Order of Man - May 10, 2019


Make Yourself Dangerous ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and of the movement that is Order of Man.
00:00:33.160 If you're new and joining us for the first time today, it's my goal to give men the tools and the guidance, the direction, the resources, and of course, within this podcast, the conversations they need to step up more fully within the walls of their homes and their businesses and, of course, their communities and, frankly, everywhere we're showing up as men.
00:00:50.880 And I've seen a downward trend, downward spiral towards an effeminate society, stripped of any sort of traditional masculinity, and it's my goal to reclaim and restore that.
00:01:02.520 And to see you and hear you and your stories and how you're improving your lives is inspiring to me.
00:01:08.980 It's inspiring to millions and millions of other men who have banded with us in this fight, and I couldn't be more honored that you're in this battle with us.
00:01:15.560 So, with that said, we've got today's show, which is our Friday Field Notes, where I share some thoughts from throughout my week, but we've also got our interview show, where I am interviewing some of the most successful men on the planet.
00:01:28.340 And I'll let you go check out the lineup, but it continues to be pretty inspiring through the conversations that we're having with warriors and scholars and New York Times bestselling authors and entrepreneurs and any man who's having some levels of success in his life.
00:01:42.140 And then we've got the Ask Me Anything, where Kip Sorensen, my co-host, and I are answering questions from our Facebook group and from our exclusive brotherhood, the Iron Council.
00:01:51.680 And on that note, guys, of the Iron Council, I do want to share that with you because we're implementing some new programs for rank advancements and improving some aptitude tests to measure how effective we are as men within certain frameworks and certain contexts of the way that we're showing up.
00:02:07.260 If you're looking for some of those frameworks and you're looking for a brotherhood, some camaraderie and accountability, and maybe a little kick in the pants every now and again from the guys who are on the same path as you, that I'd encourage you to check out the Iron Council.
00:02:22.020 It's our digital band of brothers, but these guys are also getting together face to face and doing a lot of cool meetups and again, holding each other accountable to big and audacious goals, which I think a lot of us have.
00:02:31.840 I don't think you'd be listening to this podcast if that wasn't the case. So check it out and band with us, join with us, orderofman.com slash legacy, orderofman.com slash legacy.
00:02:42.300 So that's all I've got by way of announcements today. I want to get into the conversation. I was thinking about this morning, what I wanted to talk with you about, and it reminded me as I was thinking of this, I remembered a quote that I came across that I know a lot of you are probably familiar with.
00:02:58.280 And it's from Jordan Peterson. And he says, a harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control.
00:03:10.320 That quote stuck out to me. And I think it's stuck out to a lot of guys who have, who have heard that and repeated it and shared it. And I thought we could talk a little bit more about that today, specifically what it means to be a dangerous man and then how to make ourselves more dangerous and why this is even important in the first place.
00:03:26.500 And I'm going to take this in a little bit different direction than maybe you would think, because obviously we think about martial arts and we think about firearms training and we think about being situationally aware and having some of this training, which listen, I'm not, I'm not undermining that. That is critical.
00:03:41.840 I participate in martial arts, specifically Brazilian jujitsu. I've done a lot of firearms training, especially because I've been in the military and had some of that in the past.
00:03:51.020 Situational awareness is huge when I'm out to dinner with my family or at a movie or just in society in general, I'm situationally aware. I've got a firearm with me 99% of the time.
00:04:00.280 So these are things that I think you should be able to develop and tap into and improve your skillset in order to become more dangerous.
00:04:07.640 But the angle that I wanted to take today is how we utilize what I would call quote unquote soft skills to make ourselves more dangerous.
00:04:18.060 And the reason I want to share this with you is because I think it's something that we overlook a lot of the times when we think about masculinity, we think about being tough and strong and athletic and capable when it comes to martial arts and firearms training.
00:04:30.860 We think about that stuff. And again, that's important, but very rarely do we think about these softer interpersonal communication and dynamic skills that I'm going to address with you today.
00:04:43.140 So we're going to get into that, but why is it important that we be a dangerous man? We need to talk about that first. Again, that quote is a harmless man is not a good man.
