Order of Man - June 05, 2015


OoM 012： 8 Skill Sets Every Man Must Master


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In this episode, my son joins me to discuss what it means to be a man and the 8 skills every man must master in order to become a better man. He also gives some funny examples of what a man should do when faced with a manly example.

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00:00:00.000 I've had a lot of conversations over the past several months about what it means to be a man,
00:00:03.520 and I've heard a variety of answers from the clothes that we wear, to the cars we drive,
00:00:07.300 to the women we date, and also the virtues that we adhere to as men. So in an attempt to bring
00:00:12.540 some clarity to the conversation and help you earn more, live a more fulfilled life, and be a man,
00:00:17.700 I've narrowed it down to eight skill sets every man must learn to master.
00:00:22.140 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly charge
00:00:27.060 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time. You are not
00:00:32.960 easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who you are.
00:00:40.080 This is who you will become at the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself
00:00:45.940 a man. Welcome back to the Order of Man podcast. As always, I'm glad that you're listening today.
00:00:52.460 I'm going to be mixing things up a bit. First, I want to have a conversation with you about what
00:00:56.360 it means to be a man. As I mentioned in the introduction, I've had and heard a lot of different
00:01:00.940 ideas of what it means to be a man, and after hundreds of conversations with some of the world's
00:01:05.100 most successful men, I've been able to narrow it down to eight skill sets that I believe every man
00:01:11.000 must master in order to call himself a man in today's society. But before I get into that,
00:01:15.920 I do want to encourage you to stick around after that conversation because I have a very special
00:01:21.020 guest on today, it's my son. Now, he's been on a previous podcast that he did, and he knows that
00:01:27.400 I've been doing this podcast for the last several months, and so he asked me if he could be on this
00:01:31.780 show. And my thought is that this project is all about helping men become better men, and what better
00:01:36.560 time to start learning than at seven years old. So you'll hear that conversation with my son about
00:01:41.680 what it means to be a man in a bit. He gives some pretty funny examples, and he also rats me out on
00:01:46.860 one of my less than stellar manly examples to him. So before we get into that, I want to remind you
00:01:53.100 that you can find all the links, the notes, the resources to this show at orderofman.com
00:01:57.780 slash 012. Now let's get into the eight skill sets that every man must master. And before I
00:02:05.940 get into this, I want you to know that you don't need to necessarily be a master at these eight skill
00:02:10.780 sets, but they're things that you need to be working on. You need to be striving to improve. You need to be
00:02:15.240 striving to better yourself on. And the very first one, and by the way, these are not necessarily
00:02:20.760 in order, but I think the first one is perhaps and arguably the most important skill set that you as
00:02:28.280 a man can develop to help you get ahead in life, to help you accomplish the things that you want to
00:02:32.540 accomplish. And the very first skill set that I'm talking about is relationships. Now it could be a
00:02:38.060 relationship with a higher power. It could be a relationship with your family or friends or
00:02:42.720 colleagues, coworkers, you name it, but you've got to learn to be better in your relationships.
