Order of Man - Man in the Arena ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 When you improve in one aspect of your life, for example, your health, then your relationship will

00:00:05.680 improve because now you're going to look better. You're going to feel better. Your stress levels

00:00:10.480 are down. Your heart rate is down. You're not as agitated. You feel good about who you are.

00:00:15.760 You're performing well. Your energy levels are high. You're sleeping right. You're fueling and

00:00:19.920 hydrating correctly. How is that not going to improve your relationship? How is that not going

00:00:24.560 to help you serve your clients better? Gentlemen, by now, I'm sure every single one of you has heard

00:00:31.620 Theodore Roosevelt's famous speech, at least a portion of it, titled, it's an excerpt titled,

00:00:37.580 The Man in the Arena. I wanted to share this with you today because I'm constantly reminded

00:00:42.520 of this quote and the premise and information behind it as life has a way of inevitably knocking

00:00:50.420 us down. One minute you're riding high and thinking everything is wonderful and good and your

00:00:55.160 finances are in order and your kids are happy and your relationship is thriving and the next

00:01:01.120 minute maybe you have a breakdown in a relationship or one of your kids is dealing with a hardship

00:01:06.720 or you lose your job and you're dealt with some financial constraints and hardship or you have

00:01:12.540 a medical diagnosis. It's not really a matter of if that's going to happen. It's a matter of when

00:01:17.560 it's going to happen and what that's going to look like. And I think more importantly than

00:01:22.320 when and what it's going to look like is how will you handle yourself? And to me, that's really what

00:01:28.360 the Man in the Arena excerpt and story is all about. Not only about not listening to others or

00:01:34.940 allowing other people to judge you harshly or unfairly, although that is an important component,

00:01:42.700 but what you're going to do with yourself and how you are going to handle those moments of

00:01:47.620 challenge, trial, and adversity. I've been talking about manliness and masculinity for

00:01:54.160 over 10 years now. And I think for the most part, it's relatively easy to be a quote unquote man

00:02:02.480 when everything's going well. Relationships are thriving, money situation's good, everybody's happy

00:02:07.780 and content. You're leading well. It's what we do in moments of obstacles and trials and challenges

00:02:15.120 and adversity that really define us and tell us whether we have what it takes or not. And that's

00:02:21.340 a little bit of a nod to the author John Eldridge in his book, Wild at Heart, which was life-changing

00:02:27.340 to me. He makes the case that every man is attempting to ask the question, do I have what it takes?

00:02:35.340 And all too often we fall short. That's bound to happen. And all too often we let other people

00:02:42.660 dictate whether or not we have what it takes. But I found in my own life that the more fulfilled and

00:02:49.320 satisfied that not only I am, but the people around me is when I'm striving to answer the question,

00:02:55.360 do I have what it takes in the affirmative? And the only way to figure it out is to put yourself out

00:03:00.940 there and to take risks and to do hard things and to expose yourself to critique and ridicule and

00:03:08.960 risk. In fact, I don't think you could fully be the man that you're supposed to be unless you're

00:03:14.780 willing to take those risks and risk looking foolish or stupid or dumb in front of other people.

00:03:22.060 Now, obviously we don't set out to go do that, but the inevitable outcome of trying new things,

00:03:27.220 putting yourself out there, getting into new relationships, taking investment risks,

00:03:32.120 approaching life from a different perspective, starting a new business,

00:03:35.500 the inevitable outcome for some of that is that it's not going to work. It's not the end of the

00:03:39.880 world. Everything can be recovered from and you will recover as long as you're able to remember the

00:03:47.960 words of this quote, an excerpt, Man in the Arena, and some other things I'm going to share with you

00:03:51.900 today. Let me go ahead and read it. I wish I had it memorized. I don't. So I'm going to go ahead and read

00:03:55.700 it for you. It's not the critic who counts, not the man who points how the strong man stumbles or

00:04:01.700 where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in

00:04:07.220 the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes

00:04:14.940 up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming, but who does

00:04:21.960 actually strive to do the deeds, who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a

00:04:29.120 worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he

00:04:36.660 fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid

00:04:44.180 souls, who neither know victory nor defeat. If that doesn't give you a little chill up your spine, I

00:04:51.180 don't know what is. And I think that perfectly encapsulates what I want to talk with you about

00:04:55.500 today. And of course, the objective when it comes to being a man is to protect, provide, and preside,

00:05:01.200 all of which take an element of daring and enthusiasm and the risk of failure. But today, I want to talk

