How to Lead, Manage, and Coach More Effectively | RYAN HAWK
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Summary
As we roll into 2020, if you re interested in leading more effectively in your life, you also likely realize how fulfilling, rewarding, and profitable becoming a good leader can be. But frankly, there are so many traps on the path to leadership. That s why I ve been looking forward to my conversation with the Learning Leader himself, Ryan Hawk. In this episode, we cover the distinctions between leading, managing, and coaching, the blessings and curse of ambition, when to lead and when to follow, and ultimately how to foster commitment in others over simply compliance.
Transcript
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As we roll into 2020, if a lot of you listening are likely interested in leading more effectively
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in your life, you also likely realize how fulfilling, rewarding, and profitable becoming
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a good leader can be. But frankly, there are just, there are so many traps on the path to
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leadership. That's why I've been looking forward to my conversation today with the learning leader
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himself, Mr. Ryan Hawk. Today, we cover the distinctions between leading, managing, and
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coaching, the blessings and curse of ambition, when to lead and when to follow, and ultimately
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how to foster commitment in others over simply compliance.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
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your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time you
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are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This
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is who you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said
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Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Mickler, and I am the host and the founder
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of the podcast and the movement that is Order of Man, the global movement. We're continuing
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to grow. We're continuing to expand, which is all good because you know as well as I do
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that we need the message of reclaiming and restoring masculinity to go to the masses. And
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you have been doing your part. You've been sharing. You've been letting others know what
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we're doing here about the mission and the purpose behind this podcast, which is to interview
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great men and distill their information and insights and experience down into tools and
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strategies that we can use to excel in ours. So this is going to be a great resource for
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you come 2020, whether you're just joining us or you've been with us for any amount of time.
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I hope that you use this resource wisely and that it's serving you well. If it is, just make
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sure you share it. All right. That's all I ask. We don't ask a whole lot here, but I
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do ask that you share the episode, uh, that you share the movement that you invite guys
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to the Facebook group and other social media channels that we may be using. Uh, and it's
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through that, uh, that sharing that we continue to get the word out. Cause this is all just
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word of mouth. We aren't doing any advertising or anything like that. Uh, everything that we've
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experienced by way of growth has been through word of mouth and through you sharing. So appreciate
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that. I've got a great one lined up for you today with Ryan Hawk, who is one of our very early guests.
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When I started the podcast in 2015, I'll introduce you to him in just a minute. Uh, before I do want
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checkout or D E R at checkout at origin, main.com. All right, guys, let me introduce you to my guest.
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Uh, again, his name is Ryan Hawk. He's the founder of the learning leader movement and a podcast
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that I'm very familiar with and enjoy myself. He is a keynote speaker. He's an advisor. And most
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recently, and what he's here to talk with us about today is he's an author of welcome to management,
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how to grow from top performer to excellent leader. Uh, he's taken his experience as a
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professional football player and a sales executive coupled with the lesson learned from working with
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a fortune 500 companies, the NFL NBA, uh, and distilled them into practical tips and strategies that we can
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use to lead more effectively. As I said earlier, I had him on the show. He was the eighth guest ever
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to join the order of man podcast and his growth over nearly five years has been incredible and
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also a powerful testimony to the effectiveness of the leadership strategies that he's going to share
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with us here today. Brian, what's going on, man. Glad to have you. We're a man podcast.
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Ryan, I tell you, I think what it's been almost five years since we last talked, uh, recorded at
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least for your podcast, you've since come on mine, uh, in between then, but I'm just, I'm just pumped
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to be back as well as excited to see the amazing growth that you've had with your business, uh, going
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all in on it. Uh, and it's really, it really shows, I think if, if you get a smart guy who was willing
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to put his head down and work like crazy, look what can happen. I mean, it's a great story. Like
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it's a great, great case study for people to look at. And that's you, man. So I just huge props. I'm
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excited to be back, man. Yeah. It's funny. Cause we were looking at it, uh, when, when you came on
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the show and it was last and it was, uh, what do we say? May of 2015 is when you, so it was episode
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eight. So I hope this conversation, like five or 600, like 600 or 500 since then, or how many,
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I know some of yours are solo and Q and A's a week now, but I think, uh, I want to say we've
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done 200 and maybe 50 or 60 interviews and then another 250 other types of shows. So we're 500
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plus shows into this thing now. Dude, congrats, man. It's so cool to see, uh, all the, especially
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like the impact, you know, you're having on so many people that, uh, sometimes, you know,
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when you're such a heads down worker every once in a while, you put your head up to say,
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this is, this is really amazing. What's happening right now. And the impact, cause you, you have
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such a ripple effect too. It's not just the immediate guys that you're impacting, but it's
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all of the people and their lives. I mean, think about the ripple effect, man. I just think it's worth,
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it's worth it to, to, to, to reflect every once in a while on that. And I, I'm, uh, I'm, I'm really,
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uh, uh, I feel lucky and proud that I was a part of your show when at its very beginning, man.
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When it was nothing, when it was nothing. It is interesting though, because you know,
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you're in very much the same boat and props to you for the book that's coming up and all that
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you've been doing in the interviews and the speaking, you know, I follow you on social media
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and we've been connected a little bit here over the past several years, but it is pretty
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interesting when you have a desire to lead in some capacity and then you step into it fully
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and, and, and put yourself out there, which is obviously presents its own set of challenges,
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especially in the world of social media and everything else that we do. But, uh, it's pretty
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cool to be having this conversation and look, when did you start the podcast? Was it about the same
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time that I started mine or was it? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So it's going on its fifth, fifth year.
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Okay. Um, as we, as we get to 2020 now and, uh, yeah, it's, it's really amazing to see when you,
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and I'm curious why you started yours initially. Cause I think for me, it was, uh, just this innate
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curiosity to learn from people who have sustained excellence over an extended period of time to
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understand some of the intricacies to unpack that and, uh, follow my genuine curiosity towards
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those types of individuals. And I, you know, like much like you, I find it is such a worthy use of
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time to have long form conversations with those types of individuals. And then to see the impact
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you can have on others while you're learning yourself is really cool. Uh, it is a really rewarding
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feeling. And, and so that's, that's why I initially got into it. And, uh, I, I, you know, I gather
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yours is, is, is something similar. Yeah, no doubt. You know, I had another podcast before this one
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and love the medium of podcasting, but wanted to shift up the conversations, but it was all, it was,
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it was selfish, frankly. It's like, I wanted to have great conversations with highly successful men,
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whether it was in the entrepreneurial space or the family space or fitness, whatever capacity that they
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were, that they were excelling. Uh, it was my goal to have conversations with these guys and
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then to be able to share. I mean, that's, that's the cool thing is that not only is it this opportunity
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to have conversations with these people, but then to also share and, and quite literally reach
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millions of millions of other people across the planet. And you talk about the ripple effect
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generationally even, right? If one guy listens to this podcast or your podcast and just picks up
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one little thing, just one little tidbit of information and it helps him connect more deeply
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with his wife or connect with his kids or start a business or lose 30 pounds, just that one little
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change then impacts his children and the people he's leading at work and the people that he sees in
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the community and his neighbors that he's serving. And then that impacts their family. It's just,
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it's wild. It is so wild. You know, we, a lot of the times we look at our numbers,
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right? We look at our social media stats and think, okay, cool. We've got a hundred thousand
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people here and 50,000 people over there. That doesn't even skim the surface on how many people
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that you and I and others that are in this space are impacting. And that's a very powerful opportunity
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that we have. Yeah. For me, it's, it's certainly the fuel or at least some of the fuel when you get
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that heartfelt, thoughtful note, whether it's an email or a handwritten note, uh, when somebody
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like share some of their story about the impact that you've had on their life, because you had
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the guts and were willing to click publish, right? You're writing like you're, what you're doing is
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you are willing to be judged. You are putting yourself out there for others to judge by publishing
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your work, whether it's written like you have in sovereignty or, uh, what you, like the videos
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that you, you put online. And certainly with, with the podcast, you're putting yourself out there to
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be judged. And I, and I go, and I read pretty much every one of your AMAs as well within your, uh,
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your Facebook group. And I, and sometimes I'm just like, wow, like I am really impressed
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that he's got the guts to take a stand and to have a point of view. And, and when you think about
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leadership, those are some of the qualities that I really want in somebody that I'm going to follow.
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Those are the people that I'm trying to emulate is that they're not afraid to have a point of view
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and they know people at times are going to disagree with them, maybe not like them. Um, but probably
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they're going to have to respect them, right? Cause you've put thought into what you're, you're
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thinking and what you're saying. You're not just rambling. You're not just speaking off the cup.
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You've actually put some dedicated thought and reflection into what you're saying to those
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people. And I think when, as we shift into talking a little bit more about leadership,
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that to me are the type of leaders that we like, think about the leaders in your life,
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who you, who you followed, right? They have some of those qualities that they're not afraid
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to have a voice. And I think for me, that's been part of my evolution as well as because, uh,
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initially I was more like a cover band and a cover band, right? You can make a decent living.
