Order of Man - Manipulative Media, The Power of the Human Spirit, and Affording Yourself Some Grace ｜ ASK ME ANYTHING

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:06.000 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.

00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.

00:00:19.740 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:00:24.920 Kip, what's up, brother? So great to see you. It sounds like you've got...

00:00:27.780 Do you have the whole week off? Are you going to take the whole week off?

00:00:30.580 I'm going to take the whole week off. If you count me going to another house and working on it as they can off.

00:00:35.920 But yes, I am not doing my day job.

00:00:38.340 I'll take it off from work, right? From paid work. You're still going to work. It's just not paid anymore.

00:00:43.160 Free labor until Thursday.

00:00:44.840 You're paying to work.

00:00:47.140 Totally.

00:00:47.720 Oh, man. Yeah. I've never built a house, but I can imagine the physical and mental anguish that comes with that has got to be exhausting and overwhelming.

00:00:57.780 Well, and you start putting weight on things. It sounds like a great idea to have... Let me think through this really quick one, too.

00:01:07.700 It sounds like a great idea to have six bathrooms in a house until...

00:01:11.760 Is that how many are in the place?

00:01:13.080 Yes. Until you have six bathrooms. 0.95

00:01:14.900 And then you're like, oh my gosh, buying six toilets.

00:01:18.320 And I got vanities to do this weekend. I mean, it's... I don't know.

00:01:23.740 You're like, we don't need six toilets. One toilet makes a lot of sense, right? Like no one's shitting all at the same time. I don't know what the big deal is.

00:01:32.180 Well, they will now because they can.

00:01:36.860 Totally.

00:01:37.560 I was thinking about that over the weekend because I actually rent a place right now.

00:01:42.240 I own a couple of different places.

00:01:44.060 And when I moved back to Utah, I was thinking about moving into one of those homes.

00:01:47.960 But the rent's so good. I've got tenants that have been there forever. They're great tenants.

00:01:52.520 I'm like, why would I cut off that income stream? Somebody else pay my mortgage off.

00:01:55.720 And I found a really nice place to rent. And utilities are included. Internet's included.

00:02:02.580 Like it's... The yard maintenance is included.

00:02:06.340 If something goes out, like the heater a couple of months ago went out.

00:02:09.840 I called the guy up. I'm like, hey, the heater's out.

00:02:11.600 He's like, cool. I'll send somebody over. Somebody else came over.

00:02:14.620 I didn't have to deal with any of that.

00:02:16.060 And my oldest son this weekend was asking. He said, dad, are you still looking for places?

00:02:21.000 I'm like, no, I'm not. He's like, why?

00:02:24.600 And I said, it's nice to own your own home, but it just comes with extra stuff.

00:02:28.040 And I'm just not interested.

00:02:29.580 And then you've got my daughter who's like, dad, let's get a dog and let's do this and do that.

00:02:36.800 I'm like, I don't really want to do any of that.

00:02:39.480 I'm in the opposite direction, Kip, as you.

00:02:41.800 And I think maybe you're coming to the same realization here.

00:02:44.580 I want less. I want less stuff. I want less junk.

00:02:47.960 I want smaller houses. I want fewer cars.

00:02:50.100 I just want less so I can focus really heavy on the things that actually are important to me.

00:02:54.960 Not cleaning, you know, six bathrooms of a house that'll be at 10% of my time.

00:02:59.900 It sounds like a complete old man thing to say, right? 0.98

00:03:05.060 Like, look at you.

00:03:06.200 Look what you just described.

00:03:08.420 You're pretty much going into retirement.

00:03:11.620 Absolutely. I'm proud of it.

00:03:13.740 But you know what? Don't for a second think, Kip, that I'm not going to come up and partake of your six bathrooms.

00:03:18.300 Oh, I'm sure.

00:03:19.320 I'll find yours. I'll find your bathroom and leave a little surprise, a little present in there for you.

00:03:24.640 Yeah. Let's clarify simplicity on what you deal with, complexity and taking advantage of others.

00:03:30.760 Yeah.

00:03:31.800 It's like owning a boat. You don't want to own a boat. You want friends who own boats.

00:03:36.400 Yeah. Yeah.

00:03:37.540 Well played, sir.

00:03:38.100 Do you have a boat, Kip?

00:03:38.760 I do. I do.

00:03:41.300 Okay.

00:03:42.040 Yeah.

00:03:42.380 You're coming up for sure.

00:03:45.140 Yeah.

00:03:46.020 You know, I couldn't get you to come up to Delta for a while, but now you're like, wait, six bathrooms, boat?

00:03:51.320 Oh, yeah.

00:03:52.360 Dude.

00:03:53.060 Pals.

00:03:53.580 I'm in.

00:03:55.140 Do the toilet seats, are they heated?

00:03:56.980 That's the question.

00:03:57.940 If they are, you know, I'm a little bougie when it comes to that.

00:04:00.400 Yeah. They're not heated, but they are elevated costs. So they're, they sit higher. So they're the, you know, they're a little bit more expensive. So you don't have to bend over as far. Yeah.

00:04:13.360 Well, I don't know. Squatty potty or anything. I mean, yeah, I'll throw a squatty potty in there for you.

00:04:19.800 There you go. All right. This conversation went downhill fast.

00:04:24.240 First world problems, by the way, every guy's listening is like, dude, I'm dealing with some real crap.

00:04:28.720 And these guys are complaining about, you know, second homes and everything. So, hey, we get it. We've been there too.

00:04:34.780 I'm not, I'm not complaining. I'm really happy you have a second home. I love it.

00:04:39.020 Yeah.

00:04:40.200 All right, man. Well, well, actually, you know, that's a good point. Look, we don't need to compare woes, but also, you know, take, take your situation. You've got this home you're building. You're in the financial position to do it.

00:04:51.420 And I think a lot of men will naturally just discount it like, oh, wouldn't it be nice? Or man, I wish I could do that. Well, you can. And to your credit, Kip, you've built a life over decades of being in the position where you can have six bathrooms in a place.

00:05:09.700 And you can take some time off of work to go build a place. And like, you've, you've built that. So.

00:05:17.440 The price was paid.

00:05:18.500 We, right. And it will continue to be paid.

00:05:21.880 So don't, don't, I just, I get really frustrated sometimes when I hear guys who complain about other people being successful because what it ends up doing is it discounts their ability to be successful, right?

00:05:37.400 Because, oh, if it was just luck or I wish I could have it or, oh, this guy's an idiot. He just took advantage of people. These are all things you hear regularly.

00:05:43.420 Then the ball's out of your court and there's nothing you can do about it in your own life.

00:05:48.700 So the lesson here is not, oh, Kip's an asshole because he's got another home and he's complaining about six bathrooms.

00:05:54.240 The lesson is what in the world is Kip doing that he's got a place where he can have these bathrooms and have the lake and have the boat and go on the vacation for the week.

00:06:05.900 That's what we should be focused on in the message. So I, I think it's important we throw that out there.

00:06:10.600 Sure. Yeah, I agreed. That way I don't get harassed by a bunch of people. So thanks for no, no, keep harassing them. No, still harass them. Yeah, no, keep doing that.

00:06:19.680 But just in your own life, think about how it can apply positively.

00:06:23.940 Check. All right. Headlines. Let's get to headlines. I think you're leading us off today.

00:06:28.860 I'm leading us off. So I heard something over last week, got me all riled up.

00:06:35.460 And then this morning, as I was going over the details of it, because I don't want to just have a strong opinion off of a headline.

00:06:44.520 I read the details and what comes to find out that the headline that got me so riled up is not 100% completely accurate.

00:06:53.740 And thus, that's kind of my takeaway that like, man, got to be slow, got to be slow to jump to conclusions.

00:07:02.040 There's always a little bit more detail of the things. And we got to think critically.

00:07:08.620 The headline, just so so everyone can relate to it, was really around Hawaii. Right.

00:07:14.840 So Hawaii court says the spirit of aloha supersedes the Constitution and the Second Amendment.

00:07:20.220 Now, at first glance, when you hear that, what do you assume?

00:07:26.080 Yeah, I mean, it's you don't nobody likes that. A red blooded American doesn't doesn't like that for sure. 1.00

00:07:32.560 Yeah, that is. Oh, they got rid of the Second Amendment in Hawaii. 0.94

00:07:36.420 That's what you would assume that absolutely Second Amendment is demolished in Hawaii. 1.00

00:07:41.120 And I was like, no way. As I jump into it, they're really talking about state laws around, you know, constitutional carry versus licenses and carrying in public and and kind of some of the details that a lot of states are already like have differences around already.

00:07:58.120 Now, we could talk about the pros and cons of constitutional carry or whether states or should not.

00:08:06.940 But regardless, I think my key takeaway was like, man, a little bit slow to anger.

00:08:12.100 Look at the details, look at the details, critically think it's not as click baitish or black and white as Fox or CNN or any other news outlet would want media to believe and get me all pissed off and ready to share and, you know, spit anger.

00:08:30.720 And that was kind of my takeaway is like, man, a little bit, a little bit slower to play some judgment, do some critical thinking.

00:08:37.060 Yeah, that's so powerful. I can't tell you how many times I've put my foot in my mouth because I've made a whole post on Instagram about some title.

00:08:47.140 And then the guy's like, did you read it? I'm like, maybe I should do that.

00:08:49.640 And I go read it. I'm like, oh, yeah, that one back.

00:08:52.900 There was this there was this article or not even an article, just just a just a story, a new story.

00:09:02.740 Not too long ago, this transgender person who got in a fight and ended up going to the hospital and she died.

00:09:12.820 And that was the headline. Transgender girl or boy or whatever.

00:09:16.740 I don't really know all the details. Ends up dying after getting bullied in the bathroom at the school.

