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Lead with Curiosity, Don't Make People Part of Your Checklist, and Exceed Your People's Expectations | ASK ME ANYTHING


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Summary

On this episode of the Iron Curtain Podcast, the guys talk about the upcoming hunt in Wasatch Utah and answer some of your hunting and fishing questions. Also, we have a special guest on the show this week!


Transcript

00:00:00.000 There's nothing wrong with checklists
00:00:01.420 and there's nothing wrong with making things and people,
00:00:04.740 your wife in this case, a priority.
00:00:06.440 She should be on your checklist.
00:00:07.940 When I hear checklist,
00:00:09.480 usually there's no heart and soul in that.
00:00:12.360 I haven't put any thought at,
00:00:13.320 damn it, let's just go to wherever we go
00:00:15.800 and like, we'll just do the same thing we did last week.
00:00:18.000 That's where I think it's gonna feel
00:00:19.620 like a checklist to her.
00:00:21.020 So how do you change that?
00:00:22.340 When you start focusing on the little things
00:00:25.080 and take those assignments to the nth degree,
00:00:27.760 she's not gonna feel like she's just the checklist.
00:00:30.000 Kip, what's up, man?
00:00:32.400 Great to see this Friday.
00:00:33.600 Sounds like you're getting your family off
00:00:35.720 on a trip or something.
00:00:36.800 Is that right?
00:00:37.400 You're not going?
00:00:38.040 What's up with that?
00:00:39.520 I have that extended archery buck tag
00:00:42.420 in the Wasatch front.
00:00:44.600 So I'm gonna-
00:00:45.920 You're going hunting this weekend.
00:00:47.140 Yeah, I'm gonna hit the mountains
00:00:48.360 while the family goes up to Idaho.
00:00:50.700 Awesome, man.
00:00:51.520 And you're not coming to Minnesota this year with us,
00:00:54.220 are you?
00:00:55.060 This is me trying to make up
00:00:57.340 for not going to Minnesota.
00:01:00.000 You should have not done this hunt
00:01:02.520 and gone to Minnesota with us.
00:01:04.000 For sure.
00:01:04.980 For sure.
00:01:05.920 Probably.
00:01:06.780 It's good to see, you know,
00:01:08.600 you need to have success
00:01:09.580 because you're 100% kill ratio right now
00:01:11.920 on your archery hunts.
00:01:13.360 So you better get after it this weekend.
00:01:15.880 And let's be honest,
00:01:16.880 the probability of me pulling this off
00:01:18.820 on my own in an unknown place
00:01:22.060 with almost no coaching
00:01:23.800 is probably not very high.
00:01:25.140 but I'm gonna do my best.
00:01:27.560 If anybody can do it, you can.
00:01:29.340 Yeah, I appreciate it.
00:01:30.660 I did ping Michael Merrill
00:01:32.520 and I said,
00:01:34.200 hey, have you ever had a tag
00:01:36.580 in the Wasatch front?
00:01:37.620 And he sent me some pins yesterday
00:01:39.600 and he's like, this is the spot.
00:01:41.020 So I'm actually kind of excited
00:01:42.760 and that he was willing
00:01:44.560 to kind of tell me, right?
00:01:46.800 Like I've seen a big buck
00:01:48.600 in this area year over year.
00:01:50.940 You know, I'm like, dude,
00:01:51.760 that's really awesome for him
00:01:52.900 to be willing to kind of share that with me,
00:01:55.140 you know, so.
00:01:56.700 I've found that about most communities,
00:01:59.500 whether it's jujitsu or hunting
00:02:01.260 or I'm sure it's the same
00:02:03.580 with chess and basket weaving communities.
00:02:06.600 I don't know,
00:02:07.020 whatever communities are out there
00:02:08.240 that the people love what they do so much.
00:02:12.920 They're so passionate about it
00:02:14.140 that they just want people involved.
00:02:15.980 And I know when it comes to hunting spots,
00:02:18.120 you have to be a little selective
00:02:19.340 and there are people
00:02:20.620 who probably aren't gonna give away
00:02:21.940 their best spots,
00:02:22.720 but they're still always willing
00:02:24.080 to help you out.
00:02:25.020 I think Mike actually got,
00:02:27.120 did he, he got a nice bull this year, didn't he?
00:02:29.320 Yeah, I think he landed on a large bull.
00:02:33.240 You know, Eric did too from Hush.
00:02:35.560 I saw that he posted
00:02:36.800 that he got a large elk bull with his bow.
00:02:40.340 So pretty awesome.
00:02:41.340 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:42.100 It's cool to see.
00:02:43.560 Well, brother,
00:02:44.100 why don't we get into some questions today?
00:02:45.520 I know we got some good ones
00:02:46.500 over on In the Iron Council
00:02:48.360 and also over at Facebook.
00:02:50.480 So let's get after it today.
00:02:51.360 Yeah, sounds good.
00:02:52.820 All right.
00:02:53.140 So our first question is from Tony.
00:02:56.240 How would you pronounce Tony's last name?
00:02:58.780 B-E-H-A-L.
00:03:01.400 Bahal?
00:03:02.020 Bethel, I think is what it is.
00:03:03.320 Bethel?
00:03:03.520 Oh, with the T-H in there.
00:03:04.940 Oh, no, sorry.
00:03:06.120 I was, no,
00:03:07.980 Bay Hall, I think is how you say it.
00:03:09.300 Bay Hall.
00:03:09.380 Sorry.
00:03:09.760 Okay.
00:03:10.540 Yeah, Tony, we're trying, man.
00:03:11.620 I think, I could be wrong.
00:03:12.460 Yeah.
00:03:12.880 Yeah, we're trying.
00:03:13.540 I probably shouldn't have spelt it online.
00:03:15.320 So now everybody listening now
00:03:17.200 has an opinion of the pronunciation.
00:03:20.400 And don't ask me.
00:03:21.640 I like that you mess them up
00:03:23.560 and I get to make fun of you.
00:03:24.540 But when you ask me,
00:03:25.320 I don't have any way to hide behind it.
00:03:26.820 I don't know how to pronounce it either.
00:03:28.040 Totally.
00:03:28.580 Full disclosure.
00:03:29.600 Let's be honest.
00:03:30.100 The only reason why I'm on here on these AMAs
00:03:34.020 is so I get,
00:03:35.420 I'm the escape goat
00:03:36.460 for pronouncing everybody's name wrong.
00:03:39.420 And then that way,
00:03:40.300 Ryan looks good and I look like crap.
00:03:42.380 So, yeah.
00:03:43.100 All right, Tony.
00:03:43.620 And you're also the,
00:03:44.680 you're also the good cop too, right?
00:03:46.380 So we'll play a little good cop, bad cop.
00:03:48.040 You're a lot more empathetic
00:03:49.060 in some things than I am.
00:03:50.200 So anyways, what's Tony got for us?
00:03:52.040 Okay.
00:03:52.440 So Tony's question,
00:03:53.660 Kip has talked about having a heart at war
00:03:55.620 towards those in our lives
00:03:57.020 and how that affects
00:03:58.140 even our subconscious actions towards them.
00:04:01.600 Specifically concerning our kids,
00:04:03.380 have either of you written a vision of,
00:04:05.620 a vision of your children,
00:04:07.760 not a vision for them,
00:04:09.280 but a vision of how you view them
00:04:11.420 to avoid that heart at war.
00:04:13.860 If there is a danger in pigeonholing them,
00:04:17.520 hopefully this makes sense.
00:04:19.020 Hit me up if needed.
00:04:20.440 Great question.
00:04:22.040 It is a good question.
00:04:23.460 I don't know.
00:04:24.340 I'd be a little careful
00:04:25.500 of writing a vision for them
00:04:28.620 because then you might have
00:04:30.680 some sort of expectation of them
00:04:33.340 that you now want them to live up to.
00:04:35.680 I think a better exercise
00:04:37.140 would be to write a vision
00:04:39.200 of how you are showing up in their life,
00:04:43.560 how you are presenting,
00:04:45.280 which I think is a little bit
00:04:46.540 what Tony's saying.
00:04:49.740 And that's always included
00:04:51.240 in the vision process
00:04:52.360 that we do inside the Iron Council anyways,
00:04:54.320 thinking about how you show up as a father,
00:04:56.760 how you show up as a husband,
00:04:58.180 how you show up as a business owner,
00:04:59.460 and how you approach your life.
00:05:01.100 We have, I look at it two different ways
00:05:03.340 when it comes to the vision.
00:05:04.440 There's the values-based vision,
00:05:08.200 and then there's the goal-based vision.
00:05:10.820 So values are your principles.
00:05:13.560 How am I going to show up?
00:05:15.020 What principles are important to me?
00:05:16.600 For example, courage is one
00:05:18.360 that comes to mind for me.
00:05:19.840 Being courageous, being bold,
00:05:22.280 taking good calculated risks.
00:05:25.000 That's a principle.
00:05:26.220 That's a value of mine.
00:05:27.600 And so I want to show up courageously
00:05:29.220 with my business and in my family life
00:05:31.440 and other aspects of my life.
00:05:33.500 A goal base would be,
00:05:35.000 I want to have, you know, 50 acres,
00:05:36.980 and I want to have a hunt club,
00:05:38.480 and I want to go on so many hunts,
00:05:39.960 and these are the things I want to be doing,
00:05:41.760 and this is what the house looks like.
00:05:43.720 Neither of them are wrong.
00:05:45.460 They both have their place,
00:05:47.080 but I do like the idea
00:05:48.700 of how you're going to show up
00:05:49.880 for your children
00:05:51.240 without that heart at war towards them,
00:05:55.340 you know, and that's hard to do,
00:05:56.740 especially as children get older, I've noticed.
00:05:59.860 My oldest is now 17,
00:06:01.420 so he's getting close to graduating next year,
00:06:03.580 and as my kids get older,
00:06:06.020 I see a lot more independence in them.
00:06:09.580 I see a little bit of rebelliousness,
00:06:12.460 a little bit of bucking
00:06:14.680 and pushing against authority,
00:06:16.900 and all of those are healthy, by the way,
00:06:19.980 and it's my job to help rein it in a little bit,
00:06:23.100 but I have noticed myself being conflicted
00:06:26.560 when I see that,
00:06:27.900 so that's something I can definitely work on.
00:06:30.940 Yeah, I love what you said, Ryan,
00:06:32.700 because let's be honest,
00:06:34.580 most of our heart at war towards them
00:06:36.760 is in the unmet expectations
00:06:39.540 of how we think they should be.
00:06:42.780 Mm-hmm, yeah.
00:06:44.300 That's where you're going to get sideways as a parent, right?
00:06:46.660 Your kid starts doing something
00:06:47.820 you don't think they should do, right?
00:06:51.020 And then you get sideways
00:06:52.180 versus I think if we're elusive,
00:06:55.460 I don't know, it's not elusive.
00:06:57.620 What's the word I'm looking for here?
00:07:00.360 Maybe curious about their growth
00:07:03.040 and what decisions they're making
00:07:04.980 and being open to the idea
00:07:07.140 that you and I, we all know this.
00:07:09.780 What's the best way to learn?
00:07:11.600 Through hardship and struggle and these things,
00:07:14.980 but yet we expect our kids
00:07:17.120 to be little minions that do what we say.
00:07:20.380 That's not how you grow,
00:07:22.000 not through compliance.
00:07:23.940 It's actually through choice, right,
00:07:26.180 that people learn and grow,
00:07:27.420 and your kids have to make choices
00:07:29.840 over and over again,
00:07:32.180 and are we in a position to help and guide them?
00:07:34.340 And I want to call this out
00:07:36.060 for those that have never heard that term before,
00:07:38.540 heart at war,
00:07:39.360 and why this is really important.
00:07:41.600 When you have a heart at war towards someone,
00:07:45.040 you have an upset about them.
00:07:46.780 My mindset around Ryan,
00:07:48.600 if I have a heart at war towards you,
00:07:50.560 it's going to show up in my behavior
00:07:52.460 and my relationship and my communication with you.
00:07:56.160 I'm going to stonewall you.
00:07:58.080 I'm not going to collaborate as much.
00:08:00.220 I'm going to punish you
00:08:02.340 in these little ways
00:08:04.300 because you're not doing what I want you to do.
00:08:06.660 It's going to affect my ability to do what?
00:08:09.540 To coach and speak into you, right?
00:08:13.420 We don't want a heart at war
00:08:14.560 because it hurts our effectiveness
00:08:16.600 of serving other people,
00:08:18.760 and that's the biggest thing.
00:08:21.080 It's not about control.
00:08:22.760 It's about are we in a position of influence
00:08:24.940 to support them,
00:08:26.060 and by having a mindset that,
00:08:29.520 and I like to say this,
00:08:30.780 I'm hesitant to use this language
00:08:33.240 because some people get sideways with it,
00:08:35.860 but I like to think of this idea
00:08:37.400 that they're whole and complete.
00:08:39.280 My kids, they're great.
00:08:40.900 They're divine.
00:08:41.680 They're amazing.
00:08:43.000 Oh, is he making mistakes?
00:08:44.060 Yeah, but I'm not going to withdraw my love
00:08:46.260 because they're making mistakes.
00:08:48.740 I'm going to see their divine potential always,
00:08:50.960 and that allows me to love them
00:08:53.080 unconditionally of circumstances
00:08:55.700 and those things,
00:08:56.660 and they feel that love,
00:08:58.000 and if they feel that love,
00:08:59.100 what can I do?
00:08:59.940 I can coach and guide them better
00:09:02.060 and more effectively.
00:09:04.100 Yeah.
00:09:05.060 Yeah, I think that's well said.
00:09:06.600 I like the word that you used.
00:09:07.940 You said curiosity.
00:09:09.180 I think when we are very curious
00:09:12.160 about the people we're leading,
00:09:13.380 they feel that they're important,
00:09:15.780 and that's the most important thing,
00:09:17.280 I think, when it comes to leadership,
00:09:18.440 whether it's in the walls of your home
00:09:20.040 or in the boardroom,
00:09:21.400 if your people know
00:09:22.760 that they are important to you,
00:09:25.260 that fixes everything else.
00:09:28.340 I remember years ago
00:09:29.560 when I was in the military
00:09:30.580 and our command had made a decision
00:09:34.900 that our section was going to do something
00:09:37.860 that was ridiculous
00:09:39.080 and we shouldn't have done
00:09:40.000 or shouldn't have to do,
00:09:41.860 and our section chief
00:09:43.760 put his neck out on the line
00:09:45.920 and he talked with command.
00:09:47.740 He's like, no, we're not going to do that.
00:09:48.840 We're going to do this instead.
00:09:50.520 And he went to bat for us
00:09:51.880 and he worked with command
00:09:52.940 and ended up changing the assignment
00:09:54.820 based on what I think was a good call.
00:09:58.520 I don't remember what it was.
00:10:00.260 I don't remember what the assignment was.
00:10:01.760 I don't remember what the assignment
00:10:02.880 that we ended up doing was.
00:10:04.400 All I remember thinking is,
00:10:06.700 oh, that guy will stick his neck out for us.
00:10:10.500 He didn't have to do that.
00:10:12.060 In fact, for him,
00:10:13.460 it probably would have been better
00:10:15.040 to toe the line
00:10:16.280 and just do what he was told,
00:10:17.440 but he didn't because he cared about us.
00:10:19.500 And that's the difference
00:10:20.720 that curiosity and interest
00:10:22.820 in other people creates.
00:10:25.040 There's one other resource
00:10:26.220 that I want to give.
00:10:27.440 Did you have a question
00:10:28.340 or a follow-up on that?
00:10:29.420 Yeah, I was just going to make
00:10:30.940 one quick comment.
00:10:32.140 You know, that's relational influence.
00:10:35.200 And I don't want to derail
00:10:36.780 what you're about to say,
00:10:38.080 but if you don't have relational influence,
00:10:40.960 what do you have?
00:10:43.480 If your people don't trust you
00:10:45.820 and they don't care,
00:10:47.160 what do you have?
00:10:48.760 And most leaders
00:10:50.120 in a position of authority,
00:10:51.340 all they have is uncertainty and fear.
00:10:54.100 They only have a stick.
00:10:54.880 Yeah, you have a stick.
00:10:55.660 That's it.
00:10:56.220 Right.
00:10:57.240 So, and that doesn't work out well.
00:10:59.480 We can all relate to how that feels, right?
00:11:02.160 So anyhow, that's all.
00:11:04.080 Yeah, I mean,
00:11:04.480 you can get people to comply.
00:11:06.740 Sure.
00:11:07.420 Depending on your position of authority.
00:11:08.880 I can get my kids to do the dishes.
00:11:11.200 I can get, you know,
00:11:12.880 an employee that I have
00:11:14.220 to do a certain thing
00:11:15.560 under the threat
00:11:17.260 of terminating their employment.
