Order of Man - ITT 010： Training the Mind ｜ Joshua Laycock

00:00:00.060 Gentlemen, welcome to In the Trenches, an Order of Man podcast dedicated to interviewing

00:00:04.360 ordinary, everyday men like you and me who are currently in the battle of becoming better

00:00:08.840 men.

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00:00:13.680 husbands, fathers, business owners, and community leaders.

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00:00:22.320 Your host for this podcast is a man who is not only in the trenches, but has drastically

00:00:26.920 changed his life for the better over the past two years.

00:00:29.260 Mr. Bubba Downs.

00:00:32.280 What's going on, guys?

00:00:33.380 Bubba here, back with In the Trenches.

00:00:35.480 Today, I'm joined by Joshua Laycock.

00:00:37.420 What's going on, brother?

00:00:39.380 Oh, you know, I'm just hanging out, enjoying this beautiful weather, finally.

00:00:43.260 Life is good.

00:00:44.240 Yeah?

00:00:44.800 So you're up in Canada, right?

00:00:47.080 Yeah, I'm just north of Toronto, and we had a winter that did not want to give up.

00:00:51.300 So we thought we were good, then we had a massive ice storm, and then we went to, like, full-blown

00:00:56.300 summer.

00:00:56.780 It's great.

00:00:57.680 Yeah, that's nuts.

00:00:58.480 I can't even imagine living somewhere where it's not at least 70 degrees by January.

00:01:04.940 No.

00:01:06.120 Put a minus in front of it.

00:01:07.460 Maybe that's us, but I had a chance to get the lawnmower out and everything today, so

00:01:11.240 it was good.

00:01:11.760 It's good.

00:01:12.060 I think it's here.

00:01:13.200 Fingers crossed.

00:01:13.920 It's here to stay.

00:01:14.580 Here to stay.

00:01:15.220 Right on, man.

00:01:16.380 Yeah.

00:01:16.580 All right, man.

00:01:16.920 Well, let's jump into this, brother.

00:01:17.920 Tell us a little bit about where you started whenever you woke up and started on this journey.

00:01:25.200 You know, it's funny, actually, that you talked about it as waking up, because I literally

00:01:30.580 describe this journey that I'm on as an awakening.

00:01:36.120 And that's the term I use for a lot of people, actually.

00:01:39.080 So I'm super stoked that you referred to it that way.

00:01:42.600 You know, I've talked about it.

00:01:46.000 I've written about it.

00:01:47.220 I even had a chance to talk about it down at the Nashville meetup.

00:01:51.580 So for me, I guess kind of looking back on it, I didn't realize, but I was just drifting

00:01:58.200 through life.

00:01:59.340 Like I, outwardly, I was a really successful guy, right?

00:02:03.660 I've got a good job.

00:02:04.540 I've got an amazing family at the time.

00:02:06.280 I was married.

00:02:06.840 I had a dog.

00:02:07.560 I've got a young son.

00:02:08.940 Life is good.

00:02:09.960 Living on the west coast of Canada at the time, and arguably one of the most beautiful

00:02:14.840 places on earth.

00:02:15.660 And like, what do you have to complain about?

00:02:19.360 And I was utterly miserable.

00:02:21.580 And it manifested itself at a job that I had taken.

00:02:25.780 And I just, my mind was taken over.

00:02:29.140 I couldn't stop it from spinning, you know, playing all these different scenarios.

00:02:32.620 You know, I should have said this.

00:02:33.560 I should have done that.

00:02:34.500 I couldn't sleep.

00:02:35.460 It was impacting my health.

00:02:36.700 It was ruining vacations with my family.

00:02:39.380 And I remember coming home one night, just terrified that everything was going to fall

00:02:45.660 apart if I couldn't get this together.

00:02:47.840 And I think I literally sat down on my computer and Googled like,

00:02:50.820 how do you shut your brain down?