00:09:22.780 So that was what everybody ran with. And that's what people see.

00:09:25.340 Well, it comes to it comes to come to find out it was this transgender person started the fight, was actually suicidal and ended up dying, not because of the fight. 0.65

00:09:38.700 She was actually fine after the fight. She went to the hospital because she overdosed on pills and she died.

00:09:44.560 So it was manipulated to fit this narrative. And we don't need to necessarily talk about it right now, what the narrative is.

00:09:51.940 The point is, we're being lied to all the time, either through omission or downright lying and deceit.

00:09:59.440 So we got to be, to your point, very, very careful of adopting a headline and assuming that this is the entire story.

00:10:06.380 It's very rarely, is it?

00:10:08.140 Totally. When we lived in New York, I lived in the financial district of New York.

00:10:12.800 And I can't remember, it was a friend or a family member reached out and says, oh, I cannot believe about that whole synagogue thing. 0.83

00:10:20.040 And I'm not sure if you remember this, but it was this Muslim church opens the synagogue across the street from the 9-11 memorial, right?

00:10:29.660 And you're like, no way, right? And I remember thinking like, that's insane.

00:10:36.480 And so I went out of my way one day and thought, hey, where's this synagogue? I'm going to go look at it.

00:10:41.360 Let's go look. Yeah.

00:10:42.800 It's like four blocks away and it's a prayer room in a recreational-like community center.

00:10:52.800 It's crazy, man.

00:10:54.280 Right? And I was like, freaking news, marketing.

00:10:58.460 I know. Don't trust anything.

00:11:00.800 Don't trust anything.

00:11:01.860 People, like, we are being, to your point, we are being lied to so often and it's ridiculous.

00:11:09.840 And, man, it's so unacceptable.

00:11:12.960 It's half-truths.

00:11:14.280 It's spun truths.

00:11:16.300 And, I don't know.

00:11:18.240 It just gets me so frustrated that we buy into it, too, and that we're pawns of it.

00:11:23.740 So many people in society in general.

00:11:25.460 So, it's really unfortunate.

00:11:27.580 Oh, I mean, us, too, right?

00:11:28.980 You and I, too.

00:11:29.900 Yeah.

00:11:30.560 Yeah, it's tempting because it's lazy, right?

00:11:32.460 Because it requires me to look up a bunch of stuff and, you know, and so, and it fits my narrative, right?

00:11:37.880 I already have a strong opinion.

00:11:38.960 So, when I see some stupid state going against the Second Amendment, I want to just get riled up and say, oh, see, validation and not necessarily true or a little bit more complex than that.

00:11:52.320 Yeah.

00:11:53.220 Well, and I'm learning to, yeah, just like you said, just be a little bit more critical but also staying in my own lane.

00:12:01.100 Now, I normally wouldn't subscribe to that, so let me give you some context.

00:12:04.720 When I say stay in your lane, any lane can be yours.

00:12:07.140 That's the beauty of living in this country in the most free and prosperous time we ever have.

00:12:12.000 You can pick a lane, you can decide that lane's yours, and tomorrow you can pick a new lane and decide that one's yours.

00:12:17.120 What I'm saying about staying in your lane, and I'm not great at this but I am learning, is that unless you're going to actually do some research and dive into it, best probably just to keep your mouth shut.

00:12:27.580 Yeah.

00:12:27.700 That's what I mean about staying in your lane because I've done it so often where I'll blurt something based on some misinformation that I got from some news outlet or some podcast or whatever, and I did no research on it, and then I ended up sticking my foot in my mouth and creating more problems than good.

00:12:44.940 So, if you are going to do that, I would suggest that you spend a little time researching it.

00:12:50.760 If you're not, then maybe talk about something else.

00:12:54.640 Yeah.

00:12:54.980 You want to see a great example of this?

00:12:57.940 Jocko was on with Piers Morgan.

00:13:01.500 Watch that interview.

00:13:03.280 Piers Morgan asked him some key questions.

00:13:05.180 And I remember pausing going, how will Jocko answer this?

00:13:09.520 And he so eloquently responded with things like, I'm not close enough to it to have all the necessary details to have a strong opinion.

00:13:19.260 This is what I see.

00:13:20.320 Right.

00:13:20.900 Very well played on his part and very mature.

00:13:25.100 It's a great example of that.

00:13:28.280 Yeah.

00:13:28.680 Really great example of that.

00:13:30.120 Yeah.

00:13:30.380 What's your headline, man?

00:13:31.080 So, on that news, let me, or on that, well, I'm going to stick my foot in my mouth, I'm sure.

00:13:33.900 So, let's just go ahead and do that and get that out of the way.

00:13:36.620 Maybe I should have gone second.

00:13:39.500 Yeah.

00:13:41.540 I was listening to something the other day, and I pulled up, I've got a couple of resources here.

00:13:46.180 So, I'm actually looking at it right here in front of me.

00:13:48.060 But Scotland just updated hate crime.

00:13:51.040 There are some hate crime laws.

00:13:52.640 I believe that they already had these laws in place.

00:13:55.700 But the thing that really stood out to me was this new element of these hate crime.

00:14:02.680 They call it the Hate Crime and Public Order Act.

00:14:06.060 But it says here, quote, they're creating a new offense of, and I'm quoting here now,

00:14:13.120 threatening or abusive behavior which is intended to stir up hatred on the grounds of age, disability, religion,

00:14:18.960 sexual orientation, transgender identity, and variations of sex characteristics.

00:14:23.420 I think this is a huge issue.

00:14:26.740 I think once you start, and I will say this with a bit of a disclaimer, I don't know Scotland's and the UK's rules about freedom of speech and all of that.

00:14:36.400 So, we have to remember this is a different country than the US.

00:14:39.740 But it's also important to recognize what's happening throughout the world because I think this is trending,

00:14:45.200 and you're going to see more and more of this.

00:14:47.460 In fact, I have an example of things like this happening in the US.

00:14:52.300 So, look, if you're deliberately and intentionally stirring up violence towards another person, that's illegal here in the United States.

00:15:01.980 But if you have an opinion that isn't popular, or you hate a subgroup of people, or whatever it may be, I believe you should have the right to say it.

00:15:11.600 We need to be able to have these conversations.

00:15:14.400 And rather than litigating and creating laws that limit free speech, we ought to combat free speech with speech.

00:15:25.000 Where we actually talk about these ideas and talk about why those aren't good ideas.

00:15:29.520 But the minute you start manipulating, coercing, strong-arming people into what they can say and think is the minute we have a huge, huge problem.

00:15:40.280 So, I've got another example here.

00:15:42.340 And this one is from the US.

00:15:44.240 This is Governor Abbott in Texas.

00:15:46.160 This, to me, is crazy.

00:15:47.540 And there's going to be a lot of conservative people who probably don't agree with me on this.

00:15:51.680 But I'm going to quote here.

00:15:54.060 Let's see.

00:15:54.880 This is an executive order from Governor Abbott regarding all higher education institutions in Texas review their free speech policies to establish appropriate punishments for anti-Semitic rhetoric on college and university campuses.

00:16:13.340 That is out of line.

00:16:15.500 Now, look, I don't agree with anti-Semitic thoughts and rhetoric.

00:16:18.920 I don't think it's healthy.

00:16:20.640 I don't think it's conducive.

00:16:21.620 I don't even think it's a good thing at all, of course.

00:16:24.740 But again, you have a governor who's coming in and telling people they can't think or speak freely.

00:16:32.160 I think they should be able to.

00:16:33.800 I don't agree with what they're saying, this anti-Semitic rhetoric.

00:16:37.280 But unless they're calling for violence or action against a certain group of people, then I believe we have every right to say what we want to say.

00:16:45.140 And again, the minute and look, I'm only sharing that I'm part of the reason I'm sharing this is because it's on both sides of the aisle.

00:16:53.320 It's not just conservatism.

00:16:55.680 It's not just liberalism.

00:16:56.880 It's on both sides.

00:16:58.080 Yeah.

00:16:58.360 And in fact, in this case, this is a more of a conservative principle.

00:17:01.780 But the fact that he's taking this executive order and saying that all of these policies need to be reviewed and establish appropriate punishments for anti-Semitic rhetoric.

00:17:13.120 Let me say that another way.

00:17:14.760 Punish people for words they don't like or agree with.

00:17:21.160 That is a dangerous, dangerous precedent and goes exactly against the founding principles of this country.

00:17:27.480 So we need to fight against this.

00:17:30.340 And it doesn't really matter the issue.

00:17:33.100 Look, I don't agree with white supremacism.

00:17:35.100 I don't agree with anti-Semitic rhetoric.

00:17:37.120 I don't agree with a lot of these things.

00:17:39.380 Racism against black people.

00:17:41.220 But the principle is those individuals have a right through our constitution to say that.

00:17:46.660 And then we should combat that with speech, not laws.

00:17:50.840 Because I know there's a, what do they call it, a fallacy, a logical fallacy of slippery slope.

00:17:58.860 This is not a slippery slope.

00:18:00.180 We know where this goes because we see it.

00:18:02.360 So it's dangerous.

00:18:03.520 We need to be aware of it.

00:18:04.400 And that was my headline today.

00:18:06.680 I love it.

00:18:08.000 I can't help but see the correlation with social media, censoring information.

00:18:12.380 And it's funny when you think about social media, censoring information, we were young enough to be, we're the generation that grew up without the internet.

00:18:24.460 And then we got it, right?

00:18:26.660 So we're kind of this unique generation that the younger kids won't ever, they don't know when it started.

00:18:32.480 And we kind of lived on the cusp of that transition.

00:18:36.660 But it's funny how often I remember this when I was younger, that stupidity and, and they wouldn't use the word stupidity, but like the thing that needed to be fixed in the world is educating people, making information available.