00:05:08.220 with you about a couple of things that I think you can do to help you be more adequately prepared for the

00:05:12.880 battles of life that all of us will inevitably face, and how we can hold our heads up high when we

00:05:20.160 succeed. And even when we fail, we can still keep our shoulders back and walk proudly and upright in

00:05:26.500 our heads up, knowing that if we do the right things, as we have done before, hopefully, that life will get

00:05:33.140 better, your relationships will mend, your finances will be brought in alignment, that business will

00:05:39.640 eventually work out, you'll have the relationships with the kids that you want, and life will be

00:05:45.800 fulfilling for you. Let's break this down. Number one, and this is one of the hardest things I think

00:05:50.620 to do is, and this ties right in line with that excerpt, Man in the Arena. First is you have to stop

00:05:56.560 seeking approval from other people. Now, that's, I don't want that to be conflated with not going out

00:06:04.060 to look for credible, accurate feedback and insight, because you don't know what you don't know.

00:06:12.620 I was talking with a group of men inside of our brotherhood today, and we were talking about

00:06:17.040 exploring the fringes of our ideas, new hobbies, activities, interests, potential career pursuits,

00:06:26.700 romantic relationship interests, but that the answer to what we want out of life is found in a

00:06:33.660 different place than we're accustomed to looking. If the answer for what ails you was in the places

00:06:41.300 you're currently looking, you'd already have the answer. If you spent your entire life with that

00:06:47.460 relationship, you spent your entire life pursuing that career, you've spent your entire life reading

00:06:51.780 those books, or listening to that podcast, or listening to this music, or surrounding yourself

00:06:56.120 with those friends, or listening to that gospel, you've spent your entire life building and

00:07:02.320 constructing a worldview that has served you to varying degrees in exactly where you are right

00:07:08.900 now. If you want something different and something new out of life, then you have to explore the

00:07:14.580 fringes. You have to start thinking about what hobbies have I always been interested but never done?

00:07:21.460 What person have I wanted to have a relationship with but never have pursued?

00:07:24.640 What business have I always wanted to start but was too afraid to do it?

00:07:29.740 What conversation or questions have I had of other people but been too timid to ask?

00:07:34.540 That's where the answers to your problems lie.

00:07:38.180 They wouldn't be problems if you didn't know the answers, and you don't know the answers because

00:07:41.340 you're not looking in the right place. Now, the reason I bring this up is because when we start

00:07:45.580 to explore the fringes of our ideas and minds, it requires a level of risk-taking.

00:07:49.920 You're not going to be excellent. You're not going to be the best. And the guys with the largest egos

00:07:55.740 are sometimes the ones who damage themselves the most because they're unwilling to look foolish and

00:08:00.720 silly in pursuit of something that could actually be very meaningful in their life.

00:08:07.480 The reality of this experience is that you're going to be judged.

00:08:12.520 Your kids are going to judge you. Your wife or your romantic interest is going to judge you.

00:08:21.280 Your clients are going to judge you. Potential employers are going to judge you.

00:08:25.280 And I hear from so many men that say, oh, well, you know, it shouldn't be that way.

00:08:28.840 I agree. I wish that you could walk around with a sign on your chest that says,

00:08:34.460 here's what I've done and here's what I'm capable of doing and believe or trust in me

00:08:38.300 because here's what I've produced. But that's not reality. And if we want to be successful in

00:08:43.880 life, then we have to operate in reality, objective reality. And reality says that people

00:08:49.280 are going to judge you all the time. And in many cases, it's going to be harsh. It's going to be

00:08:54.660 unwarranted and it's going to be unfair. But that's part of the deal. And unless you can learn to get

00:09:01.880 over that, you're never going to do anything great and meaningful. And you might as well just resign

00:09:06.360 in life to a mediocre marriage, a decent career, a little bit of prosperity financially, a couple

00:09:15.000 of good relationships, maybe a few buddies and maybe, you know, 10 days of vacation a year.

00:09:20.060 And if you're satisfied with that, all the power to you. But I don't think you are because I don't

00:09:26.180 think you'd be listening to this podcast if that were the case. So when it comes to

00:09:30.100 not seeking approval of other people, most people don't talk about how to do that.

00:09:36.120 I've got four very easy steps. Not, I should say simple, not easy. They're not always easy,

00:09:40.900 but they are simple. And it's, it's what I call the confidence continuum.

