Order of Man - Keep Calm and Be a Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 Be repulsed by distractions and I use the word repulsed deliberately because there's not just

00:00:06.360 avoid we don't want to just avoid distractions we want to be repulsed by them you've already

00:00:11.960 started thinking about your dreams and objectives you know what skill sets you need to develop

00:00:16.100 you're going to put the reps in and now you just need to be repulsed by anything that keeps you

00:00:22.640 from achieving those dreams and desires those are things that you as a man will not engage in that's

00:00:28.400 a decision that you need to make and the beautiful thing is is that it is just a decision

00:00:32.560 you're a man of action you live life to the fullest embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path

00:00:40.060 when life knocks you down you get back up one more time every time you are not easily deterred

00:00:46.040 defeated rugged resilient strong this is your life this is who you are this is who you will become

00:00:53.640 at the end of the day and after all is said and done you can call yourself a man

00:00:59.020 one of a man's defining characteristics is his ability to stay calm not just when it's easier

00:01:06.920 convenient but in the face of catastrophe and hardship and struggle and heated emotions and

00:01:14.100 horrible even situations it's our job to be calm to be cool to be collected to help lead people to

00:01:21.720 help get people to safety to help navigate a difficult conversation or a romantic fight that

00:01:29.440 you may get into or an upset customer or a client it's again our ability to stay calm in those moments

00:01:37.140 that are going to help us get to a place that we want to be and also help serve other people

00:01:42.260 unfortunately i've seen so many men stumble crumble throw temper tantrums like a child that

00:01:49.520 doesn't get the toy at the grocery store and yell and shout and swear and just about every other

00:01:56.840 repulsive behavior that you could imagine because he's not calm and he's allowing his emotions to

00:02:03.100 dictate his reaction instead of his response now don't get me wrong i'm not saying that you shouldn't

00:02:10.180 have emotions i'm not saying that you shouldn't feel those emotions i'm saying that it's our job

00:02:14.880 to regulate our emotions in order to produce effective outcomes for ourselves and for the

00:02:21.040 people we care about and are serving today i'm going to share with you eight tips that you can use

00:02:26.120 to keep yourself calm some of them are mindsets some of them are skill sets either way we have to

00:02:31.840 practice these things we have to embrace these things because i'll tell you what this is the type

00:02:36.200 of men we want to be and i know that because when we look at heroes and we look at people that we

00:02:41.960 aspire to be like those are men who are calm under pressure they're cool they have a certain

00:02:48.360 demeanor about them a certain confidence or charm a lot of people call this the x factor and a lot of

00:02:56.360 it comes from being confident which is derived from competency we'll talk a little bit about that

00:03:01.160 but i think it's safe to say that all of us would like to be more calm whether it's something as

00:03:07.240 simple as a social media argument or an argument with your wife to potentially dangerous active

00:03:16.220 shooter type situation which might be a real possibility for some of us who are engaged in this

00:03:23.480 order of man movement so let's talk about it number one is mindset know your role and lead

00:03:31.040 well right your job as a man to reiterate a little bit of what i just said is in fact to lead other

00:03:38.700 people our motto which is on my hat and over my shoulder here on this crest is to protect provide

00:03:44.320 and preside all of those have an element of leadership and service to other people you cannot

00:03:50.980 do that effectively when you're scatterbrained when there's chaos going on when you're confused when

00:03:57.280 you're frustrated when you're letting your emotions dictate your reaction it's impossible for you to

00:04:02.460 lead well we make dumb decisions we say stupid things that we don't mean we end up becoming our

00:04:09.040 own worst enemy so when you notice yourself getting frustrated or getting heated or not calm then what i would

00:04:17.620 say first and foremost is make a decision not only now but in the moment to be calm to have clarity

00:04:25.660 as to what your purpose is and know that you have to get yourself into a better situation and by the

00:04:31.780 way it only serves in your best interest to be calm what good does it do to yell at a customer because

00:04:39.020 they upset you what good does it do to get into an unnecessary fight with your wife or your children

00:04:45.480 all it does is undermine our credibility and authority with with those individuals and influence too

00:04:51.040 and we certainly don't want to do that number two uh identify your dreams and your objectives

00:04:58.020 if you don't know what those dreams are if you don't know what your goals are it's very easy for

00:05:04.260 us as men to get tossed with the winds of culture and other people's desires we had a really good