00:18:53.720 And, and, and, and through that process, we had, you know, help the poor and everything is about access to information.

00:19:00.480 Well, guess what?

00:19:01.660 Everyone has information now.

00:19:04.260 And did that help?

00:19:06.660 And it's, and it's funny.

00:19:08.300 And now that there's this trend of, well, we need to remove the information.

00:19:11.680 Now, if they happen to see something, they can't think for themselves.

00:19:15.460 So we, we gotta, we gotta vet things because they're too stupid.

00:19:19.680 And if they see that information, you know, we gotta control them.

00:19:24.100 The spirit of reducing and controlling information is in the spirit of not believing in humans.

00:19:31.500 It is in the spirit of thinking they are less than, and whoever's in control is greater than and knows better than.

00:19:40.220 That is a form of disempowerment.

00:19:45.240 Unacceptable.

00:19:45.680 We need to believe in the human condition.

00:19:48.480 We need to believe in humans that they're fully capable because it's through that process that they'll learn and grow.

00:19:54.300 You don't control people.

00:19:57.720 Very, very dangerous precedents to get started.

00:20:00.320 Yeah, and look, to your point, I only believe there's, there's really only two types of people in this world.

00:20:06.860 And it's those who believe in the power of individuals and humans and those who don't.

00:20:11.160 Yeah.

00:20:11.540 And most of our politicians are in the latter.

00:20:14.100 Yeah.

00:20:14.340 Both sides of the aisle, by the way.

00:20:15.720 Yeah.

00:20:15.960 I need to rescue them because they can't do it for themselves.

00:20:18.720 They don't believe in the power of the human spirit.

00:20:21.640 No, they don't.

00:20:22.540 They don't believe in you as an individual and they think they know better than you.

00:20:25.540 And that's both sides of the aisle.

00:20:27.220 And, you know, unfortunately, there are some situations where people don't know any better and they don't have the education.

00:20:32.860 They don't have the resources.

00:20:33.880 That's real.

00:20:35.400 We need to get those people the information, education, and resources.

00:20:38.320 But for the most part, and 100% of the part, I think, in this country. 0.85

00:20:44.140 Now, look, depending on your immutable characteristics, depending on your background and history and parents and all these sorts of things, that may be harder for some people than others.

00:20:54.740 But the opportunities are there.

00:20:56.600 And the human spirit is pretty incredible when it's unleashed, not restrained.

00:21:01.140 Totally.

00:21:02.360 All right.

00:21:03.060 Let's go to questions.

00:21:04.220 Yeah.

00:21:04.420 So we have a handful of questions from Instagram.

00:21:06.620 I kind of wanted to cover those.

00:21:08.360 And then we'll jump over to the foundry from the Iron Council.

00:21:12.080 So first question, Garrett MCD.

00:21:15.140 And I love this.

00:21:16.280 And, of course, you could see why I love this question because there's some meat in this.

00:21:19.880 In a relationship, dating for about a year, with many small issues that never seem to get resolved regardless of effort and conversation.

00:21:30.600 When is it fair to decide enough is enough?

00:21:34.760 You know what I would suggest?

00:21:35.860 I'd suggest you get married as soon as possible and start having babies together. 1.00

00:21:39.080 Then she'll change. 0.96

00:21:40.480 Then she'll change. 0.96

00:21:41.740 Come on.

00:21:42.420 Come on now.

00:21:43.380 Now, many small issues.

00:21:45.800 Look, benefit of the doubt, or let's look at this a different way.

00:21:50.860 Like, have you really tried everything?

00:21:52.540 Because sometimes we'll say, oh, we've tried everything and they don't get resolved.

00:21:55.580 And then you start to dig a little deeper and you really haven't tried everything.

00:21:59.580 But if you're a year into a relationship and there's many small problems that don't ever get resolved, this is not going to work.

00:22:07.900 I don't see a universe in which this relationship works for the long haul.

00:22:10.920 Now, what I end up seeing, what I see happening, if I can predict the future here a little bit, is you overlooking all those red flags.

00:22:18.360 You deciding that you're going to marry her, not because you necessarily think she's the one, but because you don't think you can do any better and you have no self-respect.

00:22:26.040 And then you're going to start popping out kids.

00:22:28.500 And then you're going to have a separation and or a divorce. 0.99

00:22:31.620 And you're going to have to abandon those two kids to some degree because you guys are no longer together.

00:22:36.820 That is the route.

00:22:37.760 That's the road you're on right now.

00:22:39.420 That's the answer.

00:22:40.220 Look, if you can't, dating is to figure out if this is somebody I can be with long term.

00:22:46.920 And if you're having many small issues, trust me, this is going to sound bad.

00:22:50.700 She doesn't get better.

00:22:52.200 You guys are in the honeymoon phase of your relationship.

00:22:54.360 This is like the best time.

00:22:55.880 Both of you are on your best behavior.

00:22:58.000 Wait till you guys are on your worst behavior after three years of marriage.

00:23:01.840 And I don't know.

00:23:03.480 What do you think?

00:23:04.040 You agree or disagree, Kip?

00:23:05.660 Absolutely agree.

00:23:06.460 I knew all you would get fired up on that question.

00:23:08.600 That's why I wanted to include it.

00:23:11.020 You don't change people.

00:23:13.720 So if all those small issues aren't things that you could totally like you totally are in love with her and you and it's not a big deal and you're good rolling forward and you don't need her to change.

00:23:25.300 Then awesome.

00:23:26.260 Sounds like a great relationship.

00:23:28.420 But man, if you're holding on to stuff and you're like, yeah, I got to deal with this or we got to resolve, dude, probability is they're not changing.

00:23:35.540 They're not going away and they're only getting amplified with more stress of life, such as children and debt and other things that might show up.

00:23:42.260 If you can't do it when it's easy, it's not going to get any easier when it's hard.

00:23:46.560 Yeah.

00:23:46.920 I hate to say that because I believe in relationships and I believe in marriage and the power of long-term committed relationships.

00:23:54.260 So I hate to say that, but I think that's the reality.

00:23:57.940 Yeah.

00:23:58.800 Yeah.

00:23:59.160 Don't go into it hoping and waiting that things are going to get better.

00:24:02.500 That's not the right mentality.

00:24:03.680 All right, DM Creary 97, he wants to know your full hunting setup and lessons learned while starting your journey, your hunting journey, your full setup.

00:24:15.620 My full setup?

00:24:18.300 I mean, if I'm rifle hunting, it's typically my Ruger American 308 and I use Origin Camo.

00:24:27.700 I have a Vortex range finder and binos.

00:24:33.540 How about your bow?

00:24:34.720 I don't know.

00:24:36.340 My bow, that's probably more accurate on his setup.

00:24:40.540 I have a Hoyt and what I have is not like I'm not a gear person.

00:24:52.120 That's the hard part is I'm not a gear guy.

00:24:54.680 Yeah, this guy's expected.

00:24:56.120 I mean, I use, yeah, I use the Hoyt RX3, I think is what I have or one.

00:25:05.780 I can't remember.

00:25:06.560 It's black. 0.53

00:25:07.500 It shoots arrows.

00:25:09.400 I have a spot hog.

00:25:10.960 I'm not trying to be dismissive of the question.

00:25:13.160 I just, I don't, I don't like the details are not good for me.

00:25:17.280 Like I don't get into it.

00:25:18.720 But yeah, I use Origin Camo.

00:25:20.800 I use the Hoyt RX.

00:25:22.600 I think it's a one.

00:25:23.420 I have a spot hog site.

00:25:28.440 I use FMJs, Easton FMJs for my arrows.

00:25:33.040 I have a mechanical broadheads, rage broadheads is what I use.

00:25:38.100 Um, and that's, that's the extent of my two setups.

00:25:44.000 Yeah.

00:25:45.140 I like it.

00:25:45.900 What was the second part of that question?

00:25:47.320 I just, I'm not like, I don't, I don't geek out on this.

00:25:49.760 It's not bad.

00:25:50.340 I just don't do it.

00:25:51.340 What was the second part of the question?

00:25:53.460 Really just your lessons learned while starting your honey.

00:25:57.320 Oh yeah.

00:25:58.420 Yeah.

00:25:58.760 Like just being, being around other good people, meeting really cool people, forging deep bonds

00:26:04.340 and connections.

00:26:05.320 One thing it's really helped me with is managed disappointment and expectations.

00:26:09.400 I, when I started hunting, I had big expectations of like, I'm going to go out in the woods and

00:26:14.360 I'm going to shoot this animal and it's going to die right there.

00:26:16.660 And then I'm going to throw it on my shoulders and carry it back to camp.

00:26:19.860 And all the guys are going to cheer for me and all the women are going to, you know,

00:26:23.240 take their shirts off because of my glorious, you know, uh, return triumphant from my hunt.

00:26:28.100 And it just didn't really work like that, you know?

00:26:31.260 So, uh, yeah, I think it was more like you go out there and you're cold and you're bored

00:26:40.080 and you're miserable and you don't see anything.

00:26:42.380 And then when you finally do, you make a bad shot on it because you're all nervous.

00:26:45.740 And then you got to track it for three hours and then maybe you'll find it.

00:26:49.120 Maybe you won't, like, it's just, and then you bring it back and nobody cares, you know?

00:26:54.780 So it's just, it's just managing the expectation.

00:26:59.700 And so anymore, when I go hunt, it's, it's to enjoy the experiences, just to be there with

00:27:04.560 good people, to be present, to enjoy the stillness of sitting in a cold stand, um, or spot and

00:27:11.480 stock, uh, you know, to hopefully bring back an animal, um, to cook and prepare and share

00:27:19.760 with my family and friends.

00:27:21.360 That's all what I want, but I'm okay with that not working out.

