Order of Man - Meet Challenges Like a Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 you're a man it's a profession and i wish more of us looked at it this way it's the profession of

00:00:04.400 being a man and if it's our profession then we should be thinking about ways we can constantly

00:00:09.280 improve make yourself capable and always financially mentally emotionally spiritually

00:00:15.520 physically go work out go train eat correctly feel your body right learn the marketable skills

00:00:22.880 get promotions start businesses learn how to network learn how to train this is our job

00:00:30.240 men challenge is inevitable in your life your ability to overcome the obstacles the trials

00:00:37.200 the hurdles the challenges that you face and that your family and your people face is what

00:00:42.320 differentiates you from other individuals males who are not men i firmly believe that it's those

00:00:49.440 males who step up who lead effectively who problem solve who overcome challenges are the ones who

00:00:57.360 rightfully are able to use the title of man and if you're not stepping up to challenges and you're not

00:01:06.400 overcoming those hardships then you are not doing what you're meant to be doing our mission here and

00:01:12.160 our motto is to protect provide and preside it's to take care of yourself it's to be capable of

00:01:19.120 providing for yourself and loved ones it's to be able to care for those who need you who cannot

00:01:24.320 potentially care for themselves and it's your ability to lead as a man in righteousness that

00:01:30.080 really spells the difference between you being a man and you being a child simply a male and we've

00:01:36.560 all heard the term that being a male is a matter of uh birthright but being a man is so much more so

00:01:43.760 today i'm going to talk with you about what you can do to overcome challenges and hurdles and struggles

00:01:48.160 in your life because that's what's going to make you who you want to be who your people need you to

00:01:53.360 be and the kind of man that you have the ability to become so number one we have to get our mind right

00:01:59.760 if you can't get your mind wrapped around the idea that your job is to solve problems that your job is to

00:02:06.240 look for things that could potentially go wrong that your job is to step up when everybody else around

00:02:12.480 you is falling apart mentally physically emotionally they're having emotional breakdowns they're having

00:02:19.760 mental baggage and blockage and they're physically incapable of dealing with whatever the situation

00:02:26.240 demands it's your job to make sure that you handle that because when everything goes down when it hits the

00:02:33.680 fan people look to you or they don't based on their belief in your ability to get them through that

00:02:41.680 circumstance so what's your if it's your family who might be struggling financially they're going to

00:02:47.360 look to you if it's your children who are having a hard time at school maybe they're getting bullied

00:02:53.680 maybe they're having a difficult time with a concept a new concept they're learning at school

00:02:58.480 they're going to look to you if an intruder breaks into your home your wife's not going to get out 0.99

00:03:04.720 of bed and handle it it's going to be you every situation that you're going to encounter people are

00:03:11.360 going to look to you and i shared this concept with somebody else is that we believe that leadership just

00:03:18.400 means that everything goes well when things are going well i don't consider that leadership now it's

00:03:25.680 nice when things are going well but leadership really reveals itself when things are going poorly

00:03:32.000 and your job is to solve the problems that come up please don't put that on your wife don't put that

00:03:38.480 on your children don't put that on your colleagues and your co-workers uh and your clients and your

00:03:45.440 employees and don't even put it on your employers you know you hear guys who will say you know that's

00:03:50.800 above my pay grade they don't pay me enough to handle that problem and you know what those guys are

00:03:55.200 always are broke miserable unfulfilled dissatisfied passed over for promotions because they think that

00:04:03.600 it's somebody else's job to do the thing it's not it's your job to do the thing and the more that you

00:04:09.040 can wrap your head around that and have that ingrained and etched into your dna as a man the

00:04:14.000 better off you're going to be and the better off that the people around you are going to be so that's

00:04:19.840 number one your job is to solve problems your job is to protect provide and preside and if you're

00:04:26.960 doing anything to the contrary you're not being the man that you could be now this is about the

00:04:31.920 time that people come back to me and say well ryan what about this thing that you did and what about

00:04:36.080 this way that you messed up and what about your past divorce and what about your your failures and

00:04:41.360 and your finances and what about when you were overweight and out of shape and what about your

00:04:46.160 addiction and by the way they're not wrong they're exactly right but that's what i'm telling you

00:04:53.200 see i'm not telling you that you can be those things in spite of your deficiencies in your

00:04:58.240 inadequacies i'm telling that you that it's your job to overcome them and so if you're falling short

00:05:03.840 you're not being the kind of man that you could be same as me same as everybody else listening to this

00:05:09.280 podcast and i'll be the first to admit that when i fall short in my life it's because i'm not doing

00:05:15.120 what i ought to be doing it's not because i don't believe that we should be doing better it's