00:04:53.580 That's the first part of it. And let me break that down here for you for just a minute. I think there is too much emphasis in society on being a good man.
00:05:01.800 And what I think ends up happening is we only address the morality of it. All right. We only address the morality of it.
00:05:08.980 You can't really be a harmless man. If all you are is good. If you're a good little boy, according to society standards, because it might just be that you're, you're weak.
00:05:21.880 Jordan Peterson says a good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control, meaning he has the ability to be dangerous and yet voluntarily and consciously decides not to be dangerous or probably more accurately use that dangerous skillset that he has in a controlled environment, in the right situation when it's appropriate.
00:05:48.300 So what we see is we see a lot of men who don't have this under control, specifically because they haven't had the male mentors and role models and coaches and fathers to teach them how to harness this raw masculine energy that's coursing through these young boys veins.
00:06:04.740 And then it comes across as violent and tragic and horrific in a lot of cases as well.
00:06:10.840 So it's our job as men to learn how to control this ability to be aggressive and competitive and violent at times so that we can use it in a controlled manner that it will be more effective and that we'll be using it appropriately.
00:06:25.480 So doing that for ourselves and then also teaching our young men and the people that we have responsibility for how to harness those same characteristics to produce effective outcomes for themselves.
00:06:36.940 Whether that's get them out of a violent encounter or to face some sort of natural disaster or even a car wreck or even just something as simple as competitive sports with some guys around town, a pickup game of basketball or softball or whatever it is you're doing by that way is to harness, harness the power that you have within you.
00:06:59.600 And that makes you, according to this, what Jordan Peterson would say, a good man.
00:07:05.320 I don't use that term necessarily because I think, again, it comes back to morality only and that's important.
00:07:11.800 But if it's only morality, we're missing this critical component of it, which is capability.
00:07:17.280 So we've got morality, good man, and then we've got our proficiency at skills, which makes us capable.
00:07:23.520 Good men don't change the world.
00:07:25.020 They might be nice to talk with and women might like them for a short period of time or put them in the friend zone.
00:07:30.640 But the men who change the world are the ones who are capable.
00:07:34.420 And so when I think about that word capability and I think about dangerous, I think those two things go hand in hand.
00:07:41.960 If you want to be a capable man, capable of providing, protecting and presiding, which is our motto and not just motto, but our way of life,
00:07:49.120 then you need to be willing and able, willing and able to be dangerous in the right set of circumstances.
00:07:58.220 That's why it's so important that we as men learn how to harness this.
00:08:02.080 So again, martial arts, firearms training, situational awareness, tactical training.
00:08:07.680 A lot of you guys have military training, maybe even some medical training.
00:08:12.600 That stuff's all important, but that's not what this discussion is about today.
00:08:15.840 This discussion is about, again, the quote unquote soft skills that we need to develop that will allow us to be more dangerous and more capable in order to produce the type of outcomes that we're after and the people who we have a responsibility for are after.
00:08:32.720 So let's break this down.
00:08:33.820 Now, these aren't in any order necessarily.
00:08:35.940 They're of equal importance, but I think all of us could do well to incorporate this a little bit more in order to make ourselves more, more dangerous.
00:08:44.300 All right. So number one is develop confidence.
00:08:48.220 Now, I know that this is broad sweeping.
00:08:49.980 I know this is pretty general.
00:08:51.740 I know that most of you realize that you have to develop confidence or have a desire to develop confidence.
00:08:57.500 Guys, it is so critical.
00:08:58.980 I can't tell you how many people I've seen who are so weak and so passive and lack any level of confidence in their lives.
00:09:06.320 And of course, when they're faced with a violent situation or a natural disaster, or even just as something as simple as asking for a raise or asking a woman on a date, they have no ability to do this because they don't have any confidence in themselves.
00:09:20.760 And what these guys believe is that somehow that some men are just born with high levels of confidence.
00:09:28.260 That's not the case.
00:09:29.700 There may be pride.
00:09:31.160 There may be an overinflated ego in a sense of arrogance, but you don't get to be confident just because that has to be earned.