00:05:11.940 conversation in our brotherhood today it's called the iron council if you're not familiar with it

00:05:16.720 and we were talking about living your life by default versus living your life by design

00:05:23.560 unfortunately most men and maybe even some of you listening are just doing things because it's the

00:05:30.160 default it's how you were raised it's the scripts that you learned it's the way that you saw how to

00:05:37.440 behave when you were a child the job maybe it's a family business and it's not even really what you

00:05:42.840 want to do the friends in your life or the guys that you went to high school with or the guy who

00:05:46.940 happens to work in the cubicle next to you or happens to be your neighbor but you really haven't

00:05:51.480 given much consideration about what that is your marriage is not amazing it's not really what you want

00:05:58.080 it's feels a lot like living with a potential roommate rather than a romantic partner and i think part of

00:06:05.720 that is the drift of life life just happens we're busy we get promotions and we get requests for our

00:06:14.780 time and we get even depressed and anxious at times and start things start slipping through the cracks

00:06:20.660 and when they do you know that you're not living by design you're living by default spend some time

00:06:27.800 especially this time of year this is a perfect time to do it to begin to think about is this the kind of life

00:06:32.740 that i want when i look at my marriage are we happy are we fulfilled are we meeting each other's

00:06:38.720 needs and desires and hopes and dreams are we building a life together are we raising our kids

00:06:44.400 the way we want to raise them when it comes to your business are you making the kind of money that you

00:06:49.920 want is there upward mobility do you have autonomy with what you do on a daily basis does it excite you

00:06:55.960 does is it fulfilling do you feel like you're actually serving people and making a difference in the

00:06:59.840 world now look some of these things you're not going to be able to change overnight but you can

00:07:05.000 change those through hard work and effort over a consistent period of time if you look in the mirror

00:07:10.880 and you're not happy with the size of your arms or the little bit of fat that's accumulated around the

00:07:16.680 midsection or maybe you're out of breath when you walk up one flight of stairs maybe your eating habits

00:07:23.400 are bonbons cheetos and doritos and cereal and burger king and all the other food that you know is not

00:07:34.320 good for you and you sometimes you wonder why oh man i always feel sluggish i feel tired i feel gross and

00:07:40.920 you say you wonder why but we all know that that's part of the reason what are your objectives when you

00:07:47.120 think about how you want to lead your wife or lead your kids or lead your community members what about

00:07:51.260 your community are you dissatisfied with it have you gone to city council meetings do you sit on the

00:07:56.220 school board have you ran for political office and if not is that something that you should consider

00:08:02.760 we have to spend more time thinking about these things now not at the expense of doing some people

00:08:08.640 will do that it's just constant pontification over what they want and they have these things like 2025

00:08:14.480 is gonna be my year and yet they don't do anything about it so it's not enough to think about it

00:08:20.040 but it's also not enough just to act without a whole lot of thought or intention behind it

00:08:24.340 i've said in the past i'm gonna butcher this because it's been a while since i've said this but

00:08:28.740 effort without thought is useless and thought without effort is worthless so

00:08:40.440 yeah think about it identify what you want and if you want a great resource i've got too we've got our

00:08:45.820 battle planner this is the tool that i use every single day to map out my day map out my goals my

00:08:52.100 to-do list to check everything off to hold myself accountable to it you can pick that up at order

00:08:57.340 of man.com battle planner or if you want a heightened version not only the battle planner but you want

00:09:02.760 accountability and brotherhood with other men that are going to hold you accountable that are going to

00:09:08.000 help you identify what your goals and dreams are then join us inside the iron council it's open right

00:09:12.200 now it's at order of man.com iron council very very powerful for at this point tens of thousands

00:09:20.240 of men who have banded with us over time number three build your skill and get your reps there's a

00:09:27.740 great quote and i cannot remember for the life of me who said it right off hand but we don't

00:09:31.760 rise to the level of our expectations we fall to the level of our training you'll hear this maybe

00:09:37.580 you've even been said it uh if uh you know you see something go down or some guy you know approaches

00:09:44.000 you or whatever it might be you're just gonna beat him down you go red and you're gonna win this fight

00:09:49.440 although you have no fighting experience uh no skill in that department at all you think that just because

00:09:57.520 you're mad or you're a bad a that you're gonna be able to win in a physical altercation