00:11:19.780 That's not commitment,
00:11:21.340 which is the difference
00:11:22.080 we often make,
00:11:22.960 commitment, compliance versus commitment.
00:11:25.320 One resource that's been really helpful
00:11:27.100 for me over the years,
00:11:28.020 and I actually don't know
00:11:28.980 where this book is.
00:11:29.680 I think I lost it in the move
00:11:30.940 several years ago,
00:11:32.440 but I just ordered it again this morning
00:11:34.400 is the book, Coactive Coaching.
00:11:37.300 If you guys haven't read that book,
00:11:38.980 Coactive Coaching,
00:11:39.940 it is such a powerful book
00:11:41.660 when it comes to leadership.
00:11:43.140 It's mostly around the arena of business,
00:11:45.700 but it's very applicable
00:11:47.080 in the way that we address our people,
00:11:49.360 whether it's your kids
00:11:50.100 or your employees
00:11:50.740 or whoever else it might be.
00:11:52.920 And it gives real world examples
00:11:54.940 and practical exercises
00:11:56.320 for being curious,
00:11:58.220 for asking questions,
00:11:59.300 for leading people
00:12:00.320 and letting them come up
00:12:02.240 with their own answers
00:12:03.200 and their own path.
00:12:04.860 It's a very interesting book.
00:12:06.000 So I'd highly suggest that one.
00:12:08.300 Yeah.
00:12:08.760 Yeah.
00:12:09.080 Coaching drives,
00:12:10.260 drives,
00:12:11.380 good coaching drives
00:12:12.500 self-directed behavior, right?
00:12:14.540 That's kind of like
00:12:15.700 one of the most powerful things
00:12:16.740 about that book.
00:12:17.160 You'd recommend that book to me
00:12:18.340 like five,
00:12:21.020 maybe seven years ago.
00:12:22.320 A really great book, actually.
00:12:24.280 Yeah.
00:12:24.600 Thanks for that, by the way.
00:12:25.620 I don't know if I've ever told you.
00:12:26.620 Yeah, it's powerful.
00:12:27.400 It's really powerful.
00:12:28.540 All right.
00:12:28.960 Shane Newman.
00:12:30.020 Shane, brand new.
00:12:31.280 You didn't.
00:12:31.800 I was waiting for that.
00:12:32.820 It's been seven years coming,
00:12:34.080 but you finally did.
00:12:36.500 Shane Newman,
00:12:37.640 a question,
00:12:38.340 new member of the IC,
00:12:39.420 by the way.
00:12:40.540 So kind of fun
00:12:41.600 that Shane's jumping in
00:12:42.580 and asking questions here.
00:12:44.120 If the IC never happened,
00:12:46.780 what would have been
00:12:47.860 the tactics used
00:12:48.900 to keep yourself
00:12:49.740 driven and grounded?
00:12:52.200 If, you know,
00:12:52.800 if the Iron Council
00:12:53.500 wasn't around,
00:12:54.500 it would actually be
00:12:55.540 the same thing
00:12:56.500 I'm doing now.
00:12:57.180 I am involved
00:12:58.940 in other programs.
00:13:00.080 I do have coaches.
00:13:01.700 I hire coaches
00:13:03.340 temporarily
00:13:04.160 for little things
00:13:06.540 that I might need
00:13:07.240 on marketing,
00:13:08.220 for example,
00:13:08.840 or some other activity
00:13:10.400 that I'm interested in.
00:13:11.540 I invest in programs
00:13:13.480 and courses.
00:13:14.460 I have a group of guys
00:13:15.320 that I talk with
00:13:16.200 once a month
00:13:17.220 and we're hashing out.
00:13:18.640 I just had a call
00:13:19.200 with them two days ago
00:13:20.820 and we're hashing out
00:13:22.380 things that we're concerned about.
00:13:23.700 We're hashing out
00:13:24.280 business stuff.
00:13:24.980 So I would do
00:13:26.380 the same thing.
00:13:27.020 The Iron Council is great
00:13:28.120 because I get a lot of value
00:13:30.640 from what I do
00:13:31.200 in the Iron Council,
00:13:32.040 but it's a place
00:13:32.640 that I can share
00:13:34.280 what I know
00:13:34.980 with other men
00:13:35.880 and they can gain benefit
00:13:37.740 from the work
00:13:38.720 that we're doing here.
00:13:40.040 So that's a place
00:13:41.480 that I would say
00:13:42.000 is largely for others,
00:13:43.620 even though I get
00:13:44.740 a ton of value from it,
00:13:45.780 but I do the same
00:13:46.880 types of things
00:13:47.720 in other settings,
00:13:49.240 in other organizations,
00:13:50.460 hire coaches,
00:13:51.320 go to conferences,
00:13:54.620 be involved in courses.
00:13:57.020 So I do all that
00:13:58.340 as it is.
00:13:59.520 Yeah,
00:13:59.920 the way I see it is
00:14:00.800 I am the Iron Council,
00:14:02.700 right?
00:14:02.920 Like what we do here
00:14:04.060 works.
00:14:04.780 So that's what we do.
00:14:06.340 Like if I were part
00:14:07.300 of the Iron Council,
00:14:08.140 I'd have a battle plan.
00:14:10.340 I'd be executing
00:14:11.240 the battle plan.
00:14:12.200 I'd probably find
00:14:13.160 a group of guys
00:14:14.020 to meet with
00:14:14.820 on a regular basis
00:14:15.780 to help hold me.
00:14:17.020 Like I would follow
00:14:18.940 what we do
00:14:19.720 because it's what works.
00:14:20.880 Right.
00:14:21.860 Yeah.
00:14:22.540 Yeah.
00:14:22.780 Straightforward.
00:14:23.260 I think the same.
00:14:24.320 And so if the Iron Council
00:14:25.300 went away one day
00:14:26.320 for whatever reason,
00:14:27.700 I would hope
00:14:29.300 that everybody there
00:14:30.220 would continue
00:14:30.860 to do the same work
00:14:31.600 they're doing now.
00:14:32.460 Yeah.
00:14:33.000 Yeah,
00:14:33.260 absolutely.
00:14:34.040 Yeah.
00:14:34.580 Dustin Stokes,
00:14:35.840 I think as dads
00:14:37.080 we sometimes struggle
00:14:38.260 or at least I do
00:14:39.400 in connecting
00:14:39.960 with my sons
00:14:40.660 naturally and emotionally.
00:14:42.500 It's probably normal
00:14:43.700 in the teenage season,
00:14:44.840 but sometimes I struggle
00:14:45.900 finding conversation topics
00:14:47.320 to get us engaged
00:14:48.440 and talking.
00:14:49.520 It's almost like
00:14:50.440 they don't want to hear
00:14:51.520 all the cool business owners
00:14:53.620 I've met
00:14:54.180 and their general
00:14:55.000 liability policies
00:14:56.240 and I don't understand
00:14:57.540 or appreciate
00:14:59.320 the value behind six, seven.
00:15:03.320 Curious if y'all have advice
00:15:04.740 to get conversations
00:15:06.160 going with our sons.
00:15:08.080 What's with the six, seven thing?
00:15:09.820 What is that all about?
00:15:11.200 I actually had to look this up.
00:15:12.040 Dude, like my six-year-old,
00:15:13.520 we're in the kitchen,
00:15:14.240 he goes,
00:15:14.980 I'm like,
00:15:15.220 dude, what are you doing?
00:15:15.840 He's like,
00:15:16.440 I don't know,
00:15:17.360 six, seven.
00:15:18.140 And I'm like,
00:15:19.120 what the crap?
00:15:20.080 What does that mean?
00:15:20.740 And they're all laughing.
00:15:21.760 I'm like,
00:15:22.240 I don't even understand
00:15:23.260 what's going on.
00:15:24.420 Some basketball player online,
00:15:27.480 like, I don't know,
00:15:28.400 he said something about,
00:15:29.460 I don't know how tall I am.
00:15:30.720 Oh, I'm six, seven
00:15:31.660 or something like that.
00:15:32.960 And then everyone's latched onto it
00:15:34.820 and there's all these memes.
00:15:35.840 Something.
00:15:36.760 It's so dumb.
00:15:37.640 I'm sure I just ruined it,
00:15:39.200 but it's something like that.
00:15:40.000 Yeah.
00:15:40.860 Yeah.
00:15:42.840 It's amazing how often
00:15:44.220 I say six, seven
00:15:45.680 without realizing it
00:15:47.020 because every time I do,
00:15:47.940 my kids laugh
00:15:48.620 and I'm like,
00:15:49.020 did I say it again?
00:15:49.920 And I just say it
00:15:50.660 in random conversation.
00:15:52.240 So I realized
00:15:53.500 that I say that a lot.
00:15:55.780 You know,
00:15:56.440 here's the thing
00:15:57.320 that I'm learning
00:15:58.240 and I'm not an expert
00:16:00.100 at this by any means,
00:16:01.500 but as my children get older,
00:16:04.920 I'm a pretty intense person.
00:16:07.760 And so I want to have
00:16:09.420 deep conversations.
00:16:10.680 I want to get
00:16:11.280 to the root of problems.
00:16:12.420 I want to solve every issue.
00:16:15.220 I want my kids
00:16:16.060 to perform well.
00:16:16.980 I've put a lot of pressure
00:16:17.800 on my oldest lately
00:16:18.780 because he's getting close
00:16:20.880 to being out of the house.
00:16:22.100 And when I have
00:16:23.940 those serious conversations,
00:16:25.200 the walls go up.
00:16:26.540 They do.
00:16:27.120 And one thing
00:16:27.880 that I'm working on lately
00:16:29.300 is being able
00:16:31.260 to have fun
00:16:32.120 and just being able
00:16:35.200 to enjoy.
00:16:36.220 I talked a little bit
00:16:36.940 about that little moped
00:16:38.060 that I bought
00:16:38.680 several weeks ago.
00:16:40.360 And my youngest son and I,
00:16:41.760 man, we just love
00:16:42.500 to scoot around on that.
00:16:43.820 And we have
00:16:44.660 great conversations
00:16:46.220 and we laugh about it.
00:16:47.260 And then this weekend
00:16:47.880 I bought a new carburetor for it.
00:16:49.360 So my second son and I,
00:16:51.060 he's really into cars.
00:16:52.180 I don't know anything
00:16:52.820 about mechanics
00:16:53.680 or motors or engine.
00:16:54.860 I don't know anything.
00:16:56.060 So, but we're going
00:16:57.060 to do that together.
00:16:57.660 We're going to figure
00:16:58.140 it out together.
00:16:58.620 We're going to put
00:16:59.120 that carburetor in.
00:17:02.140 And I'm sure conversations
00:17:03.820 will come as we do it,
00:17:05.460 but I'm not doing it
00:17:07.000 for the conversations.
00:17:08.040 I'm doing it
00:17:08.940 for the connection.
00:17:10.420 And I think this goes back
00:17:11.580 to our previous question
00:17:12.780 about curiosity.
00:17:14.980 I don't want to hear
00:17:16.260 people lecture me.
00:17:18.380 You don't want to hear
00:17:19.520 people lecture you.
00:17:21.460 Unsolicited advice
00:17:22.440 in the history of humankind
00:17:23.580 has never been appreciated.
00:17:25.760 So why do we as fathers
00:17:27.920 think that our children
00:17:29.240 would appreciate it from us?
00:17:31.880 So I think the better approach
00:17:33.820 and at least this is
00:17:34.780 what I'm learning
00:17:35.380 and implementing
00:17:36.080 and it seems to be working
00:17:37.020 is just being curious
00:17:38.380 about their day,
00:17:40.700 about what they're up to,
00:17:42.240 find ways to laugh
00:17:43.740 and joke and play
00:17:44.680 and smile together.
00:17:45.940 And I think as a byproduct
00:17:47.840 of the trust
00:17:48.760 that you're building
00:17:49.440 with them
00:17:49.920 through those exercises,
00:17:51.080 the conversations
00:17:52.560 will start taking place.
00:17:53.960 At least that's been
00:17:54.780 my experience.
00:17:56.160 Yeah, and I think
00:17:57.580 once you're doing that,
00:17:59.200 the opportunities
00:17:59.800 for common interests
00:18:01.360 or understanding
00:18:02.560 what they want
00:18:03.080 to talk about
00:18:03.720 will show up.
00:18:04.540 I have three older boys
00:18:05.600 all out of the house.
00:18:06.780 I've dealt with all three
00:18:07.920 of them being teenagers
00:18:09.020 and there's times
00:18:10.500 during that teenage season
00:18:11.720 that like they don't
00:18:12.940 want to talk to me,
00:18:13.760 right?
00:18:14.260 Like I'm kind of grabbing
00:18:15.860 for straws, right?
00:18:17.100 To have something.
00:18:19.760 But kind of some part
00:18:21.560 of this is like
00:18:22.180 elevate your game, right?
00:18:24.380 It's like,
00:18:25.080 oh, they don't want
00:18:25.840 to hang out with me.
00:18:26.620 Well, maybe you're doing
00:18:27.340 lame stuff.
00:18:30.100 Maybe you do
00:18:31.280 an awesome backpacking trip
00:18:32.920 and all of a sudden
00:18:33.500 the boys are like
00:18:34.360 perking up going,
00:18:35.560 oh, I want to go.
00:18:36.800 I mean, you might
00:18:37.640 have to level up, right?
00:18:39.500 And sacrifice
00:18:40.160 and do cool shit
00:18:41.320 to get them to want
00:18:42.760 to like kind of
00:18:43.800 spend some time with you.
00:18:45.860 The other thing
00:18:46.460 I'd add to this
00:18:47.200 is there's a season
00:18:48.420 to this, right?
00:18:50.260 Like my son Ian,
00:18:51.860 you know,
00:18:52.200 probably his teenage years,
00:18:53.640 I didn't know,
00:18:55.360 I don't know,
00:18:55.780 we couldn't have
00:18:56.460 in-depth conversations.
00:18:57.540 I knew I could talk
00:18:58.720 to him about anything
00:18:59.540 around Star Wars
00:19:00.520 and we were good.
00:19:01.300 Like we could talk forever
00:19:02.500 if it was related
00:19:03.660 to Star Wars.
00:19:05.200 Now, man,
00:19:06.680 I mentioned a good book
00:19:07.980 like The Untethered Soul.
00:19:10.980 Dude, him and I
00:19:11.920 will talk for hours
00:19:13.120 on The Fourth Agreement
00:19:15.300 and Untethered Soul
00:19:16.360 and Stoicism
00:19:17.180 because that's,
00:19:18.560 he's evolved.
00:19:19.600 I was curious
00:19:20.720 and he evolved
00:19:23.200 and there's a new version
00:19:24.300 of him
00:19:24.740 that I'm connecting with
00:19:25.800 that didn't exist,
00:19:27.360 of course,
00:19:28.500 when he was a teenager.
00:19:29.500 And so understand
00:19:31.740 there's times and seasons
00:19:32.740 and you might have
00:19:33.420 to level up your game.
00:19:34.480 I actually have
00:19:35.180 a funny story.
00:19:36.240 It's not a teenager story
00:19:37.320 but like if you don't
00:19:38.480 mind me sharing it,
00:19:39.180 it's quite hilarious.
00:19:40.440 So my wife's dad
00:19:42.600 and he luckily
00:19:43.340 doesn't listen to the podcast
00:19:44.240 so he won't judge me
00:19:46.220 for this.
00:19:46.840 I'm going to send him
00:19:47.440 a link.
00:19:48.140 But he's a tinker,
00:19:50.520 right?
00:19:51.060 Like he'll see
00:19:52.080 a motorcycle sitting there
00:19:53.100 and he'll be like,
00:19:54.000 we should repair that.
00:19:55.520 And I'm like,
00:19:56.080 dude,
00:19:56.260 it doesn't need
00:19:56.680 to be repaired.
00:19:57.120 But he'll want to
00:19:58.160 take it apart
00:19:58.880 and work on it,
00:20:00.040 right?
00:20:01.140 It's his thing
00:20:02.040 and he's retired
00:20:03.500 and he looks for value
00:20:05.040 in doing those things.
00:20:07.540 And we're getting ready
00:20:08.960 at the end of the summer
00:20:09.860 and we're like,
00:20:10.720 oh,
00:20:10.860 what's winterized the boat?
00:20:13.380 And he goes,
00:20:14.520 I think the alternator's bad.
00:20:16.580 We need to replace
00:20:17.360 that alternator.
00:20:18.080 I'm thinking,
00:20:18.740 I don't think the alternator's,
00:20:20.140 I don't think anything's wrong
00:20:21.220 with the alternator.
00:20:22.120 Like I don't think
00:20:23.540 we should touch the boat
00:20:24.580 at all,
00:20:25.400 right?
00:20:26.220 And he's like,
00:20:26.820 nah,
00:20:26.980 I'm pretty sure
00:20:27.520 the alternator's bad.