00:09:46.620 Confidence continuum. The first step is courage. Everybody wants to have confidence. When I have

00:09:52.940 confidence in myself, I'm not looking around wondering who's applauding me or acknowledging

00:09:57.440 me or telling me good boy or doing a good job because it's irrelevant. I'm able to validate

00:10:02.680 myself. And I know through the work that I'm doing that I'm good and I don't need somebody else to tell

00:10:08.680 me. But in order to get to that point, you have to exhibit some level of courage. And the beauty of

00:10:14.340 this process is that you can just decide to be courageous. I can't decide to be confident today.

00:10:20.980 I can't, I can decide to be arrogant or prideful or egotistical or exude some sense of false bravado,

00:10:30.100 but that's not genuine confidence. In fact, those people who are prideful and egotistical like that

00:10:35.480 are typically the least confident. They're the loud, obnoxious, least confident people

00:10:40.520 that you'll ever run across. So I can't decide to be confident, but what I can decide is to be

00:10:45.980 courageous. I can decide to ask that woman on a date, even though I might get rejected.

00:10:51.460 I can decide to buy the domain name and register a business with, with the state just because I want

00:10:57.600 to. I can ask for the sale, even though I know they might say no, and I might not get paid or add

00:11:02.980 value to their lives. I can go to jujitsu. I can go on that hunt. I can go to the store and pick up

00:11:10.400 the paint kit because I've always wanted to learn how to paint, become a masterful painter and a

00:11:15.500 professional painter or cook a meal for my family for this first time. I've never done it before

00:11:20.700 and I'll probably burn it and it'll be bland and gross, but I'm going to do it anyways because

00:11:24.360 this is important to me. And all that requires is courage, enough courage to take the very first

00:11:31.080 step. And what happens is if you exhibit enough courage over consistent and sustained periods of

00:11:36.280 time, you start to develop the second C. The second C is competence. If I continue to cook for my

00:11:44.140 family, even though I might be really horrible at it initially, I will eventually get better.

00:11:50.740 And as I get better and I feel better about my skills and I start to experiment the fringes of

00:11:56.120 taste and flavors and spices and cooking methods, et cetera, I develop a level of competency.

00:12:03.660 When a man starts to develop competency, excuse me, competency because of the confidence that he's

00:12:09.760 exhibit over consistent amounts of time, then and only then is he awarded the inevitable result,

00:12:15.680 which is confidence. And confidence can still be humble. It can still be a sense of wonder and

00:12:23.340 curiosity and wanting to improve, but it means that I feel good about my performance. And I know if my

00:12:28.520 performance is not as good as I would like it to be, I'm confident based on my skills and the time

00:12:36.140 I've invested that I can get better at this thing. Confidence doesn't mean you've reached the pinnacle

00:12:40.880 of whatever it is you're pursuing. It just means you're confident enough to know that even though

00:12:47.080 you're not as good as you want to be, you have what it takes to get there, to go back to John Eldridge's

00:12:51.540 question. And I said, this is a continuum. What happens when you're confident is that you're able to

00:12:57.740 exhibit greater levels and degrees of courageousness, which develops more competency, which builds

00:13:03.800 confidence and so on and so forth. So if you're finding yourself wanting to seek the approval of

00:13:10.760 others, I would have you ask yourself, where are you out of integrity in your life? Where have you

00:13:16.600 been wanting to do something, but haven't? Where are you communicating to some people, even non-verbally

00:13:22.620 that you're good at something, but you know, deep down inside, you're not because those types of

00:13:28.500 people are looking for approval because they can't build it and foster it from within. And once you

00:13:35.280 find where you're out of integrity, write it down if you have to. Once you start finding where you're

00:13:39.980 out of integrity, maybe it's working out, maybe it's eating clean, maybe it's some vices that you're

00:13:44.380 engaged in, maybe it's conversations you know need to take place but haven't. Write as many of those

00:13:50.040 things down and then start acting on them. And I promise you, you're going to stop seeking approval

00:13:55.680 as much and learn how to validate yourself. Number two is do what you know how to do.

00:14:04.360 You know, so many men are just sitting back and they're waiting for conditions to be perfect and

00:14:08.780 right. And they're, they're hoping that all the, all the obstacles are out of the way. The analogy I

00:14:17.000 heard one time is if you're planning a vacation, let's say from Southern Utah, which is where I live

00:14:20.880 to Southern California, depending on where you go, it's about seven hours. If I waited to leave until

00:14:27.440 I knew every light was going to be green on my way from Southern Utah to Southern California,

00:14:32.860 I would never leave. And we laugh at that about that because it is a silly example, but are you doing

00:14:39.500 that? Are you waiting until conditions are perfect? And I'll tell you how, you know, when you say,

00:14:47.280 hey, things are really busy right now, I can't do that. Even though it's something you want to do.

