Order of Man - Navigating Uncharted Territory ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:04.960 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.380 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.060 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.600 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.

00:00:27.340 I'm the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. My job is to interview

00:00:33.060 incredible men, have this podcast, have these conversations, ask good questions, get good

00:00:38.580 answers, and hopefully we can take the lessons that we've learned from guys like Tim Tebow,

00:00:45.540 Jocko, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisilla, Terry Crews, Matthew McConaughey. I mean, the guys that we've

00:00:54.420 had on the podcast are phenomenal, but it's my goal to take their wisdom, their information,

00:00:59.580 impart that so that we can implement that in our lives and work on becoming more effective

00:01:05.460 husbands, fathers, business owners, community leaders, just men in general, because Lord knows

00:01:09.960 that we need more men in this society probably now more than ever. So hopefully we're doing our

00:01:16.280 part to do that. If you're new, welcome. If you've been with us for any amount of time, welcome.

00:01:20.260 This is your Friday field notes. I've got some thoughts today on navigating uncharted territory.

00:01:26.040 This is something that we're all going to face is dealing with obstacles and hardships, whether

00:01:30.920 it's divorce or getting laid off from a job or having financial issues or dealing with a medical

00:01:37.900 condition or a bankruptcy or a lawsuit or whatever. You guys have experienced hardship. I've experienced

00:01:45.340 hardship. Some of it is by our undoing. Some of it is outside of our control, but whatever

00:01:50.360 it is, we as men need to learn how to navigate uncharted territory because we're going to face

00:01:55.540 it. And when we face it, people are going to be looking at us literally and figuratively

00:02:00.100 to try to figure out how to get us through these burdensome times. So we're going to talk

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00:03:12.020 guys, let's talk about navigating uncharted territory. Again, all of us are going to deal

00:03:17.540 with it. All of us are going to face it. We've got to find a way to get through these very

00:03:22.320 challenging and demanding times, not only for us, but for our families as well, because as

00:03:27.720 a leader of, of, as a man and a leader in general, people are going to look to you. They're

00:03:33.120 going to, they're going to decide whether or not you can lead them. They're going to decide whether

00:03:37.820 or not you can get them past whatever it is that they might be dealing with. And if you can't,

00:03:42.180 then you're not going to have the influence that you desire with them. And you're not going to be

00:03:45.400 able to lead them to better places effectively. So I'm going to get right into it because I have

00:03:49.780 quite a few points here. I have eight points that I want to share with you today that are going to

00:03:53.300 help you navigate uncharted territory. Should you find yourself in it? Number one is, I think it's

00:03:58.880 really important that we look at life as an adventure. All right. We only live here on this

00:04:04.660 planet for a very, very short period of time, 80 years, 90 years. If we're lucky, maybe it's going

00:04:10.860 to be more and we'll turn into cyborgs or we'll be able to download memories and all that kind of

00:04:15.560 stuff. But as it stands right now, we have about 80 years on this planet. And that might seem like a

00:04:22.320 lot. But as a 42-year-old man, I'm more than halfway through my life, my expected life right

00:04:27.880 now. And I don't feel like it. I don't feel like it's been that long. But what I've noticed is that

00:04:34.560 I put so much weight and emphasis on things that I should not put weight and emphasis on. There's been

00:04:40.220 times in my life that have been very challenging and demanding and even hard to deal with that

00:04:47.300 looking back on it now, really in the grand scheme of things, weren't really all that difficult.

00:04:52.320 And I think you could attest to that. I think there's been times in your life where you felt

00:04:56.060 like that your life was over, that the earth would stop spinning. And guess what? It keeps going.

00:05:02.260 It keeps moving. People keep growing and falling back and having hardship and overcoming it. And so

00:05:09.000 do you. But I think if we look at life as more of an adventure, we're going to give ourselves

00:05:14.240 permission to have fun. We're going to give ourselves permission to fail. We're going to give

00:05:18.820 ourselves permission to even explore what we might be able to do in our lives as a result of the

00:05:26.520 hardship that we're dealing with. It's not the end of the world, whatever you're dealing with.

