Order of Man - Males. Masculinity. Manliness ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:06.040 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.500 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.

00:00:15.540 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.

00:00:19.780 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:00:25.000 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:27.400 And I am the host and the founder of the Older Man podcasting movement.

00:00:31.120 I want to first and foremost thank you.

00:00:32.960 We've gotten a lot of feedback from the past several podcasts that we've done.

00:00:36.080 Earlier this week, we did one with Madison Cawthorn, the youngest United States congressman.

00:00:42.240 Mixed reviews on that one, obviously, because anytime you get into politics, you're going to get mixed reviews.

00:00:46.060 But that was a very powerful conversation.

00:00:48.940 And I've also got a lot of feedback on last week's Friday field notes, which was get strong, get smart, get rich.

00:00:55.160 So, again, mixed reviews.

00:00:57.640 But anytime we get mixed reviews, polarizing thoughts and opinions and ideas, I know that's the right conversation we need to be having.

00:01:06.320 Because my goal is to have difficult and sometimes uncomfortable conversations.

00:01:12.060 Because nobody else is willing to have them, frankly.

00:01:14.880 Or very few people are.

00:01:16.300 We live in a politically correct society in a world where, you know, we don't want to ruffle any feathers or make anybody feel bad about themselves or their decisions.

00:01:26.280 And I certainly don't set out to piss people off, to make people feel bad.

00:01:31.580 But I'm going to share the truth.

00:01:33.340 And I'm going to share my opinion.

00:01:34.960 And there is a distinction between truth and opinion.

00:01:37.580 I recognize that and realize that and acknowledge it.

00:01:40.080 But I'm going to share those things with you because these are the conversations that need to be had.

00:01:44.480 And they're the conversations nobody else is having.

00:01:46.540 And specifically, if you're new to this podcast, we're talking about all things manliness and masculinity, which in and of itself seems to be an increasingly polarizing conversation.

00:01:57.980 Which is funny because, well, it shouldn't be polarizing.

00:02:01.960 I guess it's not even funny.

00:02:03.180 It shouldn't be polarizing.

00:02:04.920 It should be very clear.

00:02:06.100 And that's exactly what I'm going to talk with you about today because there is so much confusion about what it means to be a man and what a man is and what a male is and what masculinity is and what manliness is.

00:02:16.120 And we have all these terms and buzzwords that we use and they're often misconstrued.

00:02:26.060 People don't completely understand what terms mean and people don't understand what everybody else's meaning or what their intent is when they use these terms like masculinity and, of course, the one we hear quite a bit, which is toxic masculinity.

00:02:43.540 So we're going to define that today.

00:02:44.780 We're going to go through that.

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00:03:37.960 All right, guys.

00:03:38.600 We need to lay some foundation here because, again, we have these phrases and these words that are loaded words and people don't understand what they mean.

00:03:50.860 And, you know, you see this weird.

00:03:53.680 It's weird.

00:03:54.820 That's the correct word.

00:03:55.840 It's weird that we have begun to debate what a male is, what a man is, what masculinity is.

00:04:05.220 There's plenty of people out there who are confused and think that just because you believe you are that you can be a man, that isn't true.

00:04:14.220 We're going to talk about that today.

00:04:15.980 Some of this is opinion, sure.

00:04:17.820 But some of it is also rooted in science and data and biology.

00:04:22.740 We're going to address it all.

00:04:23.880 So the three terms I wanted to specifically break down for you today are, number one, male, number two, masculinity, and number three, manliness.

00:04:34.340 And there's a distinction.

00:04:35.640 There's a difference.

00:04:36.940 We use them interchangeably quite often, and we think that they're synonymous.

00:04:40.140 They're not.

00:04:41.020 They're not synonymous.

00:04:42.440 And it's important that we understand what each of these things means so that we as men can step more fully into who we are and who we're meant to be.

00:04:48.780 And also, we can ward off any sort of perversion of the truth, distortion of the reality of what it means to be a man and what our job and responsibilities and roles are.