00:02:52.980 And I got a bunch of resources on mindset and mindfulness and just went deep down the

00:03:00.960 rabbit hole.

00:03:01.440 And that was the awakening that I had never considered my mind to be something that you

00:03:07.660 can train.

00:03:08.580 And that was it.

00:03:10.580 That was it for me.

00:03:12.620 The, it was a Mark Devine book that I ended up diving into and just adoring.

00:03:18.440 And it was Mark Devine, I think was on one of Ryan's podcasts.

00:03:21.020 And that was, that was it for me that I was hooked.

00:03:25.420 And I think it saved a lot of things.

00:03:27.420 Like I'm not going to try to be dramatic to suggest that it saved my life, but I'm pretty

00:03:30.900 sure it saved me from a life of mundane mediocrity.

00:03:36.160 And, uh, yeah, I, I, I'm just very blessed for it.

00:03:42.160 Right on, man.

00:03:43.580 So you say that you were, you were miserable in the job that you had and that you kept replaying

00:03:50.640 scenarios of what if, what that.

00:03:52.860 So what do you think was the reason that you were, you were replaying those scenarios?

00:04:00.460 Well, the specific role was interesting because I had been asked to, to join a company and

00:04:06.160 do something, um, for them.

00:04:08.920 And, uh, it didn't turn out as advertised.

00:04:11.500 I don't have any ill will towards them.

00:04:13.260 Um, they had to pivot at the time.

00:04:15.680 So that brought me in to do one thing and was expected to do another.

00:04:19.240 And I took it really personally at the time.

00:04:20.880 Um, you know, I think it was just one of those things where I was trying to be professional

00:04:26.880 in, in, in my job and, uh, was having a hard time being honest with people and candid with

00:04:32.740 people.

00:04:33.000 And quite frankly, I was just dealing with a lot of anger and rage, which has no place

00:04:36.720 in a workplace.

00:04:38.000 Um, so of course it was, I'm going to be civil.

00:04:41.620 I'm going to be, uh, kind to the people around me, but I was just bottling it up.

00:04:47.160 Um, and it's funny looking back, I, I was pushing my career really hard.

00:04:54.540 Um, I mean, I still am, but at the time I was being a different person at work.

00:04:59.600 Like I, there was no congruity in my life.

00:05:01.500 I was, uh, you know, I, it's funny.

00:05:04.700 I actually met my wife, um, at a previous job.

00:05:08.160 And, uh, when she started dating me, people would say like, why are you dating him? 0.96

00:05:12.460 He's kind of an ass and she would joke and say, I really wish that you got to know who 0.97

00:05:16.380 he was on the weekend and the evenings. 0.99

00:05:18.460 Um, because that's the reality was I was a totally different person at work and it's

00:05:23.480 exhausting.

00:05:24.380 Uh, I didn't realize it at the time, but I was, I was, I was a complete, you know, just, 0.99

00:05:29.340 I was a jerk at work. 0.98

00:05:30.140 I was pushing hard all the time. 1.00

00:05:32.120 And then I could let my guard down when I was at home around the people that I cared about

00:05:35.140 and loved it.

00:05:35.520 And that's just, you know, that's not a way to live.

00:05:37.460 Um, so I was constantly stressing and pushing my mind in different spaces, in different

00:05:42.340 ways, never, never allowing it to be who it wanted to be.

00:05:47.040 So what I'm getting is that, that not being who you want to be is, is such a physical,

00:05:51.860 emotional, psychological drain that it's just not worth it.

00:05:57.680 Does that sound about right to you?

00:05:59.480 Yeah, absolutely.

00:06:00.920 But I think the really dangerous part of it is that, you know, until you pay attention

00:06:07.680 to that reality, I don't think that a lot of people realize that that's what's going

00:06:12.560 on.

00:06:12.980 Like, you know, pre, pre-awakening, I'm doing air quotes for the people, um, at home, like

00:06:17.860 pre-awakening, I didn't realize that that was a thing.