00:20:28.580 I'm like,
00:20:29.160 and I thought about it
00:20:31.180 and I thought,
00:20:32.040 you know what?
00:20:33.800 You want to come down
00:20:34.960 to the lake house
00:20:35.840 and you want to take out
00:20:36.920 the alternator
00:20:37.640 and we spend the weekend
00:20:39.080 together trying
00:20:39.740 to repair the boat.
00:20:41.880 Let's do it.
00:20:43.460 And now,
00:20:44.160 full disclosure,
00:20:44.980 I did that
00:20:45.860 knowing
00:20:46.480 that I'll probably
00:20:48.660 get a new alternator,
00:20:49.960 we'll probably put it in,
00:20:51.760 the boat won't work
00:20:53.360 and then it'll be like
00:20:54.560 a downward spiral
00:20:55.760 and then I'll end up
00:20:56.580 getting rid of the boat
00:20:57.240 and having to buy a new one,
00:20:58.120 right?
00:20:58.380 Like full disclosure,
00:21:00.240 I'm afraid
00:21:00.700 that's your plan all along.
00:21:01.940 That's your plan all along.
00:21:03.380 Get a new boat.
00:21:04.720 Possibly.
00:21:05.140 Got it.
00:21:05.500 Got it.
00:21:06.080 But the chances
00:21:06.900 of this going well
00:21:08.240 for me
00:21:10.280 is low.
00:21:12.140 Yeah.
00:21:12.620 But guess what?
00:21:15.060 That's,
00:21:15.420 you know what?
00:21:15.900 Let's take out
00:21:16.820 the alternator,
00:21:18.140 right?
00:21:18.380 Let's do this.
00:21:19.000 It'll be fun.
00:21:20.060 You know?
00:21:20.460 Yeah.
00:21:20.640 And I learned some stuff
00:21:21.700 and it's what he wants to do.
00:21:22.620 So I mean,
00:21:24.480 I've got similar stories,
00:21:25.940 you know,
00:21:26.080 my,
00:21:26.440 my oldest,
00:21:27.260 for whatever reason,
00:21:28.220 like three weeks ago,
00:21:29.640 he he's like,
00:21:31.420 Hey dad,
00:21:31.640 I'm going to go golf.
00:21:32.420 I'm like,
00:21:32.640 you don't golf.
00:21:33.400 He's like,
00:21:33.920 yeah,
00:21:34.040 but I'm going golfing.
00:21:35.100 I'm like,
00:21:35.540 all right,
00:21:35.860 have fun.
00:21:37.100 And he's really been
00:21:37.980 getting into it.
00:21:38.520 He's like,
00:21:38.900 and I used to golf
00:21:39.800 before I moved to Maine.
00:21:41.600 I did.
00:21:42.160 And when I was doing
00:21:42.780 my financial planning stuff,
00:21:43.920 cause that's how
00:21:44.460 financial professionals
00:21:45.480 network over golf.
00:21:47.240 Yeah.
00:21:47.740 And so I got into it
00:21:48.820 and I,
00:21:49.040 and I loved it and it,
00:21:49.960 but it's been probably
00:21:50.540 six,
00:21:50.960 seven years.
00:21:51.500 See,
00:21:52.060 I just said at six,
00:21:52.880 seven.
00:21:54.020 Um,
00:21:54.520 and,
00:21:56.380 uh,
00:21:57.620 and he asked me the other day,
00:21:59.080 he said,
00:21:59.280 dad,
00:21:59.460 do you want to go golf?
00:22:01.140 And I said,
00:22:01.580 I don't golf.
00:22:02.160 He's like,
00:22:02.500 yeah,
00:22:02.640 but I want to go.
00:22:03.220 I'm like,
00:22:03.500 all right,
00:22:03.760 let's go.
00:22:04.780 And so we went
00:22:05.720 and we had a great time.
00:22:06.900 We've been golfing
00:22:07.540 in the past couple of weeks,
00:22:08.600 uh,
00:22:09.140 once a week
00:22:09.840 for the past couple of weeks.
00:22:10.740 So we've been out twice
00:22:11.580 and it's fun.
00:22:14.240 And one last,
00:22:15.560 last time we went out,
00:22:16.400 he was having a really bad round
00:22:17.840 and he was getting frustrated.
00:22:19.680 And there you go.
00:22:20.400 There's an opportunity
00:22:21.340 for a life lesson.
00:22:22.920 Hey,
00:22:23.260 bud,
00:22:23.620 like,
00:22:24.300 you know what?
00:22:25.040 You got to chalk up that loss
00:22:26.580 because it just,
00:22:28.340 it's over.
00:22:29.120 It is what it is.
00:22:29.960 Now you have to recenter,
00:22:30.900 refocus.
00:22:31.760 And we're having these like
00:22:32.980 little life conversations
00:22:34.820 between holes.
00:22:36.360 And it's not like I trapped him
00:22:38.440 in the car for hours
00:22:39.420 to talk about why he needs
00:22:40.580 to be resilient.
00:22:41.780 It was just in the moment,
00:22:43.100 just a quick little thing
00:22:44.180 in real time.
00:22:45.300 And he did fine.
00:22:46.120 You know,
00:22:46.960 um,
00:22:47.700 my youngest son
00:22:48.540 is hugely into Pokemon.
00:22:50.740 I don't care about Pokemon,
00:22:52.200 but he does.
00:22:53.740 And so there's a local card shop
00:22:56.320 that he really likes.
00:22:57.160 So we went there
00:22:57.880 and I,
00:22:59.180 again,
00:22:59.240 I don't care about it.
00:23:00.420 I care about him,
00:23:01.280 but he spent an hour with me
00:23:03.880 at that card shop
00:23:04.740 showing me all the different things.
00:23:06.420 And he was telling me
00:23:07.500 what cards are what
00:23:08.580 and how expensive this one is
00:23:10.240 relative to this one.
00:23:11.300 And then how you're supposed
00:23:12.460 to put the Pokemon cards
00:23:13.940 in the binder the right way.
00:23:15.700 Because if you don't,
00:23:16.820 it'll crease the edges
00:23:17.960 and then the value of the card.
00:23:19.840 He's nine,
00:23:21.220 but he's into it.
00:23:22.500 And so I'm into it.
00:23:24.060 And then we can have conversations,
00:23:25.760 silly conversations like,
00:23:27.940 you know,
00:23:28.280 what,
00:23:28.500 what would Charizard do
00:23:29.700 in this situation?
00:23:32.280 And like,
00:23:33.020 that's a real conversation
00:23:34.320 that you can have
00:23:35.180 about critical decision-making.
00:23:38.040 Or,
00:23:39.020 you know,
00:23:39.400 when you were talking
00:23:40.140 about your son in Star Wars,
00:23:41.460 hey,
00:23:41.700 you know,
00:23:41.940 if Darth Vader was faced
00:23:43.060 with these two options,
00:23:44.420 what do you,
00:23:44.800 what do you think
00:23:45.300 Darth Vader would do
00:23:46.380 in that situation?
00:23:48.460 That's a way more
00:23:49.560 compelling conversation
00:23:50.660 for a nine-year-old
00:23:51.940 than,
00:23:52.880 hey,
00:23:53.080 son,
00:23:53.480 let me sit down
00:23:54.600 and talk with you
00:23:55.300 about the dichotomy
00:23:56.200 of decision-making.
00:23:57.500 And then you lecture him
00:23:58.800 for the next hour.
00:24:00.160 So I think there's
00:24:00.800 some creative ways
00:24:01.580 to do it here.
00:24:02.680 That's funny.
00:24:03.480 You know,
00:24:03.700 Kiave's always
00:24:04.740 trying to get me
00:24:05.400 to play golf.
00:24:06.360 And I play,
00:24:08.400 I enjoy watching him.
00:24:09.720 I get mad.
00:24:11.200 And so I'm like,
00:24:11.900 I'm putting myself
00:24:13.180 in the fire
00:24:14.420 to go play golf
00:24:15.620 with you
00:24:15.860 because I suck so bad.
00:24:17.300 but he's so good
00:24:18.880 about it,
00:24:20.020 right?
00:24:20.360 And it's,
00:24:21.060 you know,
00:24:21.380 you sacrifice the rep.
00:24:23.020 So if you guys
00:24:23.640 end up playing golf
00:24:24.260 up north,
00:24:24.720 let me know
00:24:25.100 because Kiave's
00:24:25.720 all about playing
00:24:26.440 some rounds.
00:24:27.140 So we'll play
00:24:27.660 with you guys.
00:24:28.020 Let's do it.
00:24:28.360 I'm in for sure.
00:24:29.500 For sure.
00:24:29.940 All right.
00:24:30.580 All right.
00:24:30.900 We beat that one to death.
00:24:32.080 Yeah.
00:24:32.240 Yeah.
00:24:32.440 Sorry.
00:24:32.980 William Pinnell.
00:24:34.680 This is a person.
00:24:39.160 Oh,
00:24:39.660 here we go.
00:24:39.980 Hold on.
00:24:40.640 I'm jacking up.
00:24:42.000 I read this question.
00:24:42.940 He's,
00:24:43.220 he's,
00:24:43.540 he's good.
00:24:44.060 Go ahead and read
00:24:44.500 that question.
00:24:45.260 Okay.
00:24:45.520 Am I good reading
00:24:46.160 the question
00:24:46.640 or is he one?
00:24:47.400 Yeah,
00:24:47.420 read the question.
00:24:48.340 Okay.
00:24:49.080 No,
00:24:49.280 no,
00:24:49.400 no.
00:24:49.660 He's talking about me
00:24:50.900 because it's a personal
00:24:51.860 question towards me.
00:24:53.140 Oh,
00:24:53.160 got it.
00:24:53.480 Got it.
00:24:53.740 I just like thought
00:24:54.580 I name dropped him
00:24:55.600 and then I'm like,
00:24:56.280 ah,
00:24:56.620 now we're not going
00:24:57.380 to cover this question.
00:24:58.280 Okay.
00:24:58.540 Got it.
00:24:58.900 It's a personal question
00:24:59.580 for Ryan.
00:25:00.660 All right.
00:25:01.080 When you look back
00:25:01.980 at the episodes
00:25:02.880 when you were
00:25:03.640 under the influence,
00:25:05.980 how,
00:25:06.340 um,
00:25:06.700 how to,
00:25:07.580 how to you view
00:25:09.240 those interviews?
00:25:09.940 How do you,
00:25:10.580 uh,
00:25:11.360 view those interviews
00:25:12.260 and episodes?
00:25:15.380 Yeah.
00:25:15.940 I,
00:25:16.200 you know,
00:25:16.380 I've got a lot
00:25:16.860 of feelings about that.
00:25:17.920 When I was drinking,
00:25:18.660 it was,
00:25:19.500 I convinced myself
00:25:22.040 that I was a better
00:25:23.300 interviewer when I was
00:25:24.700 inebriated
00:25:26.060 because I was more
00:25:27.940 casual,
00:25:28.620 more loose,
00:25:29.320 maybe more confrontational
00:25:30.760 in certain things.
00:25:32.020 Um,
00:25:32.460 and now I realize
00:25:34.920 that's not true.
00:25:36.240 You know,
00:25:36.520 we hear that,
00:25:37.220 you know,
00:25:37.520 alcohol being the social
00:25:38.680 lubricant and there's
00:25:40.440 certainly an element of
00:25:41.500 that because your
00:25:42.060 inhibitions tend to be
00:25:44.640 less,
00:25:45.780 right?
00:25:46.060 Like,
00:25:46.320 or,
00:25:46.480 or yeah,
00:25:47.540 you're,
00:25:47.780 you're just more likely
00:25:48.640 to do and say whatever
00:25:51.020 comes to your mind,
00:25:51.820 whatever you want to do
00:25:52.540 and say.
00:25:53.160 So in some ways I've
00:25:55.280 was able to convince
00:25:56.420 myself that I was more
00:25:57.400 creative,
00:25:57.760 a better podcaster.
00:25:58.600 Um,
00:26:00.080 and you know,
00:26:01.160 I did,
00:26:01.560 I did fairly well,
00:26:02.720 all things considered
00:26:03.680 in those,
00:26:04.280 in those moments.
00:26:05.100 Um,
00:26:05.500 but I don't really feel
00:26:07.120 like looking back on it
00:26:08.120 now that I was doing
00:26:09.460 any justice to my guests.
00:26:10.940 I was,
00:26:11.380 it was completely
00:26:12.060 disrespectful,
00:26:12.740 uh,
00:26:14.060 to,
00:26:14.320 to not be fully
00:26:16.540 present.
00:26:18.160 Um,
00:26:18.740 there,
00:26:19.020 there was moments
00:26:19.680 that I remember
00:26:20.320 where I would
00:26:21.020 like,
00:26:22.140 just kind of
00:26:22.780 go blank
00:26:24.060 and lose focus
00:26:25.500 because I was drinking.
00:26:27.640 So it was disrespectful
00:26:29.440 to my guests
00:26:30.780 and it was disrespectful
00:26:31.820 to you guys,
00:26:32.680 the people listening
00:26:33.380 because I wasn't
00:26:34.820 fully there
00:26:35.560 and able to have
00:26:36.400 the types of conversations
00:26:37.560 that I told you guys
00:26:39.520 I would have
00:26:40.060 and that you deserve.
00:26:41.020 So I'm not embarrassed,
00:26:43.960 but by those episodes,
00:26:45.740 I wouldn't say embarrassed,
00:26:47.120 but ashamed.
00:26:48.700 Yeah,
00:26:49.220 for sure.
00:26:50.180 And yeah,
00:26:51.580 that was tough.
00:26:52.780 And I appreciate
00:26:53.840 that Ryan,
00:26:54.740 but like,
00:26:55.200 I don't know,
00:26:55.760 like we always
00:26:57.300 put everything
00:26:58.020 black and white,
00:26:58.760 right?
00:26:58.940 It's like,
00:26:59.300 oh my gosh,
00:27:00.060 you were,
00:27:00.700 you were still
00:27:02.540 trying to engage
00:27:03.520 the client.
00:27:04.020 You're still having
00:27:04.800 a meaningful conversation.
00:27:06.300 Like you're trying
00:27:08.500 now,
00:27:09.120 could you have
00:27:10.280 shown up better?
00:27:11.900 Of course,
00:27:13.500 in the same breath.
00:27:14.960 How many conversations
00:27:15.940 am I going to have today
00:27:17.220 where I'm distracted,
00:27:19.120 where I'm sedating myself
00:27:20.580 with social media
00:27:21.440 mid conversation?
00:27:22.780 Where I'm not
00:27:23.480 fully tentative
00:27:24.580 to the individual
00:27:25.460 I'm talking to?
00:27:27.100 Oh,
00:27:27.420 but we're not going
00:27:28.000 to talk about those.
00:27:29.520 Look,
00:27:30.180 I mean,
00:27:30.860 you know,
00:27:31.260 and I appreciate you
00:27:32.340 like,
00:27:33.280 like taking that on,
00:27:34.720 like,
00:27:34.940 man,
00:27:35.320 you know,
00:27:35.760 it was not valuable
00:27:37.060 like,
00:27:37.340 or my,
00:27:38.300 my podcast guests,
00:27:39.580 but in the same breath,
00:27:40.420 it's like,
00:27:41.060 but you still had
00:27:41.880 a meaningful conversation.
00:27:43.060 You just weren't
00:27:44.100 fully there
00:27:45.040 as much as you
00:27:45.800 could have been.
00:27:46.340 and whether we're
00:27:48.240 drinking or not,
00:27:49.060 I would challenge
00:27:50.240 everybody.
00:27:50.740 I'm not trying
00:27:51.260 to justify
00:27:52.000 those past episodes
00:27:53.900 for you,
00:27:54.640 but everyone listening
00:27:56.020 should be like,
00:27:56.640 well,
00:27:56.740 how often
00:27:57.320 am I sedating
00:27:58.360 myself
00:27:58.900 in other ways
00:28:00.220 and not being
00:28:01.200 fully present
00:28:01.900 to my kids
00:28:02.900 and,
00:28:03.200 and to people
00:28:04.080 I'm having
00:28:04.540 conversations with?
00:28:05.580 Call it alcohol,
00:28:06.540 call it something else,
00:28:07.360 but let's be honest.
00:28:08.580 Most of us
00:28:09.380 are not
00:28:09.780 fully present
00:28:11.040 and stepping up,
00:28:12.640 you know,
00:28:13.720 fully,
00:28:14.540 right?
00:28:14.780 In all that we do
00:28:15.580 and,
00:28:15.940 and that's a lesson
00:28:16.720 for all of us
00:28:17.220 regardless.
00:28:18.960 And I think we're,
00:28:19.920 I think we're,
00:28:20.420 I think we both
00:28:21.000 have valid points,
00:28:21.940 right?