00:14:51.140 Oh, you know, next year, next year, that'll be better next year. You know what? It won't be

00:14:54.840 better next year. It'll be the same or maybe even worse. You'll be just as busy. You'll be just as

00:15:00.320 distracted. You'll be just as pressed for time and money as you are this year, unless you finally

00:15:05.800 decide, you know what? It's never going to be right. And I'm going to do something different.

00:15:10.860 If you want next year to be different than what it is right now, then you have to say yes to some

00:15:15.820 things that you're not currently doing. And it does require sacrifice. And there is an element

00:15:22.100 of risk. And so what? That's the cost of being better tomorrow than you are today.

00:15:30.800 There's another quote that I really like from Theodore Roosevelt as well. I think it's actually

00:15:36.000 attributed to him. I'm not sure if it's him. You guys can do the fact check on that. The quote is,

00:15:40.060 do what you can with what you've got where you are. Do what you can with what you've got where

00:15:46.680 you are. Stop looking for things to be perfect. Stop waiting for all the signs to be right.

00:15:55.900 Just start. I'm not telling you that you need to perform brain surgery tomorrow. I'm telling you to

00:16:03.180 buy a domain name for your up and coming business you've always wanted to start. It's going to cost you

00:16:07.620 50 bucks. I'm not telling you that you have to become the next Mr. Olympia because you're 100

00:16:14.380 pounds overweight. I'm just telling you, go down to the gym today, talk with whoever you need to talk

00:16:20.200 with, the sales department, and buy yourself a $30 a month membership. And then tomorrow, again,

00:16:26.160 you don't need to have all the form down. You don't need to know all the program. You just need to know

00:16:30.200 what you're going to do tomorrow. Maybe there's a relationship that you need to make right now.

00:16:35.640 Stop jumping out ahead. Stop worrying about the 10, 20, 30, 40, 100, 1,000, an infant number of steps

00:16:42.300 down the road. Start worrying about what is your next best step. Do what you can with what you've got

00:16:47.800 where you are. You're not as good as you can be right now. It's not meant to be a slight or to put you

00:16:54.560 down. I'm not as good as I want to be right now. But we improve step by step, day by day.

00:17:00.760 One foot in front of the other. What is the next best step? Do that. And I also wrote here that

00:17:08.140 action is the antidote to anxiety and frustration. How many of us are just frustrated and anxious and

00:17:15.900 gosh, we just, we want to lose that weight or we want to build that relationship or we want to start

00:17:20.560 that business or we want to get out of debt or we want to have a better conversation with our kids or

00:17:25.220 we want to have that conversation with our boss or we want to get the promotion or the raise.

00:17:30.100 And we're so anxious about it. Again, because we're looking too far down the road, but also because

00:17:35.720 instead of spending more time working on achieving it, we spend more time being anxious about the

00:17:42.460 things we know we ought to be doing. If I sit here all day, I've got a list. This is my battle planner.

00:17:48.060 I've got a list. If I just sit here and I stare at it and you know, even this, if last night I just

00:17:54.720 looked at this list thinking, okay, what do I need to do tomorrow? And I just sat here or even thought

00:18:00.640 about it. All that does is create anxiety. That's why I don't, after I close out my day, I don't even

00:18:06.840 look at the list until the next morning because I don't want to create anxiety. But the best way to get

00:18:11.580 over that anxiousness and the frustration of not being where you want to be is by doing the work you need

00:18:16.880 to do. There's a great book I'm reading right now suggested by a good friend, Kip Sorensen. He does

00:18:22.500 the Wednesday podcast with me. It's called The Gap and the Gain. And we can look at the gap. The gap

00:18:29.680 is what we need to achieve, but we also ought to look at the gain. What have you done? And be happy

00:18:34.800 that you did something. You know, if you're a hundred pounds overweight, to go back to that previous

00:18:38.680 example, and today you went in, you bought a membership, pat yourself on the back. I know in the

00:18:44.920 current landscape of self-help, there's a lot of guys who might say, that's not a big deal. You got

00:18:50.200 to go bigger. Like, yeah, you will. You can. But right now, pat yourself on the back. If you got up

00:18:56.940 45 minutes or an hour earlier this morning to actually go to the gym that you just bought the

00:19:01.180 membership to, give yourself a pat on the back. I'm not saying throw yourself a congratulatory party

00:19:07.000 every time you do something, but honor it, acknowledge it, recognize it, and build on it.