00:06:21.520 I just sort of, I think I just accepted that this was how life was, that it was going to

00:06:27.360 be a struggle.

00:06:28.020 It was going to be, you know, there were moments of really amazing things like seeing my son

00:06:33.000 born and meeting my wife and all those things are just incredible, but it was, the highs

00:06:37.280 were high and the lows were really low.

00:06:39.880 Um, and until I realized that there was something else that could be accomplished, that there

00:06:45.020 was so much potential beyond that.

00:06:47.440 Um, I was just kind of, I think, numb to it or was accepting that this was the reality

00:06:52.340 and it wasn't.

00:06:53.480 So yeah, it just, it takes a toll on you, man.

00:06:55.880 And you don't even realize it.

00:06:58.020 Now, I know you and I talked a little bit offline and you, you still deal with those

00:07:02.160 really high highs and really low lows.

00:07:04.080 Am I, am I correct in saying that?

00:07:06.480 I do.

00:07:07.300 I mean, I think with all the work that I've done over the past two and a half, three years,

00:07:11.740 I think, I mean, certainly the highs are just as high.

00:07:14.700 Thankfully, the low, the lows aren't as low, but yeah.

00:07:17.940 Uh, I think in a lot of, I think a lot of people still struggle with that, right?

00:07:22.480 Where you can have, you can have an off day and unless you deal with it really effectively,

00:07:26.920 really quickly, it can turn into something pretty bad and, you know, fight, flight, or

00:07:30.920 freeze.

00:07:31.260 A lot of people have.

00:07:32.140 And, um, I always thought that I was the fight kind of person.

00:07:36.060 And while in certain scenarios I am, I also learned that I'm a bit of a flight kind of

00:07:40.800 person.

00:07:41.460 Um, you know, something bad happens and you're like, ah, never doing that again.

00:07:45.240 Or, um, you have an off day or, or you, you have a failure and you're like, well, not meant

00:07:49.940 for me.

00:07:50.320 And then you kind of have to catch yourself, but it's that awareness and the training that

00:07:54.020 allows you to catch yourself.

00:07:55.200 Whereas before I just would have run away.

00:07:56.520 Um, I might sometimes get a couple steps going in the other direction before I realize it,

00:08:01.740 but at least now I'm, I've equipped myself with the tools necessary to catch myself.

00:08:06.600 Right.

00:08:07.500 Yeah.

00:08:07.860 Because I mean, you're actually one of the first people that I reached out to, to get

00:08:10.720 onto this thing and you turned me down.

00:08:14.300 Well, not at first, right?

00:08:15.360 I said, yeah.

00:08:16.220 And, uh, yeah.

00:08:17.140 And then you came back and said, no.

00:08:18.660 And so why, why, what made you change your mind after you said yes the first time?

00:08:23.600 Um, I don't even remember the specifics to be completely honest with you.

00:08:27.760 Um, I don't, I don't remember what exactly was happening.

00:08:31.380 Um, could have been something physical, could have been something, uh, work related, could

00:08:35.560 have been mental, could have been a couple of nights of no sleep with a young family and

00:08:40.280 kids who aren't yet sleeping through the night.

00:08:43.460 I just remember though, thinking to myself, like, I guess it's worth taking a step back.

00:08:50.800 One of the things that I, I hold to myself is that I now see how much absolute potential

00:08:59.100 that I have by being able to be aware of what one can accomplish when you put your mind

00:09:04.200 to it and train your mind to do it correctly.

00:09:07.700 The downside of knowing that potential then is that it really opens the gates for a lot

00:09:12.420 of people to then be really critical of the things that they're now aware of.

00:09:15.800 Right.

00:09:15.960 I mean, when, when you start to be hyper aware of who you are as an individual, um, you're

00:09:22.820 going to, you're going to start looking at the things that are not as positive.