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You can have a fine life. You can go play other people's songs, right? This is obviously an
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analogy. Um, not a musician, but, but you can, you can cover the work of others, but eventually
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you got to start playing your own stuff. You got to start writing your own music, start having the guts
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to play it in front of people to, to be judged and to see what they think. And that is, I think
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that's the evolution. Certainly you've, you've been on over the last five plus years and, and,
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and, and me as well. And it's, it's fun as we get into these stages to start sharing what we truly
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believe through the course of our life experiences and what we've learned from so many smart people.
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Do you think that's the biggest thing that keeps people back from stepping into leadership
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is the fear of judgment, the fear of ridicule, uh, the fear of pushback and, and, and being under
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the microscope and scrutiny, or is it something else? Well, I just think it's so much easier to
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follow, right? Then you don't have the responsibility of it goes bad. Uh, you don't, you, you, and then
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you've talked a lot about this, like it, it just, it just, it's a much more comfortable life to, to
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follow. Uh, and great leaders, don't get me wrong, are good followers, right? There are people you look
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up to obviously that you're following, but that's, they're helping you become a leader and leadership
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first and foremost, as you know, is a distinctive choice. You must make that choice to lead. That's
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one thing all great leaders have in common is the fact that they've made that choice to say,
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I will take ownership. I am responsible. I want the responsibility. This is much why I liked playing
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the position of quarterback because that position has the greatest influence on the outcome of the
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game of the win or the loss. It's, you know, sometimes you could, maybe you play a receiver
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and as a receiver, you're, you're dependent on so many other things and you could even sometimes have
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a pretty good game, but it's not going to necessarily have an impact on the outcome of the game as a
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quarterback though. If you play bad, your team is probably going to lose. And if you play well, your team
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is probably going to win. I personally love that responsibility. Um, it kind of juices me up on a daily
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basis to be in a leadership position to say, well, a lot of this is rest on my shores. And I, and I
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consciously make that choice daily. And I think that's what, you know, you talk about what it means
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to be a man. I think that's part of what, for me, at least what it means to be a man is to make that
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choice every day. It's interesting though, because you say, you know, it's comfortable. And I think
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about times in my life where I followed maybe a little too long and it wasn't comfortable for me.
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Like I hated it in my financial planning practice. I worked with an organization, uh, that I didn't
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feel like I had a whole lot of flexibility and freedom. And it was like, do it this way. This
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is the way that we do it. And for me, it wasn't, man, it wasn't comfortable at all. It was miserable.
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And so I felt like, you know, I'd rather take the risk of going out and starting my own organization,
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starting my own company and going through all of the work and the red tape with, with regards to
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financial planning to do that. And that to me was significantly better than just being under
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somebody's thumb. But I'm wondering if that's, I don't think your personality or I don't, I don't,
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I don't think you're normal. And I mean that, I think, you know, as a compliment, I think,
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uh, you're the exception to the rule, uh, because the way this, the way it viscerally made you feel
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comfortable to follow is, is not how most people are. Um, however, then you also probably felt some
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of the, uh, as you step into making that choice to lead, you start feeling some of the reward,
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some of the freedom, also some of the responsibility and knowing you as, as I've followed you for a while
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now, I, I get the sense that that responsibility and ownership, uh, is part of what keeps you going
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every day, right? Like you want to be the leader of your family, of your tribe, of millions of people
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who are listening and following what you do. You, that, that's, that to me seems part of your
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makeup as you've evolved. And, uh, but I, I don't know if that's normal though. I think that's,
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that's it. That's probably unique to you and certainly others, but, but in this case,
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I think it's unique to you. So then do you talk to guys that have the desire to lead and gals too?
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I mean, I know you're talking to both men and women, but the desire to lead and that's who your
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audience is, or is it those who feel like maybe that's what they're supposed to do is supposed
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to lead? Like who, who is it that you're working with? Cause I think that would help us identify
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because here's the deal. I think there's guys listening to this podcast right now who are like
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me and you, it's like, I want to lead. I want the responsibility. I want the burden for me.
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I always thought, man, I'd rather reinvent the wheel than have to do it. Somebody else's way,
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like feel obligated or compelled to do it. Somebody else's way. But then there's also men who are
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listening who, you know, maybe they're comfortable following or they're comfortable in the number two
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role, or I don't want to say it this way. Cause I don't mean it negatively, but just being more of a,
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the worker be if you will. So I don't know if like who, who, who is your audience and who are
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you talking to here? Yeah. I think for the people who seem to follow my show and the call,
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the learning leader show, obviously you've, you've been a guest, uh, before the, the ones are the ones
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who have a desire, but maybe there's some of the how to that they don't, they haven't fully figured
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out probably how, like I'm speaking to me a little bit earlier in my career, but it's, it's interesting
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when I get emails though, some of these leaders are in senior level positions. And really, I guess the
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people that I'm speaking to are those who have this growth oriented mindset to say,
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I don't have it all figured out yet. I never truly will, but I want to be on the path of consistent
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improvement. Right. I know you had James clear on, right. This, this, this thought process of an
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aggregation of marginal gains of, of this regular improvement on a daily basis in the skill of
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leading people. And I certainly believe that every single person is born with the capacity
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or the ability to lead. It then becomes, have I made that distinctive choice? Have I say,
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have I raised my hand to say, yes, this is what I want to do. Now I'm going to dive deep on learning
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how to first lead myself. And then after I've, I, as I'm continuously working on leading myself,
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because you obviously cannot lead anyone else until you you're, you're working and leading
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yourself. Now it's about some of the, we get into the details about building teams, culture,
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hiring practices, how to surround yourself with people who lift you up, right. Creating a personal
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board of advisors, having those people in your life that are, that are willing and able to tell you
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when you're not performing at the level that you should and how you can get better. Those are the types
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of people that seem to be drawn to my work, uh, the most, the people who have more of a fixed mindset
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or think I don't have time for that, or they think I'm already the smartest person in the room
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that, that those people probably do not like the work that I do and it's not for them. And that's
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completely fine. Uh, it's more along the people who have the mindset towards wanting to continuously
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improve and grow and get better. Yeah, that makes sense. I think the podcast, just the nature of
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podcasting itself weeds the people out who aren't interested in growing. Like if you're listening
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to a podcast, you're investing time and energy into finding your show or my show or any number of
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millions of shows they could listen to. They're actively seeking information, which is a pretty
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good qualifier for, for the growth they want to see in their life. It's funny. Cause you said,
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you know, obviously you need to lead yourself first. I think that's obvious when you're a mature
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leader or at least on the path of becoming a mature leader. But I know a lot of immature leaders and
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it has nothing to do with age. It's just a maturity level who don't understand that leading is you
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leading your first so that you can more effectively lead other people. Cause it seems to me, these
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immature leaders are more of the do what I say, not what I do type mentality. And they're so focused
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on leading externally. They've never focused on leading internally. And then they wonder why
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they're having a problem with getting people to follow them voluntarily.
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I a hundred percent agree. And I, I, again, I always, one of the exercises I like to do when speaking
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with others is, is to visualize. And as a listener, you can just visualize the leaders in your life
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who you've really respected, wanted to follow, and then try to deconstruct why. And for, for me,
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I I've, I've been fascinated with following leaders, whether these are coaches from the football field
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or in the business world that were regularly working on themselves, trying to build their skills and
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regularly earn credibility through knowing their stuff, being overly prepared. I think of coach Ron
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one of the best football coaches I've ever played for, I knew he built confidence in his team and his
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followers and his players because nobody outworked him, no player, no other coach. He was the most
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prepared. So when he gave us a game plan for what we were going to do, we knew he had outworked the
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competition. We knew he was overly prepared, right? He showed us this on a daily basis, his habits,
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his routines, his rituals for behaving is what bred confidence into us as his players. And so that I
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try to emulate people like that by being the most prepared, by doing the work on a daily basis,
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right? And some of these things are very basic and simplistic. They're fundamentals, but that's
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where a lot of people, uh, aren't on top of the ball. And I, and I, and so that's the, that's like
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the exercise I would tell each person is to think about who those people are in your life. And hopefully
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you've had some of those, who, who those examples are, and then really go a little bit deeper and
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say, well, why, why did I want to follow them? What was it about them? What were their actual
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behaviors? What did they do that made me want to follow them? And then again, don't just copy other
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people, but take bits and pieces from all of these great learning moments throughout your life and then
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implement it into your game, your personality. So you can still be authentically you, but you can
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take from the best of the best, um, and make it a part of, of, of your actions moving forward for
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other people to follow. I think you bring up a great point when you're talking about him being the
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hardest worker in the room. It seems to me, and look, I've, I've fallen prey to this as well. We all have
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as leaders is that because we've arrived at some capacity, then now we can slack off a little bit.
