Order of Man - OoM 072： Dominate in Any Environment with Niyi Sobo

00:00:00.180 Dominate anything. That's what we're going to talk about today. I'm sure you felt at times in your life that you just weren't operating to your full capacity.

00:00:06.880 So whether that was a conscious decision or you just didn't know how to break out to that next level, you just felt like you left something on the table.

00:00:13.640 My guest today, former NFL running back Nii Shobo, teaches us how to create our ultimate vision, ask for and implement feedback, and dominate in any environment.

00:00:22.160 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.

00:00:27.880 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time. You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.

00:00:37.660 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.

00:00:41.860 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.

00:00:47.400 Gentlemen, what's going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am your host and the founder of Order of Man.

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00:00:59.560 Today, we're talking about dominating in any environment, but we also talk about the science of planning out your day and building confidence, approaching women, building businesses, and a ton more.

00:01:09.560 We bring on Navy SEALs, professional athletes, New York Times bestselling authors, and so many more high-caliber guests, and we really dig into their minds for the best information to help you do big things in your life.

00:01:20.960 Now, before I get into the show today, know that you can get all the links and the resources from this conversation at orderofman.com slash 072.

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00:01:40.120 Now, let me introduce you to my guest, Niyi Shobo. Niyi is a former NFL running back for the New Orleans Saints and an All-American Oregon State Beaver.

00:01:47.620 After his professional NFL career, Niyi began his firefighting career and earned his position in just six months without any background or experience.

00:01:55.500 In his spare time, he started working as a mindset and a peak performance coach for athletes and top performers.

00:01:59.740 He is the father of five, the host of Sports Motivation Podcast, and the founder of imnotyou.com, where he is dedicated to teaching athletes and other top performers the mindset and systems they need to dominate in any environment.

00:02:13.440 Niyi, what's up, brother? Glad you made it on the show today.

00:02:15.840 Hey, I'm happy to be here, man.

00:02:17.480 Yeah, I've been following you for some time now. You've been on some friends' podcasts, and I'm stoked to get you on the show.

00:02:21.840 Tell us real quick, as we get started, what it is you're doing now, how you even got into this work that you're doing now,

00:02:27.180 because you've got an amazing backstory, and you've come a long way, and you just told me, even before we hit record on this show,

00:02:33.340 that you've just made this transition to full-time with your coaching and some of the things you're doing now,

00:02:37.020 so I'm excited for you, and I want to hear what that's all about.

00:02:39.600 Absolutely, man. So I grew up in Portland, Oregon, the Northwest, man, and I actually grew up playing soccer,

00:02:44.720 and so I was the third out of four boys, but I fell in love with football when I was in seventh grade, and just that took me.

00:02:51.460 I just fell in love, man, and so I played in high school.

00:02:53.920 Real football, right? Real football.

00:02:55.300 Real football, yeah, American football.

00:02:57.580 See how many people we can offend before we get started here.

00:03:00.980 Yeah, man, so it was funny because, like I said, I was the only one of my brothers who played,

00:03:05.860 and it was kind of like my dad didn't even know what football was. He came from Nigeria here when he was 18,

00:03:11.540 and so I fell in love with that and ended up walking on to Oregon State, and I played there for three years,

00:03:17.080 but I was a walk-on, so that's kind of like being an unpaid intern, you know what I mean,

00:03:20.680 where you're kind of just like low on the totem pole. So I had my first kid while I was in college,

00:03:25.680 and at the time, man, it was like I was getting some playing time and things like that at Oregon State,

00:03:30.480 but it was like I wanted a scholarship, and I believed I deserved one, so that was the first.

00:03:34.340 I emailed the coaches at Portland State and was like, yo, could I get a scholarship?

00:03:39.060 And sure enough, I got one, and just a couple weeks later, I was at Portland State,

00:03:43.200 scholarshiped up on the roster there.