00:09:39.560 And so as I talk about why having confidence and developing the ability to be confident is so important in the context of being dangerous, what I really want to share with you is that you have to go out and do the things that are going to make you confident.
00:09:53.320 You have to go out and earn that.
00:09:55.060 So as you're sitting here listening to this podcast and thinking to yourself, well, man, I'm just not as confident around women, or I'm not as confident around my boss or around highly successful people.
00:10:03.920 And trust me, I've been there.
00:10:05.700 Then the next question should be, what can I do?
00:10:10.280 What can I actually do in my life to develop more confidence?
00:10:15.020 Now, some of the things I'm going to share with you as we progress are naturally going to help you become more confident.
00:10:20.360 But if you feel fear towards any conversation, any engagement, any activity, any hobby, then that's probably a pretty good indicator that you could develop a sense of confidence by tackling that thing, by facing that activity head on and getting it done.
00:10:38.420 Anyways, you don't need to be confident to develop confidence.
00:10:41.900 What you need is you need to be courageous.
00:10:43.840 And any one of us in the right set of circumstances and with the right mindset can exhibit courage.
00:10:50.820 And when we exhibit courage to go do the thing that we're afraid of, we get done with that thing and we realize that maybe wasn't as bad as I thought it was or that it was bad, but I did it anyways.
00:11:01.340 And it's through developing skill sets.
00:11:04.220 It's through developing the ability to overcome the things that we're afraid of that gives us the level of confidence that we need.
00:11:12.000 And when we're confident, we can be more dangerous.
00:11:16.360 We have more capability to face what needs to be faced and to do what needs to be done in the face of the fear that we might be experiencing.
00:11:25.760 Too many men cower, they tuck tail and they run because they don't have any level of confidence.
00:11:31.160 And when they're faced with a, with a difficult circumstance, they can't be these dangerous or these capable men because they haven't developed that confidence.
00:11:38.700 So that's number one is develop confidence.
00:11:40.800 Now, how do we do that?
00:11:41.840 A lot of ways, but again, these next four points that I'll share with you will certainly help you develop more confidence in your life.
00:11:47.940 All right.
00:11:48.260 Number two is to develop some level of assertiveness, some level of assertiveness.
00:11:54.180 There's four communication styles.
00:11:56.240 There's passive.
00:11:57.160 The passive communicator is weak.
00:12:00.200 He's passive.
00:12:01.440 Obviously he gets railroaded.
00:12:03.680 He doesn't share his ideas.
00:12:05.440 When he does share an idea, he makes excuses or apologizes for those ideas.
00:12:10.160 And very rarely is he taken seriously.
00:12:13.200 That's the passive communicator.
00:12:15.740 Next is we have the passive aggressive communicator.
00:12:19.340 This individual is trying to pretend like he's passive or, or good in some way.
00:12:26.060 Uh, and yet he's actually a very aggressive individual.
00:12:29.640 He's just good at disguising it.
00:12:31.520 So this is the, the individual who can't take anything seriously.
00:12:35.440 They've got a joke for everything.
00:12:38.100 Uh, they're sarcastic.
00:12:39.980 They undermine, they mock, they ridicule.
00:12:43.080 They put others down, but they do it in a sly way.
00:12:45.500 They give underhanded comments and compliments.
00:12:47.840 This is the passive aggressive communicator.
00:12:50.720 And while they may be funny for a short period of time, it becomes extremely, extremely exhausting
00:12:55.860 dealing with these individuals because they don't know how to deal with difficult or awkward
00:13:01.160 or uncomfortable conversations.
00:13:02.900 And so they make light of everything and they mock everything.
00:13:05.840 It's ridiculous.
00:13:06.760 So that's a passive aggressive communicator.
00:13:09.880 Next, you have an aggressive communicator.
00:13:12.720 And we all know this guy.
00:13:13.680 We've probably had a boss like this or a member of our family that wants to railroad everybody.
00:13:19.060 It's a type a dominant red personality.
00:13:21.960 Who's a driver who doesn't take no for an answer, who isn't willing to communicate with
00:13:28.180 other individuals or take other things into consideration.