00:22:43.360
So what you do is you take a strong player, a strong teammate, a strong employee, a strong
00:22:49.660
tacticianer, and that individual excels because they're doing the work required to excel. You
00:22:55.540
throw them into a leadership position. They're like, Oh cool. Now I can coast. And then things end up
00:23:01.640
obviously falling apart and they have a hard time understanding why that's the case. A leader needs
00:23:07.860
to work just as hard, if not harder, maybe in a different capacity as the people that he's striving to
00:23:13.200
lead. You're a hundred percent right. And I learned this, uh, uh, the great quote about this
00:23:19.900
from JJ Redick. When I had him on my show, he said, you've never arrived. You're always becoming. He
00:23:24.180
was giving a talk at, uh, he went back to Duke where he played college basketball and he saw somebody
00:23:30.300
had the word arrived tattooed on their body. And he's like, what are you talking about, man? And the
00:23:35.820
guy was a big time recruit and he was a freshman, all American, all this. And he said, you know,
00:23:39.720
I'm a McDonald's all American. I'm one of the best players in the nation. I'm going to the NBA.
00:23:43.720
I'm at Duke. I've arrived. And he said, you've never arrived. You're always becoming. And I think
00:23:48.120
that's the proper mindset for all of us to have is we've never arrived. We're always becoming as you
00:23:54.580
hit all of these checkpoints of high achievement, right? And this is your living proof this right now.
00:24:00.880
The reason though, that it continuously happens for you is because you, you may take a brief moment to
00:24:06.920
celebrate with your wife and your kids and, and, and you're happy, but then you're right back to work,
00:24:12.000
like right back to it. And you get joy out of the, out of this mindset of, well, let's think,
00:24:18.200
how did we get here? How did we get to the point to where our day, we have a published book that
00:24:22.660
tons of people are reading. We have millions of listeners of a podcast. We have the iron council
00:24:27.220
with the, with hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people, all of the things, how did we get here?
00:24:32.020
Oh, it's because I put in the work every single day. I showed up at that small old desk with the
00:24:39.140
$59, $59 ATR 2100 microphone when I was starting to get started. And now it's because I put in the
00:24:46.420
work every day and it's not sexy. It's not always the most enjoyable answer, but really it's the fact
00:24:52.360
that you've put in the work day after day, after day, you show up. And that's one of the things I
00:24:56.780
learned from my dad, right? What part of, I know, uh, uh, this is something you talk about as a dad,
00:25:01.180
because you didn't necessarily have it in your life. Part of being a great dad is showing up your
00:25:07.060
there's a part of my book, right? The title is, yeah, I've got it written down here. Yeah. Your
00:25:11.280
presence is required. So whether you're leading at work, you're leading a team or you're leading your
00:25:17.780
family, your active presence is required. You simply have to be there. That's, that's not all of
00:25:24.220
it, but that is certainly a big part of what it means to lead. Yeah. I mean, that's a prerequisite,
00:25:30.200
right? Just, and just showing up is not enough. It's just a critical component. It's like step one,
00:25:35.340
be there. Step two, do these other things. Well, it's, it's kind of amazing though,
00:25:39.580
that there are, there are bosses or leaders that we all can picture currently right now in our minds
00:25:44.200
that actually didn't even do that. Right. Right. They didn't do that one table stakes, foundational
00:25:51.680
step. So I think when I think about people who've sustained excellence, we can't gloss over the
00:25:59.620
fundamentals and the foundation of what it means to, to, to, to get it right. And that, that is a,
00:26:05.160
one of the, one of the key parts is, is making sure that you're present. I mean, I had a job where
00:26:09.500
I was leading a sales team all over North America, right? I knew before I accepted that job, that part
00:26:16.740
of what I was going to sign up for was a lot of travel, right? Cause my presence is required.
00:26:22.360
Meaning in person, we're going to ride goal. I was a North American VP of sales. We are going
00:26:28.680
to be doing field rights in your car on a regular basis. And that's part of my schedule is going to
00:26:35.180
have to be that because if I'm going to choose to do that job, right, I'm going to choose to lead in
00:26:40.200
that capacity. That's part of the deal. You can't be like, nah, I can just sit in my home office and
00:26:45.020
have zoom calls. Certainly you can do that, but that's not enough. And, uh, I think those are the
00:26:49.980
things we all need to think about as we, as we're thrust or we're choosing to be in leadership
00:26:54.620
positions. Yeah. I mean, and also too, is you don't always need to be there. If you've set up the,
00:27:00.960
the systems and processes and procedures in place to ensure that other people are filling in where
00:27:08.580
you can't or where they may be better suited to do that. Cause I think that's a trap that a lot of
00:27:14.700
leaders fall into as well thinking, okay, well I've presence. Like, I guess I always have to be
00:27:19.940
there at the expense of everything else. No, I mean, you don't have to do it all,
00:27:23.460
but you do need to ensure that it all gets done. Yeah. I, that's a great point. I'm glad you brought
00:27:28.260
that up. Yeah. I think there is the, the, the dreaded micro manager. So you never want to be
00:27:35.040
put into that camp. Nobody wants that type of a manager in the, in the business world, if you're
00:27:39.040
working in that, in that sense. Uh, but, but the, the, the simple fact of, of, of the people know,
00:27:45.860
I spoke with a CEO recently who I've, who I've been working with and, uh, he took over for somebody
00:27:50.960
else. And, uh, the previous CEO, uh, had not been seen, uh, this is, this is for like a manufacturing
00:27:58.080
type business had not been seen by people in certain warehouses in years. Right. So they're
00:28:04.780
like, wow, this is, this is, this is great that we actually saw that the guy exists in the human
00:28:09.720
flesh. So I'm with you. There is a balance. You have to understand what that balance is. And that's
00:28:14.420
where it gets more nuanced and more gray, but, but certainly, uh, presence is an important part
00:28:20.440
of leadership. Yeah. I mean, it's just like anything you've, you've, you've got to strike
00:28:24.460
the balance. There's moderation in it. You know, I think about that, even with the iron councils,
00:28:28.240
you know, I've, I've fallen into the trap where it's like, I don't show up at all. Cause I'm busy
00:28:32.420
doing a thousand other things. And a lot of it's justified, but there's no reason why I can't be
00:28:36.560
there to some degree. So I disengage almost completely. And then I, and then I recognize that I've
00:28:43.560
disengaged and then I overcompensate. Right. So then I get a hundred percent engaged,
00:28:48.620
micromanage everything. And all the guys are like, Whoa, dude, like you haven't been here forever.
00:28:53.800
Now you're here doing all this stuff. So you've got to find that, that balancing act.
00:28:57.680
What do you, what do you think has been the key? Cause at the time when we first talked,
00:29:02.640
iron council was in its infancy, probably like a handful of people.
00:29:06.260
I don't even think I, when we, or maybe it didn't even exist. Yeah.
00:29:09.920
It didn't exist, man. When you came on the podcast, it didn't even exist.
00:29:13.700
One of my biggest questions is what are some of the keys to building? I mean, cause this is
00:29:19.620
essentially like, I don't, I don't know if you define like a, it's, it's way more than a mastermind
00:29:24.580
group, but it's something that people are paying either monthly or yearly amount to opt in. And
00:29:30.160
they're not going to, they're going to, they're going to voice their pleasure or displeasure with
00:29:34.400
their checkbook and they're, they're continuously opting in. What are, what are some of the keys
00:29:40.600
to, to, to being able to, to create such, I mean, cause that's the core of your business
00:29:44.980
or at least part of a big part of your business. What are some, how have you been able to do that?
00:29:50.660
Um, that's a good question. Uh, I think the first thing is just starting is the biggest thing,
00:29:56.940
like just starting something. Sometimes people think, Oh, I've got to have this cause I had this
00:30:01.060
vision in my mind of what I want it to be. And frankly, I'm not even there yet with what I want
00:30:04.960
it to be. I could have waited, I could have waited five years to like create this thing and it'd be
00:30:10.020
just perfect. And even then it wouldn't be perfect, but just starting with a minimum viable product,
00:30:13.920
which is what I did. Um, outside of that, one thing I've learned actually very well this year
00:30:20.320
is that again, I don't have to do it all. I thought I had to do it all. Like I thought everybody that
00:30:25.680
are, that were coming in the iron council were there to see me. It was like the Ryan show. And then I had
00:30:29.800
to be there for everything. And, um, as much as it may sting the ego a little bit, like guys are
00:30:34.900
there. Yeah. Because of me, but they don't need me. They need, they need the resources.
00:30:40.240
You set up the, you set up the framework and the foundation and, and, and like the program,
00:30:45.340
right? So I think that's the key part, right? Before not needing you that you've, you've put the,
00:30:50.620
the program in place so that you could plug people in and then tap others on the shoulder to lead.
00:30:56.640
Am I hearing you right? That's exactly right. And so now I can focus on, and not that I'm doing
00:31:02.460
this at the expense of the entire iron council, but I can focus on my core of team leaders and I
00:31:08.920
can pour fully into them and then they can then go out and pour into their guys that they're leading.
00:31:15.440
That's awesome. Uh, and, and, and as it continues to grow, you know, we, we changed the structure.
00:31:19.580
And so now we have team leader mentors and they mentor the team leaders and the team leaders
00:31:24.280
mentioned XOs and the XOs mentioned their fire teams. So we have this chain of command where I'm,
00:31:31.020
I'm not individually working with 550 guys. I'm working with 20 guys and they in turn are working
00:31:39.480
with the 550. That's awesome, man. Congrats again. Thank you. Yeah, no, it is cool. You know,
00:31:45.700
go back to one of the things you talked about with celebration, because I think this is a blessing,
00:31:51.520
a curse of a lot of leaders and those who are highly ambitious is that we have these goals and
00:31:57.660
these aspirations and objectives that we want to hit. And we put our noses down and usually it works
00:32:03.480
out, right? Whether it's a week or whether it's a year, like we end up hitting our objectives.