00:28:22.980 Your,
00:28:23.500 your point is valid
00:28:24.400 and that,
00:28:26.400 and I've been distracted
00:28:27.380 with other things
00:28:28.240 since then too.
00:28:30.060 So,
00:28:30.480 I mean,
00:28:30.680 I hear what you're saying
00:28:31.420 and it's valid
00:28:31.940 and also what I'm saying
00:28:33.440 is valid
00:28:33.860 because we do need
00:28:35.360 to evaluate
00:28:35.860 our performance
00:28:36.700 and we do need
00:28:37.900 to ask ourselves
00:28:38.660 if we're showing up
00:28:39.340 properly.
00:28:39.780 So,
00:28:40.280 you know,
00:28:40.540 I did have
00:28:41.360 good conversations
00:28:42.300 and clearly
00:28:43.040 they were valuable
00:28:43.760 to people who listen
00:28:44.720 because the podcast
00:28:45.660 is doing very well.
00:28:47.220 But I still feel like
00:28:48.500 there was a level
00:28:49.160 of disrespect.
00:28:50.120 You know,
00:28:50.340 if we were,
00:28:50.860 if we were sitting around
00:28:51.780 having drinks together
00:28:52.800 having a conversation,
00:28:53.840 that to me
00:28:54.860 wouldn't be disrespectful
00:28:55.840 because we're doing
00:28:56.520 it together
00:28:57.040 and everybody knows
00:28:58.380 the game is being played.
00:28:59.360 But the fact you were
00:28:59.460 and they weren't.
00:29:00.260 Yeah.
00:29:01.380 That's,
00:29:01.940 that's,
00:29:02.400 to me that's a problem.
00:29:03.440 You know,
00:29:03.620 you think about like
00:29:04.480 Joe Rogan
00:29:05.240 is notorious
00:29:06.900 for getting high
00:29:08.340 while he's doing interviews.
00:29:09.420 Well,
00:29:09.580 everybody knows it
00:29:10.580 and sometimes
00:29:11.580 his guests
00:29:12.000 are getting high
00:29:12.480 with him.
00:29:13.400 So,
00:29:14.180 that's not quite
00:29:15.560 the same thing.
00:29:18.300 I think that's
00:29:19.120 where the difference is.
00:29:20.400 Yeah,
00:29:20.700 I see that.
00:29:21.380 I see that.
00:29:22.440 All right,
00:29:22.900 Matt Wren,
00:29:23.740 another new member
00:29:24.460 of the IC,
00:29:26.140 looking for the best way
00:29:28.060 to connect with my wife
00:29:29.380 in a way
00:29:29.740 that she doesn't feel
00:29:30.580 like it's a checklist,
00:29:32.400 especially when I use
00:29:33.520 checklists
00:29:34.000 to accomplish
00:29:34.660 most of what I do
00:29:35.820 throughout my life.
00:29:37.680 Yeah.
00:29:38.500 Well,
00:29:38.900 I mean,
00:29:39.120 there's nothing wrong
00:29:39.860 with checklists
00:29:40.580 and there's nothing wrong
00:29:41.480 with making things
00:29:43.340 and people,
00:29:44.280 your wife in this case,
00:29:45.260 a priority.
00:29:46.180 And she should be
00:29:47.900 on your checklist
00:29:48.520 if I'm being honest.
00:29:50.360 She should be
00:29:50.900 one of the things
00:29:51.700 that you're trying
00:29:52.800 to pay attention to
00:29:54.020 and prioritize.
00:29:55.760 I don't think
00:29:56.520 that's the problem.
00:29:58.180 When,
00:29:59.200 a lot of times
00:30:00.200 when we do,
00:30:00.860 when I hear checklist
00:30:02.180 or to-do list
00:30:03.780 or I'm checking
00:30:04.620 it off the list,
00:30:05.980 usually there's no
00:30:07.840 heart and soul
00:30:08.680 in that.
00:30:11.080 There's,
00:30:11.500 there's no emotion
00:30:12.440 tied to that.
00:30:13.640 There's,
00:30:13.860 there's no,
00:30:14.480 there's no passion.
00:30:16.020 There's no doing it
00:30:17.020 to the nth degree.
00:30:17.880 It's like,
00:30:18.280 shit,
00:30:18.500 I just got to do this thing.
00:30:19.640 I got to check it
00:30:20.220 off the list.
00:30:20.780 Like,
00:30:21.060 oh yeah,
00:30:21.340 we're supposed to go
00:30:21.900 on a date,
00:30:22.360 but I haven't put
00:30:23.300 any thought at,
00:30:23.920 damn it.
00:30:24.680 Oh,
00:30:24.920 let's just go to
00:30:25.660 wherever we go
00:30:27.180 and like,
00:30:27.560 we'll just do the same
00:30:28.240 thing we did last week.
00:30:30.120 That's where I think
00:30:31.000 it's going to feel
00:30:31.740 like a checklist to her.
00:30:33.020 And it would feel
00:30:33.500 like that to you too.
00:30:35.160 So how do you change that?
00:30:37.280 Instead,
00:30:37.960 you do,
00:30:38.540 you,
00:30:38.840 you're thoughtful
00:30:39.820 instead of just
00:30:41.700 doing it last minute.
00:30:43.100 You think a week ahead,
00:30:44.140 you know what,
00:30:44.660 man,
00:30:44.840 there's that new
00:30:45.340 restaurant in town
00:30:46.180 and my wife mentioned
00:30:47.900 something about it.
00:30:48.680 I think she'd really
00:30:49.320 like to do that.
00:30:49.980 And so a week earlier
00:30:50.940 you get a reservation
00:30:51.960 and you secure
00:30:54.040 the babysitter
00:30:54.760 and you know
00:30:55.220 what else you do?
00:30:55.840 You go to
00:30:56.820 the local car wash
00:30:58.800 and you clean
00:30:59.460 the truck
00:30:59.980 and you pull
00:31:00.880 all the trash
00:31:01.440 out of it
00:31:01.860 and you pick
00:31:02.380 the gum
00:31:02.740 off the seats
00:31:03.280 from the kids
00:31:03.960 and you reach
00:31:05.100 down in there
00:31:05.640 and pull all
00:31:06.120 the old
00:31:06.560 McDonald's french fries
00:31:07.880 out from between
00:31:08.840 the seat
00:31:09.260 and you clean
00:31:10.600 the vehicle
00:31:11.420 so that when
00:31:12.740 your wife
00:31:13.340 gets in there
00:31:14.080 she knows
00:31:15.600 that you
00:31:16.000 and you don't
00:31:16.440 have to say
00:31:17.040 hey I cleaned
00:31:17.500 it for us
00:31:17.940 she'll see it
00:31:18.660 she'll acknowledge
00:31:19.680 it
00:31:19.940 you look good
00:31:21.120 you groom
00:31:22.120 yourself
00:31:22.560 you show up
00:31:23.160 ready to have
00:31:23.820 a deep
00:31:24.320 and meaningful
00:31:24.760 conversation
00:31:25.480 you set the tone
00:31:26.700 you be the leader
00:31:27.640 and when you
00:31:28.740 start focusing
00:31:29.580 on the little
00:31:30.640 things
00:31:31.200 and take those
00:31:32.920 assignments to
00:31:33.620 the nth degree
00:31:34.320 she's not going
00:31:35.040 to feel like
00:31:35.580 she's just
00:31:36.060 the checklist
00:31:36.740 she's going
00:31:37.960 to feel valued
00:31:38.740 she's going
00:31:39.140 to feel
00:31:39.440 important
00:31:39.980 she's going
00:31:40.340 to feel
00:31:40.640 like you
00:31:41.120 put in time
00:31:42.440 and attention
00:31:43.180 and energy
00:31:44.060 and she isn't
00:31:45.060 going to feel
00:31:45.460 like oh shit
00:31:46.360 I got to do
00:31:46.800 this thing
00:31:47.200 real quick
00:31:47.580 she's going
00:31:47.920 to feel like
00:31:48.440 she's important
00:31:49.620 because she is
00:31:50.940 so I think
00:31:52.440 it has more
00:31:53.000 to do with
00:31:53.440 how you do
00:31:54.100 it than what
00:31:54.740 you do
00:31:55.120 there's nothing
00:31:55.660 wrong with
00:31:56.340 having date night
00:31:57.760 on your calendar
00:31:58.560 and having it
00:31:59.520 as a checklisted
00:32:00.540 type item
00:32:01.040 nothing
00:32:01.640 you should
00:32:02.440 you should have
00:32:03.500 that locked
00:32:03.880 into your calendar
00:32:04.520 it's the way
00:32:05.740 you do it
00:32:06.260 that matters
00:32:06.820 that's what's
00:32:07.560 going to be
00:32:07.800 the difference
00:32:08.320 oh shit
00:32:09.300 we have date night
00:32:10.260 in an hour
00:32:11.040 it's on my list
00:32:12.100 where do you want
00:32:12.960 to go
00:32:13.180 do you just
00:32:13.580 want to do
00:32:13.940 something real
00:32:14.320 quick
00:32:14.720 right
00:32:15.940 yeah
00:32:16.700 right
00:32:17.060 yeah
00:32:17.520 yeah totally
00:32:18.440 so set the tone
00:32:20.980 you know
00:32:21.440 and that's the
00:32:22.140 beautiful thing
00:32:22.760 about being a leader
00:32:23.620 is you get
00:32:25.320 what you want
00:32:25.920 you get to do
00:32:27.280 it your way
00:32:27.760 I love that
00:32:28.900 about leadership
00:32:29.500 there's too many
00:32:30.600 guys who
00:32:31.400 they abdicate
00:32:33.400 leadership
00:32:33.840 they don't want
00:32:34.780 it
00:32:35.020 they say things
00:32:35.940 like this is
00:32:36.500 above my pay
00:32:37.220 grade
00:32:37.440 they don't pay
00:32:37.960 me enough
00:32:38.320 to do this
00:32:38.780 kind of thing
00:32:39.460 I'd rather be
00:32:41.020 the leader
00:32:41.380 because as the
00:32:42.300 leader I get
00:32:43.040 to do what
00:32:43.600 I want to do
00:32:44.520 and I enjoy
00:32:47.420 making things
00:32:49.420 an experience
00:32:50.540 whether it's
00:32:51.200 this podcast
00:32:51.760 or a date
00:32:52.760 with my girlfriend
00:32:53.460 or an evening
00:32:54.940 with my kids
00:32:55.920 or a new
00:32:57.120 course that we
00:32:57.740 might put out
00:32:58.320 and make available
00:32:58.960 I enjoy
00:33:00.880 making it
00:33:01.840 an experience
00:33:02.500 and that's
00:33:03.400 what takes
00:33:03.880 the
00:33:04.360 sense of
00:33:06.560 obligation
00:33:07.600 out of it
00:33:08.260 and makes it
00:33:09.040 more of a
00:33:09.380 priority
00:33:09.800 yeah
00:33:10.900 absolutely
00:33:11.580 Sean Corbin
00:33:13.420 looking for
00:33:14.740 resources for
00:33:15.660 starting your
00:33:16.280 own business
00:33:16.920 recommended
00:33:18.220 resources
00:33:18.960 well
00:33:20.540 man
00:33:21.560 that's pretty
00:33:22.080 broad
00:33:22.560 I
00:33:23.180 I would
00:33:25.160 say
00:33:25.660 I mean
00:33:27.900 I don't even
00:33:28.240 know what kind
00:33:28.720 of business
00:33:29.120 you're starting
00:33:29.680 is it
00:33:30.020 is it a
00:33:30.580 B2B
00:33:31.020 is it
00:33:31.580 is it
00:33:32.060 a digital
00:33:32.500 business
00:33:33.140 is it
00:33:33.620 consumers
00:33:34.280 sales
00:33:34.940 is it
00:33:35.580 like
00:33:35.760 I mean
00:33:36.160 that's the
00:33:36.500 first thing
00:33:36.900 you need
00:33:37.140 to narrow
00:33:37.420 down
00:33:37.800 is
00:33:38.040 what kind
00:33:38.900 of business
00:33:39.300 are you
00:33:39.600 trying to
00:33:40.000 create
00:33:40.320 and then
00:33:40.860 I think
00:33:42.240 speaking of
00:33:43.000 checklist
00:33:43.460 write the
00:33:44.140 checklist
00:33:44.440 down on
00:33:44.880 what you
00:33:45.140 need to
00:33:45.320 do
00:33:45.580 so
00:33:46.080 marketing
00:33:46.580 okay
00:33:47.200 I need
00:33:47.400 to know
00:33:47.580 how to
00:33:47.780 market
00:33:48.060 okay
00:33:49.420 who's a
00:33:49.960 good
00:33:50.080 marketer
00:33:50.980 who has
00:33:51.440 a course
00:33:51.860 who has
00:33:52.180 a program
00:33:52.680 on marketing
00:33:53.360 type in
00:33:53.820 marketing
00:33:54.220 maybe there's
00:33:55.780 brands that
00:33:56.360 you already
00:33:56.920 follow in
00:33:57.660 the same
00:33:58.080 vein of
00:33:59.020 what you're
00:33:59.420 doing
00:33:59.720 follow them
00:34:01.100 look at
00:34:01.640 what they
00:34:01.940 do
00:34:02.700 mimic
00:34:03.360 don't
00:34:04.260 don't
00:34:04.540 copy
00:34:04.980 but mimic
00:34:06.140 there's
00:34:06.900 things that
00:34:07.520 there's
00:34:07.820 strategy
00:34:08.320 that's
00:34:08.620 working
00:34:08.900 try to
00:34:09.260 uncover
00:34:09.640 and unpack
00:34:10.100 what it
00:34:10.400 is when
00:34:10.680 it comes
00:34:10.960 to
00:34:11.100 marketing
00:34:11.460 social
00:34:12.300 media
00:34:12.660 maybe
00:34:13.100 somebody
00:34:13.440 does
00:34:13.600 social
00:34:14.000 media
00:34:14.220 really
00:34:14.540 well
00:34:14.820 and you
00:34:15.040 resonate
00:34:15.320 with
00:34:15.580 it
00:34:15.760 okay
00:34:16.160 well
00:34:16.760 there's
00:34:17.300 something
00:34:17.560 about it
00:34:17.960 that you
00:34:18.200 resonate
00:34:18.480 with
00:34:18.780 so you
00:34:19.280 can
00:34:19.540 mimic
00:34:20.180 some of
00:34:20.540 the same
00:34:20.960 behaviors
00:34:21.540 and engagement
00:34:22.080 that they're
00:34:22.760 using on
00:34:23.240 social media
00:34:23.800 you're going
00:34:25.460 to need to
00:34:25.800 know the
00:34:26.080 numbers
00:34:26.500 taxes
00:34:27.220 and how
00:34:28.860 to set
00:34:29.180 up the
00:34:29.420 LLC
00:34:29.740 properly
00:34:30.440 go get
00:34:32.360 an attorney
00:34:32.820 go get
00:34:33.480 an accountant
00:34:33.900 find a
00:34:34.500 CPA
00:34:34.840 ask your
00:34:35.720 other