00:10:03.780 you're not you're just not gonna perform to what your expectation is you're gonna perform to what

00:10:09.440 your uh what your standards are so when you're thinking about your goals and objectives the next

00:10:16.520 step is to consider what skills do i need that i'm currently lacking do i not possess or do i not

00:10:24.420 possess enough of and i would focus on a couple of key areas your mental emotional and spiritual health

00:10:31.860 i'd focus on your physical health as a secondary uh i would focus on my finances and my family and

00:10:39.620 friends and then uh well that last one is relationships so family and friends so your

00:10:46.240 finances your money your wealth your prosperity being a man of value uh your physical health your

00:10:51.540 relationships and your mental emotional and spiritual health and you can even break it down further than

00:10:57.840 that when it comes to your finances for example you probably ought to consider what skill set you're

00:11:03.760 missing at work a lot of guys get upset when for example they get passed over for a promotion

00:11:08.320 i would be upset too but i think it's worthy of asking yourself why exactly did i get passed over for

00:11:14.520 this promotion most guys will say oh it's office politics and you know it's this or that and even if it

00:11:20.080 is office politics it might be if you know that that's the case then maybe you ought to learn the game of

00:11:25.120 politics of the office you know what it is so make it happen maybe it's that you uh lack the ability

00:11:31.540 to lead and so they're not going to put you into a leadership position there's certain skills that

00:11:36.580 you can learn and need to learn in order to achieve professionally and personally and then from there

00:11:42.140 it's just the reps again we fall to the level of our our training not rise to the level of our

00:11:48.280 expectations so you just have to put in the reps and when you do you're going to notice that

00:11:54.920 you're a lot more calm i'll give you an example when i started uh training jujitsu and most in fact i

00:12:02.340 would say all men who start training jujitsu feel this way it's weird to have another grown man

00:12:10.020 close in your space trying to manipulate your body and hurt you in some way it's very awkward it's very

00:12:17.380 uncomfortable uh sometimes you might get claustrophobic you know you got somebody's

00:12:23.120 arm wrapped around or their shoulder digging into your jugular um or you know their chest just

00:12:29.200 compressed on yours or their knee right on your sternum just pushing you down into the dirt

00:12:34.840 it's not comfortable and when you're not comfortable what do you do you're flailing around

00:12:41.620 you're wild you're thrashing you're doing crazy stuff and you end up if you're training against somebody

00:12:46.500 who's got any level of training you end up getting submitted well it's the same thing in life if you

00:12:54.000 are new to something you're going to be chaotic you're going to be frantic you're not going to know

00:12:59.080 how to conserve energy you're going to be highly inefficient highly ineffective uh and you're going

00:13:04.440 to kind of look a little foolish that's not bad when we learn a new skill the risk of it is that

00:13:10.120 we are going to look foolish for a while but the more you put in your reps and again to go back to my

00:13:15.720 analogy of jiu-jitsu the more that you put in your reps that guy who's putting his knee right on your

00:13:21.920 sternum isn't as big of a threat to you anymore because you've learned how to handle it you can

00:13:27.940 breathe through it you can position yourself in a different way you can try to do a reversal or a

00:13:33.220 sweep but there's things that you can learn above and beyond just flailing and floundering around like a

00:13:37.760 fish out of water you need to put in the reps and have patience with yourself

00:13:43.660 i'm an impatient person i know that about myself so i want to be really good at everything i do and

00:13:51.140 try whether it's jiu-jitsu or hunting or podcasting or speaking in front of an audience or writing a book

00:14:01.660 or playing a pickup game of basketball with my son in fact uh maybe about a month or two ago

00:14:08.440 my oldest son is big into lacrosse and we have a net out here and he had his sticks and he's like

00:14:13.960 dad let's go let's go shoot i'm like all right let's go do it and he taught me some things and he

00:14:18.460 worked me over i wanted to be good but what right do i have to be good at using a lacrosse stick when

00:14:24.380 i've never in my entire life picked one up but we expect that of ourselves it's crazy it takes reps

00:14:31.880 and sometimes it's boring and monotonous and grueling and you don't want to do it but if you want to have

00:14:40.600 success then you need to do it over and over and over and over and over and over again and when you have

00:14:46.600 the skill set and you have the reps you will gain competence and competence breeds confidence and when