00:05:30.760 And look, I don't want to be dismissive of what you're focused on right now because it might be

00:05:34.880 more challenging than what I or somebody else might be going through. But if you look at it as an

00:05:39.080 adventure, these are opportunities to grow. They're opportunities to improve and they're

00:05:42.860 opportunities to get stronger and better than you were before. Let's maybe not put so much weight on

00:05:48.460 every aspect and element of life and let's lighten the load. That's not to say we shirk our

00:05:53.820 responsibilities and duties, but that we look at life as an opportunity to try new things,

00:05:58.960 experiment with things that we've never tried before that might work differently or produce a

00:06:04.520 different result than we've ever experienced. Guys, look at life as an adventure, even the hardship.

00:06:09.340 And isn't that so challenging to do when you're faced with financial difficulties, relational issues

00:06:15.980 to look at it as an adventure, that something good might actually come of this, that you might

00:06:21.460 learn something new, that you might find a talent or a skillset or an interest that you've never

00:06:27.280 explored before. Yes, you can. And you should. Number two is we need to realize that there are going

00:06:33.940 to be setbacks in our lives. Now, most of you will say that. Most of you will acknowledge that to some

00:06:39.620 degree, that there's going to be a setback in your life, but there's going to be challenges. There's

00:06:44.200 going to be issues. There's going to be things that you need to deal with. But if you acknowledge that,

00:06:48.340 then why is it that we're so caught off guard when these things happen? It's because we might've said

00:06:53.160 that we acknowledge that there's going to be setbacks, but we haven't really embraced the idea

00:06:58.660 that we never know what's going to happen to us on a daily basis. I woke up this morning. My little

00:07:04.820 guy, my seven-year-old had snuck in bed with me last night. So I woke up and he was there just

00:07:10.240 staring at me. That kind of creeped me out at first. But when I woke up, I had this little human

00:07:16.360 sleeping right next to me who was so excited to be there. I had this, I woke up with the technology

00:07:24.220 and the alarm that went off. I went out into the living room and my kids started waking up and

00:07:28.800 stirring and they came out and we got to talk. I had a great conversation with men inside of our

00:07:34.040 brotherhood, the iron council, with so many wonderful things happened. And it was, it's been a good

00:07:40.580 morning, but I don't know what's going to happen this afternoon. There might be, I might get a call

00:07:45.940 that of bad news, something happened to one of my children. I might get in a car accident.

00:07:51.460 I might get sued. I might realize that there's some, I just had some blood work done for a routine

00:07:58.820 annual physical. I might find that I've got some markers of an underlying medical issue that I need

00:08:05.100 to deal with. Like there's things that we're going to need to deal with. And the more that we're willing

00:08:10.060 to acknowledge that the moments that we have, the good moments are temporary blessings. And that's not

00:08:17.040 to be a doomsday or just, or be rain on anybody's parade. But the moments that we realize that we

00:08:23.600 have that are positive and they're just moments in time, the more that we'll be equipped to be able

00:08:28.520 to deal with the inevitable hardship that comes up. Guys, there's going to be setbacks. Like don't

00:08:33.980 believe for a second, although I do all the time. And so do other people that whatever happens bad to

00:08:39.660 other people, isn't going to happen to you. Okay. You're going to go through relational issues.

00:08:44.640 You might be, find yourself separated. You might find yourself in a divorce. You might find yourself

00:08:50.280 being sued. You might find yourself without any money to be able to pay your bills. You might find

00:08:57.240 yourself at the tail end or the receiving end of a cancer diagnosis. Like these are all things that

00:09:01.860 could happen. If we acknowledge and recognize that they might happen to us, number one, we can prepare

00:09:07.420 mentally, emotionally, and even physically for these things. But also we can be more grateful for the

00:09:12.980 positive, encouraging, and exciting moments that we actually have in life. It's really important.

00:09:18.160 Number three, and this goes in line with number two of realizing there's going to be setbacks.