00:32:07.480
That's just the way it goes. And we don't, we don't really celebrate because we're so focused on the
00:32:16.100
next thing. And that's the blessing and the curse of ambition. I'm just wondering how a leader
00:32:20.800
strikes the balance between stopping and being present in the moment and celebrating victories
00:32:26.680
and successes and then shifting gears and thinking about what's next, what's next, what's next, and so
00:32:33.260
on. I identify so much with what you're saying. And I also think it's a commonality among leaders who
00:32:38.920
have sustained excellence, which is a big key I try to uncover on my, my podcast is, is understanding
00:32:46.400
the makeup and the dynamics and the distillation of sustaining excellence. I, you know, it's,
00:32:52.460
it's funny though, the more and more I have this type of conversation about stopping and celebrating,
00:32:56.820
the more rare I find it is with people who are regularly and consistently producing. Right.
00:33:04.280
So I don't know if that's like the fun answer because I'm, I'm with you. Like I,
00:33:08.960
it's actually maybe a bit embarrassing. I'm trying to think of last time we celebrated a big
00:33:13.780
accomplishment. Like I remember I got a book deal from a, one of the big publishing houses
00:33:17.960
and I don't think we celebrated at all now. I mean, the book comes out soon. I don't know,
00:33:23.500
you know, there, there may be some minor thing, uh, like any, any of the podcast milestones or the
00:33:30.000
business, uh, hitting revenue goals. It's just really, uh, we, we maybe briefly talk about it.
00:33:37.000
Sometimes you think, sit back and say, wow, that's really cool. And then we just keep going,
00:33:40.980
right. You just keep going. And I think that's kind of just the, the, the way, again, I find
00:33:46.780
that to be very common though, among higher performers is that like, even look at Elon Musk,
00:33:53.040
right? Hundreds of millions of dollars and maybe he's crazy. So I don't know if he's a good example,
00:33:57.340
but he just keeps going. And I think people like that though are good for the world that are,
00:34:04.620
they have this desire and willingness to keep going. And I think that's part of how, I mean,
00:34:10.660
I bet you get the same question a lot, Ryan, can you help me, uh, uh, create and launch a podcast,
00:34:16.960
right? All the time. I know I'm sure you get it on and you know, when possible, you try to help out,
00:34:22.920
you try to be a good guy. What happens almost a hundred percent of the time they start and then
00:34:29.340
they quit. Yeah. If they even start, if that, right. Or they're too, too, it's too, too much,
00:34:35.920
but for the most part they start and then they quit. What's hard. It's hard to keep going. It's
00:34:43.160
hard to be consistent. Uh, that's the hard part. And I think that's partially, uh, why like, yes,
00:34:51.700
I do think it would be more healthy just to, to probably stop and celebrate. But I also realize,
00:34:56.600
I don't know if that's just a part of my makeup. I don't, I mean, I just don't know if it is. And
00:35:02.200
I don't know if that's a bad thing. I, I, I, I, you know, we, we, when I was in the corporate world,
00:35:07.220
we had these circle of excellence awards awards, and we'd have these big dinners and you'd win
00:35:11.600
circle of excellence. If you were a top, top producer in the company, I worked in sales.
00:35:16.180
It was cool. And we definitely celebrated that night, but I remember like being on the phones the
00:35:21.160
very next morning, eight in the morning, making cold calls to try to win circle of excellence for
00:35:26.940
the next year. That's just the way it is. Um, not using all your vacation days, all of that.
00:35:33.540
Is that healthy? Like, I don't know, but I also, when you deconstruct what success looks like, I mean,
00:35:39.940
I know there's a lot on Twitter going around right now about not working a lot and not working long
00:35:44.760
hours. And I think for the people who have been able to do that, that is awesome. Like good for you.
00:35:51.260
I'm not sure that I'm talented enough to live that way. I'm not sure. I don't, I don't, I don't know.
00:35:57.160
I, I, uh, I could be wrong. Um, but, but, but currently, uh, I, I know for me, it takes a lot of
00:36:04.260
consistent work that doesn't really ever end. Yeah, I think there's, I agree with that. I think
00:36:11.260
there's this level of self-awareness that you need. And you, you actually talk about this in the book
00:36:15.680
as well as just being self-aware as part of leading yourself, that you need to know what it is you're
00:36:21.140
after. So one of the things that's really shifted for me in 2019, and of course, moving into 2020 is
00:36:26.320
not so career aspirational, but very family oriented. So the business that I have, which
00:36:34.960
I love and it's a passion and it's purpose and it's, it's meaningful and significant to me
00:36:39.240
is there to support my aspirations that I have inside the walls of my home, which means
00:36:45.240
that at times, and this is difficult for me to do is I need to throttle back on the business
00:36:50.260
goals and aspirations because I'm consciously trying to lead and be ambitious as ambitious
00:36:58.080
in the walls of my home as I am within the walls of my business. So it's not that I don't,
00:37:03.420
I'm not going to be content necessarily. It's just that I'm trying to shift gears and be ambitious
00:37:09.560
in another avenue of my life that maybe I've neglected in the past.
00:37:13.140
Do you think part of that though, is because of the success you've had? Like you're like
00:37:18.360
Jason's talk to me about having an enough goal. It doesn't mean like you're satisfied, but
00:37:22.760
it means you're at this like enough level. Do you, do you, does, does, does order of man
00:37:27.920
as a business, if you stayed flat or even dipped a little bit as far as let's just say revenue
00:37:33.340
for two, for 2020, do you think it's because you're at a level now where it's okay if you're,
00:37:40.020
if your business stays flat and so let's, let's throttle back on the amount of time or,
00:37:45.360
or, or is it just like, no, no, that's probably a fair assessment because you know, I, I've got
00:37:51.800
to make enough for the family to live and survive and do the things like I, I'm cautious in saying
00:37:57.200
what I'm about to say, cause I don't want to come across as arrogant, but like our finances
00:38:00.800
are taken care of, right? Like financially we're good. Check that off. That doesn't mean we'll
00:38:05.560
always be in that boat, but for now that box is checked. So I mean, that's a, that's a big
00:38:11.340
deal. I mean, think about, Oh yeah, for sure. Like being able to say that I think is a, that
00:38:16.040
I don't, that's the, that's the one area that most people are not able to say. They're not
00:38:23.660
able to say that right now going into the air. I mean, most people probably have a job
00:38:27.740
or a good job and they have a decent salary, but they're, they're not like, you know, I don't
00:38:31.720
know why I thought it was like four scum, but like, that's just one less thing, you
00:38:34.380
know, to worry about, um, um, but, but no, I, cause I, cause I wonder if part of like,
00:38:42.860
and that's a goal though. I mean, that could be a goal for people to say, like, I want to
00:38:46.340
get to the point where I can, I know you're never going to be an autopilot guy, but, but
00:38:51.760
I can throttle a little bit now where I can oscillate more time with the family and less
00:38:59.020
time, just grinding like crazy on the business.
00:39:04.120
Gentlemen, I got to hit that pause button really quickly. It's not a surprise that many
00:39:07.700
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00:39:12.760
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00:39:59.560
conversation with Ryan. Yeah. Yes. I think you're right, but I do hesitate to say like,
00:40:05.700
Oh, that's a luxury I have because it makes it seem as if it isn't something that I've
00:40:10.160
had to put a lot of conscious effort into. Exactly. I mean, you didn't, nothing, nothing
00:40:14.600
was given. It was right. Cause people will say all the time is they'll say things like,
00:40:18.600
Oh, well that must be nice that you can be in that position as if I haven't sacrificed
00:40:23.480
and spent the last, well, nine years of my financial planning practice, five years with
00:40:29.240
the order of man. Yeah, it is really nice, but it wasn't given to me. It was something
00:40:34.040
that I actually had to actively go out and earn. And now I'm in the position where I get
00:40:39.480
to reap some of the benefits and rewards of the effort over the past decade and a half of
00:40:44.400
work. Do you, do you have any small fear though of saying, uh, cause, cause I, I love, I love
00:40:50.900
that mindset. I think you have a fear though of like, well, wait a second. If I throttle
00:40:54.820
back, is there a chance that we get to the point where finances are not okay? Cause I think that's
00:41:00.000
the fear of even like, I even think of like, uh, actors in Hollywood, some of them just never
00:41:05.560
stopped working cause they always think it's going to end. They're always fearful. I had the
00:41:09.740
guys from impractical jokers on my show. I met him in person at a show afterwards. And I, and I even
00:41:17.800
asked them, I had Sal, I was like, what, like you guys are killing yourselves. And they go, this could
00:41:22.500
end tomorrow. Like we know this could end tomorrow. Like they had this constant fear that it could all
00:41:27.840
go away. And so they're just grinding like crazy because of that fear. And I think that's also common
00:41:34.500
with people that it doesn't even seem like they should have that fear, but they do. And part of
00:41:39.580
that is what leads to some of the success. Yeah. I don't, for me, I like, okay, that that's true.