00:34:35.880 entrepreneur
00:34:36.500 buddies
00:34:36.900 who are
00:34:37.440 you using
00:34:37.960 for
00:34:38.260 taxes
00:34:38.920 who is
00:34:39.680 your
00:34:39.840 attorney
00:34:40.220 it's
00:34:41.540 really
00:34:41.740 hard
00:34:42.020 to
00:34:42.320 answer
00:34:42.640 it's
00:34:43.020 so
00:34:43.180 broad
00:34:43.560 but
00:34:43.780 you
00:34:43.960 just
00:34:44.120 create
00:34:44.400 a
00:34:44.540 checklist
00:34:44.880 of
00:34:45.080 the
00:34:45.200 things
00:34:45.460 that
00:34:45.620 you
00:34:45.760 need
00:34:46.000 to
00:34:46.080 get
00:34:46.200 done
00:34:46.460 and
00:34:47.520 you
00:34:47.640 go
00:34:47.840 to
00:34:48.000 the
00:34:48.120 places
00:34:48.460 that
00:34:48.780 are
00:34:49.040 already
00:34:49.320 doing
00:34:49.620 the
00:34:49.760 thing
00:34:49.920 that
00:34:50.080 you
00:34:50.200 want
00:34:50.360 to
00:34:50.420 be
00:34:50.520 doing
00:34:50.780 and
00:34:52.000 you
00:34:52.120 talk
00:34:52.360 with
00:34:52.520 them
00:34:52.660 you
00:34:52.820 add
00:34:52.940 value
00:34:53.280 to
00:34:53.420 them
00:34:53.620 you
00:34:53.860 serve
00:34:54.240 them
00:34:54.520 you
00:34:54.660 ask
00:34:54.860 them
00:34:55.020 questions
00:34:55.440 and
00:34:55.780 then
00:34:55.940 you
00:34:56.100 start
00:34:56.400 to
00:34:57.080 mimic
00:34:57.300 that
00:34:57.600 and
00:34:57.860 you
00:34:57.980 find
00:34:58.520 your
00:34:58.820 way
00:34:59.240 of
00:34:59.380 doing
00:34:59.580 it
00:34:59.800 I
00:35:00.140 wish
00:35:00.300 I
00:35:00.400 could
00:35:00.500 give
00:35:00.620 a
00:35:00.720 better
00:35:00.880 answer
00:35:01.240 but
00:35:01.520 it's
00:35:01.720 so
00:35:01.880 broad
00:35:02.240 we
00:35:04.040 have
00:35:04.460 said
00:35:05.060 this
00:35:05.240 so
00:35:05.580 many
00:35:05.840 times
00:35:06.360 and
00:35:06.600 so
00:35:06.740 my
00:35:06.920 apologies
00:35:07.320 for
00:35:07.600 everyone
00:35:07.880 that's
00:35:08.120 already
00:35:08.380 like
00:35:08.640 oh
00:35:08.840 my
00:35:09.000 gosh
00:35:09.320 they're
00:35:09.480 talking
00:35:09.720 about
00:35:10.040 a
00:35:10.240 minimal
00:35:10.480 viable
00:35:10.880 product
00:35:11.380 again
00:35:11.680 but
00:35:11.840 it
00:35:11.960 just
00:35:12.580 have
00:35:12.880 to
00:35:13.020 touch
00:35:13.240 base
00:35:13.540 on
00:35:13.660 that
00:35:13.820 just
00:35:14.020 really
00:35:14.320 quick
00:35:14.740 for
00:35:15.020 you
00:35:15.220 Sean
00:35:15.520 right
00:35:15.780 like
00:35:16.100 don't
00:35:16.820 fall
00:35:17.080 under
00:35:17.240 the
00:35:17.420 trap
00:35:17.920 the
00:35:18.720 best
00:35:18.940 here's
00:35:19.320 the
00:35:19.720 trap
00:35:20.060 and
00:35:20.200 here's
00:35:20.480 the
00:35:20.580 best
00:35:29.380 a
00:35:29.600 week
00:35:29.800 and
00:35:30.000 we
00:35:30.400 would
00:35:30.580 do
00:35:30.760 one
00:35:30.960 on
00:35:31.080 one
00:35:31.220 coaching
00:35:31.620 and
00:35:32.160 he's
00:35:32.380 an
00:35:32.580 amazing
00:35:33.140 coach
00:35:33.640 amazing
00:35:34.600 coach
00:35:35.120 dude
00:35:35.480 I
00:35:35.740 love
00:35:36.580 training
00:35:37.200 stand up
00:35:37.680 with him
00:35:38.040 and
00:35:39.180 I'm
00:35:39.380 like
00:35:39.520 Corey
00:35:39.760 dude
00:35:40.020 what
00:35:40.340 what
00:35:40.560 are
00:35:40.640 you
00:35:40.740 doing
00:35:40.980 right
00:35:41.200 like
00:35:41.480 why
00:35:42.700 aren't
00:35:42.840 you
00:35:42.960 running
00:35:43.160 a
00:35:43.320 school
00:35:43.580 right
00:35:44.520 and
00:35:44.880 his
00:35:45.380 mind
00:35:46.260 was
00:35:46.460 so
00:35:46.700 set
00:35:47.060 on
00:35:47.480 well
00:35:48.320 I
00:35:48.580 got
00:35:48.940 to
00:35:49.180 save
00:35:49.360 up
00:35:49.520 a
00:35:49.640 bunch
00:35:49.800 of
00:35:49.900 money
00:35:50.160 I
00:35:50.360 need
00:35:50.620 to
00:35:50.720 get
00:35:50.860 a
00:35:51.000 business
00:35:51.380 loan
00:35:51.680 I
00:35:51.860 got
00:35:52.060 to
00:35:52.160 build
00:35:52.340 a
00:35:52.520 building
00:35:52.840 I
00:35:53.080 got
00:35:53.240 to
00:35:53.320 buy
00:35:53.460 all
00:35:53.600 this
00:35:53.800 equipment
00:35:54.200 and
00:35:55.220 it
00:35:55.520 was
00:35:55.700 holding
00:35:56.120 him
00:35:56.380 back
00:35:56.760 and
00:35:57.400 probably
00:35:57.760 has
00:35:57.940 continued
00:35:58.420 to
00:35:59.060 hold
00:35:59.280 him
00:35:59.420 back
00:35:59.720 and
00:36:00.960 I
00:36:01.320 told
00:36:01.820 him
00:36:01.980 time
00:36:02.460 and
00:36:02.580 time
00:36:02.720 again
00:36:02.960 Corey
00:36:03.360 dude
00:36:03.640 minimal
00:36:04.220 viable
00:36:04.740 product
00:36:05.340 don't
00:36:06.080 worry
00:36:06.360 about
00:36:06.560 the
00:36:06.720 building
00:36:07.040 and
00:36:07.900 my
00:36:08.060 coaching
00:36:08.460 and
00:36:08.660 suggestion
00:36:09.040 to him
00:36:09.340 was
00:36:09.660 go to
00:36:10.700 a
00:36:10.860 local
00:36:11.140 rec
00:36:11.460 center
00:36:11.740 of
00:36:12.160 where
00:36:12.400 you
00:36:12.600 would
00:36:12.740 like
00:36:13.080 the
00:36:13.280 school
00:36:13.480 to
00:36:13.620 be
00:36:13.840 figure
00:36:15.240 out
00:36:15.560 how
00:36:15.720 you
00:36:15.880 can
00:36:16.040 teach
00:36:16.360 a
00:36:16.500 Muay
00:36:16.700 Thai
00:36:16.900 class
00:36:17.500 once
00:36:18.140 a
00:36:18.300 week
00:36:18.480 and
00:36:18.860 just
00:36:19.140 figure
00:36:19.600 out
00:36:19.840 if
00:36:20.020 you
00:36:20.160 can
00:36:20.340 get
00:36:20.580 five
00:36:20.900 people
00:36:21.180 to
00:36:21.320 take
00:36:21.500 your
00:36:21.620 class
00:36:22.640 right
00:36:23.340 and
00:36:24.180 get
00:36:24.380 the
00:36:24.600 reps
00:36:25.020 and
00:36:25.280 create
00:36:25.580 a
00:36:25.780 movement
00:36:26.200 and
00:36:26.540 get
00:36:26.720 people
00:36:27.120 interested
00:36:27.660 that
00:36:28.240 way
00:36:28.400 when
00:36:28.580 you
00:36:28.700 go
00:36:29.080 rent
00:36:29.740 a
00:36:29.900 building
00:36:30.240 you
00:36:30.780 already
00:36:31.040 have
00:36:31.320 the
00:36:31.480 students
00:36:31.960 you
00:36:32.180 already
00:36:32.360 have
00:36:32.760 the
00:36:33.320 followers
00:36:33.760 you
00:36:33.920 already
00:36:34.080 have
00:36:34.300 the
00:36:34.440 50
00:36:34.700 people
00:36:35.040 willing
00:36:35.380 to
00:36:35.580 sign
00:36:35.800 up
00:36:36.120 but
00:36:36.880 you're
00:36:37.880 thinking
00:36:38.260 you have
00:36:38.640 to
00:36:38.760 build
00:36:38.920 a
00:36:39.040 building
00:36:39.280 to
00:36:39.420 get
00:36:39.540 the
00:36:39.680 people
00:36:39.980 people
00:36:40.380 do
00:36:40.560 this
00:36:40.740 with
00:36:40.920 websites
00:36:41.420 too
00:36:41.720 all
00:36:41.980 the
00:36:42.140 time
00:36:42.440 all
00:36:43.040 right
00:36:43.260 I
00:36:43.400 got
00:36:43.540 this
00:36:43.740 great
00:36:44.080 domain
00:36:44.580 I'm
00:36:45.060 going
00:36:45.120 to
00:36:45.180 make
00:36:45.320 this
00:36:45.520 website
00:36:45.980 this
00:36:46.220 e-commerce
00:36:46.660 site
00:36:46.980 and
00:36:47.480 like
00:36:47.740 people
00:36:48.080 are
00:36:48.220 going
00:36:48.320 to
00:36:48.460 magically
00:36:48.940 show
00:36:49.300 up
00:36:49.500 and
00:36:49.640 start
00:36:49.840 buying
00:36:50.220 my
00:36:50.460 shit
00:36:50.680 it's
00:36:51.760 not
00:36:51.960 going
00:36:52.100 to
00:36:52.220 happen
00:36:52.640 they're
00:36:53.140 not
00:36:53.360 going
00:36:53.580 to
00:36:53.700 find
00:36:53.980 your
00:36:54.140 website
00:36:54.620 right
00:36:54.960 like
00:36:55.160 so
00:36:55.420 stop
00:36:56.000 like
00:36:56.560 minimal
00:36:57.340 viable
00:36:57.660 product
00:36:58.120 sell
00:36:58.820 that
00:36:59.040 through
00:36:59.260 Instagram
00:36:59.700 sell
00:37:00.060 it
00:37:00.180 on
00:37:00.320 TikTok
00:37:00.700 first
00:37:01.360 create
00:37:02.040 a
00:37:02.200 following
00:37:02.580 right
00:37:02.900 test
00:37:04.080 it
00:37:04.280 out
00:37:04.800 and
00:37:05.680 there's
00:37:11.420 you
00:37:11.560 start
00:37:11.900 hiking
00:37:12.460 until
00:37:13.160 you
00:37:13.400 start
00:37:13.620 taking
00:37:13.960 action
00:37:14.380 don't
00:37:15.260 think
00:37:15.500 that
00:37:15.660 you
00:37:15.760 have
00:37:15.900 to
00:37:16.020 figure
00:37:16.200 this
00:37:16.420 out
00:37:16.640 and
00:37:16.800 it's
00:37:16.960 like
00:37:17.080 this
00:37:17.260 picture
00:37:17.540 perfect
00:37:17.900 way
00:37:18.200 to
00:37:18.400 approach
00:37:18.720 your
00:37:18.860 business
00:37:19.280 yeah
00:37:21.420 and
00:37:21.500 I
00:37:21.620 mean
00:37:21.980 like
00:37:22.540 even
00:37:22.840 when
00:37:23.020 you
00:37:23.100 were
00:37:23.200 talking
00:37:23.480 about
00:37:23.820 with
00:37:24.080 with
00:37:24.380 Corey
00:37:24.680 you
00:37:24.880 know
00:37:25.060 he
00:37:25.640 could
00:37:25.800 probably
00:37:26.060 get
00:37:26.260 five
00:37:26.580 people
00:37:26.900 to
00:37:27.100 sign
00:37:27.300 up
00:37:27.560 and
00:37:28.000 of
00:37:28.400 those
00:37:28.620 five
00:37:28.920 people
00:37:29.300 there's
00:37:29.720 probably
00:37:30.100 somebody
00:37:30.540 who
00:37:30.800 has
00:37:31.040 space
00:37:31.520 who
00:37:32.000 he
00:37:32.520 could
00:37:32.700 say
00:37:33.080 hey
00:37:33.760 in
00:37:34.200 exchange
00:37:34.560 for
00:37:34.740 lessons
00:37:41.420 so
00:37:41.780 be
00:37:42.620 creative
00:37:43.060 be
00:37:43.340 resilient
00:37:43.760 think
00:37:44.520 of
00:37:44.700 think
00:37:45.060 of
00:37:45.180 creative
00:37:45.460 ways
00:37:45.780 to
00:37:45.920 do
00:37:46.060 it
00:37:46.160 do
00:37:46.320 something
00:37:46.580 out
00:37:46.740 of
00:37:46.780 your
00:37:46.880 garage
00:37:47.400 I
00:37:47.540 mean
00:37:47.680 so
00:37:48.140 many
00:37:48.280 different
00:37:48.520 ways
00:37:48.720 to
00:37:48.820 do
00:37:48.920 that
00:37:49.040 that
00:37:49.220 is
00:37:49.380 one
00:37:49.560 of
00:37:49.660 the
00:37:49.760 things
00:37:50.040 that
00:37:50.360 at
00:37:51.200 the
00:37:51.340 risk
00:37:51.580 of
00:37:51.760 sounding
00:37:52.180 arrogant
00:37:52.800 or
00:37:53.000 tooting
00:37:53.200 my
00:37:53.360 own
00:37:53.520 horn
00:37:53.780 I'm
00:37:54.140 good
00:37:54.360 at
00:37:54.500 that
00:37:54.780 it's
00:37:55.280 like
00:37:55.460 just
00:37:55.760 launch
00:37:56.400 something
00:37:56.860 and
00:37:57.140 then
00:37:57.320 we'll
00:37:57.560 figure
00:37:57.900 it
00:37:58.100 out
00:37:58.300 we're
00:37:58.480 not
00:37:58.640 performing
00:37:59.120 brain
00:37:59.540 surgery
00:37:59.980 and
00:38:00.520 I'm
00:38:00.640 not
00:38:00.820 trying
00:38:01.000 to
00:38:11.420 absolutely
00:38:11.960 Austin
00:38:12.980 Chamberlain
00:38:14.160 how do
00:38:15.040 you know
00:38:15.400 if it's
00:38:15.760 time to
00:38:16.180 leave your
00:38:16.500 job
00:38:16.900 for
00:38:17.100 something
00:38:17.460 better
00:38:17.920 pros
00:38:18.840 of
00:38:19.000 the
00:38:19.120 current
00:38:19.340 job
00:38:19.740 are
00:38:19.920 that
00:38:20.100 I
00:38:20.220 like
00:38:20.480 the
00:38:20.640 people
00:38:20.980 I
00:38:21.380 work
00:38:21.660 with
00:38:21.960 and
00:38:22.120 I
00:38:22.240 enjoy
00:38:22.660 being
00:38:23.000 in
00:38:23.220 the
00:38:23.360 industry
00:38:23.780 the
00:38:24.080 cons
00:38:24.580 are
00:38:24.920 that
00:38:25.120 my
00:38:25.300 bosses
00:38:25.760 have
00:38:26.740 unrealistic
00:38:27.360 expectations
00:38:28.180 and I
00:38:28.760 can't
00:38:29.120 get a
00:38:29.400 professional
00:38:29.820 engineering
00:38:30.340 license
00:38:30.800 here
00:38:31.100 and I
00:38:31.880 could
00:38:32.040 make
00:38:32.280 better
00:38:32.580 money
00:38:32.920 doing
00:38:33.200 something
00:38:33.600 different
00:38:34.200 with
00:38:34.600 an
00:38:34.740 engineering
00:38:35.320 degree
00:38:35.800 and
00:38:36.360 three
00:38:36.580 years
00:38:36.880 of
00:38:37.060 professional
00:38:37.480 experience
00:38:38.240 I
00:38:41.520 mean
00:38:41.660 I
00:38:41.840 hear
00:38:42.060 that
00:38:42.440 and
00:38:43.300 I
00:38:43.480 think
00:38:43.840 you
00:38:44.260 kind
00:38:44.540 of
00:38:44.640 answered
00:38:44.980 your
00:38:45.220 own
00:38:45.380 question
00:38:45.840 like
00:38:47.300 what
00:38:47.460 what
00:38:47.640 were
00:38:47.740 the
00:38:47.880 pros
00:38:48.180 what
00:38:48.360 did
00:38:48.440 you
00:38:48.520 say