00:27:26.540 And then also, you know, you do make bad shots and it is hard in a lot of ways.

00:27:30.680 And so you got to forge through those because there's certain moments that just all come

00:27:36.080 together just right.

00:27:37.780 And that makes it worth it.

00:27:39.440 So those are some of the reasons that, that I like hunting.

00:27:43.300 Also, I'm maybe just a little bit sick when it comes to that and be willing to put myself

00:27:46.980 through that much discomfort and pain and boredom, but I do enjoy it.

00:27:52.860 Yeah.

00:27:53.180 I love it.

00:27:54.300 All right.

00:27:55.120 Max Naren, what's the best advice that you can give a man after seeing his ex and having

00:28:00.460 an awkward interaction with her?

00:28:02.900 How does that man deal with the situation?

00:28:05.980 Uh, let me just make sure I clarify awkward conversation with the ex.

00:28:10.520 Yeah.

00:28:11.200 Yeah.

00:28:11.680 Seeing the ex and having an awkward interaction.

00:28:15.620 Yeah.

00:28:16.100 I mean, that's to be expected, right?

00:28:18.380 I mean, I think that's just par for the course.

00:28:22.560 You know, it's, you guys had a life together.

00:28:24.480 You shared a lot of experiences together.

00:28:26.100 Maybe she's moved on.

00:28:27.020 Maybe you have, uh, maybe you saw her with a new guy or, or she saw you with a new woman.

00:28:32.200 Like that's going to be awkward and uncomfortable.

00:28:34.780 I think just realize that that's the nature of it.

00:28:37.280 And I'm not too far into my divorce, you know, a couple, couple of years almost at this point.

00:28:44.740 Um, but I imagine it'll just get better over time, you know, and it's, there used to be

00:28:51.360 more of a visceral reaction when we'd see each other and that isn't there.

00:28:56.680 It's, it's, it's more towards indifference now, not totally, but moving that direction.

00:29:01.600 And I think there probably comes a point in time and Kip, you can, you can maybe speak

00:29:05.400 on this where it's just, it's no longer weird because it's just was so long ago, a different

00:29:11.280 part of your life.

00:29:12.440 And so it is what it is and that's it.

00:29:14.620 And it just doesn't become awkward.

00:29:16.060 But one thing I would say is don't make it awkward.

00:29:19.940 Yeah.

00:29:20.380 You know, even if you're hurting inside, maybe you're seeing her with a new guy and

00:29:24.340 you guys are out on, on dinner and you see her with her new guy and you bump into each

00:29:27.540 other.

00:29:28.040 You don't have to show that just cause you're feeling it.

00:29:30.520 And it's probably not appropriate to.

00:29:32.720 So a simple, Hey, you know, it's good to see you, even if maybe it's not, or, Hey, I'm

00:29:37.820 glad you're doing well, even though maybe you're not really feeling that.

00:29:40.500 Um, or like, Hey, you know, like, like good luck with everything.

00:29:45.600 Like you could make it awkward or not, even if you're feeling uncomfortable.

00:29:50.080 And I think that's probably the best way to play it is just play it cool.

00:29:54.620 Wish her luck, you know, and happiness.

00:29:57.180 Tell her congrats on whatever is going on.

00:29:58.660 If life is good for her.

00:29:59.980 Um, it just seems like the better way to do it, especially if there's kids involved.

00:30:04.480 Yeah.

00:30:05.080 Cause why make, why make it unnecessarily uncomfortable, especially like a set of kids are involved.

00:30:11.420 The one thing that you said that I really appreciate is it's normal.

00:30:14.940 So don't make it wrong that it's hard.

00:30:18.800 Just deal with it, accept it.

00:30:21.740 I remember the first time that, that I saw my ex and I knew she was with someone, man,

00:30:28.860 it felt like a knife in my gut.

00:30:32.060 Like it was so hard to deal with.

00:30:34.980 But to your point in different now, it almost feels like it's the story I read.

00:30:42.900 It wasn't even my life, you know, and it's, it's not even a thing weird.

00:30:47.200 Yeah.

00:30:47.440 I'm just in a, I'm a different person.

00:30:49.420 She's a different person.

00:30:50.320 It's almost like some other story or a dream really.

00:30:54.340 So it takes time.

00:30:55.780 But, but I, I think the key thing, don't make it wrong.

00:30:59.180 It, it makes sense.

00:31:01.020 You loved her.

00:31:01.860 Probably.

00:31:02.820 It makes sense that it would sting a little bit, that it hurt a little bit.

00:31:05.660 You have history together.

00:31:07.200 Right.

00:31:07.640 And don't make it awkward.

00:31:08.640 I agree.

00:31:09.540 Cause the, otherwise then she's going to react to you being a punk and it's no good.

00:31:15.160 What's the point of it?

00:31:15.740 Like what value, what good comes from it?

00:31:17.720 Yeah.

00:31:17.940 I would also say just be respectful too, right?

00:31:20.640 Like a lot of guys I know will try to get back at her or, you know, rub something in

00:31:25.240 her face and like, you don't need to do that.

00:31:27.840 Like, don't be petty.

00:31:28.460 And that's not even, that isn't even why you're doing the thing.

00:31:31.580 For example, if you're dating another woman, you don't need to rub that in her face.

00:31:35.800 Is that why you're dating the other woman to get back at your ex?

00:31:39.020 And in that case, you're not doing justice or fairness to the other woman either.

00:31:42.260 Yeah.

00:31:43.200 Right.

00:31:43.500 So don't rub things in her face, even if there's a lot of animosity or she's done it

00:31:48.360 to you, just be a better man, drive on with your life and, and get over it.

00:31:54.640 Yeah.

00:31:56.200 Killmonger jitsu, developing patience.

00:31:59.540 What are your methods of becoming more patient with others, with your children, with yourself?

00:32:04.860 The I'm most impatient when I'm stressed with too much on my plate.

00:32:11.600 Yeah.

00:32:12.040 And so the best thing I've ever done from a patient's perspective is give myself more

00:32:19.080 margin.

00:32:20.060 So if I'm, for example, if I want to cook dinner for my kids and we did last night, I

00:32:25.860 have this little uni, it's called uni, O-O-N-I. 1.00

00:32:28.380 It's a pizza cooker.

00:32:29.820 It's a little personal pizza cooker.

00:32:31.780 Yeah.

00:32:32.020 It's a pain in the ass.

00:32:34.180 And, but I had plenty of time last night.

00:32:36.760 It took three times as long as it should.

00:32:38.640 I burnt the first two pizzas.

00:32:39.960 It was a total pain.

00:32:42.140 If I didn't have the time to do that and I was stressed about making a phone call or

00:32:46.040 getting to an appointment or doing something else, that would have gone horribly.

00:32:51.120 But I didn't, you know, I was there and I could do it and I had the time and, and it was fine.

00:32:56.340 It was fun.

00:32:56.960 Everybody liked their pizza after the first, you know, half a dozen attempts or whatever

00:33:01.120 it was, but for me, it's just stretching out your, your time a little bit more and not

00:33:06.720 adding so much to your plate.

00:33:08.100 Cause I get stressed and then I get impatient and then I start rushing things and then I

00:33:11.600 make mistakes or I leave a wake of collateral damage with other people.

00:33:15.300 And so margin margin is the best thing for me.

00:33:18.820 And we need to get Ryan in an easy bake when you get you a little easy bake oven.

00:33:22.760 So Ryan can cook for the fam.

00:33:25.120 Yeah.

00:33:25.600 One more thing I get to learn.

00:33:27.000 I can't, can't wait.

00:33:27.900 So excited.

00:33:28.900 Well, it's easy bake.

00:33:29.920 You don't have to learn anything.

00:33:31.240 It's easy.

00:33:32.360 Nothing's easy.

00:33:33.260 I mean, that's old, easy bake oven.

00:33:35.020 It's old school, but everybody's nothing's easy.

00:33:37.820 Everything's way more complicated and complex than it needs to be.

00:33:41.100 And this goes back to what I was saying earlier.

00:33:43.400 It's like just minimize, reduce, get rid of, unclutter, that sort of thing.

00:33:48.140 Yeah, I totally agree with you on your response to that question.

00:33:53.580 We're not addressing something.

00:33:55.580 And that's the, that's the other thing I'd add.

00:33:58.060 Let me add that one could be margin too much on your plate.

00:34:02.040 The other thing is you're pissed off.

00:34:06.460 Something's not addressed.

00:34:08.020 Shit's not working.

00:34:10.380 And, and there is no patience anywhere.

00:34:12.880 It doesn't matter like if I didn't work today, if I'm out of integrity, if there's an issue

00:34:18.860 that's not being addressed, I'm not taking action towards it.

00:34:21.580 It doesn't matter.

00:34:22.480 I'm going to be a dick to everybody I run into.

00:34:25.400 So get on the path of addressing whatever needs to get addressed.

00:34:31.180 And I don't know about you, but I've had these experiences in my life where some of those

00:34:35.680 big stressors, I avoid them like they're going to go away or something, right?

00:34:40.720 They just like push it off, but it's lingering and it's just eating at you.

00:34:47.360 And the minute we take a little bit of action towards those things, I think we get empowered

00:34:54.240 because we're addressing it.

00:34:56.060 We're taking on the ownership and we're not being a victim of it.

00:34:59.760 So whatever it is, start taking action towards addressing it, whether it's conflict in relationship

00:35:07.060 with a parent or a boss, the, the letter that you got from the IRS of how much taxes you owe

00:35:14.420 meet with the CPA, start dealing with it is personal, but it's like, I could ignore that

00:35:21.500 letter, right.

00:35:22.440 And that balance, or I can go, you know what, set up that appointment with the CPA, start

00:35:27.740 filing, start taking care, taking care of it.