00:03:45.220 And the first year there, I didn't really get as much playing time as I wanted,

00:03:48.740 but my last year is when it really blew up for me, and I had a breakout season

00:03:53.480 and ended up becoming an All-American and then getting picked up for the New Orleans Saints,

00:03:57.740 where I played there for two years.

00:03:59.360 So that was an amazing experience, man, and like a dream come true,

00:04:02.200 but ultimately it got cut short, you know, due to injury and things like that,

00:04:05.440 and it was very competitive, needless to say.

00:04:08.920 And so after, once I came back, it was like I'm sure people can relate to, you know,

00:04:14.020 you've tried, you've invested so much time and energy into something,

00:04:18.220 you get it, and then it's kind of taken from you,

00:04:20.460 or you feel like it's not happening anymore, and then you're kind of lost.

00:04:23.780 And so much of your identity was tied up into something.

00:04:26.660 And it was funny because I actually never even felt like I was one of those guys who,

00:04:30.760 you know, football is life, but as soon as it got taken from me, 0.93

00:04:33.920 it was like, damn, I guess football was life, you know what I mean? 0.90

00:04:37.060 Yeah, well, and you wrap up your identity around it, right? 0.99

00:04:39.460 Exactly.

00:04:39.820 And I wasn't very conscious of it, but I just did, man.

00:04:43.520 And so I was really indecisive.

00:04:45.980 I was wandering around for about two to three years working at jobs I didn't like.

00:04:49.520 But in the meantime, I was working with athletes at this gym that I was training out of,

00:04:54.320 and I was mentoring these young athletes.

00:04:56.060 And so I was initially doing a lot of physical training and teaching them how to eat right

00:05:00.080 and things like that, right?

00:05:01.380 And what I was realizing is that what these guys need, man, is,

00:05:04.640 and everyone's out there looking for tactics and strategies and stuff like that

00:05:08.180 and how to get strong.

00:05:08.980 And it's the same thing with entrepreneurs.

00:05:10.580 We're always trying to find like little, you know, little hacks and things to do this.

00:05:14.100 But at the end of the day, it's really like, are you able to bring it when it's time to bring it?

00:05:19.120 Like, do you have the mental stamina and endurance to actually last through the inevitable challenges

00:05:24.880 that come on the way to any big time goal?

00:05:27.120 Because these athletes, they're trying to reach all these big goals.

00:05:29.500 And it's like, I can teach you how to squat and how to, you know, do this cool footwork stuff.

00:05:33.200 But what happens when it's time to play?

00:05:34.500 What happens when your team's down?

00:05:35.560 What happens when you get hurt?

00:05:36.680 And how are you going to respond?

00:05:37.520 So ultimately, I made the shift to start focusing 100% on the mindset.

00:05:42.280 And that means, like, the way that you think, setting your mind up so that you can dominate in any environment.

00:05:46.880 And so I also became a firefighter a few years ago as well as I was decided that I wanted to get a quote-unquote,

00:05:54.480 you know, good job, right, and safe benefits and all that.

00:05:58.360 And I learned a lot being a firefighter.

00:06:00.080 It was an amazing experience.

00:06:01.140 And the story of how I became a firefighter was really cool as well because I had no experience.

00:06:06.180 And I got the job in, like, six months.

00:06:08.540 But it was crazy because I got to this point.

00:06:11.900 I was doing my business.

00:06:13.500 And I was firefighting.

00:06:14.760 And mind you, I also am married and have five children as well.

00:06:17.660 And so, oh, wow.

00:06:18.600 Yeah, you got a lot on your plate.

00:06:19.620 Exactly.

00:06:20.080 So at some point, it's like something has to give.

00:06:22.620 Like, I'm literally maxing out in all of these areas.

00:06:24.820 And we know that anytime you're doing a bunch of things, like, you're not doing anything really well.

00:06:28.920 So I decided, man, that I knew what I wanted to do.

00:06:32.580 I knew what I've been called to do.

00:06:34.060 And that's teach people how to think, you know, how to develop that mindset to dominate in any environment.