00:05:01.560 And what's interesting is as I talk about this, I already know.

00:05:05.020 I already know because I deal with it every day.

00:05:08.800 This one's probably going to get a lot of hate, and it's going to be polarizing.

00:05:12.060 Not for a lot of you because you agree.

00:05:14.260 And I'm willing to say the things that I think most of you believe but maybe feel like you can't say or can't talk about.

00:05:20.920 I'm willing to be politically incorrect here or incorrect, I should say.

00:05:24.240 But as I talk about this, people will say, well, what do you care?

00:05:29.080 What do you care what people think about themselves and who they are?

00:05:32.340 I actually don't care.

00:05:34.080 If you're a woman and you think you're a man, okay, well, you can think that. 0.97

00:05:40.940 If you're a man and you think you're a woman or you think you're a man or a woman and you think you're some sort of alien space creature or a different animal, okay, that's fine. 0.83

00:05:54.240 Whatever, you can think that.

00:05:56.180 People think all sorts of things that are incorrect, and it doesn't impact my life.

00:06:00.620 But this actually does because when a man believes himself to be a woman or vice versa, a woman believes himself to be a man, that actually permeates much of society.

00:06:12.680 It infuses itself into the societal conversation, which is why we have men, biological men, males, who are attempting to infiltrate women's sports. 1.00

00:06:30.160 I think that's a problem.

00:06:31.140 I also think it's a problem that a biological male who believes himself to be a woman based on new executive orders can be involved with not only sports, but be involved in exclusively female activities in public.

00:06:52.840 For example, the use of restrooms, I'm not interested in having a biological man who believes himself to be a woman going into women's restrooms, women's locker rooms, permeating sports.

00:07:05.460 I'm not interested in that.

00:07:06.440 There's a danger inherent in that.

00:07:08.320 So, this is why I care about it.

00:07:12.060 It's a pervasion of the way that society has always functioned.

00:07:19.100 And I'm going to talk about it.

00:07:21.000 Not because I care about what you believe yourself to be, but because it impacts everybody else.

00:07:27.480 So, let's address this.

00:07:29.820 It's crazy to me that in 2021, we even need to talk about it.

00:07:33.960 But we do, apparently.

00:07:34.980 We do.

00:07:36.140 And I'll make a stand.

00:07:37.080 This is the hill that I'm planting my flag on.

00:07:39.220 So, here we go.

00:07:40.240 Let's talk about the lowest common denominator of what makes a man a man.

00:07:44.040 Number one, a man is a biological male.

00:07:48.100 So, that's the term I wanted to share with you first.

00:07:50.100 Male.

00:07:50.640 What does it mean to be a male?

00:07:52.160 It means biologically, you are male.

00:07:55.780 You have the right chromosomes.

00:07:57.140 You have the right biology.

00:07:58.700 You have the right physical characteristics.

00:08:03.180 You have the right genitalia. 0.88

00:08:05.160 We don't need to get into this. 0.98

00:08:06.100 You guys understand that.

00:08:08.040 What's interesting is every once in a while, I'll have somebody say, well, you know, Ryan, it's not binary.

00:08:13.660 Biology is not binary when it comes to sex.

00:08:16.460 You know, you have males and you have females, but what about intersex people?

00:08:19.520 That's a disorder.

00:08:20.480 That's a medical anomaly.

00:08:25.060 All right.

00:08:25.660 Just because there are intersex individuals, and there are, that's scientific.

00:08:30.020 We know there are.

00:08:31.440 That doesn't mean that there's more than two sexes. 0.94

00:08:35.000 It just means that we have a medical anomaly, a disorder that falls outside of the two sexes that we see among the animal kingdom, including homo sapiens. 0.62

00:08:50.020 It doesn't create its own sex. 0.99

00:08:51.600 It doesn't create its own sex. 0.99

00:08:52.860 It doesn't create its own gender. 1.00

00:08:54.920 It doesn't create any third class or tier of individual.