00:02:48.660 You've got to build powerful relationships with friends and family and coworkers. It's necessary
00:02:54.460 to achieve any level of success. There's not a man out there who got to any measure of success
00:03:01.200 without some help along the way. And finding friends and finding people that you can surround
00:03:06.100 yourself with that will help you accomplish those goals is absolutely paramount to your success. And
00:03:12.700 not only all about your success, but it's also about the success of the people around you. So
00:03:17.100 you've got to find a way to resonate with people, to build influence with people, to learn how to
00:03:22.720 communicate with those who you want to communicate with, because relationships are a very, very powerful
00:03:28.760 tool in a man's arsenal to accomplish the things that he's setting out to do. The next thing that I want
00:03:34.580 to talk about, number two on this skillset list is intellect. I think intellect is sometimes maybe
00:03:40.960 one of the harder ones because it requires time. It requires effort. It requires humility. And I know
00:03:47.160 as a man that humility is not necessarily one of my strong suits. And I think as guys, we tend to
00:03:52.340 believe a lot of the times that we have it all figured out or we know it all. But the minute that
00:03:56.520 you start to believe that, the minute you start to believe that you know it all, and there's nothing
00:04:00.260 that can be learned about a particular subject is the minute that you actually start falling behind
00:04:05.200 because there's people coming up behind you that are continually learning, putting themselves out
00:04:10.180 there. Now, the best thing about learning is that information is so readily available. I mean,
00:04:16.920 we've literally got it at the palm of our hands and our cell phones and access to the internet and our
00:04:21.240 computers and all of our devices that we use, we've got access to something out there. Now,
00:04:26.100 I don't have it all figured out. You don't have it all figured out. There's not a person out there
00:04:30.500 that has everything figured out. But what we can do is we can find resources and we can find other
00:04:35.700 men and other people who have figured it out in a certain topic. For example, mentorship. We talked
00:04:41.860 a lot about, and I think it was orderaman.com slash 011. Last week, we talked about finding mentors
00:04:48.320 and finding those in your life who can help you get to where you want to be. So intellect is a skill
00:04:53.880 set that every man must learn to develop if he hopes to have any chance of getting ahead in this
00:04:59.420 life. Now, the next skill set that I want to talk about is that of leadership. Now, at some point in
00:05:05.560 your life, if you have not been already, you will be called upon as a leader. It could be in your
00:05:10.340 business or your family or your community and your level of preparation to lead will determine the
00:05:17.480 success of those that you are leading. People will turn to you and your ability to influence at
00:05:23.720 that time, at that point, is really what's going to help you get to where you want and help those
00:05:30.680 around you get to somewhere that they thought or did not believe that they could get to on their own.
00:05:37.280 Now, on the podcast that can be found, I think it was our sixth podcast, so orderaman.com slash 006,
00:05:44.940 I talk with a guest about how to build influence and what that word influence means when it comes to
00:05:51.160 leading. Now, I think a lot of the times when people hear the word influence, we think of control
00:05:55.640 or power over somebody, and that's not what I'm talking about. What I'm talking about is respect,
00:06:01.460 earning the respect of those around you so that they look to you as a leader. They look to you as
00:06:06.280 someone who can take them somewhere that they thought maybe they couldn't have gone on their own.
00:06:11.400 So be sure to tune in to orderaman.com slash 006. Again, that talks all about influence and
00:06:17.260 leadership. Now, the fourth skill set that I want to address is manly skills. Now, what do I mean when
00:06:23.520 I talk about manly skills? Of course, there's the element of changing the oil on your car or throwing
00:06:29.420 a baseball or learning to use the tools around your shop. And while that's important, that's not
00:06:33.820 all that I'm talking about. What I'm talking about is resourcefulness. I'm talking about using the tools
00:06:41.320 and using the resources around you to be able to accomplish what you need to accomplish. Again,
00:06:47.060 you may find yourself in a situation where you will have to either get out of a sticky situation or
00:06:52.900 try to get into a position you want to be in using only the tools and resources available within your
00:06:58.680 grasp and your ability to be able to manipulate and use those tools and use those resources as what's
00:07:05.160 going to spell the difference between failure and success. Now, the person who comes to mind,
00:07:09.680 one of the probably the most manly men that you can think of is MacGyver. And if you know anything
00:07:14.220 about MacGyver, he could use a match and a shoestring to get out of any situation there was or create a
00:07:20.140 bomb or whatever, you name it. He could do it with a match and a shoestring. And that's what I'm talking
00:07:25.380 about here. What is it that you can do with the resources available to you to be successful? So I'm
00:07:32.900 encouraging you at this point to learn to work with tools, experiment, fail. You know, for me,
00:07:38.960 for example, I do a lot of work around the house because it's something I enjoy. But six months ago,