00:09:26.200 You're going to look at the things that obviously that you are blind spots to you or that were

00:09:30.320 blind spots for most of your life.

00:09:32.240 Um, and then I think also, which was even more rattling for me was there were things in

00:09:37.020 my life that I thought I had my act together on, um, or with, and, and I didn't as much as

00:09:42.260 I wanted to.

00:09:43.260 So it was probably just a situation where to be honest, I was kind of feeling either

00:09:46.800 sorry for myself or I was feeling down on something where I just thought I'm not reaching

00:09:50.700 the potential that I feel that I should be for myself.

00:09:54.380 And maybe one part of it was who am I to talk to these people out there about where they

00:09:59.180 need to go if you're not, if you're not there yet.

00:10:01.680 Um, or maybe it was even some weird way of depriving myself of something that I wanted

00:10:05.660 to do because that's just the way that I deal with being down.

00:10:10.780 Um, and it was an amazing pep talk by my wife and, uh, just sort of zeroing in on what's

00:10:17.440 important, remembering that this really is a journey as cliche as it is.

00:10:20.720 Cliches are there for a reason.

00:10:22.260 Um, and then I reached out and thankfully you were pretty cool with me having a mulligan

00:10:26.640 on that call.

00:10:27.600 And I'm, I'm glad that you came back, man.

00:10:29.120 Cause I really do think that your story is something that needs to be told and you really

00:10:32.780 do do a lot of great work and I, you know, having these guys here, cause I mean, this

00:10:39.000 is in the trenches, you know, this is a Ryan's Tuesday show where he's interviewing guys that

00:10:44.840 have it figured out, you know, this, these are the guys that are in there getting it done

00:10:48.860 and you, you do the work to actually get it done.

00:10:52.680 So whenever you came away from that hurdle, what are, what are some of the other big ones

00:10:56.700 that you've come across, man?

00:10:57.580 Well, you know, I think, I think there's this concept of we are good enough.

00:11:07.760 Um, I really think the biggest hurdle is, is when we become aware of who we are on another

00:11:14.760 level, um, it is a very scary thing and you're then faced with a very real consequence of what

00:11:21.500 are you going to do with that knowledge, right?

00:11:23.400 You can choose to dwell on it and, and allow it to destroy you further, or you can use

00:11:28.800 it to propel yourself forward.

00:11:31.460 And it's interesting because I, you know, one of the things that I struggle with is now

00:11:37.640 knowing what can be done and how, if you train your mind properly, how much like potentially

00:11:45.520 you can unlock that so many people don't even realize are there.

00:11:48.580 I sort of said to myself, like, I don't know that I could not help other people realize

00:11:56.180 that level of awareness, that awakening to help them propel.

00:11:59.000 Cause I see so many people that are just drifting through life and are miserable.

00:12:03.760 Um, so I want to help them out.

00:12:05.660 And then I, of course, it's like I said, you know, you kind of struggle with, well, who

00:12:09.860 am I to actually talk to these people about this?

00:12:12.040 Cause I haven't figured it out yet.

00:12:13.440 So I think it's really, it's thrown my world upside down, but I wouldn't trade it at all.

00:12:19.000 Um, so I think the other hurdle is just, it's tossed a level of uncertainty in my life, which

00:12:27.140 like I said, I'll take the uncertainty, but that potential upside any day of the week over

00:12:33.640 just drifting, um, and going through life with your eyes closed.

00:12:37.320 You just can't once you've seen it.

00:12:40.080 Yeah, absolutely, man.

00:12:41.440 One of the guys on my battle team made a post in order of man the other day talking about

00:12:45.440 how he was a victim of the iron council, because now he can never go back to being what he

00:12:49.560 was.

00:12:50.860 Well, I've, I've talked about that and I, and I wrote a short piece on the order of man

00:12:54.560 blog about that.

00:12:55.340 Cause everyone was sort of asking what's it, what's the iron council.

00:12:58.620 I want a 30 day free trial.