00:13:31.200 And he just dominates and bulldozes everybody in every circumstance.
00:13:37.120 Obviously, we don't have good success with this individual and people don't like these
00:13:41.260 types of individuals.
00:13:42.280 So they don't make great leaders.
00:13:44.180 Now you might look at it and think, well, this is a great leader.
00:13:47.060 A dictator is not necessarily a great leader.
00:13:49.320 They may be able to produce results for a short period of time until people catch on and realize
00:13:54.860 that they don't want to be led by this individual.
00:13:57.280 And so they stop following voluntarily.
00:13:59.520 So an aggressive might be able to get things done now, but can't do it long-term.
00:14:03.880 What we should all be working towards is being assertive, assertive, certainly in our communication,
00:14:10.320 like I'm talking about here, that you're willing to take on new ideas and new perspectives,
00:14:15.600 and you're taking other people's thoughts and ideas and feelings into consideration.
00:14:19.100 And yet you have a very clear idea of what you want.
00:14:22.400 You're willing to and capable of sharing your ideas with other individuals.
00:14:27.100 When you see that there's a problem, you don't push that off.
00:14:31.000 You're not passive about it.
00:14:32.840 You're not aggressive by bulldozing it, but you're taking all of the stimulus into consideration
00:14:37.140 to figure out the best way forward.
00:14:39.280 The most assertive individual is going to get the job done the majority of the time over
00:14:45.920 the longest period of time.
00:14:48.160 So don't put the blindfold on.
00:14:50.900 Don't pretend like threats don't exist.
00:14:53.140 When a conversation needs to be had, don't pretend like it doesn't need to be had.
00:14:57.440 Don't bury your head in the sand and think that if you just keep it there long enough that
00:15:01.040 somehow this threat or this conversation or this circumstance will go away.
00:15:05.700 It won't.
00:15:06.360 In fact, it'll get worse.
00:15:07.900 And so a dangerous and a capable man is able to recognize conversations and situations.
00:15:14.200 And then he addresses those as quickly as possible, as efficiently and effectively as
00:15:20.520 possible to a neutralize the threat or B to get us further, to advance the cause, whatever
00:15:27.700 that may look like.
00:15:28.660 So try to be assertive in all of your dealings and interactions.
00:15:32.860 A couple of resources I'd give you is number one is no more Mr. Nice guy by
00:15:37.600 Robert Glover.
00:15:38.680 Great book that addresses nice guy syndrome is what he's dubbed it and how to be more
00:15:43.960 assertive.
00:15:44.560 And the second book is the assertiveness workbook, which will actually work you through how to
00:15:51.100 address scenarios and situations in a more assertive manner without feeling like you're
00:15:56.840 being too aggressive or being too weak.
00:15:58.900 It's the balance.
00:15:59.940 It's somewhere in the middle.
00:16:00.560 So again, number two is to practice assertiveness.
00:16:04.680 Number three is knowing what you want, knowing what the ultimate objective is.
00:16:10.080 I know that if I asked 100 men, tell me what you want.
00:16:14.720 Most would probably say something like, well, I want to make some more money or I want to
00:16:20.200 have a better relationship or I want to be fit.
00:16:22.880 And although that is good, I think that's a worthy objectives that you should be striving
00:16:29.420 towards.
00:16:29.880 I think that if you're not specific enough that you're probably not going to accomplish
00:16:35.280 that thing and you're not going to know how to get there and you're not going to be
00:16:38.340 able to smash through the barriers that will inevitably present themselves.
00:16:42.600 Now, if you're crystal clear, if you are hyper-focused, very, very specific on what you want to accomplish,
00:16:49.740 I don't want to get healthy.
00:16:51.080 I want to be to 10% body fat.
00:16:53.780 I don't want to be strong.
00:16:54.860 I want to be able to bench 300 pounds or deadlift 450 pounds.
00:16:59.600 I don't want to have a good marriage.
00:17:00.840 Here's what I would define as a good marriage.
00:17:03.320 I don't want to be wealthy.
00:17:04.620 I want to have $10 million in my bank account.
00:17:07.040 There's a huge distinction and difference.
