Order of Man - How to Rebuild Your Life When You've Lost it All ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 rebuilding your life starts with small little actions. And it's been said that through small

00:00:05.640 and simple things, great things come. It starts with number one of the six I'm going to share

00:00:12.040 with you today. It starts with stabilizing yourself and you have to stabilize before

00:00:16.180 you strategize. A lot of guys will go right into strategy mode and just start fixing stuff that may

00:00:21.200 or may not be broken. And I would tell you that's probably not the best approach because it's a

00:00:26.960 little reckless. Man, you've all experienced hardship in your life. That is not the question.

00:00:33.580 The question is whether or not you can rebuild yourself in spite of whatever you might have

00:00:38.560 experienced. I've got six strategies for you today that you can incorporate starting immediately,

00:00:43.900 starting right now. They're going to help you rebuild the foundation of who you are,

00:00:48.000 help you get a solid footing, help you get back on your feet and help you thrive in spite of what

00:00:54.140 may have happened to you, whether it was existential or self-imposed bankruptcy, job loss,

00:01:01.820 death of a loved one, potentially a divorce or a breakdown in a relationship. We've all had

00:01:08.940 hardship in our lives and that's not in question. It's not really a matter of if it will happen.

00:01:14.660 It's a matter of what we do when we're faced with that. And what I want to do is I want to make sure

00:01:19.180 that you have the tools and resources that you need to get yourself back on your feet as quickly

00:01:24.540 as possible and back in the game, because, you know, you can't do anything unless you're in the

00:01:29.740 game. You can't feel fulfilled, motivated, inspired, and you certainly can't help the people that you

00:01:35.160 love and care about. The reality is that there are moments in a man's life when everything changes,

00:01:43.240 everything potentially collapses. I had that happen about three and a half years ago when my ex-wife

00:01:48.300 came to me and said that she wanted a divorce. And it was like a movie scene for me. You know,

00:01:54.220 everything slowed down, like the focus came in and I was completely breathless and lost and confused

00:02:03.420 about what in the world was happening. And that's the moment that everything around me started to

00:02:08.360 crumble, started to fall apart. Not only with the relationship with her, the relationship I have

00:02:13.760 with my kids, the relationship I have with this business and you guys, and it's been a crazy three

00:02:19.700 and a half years, a lot of hardship, a lot of struggle, a lot of tears, frankly, and a lot of

00:02:26.320 growth and a lot of learning and a lot of making myself better and building relationships in a way that

00:02:34.000 they weren't before. And the only difference between wallowing in your own self-pity and making

00:02:40.180 yourself into something more is what you do right now. Okay. Your marriage could fall apart.

00:02:46.660 Your business could fail. You might lose money. You might lose reputation. You might lose direction

00:02:54.480 or purpose or fulfillment. You know, maybe even your health has impacted or your brotherhood,

00:02:59.200 the people in your life. I mean, I lost, when I went through my divorce, I lost what I would call family,

00:03:05.000 people that would, that have been around me for two decades of my life. Most of my adult life and

00:03:13.480 those individuals, they don't even look at me anymore. If I see them, they don't even look.

00:03:18.180 So you're, you're going to face hardship. And in those moments, that question is that

00:03:25.000 you need to ask yourself, where do I even start? And I think every man inherently asked that question,

00:03:32.740 right? He quietly asked himself, where do I even start? I don't know where to go. I feel lost. I

00:03:37.760 feel confused. I'm frustrated. I'm angry. And most men think that rebuilding their life requires some

00:03:43.560 dramatic comeback or some massive breakthrough breakthrough, but I don't think it does.