00:14:54.860 you're confident and you can't manufacture confidence it's not something you just fabricate out of thin

00:14:59.880 air it's something you have to build ego bravado arrogance excessive pride you can manufacture that

00:15:07.320 but you cannot manufacture confidence but when you have confidence you're a lot more calm in certain

00:15:13.060 situations take a firefighter running into a burning building the first time you do it i i don't know what

00:15:19.820 that's like but i imagine it is the scariest thing in the world the 1000th time that you do it you have

00:15:26.760 the training you've done it a bunch before you know what to expect i'm not saying it's without risk but

00:15:31.640 it's a little bit easier for you to manage that's because you have the reps and the skill set

00:15:35.700 number four be repulsed by distractions and i use the word repulsed deliberately because there's

00:15:45.620 not just avoid we don't want to just avoid distractions we want to be repulsed by them you've

00:15:52.140 already started thinking about your dreams and objectives you know what skill sets you need to

00:15:56.160 develop you're going to put the reps in and now you just need to be repulsed by anything that keeps you

00:16:03.020 from achieving those dreams and desires whether it's vices like alcohol or drug abuse or pornography

00:16:11.060 or gambling some of these vices or it's just doom scrolling on instagram or going through youtube videos

00:16:21.280 for hours at a time or taking too long in the bathroom because you're playing i don't know

00:16:27.540 candy crush or what is it wordscapes like i'm not saying you shouldn't have an outlet but it should

00:16:35.360 be deliberate to go back to our earlier point if you're doing things that are not deliberate but

00:16:39.980 they're distracting you from achieving your goals and objectives don't just avoid them be repulsed by

00:16:46.540 like those are those are things that you as a man will not engage in that's a decision that you need

00:16:51.660 to make and the beautiful thing is is that it is just a decision it's just deciding that i'm going

00:16:57.620 to be diligent that i'm going to be dutiful and by the way when i have good days like that

00:17:02.200 everything else gets better so if i'm at work and i'm diligent about emails and following through

00:17:08.980 on my commitments and recording podcasts and connecting with other people and doing networking

00:17:13.380 when i'm done for the day and i'm with my kids or with my girlfriend it's so much better i'm not

00:17:18.880 frustrated i'm not uh distracted with things from work i'm not preoccupied i'm very present in the moment

00:17:25.780 because i was diligent and dutiful get rid of those distractions be repulsed by those distractions

00:17:32.100 start to identify what they are so you know and then get rid of those things number five know your

00:17:38.680 triggers we all get anxious we all get antsy we all get frustrated at times we all want to fight

00:17:47.040 to varying degrees and push back and kick and scream and shout but there's reasons there's reasons for

00:17:53.120 that what are they you know for a man i think for the most part disrespect is a huge trigger if you feel

00:18:00.540 disrespected you're going to go into fight or flight response because it feels personal you feel

00:18:06.920 personally attacked there's a great book called the four agreements a lot of you have probably read it

00:18:11.080 and one of them is don't take anything personally even if it's personal you can choose whether or

00:18:17.560 not you decide to take it upon yourself as fact it's not it might be somebody's opinion and maybe there

00:18:23.260 is even some accuracy to it but if you take it personally and operate from a reactionary standpoint

00:18:28.900 you're only going to hurt yourself and other people so know what those triggers are one trigger for

00:18:35.160 me is clutter and chaos if i have way too many things to do throughout the day way too many emails to get

00:18:43.260 through uh way too much clutter and trash on my desk that triggers me i get mad i get frustrated i get

00:18:51.880 short i get irritable and i know that's a trigger of mine so i keep my environment clean my desk is clean i keep

00:18:59.660 my office space clean and organized my truck when i get out i throw the trash away and i don't let trash

00:19:05.660 accumulate in there i keep everything clutter free because that's a trigger of mine uh another one is

00:19:13.960 when i'm busy i think i already said that maybe is just busy with appointment after appointment after

00:19:19.540 appointment after appointment back to back back to back back to back that's it's infuriating to me

00:19:24.640 because i don't have any time to process what happened in a previous meeting and what i need

00:19:29.000 to be prepared for in the following so because i'm aware of that i schedule not back to back if i have

00:19:34.580 hour-long meetings for example i don't do one from 9 to 10 and then 10 to 11 i do one from 9 to 10 and