00:07:43.900 a year ago, five years ago, I actually ended up doing more harm than good when I would try to do a
00:07:49.880 project or fix the sink around the house. I should have just left it alone. But at this point, I'm able
00:07:55.240 to develop and I'm able to be a little bit better with my tools and figure things out. And that's what
00:07:59.860 I'm talking about here is resourcefulness, figuring things out. And all of those things with manly
00:08:04.520 skills, that is what it means to be a man. A couple of examples that I can think of as far
00:08:10.380 as manly skills. Number one, sharpening a knife, changing the oil in your car, throwing a baseball,
00:08:15.340 swinging a hammer, basic electric and plumbing, wilderness survival. All of the things that we
00:08:20.460 talk about on the site and in the blog and the podcast, those are things that you need to be
00:08:24.960 developing as a man. Now, the fifth one, and this is probably the one that hits home most for me,
00:08:30.720 because in my day job, if you didn't know this already, is I'm a financial advisor. And that's
00:08:34.940 what I do by trade. It's amazing to me how many people do not have their money situation figured
00:08:40.840 out. You've got to find a way to make money work for you. And what I'm talking about here is paying
00:08:46.860 off debt, staying out of debt, working with a budget, saving and investing, doing all the things
00:08:52.340 that you should be doing to be successful. Now we hear a lot of things like money's the root of all
00:08:56.640 evil. And I totally disagree with that. Money is what allows you to do what it is you want to do.
00:09:01.960 And all of those things, for the most part, are noble and they're virtuous. And those are the
00:09:06.740 things that you should be pursuing. But it takes a mastery of money to be able to accomplish the
00:09:12.000 goals that you have in life. So think about those goals. Think about what it's going to take to reach
00:09:16.540 those goals. And I guarantee there's some monetary factor that goes into accomplishing that. So work
00:09:24.080 with a financial advisor, turn to resource, listen to podcasts, but figure out the money situation so
00:09:30.200 that you can accomplish the things that you want to. And that it's not always consumed by the money
00:09:35.880 conversation or the stress that comes with not having that figured out. The next skill set I want
00:09:42.080 to talk about is physical fitness. Now, a year and a half ago, I literally weighed 50 pounds more
00:09:49.260 than I do today. I felt horrible. I was out of shape. I was overweight. I was lazy. I was tired.
00:09:55.540 I was a slob. You name it. I just did not feel good. And I got to this point where I just realized
00:10:02.180 I have got to do something. I've got to change my life around. And when I started working out,
00:10:09.320 when I started eating better, everything changed. Not just my physical appearance, although that was good,
00:10:14.000 but my relationships with my family, my love life, my business, everything changed when I became more
00:10:20.660 physically fit, when I started eating better and I eliminated sugars and I started exercising and I
00:10:26.540 started watching what I was eating and what I was doing. So I would encourage you as a man to learn to
00:10:32.540 become more physically fit, regardless of what level you're at right now. The more fit that you can be,
00:10:37.600 the better able you are to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish and be the man that you
00:10:42.780 were meant to be. Now, part of our responsibility as men is to be protectors. And there's no way we
00:10:48.580 could be an optimal protector if we aren't physically fit. And so I would encourage you to do that. Work
00:10:53.480 out, eat better, find a time to get into the habits that will help you have a more fulfilled life by the
00:10:59.760 activities that you do and the level of fitness that you're at. Now, the seventh conversation, the seventh
00:11:06.240 skill set that I want to talk about is that of self mastery. Your world and your reality is a direct
00:11:13.720 reflection of the information that goes into your mind and therefore comes out of your mind. So if
00:11:20.500 garbage goes in, negativity, negative people, pornography, you name it, those things going into
00:11:25.980 your mind, the only outcome and the only result from those things are negatives. But if you put success
00:11:31.680 in, and we talked a little bit about this in the intellect section, if the things that are going
00:11:35.900 into your mind are uplifting books, uplifting talks, uplifting conversations, you're around people
00:11:41.440 that motivate you. And those are the types of things that are going into your mind, then success is
00:11:46.820 naturally going to come out. And so I'm also talking about discipline, commitment, integrity, honor,
00:11:53.680 all of those things that you need to learn to master. Now I found that for me, that the natural man
00:12:00.160 is lazy, is prideful, is stubborn, and of course, many other less than appealing traits. And I, again,
00:12:07.220 I know that's true for me. And so we've got to, as men, continually work on our self mastery. We've
00:12:13.940 got to be disciplined and committed and dedicated. All of those things that we look at in other men,
00:12:18.900 and we look around as examples, we've got to become those things, self mastery. Now the eighth one,
00:12:24.780 and this may come as a bit of surprise to you. I know that six months or a year ago, if you would
00:12:29.680 have told me this, I would have also been as surprised, but that is that of style and fashion.