00:03:50.320 I think rebuilding your life starts with small little actions. And it's been said that through

00:03:56.240 small and simple things, great things come to pass. It starts with number one of the six I'm going to

00:04:05.020 share with you today. It starts with stabilizing yourself and you have to stabilize before you

00:04:09.500 strategize. A lot of guys will go right into strategy mode and just start fixing stuff that

00:04:14.320 may or may not be broken. And I would tell you, that's probably not the best approach because it's

00:04:20.440 a little reckless. I mean, I can appreciate doing that over doing nothing, but if you're

00:04:26.380 strategizing and you're thinking about all the things you're going to do and how you're going to

00:04:29.340 improve and you start getting out there, you're not really addressing the core issues. You need to

00:04:34.060 get your footing. There's a phrase in jujitsu, it's called position over submission. And as a young,

00:04:41.120 brand new martial artist, you might be tempted to just go for the submission and risk everything to

00:04:47.160 go through it. Very rarely does it work. You need to stabilize and position yourself first.

00:04:52.720 And then when you're in the right position, then you can start thinking about submission.

00:04:57.400 See guys, when everything falls apart, we panic. We start trying to fix everything all at once.

00:05:05.720 Right? It's like, okay, win my wife back, get in shape, go to AA, go to therapy, do all the little

00:05:12.000 things, get money in order, get back, like all the things at once. That's what I did. And it was

00:05:18.760 a mistake because it's not sustainable. And not only is it not sustainable, people can see through

00:05:25.680 that and it almost comes across as just forcing or manipulation. That's the mistake. Before you

00:05:31.180 rebuild your life, you have to rebuild that foundation. It's like any great building. There's

00:05:36.180 a gas station here that they just tore down and they're pouring in the footings right now. And

00:05:41.820 I look at those footings when I drive by and I think, okay, the reason they can build a solid

00:05:45.520 structure on top of that dirt is because of the solid footings. So you need to focus on the

00:05:52.440 fundamentals. And what is that? What are the fundamentals? Number one, sleep guys, seven hours

00:05:58.300 plus seven hours, go to bed at 10 or 11, wake up at five or 6am and do that. Just commit to that

00:06:05.900 right now. And I hope you're taking notes, physical training, 45 plus minutes every day, no rest days,

00:06:12.020 45 minutes every single day. Now what you do on Saturday and Sunday might be different than

00:06:16.420 three days of weightlifting and strength training. Maybe it's cardio two days a week. Maybe it's strength

00:06:22.300 training three days a week. Maybe it's jujitsu two days a week. And then maybe it's a hike or some

00:06:27.780 active recovery with some walking around the neighborhood and doing some ice baths and things

00:06:32.400 like that. But physical training, 45 minutes every single day, your nutrition. It's wild to me how we

00:06:41.060 want to complicate that. It's not complicated. Eat one gram of protein per body weight, per pound of

00:06:48.000 body weight, ideally that you'd like to be at. So if you want to be 180 pounds, 180 grams of protein per

00:06:52.900 day. The rest is just vegetables and some starch and water. That's it. You can thank me because you

00:07:00.760 can save all the money on your nutritionist at this point. Eat your ideal body weight in grams of

00:07:06.560 protein, throw in a different array of vegetables, broccoli, cauliflower, onions, squash, zucchini,

00:07:16.080 carrots, sprouts, asparagus, vegetables, and then your starch, sweet potato, rice, and that's it.

00:07:28.100 And then water. It's not difficult. Those are the fundamentals. Also, sunlight and movement. Guys,

00:07:35.820 get up, start moving around, move your body. As I get a little older, I'm almost 45 now, which is crazy

00:07:40.960 to say. I noticed that I just need to move more. My body just wants to lock up on me. I was hobbling

00:07:50.420 around the other day and my back was hurting and my oldest son said, dad, what's wrong? What did you

00:07:54.220 do? And I said, I slept. And if you're 45 or older, you know what that's like. It's like, I woke up and

00:08:01.080 my back was hurting because I slept. We are designed to move. We're designed to be out in nature. We're

00:08:06.480 designed to get sunlight. That vitamin D is crucial. Daily structure is another one. I've got my

00:08:12.560 structure right here. I map it out every single night. Every single night I ride in this battle

00:08:17.880 planner and I map out my next day. I map out my strategy. I, I mark what I did and didn't do every

00:08:24.460 single day. It's this, this is my religion right here. I go through this every single day. Guys, you