00:19:13.900 Again, action is the antidote to anxiety and frustration. Third, as you're doing these things,

00:19:19.580 critique yourself. Not to beat yourself up, not to say you're a loser, not even to identify

00:19:24.500 with your performance, good or bad. My oldest son had a lacrosse game earlier this week and they won,

00:19:31.880 but it didn't go well. And he was very frustrated with his own personal performance. He didn't put

00:19:37.860 it on the team to his credit. He put that on his shoulders. And truthfully speaking, he was right.

00:19:45.280 He didn't have a great game. And I talked to him after the game and he was very frustrated.

00:19:51.220 He was a little, a little bit of emotional because he, he just puts so much weight on himself. He's a lot

00:19:56.920 like me that way. And I told him it's okay to not have a great day. It's okay not to perform the best

00:20:07.460 that happens. It's not okay to wrap up your identity in it. It's not okay. Even if you do it

00:20:15.940 subconsciously or quiet to call yourself a loser or a piece of crap or any other name that you might call

00:20:23.740 yourself, when you temporarily fail, that's not okay to do that. You might have failed, but you're

00:20:30.180 not a failure. You might have lost, but you're not a loser. Let's not wrap up our identity. And by the

00:20:39.240 way, I don't even think it's a good idea to wrap up your identity in being a winner because sometimes

00:20:46.360 winning is beyond our control. You know, I'm talking about obviously competitive sports in this example,

00:20:51.200 but even in the business climate, I mean, think about what happened to the economy over the past

00:20:55.800 week. I know we've had a slight rebound based on some changes, but if you're wrapping up your

00:21:03.060 identity and, and building wealth and you think, well, you know, I'm, I'm amazing because I've built

00:21:07.940 wealth. Well, how much wealth was decimated over the past week based on circumstances entirely outside

00:21:15.500 of your control. But if you tie up your identity in the end result, man, you're going to feel like

00:21:22.340 a loser a lot because there's things that'll happen that you have no control over. Relationships are

00:21:27.020 that way. Employment agreements are that way. Politics are that way. Your economic status. Sure.

00:21:34.580 You can influence these things. And we've spent 10 years talking about how to be more influential in

00:21:39.160 those, in those realms. But a lot of it's just outside of your control. And as I told my son this

00:21:45.880 the other night, I said, just figure out what you did wrong and fix it. That's it. Fix it. Just get

00:21:55.320 better. You need to take more ground balls. Work on that. You need to work on your checks. Work on that. 0.87

00:21:59.200 You need to hit the wall with lacrosse. Hit the wall. You need to communicate better. Work on

00:22:03.000 communication. Read a book on it. Study. Do it. Ask the coach. Hey coach, here's what I think I did wrong.

00:22:09.160 What can I do better? And he'll give you pointers. Find other people. Find mentors. Watch YouTube

00:22:16.000 videos. Don't substitute doing work with the research side of it. But research it. Figure it out.

00:22:25.000 Critique yourself. Ask other people who are credible to critique you and improve. So that's where,

00:22:31.600 you know, we talk about the man in the arena and other people poking and mocking and ridiculing and

00:22:36.260 demeaning other people as they're trying to achieve. Drown that out and instead surround

00:22:41.700 yourself with people who believe in you. And by the way, the people who believe in you,

00:22:47.840 you should want their critique. You should want their honest evaluation of your performance,

00:22:54.180 especially if it's, I would say exclusively, if it's credible information.

00:22:58.740 But the more you do that, the better you're going to get. And then the fourth element here

00:23:07.140 is to take action. Just take more action. Do more. Work smarter. Stay up later. Get up earlier.

00:23:17.620 Enlist other people. Outsource. Delegate. Stay focused. Eliminate distractions. Just work.

00:23:25.700 Now, this is hard because a lot of things we can't do all the time. Like I, if I wanted to get in

00:23:30.980 shape, I can't be at the gym 24-7. I can be there for like an hour to an hour and a half per day.

00:23:37.120 Then it's just law of diminishing returns at that point. But what can I do during the day?