00:41:47.820
Actually order a bank go away tomorrow. So then I'll just start order of gentlemen or whatever.
00:41:53.800
Like, it's not like I don't have the skillsets to be able to create something different. I can
00:41:59.080
certainly do that. I have no issue. What I'm more concerned about is that I could die tomorrow.
00:42:04.500
And, or be on my deathbed. If I'm on my deathbed, I'm not thinking about order of man. Sorry guys.
00:42:09.660
I'm thinking about, oh man, I wish I would have made one more basketball game of my kids. I wish
00:42:15.660
I would have taken my daughter to one more dance recital. I wish I would have sat down at the
00:42:19.860
dinner table and had one more conversation with my wife. Dude, I can always get the business back.
00:42:26.300
I can grow something else. I could start something else. Yeah. We may be rough, you know,
00:42:30.160
things financially for a year or whatever it may be until we build things up and off the ground and get
00:42:34.460
them going again, but I'm never going to get the time back with my family. Like, it's not like
00:42:39.360
if I put in all the work into my business for the next, let's say 10 years, well, let's say seven
00:42:46.160
years. Cause my oldest is 11. So I'm like, well, this could go away. So for the next seven years,
00:42:49.940
I'm just going to work really hard and then I'll spend time with my family. Well, in seven years,
00:42:53.860
my oldest son is 18. He's gone, man. Yeah. Like he's out of the house in seven years. I can always
00:43:00.340
start another business in seven years. I can't always be able to roll around with my 11 year
00:43:05.200
old. And that's, that's the priority for me. I love that perspective. Have you talked to Jason
00:43:09.540
Freed yet from CEO of base camp? No, you should. I'll try to make an intro if you want. He's about
00:43:15.640
building a business that, because there's, there's some of the mentality of like, let me just grind
00:43:21.080
for the next 10 years and then I can relax. He's like, that never happens. The people just,
00:43:26.780
they're not able to, they're not able to, to, to, so like he, he, he believes in setting up a calm
00:43:32.080
business. So is there growth going to be crazy? No, but they're always going to be profitable.
00:43:37.120
Right. And I, and it really, it really had an impact on me on how I think about my business as
00:43:42.860
well. The same thing with you, which is, you know, wait, yes, I could get paid a great chunk of change
00:43:49.480
to go give a speech on that Saturday, but there's a volleyball tournament for my daughter on that
00:43:54.640
Saturday. Right. I'm not going. Right. That one's happens to be on the, my wife's birthday.
00:44:01.880
Ah, I'm not going, you know? And I think, I think those are some of the trade-offs that we choose
00:44:08.040
to, to, to make at times in order to make sure that our, our priorities are straight, right? Our
00:44:13.520
priorities are intact. And you're actually like having to live up to your values and your priorities.
00:44:18.360
Cause that's when it's, that's when you really know what you value or know what your values are,
00:44:22.660
are when you have to make those tough decisions of yes or no, I'm going to go, or I'm not.
00:44:27.580
Cause no, I say my family is first. Well, my actions must follow if, if I actually mean that.
00:44:33.360
And it sounds like obviously you're doing that, uh, daily now, which I think is really cool.
00:44:38.280
It's inspiring for all the guys who are following you to say, yeah, this could, this, this can happen.
00:44:42.860
I mean, I hope it is, but my other, my other thought is that there's guys who are listening and that are
00:44:48.300
connected with what you're doing and what we're doing, who are not in that position. Right. So
00:44:53.340
they're thinking, Hey man, if I've got an opportunity to go make a couple thousand bucks
00:44:57.500
this weekend by, by picking up some side work, well, we've got a mortgage payment to make. So
00:45:02.420
like, I got to go do that. Even if it's my wife's birthday. Yeah. I agree. And there's times where I
00:45:07.740
would say, yeah, you're right. Because your job is to provide. And part of that is financially.
00:45:15.180
And so if you're not in that boat yet, you know, you make your decisions and you do what's in the
00:45:19.960
best interest and you do the best you can. And then you work towards a better future,
00:45:23.060
a different future. I a hundred percent agree. Uh, I think, I think that is, uh, and that is probably
00:45:29.980
the norm for a lot of people and I, I get it. So in a way I feel a bit of privilege. Uh, but I also
00:45:37.700
know, like you've said, a lot of that has come from, from the work leading up to that though. Uh, so,
00:45:43.420
but I, I get it. I understand it from, from both perspectives.
00:45:47.940
Yeah. I guess ultimately you've just got to strike, like you said earlier, a strike that
00:45:52.300
balance on, on what you should be doing. Let's shift gears a little bit here. As far as, you
00:45:57.960
know, we talked a lot about leading yourself. Um, obviously you go into depth in the book on
00:46:02.460
different strategies and principles in order to do that. And, and I encourage everybody to pick,
00:46:06.720
pick up a copy of the book. Cause it's very, very valuable. A lot of great information in there.
00:46:10.260
Um, let's talk about leading outside because once, cause again, we're talking about, all
00:46:15.800
right, we've got this stuff locked in, we're doing the things for ourself. Now, how do you
00:46:19.140
start turning that around and, and focusing it outwards and then leading people and influencing
00:46:25.100
people to where you'd like them to go and where they themselves would probably like to
00:46:30.700
Yeah. I, I think there's so much here. Uh, and I've, I've been fortunate to have 350 plus
00:46:37.260
of these conversations on my, my podcast, as well as learn from great mentors that have
00:46:41.820
helped shaped my view on what it means to be a leader, uh, of, of helping to provide purpose
00:46:49.160
and see the power in somebody else that they might not even see themselves and then helping
00:46:58.000
them unleash it for themselves. There's a difference, not just the barking orders. And so somebody does
00:47:05.820
what you say, but I'm a big believer that compliance can be commanded, but commitment
00:47:11.900
cannot. So I, my goal is to help people build, uh, committed followers, build committed teams,
00:47:22.140
build committed organizations, not compliant ones. We've all been in those organizations
00:47:27.820
where we've been for, you just, you talked about it earlier, right? You've been forced to comply
00:47:33.060
because that's the way it is. And if you don't comply, you'll get fired. So you'll comply
00:47:37.840
because you need the job, you need the money, whatever. And there are a lot of people
00:47:40.620
that's a weak motivator, right? Relative to being influenced to do it.
00:47:46.040
But, but then you, we've also hopefully been influenced by those types of leaders who you've
00:47:51.580
so badly wanted to commit to that great boss, great coach, great mentor, who you were committed
00:47:59.460
to them by your choice, because you were motivated by their actions, by their care, by their love,
00:48:06.300
by their ability to see the power in you and help raise you to levels that were higher than you
00:48:12.420
thought possible. So that's the type of leader that I, I, I want to be, that I want to help others
00:48:18.920
be, um, when it comes to this big, broad term of what it means to be an excellent leader. And
00:48:25.000
there's so much to unpack, but that's at a high level. That's what, that's what I initially think of.
00:48:29.460
Yeah. Well, I like the, I like the distinction between, I don't know if leading is the right
00:48:36.300
word, but you, you mentioned the word influence. And I really liked that word because you can,
00:48:42.280
like you said, you can command people to do things, but influence is about getting other
00:48:46.700
people to voluntarily agree. Right. So if I'm going to be influential to you to, to go make those calls
00:48:53.500
or, you know, to, to lead your team effectively, then you have to voluntarily say, okay, yep, I'll,
00:49:01.440
I'll decide to be influenced by you. So how do you build up influence with other people?
00:49:07.560
I think first it's, it's good to point out that influence has no title. So, um, cause some of the
00:49:16.740
emails I get as well, you know, I don't have the title or I'm not the boss or they don't work for
00:49:21.440
me. Well, I, I think I learned early on in the working world that, that there is positional leadership,
00:49:27.740
meaning they could, they, they lead based on their title. Sure. And then there's influential
00:49:32.940
leadership, which we're talking about now. It's being the type of person who is regularly adding
00:49:37.900
value to the lives of other people, always seeking opportunities or ways to add value to the lives
00:49:46.240
of, of, of others that you're surrounded by and voluntarily running towards the fire. Right.
00:49:52.960
That's like, if your house is on fire, I know what you'd be doing, right. You're going to run
00:49:57.660
towards that. Why, why, why others are going to run away. Sure. And when it, and that's the metaphor,
00:50:03.640
obviously, but, but thinking about that from your, from your life perspective is being the type of
00:50:07.540
person who is willing and able and desires to run towards the challenges to help solve them, to be
00:50:14.740
the person who's willing to dig in in those situations. Because then like, if you build a
00:50:20.620
reputation of that, of being that type of person, who do you think people are going to want to go to?