00:08:31.000 don't need a five-year plan when you're in chaos. You don't, you don't need to get everything mapped

00:08:37.020 out and figure out what your life's goals and dreams and desires are. I wish I could tell you

00:08:41.080 that if you had that, it would be okay. It won't. What you need is stability because a man who's calm

00:08:48.100 and who's grounded, he makes better decisions than a desperate frantic one. And you know what that's

00:08:58.800 like when you're frantic, you make dumb decisions, very emotionally based decisions. We're not going 0.96

00:09:03.200 to do that because we're going to ground ourselves as quickly as possible. Number two, we're going to

00:09:09.440 take ruthless ownership of our lives because the fastest way to stay stuck is to blame everybody

00:09:16.620 else. It would have been very easy for me to blame my ex about the breakdown of the relationship.

00:09:23.920 Now she has some culpability. I'm not immune to believing that because it's true, but I'm not

00:09:30.640 putting all the blame on her. If I lose my job or the business isn't doing well, I'm not putting

00:09:36.400 blame, unnecessary blame on my boss. There might be some reasons, but not blame. It's not the economy.

00:09:42.160 It's not your parents. I mean, how many grown men do we hear talk about their parents? They're 45,

00:09:46.760 50 year old men. And I, well, I came from a rough background and life was hard. It's like, okay,

00:09:52.100 that was five decades ago. What does that have to do with who you are right now?

00:09:58.920 So we're going to get rid of that. Some of, some of what you're telling yourself is the problem

00:10:05.660 might be true. And I would say that's a factor in what's happening. It's not always your fault,

00:10:12.460 but it's now your responsibility because you're a grown man because that doesn't matter. It doesn't

00:10:17.400 matter if even the true things were true. If it's causing you to act in a manner that's

00:10:23.680 an antithetical to who you want to be guys, the moment we take full ownership, something really

00:10:30.340 powerful happens. And I wish more men knew this. We regain our agency. We regain our sovereignty.

00:10:37.400 We regain liberty and control over our life. If I have to wait for somebody else to change their

00:10:43.340 behavior in order for my life to change, I am at the mercy. I have subjected myself to that

00:10:50.560 individual based on whether or not they do or don't want to change. So you might ask yourself

00:10:57.520 some really powerful questions and I journal. You guys have heard me talk about this. I'm just

00:11:01.340 grabbing out my note, my journal right here. Here it is right here. If you're checking this out on

00:11:05.820 YouTube, I journal every single day. There's no right or wrong way to do it. Sometimes it's a

00:11:11.300 paragraph and sometimes it's a novel, but I journal every day. You might ask yourself,

00:11:16.980 where did I ignore red flags? Where did I get complacent and lazy? Where did I compromise my

00:11:28.100 own standards? Where did I hand over responsibility where I should have kept it? And guys, ownership

00:11:35.300 isn't about shame. You might have some guilt. You might have some guilt over what you've done.

00:11:43.460 You might experience some shame, but that's not what this is about. It's not about wallowing in

00:11:47.340 your self-pity. It's about taking control over your life to the degree that it is.

00:11:53.980 Because not everything is within your control, but the way you think and the way you show up and how

00:11:58.180 you show up is definitely within your control. Stop giving it to other people. Number three,

00:12:04.720 when everything is crumbling around you, you have to do this. You have to simplify your life. And I

00:12:10.420 would say aggressively, very aggressively, very vigilant on simplifying your life. Because when

00:12:18.000 everything around you is crumbling, complexity is the enemy. It really is. You get overwhelmed and

00:12:25.820 inundated and bombarded with all these responsibilities and obligations and thoughts.

00:12:29.560 And you've got the negative self-talk going through your mind. And complexity is your enemy

00:12:33.640 when you're trying to rebuild. But from my experience personally, and what I've seen thousands of men go

00:12:41.620 through at this point is the men who rebuild their lives quickly are the ones who simplify everything.