00:09:22.400 If you recognize that there are setbacks in life, then you can build in contingency plans.

00:09:28.460 So for example, if you're willing to acknowledge and recognize that you might not always have the

00:09:34.020 income that you have today, then I think you're going to be able to build in the contingency plan of

00:09:38.660 not getting yourself into debt. You can't manage to learn how to build wealth and make money and

00:09:45.400 increase your annual income in a way that maybe you didn't before. If you realize that you might

00:09:51.620 be on the receiving end of a medical diagnosis, then maybe that's going to cause you to have one

00:09:57.480 less donut today, or maybe to take your vitamins, or maybe to go into the gym when your alarm goes off

00:10:03.540 and you don't want to. Now that's not to say that if you go into the gym and you eat right and you do

00:10:08.100 all the things correctly, that you can't get cancer or something like that. Certainly not saying that.

00:10:12.740 I just saw something on Instagram from somebody we follow who had a life-threatening medical

00:10:17.480 condition. And this is a gentleman who took very, very good care of himself physically.

00:10:22.960 I don't know about the mentally and emotionally. I don't know that side, so I can't speak to that.

00:10:26.780 Physically, he was a specimen. Jack, shredded, lean, strong, muscular, athletic, clearly took care

00:10:34.300 of himself and yet was in a medical complication from a surgery that he had. And these things are

00:10:41.820 going to come up. So I'm not saying that by taking care of yourself, all of the risk goes away. No,

00:10:46.320 I'm just saying we hedge against it. And then we build in contingency plans. What would happen if I

00:10:52.480 lost my job today? Would I be okay? Would I be okay for three months? Would I be okay for six

00:10:57.700 months? How about 12 months? Would I be okay? If not, then I probably ought to look at what

00:11:03.200 contingency plans I need to build in right now. Number one, I could save more money. I could put

00:11:08.140 more money aside. Number two, I could pay off debt. So that wasn't looming over me. Number three,

00:11:12.380 I could build out my network so that if I lost my job, I could go to a thousand different places and

00:11:16.360 find a job almost overnight. I could do that because I built out a network. These are contingency plans.

00:11:21.640 Guys, things are going to go wrong. Be aware of them. Number four is let's start looking at life

00:11:26.260 as more of a long-term perspective. Now, I know I told you in point number one that life is short.

00:11:32.560 It is short, but also we tend to look at things in the micro moment. Like what is happening right now?

00:11:40.760 So your wife said she wants a separation or divorce. Okay. I came face-to-face with that about a year ago.

00:11:48.740 Okay. That was a very difficult thing to deal with. And it has been a difficult thing to deal

00:11:54.740 with over the past year. And if I looked at it just in the moment, and that's all I focused on,

00:12:00.220 it would be easy to be disheartened. It would be easy to be depressed. It would be easy to be even

00:12:05.300 suicidal if I looked at it just in that moment. But if I take a step back and another and another and

00:12:12.620 another step back, I began to see my life on this timeline of 80 years, or in my case,

00:12:17.800 40 additional years. And I realized that the last 12 months, although painful and difficult to deal

00:12:22.620 with, are one of 40 more years on this rock. And what I do in this moment, I can either blow up the

00:12:32.080 next 40 years through my behavior. I can keep drinking. I can go out and womanizing. I could go

00:12:38.820 out and self-destruct. I could fall apart. I could get myself fat. I could just completely

00:12:44.120 destroy myself and ruin 40 years, the next 40 years of my life. Or I could take a step back and

00:12:52.620 say, you know what? I'm dealing with this difficult circumstance. But I realize even now in the

00:12:56.980 difficulty that this is just a moment in time. And the way that I respond to this is going to

00:13:02.160 largely influence and impact what the next 40 years are going to be like. Do I want to feel

00:13:08.640 this way for 40 years? No. And so I better figure it out so that I can have an enjoyable, fulfilling,

00:13:17.360 rewarding, influential, supportive, serving 40 years moving forward. Guys, I don't care if you're