00:19:41.120 then 10 30 to noon it i always put a half an hour buffer between my meetings and in that time i can do

00:19:50.620 whatever i want bathroom break follow up on a few emails that i need to catch up on

00:19:57.080 make a call or two uh decompress take notes from from maybe a podcast that i did before i have to

00:20:04.540 jump on another one maybe prepare a little better for a upcoming podcast but that 30 minutes is for me

00:20:11.300 not to fill with something specific but to evaluate what needs to happen in that moment so that i can be

00:20:17.360 prepared and engaged and present in my next engagement my next meeting so know what your

00:20:23.580 triggers are write them down i have a journal right here that i just write things in throughout the day

00:20:28.920 on how i'm feeling in in relationships how i'm feeling with the business maybe it's an insight that

00:20:37.440 comes to me i just write it down in there uh and i would also write down your triggers it's good to

00:20:43.360 know what they are because the more that you're aware of what they are the less they will impact

00:20:47.700 you all right next and we kind of talked about this a little bit do not over commit i'm not going

00:20:53.700 to beat a dead horse i feel like we talked about this a little bit but that happens to be one of my

00:20:58.320 triggers as well when i start over committing and a lot of men do this because they have a deep

00:21:05.100 seated sense of duty and responsibility and that's a good thing that isn't bad they have a deep

00:21:12.120 seated sense of duty and responsibility and so we want to be valuable we want to serve other people

00:21:18.580 we want to help other people we want to be producers in business and personally and professionally and in

00:21:25.000 our neighborhoods and communities and so we have a tendency of saying yes to everything

00:21:30.040 i think for the most part it's virtuous but it's also going to hinder your ability to grow

00:21:38.400 because you're doing so much that you can't be good at the few things you should actually be doing

00:21:44.140 you're trying to do everything and this is why i told you earlier is number one is no is excuse me uh

00:21:50.560 number two was to identify your dreams and objectives because now i can use that as a litmus test

00:21:56.580 for everything else that i'm doing if somebody wants to take a meeting with me but it doesn't align with

00:22:02.560 my goals and objectives then i don't feel obligated to have that meeting now some guys will use this as

00:22:08.380 an excuse not to do any like charitable work or serve people just out of the goodness of their heart

00:22:12.520 i think that probably ought to be in your vision and dreams and desires as well as serving the

00:22:18.100 community being charitable with your time being uh charitable with your resources and then you can look

00:22:24.320 and see if a person needs help maybe a widow next door needs her lawn mowed or uh you need to coach one 1.00

00:22:32.800 of your kids sports teams or you see somebody who's broke down or stuck on the side of the road

00:22:38.120 that measures up with your vision in your dreams as being a man of value in the community so you can get

00:22:45.580 that done but don't take on things that don't align with what you want and don't feel obligated to

00:22:52.380 make other people's problems your priority you might you know if one of my kids calls me today

00:22:58.740 and they're having a hard time about something that happened uh with their mom or something that

00:23:04.080 happened with a friend and they called me up and you know i've got appointment after appointment after

00:23:10.140 appointment today i'm gonna deviate i'm gonna serve my kids again that goes back to my my dreams but

00:23:17.980 uh so i will take on to a degree their problems as my own because that's my job that's my function as

00:23:24.140 a father but i don't feel obligated that just because somebody else might be struggling

00:23:28.580 uh or maybe they've made poor decisions or poor choices that it gets to automatically encroach in

00:23:35.620 my life i'm deliberate intentional about that and it has served me well and kept me a whole lot calmer

00:23:41.120 number seven create space and margin space and margin talked a little bit about this with the

00:23:49.120 calendaring don't everything takes longer than you think it will everything is more complicated than

00:23:55.580 you think it is things break things fall apart meetings run over concepts are hard to explain in

00:24:03.280 some cases the programs that you're buying whether it's technology or vehicles electronics don't work the

00:24:10.520 way you think they're going to create space and margin and actually put it into your day a lot of the

00:24:16.480 times we fail as men to talk about rejuvenation relaxing recovering rejuvenating getting our wits

00:24:22.920 back about us after a long day or a long meeting but it's really important to build in again deliberately

00:24:30.120 and intentionally uh your decompress time it's it's space it's margin it's um not allowing other

00:24:38.520 things to to encroach maybe you have a space in the house that is just yours i i don't have a lot