00:12:47.700 It's about fewer commitments. It's about fewer distractions. It's about fewer emotional

00:12:56.080 entanglements. So what does this actually look like? Well, it might mean that you need to sell some

00:13:01.680 things, right? If you've got three vehicles and you've got a bunch of motorcycles and quads and

00:13:08.060 side-by-sides, maybe you need to sell a few things and put some money in the bank or pay off some debt.

00:13:13.460 It might mean cutting expenses. And so those lavish vacations you've been on or the unnecessary

00:13:19.920 spending or all the entertainment that you spend, yeah, some of that needs to go. So you can focus on

00:13:26.700 what matters. It also means getting rid of toxic relationships. You know, maybe there's a woman in 0.99

00:13:33.220 your life who's toxic and creating problems for you. She's got to go. You don't have time to focus on that.

00:13:38.880 It might mean even a friend that you feel like, well, I have some loyalty. This guy has been with

00:13:44.660 me for 30 years. We went to high school together, but you know, I get in trouble when I'm with him.

00:13:48.560 He's got to go. It's part of the problem that's creating issues in your life. It might mean pausing

00:13:56.220 projects. And that's hard because you've got to get on the phone and you've got to call people and

00:14:00.580 say, Hey, I'm sorry. I can't do that project anymore. I can't do what I committed to doing. And

00:14:04.380 I would love to, but I'm not going to be able to pour into it. And you've got to have to do that.

00:14:10.820 It's, it doesn't mean you're shrinking in your life. It means that you're concentrating your

00:14:15.980 effort. You're concentrating your force. That's it. Energy cannot be created nor destroyed physics

00:14:24.000 one-on-one. It can be transferred and that's it. It can be changed and transferred. And so what we

00:14:30.240 need to do is we need to take all of that energy going out towards other people and extracurricular

00:14:34.860 activities and extra expenses and baggage and bull crap and all this stuff. And we need to eliminate

00:14:40.480 it and take all of the energy that we're going to acquire through eliminating that and put it into the

00:14:46.040 few things that actually matter, changing your life, changing your thought process, changing your

00:14:51.020 patterns, your behaviors, your actions. It's like a laser instead of a, like a floodlight.

00:15:01.740 You know, sure. If I, if I take a floodlight and I shine it over my backyard, I can see a lot of

00:15:07.320 things broadly, but it doesn't have any impact. I just see it. But if I take all of that energy and I

00:15:14.920 concentrate it into this force, I can actually do some real damage with that laser. It's the

00:15:20.720 sniper versus somebody who's just shooting all over the place, hoping that they hit something.

00:15:25.440 I need you to be sniper. Like you need you to be sniper. Like in moments like this, what do you

00:15:29.840 have to get rid of? Number four, rebuild your body first. This is the fastest lever that you have

00:15:38.320 guys. You're going to hear people say, I'll go to therapy, get your mind right. And, and I'm not,

00:15:43.440 I'm not dismissing that you should get your mind right, but you need to rebuild your body first.

00:15:49.600 It is the greatest and fastest lever that you have. And here's why. When a man trains his body,

00:15:56.400 his confidence automatically goes up. His discipline returns and comes back to him.

00:16:03.840 His emotional regulation, it improves. He's more grounded. Can you say the same thing about going

00:16:12.000 to a therapy session? The emotional regulation, I might give you that. But can you say when you go to

00:16:17.640 a therapy session that you walk away and you feel more confident in who you are or do you feel less

00:16:21.940 confident because you realize the inadequacies that you have? Can you say that actually helped improve

00:16:27.820 your level of discipline? No, it gave you some ideas, some inspiration, some thoughts, but it didn't

00:16:31.540 improve your discipline. And again, I'm not beating up on that. I'm saying there's a hierarchy to the way

00:16:36.700 that you should show up when you're trying to rebuild everything. And that is go get your body right

00:16:42.040 first. And this is why men throughout all of human history have used physical hardship to rebuild

00:16:49.480 themselves. That's lifting. It's running. It's rocking. It's training. Every rep that you complete

00:16:56.120 at the gym or every step that you take on the mountain or every step that you take on that inclined

00:17:03.900 stair stepper or every minute that you're on the jujitsu mat training with somebody else who's trying

00:17:10.340 to hurt you becomes what I would call a vote. A tangible vote for the man that you're going to become.