00:12:36.580 How real men can use style and fashion to achieve what they want to achieve in life. And here's how
00:12:43.780 you have to look at this. The way that you look, the clothes that you wear, the way your hair is done,
00:12:48.200 the way your beard is groomed, all say something about you. I mean, know a lot about first impressions,
00:12:54.220 and whether it's fair or not, it's the reality that people base their decisions off first impressions.
00:12:59.140 So as a man, you need to learn to use appearance and fashion and style as a tool. Just as a carpenter
00:13:05.800 might use a hammer to build a masterful home, you've got to use your appearance and style as a
00:13:10.660 deliberate tool to help you be more successful. And the analogy I might use is I want you to consider
00:13:16.160 that you're hiring somebody for a position at your work, at your office or career. And the guy comes
00:13:21.960 in in a pair of baggy cargo shorts. He comes in in a t-shirt that might have some holes. He doesn't look
00:13:28.540 like he's showered in a few days. He's got some sandals on and his hair's messed up and his beard's
00:13:34.680 not groomed if he hasn't shaved at all. What is the likelihood of that man getting the job? What is
00:13:40.420 the likelihood of that man even getting past the first question without you making a decision?
00:13:45.260 Now, on the other hand, I want you to imagine a man comes in in a suit or in a nice pair of jeans
00:13:51.240 and a button-up shirt. His hair is cut. If he has facial hair, it's very well maintained and he looks
00:13:58.100 the part. He looks professional. And even before a word is uttered from his mouth, you can tell that
00:14:03.720 this is somebody who's got his stuff together. So use appearance and fashion and style to your
00:14:08.340 advantage as a man. So there are the eight skill sets that every man must learn to master if he wants
00:14:15.520 to call himself a man in today's society. So let's recap those really quick. Number one,
00:14:20.860 relationships. Building powerful relationships to help you accomplish what you want to accomplish.
00:14:25.820 Number two, intellect. Gaining more knowledge. Finding resources. Finding mentors who can help
00:14:31.220 you be successful. Number three is leadership. Learning to build influence with those around you
00:14:37.620 so you can help them accomplish what it is they want to accomplish. And in turn, they will help you
00:14:42.700 accomplish those things as well. Number four, manly skills. Doing things around the house. Being
00:14:48.140 resourceful. Learning to work with tools. All those things that make a man. Number five, money and
00:14:53.360 career. Building wealth. Staying out of debt. Getting in the habits that will help you be successful
00:14:58.680 with money so you can attract more money in your life. Number six, physical fitness. Being active. Eating
00:15:04.700 right. Feeling good. All of those things that are important as a man. Number seven, self-mastery.
00:15:10.860 Getting your mind right. Discipline. Commitment. Dedication. And thinking about the things that go
00:15:17.020 into your mind so that the things that come out as a result are success and the things that you want
00:15:22.560 to come out. Be deliberate about that. And then number eight, we just went through style and fashion.