00:09:00.060 It just means this is a medical anomaly that falls outside of the standard.

00:09:04.780 You wouldn't say that human beings have any more or less than 10 fingers and 10 toes or two arms and two legs just because there's a fraction of a percent of individuals who are born with a different number of fingers or are born without a leg or an arm.

00:09:26.120 You wouldn't say that, well, human beings, you know, we can have this wide range of spectrum when it comes to how many digits and how many toes and how many arms and legs.

00:09:34.280 No, you have two arms and two legs, human beings, and you have 10 fingers and 10 toes.

00:09:39.240 And yes, there are a few people who fall outside of that, but it doesn't create its own class.

00:09:44.700 It doesn't create its own sex or its own gender.

00:09:47.300 It's a disorder.

00:09:48.760 It's a medical condition that I think we should strive to understand.

00:09:52.780 We should attempt to figure it out, that we should research it.

00:09:56.540 But again, we have males and we have females. 0.99

00:10:00.540 That's it.

00:10:02.060 That's all there is.

00:10:03.600 And if you want to be a man, the higher tier, I would say, of maleness, you have to first be a biological male. 0.99

00:10:14.500 And all people, oh, right, how can you be so exclusive and you're excluding these people and you're transphobic and you're this and you're, no, no, not at all.

00:10:23.340 Stating the biological truth does not make me any sort of phobic.

00:10:27.980 It doesn't mean that I hate these individuals.

00:10:30.220 It doesn't mean that I don't care about them.

00:10:31.760 It doesn't mean that I think that they should suffer any sort of hardship.

00:10:37.880 These are individuals who are confused clearly, and we should be empathetic to that, but we don't need to distort reality in order to make them feel better about their own choices.

00:10:51.800 We need to help these individuals so that they can live the most fulfilling life possible.

00:10:57.000 And the only way you can do that is by operating in reality.

00:11:01.660 I would never take a person who's severely obese, for example, and tell them that their own life choices are healthy choices.

00:11:14.800 That might make it easier for them in the short term.

00:11:19.600 It might make me feel better, but that doesn't serve that individual.

00:11:25.900 It only hurts that individual.

00:11:28.860 Instead, we want to put them on the right path where they feel good about who they are and they can accept who they really are.

00:11:34.560 And we'll hear that all the time in the trans community.

00:11:36.600 Well, this is who I really am.

00:11:37.880 No, actually, it's not.

00:11:39.120 Biologically, that is not who you are.

00:11:42.920 You think that, but this is a condition.

00:11:46.900 We know that.

00:11:47.560 It's documented as a medical condition, a disorder.

00:11:52.180 It's not who you are.

00:11:55.660 So being a man, first and foremost, means that you're biologically male.

00:12:02.500 I don't hate trans people.

00:12:04.460 I don't want them to suffer.

00:12:06.420 I just want to deal in reality.

00:12:09.120 So that we can all move forward and grow and expand and become better and accept ourselves for who we are and then advance from there.

00:12:17.580 All right.

00:12:18.140 Number two, let's talk about masculinity.

00:12:20.020 So we've addressed male.

00:12:21.340 Male is your biologically male, period. 0.95

00:12:23.860 End of story.

00:12:24.460 End of discussion.

00:12:25.240 It's not subject to interpretation.

00:12:27.280 It's not open for debate.

00:12:28.720 This has been settled.

00:12:31.180 Male means you have the biological makeup, the chromosomes, the genitalia. 0.99

00:12:35.720 You are a male.

00:12:36.900 All right.

00:12:38.040 Number two, masculinity. 0.65

00:12:41.520 Masculinity is a set of characteristics and behaviors and virtues that are developed through hormones, primarily testosterone, that we associate with being male.

00:12:54.560 So dominance, physical strength, aggression, competitiveness.

00:13:02.100 And we have things like the American Psychological Association will come out and say, you know, these things are inherently and intrinsically destructive or dangerous to our young men.