00:35:30.680 Otherwise it's not going to get, it's not, you're, you're, you're just perpetuating the

00:35:36.140 thing that's creating the upset.

00:35:38.120 So tackle those upsets.

00:35:41.340 Yeah.

00:35:41.780 I think there's an element of procrastination there too, right?

00:35:44.260 Like, like last week on Friday, I was supposed to record an intro and outro for a podcast.

00:35:48.860 That's going to be released.

00:35:49.940 The one that was released yesterday with Josh and broom as of the release of this podcast.

00:35:54.380 Well, I was supposed to do it on Friday.

00:35:56.020 I'm like, nah, I can do it.

00:35:57.140 I can do it on Saturday, which I'm not going to, I know I'm not going to do it on Saturday

00:36:00.920 because I'm checked out.

00:36:02.100 I'm like, okay, I'm not going to do it.

00:36:03.480 Well, I'll do it Sunday.

00:36:04.580 No.

00:36:05.420 Yeah.

00:36:05.800 Monday rolls around.

00:36:06.720 I have to get it done this morning.

00:36:08.160 And I've got like 15 minutes before you and I are to jump on a call.

00:36:11.780 So when you said, Hey, one minute, I'm like, Oh, sweet.

00:36:13.900 Perfect.

00:36:14.280 Give me a little bit of breather here.

00:36:16.020 But yeah, I just procrastinated, you know, and that's, but also to your point, I know that my

00:36:21.580 evening is going to go a whole lot better.

00:36:24.000 Just me personally, the relationships I have.

00:36:26.400 If I kick ass during the day.

00:36:28.520 Yeah.

00:36:29.540 I've got my to-do list.

00:36:30.700 I've got it all marked out.

00:36:31.880 I've got up, went to the gym.

00:36:33.200 I start cranking this out.

00:36:34.560 I don't even have to get it finished, but I know I've been productive and I know everything's

00:36:38.680 either done or accounted for.

00:36:41.760 Then I can let down a little bit.

00:36:44.240 I can breathe a sigh of relief.

00:36:45.920 I can spend time with my kids or my girlfriend and her daughter.

00:36:48.840 Like I can do those things and be fully present because I know I got everything else done

00:36:52.760 that I had to throughout the day.

00:36:54.020 Like it's when I don't and I slack and I dink off and I dink around that I get frustrated

00:37:00.280 at night or, you know, or, or, or I lose my patience with my kids.

00:37:06.260 It's because I didn't do what I needed to do throughout the day.

00:37:08.880 And that's to your point.

00:37:10.600 Totally.

00:37:11.000 So you had a couple of questions on, on the gram around recovery, right?

00:37:15.620 How's it going?

00:37:16.400 How many days?

00:37:17.840 Maybe just an update.

00:37:19.460 Yeah.

00:37:20.260 Yeah.

00:37:20.660 I mean, it's going well, uh, July, August 1st.

00:37:24.620 Yeah.

00:37:24.960 August 1st of, uh, it wasn't last, no, not last year.

00:37:30.520 See, like, this is what I'm talking about.

00:37:32.180 It's so amazing how incredible humans are.

00:37:35.480 Cause I vividly remember this and struggle with.

00:37:38.600 So it wasn't last year, it was the year before that.

00:37:41.420 So what's that a year, year and a half at this point.

00:37:44.260 I don't know how many days that is.

00:37:45.660 I don't, I don't really track at this point.

00:37:48.040 Yeah.

00:37:48.520 Cause it's just, it is what it is.

00:37:50.120 But I did track for 90 days and I had a calendar three, I printed out three months of calendars

00:37:55.940 and I would literally put an X on each one of those for 90 days.

00:37:59.100 But I don't do that now, but a year and a half, things are good.

00:38:01.940 Energy levels are high.

00:38:03.520 Um, enthusiasm for the work we're doing here, reconnecting with my kids.

00:38:07.040 Of course, the connection with my girlfriend, I, there's so many positives.

00:38:11.300 I won't say I don't have down days or hard days, um, that I would like to drink if I'm

00:38:17.600 being honest.

00:38:18.380 Yeah.

00:38:18.660 I don't even drink.

00:38:19.320 I feel like where it's, yeah.

00:38:22.280 I don't even drink it.

00:38:23.360 Some days I'm like, shit, maybe I should start.

00:38:26.540 Yeah.

00:38:26.940 I mean, for me, it's just sit in it a little bit, uh, and just realize it's part of, part

00:38:32.040 of the growth and it'll pass too.

00:38:33.500 You know, yesterday wasn't an awesome day.

00:38:35.720 I made a post in, in, in the iron council about some things I'm personally dealing with.

00:38:39.580 It wasn't awesome, but I feel I went to bed on time.

00:38:42.980 I, I woke up early.

00:38:44.240 I got my stuff done and I feel better today.

00:38:46.600 So I'm realizing that there's better ways to, I don't want to say cope because cope makes

00:38:53.720 it sound like you're just pushing it aside, but manage and deal with hard days and hard

00:38:58.660 times.

00:38:59.340 Yeah.

00:39:00.220 All right.

00:39:00.640 We're going to jump over to the, the iron council questions.

00:39:04.240 So James Gifford, what would you say to a man who hasn't settled on rock bottom yet,

00:39:10.560 merely skipped off, but has continued practicing the behavior and mindsets that got in there

00:39:15.600 in the first place?

00:39:17.220 Well, the, the, as the adage goes, the way, the way to climb out of the hole is to first

00:39:23.920 stop digging.

00:39:24.560 So you say you haven't reached rock bottom yet, but rock bottom is just arbitrary unless

00:39:31.560 you're dead. 0.69

00:39:32.220 It's just arbitrary.

00:39:33.900 What's my rock bottom is different Kip than your rock bottom. 0.93

00:39:36.940 So it's all subjective.

00:39:38.920 And the reason I bring that up is because you're saying you're not at rock bottom, but what if

00:39:44.560 you decided you were?

00:39:46.640 Then you are.

00:39:47.560 What if today you decided to stop digging?

00:39:49.760 Then you're at the bottom of the hole because it's only uphill from here.

00:39:54.200 What you're doing is you're giving yourself permission to slip further.

00:39:57.800 Well, you know, my wife hasn't left me yet, but we're on the rocks.

00:40:02.100 My boss hasn't fired me yet, but he's disappointed in my performance.

00:40:07.020 My kids and I are still on speaking terms, but it really isn't going all that well.

00:40:11.940 Well, like what's the bottom for you?

00:40:14.180 Yeah.

00:40:14.880 And what are you going to decide is the bottom so that you can stop doing the things that

00:40:18.640 you need to stop doing now, there's a separate conversation.

00:40:22.220 How do you stop doing those things and start doing the right things?

00:40:25.700 I think a lot of it comes down to education and information.

00:40:29.100 I think a lot of it comes down to having the proper systems in place to ensure that you

00:40:33.120 are on the right track.

00:40:34.580 I believe there's a powerful element of accountability with yourself and with other men.

00:40:40.160 And I believe there's hobbies, activities, friendships, things that you can do, experiences

00:40:44.940 that can replace poor habits.

00:40:48.100 So mindset, accountability, systems, brotherhood, hobbies, replacements.

00:40:53.820 These are all powerful things.

00:40:55.500 A couple of great books, Atomic Habits by James Clear and The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.

00:41:00.320 I'd recommend both of those books.

00:41:02.640 But I think the bigger issue here is you're giving yourself a little bit more rope to hang

00:41:07.240 yourself with.

00:41:08.720 Why are you doing that?

00:41:10.180 Stop doing that.

00:41:11.480 Decide that wherever you are right now, this is the bottom.

00:41:13.880 Today's the bottom.

00:41:14.460 This is the worst it's going to get because I'm going to do something different now.

00:41:18.480 Yeah, totally.

00:41:19.480 And James's question is kind of rooted in how do you bring that up to someone that hasn't

00:41:26.100 stopped him?

00:41:26.340 Oh, it's not him.

00:41:26.840 It's somebody else?

00:41:27.740 It's not James.

00:41:28.420 Oh, I misunderstood.

00:41:29.160 Yeah.

00:41:29.520 How does he have this conversation with someone?

00:41:33.360 Okay.

00:41:33.840 Yeah.

00:41:34.080 No, I'm sorry.

00:41:34.580 I misunderstood.

00:41:34.980 I think in that case, you might underscore.

00:41:40.940 Or how much worse it could get.

00:41:44.120 Probable future.

00:41:44.840 If they don't stop their behavior.

00:41:46.620 Yeah.

00:41:47.300 And look, ultimately, just like I told you, James, when I misunderstood your question,

00:41:52.620 that person, whoever you're talking about, they need to decide when they hit rock bottom.

00:41:57.840 You can't decide that for them.

00:41:59.540 So I would really do a good job as best I could of articulating what will happen if they

00:42:05.960 stay on the path.

00:42:06.780 But ultimately, they're an adult, probably.

00:42:10.440 And they need to make their own decision about how much worse they're going to get.

00:42:17.700 There's a really good scene in The Guardian with Ashton Kutcher and Kevin Costner.

00:42:23.240 And Ashton Kutcher is kind of being mentored by Kevin Costner.

00:42:26.940 And he says, how do you know who to save?

00:42:29.800 And Kevin Costner says, you go to the first one and you save them and you go back for the second

00:42:34.340 and you swim as hard as you can and do as much as you can.

00:42:37.640 And the sea claims the rest.

00:42:39.020 That's hard to do.

00:42:44.060 But I don't get to decide.

00:42:45.980 Kip, if you're going down a path with alcohol abuse, drug abuse, maybe stepping out on your

00:42:51.460 wife, none of which are true, I don't think.

00:42:54.080 But I just want to throw that out there.

