00:19:59.200 because you deviated, maybe you got distracted. Maybe your head was down. You weren't focused.

00:20:07.280 Maybe something or a sign or a person led you astray. Maybe you came across a hiker and they said,

00:20:13.380 oh yeah, go that way at the trailhead. And they told you the wrong way. Like that happens.

00:20:18.520 So when you deviate, but you're still interested in being on the path, adjust course as quickly as

00:20:24.900 possible. Like I would never say, let's take this metaphor even further. I'm hiking on this trail and

00:20:32.480 I want to go to this mountain in front of me that's 20 miles away. And I come to a trailhead at 10 miles

00:20:36.480 and I can go left or I can go right. And let's say I go right. And after a mile or two, I realized,

00:20:42.320 you know what? I'm looking at the map. I think I went the wrong way. Here's what I'm not going to

00:20:47.660 do. Well, maybe if I just keep walking this way, you know, something good will happen and I'll

00:20:53.040 eventually reach it. No guys, that's not how it works. You know what you do? You cut your losses

00:20:59.560 and it sucks, right? Cause a lot of guys will say, well, you know, I've walked this far. I don't

00:21:03.840 have to walk back. I'm just going to keep walking and see if it gets me there. It's not, it's not going

00:21:08.340 to get you there. You already know that. We already know that there's already experience.

00:21:12.020 It's already mapped. Like the map's not going to lie to you, right? Like it's, it's, you're not

00:21:17.500 going to get there. So you could be stubborn and you could just keep walking on that trailhead and

00:21:21.840 banging your, your feet on the ground, hoping that one day you're going to get there, but that's

00:21:25.600 stupid, frankly, cut the loss. Okay. If something's not working, cut the loss and adjust. So what I'm

00:21:35.680 going to do is I'm gonna look at the map and say, oh man, I'm going the wrong way. I got to turn

00:21:39.220 around. Yeah. You're going to have to go back a mile or two to get back on the trail, but that's

00:21:44.000 better than just banging your head against the wall and keep going in the same direction.

00:21:47.620 That's not going to lead you to where you want to go. There's a movie that I really like called

00:21:51.660 master and commander with Russell Crowe. A lot of you guys have probably watched it and they get stuck

00:21:56.600 in a, uh, um, a storm at sea. And I think one of the masks breaks off. If I remember, it's been a

00:22:03.940 while it breaks off and falls into the ocean, but it's still tethered to the boat through the ropes.

00:22:11.000 And I think the term they use is it's, it's becoming a sea anchor, right? It turned into a

00:22:16.680 sea anchor. So it's anchoring them against the wind and the whole boat's about to capsize.

00:22:24.400 The problem is, is that this mass, there was somebody in the crow's nest and he, when the mass

00:22:30.040 broke and fell off, he fell off into the water and the captain has to make the decision.

00:22:35.660 Do we try to save that individual and risk everything or do we cut it? And so he has one

00:22:42.680 of the younger crew members grab the axes, the hatchets, and they grab the hatchets and he hands

00:22:50.780 a hatchet to one of the kids as a crew member. And he says, break, chop, cut these lines.

00:22:55.380 Well, the, the, the guy that he gave the hatchet to happened to be the best friend of the man who

00:23:04.360 was in that crow's nest, who's going to die if they cut him loose. And the master, the commander

00:23:10.660 of the ship commands him to chop those. And he does, and he sets the mass free, the ship uprights

00:23:19.100 itself and they lose a man at sea. And, and the, uh, individual that had to cut his friend loose and

00:23:26.060 essentially leave his friend behind, obviously has a hard time, you know, sitting with that.

00:23:33.080 It's unfortunate. It's an unfortunate reality of life that sometimes you're going to have to cut

00:23:39.200 your losses. And I hope we're never in that position where we have to cut, cut a friend out

00:23:43.320 who might potentially die because of a decision we're making. I don't, I don't think that's very

00:23:47.440 common if at all. But the point of the story is that at some point you're going to have to cut your

00:23:54.060 losses and you're going to have to walk away from an investment or you're going to have to walk away

00:24:00.460 from a relationship or you're going to have to walk away from one of your own vices or something that

00:24:06.080 you're interested in, in order to pursue something different. You have to cut the anchor loose guys.