00:17:22.380 The man that you want to be. The man that maybe you've been.

00:17:25.600 Make sure you get that physical training right. Number five, this one is probably the hardest for

00:17:34.480 me. I would say it is the hardest of all the things I'm going to share with you today. This is

00:17:38.980 the hardest thing. Stack small wins. I am not good at this. I failed over and over at rebuilding as

00:17:48.000 efficiently as I could because I have tried to take that leap from rock bottom, the bottom of the

00:17:56.580 barrel to greatness. And I just don't have what it takes. I'm sorry, you don't either. You don't have

00:18:02.400 what it takes today. I'll add that caveat. You don't have what it takes today to go from here,

00:18:07.300 the rock bottom of your life. Your wife just said she wants a divorce. You just got a crippling medical

00:18:13.020 diagnosis. You just left the attorney office where you filed for bankruptcy. Rock frickin' bottom to

00:18:19.700 now I have the relationship of my dreams and the body that I've always wanted and the financial

00:18:26.640 prosperity and abundance that I've never had before. I'm sorry, it doesn't work like that.

00:18:32.480 Unless you win a lottery or something and get lucky. And even then it goes away. It's fleeting.

00:18:38.740 Rebuilding your life for me and for the guys that I've worked with is about stacking

00:18:42.840 small wins. Just wake up on time. You could do that. You might not be able to get to the top

00:18:49.440 of the well that you've dug for yourself, but you can wake up on time tomorrow morning.

00:18:53.440 You absolutely could do that. You can train today. I don't even care what time you're listening to

00:18:58.120 this. You can train today. You can go for, even if you don't have the time, as you say, you can get

00:19:04.660 home and at six o'clock and say, Hey fam, let's go after dinner. Let's go for a couple miles around the

00:19:12.600 block. You know, and you take 30, 40 minutes as a family. You could do that. Well, why can't you do

00:19:18.340 that? You could make a difficult phone call. Maybe there's somebody you've needed to share

00:19:26.360 something with. Maybe you've needed to ask for forgiveness or offer forgiveness. You can make that

00:19:33.120 phone call. You can complete the task that's been looming over you. Maybe it's an email that

00:19:39.500 needs to be sent. Maybe it's, you know, finishing that last little finishing touch on the project

00:19:46.300 that you've been working on. You could, you could do that. You can keep your word. I had a challenge

00:19:52.740 with this because I'm helping my two oldest boys with their sponsorships for the lacrosse team.

00:19:57.160 And I committed to doing this and I had to have a reality check about a week, week and a half ago,

00:20:03.360 where I was like, man, I'm not doing as good as I said I would do. That wasn't anything external,

00:20:09.240 acting upon me. It was just my own inadequacy. And so I recommitted, buckled down, sacrificed some

00:20:16.280 of my own personal time and got after it. And I feel so much better because of it. Each win that

00:20:21.440 you have with yourself rebuilds trust in yourself. And that's the most important trust that you can

00:20:27.980 have. Can you trust yourself to do what you say you're going to do? And the only way to answer that

00:20:34.640 question in the affirmative is to do the things that you said you're going to do.

00:20:40.760 When a man trusts himself, everything changes because he knows that regardless of what comes

00:20:46.780 in his path, he will be able to overcome it. Number six, the last point I want to share with

00:20:52.400 you guys today, find brotherhood. I know you're so tired of hearing me say this, but it cannot be

00:20:56.820 overstated. Isolation is where most men die. Physical atrophy, emotional atrophy, you become

00:21:06.340 dysregulated, spiritual abandonment and breakdown. You lose morality. You lose this idea of a higher

00:21:14.500 power and higher purpose and calling for your life. When you lose everything in your life, again,

00:21:21.100 whether it's self-inflicted or existential, the temptation is to withdraw. It's to isolate.