00:15:27.220 Using your appearance as a tool to help you get ahead in life. So guys, I hope that you enjoyed those
00:15:33.880 eight skill sets. I hope that makes sense. What I would like you to do is leave us a comment. And again,
00:15:39.160 you can go to order of man.com slash zero one two and let us know if you agree. Let me know if I missed
00:15:46.520 something. Let me know if I overlooked something. Let me know if you agree with something. Now, I do want
00:15:52.060 to get into the second segment of this podcast, which is the interview with my son. So without further ado,
00:15:56.740 we will get into that.
00:16:02.900 Hey, Brecken, I'm so excited. You came on the show before and I'm excited to have you on the show again
00:16:06.840 today. Me too. So you came on with when I was running the podcast Wealth Anatomy. And what did
00:16:12.980 we talk about that time? Animals, what they do like running fast and jumping and stuff like that. Do you
00:16:20.000 remember why we talked about animals? Because they were my favorite thing. Are they still or has that
00:16:25.820 changed? They're still kind of. Kind of. What else do you like? I like monster trucks also. That's it.
00:16:33.100 Monster trucks and animals. So what are you going to do when you grow up? Be a veterinarian. You still
00:16:37.980 want to do that? Yeah. All right. So do you know what we're going to talk about today? Being a man.
00:16:43.620 Being a man. And why are we doing that? Because I have a new podcast called Order of Man now.
00:16:50.000 Do you remember what Order of Man is all about? It's being a man. And so what does that mean to you?
00:16:55.680 What do you think it means to be a man? It means to be strong and be a protector.
00:17:01.640 Good answers. I like those. Anything else that you can think of what it means to be a man?
00:17:06.340 No. Who are some of your favorite men would you say? My dad. That's a good answer. Who else?
00:17:13.520 Some wrestling people that I don't know their names. Okay. And my grandpa. And that's mostly it.
00:17:20.580 And so why do you like those people? What about those men do you like?
00:17:25.200 They're strong and they can do a lot of stuff that I can't.
00:17:29.900 Like what?
00:17:31.240 Well, my grandpa worked at a train station. I can't do that. And my dad, he lifts up weights.
00:17:38.040 I can't do that. Only like a one pound or a nine.
00:17:41.980 Only a one or a nine pound? I bet you can lift up more than that. 0.93
00:17:46.220 I cannot.
00:17:47.400 All right. So you think being a man is about lifting up weights? Is that all?
00:17:51.820 No. It's being courageous, strong, and working hard.
00:17:58.520 Do you think you can develop all those things? Do you think you can get better at those things?
00:18:02.680 Or do they just come naturally?
00:18:04.200 I think I can work better on them.
00:18:06.640 And how do you do that? How do you think a man can work on those things? 0.72
00:18:09.880 First, he has to like do it a lot to know what to do. Or he might go somewhere to learn how to do that. And that's how you do those things.
00:18:21.600 So where would you go? Like if you wanted to learn how to work at a train station, where would you go?
00:18:26.960 To a fixing place like...
00:18:29.760 A fixing place?
00:18:30.760 Yeah. I don't know.
00:18:32.100 Like to learn to be a mechanic?
00:18:33.900 Yeah.
00:18:34.240 Okay. That makes sense. And so what do you think it means to be courageous? You said one of the things that makes a man is that he's courageous. What do you think that means?
00:18:43.300 It means to be strong.
00:18:46.440 Okay. So are you courageous?
00:18:49.520 Sometimes I am.
00:18:50.860 Like what? How can you be courageous? Give me an example.
00:18:54.200 By going into a bear's den without getting eaten.
00:18:59.120 Have you done that before?
00:19:00.780 No.
00:19:01.160 Do you want to?
00:19:03.060 I kind of do.
00:19:04.420 Why do you want to go to a bear's den?
00:19:06.180 I want to figure out what it does to me.
00:19:09.640 I think you'd figure out pretty quick what it would do to you if you went into its den.