00:06:39.060 And so I just decided, man, that I was going to retire early as a firefighter.

00:06:42.000 I just did about two months ago.

00:06:44.180 And I'm doing what I'm doing full-time now, which is imnotyou.com.

00:06:47.780 I also have a podcast called the Sports Motivation Podcast where I share a lot of mindset shifts and strategies and things for people to take their sport and their careers to the next level.

00:06:56.600 So that's what I'm doing now, man.

00:06:57.900 And I'm loving life.

00:06:58.820 And I'm in the jungle, if you will.

00:07:00.900 You know, like, yeah, no, I know what it's like.

00:07:02.920 Exactly.

00:07:03.340 And I love it.

00:07:04.360 I want to break some of this down because obviously there's a lot to this.

00:07:07.520 You've been highly successful.

00:07:08.680 You've moved around a little bit.

00:07:09.740 And I want to break this down for the guys.

00:07:11.120 But before I get too much into the mindset piece that I do want to talk with you about today, I want to back up.

00:07:16.040 I want to know what about football appealed to you.

00:07:18.860 I mean, what did you like most about it?

00:07:20.160 Because you were playing at the high school level all the way up to professional level.

00:07:24.480 I played in high school.

00:07:25.420 I never made it into college or anything like that.

00:07:27.240 And I'm really curious as to why it was such a draw for you when I think you said seventh grade you started, right?

00:07:32.920 Right, right.

00:07:33.560 So I was actually playing soccer all the way up until then.

00:07:36.660 And I was kind of I like soccer, but I started getting a little chubby about fifth grade.

00:07:41.420 Right.

00:07:41.600 And I was a big kid as well.

00:07:43.320 And so I would be first of all, I hated running and I would be running over these kids in games and parents would be screaming at me and screaming at the press.

00:07:50.620 And so I had a lot of friends were playing football and I and I didn't have a TV growing up either.

00:07:54.660 My dad didn't allow us to have a television.

00:07:56.300 So it wasn't like I was I knew who Jerry Weiss was and all these players.

00:08:00.300 But I had friends who played it.

00:08:01.540 And I just it was some about the physicality of it that, you know, I grew up with with three brothers.

00:08:06.980 So needless to say, we're very physical and fighting all the time.

00:08:10.360 But yeah, you bet.

00:08:11.000 And I was also considered the quote unquote shy one in my family.

00:08:14.000 And so I think that was also an area where I can really like I feel like I really express myself because listening to me now, I'm not shy, by the way.

00:08:22.260 I was just something I thought about myself when I was young.

00:08:24.800 But yeah, I wouldn't have guessed that about you.

00:08:26.300 Right. But it's crazy because I yeah, I just love the physicality of it.

00:08:30.080 And I love being a team like the team element.

00:08:33.520 I've played a lot of sports.

00:08:34.840 I play basketball, play soccer.

00:08:36.120 But there's something about the team dynamics on a football team.

00:08:41.140 You know what I mean?

00:08:41.560 And even just how you play once a week and it's almost like you don't take games for for granted as much.

00:08:47.720 And it's like a it's like an event.

00:08:49.620 So I just love football, man.

00:08:51.720 And even now, like I don't watch it as much anymore.

00:08:54.280 And my son decided that he wants to play football now.

00:08:57.300 He's going to sixth grade.

00:08:58.240 And so I'm super excited.

00:08:59.780 But I'm not I'm excited for them, but I never pushed it on him.

00:09:03.760 But I can't lie.

00:09:04.640 Like I'm I was actually really, really happy when he decided that he wanted to play.

00:09:08.660 Oh, I bet.

00:09:09.400 Yeah.

00:09:09.540 To follow in his dad's footsteps, I bet it's a cool thing.

00:09:11.860 So let's fast forward a little bit.

00:09:13.060 One of the things you talked about was getting a scholarship.