00:05:19.760 because i'm not doing what i know we ought to be doing you do it too we all do it we all fall

00:05:26.320 short of our ideals our job is to live up to our ideals let's get to point number two point number

00:05:32.720 two is anticipation guys you need to scan your surroundings physically mentally emotionally

00:05:38.480 spiritually you need to know what the enemy is if you're going into a crowded environment and

00:05:43.520 you're taking your wife out to dinner or to a concert it's your job to keep her protected

00:05:49.040 yeah sure enjoy the music enjoy the performance enjoy the show enjoy the movie enjoy the dinner

00:05:54.800 enjoy whatever it is you're doing but ultimately the buck stops with you it's her job to show up

00:06:01.440 and be lovely and support and enhance your life it's your job to make sure she has the environment

00:06:07.520 the container where that can happen so you when you go into a restaurant need to put your back

00:06:13.440 against the wall you're the one that needs to be scanning the area you're the one who needs to be

00:06:18.720 looking for threats you're the one who needs to be looking for things outside of the ordinary

00:06:23.360 so you can be prepared for things that might inevitably come up now i'm not telling you that you

00:06:28.960 should be paranoid about these things because that hinders your ability to perform but you ought to be

00:06:35.040 prepared for it which means situational awareness unbear your nose out from the phone look around scan

00:06:43.840 your surroundings be capable and try to be intimidating try to take up space that's what men ought to do

00:06:53.840 when it comes to work look at what your competitors do are doing look at what the markets are doing look at

00:07:00.560 what technology is coming down the line that you need to be aware of when it comes to your children

00:07:06.080 look for cues what are they dealing with where has their behavior changed where are they struggling what are they

00:07:12.880 dealing with you have to anticipate that things are going to go wrong guys when in the history of humankind has

00:07:20.280 everything always been perfect when in your own life have you ever done anything that went according to plan

00:07:27.040 if you're getting blindsided constantly by a job layoff or a medical diagnosis

00:07:32.960 or one of your people getting hurt or getting injured or the transmission on the vehicle going out

00:07:40.080 or the economic dynamic changing or changing of the political waves in society and you're blindsided all the time

00:07:50.440 why are you being so ignorant to it why are you being oblivious why are you being unaware that's not

00:07:56.440 your role your role is to be keenly aware of everything that could be going on around you and

00:08:02.180 everything that poses a risk to you and yours and if you're not constantly thinking about what those

00:08:07.820 threats are not again being paranoid but being prepared then you're leaving room on the table and people

00:08:13.940 will not look to you because they can't trust you and i promise at the end of the day more so than that

00:08:19.380 you're not going to feel good about yourself i've had situations in my life where i have been

00:08:25.140 underqualified underprepared and then when i get caught with my proverbial pants down

00:08:31.340 it's like i i act as if i'm a victim i ask if i act as if i'm blindsided by what's going on and

00:08:39.620 the reality is i should not have been i should have been totally prepared for those things

00:08:43.160 what are you doing to make sure you're prepared financial provisions provisions around the house

00:08:50.760 making sure that your family is safe making sure that you have a plan at work for natural disasters

00:08:56.380 and at home for the house catching on fire or an intruder breaking in or if there's financial

00:09:03.380 catastrophe or if there's civil unrest or if there's an active shooter situation these things

00:09:09.020 all happen every day we we listen to we read we get the news about these things happening don't be

00:09:14.600 unprepared number three and this moves into the next thing from mindset to being aware of the threats is

00:09:21.500 to be capable if you're living paycheck to paycheck can you honestly look another person in the eye and

00:09:28.880 saying you're doing everything that you can be doing as a man to protect provide and preside for you

00:09:34.640 and yours of course you're not get a budget budget every week live below your means be disciplined

00:09:44.120 with your spending learn how to invest learn where to put your money learn how to pay off debt don't

00:09:48.420 get into debt in the first place and once you pay it off don't put yourself back into debt by buying

00:09:53.640 the next new dumb thing that you were tempted to buy be smart be intelligent have a nest egg learn how

00:10:00.200 to invest develop a skill that will help you make money not just now but into the future if you're at 0.96

00:10:07.780 work and you're saying you know i'm not going to do that because they don't pay me enough and so you

00:10:11.060 just sit on your haunches and you believe that you can just ride the coattails of what somebody

00:10:15.200 else is doing you're you're not being a man you're you're being a child at best and i'm not saying you

00:10:24.500 have to work for free or you have to do something above and beyond what you've been contracted to do you

00:10:29.020 can make that decision but it's those people who go above and beyond they invest in themselves they