00:24:44.420 of space in the house that's just mine uh but the garage i i will go out and tinker in the garage

00:24:51.200 organize it it also happens to be our store our merchandise store so we're filling orders and

00:24:56.860 everything out of there as well but i have this chair this leather chair out here in the living room

00:25:01.460 and i love that chair so i might just sit there um sometimes when i'm on the road i'm not gonna put

00:25:08.540 in a podcast or even music i'm just gonna sit in silence with no expectation no goal just being

00:25:16.720 silent so that i can have inspiration come to me or work through a problem or a challenge maybe it's just

00:25:25.180 going for a walk uh without like i don't even really anymore uh use earbuds when i'm working out

00:25:32.900 i used to i don't i don't have earbuds in i want to be present i want to hear the people talking i want

00:25:41.160 to be able to engage with somebody if you know i see a buddy i want to be able to have a conversation

00:25:45.960 without having this distracting me um i want to hear the weight rack like i i like the sounds of the

00:25:52.180 gym and so it's margin i don't need to be constantly entertained but that's the prop one of the problems

00:25:57.940 with society is that we're constantly bombarded with opportunity um appointments requests for our

00:26:06.440 time music distractions social media it's in our pockets you know mine's my pocket right here

00:26:12.080 constant bombardment i turn off all of my notifications because i i don't i don't want i don't need to see

00:26:19.440 every time somebody calls me i don't need to see immediately every time somebody sends me

00:26:23.280 an email or somebody responds to one of our social media posts i'm not interested in that i'll go check

00:26:29.180 my emails at a deliberate and scheduled time uh sometimes people laugh at me but if the doorbell

00:26:36.440 rings i don't really feel obligated to answer the door unless i know it's somebody that i've invited over

00:26:41.800 but if i'm sitting at home at you know four in the afternoon and i'm taking a break or maybe grabbing a

00:26:48.840 quick bite to eat before i get on with the rest of my work day and the doorbell rings i don't feel

00:26:53.280 obligated to go get it if somebody calls me i don't feel obligated to answer it if somebody texts me i

00:26:59.620 don't feel obligated to get back with them within whatever their accepted window of time is it's my

00:27:05.440 life it's my schedule if i have the time and the margin to do it i will but i'm very deliberate about

00:27:11.240 how i spend that time and that has proven not only to keep me calm but help help me be way more

00:27:16.240 effective in life and then the last thing here and this kind of ties into what i was just saying

00:27:20.220 is develop a simple life think about everything in your environment you know i walked into my closet

00:27:29.500 the other day and i it's i've got a hall and i've got two closets one on this side one on this side

00:27:34.120 and i mean the amount of clothes in there that i'll never wear again that's taking up space

00:27:41.680 and we don't think there's a cost associated with it but there is that's why we've heard

00:27:45.960 uh just these classic examples uh zuckerberg for example or steve jobs wearing basically a uniform

00:27:53.600 and we all we all seen the uniform you know for uh jobs it was you know denim and and uh you know

00:28:00.040 black shirt or turtleneck uh but a lot of these highly highly successful entrepreneurs and business

00:28:06.580 people they they have a uniform and they have that uniform because they don't want to have to waste

00:28:14.760 any energy on deciding what what to wear and when and all that sort of thing and i'm not saying you

00:28:20.240 have to have a uniform and wear the same thing every day but just having a bunch of clothes in your

00:28:26.320 closet actually takes up space mental space and margin uh same thing with toys and gadgets and

00:28:34.220 gizmos and we're on the you know eve of christmas here and the the things that we get that we'll

00:28:41.180 never use but then we feel obligated to keep them around i've actually told people people have asked

00:28:46.140 me for addresses and they want to send me things i'm like don't send me anything i it's not that i

00:28:52.100 don't appreciate the gesture i do but i'm trying to keep a simple life so don't don't send me anything

00:28:57.580 just say thank you or let's have a conversation or let's go do an experience together i'm good with

00:29:04.140 that but i don't want a lot of physical stuff i really really like and i don't live this fully

00:29:11.100 but i like the idea of the minimalist lifestyle it's been said that the things that you own actually

00:29:19.040 own you and that's true you own a house that thing owns you and your time you have a dog not saying

00:29:26.100 you shouldn't but that dog requires time energy food water money putting it in a a kennel or a