00:12:59.800 And I was like, no, no, that's not how it's happening.

00:13:01.480 But I, I, um, I wrote a piece on there and that's, it's, it's really what it is.

00:13:05.660 It's, are you ready for it?

00:13:07.580 Cause it's a big step.

00:13:08.680 It's not something that you can dabble in.

00:13:10.540 It's not something that you can play around with.

00:13:12.480 It really is.

00:13:14.120 You know, we're all here either in the order of men or the iron council are listening to

00:13:19.820 this podcast because we want to be better men.

00:13:22.680 And there are things that I think are important, but low hanging fruit, like things like you're

00:13:26.620 overweight, you know, okay.

00:13:27.480 Eat less, work more.

00:13:28.600 Um, your finances are RMS.

00:13:31.460 Okay.

00:13:31.860 Spend less, earn more, um, oversimplifications to complicated problems, but the problems are

00:13:37.680 there and they're obvious and they're important to me.

00:13:40.140 The real growth is when you dig into the nuance, dig into those things that, you know, where

00:13:45.780 you challenge, especially the things that you think you have your act together.

00:13:48.740 And I'll give you a really good example.

00:13:50.360 It is, I thought of everything that I had going on, at least I've got a rock solid marriage

00:13:56.540 and you know, I, I do don't get me wrong that it's not like we had any marital issues or

00:14:05.740 anything like this, but I realized that I was totally taking it for granted, right?

00:14:09.520 When you've got that person with you in our trench and our family, and there's so many

00:14:15.360 other things that you're dealing with in life, it's easy to take the stuff that isn't sucking

00:14:19.640 for granted.

00:14:21.020 And that's dangerous, right?

00:14:22.440 Because all of a sudden you just start kind of inching and inching and inching.

00:14:26.700 And if you don't stop that, if you don't actively engage, um, all of a sudden you're going to

00:14:31.780 inch yourself off a cliff.

00:14:32.860 And I think that's how a lot of really amazing relationships end, not by some catastrophic

00:14:38.300 event, but through neglect.

00:14:40.740 And I realized that I was neglecting that part of my life.

00:14:43.880 Um, and thankfully again, I'm, I'm aware of it before it became an issue, but man, that

00:14:49.460 could have easily have slipped.

00:14:50.700 So you really have to dig into not only the stuff that you think, or that you quote unquote,

00:14:54.420 no, you're not very good at, um, or where you struggle, but you better really dive into

00:15:00.160 the things that you think you have dialed in because chances are good.

00:15:03.380 At the very least there's opportunities to improve.

00:15:06.000 Yeah, man.

00:15:06.740 So there, there's four quadrants for a reason.

00:15:09.380 Yeah.

00:15:09.780 You know, we, we don't just discuss, Hey, how to become a millionaire.

00:15:14.780 Let's focus on your finances or, you know, there, there's four for a reason and they're

00:15:20.440 all equally important. 0.99

00:15:22.040 And as you're digging into the rest of this shit, you cannot, cannot let go of the things 1.00

00:15:28.000 that don't suck. 1.00

00:15:28.820 Yeah, a hundred percent.

00:15:30.940 I mean, I see this all the time when we do our battle plans, right?

00:15:32.920 Where we, we ask the guys in our battle team to, to put together tactics for all four quadrants

00:15:37.960 and we'll have guys say, I'm not doing anything on, let's say relationships to keep the trend

00:15:41.600 going.

00:15:41.860 Cause I've got that solid and I'm going to, I really need to work on my fitness or I really

00:15:45.020 need to work on my mental conditioning.

00:15:46.480 I really want to work with my finances.

00:15:47.820 And we come back all the time and say, then you had better put something in there for

00:15:52.180 maintenance at the very least.

00:15:53.880 You know, even if you're not propelling it to the next level, because I get it.

00:15:57.640 We only have so much energy in the day.

00:16:00.200 But don't put nothing.