00:10:35.160 get new credentialing or new licensing or new degrees they go to courses they go to conferences

00:10:40.800 they develop new skill sets and then their employers over time and i know it happens in isolated moments

00:10:47.880 where your efforts go unnoticed but you you can't honestly believe that if you do all of the right

00:10:54.940 things when it comes to adding value and being a valuable player on your team if it's an employment

00:11:00.540 in this case that it's going to be overlooked forever you might have an isolated moment because

00:11:05.820 you were in a bad situation but if you do that long enough i promise you you will win i guarantee

00:11:11.960 you will win so let's not play the scarcity of i don't pay me enough or that's above my pay grade

00:11:17.740 yeah maybe it is but don't you want to get to that point and if that's the case then you need to make

00:11:22.740 yourself capable in all ways if if you're listening to this and you're in a public space right now

00:11:29.200 if somebody came in an active shooter situation and started shooting up you and and the people you

00:11:35.420 love and random strangers do you have the skill set to deal with it do you have your firearm on you

00:11:41.740 can't are you trained with it can you make an accurate shot can you get people to safety can you get

00:11:49.620 them out of that environment do you know first aid do you do you know medical life-saving skills if not

00:11:56.360 what are you doing you're a man you it's a it's a profession and i wish more of us looked at it this

00:12:04.020 way it's the profession of being a man and if it's our profession then we should be thinking about ways we

00:12:10.020 can constantly improve make yourself capable and always financially mentally emotionally spiritually

00:12:17.300 physically go work out go train eat correctly feel your body right learn the marketable skills

00:12:24.820 get promotions start businesses learn how to network learn how to train martial arts learn how to

00:12:30.980 use your firearm learn situational awareness learn medical life-saving skills this is our job

00:12:38.500 quite literally our job as men the next guys is you have to keep yourself emotionally regulated

00:12:46.800 your job is to create safety for the individuals around you this is one that i personally struggle

00:12:53.820 with and it's one that i'm constantly working on you know when my sons or daughters say say something

00:12:59.440 that uh you know fires me up or triggers me or or pushes me in in a certain way or triggers me

00:13:06.880 in just the right way where they know how to trigger it's my job to keep myself emotionally regulated now

00:13:12.500 i'm not great at this i'm not saying that i'm great at this i'm saying i'm aware of this as something

00:13:17.720 that i personally need to work on but if you find yourself getting fired up because your boss says

00:13:23.280 something or a client says something or your wife says something in a particular way or your son or your

00:13:29.460 daughter says something that pisses you off and makes you feel disrespected at some point along the line

00:13:35.440 you ought to recognize that there is something that's triggering you that you're probably not

00:13:41.500 even aware of and you need to figure out why that is you can do a lot of work with uh carl young's

00:13:47.240 shadow work um you can do some journaling you can reflect every single day in my case sometimes when i

00:13:54.280 get heated and fired up i just disengage from the situation temporarily maybe i'll go for a walk

00:14:00.460 um or i'll get a breath of fresh air or i'll turn off the electronics and focus on my kids or my

00:14:08.660 girlfriend or maybe in some points i will focus on my business and do something productive and

00:14:14.660 constructive but my job is to regulate my emotions they're not wrong you can be angry

00:14:20.800 you can be afraid you can you can have guilt and sorrow and remorse about your life and you can be

00:14:28.700 joyful you can be happy and you can be playful and you can have fun you can do all of these things

00:14:33.480 but if you just notice yourself as a roller coaster of emotional highs and lows nobody's gonna feel like

00:14:40.880 they can rely on you i know people like this and when they're high they're high and when they're low

00:14:46.380 they're low and i'm telling you right now that those are not people that you can trust and they're not

00:14:51.560 people that others are going to look to in times of turmoil and strife and you're not even going to feel

00:14:57.160 confident in what you can do yourself as roger kipling says in his poem if and i'm paraphrasing

00:15:04.280 because i don't have it memorized but he says that your goal is to keep yourself regulated that you can

00:15:10.700 face defeat in the exact same way that you may face victory and if you can do that you'll be a man

00:15:18.940 my son as roger kipling says next is your job is to help people find solutions to their own problems

00:15:28.720 i have seen so many men get wrapped up in making other people's problems their priority

00:15:35.300 and we should prioritize that to a degree based on who it is if it's your wife or your children or

00:15:43.120 employees or clients then some of their problems are going to be your priority but if it comes at

00:15:49.780 the expense of your own well-being or your ability to do other things that you have responsibilities

00:15:55.140 for that's a problem and by the way every time you rush in like captain america to save people from