00:29:33.260 sitter when you're when you're gone it's it's more to it than just the thing it always is and if you

00:29:39.480 want the thing that's fine but you need to calculate the total cost of whatever that thing is in your

00:29:44.720 life and it will have a cost even a computer in this technology it's taking up space uh i have to

00:29:52.280 charge it so there's time there's also the electrical cost not very much but it is still a

00:29:59.060 cost but it's worth it right because i have to run the business but one thing i don't have is i don't

00:30:03.600 have 17 cameras why would i have 17 cameras guess how many i have one and i had like four and i sold

00:30:10.400 three of them because what why would i have those actually i'm sorry i have two this one and i do have

00:30:16.260 a backup camera in case this one goes down but the rest of the stuff i just get rid of i do that all

00:30:21.740 over my house i do that in my car um you might even do that with people in your life maybe there's

00:30:26.040 certain people who just shouldn't be in your life because they're a drain on your your resources your

00:30:31.780 capital your mental energy like we all have those people where you talk to me just feel exhausted

00:30:37.480 or they're always complaining and griping and just dumping all their baggage on you

00:30:42.340 you don't want that stuff in your life create and develop a very simple life and you will be far

00:30:47.940 less likely to be stressed about dealing with the cost of stuff and people and things so that's my

00:30:58.320 that's my lesson for you today guys it's very very important that we do keep calm i said this already i

00:31:03.360 think you know why but again think about the men that you admire and respect the most those guys are

00:31:08.440 calm they're cool they're collected under pressure without pressure like they're just even keel get

00:31:16.420 the job done always and we think typically less of people who are emotionally volatile we we don't

00:31:23.360 think they're as capable and they're typically not um we're definitely not influenced by them as much as

00:31:28.220 we would be somebody who's calm and collected and has that level of confidence that comes with the

00:31:32.080 skill set and the reps so be that kind of man that's the kind of man we want to be and that's the kind of

00:31:37.020 man that other people need us to be so again know your role lead well number two identify your dreams

00:31:42.760 and objectives three build your skill and get your reps four be repulsed not just not be distracted but

00:31:50.840 be repulsed by distractions number five know your triggers six do not over commit seven create space

00:31:57.480 and margin and eight develop a simple life i hope that serves you i hope that helps you please let me

00:32:03.020 know if it does or doesn't uh and let me know how i'm doing leave us a rating or review uh also go

00:32:08.140 check this video out on youtube you can see my ugly mug and we're really trying to build up that youtube

00:32:12.480 channel it's doing very well right now uh 343 or 44 000 people tuning in to this podcast over on the

00:32:20.700 youtubes uh check that out at youtube.com slash order of man and of course two more resources your battle

00:32:26.540 planner order of man.com battle planner with videos on how to use this and the last resource i think the

00:32:33.700 most powerful one i'm a bit biased i know is the iron council this is our brotherhood i've noticed

00:32:39.260 there's a lot of other masterminds and organizations and brotherhoods that are popping up and i think

00:32:43.400 that's great but what i'll tell you is that we've been doing this for 10 years not 10 days or 10 weeks

00:32:49.640 or 10 months we've been doing this for 10 years and over a 10 year time frame we've learned what

00:32:55.000 works what doesn't work we're constantly evaluating we're constantly trying new things in fact we just

00:33:00.100 finished up a survey uh and we're putting together some results on what we might implement to make this

00:33:05.640 thing even better so it's constantly getting better and you'll have access to some incredible

00:33:10.780 incredible men what i've seen is well personally i have friends from the iron council that i met through

00:33:16.100 the organization that are lifelong friends i've called two of them in the past couple of days

00:33:21.560 because i needed to work through some issues and talk with them about some things i had the opportunity

00:33:26.660 to do that i hunt with these guys we go on adventures together they know my situation good and bad i know

00:33:33.540 their situation good and bad they can share what they need to share i can share what i need to share

00:33:37.580 it's actually a really powerful thing and it's because we have an organization like the iron council

00:33:42.920 so go check it out order of man.com iron council all right guys those are your marching orders we'll

00:33:49.740 be back next week for an interview until then go out there take action keep calm become a man you are

00:33:57.300 meant to be

00:33:57.880 thank you for listening to the order of man podcast you're ready to take charge of your life and be more

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Order of Man - December 20, 2024

Keep Calm and Be a Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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