00:50:25.540
Of course. Right. Right. Anyone could lead. Think about like any sports team, like anyone can
00:50:29.580
lead. I know your son plays football. I've seen the pictures, like anyone can be a leader when
00:50:33.620
your team, when his team is winning. I want to see the guys on his team who step up when they're
00:50:38.500
losing. Yeah. When they're knocked on their back. Like how does, how does he treat the guy who gets
00:50:43.560
knocked on as, is he going to help them up? Right. Or is he going to give, give some words of
00:50:48.320
affirmation that are needed when things are going bad. Right. That's when we're real leadership and
00:50:52.740
character is exposed is when things are bad. So that's to me is, is really the, the, the key
00:51:00.140
point is when I think influence is revealed as seeing how people handle and even go after the
00:51:06.780
tough moments and try to tackle the tough problems and solve those as opposed to just being like,
00:51:12.700
Oh yeah, things are great. Yeah. I'm the captain. Let's go. I mean, anybody, anybody can do that.
00:51:17.900
And a lot of people do it's, it's the ones who step up when times are tough. Yeah. It's, it's
00:51:22.760
interesting that you talk about this positional leadership because I think, you know, to a degree
00:51:27.080
that might give you a little bit of authority, that certainly gives you some assumed credibility,
00:51:32.660
but even still you find those people out very quickly. Right. So even if you have this manager
00:51:37.520
who has this title, you're going to follow them initially, but if they don't prove that they have
00:51:44.640
that influence behind it, that positive influence behind it, it's not long before this, this person
00:51:49.840
has a mutiny on their hands. The one thing I'm curious though, about when you're, when you're
00:51:54.280
saying that, that influence doesn't have a title, I think the reason that somebody, let's say somebody's
00:52:00.700
listening to this podcast and, and you know, they want to lead, they want to step up. They don't have
00:52:05.520
a title. Maybe they're relatively new relative to the other people in the organization or business.
00:52:10.000
I think that they may be worried about two things, stepping on people's toes and, or being like the
00:52:18.120
brown noser that just gets on everybody's nerves. Do you, do you think that's the case or, or is it
00:52:23.420
something else? Well, so especially if you're working for an insecure boss, right? Robert Green will tell
00:52:31.040
you never outshine the master. So this is where some of your, um, I think the emotional intelligence
00:52:38.980
comes in with leadership. Uh, I've been in this position before and I've messed it up. Absolutely
00:52:44.220
messed it up. If, if you are working around or for people that are insecure, that are the ones who
00:52:52.440
are just, who, who, um, have not necessarily done the work on themselves, low self-awareness, uh, those
00:52:58.580
types of people you do is a very, the world is very gray, right? It's not black and white in this
00:53:03.960
regard. So it's, it's being very careful about how you go about it, right? Giving that person credit,
00:53:09.500
uh, trying to build coalitions from within, uh, certainly never doing anything to outshine that
00:53:16.260
person. Cause that's the quickest way to create a separation, uh, is if you're working for those
00:53:21.140
types of people. And so this is where, uh, I don't necessarily love that world, but, but we have to live
00:53:26.600
in reality. Like there are, there are a lot of guys listening who are like, yup, that's my boss.
00:53:31.000
That's exactly him. And I have to be careful about that. And so for, for me, it was just
00:53:36.140
understanding each, uh, even if it was my idea. Um, and I didn't feel like this manipulative. I
00:53:41.600
felt like this is kind of a survival mechanism. I would, I would give credit to him. Uh, I would,
00:53:47.480
I would regularly say, remember when we talked about this and you mentioned this, like I would just
00:53:52.600
regularly play into the ego of somebody else. If I knew that that's, that's the way they were.
00:53:58.860
Now, I don't think I would ever sign up for a long-term relationship for this type of person,
00:54:03.420
right? I would, I would be, I would be looking, looking for other opportunity. And this is what
00:54:08.840
I, frankly, what I did, um, looking for other opportunities, but you know, again, we have to
00:54:15.180
provide for our families. And so in that case, sometimes that means making money. We have house
00:54:20.840
payments and cars and kids and food, right? So you can't just abruptly quit when you face your,
00:54:26.540
face yourself in a situation with a person like that. Uh, but it's, it's understanding how to deal
00:54:31.700
with those types of people, give them, give them more credit than they deserve, uh, keep them happy.
00:54:36.840
I don't necessarily think that's brown nosing. I think that's understanding people. I think it's
00:54:41.140
understanding power dynamics, uh, that, that gets, uh, deep at a deep level from a psychological
00:54:47.100
perspective. I think it's a good point because you, and you talk about survival. I think it's more
00:54:52.960
than survival. I think it's a very effective strategy to excel. Like if you, if you help your
00:54:59.600
boss win or your manager win and that person then goes on and gets promoted, well, you know, like
00:55:06.520
who's going to take his spot over? Obviously he's probably going to lean more towards the guy that
00:55:10.420
helped him get to that point. Now, if he sees you as a threat, that may not be the case. So you don't
00:55:15.600
want to be the threat, right? You want to be the person who's, who's helping that individual win.
00:55:20.160
But in the meantime, like you said, you're looking for opportunities elsewhere. Um, you're
00:55:26.160
developing your own skills. I remember when I was considering leaving the financial planning
00:55:30.500
practice, if I remember correctly, I knew that I was going to be leaving about seven to eight months
00:55:36.520
before I left. And it would have been, it would have been hard for me to stick around in that
00:55:42.420
financial planning firm. Had I not been thinking of it in the context of this is a moment and an
00:55:49.480
opportunity for me to learn about business on somebody else's dime. So I took full advantage
00:55:56.460
of all of the training. I learned how to run my books. I learned how to market trainings that
00:56:01.540
were available in the office. I, I went to every single one of those. I invested time and energy.
00:56:06.060
And that way, when I left, I had all this knowledge that somebody else had helped me acquire. And I
00:56:11.160
didn't have to go learn in the school of Knox on, on, on, in the schoolyard. You know what I mean?
00:56:15.260
Like on the playground itself, like I didn't learn that stuff. Well, I mean, I think that's great
00:56:18.540
advice to people currently who are doing kind of things we've done. We both started our,
00:56:23.040
our podcast and our businesses on the side while working full-time jobs and both eventually left
00:56:29.880
to do this full-time. Um, that wasn't my initial goal. I don't know if it was yours, but I, I do think,
00:56:36.820
uh, it, it can be amazing to, to follow your, your passion, curiosity and obsessions with great
00:56:43.720
rigor on the side, because in a way it creates this freedom for you. I don't know if you felt
00:56:48.220
this, but I felt more, uh, I felt like I, I, I was not invincible, but I could speak truth to power
00:56:56.200
because I had this fun thing I was doing on the side that I knew at some point could potentially
00:57:00.940
be what I do full-time. And it actually made me a better employee, made me a better boss. It made me
00:57:06.260
better for my boss because I was, I wasn't felt like I never had the feeling if I get fired,
00:57:13.440
like I'm in trouble, I know I'm good. Right. And so that's why I, I, I encourage people to follow
00:57:19.800
something. They're really, uh, curious about on the side. It, it, it, it don't even think about this
00:57:24.700
could become a business, but if you are focusing on it on a daily basis, maybe it could, and you'll
00:57:29.520
find, you'll actually probably, probably be become better at your job. Remember when I was working,
00:57:34.700
uh, and had people reporting to me, there are, there are, there are some people that had these
00:57:39.160
really big interests on the side. One, I remember one guy in specifics, he owned a CrossFit gym and
00:57:44.560
I loved it. He was one of my best, uh, employees. Did he work as much as others on the day job? I
00:57:50.940
don't think so. He was, but he was much more productive when he did work and he was excited.
00:57:57.020
He was passionate. And I, and I think I gave him a freeing kind of a feeling by saying, talk to me
00:58:02.360
about this gym. Like, I want to go to it. I want to see what it's all about. Uh, why are you
00:58:06.440
passionate about it? And he did it with his wife. Like, so I think that those are some things to
00:58:10.820
think about too for guys. Um, uh, when, when you do have some extra time instead of watching Netflix
00:58:15.960
or TV or any of that, it's, it's, it's seeing like, what are you kind of curious about? And then
00:58:21.720
going down that rabbit hole more than, than, uh, than just chilling and relaxing in your free time
00:58:26.700
when you're not with your family. Yeah. Well, and I also think just taking a step in the unknown,
00:58:32.000
right? Cause what a lot of people will do is think, okay, I have to have this whole thing figured out
00:58:35.960
before I can leap into something else. No, man, you just have to take a step.
00:58:39.960
You started a podcast when you had another, another business to run. I started a podcast when I had
00:58:44.820
another business to run. I didn't think it would turn into order of man. It just turned into it over
00:58:50.480
time because I took one step, then another step, then another step, then another step. And here we are
00:58:55.140
five years later in the position that we are not because something miraculous happened one night,
00:58:59.700
but because there was, uh, an infinite number of little steps that pushed us in the right direction.
00:59:05.820
You don't set long-term goals. Do you, I don't, I have a longer term vision essentially for the type
00:59:14.260
of individual I want to be. Um, and then I break it down into quarterly goals. Right. I thought so.
00:59:19.420
It's from reading. Yeah. I'm, I'm with you. I was, I was curious what you thought about
00:59:23.900
like one, three, five year plans. Like I really struggle to make those. Like,
00:59:28.860
I think they're just pure guesses for the most part of like what could happen business-wise.