00:09:16.260 And I think a lot of guys would have not received that scholarship or walked on and been satisfied with that and not even make made the approach to the team or the school of like, hey, I deserve a scholarship.

00:09:25.740 Tell me a little bit about that.

00:09:26.800 How did you do that?

00:09:28.140 How did you overcome?

00:09:29.240 I'm sure there was some hesitancy and some fear and even asking for that.

00:09:32.040 Right.

00:09:32.480 And I know a lot of guys are whether that's asking for a promotion or even asking a woman

00:09:36.840 on a date where they've got some fear and they've got some reservation, but just overcoming that

00:09:41.100 and then actually going to do it and then working out for you.

00:09:43.900 Absolutely, man.

00:09:44.540 And that's a great question, because that's actually where the I'm not you mentality comes

00:09:48.580 from.

00:09:48.880 So a lot of times people hear I'm not you.

00:09:50.680 They think it's like this arrogant thing.

00:09:52.180 It's I'm not you is the mentality that says 98 percent of businesses fail within whatever

00:09:58.340 years.

00:09:58.740 Right.

00:09:58.880 You've heard that.

00:09:59.400 But I'm a part of the two percent.

00:10:01.200 Like anyone who starts something, if you go with that that herd mentality like, oh, you

00:10:06.520 know, most people do this or this is what I always identified with the small minority

00:10:11.160 of people who actually do accomplish something.

00:10:13.520 And that's a choice like that's a choice.

00:10:15.120 Now, that doesn't mean I always succeed.

00:10:17.140 However, because I had that mentality, I got so much more out of myself and push myself to

00:10:21.640 do so much more.

00:10:22.560 And it led me to accomplish more, to do more, to be more when I didn't I wasn't the

00:10:27.300 biggest and fastest and strongest by any means.

00:10:29.880 So when I was at Oregon State, I had, like you said, many friends who were like, you know,

00:10:34.600 dude, you're playing Pac-10 is Pac-10 at the time.

00:10:37.160 It's now it's Pac-12.

00:10:37.980 Right, right.

00:10:38.160 But you're playing Pac-10.

00:10:39.180 It's like school.

00:10:39.880 We get to travel.

00:10:40.580 And it was awesome.

00:10:41.180 Right.

00:10:41.380 Like playing with all these different guys who are now in the NFL and great facilities,

00:10:46.480 you know, all the things that you need.

00:10:47.960 But it's like, yo, I'm not you, man.

00:10:50.000 I didn't come here just to, like, sit on a bench and, you know, go to parties and say

00:10:53.520 I play on the team.

00:10:54.240 I came here to play.

00:10:55.600 And so for me, it wasn't even like a it wasn't even an option.

00:10:58.980 It was like for me, it was more pain not to do that.

00:11:02.060 So a lot of people let fear, you know, dictate the decisions that they make.

00:11:06.620 And we're all driven by fear to some degree.

00:11:08.680 Everyone.

00:11:09.000 So I just flip it.

00:11:11.280 It's like I'm more scared of staying here and knowing that I could have done something

00:11:16.120 with my career as opposed to just be a role player.

00:11:19.500 And so I had I had close friends in my ear telling me that I had even coaches on my team

00:11:23.700 on Oregon State were telling me whatever, whatever.

00:11:26.880 And I was like, no, man, I'm going I'm getting a scholarship.

00:11:29.120 So I did what I felt like anyone should do when there's a situation that they're not satisfied

00:11:36.140 with, which is like moving in the direction of where you want to go.

00:11:39.540 Like, I didn't know what to do, but I'm like, I know every team has a website.

00:11:43.720 So I go on a website and sure enough, all the coaches emails are right there.

00:11:47.580 I email a coach and he hits me back the next day and I get a scholarship just like that.

00:11:52.780 And it's and it's it's and I used a bunch of practice film with some game film as well.

00:11:57.760 But it's and it's that's the mentality I've had with a lot of things is I think being creative

00:12:03.080 and being resourceful, especially when you talk about being a man.