00:17:09.400 So when you know what you want, whether it's career advancement or in your relationship
00:17:13.760 with your wife or your kids, whether it's your health or your bank account, then you
00:17:18.620 can smash through those barriers.
00:17:20.320 You can overcome the hurdles and the obstacles and the challenges.
00:17:23.540 You can also call upon resources that you've identified as needing to be able to incorporate
00:17:28.960 into your life to achieve those objectives and to overcome the hurdles that again, present
00:17:33.880 themselves.
00:17:34.320 You'll know when you do these types of things that you are capable, you have confidence
00:17:39.940 in being able to do it because you know exactly what you want.
00:17:44.040 So my challenge to you is if I ask you that question and maybe you need to pause the podcast
00:17:49.080 right now and ask, what do you want?
00:17:52.300 Answer that and then ask yourself, is this specific?
00:17:55.400 Is this crystal clear?
00:17:56.520 Is this laser-like?
00:17:57.500 Is it so, so specific that a five-year-old could understand it?
00:18:02.640 And if not, then maybe you aren't clear enough on what you want, which will keep you from
00:18:07.280 ultimately having it.
00:18:08.700 So number three, knowing what you want.
00:18:11.160 Number four, learn to be an effective communicator.
00:18:14.020 Now this kind of ties back into assertiveness, but there's so much more that goes into communication.
00:18:18.700 And ultimately, it just is a level of practice.
00:18:22.300 You need to learn how to communicate effectively with others.
00:18:26.260 So if you're negotiating a raise or proposing to your soon-to-be fiance and wife, if you're
00:18:35.180 disciplining your children, if you're engaged with a would-be attacker, then you need to
00:18:41.020 be able to communicate effectively towards that individual to produce the outcome that you're
00:18:46.340 after.
00:18:46.660 If you can't open your mouth and use your sounds and use your words in a way that will
00:18:53.060 illustrate exactly what you're all about and exactly what you're after, then you're
00:18:57.460 probably not going to achieve your objective.
00:18:59.680 Now, one of the interesting things about the topics and the points that I'm making with
00:19:02.900 you today is that they're all intertwined.
00:19:06.520 If you become a better communicator, you are naturally going to develop more confidence
00:19:11.080 because when you say something, it's going to be followed through and then you'll realize
00:19:15.580 you're capable of doing that.
00:19:17.500 Assertiveness requires your ability to communicate and vice versa.
00:19:21.180 Your ability to communicate requires that you have some level of assertiveness.
00:19:25.140 So it's not like these things can be taken out and isolated and these decisions can be
00:19:30.860 made in a vacuum.
00:19:31.840 They're all interdependent of each other.
00:19:33.720 And when you improve one area, whether it's communicating or knowing what you want and getting
00:19:38.620 specific with that, uh, or assertiveness or, uh, developing confidence, if you improve
00:19:43.760 just one area, all other areas elevate and improve as well.
00:19:48.460 So it's compounding, it's compounding returns.
00:19:51.500 When you start to, uh, take some of these things into consideration and then incorporate
00:19:55.340 them into your life and get better in these, these soft skill sets.
00:19:58.720 So again, learning to communicate effectively.
00:20:01.120 Uh, I would say the best way to do this is to put yourself in situations where you need
00:20:05.760 to communicate.
00:20:06.680 So if you know, there needs to be a difficult conversation, but with you and your kids have
00:20:11.520 that conversation.
00:20:12.220 If there's an opportunity to present to a group of people in something like Toastmasters
00:20:17.300 or a rotary or business network international, then take advantage of that opportunity.
00:20:23.400 If you're feeling a little nervous about putting yourself out there, but you want to do some
00:20:26.980 public speaking and you know, there's an event coming up, then reach out to the event
00:20:30.700 organizers and, and throw your hat in the ring and give yourself a chance.
00:20:34.420 It's not going to feel, it's not going to feel comfortable.
00:20:36.860 I should say, uh, you're, you're going to feel awkward, uh, and out of place and inadequate,
00:20:42.120 but this is how we develop the ability to communicate effectively, which makes us more capable,
00:20:46.440 which ultimately makes us more dangerous.