00:13:11.400 No, they're not.

00:13:13.000 They're actually amoral.

00:13:15.200 Being strong is amoral.

00:13:16.880 It's not good or bad.

00:13:19.320 Being dominant is amoral.

00:13:20.960 It's not good or bad.

00:13:21.680 Being competitive, being stoic, the things that we would generally associate and attribute to males through their biological markers and makeup are not inherently good or bad.

00:13:35.280 It's how we use them.

00:13:35.980 Masculinity is the testosterone and the hormones coursing through your veins.

00:13:42.400 It's the energy and the enthusiasm and the physical strength and the dominance and the mindset and the mentality.

00:13:48.720 That's what masculinity is. 1.00

00:13:52.180 Now, when I talk about this, people will say, well, you know, if that's the case, then why don't you believe in toxic masculinity?

00:14:02.260 It's not that I don't believe in that concept.

00:14:06.220 I actually do understand the concept when some people, and I'm using that deliberately, some people use the term toxic masculinity.

00:14:14.480 I understand what they're attempting to say.

00:14:17.800 They're saying that if you use the masculine characteristics that I just acknowledged and told you were amoral for negative outcomes, then wouldn't that be toxic masculinity?

00:14:28.580 I understand that.

00:14:29.560 I get that.

00:14:30.200 But I don't use that term because it's a loaded term.

00:14:35.680 The fact that we even have to spend a bunch of time discussing what it means, and some people think it means this, and other people think it means that.

00:14:42.040 And it's this term that's been used and manipulated and massaged to paint all masculinity.

00:14:47.380 All masculinity as inherently toxic means that I'm not going to use that term.

00:14:54.260 Now, my children, my boys in particular, and I've got a daughter as well, but we're talking about boys right now.

00:14:58.920 Now, they've got, first and foremost, they're males.

00:15:02.460 They're not men, and I'll explain that here in a minute.

00:15:04.620 They're males.

00:15:05.760 We don't expect them to be men yet, so we'll talk about what that means.

00:15:10.500 They have masculinity.

00:15:11.960 As my oldest son, he's about to turn 13.

00:15:14.420 He's becoming more masculine.

00:15:15.860 You can see it in his physical makeup.

00:15:18.340 You can see it in his demeanor and his behavior and activity, and I love to see that development and growth.

00:15:22.760 I need to, as a father who's attempting to do the right things by him, help him harness that masculinity in ways that will serve him and other people.

00:15:34.660 And left unchecked, you have, at worst, this Lord of the flies type situation where we have boys running around without direction and discipline and guidance.

00:15:47.500 And you look at, in the wake of a couple of mass shooting situations over the past couple of weeks, most mass shooters, mass killers, I should say, have been documented to be without permanent father figures in the home.

00:16:02.900 Which means that their masculinity isn't being directed and channeled and harnessed into productive outcomes. 0.70

00:16:09.980 It's been used ineffectively, and it's been destructive and dangerous and violent and catastrophic in many situations.

00:16:18.440 But I'm not going to use the term toxic masculinity because that is a loaded, semantically overloaded term.

00:16:27.460 And it's been politicized, and it's been used to push down men altogether.

00:16:33.640 So let's recap here so far, and then we'll get on to the third component of this.

00:16:36.520 So number one, we have male, biologically male.

00:16:40.740 You cannot be a man if you are not biologically male.

00:16:45.280 I know I'm going to get emails and responses and everything else.

00:16:48.740 Well, right, you know, some people think they're, that's fine.

00:16:50.700 You can think whatever you want.

00:16:51.800 It doesn't make it true.

00:16:54.940 In order to be a man, you have to first and foremost be biologically male.

00:16:58.040 Then we have masculinity, which is the raw testosterone and hormones coursing through males' veins that cause them to be generally more competitive, more dominant, more aggressive, potentially more stoic, stronger.

00:17:13.920 This is why men who believe themselves to be women who have been allowed to compete in women's sports will generally dominate those arenas.