00:21:28.440 And that's exactly when you need other men the most. It's pretty wild inside of our brotherhood,

00:21:32.660 the iron council. When guys are dealing with hardship, a lot of them will message me and say,

00:21:36.760 Hey, Ryan, I'm dealing with this thing with my wife, or I'm dealing with some financial issues.

00:21:40.880 And so I'm going to leave the iron council until I get this fixed.

00:21:43.020 Men, that is like saying that, let's say you've been going to the gym for every day for 10 years

00:21:51.640 religiously. And then you have a medical scare or a health situation. And then you say, well,

00:22:01.180 I'm not really going to take care of my body until my body improves. What are you talking about?

00:22:06.540 That sounds absolutely ridiculous because it is. And so when guys leave brotherhood, 0.91

00:22:14.600 whether it's the iron council or something else, because they're dealing with hardship,

00:22:17.560 my answer is this is the time you need it. You've been investing for years and now you're about to

00:22:23.740 realize a return and you're leaving. That's another great analogy. You've invested all this money in

00:22:30.240 the stock market, the stock market's rallying, but before it hits its peak, you're like, I think I'll pull

00:22:34.020 my money out. What? This is why you've been investing to take part in the growth of the stock

00:22:41.060 market, leave your money in there and participate in the benefit of what the stock market is going to

00:22:45.420 provide for you. See, when I say it that way, the stock market or the health aspect, it sounds

00:22:52.000 absolutely silly because it is. But when it comes to our own mental wellbeing, what we say is, oh, I got

00:23:01.380 to, I got to retreat. I got to withdraw. I got to focus on myself. I can't pour into the brotherhood

00:23:06.300 ridiculous. That's when you need it the most. That's when you're going to realize the return 0.99

00:23:11.220 in those moments. You need men who are going to call you out. You need to challenge your thinking.

00:23:17.160 I was talking with one of our guys inside the iron council today. His name is Colin. And I asked him

00:23:21.200 why you joined the iron council. He said, because I needed to challenge my own level of thinking.

00:23:26.100 And he has, and he's better for it. You need men who are going to push you forward. Almost literally

00:23:32.940 like push, go, go, go. Let's do something. You need men who remind you of who you are and what 1.00

00:23:39.760 you're capable of. Sometimes it doesn't feel like you're capable of much, but you are. And it might

00:23:44.500 take somebody else leaning into you and saying, no, you can do this. I know you can. I've seen you

00:23:48.300 do it. It's impossible to build your life alone. Impossible. You cannot show me a time in human

00:23:57.080 history where somebody has built themselves into who they're capable of alone. Even Jesus Christ,

00:24:03.120 who many of you would say is the greatest man. And I believe this, the greatest man to ever walk the

00:24:07.660 earth. Did he do that alone? No. He enlisted disciples to walk in the battle with him. So if you're

00:24:16.020 a spiritual man, if you're a Christian man, if you're a believer and you're isolating, you are 0.90

00:24:20.220 also not being Christ-like. That might sound a little confrontational, but tell me where I'm wrong.

00:24:28.260 He brought disciples together so that they could walk together. Now, did he need them? Probably not

00:24:34.100 because he's a perfect human being, but he recognized that they needed each other.

00:24:39.500 They needed men who would lean on each other. They needed men who would push each other, who would hold 0.97

00:24:44.420 each other accountable, who would call each other out. Even when they were fishing in the seas, they

00:24:49.460 were doing it together. No man rebuilds his life alone, right? Warriors fight in units. They don't

00:24:57.820 go at it alone. They coordinate. They work together. They strategize. They get tactical with other people.

00:25:04.280 Guys, if you've lost everything, I want you to hear something.

00:25:06.940 First, I'm sorry you're going through that. Not I'm sorry as it's at my fault, but I'm sorry that

00:25:14.040 you're experiencing that. I don't want you to suffer. I don't want to suffer.