00:24:11.700 And it sucks and it's hard, but the answer is not found in keeping yourself attached to the anchor

00:24:19.240 and hoping things just work out. So when I say point number four, do not deviate, even though

00:24:25.360 sometimes you will be pulled astray, cut the rope, set yourself upright and get back on the path.

00:24:33.680 And guys, the last thing I'll share with you today is that you basically have to analyze this entire

00:24:39.480 process continually and always, and then repeat the process. And what that'll allow you to do is

00:24:45.840 that'll allow you to evolve and grow and expand and get better and question what works and question

00:24:52.300 what doesn't question whether this is not, is still interesting to you. Allow you to look at

00:24:57.400 different paths. If the bear is still in your way, analyze it daily, have a system in place. I use

00:25:04.000 our battle planner. If you're interested, you can go to store.orderofman.com and you can check out

00:25:08.360 our battle planner. This is what I use to keep me on the path every single day. But if you're not

00:25:13.020 analyzing it on a daily, even hourly basis, I might do this podcast, for example, and realize

00:25:20.220 that, Hey, what I'm doing isn't, isn't serving me. So I need to pivot. It's not like I'm no longer

00:25:23.920 interested. I just need to make this better. So one way that we've approved our podcast over the past

00:25:28.640 month or so now, as you can see, I have different lighting behind me. The camera quality is way better.

00:25:33.880 Okay. These are all things that I've learned and I'm continuing to learn to try to improve

00:25:38.900 and make better and improve your experience and ultimately our results. But that's because I

00:25:44.360 analyze it. Okay. My audio is off by a better mic. Okay. My video is not great. Get another video

00:25:49.620 camera, which I've gone through three now because of the first couple I didn't like. Okay. The lighting

00:25:54.120 is blue. Do I like that? Does it really fit with our brand? No. So I'll get an orange light. Okay.

00:25:58.400 I don't like the, how that, how that worked out. So I'll get lighting that is like strip

00:26:02.820 lighting so I can hide it, but it still has the color. Okay. Now I'll get lighting that

00:26:07.180 I can turn on automatically. Like I'm always looking for ways to improve what it is we're

00:26:11.740 doing here. And you should be too. This is point number five, analyze your performance

00:26:16.420 and repeat the process. Know what you want. Formulate a plan, execute the plan. Do not deviate

00:26:22.160 except for those exceptions I made and analyze and repeat again. It's a cycle. It's a cycle.

00:26:28.440 Guys, this is the X factor. It's not complicated. It's not very hard. Actually take some time,

00:26:34.540 take some investment, take some commitment, and it will become challenging along the path,

00:26:37.740 but this is how you do it. This is how you become that guy. And you all know who that guy is.

00:26:45.300 You all know how people look at him. You all know how people respond to him. You all know how much

00:26:49.660 influence he has with other people. You all know the success that he's experiencing in his life.

00:26:53.600 Do you want it? If you want it, this is how you do it. Very simple.

00:26:59.680 If you don't want it, well, that's okay. That's your prerogative. But don't pretend like you want

00:27:06.000 it. Or don't say you want it without a willingness to put forth the work. That's all I've got for you

00:27:10.180 guys today. This is how you develop the X factor, guys. I want more of you to have it because if you

00:27:14.340 have the X factor, here's the bottom line. If you have the X factor, you're going to be more

00:27:17.200 influential with people. You're going to have more influence, credibility, authority. You're going to

00:27:20.900 be able to lead. You're going to be able to produce results. You're going to make more money.

00:27:23.340 You're going to look better. You're going to feel better about yourself. You're going to live

00:27:26.220 a better life. And you're going to help other people live a better life too. You are not designed

00:27:30.680 to shirk and to shrink and to be weak and mediocre and pathetic and cowardly and just drift as the

00:27:36.840 ocean would take you. You are meant to rise above that. You are meant to have influence. You are meant

00:27:43.120 to lead. You are meant to know who you are. You are meant to have a mission and a purpose.

00:27:48.020 And you're meant to follow it. And you're meant to sacrifice for that purpose. So get after it.

00:27:53.620 All right, you guys, we'll be back next week. Until then, go out there,

00:27:57.580 develop that X factor and become the man you are meant to be.

00:28:01.580 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:28:05.920 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at orderofman.com.

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