00:20:48.580 So that's number four is learn to communicate effectively.
00:20:51.260 And the last one is educate yourself guys.
00:20:54.180 You've got to educate yourself, knowledgeable people.
00:20:56.840 And, and let me say this, the information alone is not enough.
00:20:59.960 You can't read a book and assume that because you read it, that somehow you'll be able to
00:21:04.640 apply this effectively in your life, but you've got to be knowledgeable.
00:21:09.380 You've got to know some of the harder skills like martial arts, like firearms training, like
00:21:14.440 situational awareness and these tactical situations.
00:21:17.140 You've got to know how to be assertive.
00:21:19.960 You've got to know the information that you're going to be communicating to other individuals.
00:21:23.420 You've got to gain new credentials and new designations and new degrees.
00:21:28.100 This is how you make yourself knowledgeable, which will in turn make you more capable.
00:21:34.280 It will help you become a more effective leader.
00:21:36.620 And ultimately it will put you in the position where you are dangerous, where you can actually
00:21:41.400 move the needle.
00:21:41.980 When you say something, people listen, when you do something, people are inspired.
00:21:46.720 That's where I want to be.
00:21:47.860 And that's what I'm trying to do here within this podcast.
00:21:49.900 And of course, other elements of my life.
00:21:51.840 And I think I continue to improve.
00:21:54.180 I hope so.
00:21:54.760 That's the ultimate goal is that I can educate myself on the topics of masculinity so that
00:22:00.080 I can then come and communicate these to you.
00:22:02.600 We can enlist you in this cause of reclaiming and restoring masculinity.
00:22:06.280 It certainly builds up my level of confidence because I can communicate effectively.
00:22:10.860 I have other skills that I'm developing, whether it's something as simple as playing the guitar,
00:22:16.120 which is something that I'm doing archery, which is something I've been doing for about
00:22:20.080 a year and a half, almost two years now, my ability to hunt, uh, of course, educating
00:22:25.300 myself on physiology and biology and how the body and the mind works so that I can make
00:22:30.720 myself into a more effective tool.
00:22:32.660 Uh, jujitsu is something I'm educating myself on so that I can use this, this tool as a weapon
00:22:38.180 in the right circumstance.
00:22:39.780 And again, that comes back to, you know, being dangerous is using it in the right circumstance
00:22:45.240 and having under voluntary control.
00:22:47.320 So these are some skills guys, and, and I want to recap these with you really briefly
00:22:52.360 and just highlight what they are.
00:22:53.880 Uh, I would encourage you if you're in a spot where you can take notes to jot these
00:22:57.420 things down and then to ask yourself, how can I incorporate these into my life?
00:23:02.200 Because what I think I've seen is that there's a gap between what I'm trying to share with
00:23:06.080 you guys and maybe to some degree, what you're actually implementing into your life.
00:23:09.960 It's easy to do this while you're, uh, at the gym or mowing your lawn or exercising on
00:23:16.280 a run, whatever it may be.
00:23:17.740 Uh, and then we forget about it, right?
00:23:19.200 We get distracted with other elements of life, or we get listening to another podcast and
00:23:23.240 we forget about the points that I'm trying to make and share with you guys.
00:23:26.060 So I'd really encourage you to write this down and then to incorporate it into your battle
00:23:30.760 plan.
00:23:31.100 So let me go through these and we can talk about how you might incorporate them.
00:23:34.780 Uh, number one is to develop, uh, more confidence by, by acting.
00:23:40.380 Number two is to develop more assertiveness.
00:23:43.180 I gave you the two resources, no more Mr. Nice guy and the assertiveness workbook.
00:23:48.220 Uh, number three, learn to communicate.
00:23:51.000 So throughout the week, look for opportunities where you can communicate.
00:23:54.560 Maybe it's a small little thing where it's just a one-on-one interaction, or maybe there's
00:23:58.820 an opportunity to present in front of 15 or 20 or 30 or a hundred or a thousand people
00:24:04.040 take advantage of that.