00:12:05.620 Like if you a man, you have to be proactive, you have to be creative, you have to use your

00:12:10.660 resources.

00:12:11.100 It's not going to be given to you.

00:12:12.580 There's a reason why, you know, most people are not living the lives that they want to,

00:12:16.480 even though everyone wants to live that life.

00:12:18.400 But you're not using what you have, like you have to be creative.

00:12:21.820 And so that that mentality has served me well.

00:12:24.060 And it's something that I consciously instill in myself on a daily basis and sort of take

00:12:29.020 inventory, you know, frequently to make sure that I'm using and accessing all my resources.

00:12:34.060 Yeah, very cool.

00:12:35.040 Very cool.

00:12:35.520 Sometimes it's just a matter of asking, right?

00:12:37.680 Absolutely, man.

00:12:38.460 It's like there's a book, I think it's called The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield, the dude

00:12:43.960 who wrote, you know, Chicken Soup for the Soul and all that.

00:12:46.240 Sure.

00:12:46.600 That's a great book.

00:12:47.420 I remember reading that and it was crazy because I always felt like I did ask and I read

00:12:50.940 that book and I was like, wow, like there are so many things that I just accepted that

00:12:55.020 I don't have that I could get if I just ask.

00:12:57.820 A lot of the things that I've been able to do have been as simple as me just reaching out

00:13:02.280 to somebody and asking them.

00:13:03.500 And it's crazy how simple it is.

00:13:05.520 Yeah, it really is.

00:13:06.360 So let me ask you this.

00:13:07.380 What if they had turned you down?

00:13:09.040 What if they said, no, you're not getting a scholarship?

00:13:10.800 How would that affect you?

00:13:11.940 Would you continue to play?

00:13:13.000 Would you just push harder?

00:13:14.220 Tell me what that would have looked like for you.

00:13:15.740 Man, so let me let me think about that because I reached out to a lot of teams.

00:13:19.600 And so it's hard to say what I would have done.

00:13:21.960 But here's what I would have thought.

00:13:23.220 So which I think is the most important.

00:13:25.380 I would have thought that there's still a way for me to get whatever it is that I want.

00:13:30.240 So, for example, what I wanted, I would have loved to still stay at Oregon State and get

00:13:35.480 a scholarship there and play there.

00:13:37.140 Yeah.

00:13:37.460 But the way it was looking at it, the reality was that the coach was kept telling me that

00:13:42.540 they were going to give me a scholarship.

00:13:43.600 And I saw the writing on a wasp.

00:13:44.960 This is what they do to walk ons. 0.96

00:13:46.360 They kind of tell them that.

00:13:47.200 And then they'll give you a scholarship like your last two semesters.

00:13:49.860 You know what I mean?

00:13:50.940 Yeah, sure.

00:13:51.760 So it's like what I would have done is would have kept reaching out to other schools, you

00:13:55.200 know, and if that didn't work out, I would have kept playing at Oregon State and something

00:14:00.700 would have popped off.

00:14:01.560 Like I would have kept going hard because even how I got playing time when I was there,

00:14:05.680 they didn't have a fullback position.

00:14:07.160 I was a fullback.

00:14:08.200 But the way I got noticed is that I would play as the other team's fullback and scout

00:14:12.460 team, right?

00:14:13.020 So let's say we're playing against USC.

00:14:14.880 I'm playing the USC's fullback and I'm blasting the linebackers.

00:14:18.340 I'm going full out, just giving them headaches.

00:14:20.920 And they're all mad at me, right?

00:14:22.680 And the coach is looking, the offensive coordinator, I remember Paul Chris, he's looking, he's

00:14:27.880 telling Coach Riley, Coach Mike Riley at the time, he's like, hey, man, we got to put

00:14:31.360 this dude, we got to find some sort of package for this dude.

00:14:33.920 He's over there giving these boys hell.

00:14:35.560 And sure enough, that's how it happened.