00:17:25.580 Of course, they will.

00:17:26.420 Because biologically, they have a huge advantage when it comes to competitive sports.

00:17:30.920 Of course, we know that.

00:17:33.200 There's no scientific study needed for that.

00:17:35.440 We acknowledge that.

00:17:36.520 We recognize that.

00:17:37.400 And if you don't, you're delusional.

00:17:38.840 No, you're reaching, you're flexing for this like weird kind of reality that just doesn't exist.

00:17:47.560 We know this.

00:17:49.220 We know it.

00:17:50.280 And if you're being objective and you're being reasonable, you know that.

00:17:54.160 That's a danger.

00:17:55.140 That's a threat.

00:17:56.400 And these individuals who say, well, we, you know, we believe in women's rights.

00:17:59.800 Well, really?

00:18:01.000 Do you?

00:18:02.480 Do you believe in that?

00:18:03.840 If you're going to allow men to compete in women's sports where they have a huge, huge physical and mental advantage in those situations, 0.92

00:18:15.180 and you're going to allow those people to dominate women who would secure scholarships and career opportunities and access to education, 1.00

00:18:26.020 you're going to deny them that because you can't face the reality?

00:18:29.100 That's insane.

00:18:30.860 That is insane.

00:18:32.080 So we have male, we have masculinity. 0.99

00:18:37.660 Now let's talk about manliness.

00:18:39.980 What does it mean to be a man? 1.00

00:18:41.100 Now, a lot of people will say, well, you know, you just have to have a dick and balls to be a man. 0.99

00:18:44.700 No, that isn't true because that would describe my sons, my three sons. 0.99

00:18:49.500 Are they men?

00:18:50.460 No.

00:18:51.260 So of course that isn't true. 0.94

00:18:52.760 I just debunked anybody who ever said that all it takes is your genitalia to be a man in what? 0.94

00:19:00.040 10 seconds because our children, our boys are not men. 0.83

00:19:05.580 We don't expect them to be.

00:19:06.980 And yet they have the right anatomy.

00:19:11.760 There's something more to it.

00:19:13.080 So what does it mean to be a man?

00:19:17.860 First and foremost, a man is a biological male.

00:19:21.180 You can think you're a man.

00:19:22.420 You're not.

00:19:23.180 And I know people say, well, you know, right.

00:19:24.460 Gender is different than sex. 0.99

00:19:26.940 It's actually very closely connected.

00:19:29.380 And we know that.

00:19:30.440 We've been talking about that forever.

00:19:33.360 And it isn't until relatively recently that we've begun to separate the two.

00:19:37.220 But let's just, for the sake of argument, assume that's the case.

00:19:42.020 Okay.

00:19:42.520 Well, then I'm talking about sex.

00:19:45.300 Man is clearly defined.

00:19:46.900 It doesn't mean woman.

00:19:47.900 It doesn't mean woman who thinks she's a man.

00:19:50.380 It doesn't mean that.

00:19:52.160 Man means biological man, male, first and foremost. 0.59

00:19:56.140 Now, there's more to it because, again, I just explained that my sons are not men yet.

00:20:02.400 So in order to be a man or what I would say manliness is a male, a biological male who takes his chemical and hormonal and biological makeup, mostly testosterone and, of course, other hormones as well.

00:20:16.500 And directs those and harnesses those and challenges those and tweaks and adjusts and uses them as tools to promote effective outcomes for himself and for other people.

00:20:31.460 You can see it on my hat.

00:20:32.680 The logo for order, or excuse me, the motto for order of man is protect, provide, preside to serve.

00:20:38.200 This is what a man does.

00:20:40.120 He protects, he provides, and he presides.

00:20:43.020 And he takes his masculinity, and he takes his maleness, and he harnesses them into effective outcomes to serve himself and other people.

00:20:52.340 And if he isn't doing that, then he isn't acting manly.

00:20:56.460 And I've been there.