00:16:01.580 You have to, at the very least do deliberate maintenance on everything or else it will slip.

00:16:07.000 Yep.

00:16:07.400 If you, if you continuously focus on the things that suck and ignore the things that are good,

00:16:11.220 guess what's fixing to happen to the good. 0.99

00:16:13.000 They're going to suck. 0.99

00:16:14.240 You yo-yo. 1.00

00:16:14.880 Absolutely.

00:16:15.660 And there's no consistency, right?

00:16:17.360 And I think, I know for me, consistency is something that I enjoy or, or seek.

00:16:21.760 It's not fun having the high highs and the low lows.

00:16:24.820 Yeah.

00:16:25.320 So absolutely.

00:16:26.600 Absolutely.

00:16:28.280 So what would you say is your biggest takeaway since you've been, since you, since you woke

00:16:32.480 up?

00:16:35.080 I think, I know it's the power of the mind, the power of what you can accomplish or how

00:16:44.500 you can be destroyed if you neglect your mind.

00:16:46.620 And, and, and this, I'll go back to it.

00:16:48.520 Is this awakening, this seeing something for the first time it's, it's real and it can

00:16:57.120 be scary and it can be violent.

00:16:58.900 Um, and it is totally necessary.

00:17:02.160 Um, the biggest takeaway then is to arm yourself with the sort of mindfulness tools to protect

00:17:12.880 yourself against going into that spiral where you just start to dwell on all the things that 0.89

00:17:18.200 you suck at. 0.98

00:17:18.880 Um, and I, I've developed, well, I haven't developed, I've, I've used tactics that I've 0.99

00:17:25.000 read about and I fine tune them for myself.

00:17:26.820 And I've now been coaching guys on how to, how to accomplish those things in their lives.

00:17:30.220 Um, that's the biggest takeaway is how much control, like, look in life, there are very

00:17:37.360 few things that we control, right?

00:17:39.100 Most things are going to happen to us and we choose how we're going to respond, but that

00:17:44.000 space between your ears, you have total control over that.

00:17:46.780 Um, and if you train it properly, the stuff that you're able to accomplish is remarkable.

00:17:54.240 Um, so that's my biggest takeaway is just something that I neglected.

00:17:56.980 My entire life is there.

00:17:58.600 And it, I mean, you can think yourself into getting sick.

00:18:01.520 You can think yourself, I think you'd be getting better.

00:18:03.180 I'm not talking about, you know, severe things, but look, you know, you've got anxiety and your

00:18:07.540 mind starts spinning.

00:18:08.280 That's going to manifest itself in your stomach.

00:18:10.080 It's going to manifest itself in your body.

00:18:12.300 Um, I have a really bad back and the discs go out every now and then.

00:18:15.480 And when my mind shuts down the discs and the pain get worse.

00:18:18.440 And when I got through it and I started to talk myself through it and use the tools and

00:18:22.440 tactics that I've trained for myself, I can really minimize the impact that that, that

00:18:26.900 back has on my day to day.

00:18:28.980 Um, I, so I can't understate the biggest impact or the biggest takeaways is the power of the

00:18:36.100 mind.

00:18:36.540 And I'm, I'm really excited about knowing this and learning more and more and more about

00:18:41.940 it as I go forward.

00:18:42.800 So that, that's a pretty good leeway into my next thing, man.

00:18:47.020 You know, all my guys get to challenge the listeners for, to, to do something for one

00:18:53.320 solid week.

00:18:54.740 So if you, you get the chance to challenge the order of man listeners for one week, what

00:19:00.040 are they doing?

00:19:02.140 So give me a minute and I'll set the stage really quickly.

00:19:04.640 I think we're all on a journey and we know that, and there's a lot of time and energy

00:19:11.080 spent on where we want to go.

00:19:13.520 And I'm a huge advocate and I do a lot of coaching on developing that bulletproof vision.

00:19:18.360 I think we don't do enough to define really where we are today, right?