00:42:56.960 I need to make sure I say that.

00:43:00.320 I'm going to call you up.

00:43:02.320 I'm going to call you out.

00:43:03.700 I'm going to talk with you.

00:43:04.760 I'm going to ask you about it.

00:43:05.800 I'm going to challenge you.

00:43:06.680 I'm going to get in your face. 0.92

00:43:07.640 I'm going to be a little confrontational.

00:43:08.780 Even at the risk of losing the relationship.

00:43:11.280 And then I'm going to let the chips fall where they may.

00:43:13.640 I cannot be vested in the decisions you're making.

00:43:16.160 I want you to be successful.

00:43:17.640 I want you to have a thriving marriage.

00:43:18.960 I want you to have a thriving life.

00:43:20.560 But they're not my decisions to make.

00:43:22.460 All I can do is swim as hard as I can for as long as I can and let you decide what you're

00:43:26.900 going to do with your life.

00:43:28.420 Yeah.

00:43:29.120 This reminds me of a conversation I had with an employee last week.

00:43:34.180 Just kind of wavering.

00:43:35.740 Not all in.

00:43:36.480 Kind of up and down in regards to maybe performance and how he's showing up.

00:43:43.220 Grab lunch and said, dude, what's going on?

00:43:46.860 Are you all in?

00:43:47.840 Are you loving things?

00:43:48.780 Are you excited?

00:43:49.940 No.

00:43:50.720 Dude.

00:43:51.040 Okay.

00:43:51.740 Let's figure out why.

00:43:52.840 And whatever you do, whether it's here or somewhere else or whatever, let's address

00:43:58.340 it.

00:43:58.860 Don't let it go unaddressed.

00:44:01.100 You're not loving it.

00:44:03.500 You're upset about something, whatever.

00:44:06.040 Let's address it so you can show up powerfully and love whatever it is that you're doing.

00:44:10.580 And I think that same concept we could apply to many things, you know, and to be frank,

00:44:15.840 like I even, I feel a little bit like a hypocrite even saying it, but even like from a marriage

00:44:20.260 perspective, are you loving it?

00:44:23.060 No, it's tough.

00:44:24.620 Okay.

00:44:24.980 Then what pivots do we need to make?

00:44:27.360 So we're, so we're not just compliant with it because that's not a powerful way of showing

00:44:34.420 up.

00:44:35.420 And I bring that example up because why?

00:44:38.960 Because I think James's question kind of alludes, you know, life has to fall apart.

00:44:43.920 And I love that what you said, the bottom is whenever we stop digging.

00:44:48.440 So we may not think we're digging a hole.

00:44:51.040 If we're compliant, you are, and you don't have to be, you can show up powerful.

00:44:57.920 So whatever it is, whether it's marriage, work, even friendships, are you compliant in

00:45:03.540 your friendships?

00:45:04.660 Am I a mediocre friend to you?

00:45:07.300 Or am I a powerful friend that's present and like contributes to our friendship?

00:45:13.960 If I'm not, then shit, you know, get off the pot and, and show up powerfully, whatever

00:45:19.040 that is.

00:45:20.200 And literally, as I say this, I'm thinking of all the areas of my life that I'm compliant.

00:45:24.740 And it's not a powerful way of showing up.

00:45:30.000 Even if it's just going to the gym, all I got my reps, it's like, no, get a fucking good

00:45:34.800 workout in.

00:45:37.420 If you're going to do Easter, do Easter.

00:45:39.080 Awesome.

00:45:39.880 If you're going to have a great conversation or a great relationship with a friend, do

00:45:42.900 it amazingly.

00:45:45.220 When you stop being compliant, I think a lot of our holes that we're digging are in this

00:45:49.520 space of good enough.

00:45:51.640 And that's just not a powerful way to show up in the world.

00:45:56.360 All right.

00:45:56.900 I love what you said.

00:45:57.580 I got stuff to do.

00:45:58.120 I got stuff to do.

00:46:00.280 I mean, we're all, we're all a bit hypocritical at times, right?

00:46:04.420 I mean, isn't this the power of this for us?

00:46:06.680 Yeah.

00:46:07.060 It's a good reminder of what we need to do better in our lives.

00:46:09.860 Yeah.

00:46:10.040 You know, there was, there's something interesting I was, I was thinking about when we're talking

00:46:13.760 about a hole and a guy who's falling down a hole, you know, it's, it's not really

00:46:17.760 the fall that, that scares people.

00:46:22.140 It's the sudden stop at the bottom.

00:46:25.620 Right.

00:46:26.500 If I, if I, like, if you're going to go jump off a 40 foot diving board, you're not scared

00:46:31.180 of the fall.

00:46:32.100 You're scared of how you land in the water.

00:46:34.020 Yeah.

00:46:35.980 The fall isn't the painful part.

00:46:38.800 It's rock bottom.

00:46:40.160 That's the painful part.

00:46:41.100 That's where you die or get injured.

00:46:43.120 So when you're making bad choices, you're falling, but you don't realize.

00:46:47.760 Those, because it doesn't seem significant.

00:46:50.000 For example, when I was drinking heavy, I was impatient and I was irritable and I was

00:46:55.920 not pleasant to be around.

00:46:57.640 I didn't even acknowledge that.

00:46:59.240 I didn't recognize that.

00:47:00.380 But you know, when I did, when she said she wanted a divorce, that's when I hit the bottom.

00:47:05.320 But I was falling the entire time, but I didn't register it as painful because I didn't see

00:47:11.120 the bottom.

00:47:12.400 So we have to be aware of that.

00:47:14.040 Even though we might not be experiencing the pain of the decisions that we're making,

00:47:19.420 we're making the sudden stop at the end a whole lot worse.

00:47:23.660 And by the way, the opposite is also true.

00:47:26.540 When you're going to the gym every day and your diet is on lock and you're getting up

00:47:30.760 and you're meditating and you're journaling and you're doing all the things that you should

00:47:33.340 be doing, you probably won't see results right away.

00:47:36.340 But that doesn't mean you're not getting to the top.

00:47:40.500 You will get to the top and see the view, but you don't get to enjoy it till you're there.

00:47:44.620 And it's all that work that doesn't really feel like it's moving the needle that counts

00:47:48.380 in both directions, up and down.

00:47:51.560 Totally.

00:47:52.560 That's good distinction.

00:47:54.760 John McDormand, what is the hardest quadrant to remain consistent in for you on the battle

00:48:00.260 plan?

00:48:00.840 What tactics can we deploy to shift out of that limiting mindset?

00:48:04.660 Yeah, so the tactics are, just to clarify for guys who may not, or the quadrants, I said

00:48:11.080 tactics, didn't I?

00:48:12.120 Yeah.

00:48:12.380 Quadrants.

00:48:13.520 The quadrants are four areas of life that we focus on.

00:48:17.720 So calibration, connection, condition, contribution.

00:48:23.620 So calibration is mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

00:48:26.900 Connection is the relationships you have with people around you, personal and professional.

00:48:30.560 Condition is your physical health.

00:48:32.120 And then calibration is becoming a man of value, adding value, money, finances, developing

00:48:39.380 valuable services, that sort of thing.

00:48:42.740 For me, the hardest one is calibration.

00:48:46.000 It's the first one.

00:48:48.120 Because I realize when connections and relationships are good and bad, and I can change, I can do

00:48:52.540 different things.

00:48:53.540 You can see.

00:48:53.880 I realize when I'm not, yeah, with my condition and physical health, like I can jump on the scale.

00:48:59.660 Yeah, you're a little heavier than you ought to be.

00:49:02.120 With giving back, contribution, being a man of value, I can look at bank accounts, for

00:49:05.780 example, or the type of value I'm adding into the world.

00:49:08.420 It's all very tangible.

00:49:10.200 But calibration is not.

00:49:12.000 Physical, or mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

00:49:15.420 I can't tell you how often I've caught myself saying, oh, I don't need to do that.

00:49:19.880 Meditate.

00:49:20.560 I'm going to meditate.

00:49:21.340 I don't have time to meditate.

00:49:23.760 Journal.

00:49:24.300 Think about my feelings.

00:49:25.560 I don't have time for that bullshit.

00:49:26.480 I got things to do today.

00:49:28.600 Yeah.

00:49:30.280 But what's interesting and deliberate is that's the first quadrant.

00:49:37.640 Getting mentally, emotionally, and spiritually fit and sound.

00:49:42.960 And if you do that, and by the way, it's not sequential.

00:49:47.060 It's cyclical.

00:49:49.540 So if you start getting that stuff right, everything else becomes better.

00:49:52.980 If you do more conditioning to get your physical health in a better position, then the mental

00:49:57.980 and emotional side is going to spill over as well.

00:50:01.420 So you can start anywhere.

00:50:02.920 But for me, that's always been calibration.

00:50:07.160 And what can we do about it?

00:50:09.720 Force myself to do it.

00:50:11.300 Force myself to write things down.

00:50:15.200 Force myself for a little margin to do after action reviews.

00:50:18.780 Force myself to be considerate of how I'm viewing the world and how other people view me.

00:50:24.840 Force myself to pray.

00:50:26.280 That's one.

00:50:26.880 That is a challenge for me.

00:50:29.440 I have to force myself to do those because I recognize how important they are in the grand

00:50:33.260 scheme of things.

00:50:34.420 Yeah.

00:50:36.220 Pramit Ball has a great question.

00:50:38.300 He has a lot to do.

00:50:39.640 Let's take one more.

00:50:40.880 One or two more.

00:50:41.200 Maybe two if it depends on the time.

00:50:43.380 But let's take one or two more.

00:50:44.520 We'll rapid fire this one.

00:50:45.780 So Pramit, he says, while I understand confidence comes from competence, what are some strategies

00:50:53.200 on being calm when doing something new?