00:38:48.660 the
00:38:48.780 pros
00:38:49.040 were
00:38:49.200 again
00:38:49.460 loves
00:38:50.180 the
00:38:50.340 people
00:38:50.600 in
00:38:50.760 the
00:38:50.880 industry
00:38:51.240 and
00:38:51.720 it's
00:38:52.060 a
00:38:52.200 false
00:38:52.440 dichotomy
00:38:53.000 right
00:38:53.340 here's
00:38:53.960 the
00:38:54.080 thing
00:38:54.340 you're
00:38:54.660 going
00:38:54.760 to
00:38:54.860 find
00:38:55.160 people
00:38:55.560 you
00:38:55.740 love
00:38:56.060 in
00:38:56.480 engineering
00:38:57.000 yeah
00:38:58.000 maybe
00:38:58.880 engineers
00:38:59.440 are
00:38:59.620 weird
00:38:59.840 but
00:39:00.300 you know
00:39:00.760 good
00:39:02.000 luck
00:39:02.200 you're
00:39:02.620 gonna
00:39:02.760 you're
00:39:04.100 gonna
00:39:04.220 find
00:39:04.620 people
00:39:05.080 you're
00:39:05.900 gonna find
00:39:06.260 good
00:39:06.480 people
00:39:06.840 wherever
00:39:07.160 you
00:39:07.380 are
00:39:07.600 and
00:39:07.820 you're
00:39:07.940 gonna
00:39:08.040 find
00:39:08.320 bad
00:39:08.580 people
00:39:08.940 wherever
00:39:09.380 you
00:39:09.580 are
00:39:09.800 it's
00:39:10.160 not
00:39:10.360 the
00:39:10.520 industry
00:39:10.960 it's
00:39:12.140 not
00:39:12.340 like
00:39:12.540 oh
00:39:12.740 if
00:39:12.860 I
00:39:12.960 don't
00:39:13.100 do
00:39:13.240 that
00:39:13.420 then
00:39:13.580 I'll
00:39:13.720 never
00:39:14.000 find
00:39:14.340 good
00:39:14.660 people
00:39:14.940 to
00:39:15.100 spend
00:39:15.300 time
00:39:15.540 with
00:39:15.820 so
00:39:16.740 this
00:39:17.400 is
00:39:17.560 a
00:39:17.700 no
00:39:17.880 brainer
00:39:18.200 to
00:39:18.360 me
00:39:18.560 you
00:39:19.280 want
00:39:19.500 to
00:39:19.620 get
00:39:20.140 your
00:39:20.280 engineering
00:39:20.700 degree
00:39:21.340 or
00:39:21.520 license
00:39:21.980 you
00:39:22.720 want
00:39:22.920 to
00:39:23.000 be
00:39:23.120 in
00:39:23.220 that
00:39:23.380 field
00:39:23.660 of
00:39:23.820 work
00:39:24.140 you
00:39:24.840 know
00:39:24.980 you're
00:39:25.120 gonna
00:39:25.240 make
00:39:25.440 more
00:39:25.660 money
00:39:25.940 you
00:39:26.120 know
00:39:26.260 you're
00:39:26.420 gonna
00:39:26.520 be
00:39:26.660 more
00:39:26.860 fulfilled
00:39:27.140 and
00:39:27.340 satisfied
00:39:27.880 and
00:39:28.300 you
00:39:28.440 can't
00:39:28.620 progress
00:39:29.060 where
00:39:30.420 you
00:39:30.600 are
00:39:30.880 then
00:39:31.480 what
00:39:31.600 are
00:39:31.700 you
00:39:31.780 doing
00:39:32.000 yeah
00:39:32.760 only
00:39:33.300 because
00:39:33.680 you
00:39:33.840 love
00:39:34.060 the
00:39:34.220 people
00:39:34.600 so
00:39:36.760 here
00:39:37.000 here's
00:39:37.320 what
00:39:37.420 I
00:39:37.520 would
00:39:37.660 suggest
00:39:38.100 from
00:39:38.320 a
00:39:38.460 practical
00:39:38.900 standpoint
00:39:39.500 you're
00:39:40.880 gonna
00:39:40.980 have
00:39:41.180 to
00:39:41.320 bust
00:39:41.520 your
00:39:41.660 ass
00:39:41.860 for
00:39:42.000 about
00:39:42.180 two
00:39:42.380 years
00:39:42.740 maybe
00:39:43.500 longer
00:39:43.820 I
00:39:44.460 don't
00:39:44.640 know
00:39:45.060 what
00:39:45.220 the
00:39:45.320 degree
00:39:45.660 I
00:39:46.160 don't
00:39:46.300 know
00:39:46.440 where
00:39:46.660 you
00:39:46.820 are
00:39:46.980 in
00:39:47.060 that
00:39:47.200 process
00:39:47.580 I
00:39:55.120 for
00:39:55.380 a
00:39:55.480 couple
00:39:55.660 years
00:39:55.960 and
00:39:56.780 you're
00:39:56.980 gonna
00:39:57.080 stay
00:39:57.380 working
00:39:57.760 where
00:39:57.980 you
00:39:58.140 are
00:39:58.360 for
00:39:58.820 the
00:39:58.960 time
00:39:59.200 being
00:39:59.440 and
00:40:00.200 you're
00:40:00.340 gonna
00:40:00.460 be
00:40:00.600 the
00:40:00.740 best
00:40:01.180 employee
00:40:01.680 that
00:40:01.960 you
00:40:02.100 can
00:40:02.260 be
00:40:02.520 in
00:40:02.800 that
00:40:02.980 organization
00:40:03.580 while
00:40:04.560 you're
00:40:04.820 working
00:40:05.140 on
00:40:05.480 engineering
00:40:06.200 credentialing
00:40:06.860 this
00:40:07.960 is
00:40:08.180 what
00:40:08.520 a
00:40:08.740 lot
00:40:08.900 of
00:40:08.980 these
00:40:09.220 social
00:40:11.060 media
00:40:11.360 gurus
00:40:11.900 won't
00:40:12.180 tell
00:40:12.400 you
00:40:12.580 is
00:40:12.700 they'll
00:40:12.860 say
00:40:13.040 burn
00:40:13.440 the
00:40:13.620 boats
00:40:13.920 burn
00:40:14.180 the
00:40:14.300 bridges
00:40:14.580 go
00:40:14.940 all
00:40:15.180 in
00:40:15.440 chase
00:40:15.800 your
00:40:15.960 dreams
00:40:16.380 that's
00:40:17.380 fine
00:40:17.820 if
00:40:18.740 you're
00:40:19.100 20
00:40:19.420 years
00:40:19.640 old
00:40:25.120 and
00:40:25.760 you
00:40:25.900 can
00:40:26.020 just
00:40:26.220 live
00:40:26.460 life
00:40:26.700 as
00:40:26.840 a
00:40:26.940 vagabond
00:40:27.440 that's
00:40:27.900 great
00:40:28.400 for
00:40:28.640 those
00:40:28.860 individuals
00:40:29.340 but
00:40:30.080 for
00:40:30.240 the
00:40:30.400 rest
00:40:30.680 of
00:40:30.900 us
00:40:31.220 we
00:40:32.140 have
00:40:32.340 financial
00:40:32.780 obligations
00:40:33.400 we
00:40:33.720 have
00:40:33.900 children
00:40:34.360 you
00:40:34.820 guys
00:40:35.000 some
00:40:35.160 of
00:40:35.240 you
00:40:35.300 are
00:40:35.420 married
00:40:35.860 like
00:40:36.500 there's
00:40:36.780 there's
00:40:37.040 things
00:40:37.480 happening
00:40:37.940 that
00:40:38.280 restrict
00:40:39.160 you
00:40:39.540 from
00:40:39.920 going
00:40:40.920 all
00:40:41.220 in
00:40:41.400 that
00:40:41.620 way
00:40:41.920 because
00:40:42.540 then
00:40:42.880 you're
00:40:43.260 sacrificing
00:40:43.960 your
00:40:44.240 other
00:40:44.480 responsibilities
00:40:45.060 but
00:40:46.280 you
00:40:46.440 can
00:40:46.600 bust
00:40:46.840 your
00:40:46.980 ass
00:40:47.160 for
00:40:47.320 a
00:40:47.440 couple
00:40:47.620 years
00:40:47.840 and
00:40:47.960 say
00:40:48.080 you
00:40:48.180 know
00:40:48.240 what
00:40:48.360 I'm
00:40:48.500 really
00:40:48.660 gonna
00:40:48.800 put
00:40:48.980 my
00:40:49.120 head
00:40:49.300 down
00:40:49.580 I'm
00:40:49.760 gonna
00:40:49.820 get
00:40:50.000 this
00:40:50.180 engineering
00:40:50.540 degree
00:40:50.880 while
00:40:51.220 I'm
00:40:51.380 doing
00:40:51.580 this
00:40:51.780 work
00:40:52.160 and
00:40:53.060 I'm
00:40:53.580 also
00:40:53.980 this
00:40:54.260 is
00:40:54.400 important
00:40:54.860 most
00:40:55.900 people
00:40:56.140 overlook
00:40:56.480 this
00:40:56.800 I'm
00:40:57.140 gonna
00:40:57.260 be
00:40:57.440 networking
00:40:58.040 my
00:40:58.380 tail
00:40:58.800 off
00:40:59.200 in
00:41:00.460 the
00:41:00.620 field
00:41:01.040 of
00:41:01.220 work
00:41:01.440 that
00:41:01.560 I
00:41:01.680 want
00:41:01.840 to
00:41:01.920 be
00:41:02.100 in
00:41:02.320 so
00:41:02.620 that
00:41:02.840 when
00:41:03.040 that
00:41:03.260 time
00:41:03.560 comes
00:41:03.980 there's
00:41:04.200 no
00:41:04.360 question
00:41:04.860 about
00:41:05.260 do
00:41:05.800 I
00:41:05.940 know
00:41:06.120 people
00:41:06.500 do
00:41:06.740 I
00:41:06.860 have
00:41:07.020 a
00:41:07.160 job
00:41:07.520 what
00:41:07.800 opportunities
00:41:08.320 are
00:41:08.600 available
00:41:09.000 in
00:41:09.900 fact
00:41:10.200 I
00:41:10.580 would
00:41:10.740 want
00:41:10.940 to
00:41:11.040 be
00:41:11.120 in
00:41:11.200 the
00:41:11.300 position
00:41:11.660 where
00:41:12.020 guys
00:41:12.360 are
00:41:12.500 beating
00:41:12.700 down
00:41:12.940 my
00:41:13.160 door
00:41:13.440 to
00:41:13.680 recruit
00:41:14.200 me
00:41:14.640 while
00:41:15.600 I'm
00:41:15.820 still
00:41:16.060 working
00:41:16.380 in
00:41:16.540 this
00:41:16.680 other
00:41:16.840 job
00:41:17.180 and
00:41:17.400 I
00:41:17.500 say
00:41:17.760 that
00:41:17.980 because
00:41:18.200 I've
00:41:18.440 done
00:41:18.640 that
00:41:18.880 three
00:41:19.120 or
00:41:19.280 four
00:41:19.460 times
00:41:19.800 throughout
00:41:19.980 my
00:41:20.160 life
00:41:20.460 and
00:41:21.000 every
00:41:21.200 time
00:41:21.440 I've
00:41:21.620 done
00:41:21.760 it
00:41:21.940 it's
00:41:22.460 gone
00:41:22.780 very
00:41:23.520 very
00:41:23.740 well
00:41:24.040 so
00:41:25.380 that's
00:41:26.600 what I
00:41:26.800 would
00:41:26.920 do
00:41:27.420 yeah
00:41:28.020 it's
00:41:28.180 spot
00:41:28.440 on
00:41:28.740 and
00:41:29.180 you
00:41:29.540 know
00:41:29.680 if
00:41:30.040 who
00:41:30.320 you
00:41:30.440 work
00:41:30.680 with
00:41:30.900 and
00:41:31.040 culture
00:41:31.340 matter
00:41:31.680 then
00:41:32.120 don't
00:41:32.580 take
00:41:32.760 a
00:41:32.900 job
00:41:33.180 where
00:41:33.640 the
00:41:34.820 culture
00:41:35.140 is
00:41:35.260 not
00:41:35.420 great
00:41:35.760 and
00:41:36.620 vet
00:41:36.800 it
00:41:36.980 and
00:41:37.280 make
00:41:37.460 that
00:41:37.620 a
00:41:37.740 priority
00:41:38.060 and
00:41:38.280 it's
00:41:38.420 great
00:41:38.580 that
00:41:38.700 you
00:41:38.820 realize
00:41:39.140 that
00:41:39.440 right
00:41:39.800 but
00:41:40.180 it
00:41:40.400 doesn't
00:41:40.680 mean
00:41:40.900 that
00:41:41.040 this
00:41:41.220 is
00:41:41.320 only
00:41:41.500 a
00:41:41.660 company
00:41:41.920 right
00:41:42.240 you
00:41:42.440 can
00:41:42.600 find
00:41:42.820 other
00:41:43.000 companies
00:41:43.380 that
00:41:43.560 have
00:41:43.760 an
00:41:43.860 amazing
00:41:44.100 people
00:41:44.500 you
00:41:45.200 just
00:41:45.400 have
00:41:45.600 to
00:41:45.720 make
00:41:45.900 sure
00:41:46.180 that
00:41:46.760 you
00:41:47.220 validate
00:41:47.620 that
00:41:47.900 so
00:41:48.180 last
00:41:49.700 question
00:41:50.080 from
00:41:50.880 Chris
00:41:51.220 Bell
00:41:51.640 Chris
00:41:52.920 I'm
00:41:53.180 not
00:41:53.320 going to
00:41:53.520 give
00:41:53.660 the
00:41:53.760 backstory
00:41:54.100 I'm
00:41:54.280 just
00:41:54.520 jump
00:41:54.760 to
00:41:54.900 the
00:41:55.040 question
00:41:55.340 here
00:41:55.680 how
00:41:56.280 are
00:41:56.480 you
00:41:56.640 learning
00:41:56.940 to
00:41:57.180 be
00:41:57.340 at
00:41:57.520 peace
00:41:57.840 with
00:41:58.080 who
00:41:58.400 you
00:41:58.620 are
00:41:58.880 right
00:41:59.320 now
00:41:59.780 and
00:42:00.200 how
00:42:00.420 far
00:42:00.720 you've
00:42:01.060 come
00:42:01.480 for
00:42:02.000 me
00:42:02.200 learning
00:42:02.520 both
00:42:02.820 states
00:42:03.360 should
00:42:03.660 exist
00:42:04.120 and
00:42:05.140 and
00:42:05.480 and
00:42:05.800 has
00:42:06.040 been
00:42:06.240 huge
00:42:06.700 yes
00:42:06.980 growth
00:42:07.460 but
00:42:08.040 yes
00:42:08.320 I'm
00:42:08.560 at
00:42:08.680 peace
00:42:09.060 with
00:42:09.280 where
00:42:09.480 I'm
00:42:09.980 at
00:42:10.180 right
00:42:10.500 now
00:42:10.720 as
00:42:10.900 well
00:42:11.260 thrown
00:42:11.860 aside
00:42:12.280 if
00:42:12.500 you're
00:42:12.640 not
00:42:12.860 grinding
00:42:13.300 100%
00:42:14.120 of the
00:42:14.440 time
00:42:14.760 you must
00:42:15.160 be
00:42:15.340 sucking
00:42:15.680 yeah
00:42:18.240 I mean
00:42:18.560 that's
00:42:18.940 that's
00:42:19.400 a
00:42:19.500 common
00:42:19.840 self
00:42:20.200 development
00:42:20.680 myth
00:42:21.960 right
00:42:22.260 that
00:42:22.440 if
00:42:22.560 you're
00:42:22.660 not
00:42:22.840 grinding
00:42:23.320 I
00:42:23.640 even
00:42:23.800 that
00:42:24.020 word
00:42:24.300 is
00:42:24.460 even
00:42:24.640 stupid
00:42:24.960 I
00:42:25.140 hate
00:42:25.300 that
00:42:25.480 word
00:42:25.800 who
00:42:26.400 wants
00:42:26.540 to
00:42:26.720 grind
00:42:27.400 I
00:42:28.800 want
00:42:29.140 to
00:42:29.220 be
00:42:29.340 in
00:42:29.480 flow
00:42:29.900 right
00:42:30.340 I
00:42:30.540 can
00:42:30.700 work
00:42:30.980 just
00:42:31.300 as
00:42:31.480 hard
00:42:31.680 and
00:42:31.780 be
00:42:31.900 more
00:42:32.100 productive
00:42:32.480 if
00:42:32.700 I'm
00:42:32.880 flowing
00:42:33.400 as
00:42:33.840 opposed
00:42:34.140 to
00:42:34.420 grinding
00:42:35.080 and
00:42:36.040 you
00:42:36.220 create
00:42:36.600 flow
00:42:37.040 by
00:42:37.640 having
00:42:38.220 a
00:42:38.460 well
00:42:38.640 balanced
00:42:39.020 life
00:42:39.500 if
00:42:41.460 you're
00:42:41.640 always
00:42:41.960 doing
00:42:42.280 the
00:42:42.500 same
00:42:42.740 thing
00:42:43.060 over
00:42:43.380 and
00:42:43.560 over