00:23:41.560 Well, I can hydrate. I can drink the proper amount of fluids. I can eat correctly. I can get sleep and

00:23:49.200 recovery. I can make sure I plan and execute my day and stay focused on my task at hand in order to

00:23:54.980 reduce cortisol levels, which will help with our hormonal levels, which will help us perform better

00:23:59.800 in the gym the next day. There's a thousand things I could do outside of the gym that will still work

00:24:04.660 towards that thing. And you need to figure out what those are. You know, you can't call clients all day

00:24:10.320 long. At some point, you actually have to do work to service the clients that you have. But what can

00:24:15.100 you do? Well, I can ask for referrals. I can serve this client really well. So they want to introduce me to

00:24:20.360 other people. I can look for other opportunities. If I'm out and about, I can network and shake hands

00:24:25.020 and get cards and get contacts and make connections. Don't just look at the thing as the only thing you

00:24:31.720 should be doing. Think about how you can build upon that when you're not doing the actual thing.

00:24:36.100 That's how we leverage our time, efforts, energies, and resources. And by the way, when you improve in one

00:24:43.440 aspect of your life, for example, your health, then your relationship will improve. Because now

00:24:49.820 you're going to look better. You're going to feel better. Your stress levels are down. Your heart

00:24:53.880 rate is down. You're not as agitated. You feel good about who you are. You're performing well. Your

00:24:59.080 energy levels are high. You're sleeping right. You're fueling and hydrating correctly. How is that not going

00:25:04.460 to improve your relationship? How's that not going to build intimacy within the walls of your home

00:25:11.220 in your romantic intimacy and then just connections with other people that you love?

00:25:16.480 How is that not going to help you serve your clients better? And the converse is true as well.

00:25:21.940 If you get to work and you've got your to-do list and you crank everything out today and you're

00:25:25.960 hyper-efficient and hyper-focused and you're not distracted and you're making calls and you're

00:25:30.420 connecting and you're doing your work and you're enlisting other people and you're delegating,

00:25:34.540 at the end of the day, when you punch out, how is that not going to help you be more engaged at home?

00:25:40.200 You're not worrying about what you have to do at work. You're not worrying about the tasks or the

00:25:43.560 projects or the assignments. You're not so stressed about money because you're making plenty of it

00:25:47.440 because you're doing a good job. Of course, that's going to help your relationship be better.

00:25:54.060 Do the right things in all of these realms and everything else improves.

00:25:59.300 Guys, you are the man in the arena. Whether you realize it or not, you don't get to absolve yourself

00:26:05.340 from it. You're in it. And you can perform poorly. And if we're going to take that analogy to the nth

00:26:13.600 degree, you can cower in the corner and get yourself slaughtered by another gladiator or,

00:26:19.420 and that gladiator sometimes is just life, just bad stuff that happens. Or you can say,

00:26:24.960 you know what? No, I'm not going to be the guy that cowers, that plays small, that doesn't live to my

00:26:30.800 potential, that isn't worth having around, that doesn't add value to the other people in the arena,

00:26:37.320 in my arena of life. I'm going to go out there. I'm going to exert myself. I'm going to learn new

00:26:42.080 things. I'm going to help other people. I'm going to build confidence. I'm going to take risk and be

00:26:47.260 courageous. I'm going to take action. You know, that courage, confidence, confidence continuum.

00:26:52.680 I'm going to do it all. And I'm going to learn to get over what other people say because it's going

00:26:57.380 to be less relevant to me because of all the good work that I'm doing and all the good I'm doing in

00:27:02.580 the lives of the people that I care about. Guys, if you want another resource on this, I'd encourage

00:27:06.440 you to check out our free resource. It's called the Battle Ready Program. And we talk a lot about the

00:27:11.820 specific actions that you can take when you're in the arena, in realms of life, money, wealth,

00:27:17.300 relationships, um, becoming a man of value, adding value to your community and to your business

00:27:23.420 finances, all of it. Uh, it's a free resource. It's 17 emails that you'll get over a course of 30

00:27:29.200 days. And at the end of 30 days, you'll have a program called the battle plan where you can

00:27:35.020 actually now just implement that on a daily basis and be very consistent and produce very effective

00:27:41.740 and replicatable results. Go to order of man.com slash battle ready. That's order of man.com slash

00:27:48.440 battle ready. Remember guys, you are the man in the arena. It's you out there. You can enlist other

00:27:53.340 people, but you are responsible for you and yours. Make sure you do it right. Guys, we'll be back next

00:27:58.540 week. Until then, go out there, take action and become the man you are meant to be.

00:28:06.840 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

00:28:11.500 and be more of the man you were meant to be. We invite you to join the order at order of man.com.

Order of Man - April 11, 2025

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