00:19:13.900 Eat me probably, but I don't care.
00:19:17.580 All right. So let's talk... Okay. So you said a man is brave and courageous and strong. Do you know what mentally strong means?
00:19:25.260 Nope. No idea.
00:19:26.600 Do you know what mental... Do you know what that word is?
00:19:29.460 Nope.
00:19:29.840 It's talking about the mind.
00:19:32.320 Because when you're talking about strong, you're talking about strong muscles. Like you usually have me flex my muscles, right?
00:19:37.660 Yeah.
00:19:37.800 You're flexing yours right now. Those are getting pretty big.
00:19:40.980 Yeah, they are.
00:19:42.800 How are they getting so big?
00:19:44.740 I just practice monkey bars and lifting up on stuff.
00:19:48.160 I like it. And so when I talk about having a strong mind, what do you think that means?
00:19:54.300 To be smart.
00:19:55.480 Okay. That's part of it. Anything else?
00:19:58.020 No.
00:19:58.920 Okay. Now let's talk about the differences between men and women. Do you know what the difference is? What would you say are the differences between men and women?
00:20:08.660 You don't want to say that?
00:20:12.380 No.
00:20:12.780 Okay. You don't have to say that. What else?
00:20:16.780 How about their personalities? What's the difference between men and women and their personalities? 0.61
00:20:21.840 The dads risk their lives out.
00:20:24.960 Well, we risk our lives. How do we do that?
00:20:28.060 By working hard.
00:20:29.780 You think that's a risk? Do you think when I go to my office that I'm risking my life? Not usually. I sit behind a desk.
00:20:36.000 Yeah, but you have to work on lots of paperwork sometimes.
00:20:39.960 That's true. And you've helped me with my paperwork before, huh?
00:20:43.040 Yeah.
00:20:44.140 So let's talk about you're a boy. How old are you?
00:20:47.540 Seven.
00:20:48.680 And when do you think a boy turns into a man?
00:20:53.780 When he's 20 years old.
00:20:55.660 20 years? Why? What happens at 20 years old that makes him a man?
00:20:59.460 You find a girlfriend.
00:21:01.980 At 20 you find a girlfriend and once you find a girlfriend, boom, you're a man?
00:21:06.200 Yeah.
00:21:06.800 Okay. I like it. What do you think about this beard I'm growing?
00:21:10.400 It's pretty awesome.
00:21:12.280 Is it pretty manly?
00:21:13.800 Yes.
00:21:14.520 Should I shave it?
00:21:15.640 No.
00:21:16.120 Why?
00:21:17.460 Because there's this story that says this guy had long, long hair.
00:21:23.260 And there was these bad guys and they went to the wife and said, will you cut off his hair? 0.97
00:21:31.340 But without his long hair, he wasn't shrunk.
00:21:35.740 And that's it.
00:21:36.960 And so that's why I should keep my beard out growing out like this?
00:21:40.360 Yeah.
00:21:40.740 That's a good answer, man. I like that.
00:21:42.920 Do you think mom likes his beard?
00:21:44.520 Yeah.
00:21:44.940 All right. So let's talk about some other things that men do. So men are dads, right?
00:21:51.800 Yeah.
00:21:52.520 Am I a dad?
00:21:54.100 Yeah.
00:21:55.120 Whose dad am I?
00:21:56.580 Mine and my brother and my sister.
00:21:58.840 That's right. And so am I a good dad, do you think?
00:22:02.200 Yeah, but sometimes he gets off limit.
00:22:04.820 What do I do that gets off limit?
00:22:10.400 My dad, one time we were just working, putting bricks in this wheelbarrow and he tipped the
00:22:17.160 wheelbarrow over and he threw his shovel and he stomped his foot and went, ah, nobody was
00:22:24.660 helping me. And my mom shaved his hair because he was not acting good.
00:22:30.000 All right. So you think I have temper tantrums. You call them sissy fits.