00:24:05.920 Uh, number, I think I said that backwards, but the next one, number four is to know what
00:24:10.400 you want.
00:24:11.420 So within your battle plan, you should be carving out time every single day.
00:24:15.000 Maybe that's 20 minutes in the morning to really start to, to formulate and to bring
00:24:20.780 life to some ideas and thoughts about who you want to be, the kind of father and husband
00:24:25.700 and business owner and community leader you're trying to show up as.
00:24:28.820 And be as specific as possible.
00:24:30.560 And then point number five is to educate yourself.
00:24:33.300 Where are you deficient?
00:24:35.040 Where are you falling behind?
00:24:36.600 What are some areas in your life where you could gain a new designation or degree or credential?
00:24:43.200 What type of skills and activities and hobbies are you missing?
00:24:47.160 Do you know how to do basic electrical and plumbing around the house?
00:24:51.460 Or are you incapable of doing that?
00:24:53.800 Are you enrolled in jujitsu or other, some other form of martial arts to be able to train
00:24:59.560 your body into the tool and weapon that it can become so that if the situation called
00:25:03.920 for it, heaven forbid that you knew how to, how to deal with it and how to handle yourself.
00:25:08.620 These are all critical components of being a man in general, but being a dangerous man.
00:25:15.020 Let me recap with this quote from Jordan Peterson.
00:25:16.940 He says, a harmless man is not a good man.
00:25:20.620 A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control.
00:25:27.000 So guys, I would encourage you to not follow what the American psychological's recent quasi
00:25:35.080 study said.
00:25:35.800 They said that, that competition, that aggressiveness, that assertiveness and stoicism are a threat
00:25:43.760 or a danger to society.
00:25:45.100 It's only a danger when we don't know how to get that under voluntary control.
00:25:49.700 It's only a danger when we don't focus on it and we pretend it doesn't exist and we aren't
00:25:55.040 able to harness the power of being dangerous in the right circumstances.
00:26:00.440 And as much as the hard skills that we all know we should be incorporating into our lives
00:26:04.560 are important, it's also critical that we focus on these soft skills, which will help us develop
00:26:10.520 and become more dangerous and more capable as well.
00:26:13.980 So that's what I've got for you today, guys.
00:26:15.540 If you would, let me know what you think about these Friday field notes.
00:26:18.920 If I'm covering the topics that you want, if there's other topics that you would like
00:26:22.860 me to address, I'm open to those things.
00:26:24.900 I want to give you what you need, what you want so that you can improve your life.
00:26:28.960 The best way to do that is to hit me up and give me a direct message on Instagram
00:26:32.860 or Twitter.
00:26:34.480 They're both at Ryan Mickler.
00:26:36.380 My last name is spelled M-I-C-H-L-E-R.
00:26:39.720 Let's have a conversation there and continue to talk about what it means to be a dangerous
00:26:44.380 man and of course a capable man as well.
00:26:48.000 And as a parting note, guys, I would ask if you have not left a rating and review, do
00:26:53.080 that.
00:26:53.500 We need to get those rating reviews in.
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00:26:56.880 You know, I don't ask a whole lot from you guys.
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00:27:00.980 It doesn't cost anything for you to access this valuable information, but I do ask that
00:27:06.680 you share this episode.
00:27:09.320 You know, you've got a brother or your dad or a friend or someone at work or a cousin
00:27:13.900 or somebody you're fathering in some capacity who needs to hear this type of message.
00:27:19.460 And I don't want you to withhold it.
00:27:21.020 I want you to be vocal about it.
00:27:22.280 And I want you to start enlisting other men in the fight to reclaim and restore masculinity
00:27:26.680 in a society that frankly doesn't want us to.
00:27:29.760 All right.
00:27:30.440 So guys, that's all I've got for you today.
00:27:31.760 Go out, be dangerous.
00:27:33.020 Learn how to get that under voluntary control.
00:27:35.620 Implement these strategies that I've shared with you today.
00:27:37.980 And let's go out there and become the men that we are capable of being.
00:27:41.060 Go out there, guys.
00:27:41.660 Take action and become that man you are meant to be.
00:27:44.100 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
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