00:14:36.860 And the same guys who I was making mad are now the main ones advocating for me to get

00:14:41.740 a scholarship and I'm earning their respect.

00:14:44.260 And so that's another thing that I see a lot with athletes and not just athletes that

00:14:48.700 I work with, but entrepreneurs, grown men who are so worried about what other people

00:14:53.660 think that are so scared to do what's necessary, not to ruffle feathers.

00:14:59.540 And it ultimately hurts no one but them.

00:15:02.280 And they're not even helping the other people who they think they're helping.

00:15:06.460 Athletes are so worried about what other teammates are saying, not being vocal out there.

00:15:10.440 Same thing in your jobs, et cetera.

00:15:12.000 You're just accepting situations that you don't like.

00:15:14.600 To me, that's the ultimate sin.

00:15:16.520 Yeah, no, it makes sense.

00:15:17.480 All right, so here's what I want to know.

00:15:18.920 I want to know what separates the guys that are maybe playing at the college level that

00:15:23.640 actually make it to the professional level.

00:15:25.400 Because at that point, as far as physicality and the ability to get the job done, I imagine

00:15:29.940 that it's all there.

00:15:30.860 It's probably pretty similar.

00:15:32.480 But there's got to be something that separates making that next step, right?

00:15:36.100 Yes, definitely, man.

00:15:37.080 And there's a lot of elements, and I'll do my best to boil it down to a few key ones.

00:15:43.100 But at the end of the day, and we've all heard this, it's about how you think, right?

00:15:46.400 And that's all what I do.

00:15:47.620 It's all centered around mindset.

00:15:49.260 But I believe that what you think about, your mindset, your beliefs, leads to how you feel,

00:15:54.220 and how you feel leads to what you do and ultimately leads to what you get.

00:15:56.900 So with these guys who are succeeding at the highest level, and I'll go with when I was at

00:16:01.460 the pro level, so you got all pros, and you got guys like Drew Brees, right, who are-

00:16:05.540 Yeah, right.

00:16:05.820 And this dude, 6'1", he's very unassuming when you see him.

00:16:09.480 Yeah, he's not your traditional guy that you would think fits that quarterback role, right?

00:16:13.820 Exactly, exactly.

00:16:14.760 So the biggest thing that separates these guys, they have unreasonably high standards for

00:16:19.600 themselves, all right?

00:16:20.380 So what I mean by that is, what's okay for another athlete to do is not okay for Drew Brees

00:16:26.140 to do.

00:16:26.500 And he doesn't say that.

00:16:27.540 It's not like he advertised that.

00:16:28.700 But just watch his routine.

00:16:30.140 So for example, he's the first one there.

00:16:32.580 So all that is, is a standard that says, I've got to be there early.

00:16:36.720 So what about other guys?

00:16:37.920 They don't, they're waking up 15 minutes before, they're not watching film.

00:16:41.960 They're not doing the little exercises before and after practice, doing shoulder rehab every

00:16:47.440 day.

00:16:47.980 They're not out there doing footwork every single day.

00:16:50.740 All that boils down to a standard.

00:16:52.540 So with every, for example, everyone listening, just ask yourself, I like to do this as a reality

00:16:57.560 check.

00:16:57.860 Take a piece of paper, put a line down the middle.

00:17:00.760 On one side, write all the things you say you want to have, right?

00:17:03.860 You want to be financially independent.

00:17:05.880 You want to have a great relationship.

00:17:07.460 You want to have great body.

00:17:09.700 And then on the other side, just write down what your current standards are.

00:17:12.760 So like, what do you do every day?

00:17:14.560 And it's, and you'll just have a real reality check as to, is I say that I want, am I doing

00:17:20.560 that?

00:17:20.820 So with the guys in the league, they got the guys who are at another level, they hold themselves

00:17:26.060 to a very high standard and they don't make excuses.

00:17:29.080 They don't bitch and whine and complain. 1.00

00:17:31.340 That's the thing. 0.87

00:17:32.040 Like you, you, you, you take your situation and you accept it and you do something about

00:17:37.200 it.