00:50:56.480 There you go.

00:50:57.240 Let's just go with that.

00:50:59.260 So he's doing something new.

00:51:00.840 Yep.

00:51:02.960 The answer is grace.

00:51:05.280 You're doing it.

00:51:05.980 You're new.

00:51:07.020 Like I was cooking those pizzas.

00:51:09.300 I mean, I was frustrated, but I could have grabbed it and like thrown it at one of my kids

00:51:13.280 or something in frustration.

00:51:14.520 I don't know.

00:51:14.920 But I didn't.

00:51:16.840 And I kind of laughed at it.

00:51:18.360 I actually took a picture and I sent it to my girlfriend.

00:51:20.640 I'm like, well, here's my first attempt in making pizza.

00:51:23.640 This looks disgusting.

00:51:24.660 I think I'm doing something wrong because it's funny.

00:51:27.520 Yeah.

00:51:28.000 Because I don't take myself so seriously.

00:51:29.760 I used to.

00:51:31.260 Yeah.

00:51:31.600 It's just grace.

00:51:32.680 That's all it is.

00:51:33.600 And that helps you be calm and laugh about it.

00:51:36.740 You should laugh at yourself.

00:51:37.900 You made a pizza that looks horrible.

00:51:39.380 Like just laugh and then make another one.

00:51:42.160 Or a presentation.

00:51:43.860 You know, maybe it's your first presentation you ever gave and you stumbled all over your

00:51:47.540 words and you're, you know, pits going on and it was just like horrible.

00:51:52.160 Laugh at it.

00:51:53.100 That sucked.

00:51:54.440 That was miserable.

00:51:55.440 But just laugh and know that you're just doing it.

00:51:57.640 The other thing is if you're worried about how other people will perceive you, and most

00:52:04.140 of us are, then just own it.

00:52:06.880 It's better just to own it.

00:52:09.340 So if you're going to go present in public and you're really worried about how others

00:52:12.580 will perceive you, then say that in your presentation.

00:52:15.920 Yeah.

00:52:16.280 Hey guys, look, I'm not a public speaker.

00:52:18.840 I want to be.

00:52:19.480 But this is my first go.

00:52:21.740 So if I stumble over my words or there's a little shakiness in my voice, or it looks

00:52:26.760 like I have shower, shower heads under my armpits because I'm sweating.

00:52:31.600 That's what it is.

00:52:32.400 I'm just super nervous.

00:52:33.200 But thank you for listening anyways.

00:52:34.580 And thank you for not throwing tomatoes at me while I talk to you.

00:52:38.400 You just own it.

00:52:39.900 Because everybody else feels the same way.

00:52:42.840 And they're like, yep, been there.

00:52:44.720 Definitely been there.

00:52:46.020 So just laugh at yourself.

00:52:47.160 Give yourself some grace and explain or own the fact that you're nervous or not comfortable

00:52:51.740 or feeling inadequate or whatever you might be experiencing.

00:52:55.180 Yeah.

00:52:56.260 I feel for me, this is letting go of the expectation that I should be good at something and getting

00:53:02.080 present to the idea that everything just takes reps.

00:53:05.760 And when you do that, you can have fun.

00:53:08.780 Like, you could really have fun because there's no expectation.

00:53:12.800 You suck.

00:53:14.280 Awesome.

00:53:15.520 Now, just sit with it and enjoy the moment and let go of the expectations of the way you

00:53:21.160 should or should not be.

00:53:23.080 And just be present with that.

00:53:25.920 It can be, in fact, it sounds rejuvenating and exciting to be just green.

00:53:32.120 Sounds fun.

00:53:33.660 It's freeing.

00:53:34.800 Yeah.

00:53:35.420 I mean, this one area that I see this a lot in Kip is jujitsu.

00:53:39.140 Like, how many times have we answered the question, hey, I'm going to my first jujitsu

00:53:43.040 class tonight.

00:53:44.020 What should I expect?

00:53:45.640 Nothing.

00:53:46.620 Nothing.

00:53:47.420 Just show up.

00:53:48.180 You don't need any tips from me or anybody else.

00:53:50.240 You have your gi or whatever.

00:53:51.720 You know the address.

00:53:53.060 You've already paid for a membership, it sounds like, or you're going for the, that's all

00:53:56.620 you, and then just listen.

00:53:58.020 It's all you need to do.

00:53:59.660 And then when somebody strangles you with their toes or whatever, then just laugh at it.

00:54:03.980 Cause it's funny.

00:54:05.500 How can somebody be, I remember the first time I went and trained, there was this 140 1.00

00:54:11.140 pound, maybe kid.

00:54:13.400 And Ace was like, Hey, uh, we did some instruction.

00:54:17.280 He's like, Hey, you're going to roll with this guy.

00:54:18.560 I'm like, okay, what does roll?

00:54:19.820 What does that mean?

00:54:20.840 And he's like, you're going to like fight with him.

00:54:22.520 Like, okay, what do I do?

00:54:25.280 And he's like, just try not to get submitted.

00:54:27.140 I'm like, what is it?

00:54:27.780 What's submitted?

00:54:28.460 What does that mean?

00:54:29.500 And he's like, where it like hurts and you need to tell him to stop.

00:54:32.680 I'm like, okay, this guy is 140 pound guy.

00:54:37.700 I'm 200 pounds.

00:54:38.780 I strike pride myself on being fairly, fairly athletic.

00:54:41.360 I'm like, okay, sounds good.

00:54:43.440 I'll try not to get submitted.

00:54:45.420 And within 30 seconds, this kid had his scrawny little legs wrapped around my neck and arm choking

00:54:51.000 the life out of me.

00:54:52.440 It's hilarious.

00:54:53.360 It is.

00:54:54.660 How does this guy who I've got 60 pounds on wrap his toothpick legs around my neck to

00:55:01.500 the point where I'm losing blood supply to my brain?

00:55:05.320 That's funny.

00:55:06.880 And I had to figure out what it was, but again, it's just let go of the expectations.

00:55:11.360 It's hilarious that that kid could do that to me.

00:55:14.440 I've rolled with women who I'm like, this woman. 0.97

00:55:18.980 And the minute I start rolling, oh shit, I got to step this up.

00:55:23.660 She's going to kill me. 1.00

00:55:25.620 She's going to kill me if I don't. 1.00

00:55:26.960 Cause I'd go in there easy.

00:55:28.900 No expectations.

00:55:30.100 Just enjoy it.

00:55:30.900 It's all funny.

00:55:32.660 Yeah, totally.

00:55:34.780 All right.

00:55:35.280 Last question.

00:55:35.920 Derek Gordon.

00:55:36.540 He has a long question here, but I'm going to just jump to the meat of it here.

00:55:40.620 What are some practical ideas or resources to move past the fear of losing security and

00:55:48.340 becoming more of a sovereign man?

00:55:49.880 He feels like he can't step into being more sovereign because he has a security, this

00:55:55.080 comfort of his current job and profession.

00:55:58.540 So what are some tactics and ideas to let go of perceived security and be more sovereign?

00:56:05.020 I think the answer is you hedge.

00:56:08.500 This is not a real common answer in forums like this because a lot of self-help guys are

00:56:15.060 like, just burn the boats, burn the bridges.

00:56:17.580 Nothing else.

00:56:18.580 Yeah.

00:56:18.700 Yeah.

00:56:19.920 Make a leap of faith.

00:56:21.880 You could.

00:56:22.700 That's not what I've done.

00:56:23.680 That's not what I see other people doing that actually do it right, but I think you could

00:56:28.800 hedge.

00:56:29.360 So what does hedging look like when it comes to your occupation?

00:56:32.800 Well, get your debt paid off.

00:56:35.360 Now, today, if you don't have a thousand, fifteen hundred, two thousand dollars worth of

00:56:40.820 extra debt payments going out every month, don't you think it'd be easier to make a transition

00:56:44.560 into something you love?

00:56:46.100 Another thing that you could do is you could set aside a hundred dollars or a thousand

00:56:49.940 dollars a month or whatever you can do and build up 10, 20, 40, 50, a hundred thousand

00:56:54.900 dollars in the bank account.

00:56:55.920 Don't you think if you had a hundred thousand dollars in the bank account, you'd feel a

00:56:59.160 little safer going to another job or profession?

00:57:02.580 Another thing that you could do is you could start learning everything that you need to learn

00:57:06.220 about the business you might be going into now while somebody else is paying you to

00:57:10.100 do it.

00:57:11.040 Case in point, when I was in my financial planning practice, I worked for a firm and I

00:57:15.300 knew I was going to go out on my own.

00:57:16.980 And while I continue to work for that firm, I did a lot of research on business building,

00:57:21.720 marketing, tax strategy and planning.

00:57:24.320 And so when I left, I already knew that stuff.

00:57:27.360 Now, I hadn't put it into practice, but I was well ahead of the curve beyond most entrepreneurs

00:57:32.400 because they start thinking about that when they start their business.

00:57:35.540 I didn't do that.

00:57:37.240 I did it ahead of time.

00:57:38.360 And I looked at it as somebody else training and paying me to start my business.

00:57:42.440 What a really cool thing.

00:57:43.820 Another thing you can do is always build your network.

00:57:47.540 Always, always be building your network.

00:57:49.580 The more people you know, the more opportunities are going to be presented to you.

00:57:53.960 And I'll give you an example of this.

00:57:55.420 If for some reason, order a man went under or I decided today, I'm like, I'm done, cancel,

00:58:00.060 stop, done with it.

00:58:01.000 But within 24 hours, I'd have six to 10 great job opportunities lined up.

00:58:06.980 Not because I'm wonderful, just because I know people.

00:58:10.480 Yeah.

00:58:10.720 Because I spent the last decade of my life getting to know powerful, influential people.