00:22:37.620 Yeah.
00:22:38.420 Do I have those a lot?
00:22:39.920 No, not really.
00:22:41.940 So what are some things that I need to improve on as a dad?
00:22:46.560 Not throwing big fits sometimes.
00:22:51.100 Do you think a lot of men do that? Do they throw sissy fits like you say? 0.65
00:22:55.080 No, but my dad does sometimes.
00:22:57.920 Am I the only one?
00:23:00.780 Yeah, mostly.
00:23:01.960 All right. So you said you look up to me, you look up to your grandpa, you look up to
00:23:06.720 some wrestlers. Why do you look up to wrestlers?
00:23:09.160 Because they're strong.
00:23:11.120 And they're cool, right?
00:23:12.560 Yeah.
00:23:13.060 They get to wear cool stuff.
00:23:14.660 Yeah.
00:23:15.060 And do cool wrestling moves.
00:23:16.420 Yeah.
00:23:16.960 Anything else?
00:23:18.920 No.
00:23:19.780 What do you think is the toughest, the most manliest job on the planet?
00:23:24.540 Lifting up trains.
00:23:25.720 Lifting trains? Who lifts trains?
00:23:29.200 I don't know, but there's ropes and like showing people pull the ropes down and it lifts up.
00:23:36.600 No, actually me and my dad and my brother, there was this hot rod and me and my brother
00:23:43.240 pulled it and we lift up the hot rod.
00:23:46.060 Yeah, we did. Okay. So what else? What are some other manly jobs?
00:23:50.440 Cutting down timber. That's hard.
00:23:52.480 That is hard. Have you done that before?
00:23:55.220 No, but we cut down a Christmas tree before.
00:23:58.400 Was that pretty fun?
00:23:59.580 Yeah.
00:24:00.240 What do you think about firefighters?
00:24:02.200 They're cool.
00:24:03.960 What do you, are they manly?
00:24:06.940 Yeah.
00:24:07.720 Why are they manly?
00:24:09.040 Because they are, they might get killed in the fire.
00:24:13.520 So they're probably brave, right?
00:24:15.320 Yeah.
00:24:16.120 What do you think about soldiers and Marines?
00:24:19.720 Cool.
00:24:20.400 Sick.
00:24:20.680 Yeah, you like them.
00:24:21.940 Sick. Why do you like those guys?
00:24:24.220 Because my dad was in it.
00:24:26.340 Do you remember what I did in the military?
00:24:28.440 Protect the army base.
00:24:30.420 That's right, I did. In Iraq.
00:24:32.540 Were you alive when I did that?
00:24:34.200 No.
00:24:34.840 No?
00:24:35.040 I was not even born.
00:24:36.720 No, you weren't born yet. It was just me and mom, right?
00:24:39.680 Yeah.
00:24:40.080 So what are some of the cool activities that men like to do?
00:24:43.840 Work hard, work together, and build stuff together. That's mostly it that I know.
00:24:52.060 You think we like to build stuff together?
00:24:54.320 Yeah.
00:24:54.760 What kind of stuff? Like if you could build anything in the world, what would you build?
00:24:59.000 I would like build like a little car like you race in like a dune buggy, something like that.
00:25:07.100 That's what you would build?
00:25:08.380 Yeah.
00:25:08.640 That would be awesome. What would you do with it?
00:25:11.280 I would drive around the whole block.
00:25:14.060 The entire block? So you like my, we're in my man cave right now where I do my podcast,
00:25:18.880 and you like it in here. What do you think is cool about being in here?
00:25:21.780 He has all his metal, old stuff that my grandpa had, two axes, American flag, big wrenches.
00:25:31.860 Manly stuff, right?
00:25:33.280 Yeah.
00:25:34.080 What about that? What's that right there?
00:25:35.700 It's a, um, it's one of the Broncos football shirt.
00:25:40.840 Yeah, it's a football jersey, right?