00:20:57.920 I'll be the first to admit that there's been things in my life that I've done that don't represent manliness.

00:21:04.420 I've taken advantage of people.

00:21:06.000 I've stolen from people.

00:21:07.280 I've manipulated people just like we all have.

00:21:10.200 And that is not manliness.

00:21:13.020 It's anything but.

00:21:16.040 If you're hurting other people, you're getting ahead at their expense, that's not manliness.

00:21:21.360 That doesn't make you a man.

00:21:23.320 You might still be a male, but you're acting more like a prepubescent boy, a child, than you are a man.

00:21:31.920 Manliness is about taking what you have through your biological makeup and refining it and crafting it and honing it and putting it through a series of processes and systems that will allow you to produce for yourself and other people.

00:21:49.320 To serve effectively.

00:21:51.340 To lead.

00:21:51.740 To protect people in violent situations and dangerous encounters and emergency situations to provide the financial resources that your family and your community need to survive and live their best lives.

00:22:06.760 That's the work of men. 0.89

00:22:09.200 And that's what we're doing here in the Order of Man podcast.

00:22:11.740 And we've been going as of today, in fact, it's March 24th.

00:22:14.900 As I'm recording this, I think this will be released on the 26th.

00:22:17.820 The 24th is the official six-year anniversary of the Order of Man podcast.

00:22:25.180 And so we've been talking about it for the last six years.

00:22:27.900 How do we take the fact that we're male and our masculinity and direct it towards positive outcomes?

00:22:38.160 That's what defines you.

00:22:39.660 It isn't what you think of yourself.

00:22:41.540 It isn't how you feel.

00:22:43.340 It isn't the ideas that are bouncing around in your brain.

00:22:46.040 It isn't the information or podcasts or books that you've consumed.

00:22:52.000 It's what you do that makes you a man.

00:22:55.820 It's not what you think or believe or act or behave or read.

00:22:59.160 It's what you do.

00:23:01.320 Are you harnessing your masculinity?

00:23:03.320 And some of us are.

00:23:05.260 And some of us aren't.

00:23:06.760 And most of us, and I would place myself in this category, are somewhere in between.

00:23:10.520 Sometimes we do and sometimes we don't.

00:23:12.320 And the whole goal is to move the needle from 50-50 or not acting manly at all to we're acting manly most of the time.

00:23:20.020 And we're providing value.

00:23:21.320 We're adding and enhancing to people's lives.

00:23:24.100 That's what it means to be a man.

00:23:26.280 And some of you will say, well, you know, women can do that too. 1.00

00:23:28.520 Sure, they can.

00:23:30.000 Sure, they can.

00:23:30.560 I'm not saying that they can't.

00:23:32.620 I'm not saying that women don't add value. 0.96

00:23:35.580 I'm not saying that women aren't important.

00:23:38.600 This is why we need to make these distinctions.

00:23:41.180 Because women can do some of this stuff. 1.00

00:23:43.120 Women can be strong in their own right. 1.00

00:23:46.420 Women can and do, my wife, for example, and my daughter, and plenty of other women that I know, add value. 0.99

00:23:51.920 To themselves, to their families, to their communities, to the businesses they work in, to every facet of life.

00:23:58.820 They do, of course.

00:24:00.580 So I'm not suggesting that they can't.

00:24:05.220 I'm suggesting that we as males need to strive to work ourselves towards becoming men.

00:24:12.280 And again, I'm going to reiterate, right?

00:24:13.760 People will say, well, Ryan, again, why do you care?

00:24:17.480 Why do you care what people think?

00:24:18.980 Why do you care if a woman believes herself to be a man? 0.97

00:24:21.660 Why do you care if a man believes himself to be a woman? 1.00

00:24:27.020 You can think whatever you want.

00:24:28.320 The walls of your home, you can think whatever you want.

00:24:30.100 But when it starts to permeate society and impact the way that we view people, the things that we do, it starts to have a negative outcome.