00:13:24.620 dealing with medical issues, divorce or separation, financial hardship. The sun will come up and it'll

00:13:34.260 come up sooner if you do the right things now. All right. Number five, I'm stealing a page from

00:13:40.820 the playbook of Jocko's book here. Detach yourself from the situation. So now when we're looking at the

00:13:45.760 long-term perspective, it's hard to do because you're so emotionally flooded with negative emotions

00:13:49.740 or the so-called negative emotions, guilt, shame, remorse, sorrow, sadness, emptiness, loneliness,

00:13:59.420 bitterness, anger, frustration, confusion. These are all emotions and more that I have experienced

00:14:07.960 over the past 12 months in droves, more so than I'd like. And in these moments where these emotions

00:14:14.460 are flooding us and they're overwhelming us and it's difficult to deal with,

00:14:18.360 we tend to make poor decisions. We make decisions in the micro. We make poor decisions. We're not

00:14:25.880 rational. We're not thinking clearly. We're not because we're so flooded by emotion. And by the

00:14:31.980 way, emotions aren't the enemy, but if they're causing you to do dumb things, then it's not the

00:14:35.380 emotion. It's your reaction and response to it. But what I would suggest to you is that as a human

00:14:40.340 being, this is really cool, so pay attention to this one, as a human being, a sentient creature,

00:14:48.760 a conscious entity, you can choose to be different. Not because there's some threat against your life,

00:14:58.500 like maybe another animal in the animal kingdom. They'll change their behavior based on existential

00:15:06.360 threats. We'll change our behavior on existential threats, but we don't have to wait to change our

00:15:12.220 behavior for some sort of threat like that to occur. You could make a decision right now to change

00:15:18.360 just because you want to. You could say, I'm no longer going to eat donuts. Even though you really

00:15:24.600 like donuts, you can make the decision to say, I'm not going to eat donuts anymore. Just because

00:15:29.100 you could make a decision that I'm going to start being an asshole. I don't recommend that,

00:15:33.800 but I'm going to start being an asshole to people just because. Like no rhyme or reason to it,

00:15:38.620 just because. But that's really powerful because when you know that you can change your behavior

00:15:44.040 just because you want to, then what you can also do is detach yourself from the situation. This is

00:15:50.740 what we would call an element of consciousness. So you can almost take yourself out of the situation

00:15:56.820 you found yourself in and say, what would a different person do? What would somebody who I look up to

00:16:03.600 do? What would the ideal version of myself do in this situation? How would he handle himself?

00:16:11.560 How would he behave? You can extract and isolate yourself from the moment. Why is this important?

00:16:17.620 Because when you extract yourself from the moment or you put yourself in someone else's shoes,

00:16:22.480 then you're no longer attached to the emotions that might be clouding your decision-making process.

00:16:27.620 So one exercise I often tell people when they have questions is what would you tell somebody else

00:16:34.500 who was going through this situation to do? What advice would you give to that guy who was dealing

00:16:41.000 with the divorce or the bankruptcy or the loss of a job or a medical condition? What would you tell

00:16:47.480 that person to do? That's detachment because now you're looking at it from a different angle

00:16:52.660 without the emotional baggage that comes with actually having to deal with the consequences

00:16:56.940 of your own behavior in your own life. And that's a powerful exercise because you're giving yourself

00:17:02.520 perspective, right? We've all seen the pictures where I think it's a number on the ground and there's

00:17:11.860 two men and two men are looking at this number, one from one side of the number and one from the other

00:17:17.400 side of the number on the ground. And one guy says, well, that's a six. And the other guy looks at it and

00:17:22.360 says, well, that's a nine. And they're both so adamant about what they believe. And they're both

00:17:26.540 so adamant that the other person is wrong. Well, who's right and who's wrong? Neither of them are

00:17:31.200 right or wrong. It just depends on the vantage point from which we're looking. But if you can look

00:17:35.560 at it from a different perspective and see that neither of them are right or wrong, because you're

00:17:39.000 looking at it from an elevated position, you can see that could be a six or a nine. And I could see how

00:17:43.460 it would be either based on their circumstances and how they're situated in relation to the number.