00:42:43.760 and
00:42:43.940 over
00:42:44.140 again
00:42:44.740 it's
00:42:45.040 going
00:42:45.180 to
00:42:45.300 feel
00:42:45.500 monotonous
00:42:46.080 and
00:42:46.220 feel
00:42:46.400 like
00:42:46.580 a
00:42:46.700 grind
00:42:47.080 so
00:42:48.020 I
00:42:48.560 think
00:42:48.760 what
00:42:48.920 more
00:42:49.180 men
00:42:49.380 could
00:42:49.560 benefit
00:42:49.880 from
00:42:50.260 is
00:42:50.960 more
00:42:51.220 personal
00:42:51.620 time
00:42:51.980 I
00:42:53.840 think
00:42:54.160 they
00:42:54.380 could
00:42:54.520 also
00:42:54.800 benefit
00:42:55.160 from
00:42:55.720 taking
00:42:56.560 risks
00:42:57.060 and
00:42:57.880 looking
00:42:58.200 at
00:42:58.380 life
00:42:58.620 even
00:42:58.840 their
00:42:59.000 business
00:42:59.340 as
00:42:59.660 a
00:42:59.780 process
00:43:00.140 of
00:43:00.360 experimentation
00:43:00.880 I
00:43:02.080 talked
00:43:02.320 with
00:43:02.440 a
00:43:02.540 close
00:43:02.740 friend
00:43:02.960 just
00:43:03.160 the
00:43:03.280 other
00:43:03.420 day
00:43:03.600 and
00:43:03.700 he's
00:43:03.840 feeling
00:43:04.060 burnt
00:43:04.360 out
00:43:04.560 with
00:43:04.700 what
00:43:04.820 he's
00:43:04.940 got
00:43:05.100 going
00:43:05.320 on
00:43:05.560 and
00:43:05.720 rightfully
00:43:06.220 so
00:43:06.600 I've
00:43:07.040 felt
00:43:07.200 burnt
00:43:07.440 out
00:43:07.680 in
00:43:07.840 my
00:43:07.980 life
00:43:08.180 too
00:43:08.380 as
00:43:09.040 every
00:43:09.320 man
00:43:09.500 listening
00:43:09.760 to
00:43:09.880 this
00:43:10.000 podcast
00:43:10.280 has
00:43:10.780 and
00:43:12.480 we
00:43:12.640 talked
00:43:12.880 about
00:43:13.100 some
00:43:13.280 ideas
00:43:13.660 and
00:43:13.920 you
00:43:14.480 know
00:43:14.600 we
00:43:14.760 didn't
00:43:15.140 spend
00:43:15.420 a lot
00:43:15.720 of
00:43:15.820 time
00:43:16.040 talking
00:43:16.420 about
00:43:16.700 it
00:43:16.780 maybe
00:43:16.960 a
00:43:17.120 half
00:43:17.320 hour
00:43:17.620 and
00:43:19.040 he's
00:43:20.160 rejuvenated
00:43:20.700 after
00:43:20.980 that
00:43:21.180 call
00:43:21.440 because
00:43:21.720 there's
00:43:22.120 some
00:43:22.260 things
00:43:22.500 that
00:43:22.640 he
00:43:22.780 can
00:43:22.940 do
00:43:23.160 within
00:43:23.400 his
00:43:23.560 business
00:43:23.900 that
00:43:24.520 are
00:43:24.780 still
00:43:25.000 in
00:43:25.140 the
00:43:25.260 same
00:43:25.460 vein
00:43:25.820 but
00:43:26.200 infuse
00:43:27.240 a little
00:43:27.520 excitement
00:43:28.240 into
00:43:29.060 his
00:43:29.320 life
00:43:29.700 and
00:43:31.020 I'm
00:43:31.460 a
00:43:31.740 big
00:43:31.920 fan
00:43:32.220 of
00:43:32.500 John
00:43:33.020 Eldridge
00:43:33.420 the
00:43:33.660 author
00:43:33.860 of
00:43:34.040 Wild
00:43:34.260 at
00:43:34.380 Heart
00:43:34.620 and
00:43:34.940 one
00:43:35.120 of
00:43:35.200 my
00:43:35.340 favorite
00:43:35.640 quotes
00:43:36.080 is
00:43:36.480 deep
00:43:37.260 in
00:43:37.380 his
00:43:37.500 heart
00:43:37.760 every
00:43:38.080 man
00:43:38.360 longs
00:43:38.800 for
00:43:38.960 a
00:43:39.120 battle
00:43:39.360 to
00:43:39.560 fight
00:43:39.840 an
00:43:40.480 adventure
00:43:40.820 to
00:43:41.060 live
00:43:41.320 and
00:43:41.680 a
00:43:41.820 beauty
00:43:42.060 to
00:43:42.340 rescue
00:43:42.680 so
00:43:44.500 if
00:43:44.900 you're
00:43:45.060 going
00:43:45.360 into
00:43:45.680 work
00:43:46.020 and
00:43:46.140 you're
00:43:46.260 driving
00:43:46.580 to
00:43:46.800 work
00:43:47.000 the
00:43:47.180 same
00:43:47.420 way
00:43:47.820 and
00:43:48.540 you're
00:43:49.160 sitting
00:43:50.760 in
00:43:50.900 a
00:43:51.020 cubicle
00:43:51.460 doing
00:43:51.780 work
00:43:52.120 that
00:43:52.300 you
00:43:52.420 hate
00:43:52.680 and
00:43:52.840 you
00:43:52.960 get
00:43:53.100 done
00:43:53.340 too
00:43:53.640 late
00:43:53.900 and
00:43:54.040 drive
00:43:54.340 home
00:44:01.920 oh
00:44:02.140 my
00:44:02.280 goodness
00:44:02.720 what
00:44:03.440 a
00:44:03.740 miserable
00:44:04.180 existence
00:44:05.260 what
00:44:05.680 are
00:44:05.780 you
00:44:05.900 doing
00:44:06.260 what
00:44:07.760 is
00:44:07.900 your
00:44:08.040 battle
00:44:08.460 like
00:44:09.760 what
00:44:09.940 drives
00:44:10.560 you
00:44:10.700 what
00:44:10.880 compels
00:44:11.440 you
00:44:11.600 what
00:44:11.760 fires
00:44:12.260 you
00:44:12.460 up
00:44:12.620 what
00:44:12.780 charges
00:44:13.240 you
00:44:13.540 what
00:44:13.780 issues
00:44:14.160 do
00:44:14.320 you
00:44:14.400 see
00:44:14.580 in
00:44:14.660 the
00:44:14.760 world
00:44:15.040 that
00:44:15.500 need
00:44:15.660 to
00:44:15.740 be
00:44:15.860 addressed
00:44:16.200 and
00:44:16.360 what
00:44:16.580 are
00:44:16.680 you
00:44:16.800 doing
00:44:17.100 about
00:44:17.420 it
00:44:17.600 so
00:44:19.200 that's
00:44:19.380 the
00:44:19.500 battle
00:44:19.820 the
00:44:20.140 adventure
00:44:20.620 yeah
00:44:21.820 do
00:44:22.380 you
00:44:22.540 go
00:44:23.000 outside
00:44:23.500 do
00:44:24.100 you
00:44:24.220 take
00:44:24.460 risks
00:44:24.820 do
00:44:25.100 you
00:44:25.220 try
00:44:25.440 new
00:44:25.640 things
00:44:26.000 are
00:44:26.220 there
00:44:26.340 new
00:44:26.520 hobbies
00:44:26.940 and
00:44:27.480 interests
00:44:27.860 and
00:44:27.960 activities
00:44:28.340 do
00:44:28.540 you
00:44:28.640 go
00:44:28.760 to
00:44:28.860 new
00:44:29.000 places
00:44:29.360 do
00:44:29.540 you
00:44:29.660 meet
00:44:29.880 new
00:44:30.060 people
00:44:30.480 if
00:44:31.300 not
00:44:31.560 do
00:44:31.880 that
00:44:32.180 and
00:44:33.320 a
00:44:33.460 beauty
00:44:33.620 to
00:44:33.780 rescue
00:44:34.080 is
00:44:34.740 to
00:44:35.300 serve
00:44:35.680 the
00:44:35.880 woman
00:44:36.060 in
00:44:36.200 your
00:44:36.300 life
00:44:36.560 to
00:44:36.760 the
00:44:36.900 nth
00:44:37.080 degree
00:44:37.380 you
00:44:38.900 know
00:44:38.980 we
00:44:39.060 talked
00:44:39.280 about
00:44:39.520 that
00:44:39.680 with
00:44:39.840 another
00:44:40.300 question
00:44:40.780 about
00:44:41.220 making
00:44:41.960 sure
00:44:42.240 she
00:44:42.440 doesn't
00:44:42.680 feel
00:44:42.920 like
00:44:43.180 she's
00:44:43.460 part
00:44:43.660 of
00:44:43.740 a
00:44:43.840 checklist
00:44:44.160 good
00:44:44.440 don't
00:44:44.720 do
00:44:44.860 that
00:44:45.160 I'm
00:44:46.600 not
00:44:46.720 saying
00:44:46.900 you
00:44:47.000 need
00:44:47.100 to
00:44:47.240 rescue
00:44:47.600 her
00:44:47.920 in
00:44:48.120 a
00:44:48.240 literal
00:44:48.440 sense
00:44:48.900 but
00:44:49.280 I
00:44:49.920 think
00:44:50.120 most
00:44:50.480 men
00:44:50.680 listening
00:44:50.940 to
00:44:51.060 this
00:44:51.180 podcast
00:44:51.500 really
00:44:51.920 want
00:44:52.160 a
00:44:52.320 deep
00:44:52.500 and
00:44:52.640 meaningful
00:44:53.120 relationship
00:44:53.740 with
00:44:54.580 their
00:44:55.140 significant
00:44:55.640 other
00:44:55.940 the way
00:44:57.120 you do
00:44:57.400 that
00:44:57.640 is by
00:44:58.080 pouring
00:44:58.540 everything
00:44:59.160 into
00:44:59.580 it
00:44:59.840 and
00:45:00.980 if
00:45:01.100 you're
00:45:01.220 missing
00:45:01.480 any
00:45:01.760 of
00:45:01.920 those
00:45:02.080 components
00:45:02.540 in
00:45:02.760 life
00:45:03.060 then
00:45:03.380 I
00:45:03.620 think
00:45:03.900 you
00:45:04.140 are
00:45:04.320 going
00:45:04.440 to
00:45:04.540 feel
00:45:04.720 like
00:45:04.920 you're
00:45:05.040 grinding
00:45:05.360 because
00:45:05.780 you
00:45:06.140 are
00:45:06.520 there's
00:45:08.060 no
00:45:08.320 lubricant
00:45:10.940 for lack
00:45:11.480 of a better
00:45:11.780 term
00:45:12.160 to
00:45:12.520 the way
00:45:13.240 that
00:45:13.580 will
00:45:14.600 actually
00:45:14.880 help
00:45:15.180 you
00:45:15.400 produce
00:45:16.160 a
00:45:16.340 more
00:45:16.720 enjoyable
00:45:17.840 fulfilling
00:45:18.520 life
00:45:20.120 and
00:45:21.120 I
00:45:21.220 may
00:45:21.360 have
00:45:21.460 had
00:45:21.640 a
00:45:21.760 different
00:45:21.980 conversation
00:45:22.520 with
00:45:22.760 you
00:45:22.860 two
00:45:23.020 three
00:45:23.220 years
00:45:23.460 ago
00:45:23.680 about
00:45:23.940 it
00:45:24.080 but
00:45:24.320 I'm
00:45:24.620 trying
00:45:24.860 to
00:45:25.040 find
00:45:25.340 a lot
00:45:25.620 more
00:45:25.800 joy
00:45:26.200 and
00:45:26.420 fulfillment
00:45:26.820 not
00:45:28.140 only
00:45:28.320 in
00:45:28.460 the
00:45:28.560 work
00:45:28.760 I
00:45:28.920 do
00:45:29.080 but
00:45:29.260 just
00:45:29.460 other
00:45:29.740 aspects
00:45:30.100 of
00:45:30.260 my
00:45:30.400 life
00:45:30.740 you
00:45:31.840 know
00:45:31.960 I
00:45:32.480 love
00:45:33.020 the
00:45:33.180 question
00:45:33.560 Chris
00:45:33.900 maybe
00:45:34.180 a
00:45:34.600 resource
00:45:35.160 recent
00:45:36.080 resource
00:45:36.560 for
00:45:36.780 me
00:45:37.120 is
00:45:37.920 gap
00:45:38.620 in
00:45:38.740 the
00:45:38.840 game
00:45:39.080 right
00:45:40.020 this
00:45:40.320 idea
00:45:40.760 that
00:45:41.060 sometimes
00:45:41.660 especially
00:45:42.100 in this
00:45:42.540 space
00:45:42.880 we
00:45:43.080 focus
00:45:43.520 always
00:45:43.900 on
00:45:47.840 where
00:45:48.220 I
00:45:49.020 need
00:45:49.200 to
00:45:49.300 be
00:45:49.400 where
00:45:49.620 I
00:45:49.740 need
00:45:49.880 to
00:45:49.980 be
00:45:50.080 and
00:45:50.200 it's
00:45:50.320 like
00:45:50.540 stop
00:45:52.060 how
00:45:53.260 did
00:45:53.480 you
00:45:53.600 do
00:45:53.740 today
00:45:54.200 are
00:45:55.420 you
00:45:55.540 better
00:45:55.760 today
00:45:56.080 than
00:45:56.260 you
00:45:56.360 were
00:45:56.480 yesterday
00:45:56.940 like
00:45:57.240 celebrate
00:45:57.700 the
00:45:57.960 gain
00:45:58.500 and
00:45:59.400 and
00:45:59.620 for
00:45:59.820 me
00:46:00.260 it's
00:46:01.000 just
00:46:01.140 being
00:46:01.340 present
00:46:01.780 with
00:46:02.240 where
00:46:02.500 I've
00:46:02.720 been
00:46:02.980 where
00:46:03.820 I
00:46:03.980 am
00:46:04.100 at
00:46:04.420 but
00:46:05.120 the
00:46:05.260 other
00:46:05.400 part
00:46:05.640 of
00:46:05.760 this
00:46:06.000 that
00:46:06.180 I
00:46:06.300 think
00:46:06.460 is
00:46:06.600 critical
00:46:06.960 is
00:46:07.220 just
00:46:07.400 being
00:46:07.600 grateful
00:46:08.140 there's
00:46:08.960 a sense
00:46:09.300 of
00:46:09.460 gratitude
00:46:09.860 in
00:46:10.180 this
00:46:10.420 right
00:46:10.680 like
00:46:11.020 it's
00:46:11.640 funny
00:46:17.840 it
00:46:18.200 always
00:46:18.600 needs
00:46:18.880 and
00:46:19.080 it
00:46:19.240 has
00:46:19.960 helped
00:46:20.280 me
00:46:20.500 be
00:46:21.420 successful
00:46:22.000 maybe
00:46:23.120 not
00:46:23.460 happy
00:46:24.080 but
00:46:25.800 it's
00:46:25.980 helped
00:46:26.120 me
00:46:26.300 be
00:46:26.640 driven
00:46:27.020 or
00:46:27.200 pleasant
00:46:27.640 or
00:46:28.060 enjoyable
00:46:28.560 or
00:46:28.940 at
00:46:29.080 peace
00:46:29.260 add
00:46:31.040 that
00:46:31.520 on
00:46:31.820 it's
00:46:32.260 all
00:46:32.420 true
00:46:32.780 right
00:46:33.400 so
00:46:33.780 I
00:46:35.020 have
00:46:35.200 to
00:46:35.340 stop
00:46:35.840 and
00:46:36.780 sometimes
00:46:37.380 you know
00:46:38.280 I have
00:46:38.680 to stop
00:46:39.040 more
00:46:39.220 often
00:46:39.500 be
00:46:39.780 grateful
00:46:40.580 and
00:46:41.820 it's
00:46:42.040 wild
00:46:42.440 to
00:46:42.640 me
00:46:42.780 because
00:46:43.080 I
00:46:43.360 just
00:46:43.560 sit
00:46:43.760 back
00:46:44.000 and
00:46:44.120 I
00:46:44.200 go
00:46:44.400 or
00:46:45.700 you
00:46:46.560 know
00:46:46.760 look
00:46:47.760 at
00:46:47.880 my
00:46:48.020 circumstance
00:46:48.620 and
00:46:48.920 I
00:46:49.000 think
00:46:49.300 and
00:46:49.660 I'm
00:46:49.960 not
00:46:50.120 this
00:46:50.360 isn't
00:46:50.620 a
00:46:50.760 sob
00:46:50.940 story
00:46:51.260 it's
00:46:51.440 just
00:46:51.600 as
00:46:51.880 an
00:46:52.000 example
00:46:52.420 it's
00:46:52.620 like
00:46:52.820 right
00:46:53.600 I was
00:46:54.280 born in
00:46:54.620 Elsinore
00:46:55.160 Utah
00:46:55.540 you know
00:46:57.020 what my
00:46:57.260 plan was
00:46:58.100 at a
00:46:58.460 high
00:46:58.640 school
00:46:58.940 work
00:47:01.000 in
00:47:01.220 Richfield
00:47:01.780 try to
00:47:02.320 make
00:47:02.640 50,000
00:47:03.680 or
00:47:04.060 40,000