00:16:04.000 their problems barring immediate physical danger you're actually hurting them because you're not

00:16:11.660 giving them the benefit of the consequences of poor decision making if my one of my children i have four

00:16:19.400 children i have three sons and a daughter if one of my children makes a mistake at school today

00:16:24.900 and i go in and i rush in and i start chastising the teacher or the principal or the other kid or

00:16:32.400 blame it on any of that and not actually put any responsibility on my own child even though they

00:16:39.260 may have been the ones who created the problem then i'm robbing them of the consequence of their

00:16:44.480 poor decision making process they have to feel the sting and my job is not to create solutions

00:16:51.260 my job is to navigate and coach and to guide and to lead through good question uh good questions and

00:16:59.420 making sure that my children um have the skill set they need to thrive and my clients have the skill

00:17:08.240 set my employees have the skill set i don't want to do all things at all times i don't want to be

00:17:14.000 everything to everybody i want my people to thrive and that means that i need to give them the tools

00:17:21.160 they need my resources are their resources i'm not going to give them the answers but i'm going to

00:17:27.600 give them the resources and then to empower them to let them go to give them a little bit of a leash

00:17:33.860 not enough to hurt themselves or hang themselves with but just enough to maybe feel that choke around

00:17:39.200 their neck a little bit and say that hurts i shouldn't do that anymore right but again as i said

00:17:44.580 earlier your job is to create a safe environment so they can experiment they can try things and they

00:17:50.100 can test and they can see what works and see what doesn't without the risk of imminent danger

00:17:56.680 not keeping them from the consequences of poor decisions but out of danger that's going to empower

00:18:05.180 them to believe in them to support them to edify them to encourage them to uplift them and to help them

00:18:11.480 come up with the problems to their own solutions guys there's a way to handle challenge and it's not

00:18:18.720 the modern version of man where he whines and he whimpers and he complains and he plays victim and he

00:18:26.920 hopes that the government big daddy government or whoever else he's looking to will come in and swoop

00:18:31.320 down from above and rescue him from his problems the problem with that is that if we're so reliant on

00:18:38.220 other people and other institutions then we inevitably subject and enslave ourselves to

00:18:44.200 other institutions and people who would love nothing more than to have power over us

00:18:49.680 in order to face challenges like a man you need to make yourself sovereign physically meaning you're 0.93

00:18:58.440 strong you're bold you're capable you're healthy you're eating right you're fueling your body correctly

00:19:03.480 and you're doing the right things mentally meaning that you're pushing yourself you're learning new

00:19:08.380 skills you're learning new mindsets you're developing your mind and your brain and you're

00:19:12.300 critically thinking and you're problem solving emotionally regulating your emotions not that

00:19:17.740 you can't be angry or sad or glad or mad or happy or in love or hate but that you regulate the emotion

00:19:24.280 to produce effective outcomes whether it's a so-called negative emotion or a positive one and of course

00:19:31.420 making sure that you're connected spiritually that you believe in something bigger than yourself for

00:19:36.900 me it's god that i believe that he has his hand in all of my dealings that he is conspiring for me

00:19:44.360 not against me that i am put on this planet to do something bigger and greater and grander than myself

00:19:50.720 that i'm here to serve that i'm here to take my god-given gifts and talents and abilities and

00:19:56.420 deploy them in a way that effectively serves other people

00:20:01.060 that's our job and it's a rewarding one

00:20:07.540 it's a fulfilling one it's a righteous one

00:20:13.580 i would assume because you're listening to this podcast that as a man

00:20:20.000 you want to be the one that other people look to when it is going wrong

00:20:24.620 when you're in hostile territory

00:20:28.640 when you're in dangerous situations and circumstances

00:20:35.000 when everywhere else they're looking seems dire and dangerous

00:20:42.060 i imagine because you're listening to this podcast you want those people to look

00:20:47.940 to you

00:20:48.860 and if you want those people to look to you you better be capable of being looked to

00:20:58.440 you better be the kind of man who knows it's his job to solve problems

00:21:05.740 you better be the kind of man who's able to anticipate

00:21:12.620 the threats acknowledge them early and do something about it

00:21:17.580 you better be the kind of man who is constantly working to make himself more capable

00:21:24.740 you better be the kind of man who doesn't freak out or flip out or loses cool

00:21:30.460 but who's emotionally regulated

00:21:33.500 who can act the same whether he's heartbroken

00:21:37.060 or he's on the top of his game and he's achieved some great thing

00:21:41.620 that nobody else would know the difference because he's so regulated emotionally