00:19:25.140 You need a starting point in an ending point to be able to have a journey, be able to navigate

00:19:29.280 along that journey.

00:19:31.280 So my challenge would be make sure that you have the vision and make sure that you really

00:19:38.000 define who you want to be.

00:19:41.640 You know, that's a code of conduct or however you want to do that.

00:19:44.580 But I want, I would challenge everyone to do a really deep dive on who they are today.

00:19:50.080 Get under the hood and really examine, take all of those things that you want to be and

00:19:55.940 give yourself a no BS assessment. 0.99

00:19:57.900 And that's not going out and looking to find things that you suck at. 0.56

00:20:01.680 That's not looking for an opportunity to be hard on yourself.

00:20:05.640 But I would say, identify two or three small things, nuanced things that you can work on

00:20:12.760 and then come up with a plan on how you're going to tackle those things.

00:20:16.100 It's a bit esoteric maybe, but I think it's critical.

00:20:20.400 And one of those things at the very least has to be a deep dive on something that you think

00:20:24.720 you have dialed in and where is the opportunity to make it better?

00:20:28.360 Right on.

00:20:28.860 There you go, guys.

00:20:29.860 Your challenge this week from Mr. Joshua Laycock.

00:20:32.440 Let's see that in the Order of Man Facebook group with the hashtag in the trenches.

00:20:37.640 I'll probably be hitting you up offline, man.

00:20:39.540 I want to kind of dig into that with you a little bit deeper, just you and I.

00:20:43.040 Then I can answer that challenge myself, you know, because leaders go first, right?

00:20:48.900 Mm-hmm.

00:20:49.800 Mm-hmm.

00:20:50.120 For sure.

00:20:51.180 All right, brother.

00:20:51.600 I got one last question for you and I did not prepare you for this.

00:20:55.100 What does it mean to be a man?

00:21:00.300 We've heard that a hundred times now, right?

00:21:03.120 You know, I really like my good friend Pierre, depending on when this thing gets aired, a few

00:21:09.840 weeks ago it came out and he said there isn't one single definition and I would agree.

00:21:15.740 It's something I've chewed on a lot.

00:21:17.220 I think there's three elements to being a solid man and I think, you know, I'm rehashing something

00:21:27.800 that we've already talked about, but I think one, you really have to know yourself.

00:21:32.700 A man really knows his self, knows his skills, knows his strengths, knows his weaknesses.

00:21:39.900 A man knows where he wants to go. 0.85

00:21:42.360 He has his vision.

00:21:43.320 He knows what he wants to accomplish.

00:21:44.960 And then he does everything in his power to close that gap and to keep it closed and to

00:21:52.060 be constantly re-evaluating all of those things.

00:21:55.340 So for me, a man is a hyper-aware man who knows who he is, knows who he wants to be,

00:22:00.180 and then does everything in his power to execute and close that gap.

00:22:03.620 All right, brother.

00:22:05.220 Well, that's all I've got for you today.

00:22:07.380 I really do appreciate you coming on.

00:22:09.020 I appreciate you rethinking it and tell your wife, I said, thank you for pep talking you 0.99

00:22:12.880 into doing it, man.

00:22:14.480 Thanks a lot, man.

00:22:15.200 It was good fun.

00:22:15.820 I appreciate it.

00:22:16.360 Hope to come back someday.

00:22:17.380 All right, brother.

00:22:17.940 We'll catch you around.

00:22:19.160 Take care, man.

00:22:21.660 If you've been inspired by this conversation, we encourage you to learn more about the steps,

00:22:25.880 tools, strategy, and resources these men are using inside of our exclusive brotherhood,

00:22:30.040 The Iron Council.

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00:22:35.280 helping you do the same.

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00:22:40.040 Until next week, take action and become the man you are meant to be.

Order of Man - May 09, 2018

ITT 010： Training the Mind ｜ Joshua Laycock

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