00:17:48.640 Detachment is really, really powerful. There's some other ways to do that from detached from the

00:17:55.000 situation. And this gets into number six is building trusted advisors around yourself. Because again,

00:18:00.660 you're so emotionally vested and wrapped up in the baggage of what you're going through that you can't

00:18:05.320 see things clearly, but you can give yourself a different perspective. If you have other advisors

00:18:11.180 and brothers and people around you who are letting you see things in a way that you cannot possibly see

00:18:16.700 for yourself, you just can't see it. If you're looking at that number and it's right side up,

00:18:22.800 it's going to look like a six or a nine to you. And you can't possibly see how it might look like

00:18:28.840 something to somebody else, unless you know what that perspective is. And the best way to do it

00:18:34.520 is to have a trusted advisor, have people in your corner, have people that you're willing to open up to,

00:18:41.120 have people that are willing to open up to you. And I'll tell you one way you can do this

00:18:45.480 is by starting. What I mean is by going first. So you've got, you've got friendships.

00:18:51.020 Most everybody listed in this podcast has, has, has men in their corner. It could be a brother,

00:18:55.120 your father, or a cousin, or a neighbor, or a colleague, or a coworker, or a friend,

00:18:59.020 but you have somebody in your corner. You have somebody you trust. You have somebody who you're

00:19:03.060 friends with. But if you're anything like me, a lot of those conversations were very surface level

00:19:07.300 type conversations. Tell me, tell me all the things that are going wonderful in your life. And then

00:19:13.140 we'll compare. Oh, well, you know, you got a raise. Well, I got a raise that was bigger than yours.

00:19:17.760 Oh, your relationship is going great. Yeah. Ours is going great. You went on that vacation. We went

00:19:21.380 to this better place than you went. And so all of our conversations with other men are focused on

00:19:26.280 what's going wonderful in our life at the, at the expense or it's not even expense, but just,

00:19:32.680 we're not, we're not telling the entire truth. You might be locked in with regards to your

00:19:37.260 relationship, but how's your spiritual wellbeing? You might be locked in with your spiritual

00:19:41.360 wellbeing, but how's your fitness? Have you told anybody what you're dealing with from a medical

00:19:46.600 perspective? Have you told anybody that you and your wife are struggling? Have you told anybody

00:19:49.980 that you're having financial hardship? Now, look, I said, trusted advisors, because I don't, I don't,

00:19:55.380 I wouldn't encourage you to go, you know, blast this out to anyone and everyone, especially those

00:19:59.260 who don't have your best interest at heart, but man, don't you have a team? How do you do this?

00:20:03.400 Go first. The guy that you're closest with, did you just talk about how the Red Sox are playing or,

00:20:08.400 or what your favorite team is doing or what the weather's like? Why don't you talk to him about

00:20:12.780 something real? Say, Hey Joe, you know, let's go to lunch, go to lunch with him and say, Hey, look,

00:20:18.760 I know we're usually talking about the game, but man, I wanted to share something with you. Cause

00:20:22.300 I'd really been struggling with my relationship lately. And here's what I'm struggling with.

00:20:26.120 What do you think of that? Joe's going to do one of two things. He's going to give you some input

00:20:30.720 and advice and let you know that he's there in your corner, or he's going to blow it off and brush it

00:20:35.400 off. And in that case, if he brushes it off, you know, you might have somebody who's just

00:20:38.420 a friend on the golf course and that's it. Or you might find that Joe is deeply interested in

00:20:43.720 the real version of your story and that you can be interested in the real version of his story.

00:20:50.360 And you guys can actually support each other. Maybe he says to you, Hey man, the reason why you're

00:20:55.160 having a hard time with your, your wife is because I see the way you interact with other women. And 1.00

00:20:59.120 that's not good, but you're more interested in other women than you are with your wife.