00:47:04.780 a year
00:47:05.140 was like
00:47:05.720 a measure
00:47:06.720 of success
00:47:07.320 in my
00:47:07.580 life
00:47:07.900 that
00:47:10.260 that's
00:47:10.580 that was
00:47:11.760 my
00:47:12.000 star
00:47:12.520 yeah
00:47:14.160 really
00:47:15.060 like
00:47:15.940 I
00:47:17.560 I
00:47:17.920 don't
00:47:18.060 even
00:47:18.200 know
00:47:18.320 if
00:47:18.440 I
00:47:18.540 ever
00:47:18.740 made
00:47:19.000 40
00:47:19.340 I
00:47:19.500 think
00:47:19.700 I
00:47:19.900 skipped
00:47:20.420 40
00:47:20.800 and
00:47:20.980 just
00:47:21.140 made
00:47:21.380 way
00:47:21.760 more
00:47:21.960 than
00:47:22.140 that
00:47:22.460 immediately
00:47:23.200 right
00:47:24.020 even
00:47:24.620 during
00:47:25.020 college
00:47:25.560 right
00:47:25.800 like
00:47:26.020 I
00:47:26.240 have
00:47:26.720 outblown
00:47:27.760 any
00:47:28.660 expectations
00:47:29.520 based upon
00:47:31.200 my
00:47:31.420 upbringing
00:47:31.880 but yet
00:47:33.920 I don't
00:47:34.280 celebrate
00:47:34.700 it
00:47:35.040 oh
00:47:36.020 it's
00:47:36.180 not
00:47:36.340 good
00:47:36.500 enough
00:47:36.680 it's
00:47:36.780 not
00:47:36.920 good
00:47:37.140 enough
00:47:37.440 and
00:47:37.600 it's
00:47:37.760 like
00:47:38.020 oh
00:47:38.480 guys
00:47:38.940 right
00:47:39.180 like
00:47:39.400 and
00:47:39.560 so
00:47:39.980 we
00:47:40.100 just
00:47:40.240 have
00:47:40.400 to
00:47:40.480 be
00:47:40.660 mindful
00:47:41.100 and
00:47:42.220 and
00:47:42.480 last
00:47:43.380 little
00:47:43.600 segue
00:47:43.960 comment
00:47:44.980 here
00:47:45.340 we
00:47:48.440 even
00:47:48.660 do
00:47:48.820 this
00:47:49.000 in
00:47:49.120 the
00:47:49.200 iron
00:47:49.320 council
00:47:49.700 and
00:47:49.820 I
00:47:49.940 was
00:47:50.080 coaching
00:47:50.660 some
00:47:50.940 new
00:47:51.120 members
00:47:51.440 just
00:47:51.720 last
00:47:52.020 week
00:47:52.240 on
00:47:52.420 this
00:47:52.640 right
00:47:52.940 and
00:47:53.120 it's
00:47:53.360 like
00:47:53.620 objective
00:47:54.340 and
00:47:54.700 my
00:47:55.080 plan
00:47:55.420 for
00:47:55.600 the
00:47:55.700 end
00:47:55.780 of
00:47:55.960 the
00:47:55.980 quarter
00:47:56.280 right
00:47:56.700 and
00:47:56.820 it's
00:47:56.980 like
00:47:57.240 okay
00:47:57.860 okay
00:47:58.340 when I'm
00:47:58.820 going to
00:47:58.880 get
00:47:59.000 all
00:47:59.140 this
00:47:59.320 done
00:47:59.580 what
00:47:59.800 does
00:48:00.000 that
00:48:00.200 mean
00:48:00.620 you
00:48:01.520 know
00:48:01.640 it's
00:48:01.780 like
00:48:01.940 oh
00:48:02.160 well
00:48:02.340 I'm
00:48:02.460 going to
00:48:02.620 be
00:48:02.820 more
00:48:03.020 confident
00:48:03.360 I'm
00:48:03.500 have
00:48:03.660 a
00:48:03.780 better
00:48:03.920 relation
00:48:04.260 with
00:48:04.440 my
00:48:04.600 wife
00:48:04.940 right
00:48:14.980 90
00:48:15.340 days
00:48:15.840 to
00:48:16.480 be
00:48:16.860 courageous
00:48:17.280 don't
00:48:17.620 wait
00:48:17.840 90
00:48:18.200 days
00:48:18.520 to
00:48:18.640 have
00:48:18.740 a
00:48:18.860 great
00:48:19.080 relationship
00:48:19.560 with
00:48:19.780 your
00:48:19.920 spouse
00:48:20.200 don't
00:48:20.500 wait
00:48:20.720 90
00:48:21.080 days
00:48:21.400 to
00:48:21.600 have
00:48:21.860 a
00:48:22.000 great
00:48:22.220 connection
00:48:22.580 with
00:48:22.740 your
00:48:22.860 kid
00:48:23.220 today
00:48:24.540 do
00:48:25.180 it
00:48:25.320 today
00:48:25.740 feel
00:48:26.520 great
00:48:26.920 about
00:48:27.200 today
00:48:27.580 now
00:48:27.960 have
00:48:28.760 some
00:48:28.920 plans
00:48:29.220 and
00:48:29.400 some
00:48:29.540 goals
00:48:29.920 right
00:48:30.400 but
00:48:30.620 don't
00:48:31.100 lose
00:48:31.900 the
00:48:32.380 benefit
00:48:32.740 of
00:48:33.060 being
00:48:33.380 present
00:48:33.840 in
00:48:34.000 the
00:48:34.120 moment
00:48:34.400 yeah
00:48:35.800 yeah
00:48:36.500 well said
00:48:36.920 man
00:48:37.160 it's
00:48:37.820 wild
00:48:38.100 well said
00:48:38.560 we had
00:48:39.360 some good
00:48:39.620 questions
00:48:39.980 today
00:48:40.280 I think
00:48:40.720 that was
00:48:40.920 the last
00:48:41.220 one
00:48:41.440 that we
00:48:41.620 got
00:48:41.800 today
00:48:42.120 yes
00:48:42.460 sir
00:48:42.680 and we
00:48:43.260 have
00:48:43.800 tonight
00:48:44.480 is
00:48:44.860 divorce
00:48:45.480 not
00:48:45.680 death
00:48:45.940 correct
00:48:46.420 where's
00:48:47.540 that
00:48:47.660 last
00:48:47.920 night
00:48:48.160 that
00:48:49.300 was
00:48:49.440 last
00:48:49.700 night
00:48:49.980 sorry
00:48:50.740 look
00:48:51.560 at
00:48:51.660 me
00:48:51.920 well
00:48:52.960 and
00:48:53.240 we're
00:48:53.620 recording
00:48:54.060 yeah
00:48:54.640 we're
00:48:54.900 all
00:48:55.140 we're
00:48:55.500 all
00:48:55.640 over
00:48:55.780 the
00:48:55.900 place
00:48:56.180 anyway
00:48:56.900 yeah
00:48:57.220 we're
00:48:57.540 gonna
00:48:57.700 do
00:48:57.940 another
00:48:58.320 preview
00:48:58.780 call
00:48:59.100 if
00:48:59.320 you
00:48:59.420 guys
00:48:59.600 go
00:48:59.820 to
00:49:00.120 divorce
00:49:00.540 not
00:49:00.780 death
00:49:01.020 dot com
00:49:01.580 that
00:49:01.860 new
00:49:02.000 course
00:49:02.260 is
00:49:02.380 now
00:49:02.560 available
00:49:02.920 if
00:49:03.220 you
00:49:03.300 want
00:49:03.400 to
00:49:03.460 hit
00:49:03.540 a
00:49:03.640 preview
00:49:03.880 call
00:49:04.200 that
00:49:04.440 we're
00:49:11.220 I think
00:49:11.540 experts
00:49:12.040 coming
00:49:12.380 in
00:49:12.640 from
00:49:13.020 attorneys
00:49:13.540 to
00:49:13.880 therapists
00:49:14.380 to
00:49:14.960 coaches
00:49:16.240 to
00:49:18.580 a
00:49:19.180 dating
00:49:19.680 coach
00:49:20.140 like
00:49:20.340 we've
00:49:20.600 got
00:49:20.840 it's
00:49:21.200 gonna
00:49:21.320 be
00:49:21.620 pretty
00:49:22.140 pretty
00:49:22.400 incredible
00:49:22.840 so
00:49:23.360 check
00:49:23.720 it
00:49:23.800 out
00:49:23.920 divorce
00:49:24.360 not
00:49:24.660 death
00:49:24.920 dot com
00:49:25.420 and also
00:49:25.820 check
00:49:26.100 out
00:49:26.240 the
00:49:26.360 iron
00:49:26.540 council
00:49:26.900 at
00:49:27.740 the
00:49:28.120 iron
00:49:28.400 council
00:49:28.740 dot com
00:49:29.840 yeah
00:49:30.180 and
00:49:30.860 guys
00:49:32.100 long time
00:49:32.660 listeners
00:49:33.020 right
00:49:33.360 you might
00:49:33.700 be like
00:49:34.040 oh
00:49:34.220 they're
00:49:34.360 gonna
00:49:34.480 close
00:49:35.000 enrollment
00:49:35.600 that
00:49:36.020 that's
00:49:36.420 no
00:49:36.580 longer
00:49:36.960 right
00:49:37.860 so
00:49:38.080 join
00:49:38.480 us
00:49:38.880 join
00:49:40.540 us
00:49:40.700 at
00:49:40.800 any
00:49:41.220 yeah
00:49:41.360 we're
00:49:41.540 gonna
00:49:41.680 leave
00:49:41.900 it
00:49:42.080 open
00:49:43.320 because
00:49:43.640 I know
00:49:43.900 so many
00:49:44.300 men
00:49:44.680 and I've
00:49:45.280 had this
00:49:45.600 happen
00:49:45.880 over the
00:49:46.160 years
00:49:46.500 where
00:49:46.820 they're
00:49:47.880 ready
00:49:48.100 to go
00:49:48.500 right
00:49:48.780 now
00:49:49.120 because
00:49:49.500 they're
00:49:49.680 already
00:49:49.860 starting
00:49:50.140 to think
00:49:50.500 about
00:49:50.760 new
00:49:50.920 year's
00:49:51.120 resolutions
00:49:51.580 and
00:49:51.940 it's
00:49:52.060 like
00:49:52.220 well
00:49:52.360 why
00:49:52.560 are
00:49:52.700 we
00:49:52.800 gonna
00:49:52.920 limit
00:49:53.300 and
00:49:53.620 close
00:49:53.980 this
00:49:54.180 down
00:49:54.620 if
00:49:55.260 men
00:49:55.460 are
00:49:55.580 listening
00:49:55.800 to
00:49:55.920 this
00:49:56.040 right
00:49:56.220 now
00:49:56.440 and
00:49:56.520 they're
00:49:56.600 like
00:49:56.740 hey
00:49:56.900 I
00:49:57.040 want
00:49:57.220 to
00:49:57.300 get
00:49:57.420 going
00:49:57.680 for
00:49:57.840 the
00:49:57.960 new
00:49:58.100 year
00:49:58.380 and
00:49:59.060 I say
00:50:00.100 sorry
00:50:00.380 you have
00:50:00.560 to wait
00:50:00.920 until
00:50:01.200 the
00:50:01.360 new
00:50:01.500 year
00:50:01.700 like
00:50:02.200 I want
00:50:03.140 them to
00:50:03.420 get going
00:50:03.920 now
00:50:04.300 like you
00:50:04.660 talked
00:50:04.940 about
00:50:05.240 I don't
00:50:05.700 want you
00:50:05.900 to wait
00:50:06.240 90 days
00:50:06.940 let's
00:50:07.700 start
00:50:07.920 today
00:50:08.400 that way
00:50:08.880 in 90
00:50:09.280 days
00:50:09.580 we're
00:50:09.820 90
00:50:10.100 days
00:50:10.360 further
00:50:10.660 than
00:50:11.040 anybody
00:50:11.540 else
00:50:11.900 who
00:50:12.200 kind
00:50:12.660 of
00:50:12.760 sat
00:50:12.980 back
00:50:14.000 on
00:50:14.140 their
00:50:14.280 haunches
00:50:14.680 and
00:50:14.820 didn't
00:50:15.280 didn't
00:50:15.580 do
00:50:15.700 what
00:50:15.840 they
00:50:15.940 ought
00:50:16.040 to
00:50:16.080 be
00:50:16.200 doing
00:50:16.440 today
00:50:17.040 right
00:50:17.320 now
00:50:17.640 so
00:50:18.120 divorce
00:50:18.520 not
00:50:18.720 death
00:50:18.920 dot com
00:50:19.420 the
00:50:19.960 iron
00:50:20.280 council
00:50:20.620 dot com
00:50:21.120 excellent
00:50:21.940 and then
00:50:22.560 to connect
00:50:23.020 with Ryan
00:50:23.720 on the
00:50:24.100 socials
00:50:24.720 whether
00:50:24.920 x or
00:50:25.500 instagram
00:50:25.900 that's
00:50:26.400 at
00:50:26.700 Ryan
00:50:27.080 Mickler
00:50:27.480 and then
00:50:29.240 also
00:50:29.620 you know
00:50:29.980 check us
00:50:30.480 out
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00:50:31.380 newsletters
00:50:32.480 facebook
00:50:33.080 all over
00:50:34.080 right
00:50:34.340 so just
00:50:34.740 stay
00:50:35.000 connected
00:50:35.480 and spread
00:50:37.240 what we're
00:50:37.680 doing man
00:50:38.240 right
00:50:38.480 like I
00:50:38.920 I can't
00:50:39.660 I don't
00:50:40.280 know
00:50:40.400 I feel
00:50:41.260 so empowered
00:50:43.500 by the
00:50:44.020 conversation
00:50:44.620 that we're
00:50:45.080 just having
00:50:45.720 and just
00:50:46.840 the questions
00:50:48.200 that we
00:50:48.620 get
00:50:49.080 other men
00:50:50.000 need to
00:50:50.320 hear this
00:50:50.900 and so
00:50:51.920 maybe
00:50:52.220 maybe a
00:50:52.960 reach out
00:50:53.620 from
00:50:53.860 or an
00:50:54.360 ask
00:50:54.640 from my
00:50:55.240 perspective
00:50:55.700 is
00:50:56.080 share
00:50:56.820 enroll
00:50:57.800 people
00:50:58.220 in what
00:50:58.460 we're
00:50:58.600 doing
00:50:58.940 more
00:50:59.940 guys
00:51:00.240 need
00:51:00.380 to
00:51:00.460 hear
00:51:00.580 the
00:51:00.700 message
00:51:01.100 so
00:51:01.640 absolutely
00:51:02.860 well
00:51:03.740 Kip
00:51:03.900 I appreciate
00:51:04.340 you
00:51:04.640 guys
00:51:04.940 that
00:51:05.060 ask
00:51:05.220 questions
00:51:05.600 appreciate
00:51:05.960 you
00:51:06.320 let's
00:51:06.660 keep
00:51:07.220 working
00:51:07.620 and keep
00:51:08.000 those
00:51:08.180 questions
00:51:08.520 coming
00:51:08.840 we'll be
00:51:09.560 back
00:51:09.860 let's see
00:51:11.360 we
00:51:11.740 I'm
00:51:12.020 trying to
00:51:12.360 think
00:51:12.540 because we
00:51:12.780 changed
00:51:13.020 our
00:51:13.160 recording
00:51:13.520 date
00:51:13.960 Friday
00:51:14.760 we'll be
00:51:15.000 back
00:51:15.220 on Friday
00:51:15.780 yeah
00:51:16.360 yeah
00:51:17.060 Friday
00:51:17.680 we'll be
00:51:18.340 back
00:51:18.520 on Friday
00:51:18.980 but
00:51:19.300 guys
00:51:19.920 until then
00:51:20.400 go out
00:51:20.680 there
00:51:20.800 take
00:51:21.080 action
00:51:21.500 and
00:51:21.860 become
00:51:22.180 the man
00:51:22.500 you
00:51:22.800 are
00:51:23.180 meant
00:51:23.340 to
00:51:23.460 be
00:51:23.680 thank
00:51:24.540 you
00:51:24.680 for
00:51:24.820 listening
00:51:25.080 to
00:51:25.280 the
00:51:25.420 order
00:51:25.620 of
00:51:25.800 man
00:51:26.080 podcast
00:51:26.600 you're
00:51:27.400 ready
00:51:27.520 to
00:51:27.700 take
00:51:27.880 charge
00:51:28.220 of
00:51:28.340 your
00:51:28.460 life
00:51:28.780 and
00:51:29.180 be
00:51:29.300 more
00:51:29.520 of
00:51:29.620 the
00:51:29.700 man
00:51:29.920 you
00:51:30.100 were
00:51:30.260 meant
00:51:30.440 to
00:51:30.600 be
00:51:30.840 we
00:51:31.360 invite
00:51:31.660 you
00:51:31.800 to
00:51:31.920 join
00:51:32.120 the
00:51:32.280 order
00:51:32.520 at