00:24:37.400 Sports is a prime example.

00:24:39.580 Allowing men who believe themselves to be women to interact in women's circumstances, in private situations where they should be, I don't want to say sheltered, but protected.

00:24:50.320 Sure, of course.

00:24:52.340 Why would we do that?

00:24:54.020 To make somebody feel okay with their choices?

00:24:57.540 Ryan, it's not a choice.

00:24:58.700 No, it is a choice.

00:25:00.420 It is a choice.

00:25:02.880 You know, we all have different desires and ideas.

00:25:07.800 And yet, each and every one of us can decide, do we act on it or not?

00:25:12.780 That's a decision.

00:25:13.780 That's a decision.

00:25:17.560 So, this is an important conversation.

00:25:24.020 And it's going to become more so.

00:25:28.020 And it's going to become increasingly more difficult and taboo and politically incorrect to discuss what I'm discussing with you today.

00:25:39.640 Which is actually the reason or part of the reason that we should be talking about this.

00:25:43.960 Because I want a healthy, functioning society.

00:25:47.880 I don't want to acquiesce to people who are confused about who they are and then allow those conversations to permeate society and permeate the way in which we live our lives.

00:25:58.640 Because I don't want that to happen.

00:25:59.640 So, I'm going to talk about it.

00:26:01.240 And it's not going to be popular.

00:26:02.860 And people are going to be pissed.

00:26:04.580 And I'm going to get thrown under the bus.

00:26:06.480 And you know what? 0.77

00:26:07.440 Fine.

00:26:09.220 So be it.

00:26:10.120 Because this is the hill.

00:26:13.660 This is the hill that I've decided I'm going to defend.

00:26:17.380 And it's the hill that's worth fighting for.

00:26:20.780 For myself, for men, for my family members, for my sons and my daughter, this is the hill.

00:26:26.720 For your sons and daughters, this is the hill.

00:26:31.680 So, I'm going to keep talking about it.

00:26:34.400 And if you agree with me, then I need you to talk about it.

00:26:38.360 And I need you to share it.

00:26:41.580 And I need you to get more men involved in this.

00:26:45.020 And what I also need you to know is that I get messages every single week from individuals who say they believe in what I believe, but they can't share it.

00:26:52.500 Can't.

00:26:53.060 Quote, unquote, can't.

00:26:55.240 That's a problem.

00:26:56.820 Do you see that's a problem?

00:26:58.180 You can't express your perspective, your viewpoint.

00:27:01.620 That is anti-American. 0.71

00:27:04.300 That is the antithesis of freedom and what we're all about.

00:27:07.260 You can't because you're worried about losing your job.

00:27:11.840 You can't because somebody may think worse of you.

00:27:20.200 That's anti.

00:27:21.240 That's, again, the antithesis of what it means to be American, which is freedom.

00:27:26.320 And particularly in the First Amendment, freedom of speech.

00:27:29.220 You should be able to say what you want to say without fear of retribution.

00:27:33.320 Now, I know that doesn't always exist, and there are consequences to what we say, of course.

00:27:37.460 I'm not saying there shouldn't be.

00:27:39.560 But if you're afraid of losing your job, that's actually the problem.

00:27:44.820 If you're afraid of being, quote, unquote, canceled, that's the problem.

00:27:47.760 That's one of the reasons you should actually speak up.

00:27:51.860 And you may have to have some sacrifices.

00:27:53.840 But you know what?

00:27:54.300 If more people did this, then we would see this stuff less and less.

00:28:00.020 Guys, we'll talk about the silent.

00:28:01.660 Just wait until the silent majority wakes up.

00:28:04.140 Well, wake up.

00:28:06.840 When are you going to wake up?

00:28:07.900 I've been hearing that term for the past two decades.

00:28:13.020 Oh, you know, once the silent majority wakes up, then, then, oh, oh, you're in for some real trouble.

00:28:19.420 Really?

00:28:23.180 When are you going to wake up?