00:21:46.820 and you better find a way to help people solve their own problems

00:21:52.060 empower edify train uplift other people because that's your job

00:21:58.000 if you want to get more specific in this let me know

00:22:02.260 if you want to work with other men who are like this so that some of that can rub off on you

00:22:07.440 and you can learn a little bit more about what me and other men are doing

00:22:10.600 in order to ensure that we as men

00:22:13.120 can face the challenges that we deal with head on

00:22:15.940 then you need to join us inside of our brotherhood

00:22:19.220 now look i'm not telling you to do life alone

00:22:22.280 i don't think that's helpful either

00:22:24.860 i think it's actually a hindrance

00:22:26.700 to your ability to protect provide and preside

00:22:29.740 i think you need to band with other men

00:22:32.720 you can't put it all on your wife you can't put it all on your kids 0.92

00:22:36.460 you can't put it all on anybody else but having good men in your corner 0.95

00:22:39.620 who you can actually talk with not to whine and bitch and moan and complain 1.00

00:22:42.960 but to actually have real conversations

00:22:45.800 with the anticipation that you're going to find

00:22:48.600 answers and insight and ideas

00:22:51.480 then join us in the iron council

00:22:54.300 that's our private brotherhood

00:22:57.040 we work together every single day

00:22:59.540 in fact i had three or four maybe even four conversations today with iron council members

00:23:04.960 and we're talking about various things from

00:23:07.360 one of them going through a divorce

00:23:09.360 one of them dealing with financial hardship

00:23:11.100 one of them starting a business

00:23:12.620 in fact i'm working with a close personal friend of mine right now

00:23:16.000 he and his son are starting a

00:23:18.040 brand new podcast called manhood understood

00:23:21.160 i'm working with them

00:23:22.540 this is the kind of resource that you're going to get inside of our private brotherhood and community

00:23:26.500 the iron council

00:23:27.300 we're open right now

00:23:28.840 and i would love for you to band with us

00:23:31.680 and be part of the brotherhood to protect

00:23:33.460 provide preside and to restore and reclaim

00:23:35.560 what it means to be a man

00:23:36.960 check it out

00:23:37.480 order of man.com

00:23:38.680 slash iron council

00:23:39.680 but at the end of the day

00:23:40.780 if you join us or not

00:23:42.240 your job is to face challenge

00:23:44.660 like a man

00:23:45.680 hopefully these points helped you

00:23:47.560 and if i missed anything

00:23:48.900 or you have additional insight

00:23:50.480 hit me up

00:23:51.140 on instagram

00:23:52.520 is where i'm typically most active

00:23:54.420 at ryan mickler

00:23:56.560 and let's keep the conversation rolling

00:23:59.200 guys we got a great great conversation coming out next week

00:24:03.060 with the new york times best-selling author jack carr

00:24:05.900 i did a podcast with him this morning

00:24:08.140 and i think you're going to love

00:24:10.020 that conversation

00:24:11.060 so if you haven't already

00:24:12.440 subscribe to the order man podcast

00:24:14.100 on spotify

00:24:15.100 or apple podcast

00:24:16.340 or wherever you're doing your thing

00:24:17.500 and one last ask

00:24:19.240 outside of the iron council

00:24:20.580 make sure if you would

00:24:22.220 just take a screenshot real quick

00:24:23.720 this is a grassroots movement

00:24:25.140 i put very very little dollars

00:24:27.960 into ad spends on facebook

00:24:30.460 and instagram

00:24:31.760 and social media

00:24:32.700 not that i don't think they can work

00:24:34.000 but i think it's better

00:24:35.080 if we grow this as a grassroots movement

00:24:37.100 and that means that i need you to take a screenshot

00:24:39.480 tag me

00:24:41.000 send it to a friend

00:24:42.320 send it to your brother or family member

00:24:44.080 tell them hey this is a good podcast

00:24:45.960 you ought to listen to it

00:24:46.920 and invite them into the fold

00:24:48.580 to reclaim and restore masculinity

00:24:49.960 that's my ask of you

00:24:51.100 and if you've ever received any value

00:24:52.880 from what we're doing here

00:24:53.820 that would mean a lot to me

00:24:55.520 all right guys

00:24:56.340 we'll be back next week with jack

00:24:57.780 until then have a great weekend

00:24:59.420 go out there

00:25:00.020 take action

00:25:00.740 face challenges like a man

00:25:02.540 and become a man you

00:25:03.940 are meant to be

00:25:05.000 thank you for listening to the order of man podcast

00:25:12.480 you're ready to take charge of your life

00:25:14.640 and be more of the man you were meant to be

00:25:16.700 we invite you to join the order

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Order of Man - October 03, 2025

Meet Challenges Like a Man ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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