00:21:03.920 Or he might say, yeah, you know, I get that. I had a hard time in my relationship too,

00:21:08.100 until I started putting my priorities where they belonged. And, uh, and, and I stopped working

00:21:13.100 so much and I started engaging with my family more. And that seemed to change things around.

00:21:17.120 This is the power of having men and trusted advisors in your corner, that they can give you

00:21:20.660 a perspective that you can't possibly see for yourself. Utilize it. Number seven, I talk about this a lot,

00:21:25.900 guys, is we need to evaluate our choices. We don't do this enough. We make our choices and

00:21:30.620 then we just etch them in stone. And then we don't think anything of them. You heard from somebody

00:21:34.440 you're supposed to do that workout. Good. I'm going to do that workout. Do it regardless of

00:21:38.040 whether or not it's the workout for you. You follow me or other people on social media. And you think,

00:21:42.400 well, you know, Ryan does jujitsu. Ryan hunts. Ryan does this. This person does that. Jocko does this.

00:21:48.620 And Ed Milet does that. Andy Frisilla does this. Okay. So you do that. And then it's like

00:21:53.840 you're leaning your ladder against the wrong wall. When you're walking up the ladder,

00:21:58.220 you're exerting your energy, but you realize, man, the wall that I'm climbing isn't one I'm

00:22:01.540 interested in climbing. Let's evaluate our choices. Let's evaluate the work that we're

00:22:05.920 doing. Is it really producing the results? And then also while we're doing that is you can

00:22:09.420 celebrate your growth. So you're in this hardship, this challenging time. You're navigating uncharted

00:22:13.980 territory. It's scary. And there's waves and there's the currents and there's things you're not aware

00:22:18.540 of. And it's just so difficult for you to deal with. And yet in the midst of everything that's

00:22:23.340 going on, you're becoming better. If we're using the analogy of uncharted territory and you're on

00:22:27.560 the sea and you're sailing into waters that have never been explored before, what you can do is

00:22:32.940 realize that you're becoming a better sailor. You're learning how to navigate more effectively.

00:22:37.400 You're learning how to weather the storm. You're learning how to read currents and to read the

00:22:43.260 weather so that you can anticipate storms that might derail you, might sink you. You're getting

00:22:48.560 better. You're improving. It's painful. It's hard. It's difficult. You don't want to deal

00:22:53.220 with it, but you're getting better. And so we need to evaluate our choices. Did what

00:22:57.660 I just did implement or that I just implemented, did it work? Did it improve my life? Did it

00:23:03.780 improve performance or did it hinder results or did it keep them the same? And because of

00:23:09.520 that, as a result of that, did I get better? Did I improve? No, I got worse. Okay. Like,

00:23:15.200 wouldn't you want to know that as soon as possible? So you can reevaluate and go back to

00:23:19.180 the drawing board and then re-engage in a more meaningful and productive way. So evaluate

00:23:23.500 those choices. And then the last, and I think this is really important, especially if you're

00:23:28.100 depressed, you're anxious, you're frustrated, you're depressed, maybe even suicidal. Maybe

00:23:33.080 you're dealing with something that you don't think you can get over. Like all seems lost.

00:23:38.220 Total despair. All is not lost guys. Here's the point I'd make is that you can draw on past

00:23:44.100 experiences. I don't know how old you are. Maybe you're 20, maybe you're 30. Maybe you're like me,

00:23:48.240 and you're 42. Maybe you're older. Maybe you're 65, 70 years old. And you're listening to this

00:23:51.480 podcast. You're alive. Maybe you're even 15, 16 years old. And we do have 16 year old listeners

00:23:57.300 and younger probably. You're alive. You've gone through hard things before. You've gone through

00:24:03.040 bankruptcies. You've gone through economic turmoil. You've dealt with the economic fallout of world wars

00:24:10.040 potentially. You've had a broken heart. You've had financial difficulty. You've been laid off from

00:24:16.020 the job. You've been dumped. You've gone through all of that. And you're still here. You're still

00:24:21.460 kicking. You're still fighting. You're still clawing your way through this thing that we call life.