00:28:25.280 When are you going to speak up?

00:28:27.240 When are you going to stand up?

00:28:29.260 When are you going to talk about truth and reality and the way that this society is best going to be functioning?

00:28:33.680 When are you going to do that?

00:28:36.860 I'm going to do it.

00:28:38.460 If you don't know how to do it, or you don't totally feel comfortable doing it at this point, share what we're doing.

00:28:44.060 That's a great way to start.

00:28:45.940 Share what we're doing here.

00:28:46.960 I'm not afraid to talk about these things.

00:28:48.620 These things should be talked about.

00:28:50.680 So share it, guys.

00:28:52.360 It's important.

00:28:55.540 It's important for us, but I think even more so because I believe unless we are willing to speak up and speak out like I'm talking with you about,

00:29:02.360 it's only going to get worse for our sons and daughters and their sons and daughters.

00:29:05.860 And I care about them.

00:29:07.000 I care about my children.

00:29:09.880 I want them to win.

00:29:10.840 I want them to thrive.

00:29:11.680 Unless I'm willing to be a man and do what needs to be done now and say the things that need to be said and have the conversations that need to be had.

00:29:17.100 Right now, it's only going to get worse.

00:29:19.120 So share.

00:29:19.600 All right.

00:29:20.340 You can share this podcast.

00:29:21.660 You can take a screenshot and post it on social media.

00:29:24.240 You can send a text to somebody.

00:29:25.780 You can leave a rating and review.

00:29:27.420 You can purchase one of our products.

00:29:29.120 There's a thousand different ways to support what we're doing here.

00:29:32.020 You can figure that out how to do that.

00:29:33.660 But ultimately, what I want to talk about is what it means to be a man.

00:29:36.620 I want to talk about what it means to be a male, which is biologically male.

00:29:40.180 I want to talk about masculinity.

00:29:41.620 I want to talk about harnessing that for productive outcomes and turn that masculinity into manliness.

00:29:46.540 This is what I'm going to talk about.

00:29:47.620 And if it's important to you, then I would ask that you share.

00:29:54.220 All right.

00:29:55.240 Share.

00:29:55.780 It's important.

00:29:57.400 All right, guys.

00:29:58.260 That's all I've got for you today.

00:29:59.160 We'll dive deeper into these subjects and more.

00:30:01.120 If you have other subjects and ideas and things you want to talk about, let me know.

00:30:04.120 We'll answer those questions or thoughts and ideas on the Ask Me Anything, or I'll address it on a Friday field notes.

00:30:10.640 The best place at this point to connect with me is on Instagram.

00:30:13.300 That's at Ryan Mickler.

00:30:14.980 My last name is M-I-C-H-L-E-R, at Ryan Mickler.

00:30:18.880 Connect with me there.

00:30:19.840 Shoot me an email or a message there.

00:30:21.840 Let me know what conversations you want to have. 0.94

00:30:24.700 Let's blow this thing up. 0.98

00:30:25.780 We need to blow this thing up. 0.87

00:30:26.760 This needs to become a force to be reckoned with in society.

00:30:29.300 And 2021 is the perfect year to do it.

00:30:31.560 It's the needed year to do it.

00:30:32.920 So let's get after it.

00:30:33.980 Guys, I'll be back next week with a powerful conversation with, maybe I won't spoil it, but it's very powerful.

00:30:42.880 From an individual who many of you are very, very familiar with, who has been on his own self-development journey and process and growth.

00:30:49.820 And I think you're really going to enjoy it.

00:30:51.520 So make sure you subscribe, leave a rating review, connect with me on the Instas and everywhere else.

00:30:55.940 And we'll be back next week.

00:30:57.880 Until then, go out there, take action, and become the man you are meant to be.

00:31:02.160 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.

00:31:05.140 If you're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be,

00:31:08.820 we invite you to join the Order at orderofman.com.

Order of Man - March 26, 2021

Males. Masculinity. Manliness ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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