00:59:33.240
Well, that's the thing. Like go back, go back five years in your life. Anybody's listening,
00:59:37.240
like go back five years and ask yourself if there's any plan that you could have put together
00:59:41.780
that would have calculated for all the variables and unknowns and technology and everything that
00:59:47.640
you've experienced over five years. Absolutely not. So you're just setting yourself up for failure
00:59:52.520
when you start planning 90 days. Yeah. I've got a pretty good idea of what's going to be happening
00:59:57.520
in 90 days. And I can see trends that I might want to move towards in that timeframe.
01:00:01.940
Well, I, yeah. And I think of the analogy, I spoke with Alison Levine, she summited Mount Everest and
01:00:07.280
she's like, really, my focus was on the three feet in front of me. And it just was a bunch,
01:00:13.480
a bunch of times. I just had to say the next step. Okay. Three feet, three feet, three feet. And I was like,
01:00:21.220
that's, that's really the metaphor I feel like for the way to do this is, and, and again, you and I,
01:00:26.400
I feel like we have this in common of just consistently moving forward. It's not like
01:00:31.020
huge leaps. It's the next step, but never really stopping, just continuously going. And then before
01:00:37.200
you know it, you look down and you're like, Whoa, I'm on the top of this mountain. And, uh, now I'm
01:00:42.800
going to go climb another one. But, but that's kind of the, the, the mindset of, of progression.
01:00:47.100
I, I learned somewhere along the way, and I can't remember who taught me this, this concept
01:00:52.400
so well, they said, always make a decision to withdraw or quit or throw in the towel at your
01:01:01.160
next milestone. So for example, like running is a great analogy. If you're like, okay, I'm tired.
01:01:08.100
My legs are tired. I don't want to do this anymore. This is stupid. I used to tell myself, well,
01:01:12.680
just get to that road sign right there. You can decide to quit once you make it to that road sign,
01:01:18.540
but you make it to that road sign first. And then more often than not, what would happen is I'd get
01:01:22.620
to that road sign and I'm like, I might be able to go to that next stoplight up there. So like I'll
01:01:28.060
quit after I make it to that stoplight. Well, the same thing is true in your business is same thing
01:01:32.880
is true in relationships or if you're trying to get fit, like always delay the decision to throw in
01:01:41.460
the towel till the next milestone. Cause that next milestone, you actually might feel pretty good and
01:01:46.020
it will get you to the next one. That's served me very, very well. I love that mindset. I think
01:01:50.300
it's, it's so true. And now I think back to like actually running and that being a big thing for me
01:01:55.380
too, cause I'm with you. It's like, this hurts, but that's part of, part of like the, the growth and
01:02:01.720
also part of, you don't fully know what you're capable of until you put yourself in those positions to
01:02:07.020
stretch. And so whether it's physically and physically can, can manifest itself mentally as
01:02:12.100
well. Um, but I, I know I'm a, I'm physical like you are, right? I think the, the working out,
01:02:17.360
uh, physically can really impact you mentally and create more of those mental calluses for yourself
01:02:24.080
to be able to continue to keep going through the hard stuff. Like I'm building this massive online
01:02:29.420
course right now with a ton of videos and the written part of it, it's essentially writing a whole
01:02:34.580
another book and, and, and looking at the whole project, it's like, no way, but it's like, okay,
01:02:41.040
let me get this next lesson done. And then I'm going to get the next lesson done. I'm going to film
01:02:45.160
the next lesson and I'm going to write that one. Okay. Here's the action steps. Oh, now we got to
01:02:49.520
design it. Okay. You know, and it's just like each step though, get each one done. And now I look back
01:02:55.780
and I'm like, I'm 90% done with this thing, right? There's no way I'm quitting now. I am 90% done.
01:03:01.000
This giant project that at the beginning looked like this might take a year. Well, we just kept
01:03:06.600
going, just kept going. And now here we are. We're close to the finish line of this, this big,
01:03:11.500
this big deal. It's awesome, man. I'm excited to see what you put together. I mean, the same
01:03:16.120
concept with, I was working out with my son, my oldest son the other night, and he was doing some
01:03:21.240
push presses with these center mass bells that we have from, from Sorenax. They're actually really
01:03:24.860
cool. They're just like hollowed out bells and they've got handles inside of them. So he's doing push
01:03:29.820
press with these things. I'm like, Hey, like use these ones. And they are a little heavier. He's
01:03:34.040
like, no, those are too heavy. I'm like, well, how do you know? He's like, cause I'm just, I know how
01:03:37.700
to do these ones. And I said, well, that's great. Like you're strong enough to handle those, but
01:03:42.180
don't you want to be stronger? He's like, yeah. I said, you're never going to get stronger using the
01:03:46.060
same weights you're always using. Like you've got to ramp it up. He's like, yeah, but I won't be able
01:03:49.800
to do as much as I can with those. I said, right. But you're going to exert more effort,
01:03:54.940
more energy, use more of your muscle mass, build up more muscle mass, even though you're doing fewer
01:03:58.880
reps because these are heavy. So he got the heavier ones and he was pushing them. He's like,
01:04:02.200
these are hard. I'm like, yeah, but imagine in two months where those are going to become like
01:04:08.640
the ones that you're using now. He's like, Oh yeah, that's cool. And so he's hooked on these new
01:04:15.340
ones now, which is really powerful. Like learning moments you're creating for your sons and your
01:04:19.620
daughter. I think that's pretty amazing. And really what that is to me, what it says is
01:04:24.180
constantly be living at the edge of your current competency and comfort zone. I use both of those
01:04:30.500
for my life because you're having regular conversations. You are having regular conversations
01:04:36.440
with people who are going to stretch you from an intelligence perspective. And then you also do that
01:04:42.420
from a physical perspective. So if you're regularly living at the edge of that zone where you're going
01:04:48.560
over it on a regular basis, the edges stretch, they get bigger and bigger and bigger. And then you,
01:04:55.160
again, you look back at after, after a year of consistently stretching and you're, and it's a
01:05:00.940
much bigger being. And so you're, whether it's your brain or your muscle or your ability to persevere.
01:05:07.300
And during tough moments, if you're, if your mindset is I'm going to regularly put myself
01:05:12.340
on the edge and a little bit over the edge of my comfort and competency zone, you'll be a smarter
01:05:18.300
leader, be a better leader, be stronger. There's so much benefit from just living in that zone.
01:05:25.440
Absolutely. A hundred percent. I want to go back. I think we, we got so, I got so excited anyways,
01:05:30.060
talking and having this conversation. Um, I wanted to hit on the topic, uh, or the title of your book,
01:05:35.680
which is welcome to management. And there's a lot of, a lot of words we could use for leading,
01:05:42.060
right? Influence, leadership, management. What would you say is the distinction? If there is
01:05:47.400
any between management and leadership? Yeah, it's a great question. Um, and it real quick,
01:05:54.680
uh, the titling of a book, and I don't know if you had yours from the beginning. I did not. Um,
01:06:00.860
so I had hundreds of different options, but I sent, I sent early drafts to a lot of, uh, people who had
01:06:06.940
been on my show who had written bestselling books. And, uh, I actually got the title of, of my book
01:06:11.980
from Liz Weissman, uh, who wrote rookie smarts and a multiplier is both really good books. Um,
01:06:17.440
uh, because welcome to management was like, uh, it's really about that moment in your life
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when you make the leap from individual contributor to now leading a team of your own in the business
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world and where you become now a manager. And that's a big, big leap. And I've made that leap.
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And I've also made the leap from then leading leaders where you're a manager of managers.
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But I think the biggest one is that first jump where you're only responsible for yourself to
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now responsible for a team, um, from, from a leadership versus management perspective.
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And really I break it down into three, three, three aspects. It's leadership, it's managing
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and it's coaching. Um, and I think there are three distinct different aspects of that role.
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If, if you're in a position like that, where people report to you, um, from a leadership perspective,
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I really believe this is about the person who is understanding the power and helping others
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unleash that power within them. You're also providing some purpose direction, vision, aligning
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expectations, right? Uh, you're the, you, there is an inspiration aspect of that management to me
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is the part of the job that I didn't want to do initially. When I got the job, I remember I called
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my dad when I got the, my first management role, I was 27. And I said, look, I'm going to tell the
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inspirational stories. I'm going to be there for the team. Somebody else can handle the management
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part of like the numbers and understanding the system. And he, he, he stopped me cold in my tracks
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and he said, don't you ever say that again, you've got to do all three to do your job. Well, lead
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managing coach. And so managing is more like figuring out how to work within the constraints
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of the system that you're in. Uh, there's a, you have to administer and, uh, the stewardship of
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resources as a manager, uh, managers don't need to exist. If there were unlimited budgets and
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unlimited teams and not deadlines, that's why managers exist. So, so be grateful for that because
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that's why your job, if you are a manager exists, then coaching is what you are. It's what you need to
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be. And there's two forms of coaching when you're leading other people, coaching for development and
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coaching for performance. So coaching for development is long-term investing in that
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person to help them develop as a person, as a leader, if that's what they want to help them
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develop from a career perspective, coaching for performance is this micro seven minute conversation
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that you have with someone potentially who works for you to say, let's talk about this particular
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instance. What, what, well, what didn't, how could we improve these, these micro moments that are
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regularly happening so that their performance on a daily basis is improving, but you're also taking
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care of them from a development perspective. I think you've got to do all three of those lead
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manage and coach and the best bosses I've had in my life figured out how to do those well. And the bad
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ones, uh, in most cases didn't do any of them well, or were average at all of them or didn't think it was
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part of their role to be a coach, for example. And I think that's a, I think that's a, that's a mistake
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because that's part of your job. If people report to you is to help coach them.