00:25:20.720 But the suffering is going to redefine you. And it's just a matter of how. It can either break you

00:25:27.860 and you'll shrink away into obscurity or it can make you. And you can use this rock bottom moment

00:25:37.800 as a moment of growth. You know, I think about runners, track stars. And when they get down,

00:25:49.240 it says on your mark. And so you put your feet in the block. I'm probably getting the terms wrong,

00:25:52.900 but you put your feet in the block and then they say, get set. You raise your legs and your butt and you 0.92

00:25:57.640 get ready to go. And then they say, go. And the first move is pushing against the starting blocks. 0.95

00:26:03.920 That's why they're there. You're pushing against something. Again, another physics lesson.

00:26:11.240 You need to push against rock bottom. And you're not starting from nothing. You're not starting in

00:26:19.580 air or this vacuum of space, empty space. You're starting from experience. You know more.

00:26:25.080 You have men in your corner. You can see things more clearly. You're harder to fool or take

00:26:30.640 advantage of. And the man who rebuilds himself after a collapse is always the most dangerous in

00:26:36.920 the right way. The most disciplined, the most grounded than that man who just had it easy his

00:26:44.120 whole life or who crumbled in the face of adversity. So what I want you to walk away with is that we're

00:26:50.720 not going to ask ourselves, why did this happen to me? Now you might ask what exactly happened that I

00:26:57.300 need to improve, but I think, you know what I'm saying? Why did this happen to me? The world's

00:27:00.820 out to get me. If I didn't have bad luck, I wouldn't have any luck at all. No, that's not the question.

00:27:06.140 The question is who do I become because of what I've experienced? Who do I become now?

00:27:13.160 No. Rebuilding your life isn't about reverting and going back to who you were. It's about becoming

00:27:22.640 the man that you should have been all along. These are the lessons I'm learning personally.

00:27:28.920 So when I share with you, it's not because I have it all figured out. It's because I've learned a lot

00:27:34.360 of these things the hard way. And I don't want you to have to learn those things the hard way.

00:27:38.020 I'd rather you do it the easy way. I don't want you to touch the stove. A lot of you guys still will.

00:27:43.020 And if you do, we can recover, but we can only do it this way. So again, number one, guys,

00:27:49.460 stabilize before you strategize. Number two, take ruthless ownership of your life. Number three,

00:27:58.880 simplify your life aggressively. Number four, rebuild your body first. You're going to do the other

00:28:06.980 things, but your body comes first. Number five, stack the small wins. You don't need the big wins.

00:28:12.320 You need the small wins. Base hits. That's all we're looking for. And number six, find brotherhood.

00:28:16.280 If you are interested in brotherhood, order a man.com slash iron council, order a man.com slash iron

00:28:22.380 council. Guys, I hope that serves you and I hope it helps. Let's keep the conversations rolling.

00:28:26.760 If you have topics you want me to address, let me know and I will address those topics and I'll find

00:28:31.880 people to come on the podcast who are qualified, incredible, and reputable to talk about the

00:28:36.840 issues that matters to us as men. You can hit me up on Instagram at Ryan Mickler or at order of man

00:28:43.320 active on both. Share this on YouTube, share this on Spotify or Apple podcasts, wherever you're

00:28:48.780 listening, shoot a text to somebody who needs to hear this, that might be dealing with rock bottom

00:28:53.060 right now. And if you know a guy who's dealing with rock bottom and you don't know how to approach

00:28:56.720 him, this is what you should do on your phone right now. Click the share button on whatever

00:29:02.420 platform you're on, pull up the guy who you need to message, send him a text and say, Hey, John,

00:29:09.700 I know you're going through it right now. I find it hard to tell you what to do,

00:29:14.400 but I came across this resource and it resonated with me. I think it might resonate with you

00:29:20.060 and hit send, give them the link and hit send. That's my ask of you. All right, guys,

00:29:25.000 we'll be back next week until then go out there, take action, rebuild your life, do everything

00:29:31.120 that you can do to improve your life, especially when you've lost it all.

00:29:35.120 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:29:41.780 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.

Order of Man - March 13, 2026

How to Rebuild Your Life When You've Lost it All ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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