00:25:43.800 Romanowski.
00:25:44.680 That's right. Romanowski.
00:25:46.160 Bill Romanowski played for the Broncos.
00:25:48.420 What do you think about those axes on the wall?
00:25:51.120 They're sick. I can lift one up.
00:25:53.960 All by myself.
00:25:55.260 You can. And how do you, so what do we do with those axes?
00:25:58.700 Sometimes we take pictures of my dad cutting wood with them.
00:26:03.660 We just take pictures. I did a photo shoot with me cutting wood, right?
00:26:07.480 Yeah.
00:26:08.100 All right. What else do you think? I want to know about men and some of the mistakes that men make.
00:26:13.940 What do you think are the mistakes that men make?
00:26:16.400 Sometimes they throw big fits.
00:26:19.400 Is that it? Is that all we do that's wrong?
00:26:21.360 No. Sometimes they fight.
00:26:24.280 We do fight. Is fighting bad?
00:26:26.840 Yeah, sometimes.
00:26:28.140 So why just sometimes? Is it good sometimes? Other times?
00:26:31.580 Yeah, like if it's a little simple thing, it's all right.
00:26:35.760 What else? Why else is it okay to fight sometimes, do you think? Or do you think it's not okay?
00:26:40.080 Well, you'll get hurt, and I don't really want to get hurt, so that's why I don't really fight that much.
00:26:48.460 But is there a reason? Is there ever a reason to fight?
00:26:51.260 I don't know.
00:26:52.460 What about if you're protecting something?
00:26:54.340 Yeah, you can fight.
00:26:55.360 What about sports? Are sports manly?
00:26:57.640 Yeah.
00:26:58.380 What sport is your favorite?
00:26:59.820 I like football, basketball, and baseball.
00:27:02.920 What do you like about those things?
00:27:05.020 That one of my friends, I want to be like him, he dived when somebody was almost at their touchdown.
00:27:12.820 And I like basketball because it's just fun running and jumping and making coops.
00:27:19.700 Do you think it makes you better doing those things?
00:27:21.960 Yeah.
00:27:22.320 How does it make you better?
00:27:24.180 By working your muscles out.
00:27:26.540 Right.
00:27:27.100 What about reading? Do you think reading's manly?
00:27:29.580 Yeah, you can learn new stuff, learn about new stuff and stuff like that.
00:27:35.820 Why is learning about new stuff important?
00:27:37.680 So if anybody says something like that, like a question about that, and you haven't read
00:27:46.180 that book like they said, you won't know what to say.
00:27:49.960 That's right.
00:27:50.500 And that way you can know what exactly to say.
00:27:52.500 All right.
00:27:52.920 I think dinner's ready tonight.
00:27:54.240 Should we get it going?
00:27:54.920 Should we call it quits?
00:27:56.020 Yeah.
00:27:56.600 All right.
00:27:56.960 Can you say man up?
00:27:57.960 Say bye, guys.
00:27:58.640 Man up.
00:27:59.340 Bye, guys.
00:28:00.060 Man up.
00:28:00.560 All right.
00:28:01.300 Okay.
00:28:01.880 See ya.
00:28:02.400 Man, I hope that you enjoyed that episode.
00:28:05.680 Like I said, I mixed it up a bit.
00:28:07.200 We talked about the eight skill sets that every man must master.
00:28:10.720 And of course, we just finished up and had a great conversation with my son about what
00:28:14.440 it means to be a man.
00:28:15.300 I hope you enjoyed it.
00:28:16.400 Again, you can find the notes to this show at orderaman.com slash 012.
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00:28:41.100 today's society.
00:28:42.320 Now, next week, I've got a man coming on the show who talks all about family leadership.
00:28:46.160 Now, if you didn't know this before the show, leadership is a huge part of being a
00:28:49.840 man.
00:28:50.060 I'm sure you did know that.
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00:28:56.540 our families.
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