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I like that trifecta. I'd never thought about it from that context. I thought you've got leaders,
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you've got managers and separately, you've got coaches and you're talking about incorporating
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all three elements into being an effective leader. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. How did when earlier you
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had talked about, um, finding those leaders and managers and mentors who you admired, respected,
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were influenced by in a positive way. And you were talking about taking bits and pieces of,
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you know, what this individual brings and what you like about this individual and how that person
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inspired you and then creating your own techniques and strategies and styles of leadership.
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How do you begin to incorporate some of this stuff? Cause it seems like, well, I'll give you an
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example. A lot of people feel overwhelmed and have even sent me emails, you know, about the,
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all the books that I've suggested. It's like, how do I read all these books and implement them? Or
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how do I listen to every podcast that you've ever recorded? And then like implement all of it. I'm
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like, well, you, you can't do that. Like, how do you begin to prioritize where you should put
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emphasis of learning and your attention and resources? Yeah, I think it's, I, and you probably
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learned this too. I've learned that some of the most, the leaders who have been sustaining excellence
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have built frameworks for how they behave and the choices they make. And so I've ended up
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kind of creating my own framework for how I make choices and behave that helps steer me a little
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bit better. So here, here's, I'll try to make it as quick as possible, but this is like, if I mapped
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out an ideal day when it comes to development. So every day, there's really four things that I think
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need to happen for me for it to be a quality development day. One, I need to be a consumer of
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knowledge of information. So reading books, having long form conversations with the mentor,
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recording podcasts, uh, listening to podcasts, uh, speaking, speak, speaking with others who are
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smarter than me. That's, that's the consumer side. That's the intake engine that I need to have.
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That's part of my framework to behave to, and this is really important in what, what kind of
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answering your question. You can't just be a learner. You have to be a doer. So you have to
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experiment based on your learning. So let's say you're learning about, uh, you know, mutual friend
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of ours, uh, Cal Newport talks about deep work, right? So that was part of the intake engine for
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today. So Cal says that I should block out an hour of my time for deep work today. So like, I'm going
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to, this is just one example. I'm going to experiment with that for the next five days. That's part of the
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experimentation phase of my learning, right? Of my, of my framework for behavior is I have to
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experiment. I have to actually do it third then, and very important in a step that I skipped too
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many times. You have to take a step back, reflect and analyze based on what you've taken in and what
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you've experimented with. I learned this. I put this into play. Now I'm analyzing what worked, what
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didn't, what should I continue to do, right? This is part of the framework of reflecting and
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understanding that. And then fourth, and this is something you do a lot, not, and I've been doing
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it a lot is the best form for me of learning is teaching, right? Writing, writing a book,
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giving a keynote speech, doing a solo podcast episode, the best form of learning, because
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in order, like when you're, when you're filming, let's say you're getting ready to film a video in your
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car. That's going to go in your Facebook group. I'm guessing you have got clarity of thought prior
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to hitting record, right? You have an idea of what you're going to say. You have an idea of what you
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believe you've thought about that. So the process of preparing to share what you've learned to help
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teach other people is the moment learning takes place, right? I know I have a really big keynote next
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week for a crowd that's very important to me. And, you know, I have a really good feeling about what
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I'm going to say. I know my talk, but leading up to that, I'm going to practice and rehearse and prep
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and write, and I will get crystal clarity of my belief system of what I think through the process of now
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teaching that to high level leaders at another place. So this, this four-step process for me is how to
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then know, okay, this is my intake engine, right? I'm a consumer of information of knowledge.
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These are my experimentations of what I've learned of, of what I've taken in. I've reflected on that
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to figure out, did this work? Did it not? Why did it work? Why didn't it, what should I continue to do?
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What should I stop doing? And now I'm going to get very clear on what I believe and what I think.
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And it's so clear that I can intelligently teach other high level performers. And so when you,
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when you go through those four steps on a regular basis, I find that the, the, the stuff that you
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want to continue that you're picking up from others stays in and the stuff that maybe you learn,
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but is not useful for you. It just self-selects out. And that has been my regular process for
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behavior for a few years now. And it's been very helpful as I've tried to find my voice and help
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other people and build a business, uh, that, that has been a good mode for me. It was to know
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very clearly, this is how I behave. This is what I'm going to do. And, uh, everyone I think needs
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to create that for themselves and they shouldn't, it's not all the same for everybody. You got to
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figure out what works best for you, but that's what's works. What has worked best for me.
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Right on. I like it, man. I like it. Well, let me ask you a couple additional questions as we wind
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down today. The first one, what does it mean to be a man?
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Uh, to me, uh, I, I think leadership is a big part of what it means to be a man. Obviously women
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lead as well, but I think, uh, the, the way I view it is, uh, I'm leading a team, I'm leading a
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family. So I, I need to, uh, uh, that that's part of the definition for me. Uh, I, I am inspired
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by people who follow and chase their curiosity and obsessions with great rigor. And I think that
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those are the types of people that I want to be around. Those are the types of guys that I want to
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be around is that they have this mode of, of, this is why I think you and I get along is because the,
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the, your, your, your standard mode of operation is to aggressively pursue what you're curious about,
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to learn more, to understand with the purpose of you learning, but also others learning along with
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you. And so I, I, I really think that is a, is an aspect of, of what it means to, uh, to stand up
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and be a man. Right on brother. I appreciate it. I like it. Uh, how do we connect with you? Obviously
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you've got the book coming out. Welcome to management. Of course, I encourage everybody
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to pick up a copy because if you want to lead in some capacity or manage and or coach, then it would
01:16:19.260
be a great resource for you. Uh, so how do we connect with you, man? Yeah, man. Uh, I appreciate
01:16:24.440
that. So Twitter and Instagram at, at, at Ryan Hawk one, two, and, uh, my website's learningleader.com.
01:16:30.780
All the stuff in my book, welcome to manage us there. We've got a bunch of pre-order bonuses.
01:16:34.700
I'm trying to really, uh, show my publisher McGraw Hill that we're going to, we're going to crush any,
01:16:40.220
uh, metrics they put in place and goals they have, uh, when it comes to pre-order. So I really
01:16:45.380
appreciate like you mobilizing your army of, of men to come after this book. And I, I certainly
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like I put really my life's work into it. So I'm not shy about promoting this, uh, because I firmly
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believe it can have that type of ripple effect. I think bad bosses are, uh, a real problem. And I
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think the work that I've, I've, I've published in this book, welcome to management can help
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you be a more effective leader and impact people in a positive way and realize the power
01:17:17.220
that you have when you're in those positions, because you are impacting so many others. And,
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um, uh, I really wrote the book that I wish I had when I first got promoted. And, uh, now I'm
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fortunate that, that it's done and it's, it's out there for you, for you to get. So I really appreciate
01:17:32.440
you doing, uh, doing that. And also I do have a text sign up. If you're, if you happen to be listening
01:17:36.800
on your phone, you can text the word learners, uh, L E A R N E R S learners to 44222. And you get all
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my stuff in that regard too. Right on. Well, I know the book certainly does all that you had just
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talked about. Um, really good book, great information. I've appreciated our friendship
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and getting to know each other and then watching your path as well. Cause you've been inspiring to
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me. So I appreciate it, man. Um, we'll get this information out to all the guys. There's a bunch
01:18:02.020
of pre-order stuff, I think like bonuses and things like that, that you'd mentioned. So guys take
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advantage of that. Uh, the book comes out later this month, but, uh, take advantage of the pre-order
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offers. All right, Ryan, I appreciate you, brother. Thanks for joining me again. Hey man, my pleasure
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as always. And, uh, let's, let's make the gap between our next conversation that we record.
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Sure. Uh, this is, let's do that. I love it. Love it. Right on. Thanks for that. Yeah, man.
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Gentlemen, there you go. My conversation with the learning leader, Mr. Ryan Hawk. I hope you enjoyed
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that one. Uh, really good book, very, very powerful book. He sent, sent me an advanced copy
01:18:37.140
and I had the opportunity to read and go through it. And, uh, obviously in preparation for this
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conversation, but I would highly recommend anybody who's getting into leadership or has the desire to,
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to pick up a copy of the book and, uh, get on his pre-release, uh, bonuses as well, because there's
01:18:54.360
some valuable, um, information and insights in his bonuses as well. So that's all I've got for you today,
01:19:00.000
guys. Again, I appreciate you being on this path of reclaiming and restoring masculinity. 2020 is
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