00:58:16.220 And the natural inevitable outcome of that is opportunities that wouldn't be afforded to

00:58:20.480 me if I didn't.

00:58:22.000 So there's four tactics that I would consider.

00:58:24.500 Pay off debt, build savings, start learning what you need to learn now.

00:58:31.000 Before you make transitions and always build your network.

00:58:34.200 Yeah.

00:58:35.040 I'll add one thing to this because in fact, I was following someone on the gram and they

00:58:43.160 were talking about, you know, to feel empowered, you have to be an entrepreneur.

00:58:48.280 You have to be a business owner and it was to sell their course, right?

00:58:52.720 And I disagree and I disagree because, and it could be the truth for some people, but I

00:59:00.540 think the biggest mistake that we sometimes have is we go, well, I can't show up and be

00:59:07.100 sovereign while working for someone.

00:59:08.940 No, no, no, you can.

00:59:09.900 And this is, this is why the messaging of Andy Frisillo is so strong, you know, this concept

00:59:15.120 of MFCEO, right?

00:59:17.400 Is why?

00:59:18.000 Because you're that whether you work for someone or not, like, of course, be strong in the position

00:59:25.200 that you're in and, and thrive in it and don't be a victim of anybody and own it.

00:59:32.040 And it's a contract that you have with an employer.

00:59:34.440 If they don't pull their weight, you're out.

00:59:35.960 Like, see it as that, not as like some cog or employee that's stuck in their, their

00:59:42.620 system, show up powerfully, even in the position that you're in.

00:59:47.480 So then that way, to your point, Ryan, you're gaining the experience, the knowledge and the

00:59:52.680 opportunities.

00:59:53.580 So you're making your calls whenever you want, whether you're working for yourself or whether

00:59:59.040 you're working for someone else.

01:00:00.280 That's how we should be showing up in the world, period, not just if we're business owners.

01:00:06.180 That's how every employee should be showing up to show up powerfully.

01:00:09.900 Yeah, I think, man, well said.

01:00:12.460 I think the, the thing that really shifted for me as, as I've heard this concept is if

01:00:19.840 you are an employee, then your employer is your client.

01:00:26.340 If you're an entrepreneur, the client is the client.

01:00:28.820 If you're an employee, then your employer is the client.

01:00:32.760 Meaning they're hiring you.

01:00:34.880 If you're, let's say it's your first job, you're going to go flip burgers at Burger King

01:00:37.800 like I did for my first job.

01:00:39.820 My, the, the people that coming to buy food, they weren't my clients.

01:00:43.780 They were the business's clients.

01:00:45.680 My client was my boss who hired me and she hired me to do a very, very good job in a very

01:00:52.880 specific thing.

01:00:53.520 That was to take the burger and put it on the patty and put the mayonnaise and the ketchup

01:00:56.760 and the mustard and the pickles on, wrap it up and get it out.

01:00:59.700 And it was my job as her, as them being my client to do a phenomenal job on that.

01:01:07.840 And at any point I could decide, I no longer want you to be my client.

01:01:11.200 I'm going to go to McDonald's because they're a better client than you are.

01:01:14.740 Or at any time the client could fire me and say, you're not doing a good enough job.

01:01:18.440 We're going to go find somebody else.

01:01:19.560 Who's going to do a better job at this?

01:01:21.300 Absolutely.

01:01:21.860 That's, that's how I've chosen to look at it.

01:01:23.820 And I think it's a huge mindset shift.

01:01:26.380 Totally.

01:01:26.600 And, and it goes both ways, even from a negative perspective.

01:01:29.580 I've had this conversation literally with my team of our job is to move the needle in

01:01:36.080 these particular areas.

01:01:38.200 If we're not, we shouldn't be here.

01:01:41.340 Like my recommendation to my client should be, you're paying too much for me not to do

01:01:48.600 anything that's moving the proper needles.

01:01:51.320 Thus, I'm not justified in this role and neither is my team.

01:01:58.260 So if, if someone hasn't made that clear to me, guess what?

01:02:01.520 I'm, I'm coming back to the table and going, Hey, I have another way for us to provide value

01:02:06.440 to you client.

01:02:07.860 And this is what I recommend.

01:02:10.140 So then that way your investment in me and my time drives the company forward.

01:02:16.740 So you got like, I love that analogy of senior employers, your client, because that's exact,

01:02:22.780 that's how you ensure you keep your job.

01:02:24.660 That's how you ensure that you're, you're providing massive value and that you're truly

01:02:30.280 owning the relationship and the value add and not just, well, I'll just sit over here

01:02:35.200 and I'll stay employed and, you know, hopefully I don't get fired or hopefully I'm providing

01:02:40.540 value.

01:02:41.100 I'm not really sure.

01:02:42.400 If you don't know if you're providing value or not, figure it out and come to the table

01:02:46.680 with suggestions of how you provide value.

01:02:49.580 Own that relationship.

01:02:51.560 Don't be passive to it.

01:02:54.320 Right.

01:02:55.060 Yep.

01:02:55.460 Such a great analogy.

01:02:57.840 Well, good questions today, guys.

01:02:59.540 Kip, do you mind if I close us out today?

01:03:00.940 I've got a couple of announcements I wanted to share.

01:03:02.840 Absolutely.

01:03:03.480 Absolutely.

01:03:04.100 Okay, cool.

01:03:05.520 The first one, and I may have mentioned this briefly, we've got a bunch of new merchandise

01:03:08.900 at our store.

01:03:10.480 We've got refills on all of our shirts.

01:03:13.020 We've got three new shirt designs that are available.

01:03:16.120 So if you want to support what we're doing here and have some cool shirts in the process

01:03:19.880 and look good, hats, battle planners, other stuff, head to store.orderamand.com.

01:03:24.380 And then the second announcement I wanted to make is I've been very quiet on this, but I

01:03:27.840 helped found a new company called M42 Adventures.

01:03:30.680 And it's our job and our goal to introduce the world to the outdoors through different

01:03:36.340 experiences that we have.

01:03:37.900 So it's outdoor experiences, whether it's hunts or ATV experiences or fly fishing, survival

01:03:43.400 schools, culinary and butchering classes, whatever we can do to get people familiar with the

01:03:49.020 outdoors.

01:03:50.220 Sometimes, a lot of times, and I've noticed this to be true for men who have asked this

01:03:54.140 question, which is quite a few, it's confusing and frustrating and you don't really know where

01:03:59.260 to start if you want to get immersed into the world of hunting or survival or whatever

01:04:04.100 it might be.

01:04:04.940 So M42 Adventures, in July and August, we have a couple of hunts to Africa that I'm very

01:04:10.220 excited about.

01:04:11.400 One, we're going to go hunt, but we're also going to go to an orphanage and give back to

01:04:16.140 that community.

01:04:17.360 We're going to do a safari while we're there.

01:04:19.340 And then we also have a helicopter tour that we get to go on.

01:04:23.100 And this is for hunters.

01:04:24.300 And if you want to do non-hunting, there's options available as well.

01:04:28.380 So there's some really, really cool things I'm excited about with M42 Adventures.

01:04:32.640 And this is partly a response to how many guys ask me about how do I get into hunting?

01:04:38.520 How do I get doing that?

01:04:39.800 Like, where's the best place to go?

01:04:41.660 We help facilitate all of that so you can immerse yourself into the world without having

01:04:45.960 all the confusion and chaos about doing it yourself.

01:04:49.480 So check it out.

01:04:50.360 M42 Adventures, the number 42.

01:04:52.820 M42 Adventures.

01:04:54.040 That's all I've got.

01:04:54.920 And that's M42Adventures.com is the URL?

01:04:58.800 Dot com.

01:04:59.460 Correct.

01:05:00.080 Yep.

01:05:00.400 Excellent.

01:05:01.240 Yep.

01:05:01.580 That sounds perfect, man.

01:05:02.840 Well, and on a side note, I need to talk to you about Hawaii because that's how I feel.

01:05:07.140 I feel like, uh, I don't know what's going on, gear, you know what I mean, or whatever.

01:05:12.240 So we have another conversation we have.

01:05:13.980 I haven't said anything because I didn't know if I was supposed to say anything about it.

01:05:16.680 Yeah.

01:05:17.020 So Asia dropped the ball or she told me, uh, last week, I'll be honest, full disclosure. 0.54

01:05:22.820 I was like, what?

01:05:23.900 No, bad idea.

01:05:25.160 I'm like, cancel refund immediately.

01:05:27.880 And she's like, what are you talking about?

01:05:29.020 I'm like, babe, I don't own a bow.

01:05:30.460 Um, I, I don't have gear to practice.

01:05:34.680 It's going to be a complete waste of time other than being in Hawaii.

01:05:39.520 Um, but, but I don't, I want to show up at, I don't want to show up with a stick, you know,

01:05:46.340 throwing little sticks at a deer.

01:05:48.820 You might have much, as much success as I do out there.

01:05:51.480 So I don't know.

01:05:52.160 So anyhow, we'll, we'll talk soon.

01:05:54.180 We'll talk about it.

01:05:55.640 Cool.

01:05:56.220 All right, guys.

01:05:56.800 Appreciate everybody.

01:05:57.500 Great questions.

01:05:58.320 As always, hope we gave you some answers.

01:06:00.440 Kip, you had some, some real knowledge today.

01:06:02.380 You dropped some bombs on us, man.

01:06:03.680 There was some cool, some cool moments in there.

01:06:05.420 So I appreciate all that you do.

01:06:06.960 All right, guys.

01:06:07.700 We'll be back on Friday until then go out there, take action and become a man.

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Order of Man - April 03, 2024

Manipulative Media, The Power of the Human Spirit, and Affording Yourself Some Grace ｜ ASK ME ANYTHING

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