00:24:28.220 Why? Because you're resilient and you're tough and you're capable of evolving and growing and getting

00:24:36.500 better and improving. You're capable of overcoming hardship. You are. You wouldn't be here if that

00:24:41.660 weren't the case. And by the way, you're bred of some of these strongest, most capable human beings

00:24:47.060 to ever walk the planet. If that weren't the case, they wouldn't have been alive to procreate and have

00:24:53.980 you. But they were tough and they were resilient and they were resourceful, which means that you were

00:24:59.780 tough and resilient and resourceful. And you have been in the past. People often say, you should never

00:25:05.980 look behind. Always moving forward. Always marching forward. Never look behind. I don't agree with that.

00:25:09.820 If you're driving down the road, you have a rear view mirror for the reason. You got to look what's

00:25:13.920 behind you relative to what's in front of you. So every once in a while, you look in that rear view

00:25:17.820 mirror and you check. And I think it's okay to look in the rear view mirror and realize that, you know

00:25:21.000 what? Holy shit. Like here I am in this situation. But two years ago, I overcame that bankruptcy.

00:25:25.800 Here I am in this difficult situation with my bride. And yet five, 10 years ago, I was in this

00:25:30.820 situation before and I got through it. Okay. We got through it. Okay. You've done it before. You can do it

00:25:37.020 again. And even if you haven't done the exact thing that you're dealing with right now, you still have

00:25:41.440 the skillset that's very transferable to whatever it is you're dealing with. So use it, honor yourself,

00:25:48.100 recognize and acknowledge the good that you've done. It's easy to look at the bad that you don't

00:25:52.660 have to worry about that. You're going to do that by default. Look at the good too. You've done a lot

00:25:56.760 of good in the world and you have a lot of work to do. So guys, I hope this helps navigating

00:26:01.360 uncharted territory. If you have some specific examples of implementing these things

00:26:05.180 or specific examples of what you might be dealing with, let me know. Shoot me a message. I'm very

00:26:10.240 active on Instagram mostly or Facebook, Twitter, but Instagram mostly. You can email me even if you

00:26:16.420 wanted to, but let me know how it's going. And by the way, take a screenshot and share this on social

00:26:21.340 media. Tag me, Order of Man and Ryan Michler. Tag both so I can see it and I'll share it on my end.

00:26:26.480 I do a good job of sharing that. And then also just send a text to somebody. Just hit the share button

00:26:31.340 wherever you're listening to this right now and share it with somebody who needs to hear it. This is

00:26:34.220 important stuff, guys. There's a lot of navigating of uncharted territory that we need to deal with.

00:26:39.360 So let's recap. Number one, look at life as an adventure. Number two, realize that you're going

00:26:43.520 to have setbacks. Anticipate those setbacks. Number three, build in contingency plans. There we go.

00:26:50.260 Number four, look at it with a long-term perspective. Number five, detach yourself from the situation.

00:26:55.260 Number six, look for trusted advisors. Seven, evaluate your choices and celebrate growth. And then number

00:27:00.540 eight, draw upon past experiences. Guys, if you want to learn how to do this more effectively,

00:27:04.940 I would encourage you to check out our Battle Ready program where we talk a lot about these things and

00:27:09.300 coming up with a battle plan that's going to help you navigate uncharted territory, anticipate these

00:27:13.880 things, and overcome the obstacles and hardships of life. You can check that out at orderofman.com

00:27:18.760 slash battle ready. All right, guys. We'll be back next week. We've got a really good conversation

00:27:23.780 with my good friend, John Lovell with Warrior Poet Society Network and the importance of men

00:27:27.820 in society today. So make sure you subscribe, leave a rating review, share this, get the Battle

00:27:33.080 Ready program, and we'll be back next week. Until then, go out there, take action, and become the man

00:27:38.720 you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast. If you're ready to take

00:27:43.760 charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be, we invite you to join the order

00:27:48.360 at orderofman.com.

00:27:53.780 Thank you.

Order of Man - July 07, 2023

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