00:17:37.360 And when I say accept it, I mean, you accept responsibility for it, for it, meaning it's

00:17:41.280 yours.

00:17:41.600 It's not anyone else's.

00:17:42.920 And this is one thing that, um, that I harp on with my kids all the time that I feel like

00:17:47.060 if I'm successful in this, they're going to have pretty good lives.

00:17:50.000 Because if you can own your problems and not put them or shirk responsibility or put it

00:17:55.520 on anyone else, um, that's going to take you far.

00:17:58.000 So I think that's the biggest thing with those guys who are, who succeed even in college,

00:18:01.800 you know, like guys just have low standards, man.

00:18:04.220 It's like things that are okay for them are just not okay for other players.

00:18:07.180 And they also have a really strong desire and they have their, their goals are attached

00:18:12.800 to something big.

00:18:13.820 And it, that something big can be, you know, their family.

00:18:17.240 It can be, you know, personal success or whatever.

00:18:19.420 I'm not going to judge anyone's reasons, but whatever reasons they have, they're very,

00:18:23.640 very compelling and they're very, very strong.

00:18:25.780 So we've all heard this is a, you know, anyone who reads any self-help book always talks about

00:18:29.500 you got to know your why, but it's, there's a reason why you say that you have to know

00:18:33.200 what are the driving forces behind what you're doing and all the guys who, who I've seen

00:18:39.720 succeed, myself included, when I've been able to separate myself from the pack, I just had

00:18:44.200 a really strong reason for doing it.

00:18:45.740 And I just always associated to that.

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00:19:38.100 Now let's get back to my interview with Nigi.

00:19:41.880 Is this something that people are born with?

00:19:43.900 Because I think it's probably pretty easy to coast, especially if you're looking at your

00:19:48.720 team or your employees or the relationships that you already have to coast in any area of

00:19:53.360 life.

00:19:53.960 And so I'm really curious what separates a guy like you from somebody who might have

00:19:57.880 all of the talent, but maybe not have the same drive, motivation or standards that a

00:20:02.840 guy like you has.

00:20:03.640 Right.

00:20:04.020 And so first, let me clarify.

00:20:06.340 It wasn't like at every point in my career, I had high standards.

00:20:09.280 There were several episodes or periods at the time, even like when I came back after, you

00:20:14.200 know, playing football and got released from the New Orleans Saints.

00:20:17.060 And I was wandering for two to three years.

00:20:18.980 I had low standards.

00:20:19.680 I was very indecisive.

00:20:20.940 But I definitely think it's something that can be taught.

00:20:24.860 So whether or not someone's born with it or not, I don't know.

00:20:27.320 I'm not going to get into like, I don't know, you know, genetics or whatever.

00:20:29.940 But I do I do know that your environment does have a big influence on you.

00:20:34.880 But let's say you grew up in an environment that didn't foster this type of mentality.

00:20:38.460 Then you can be in an environment that does.

00:20:40.760 You can change the way you think.

00:20:41.980 I really do believe that everything that you have all stems from your conditioned habitual

00:20:48.020 thoughts.

00:20:48.520 And so if you start to change those habitual thoughts and this is what I help people do

00:20:52.940 consciously and you cannot have to wait for it to be an accident in order to do that.

00:20:57.660 So I definitely think that it is something that that can be conditioned and can be taught

00:21:02.460 and that anyone can have this mentality and can take it to any situation.

00:21:06.020 And that's why I say dominate in any environment, because you've got to be able to to to trust

00:21:11.100 yourself to win no matter the circumstances, no matter the situation, because with a lot

00:21:15.100 of athletes, it's like it's not just about playing on game day.

00:21:19.000 There are so many other elements that are affecting your ability to do that.

00:21:22.680 How do you handle your schoolwork?

00:21:24.100 Like, how do you handle, you know, problems at home?

00:21:26.500 How do you handle, you know, friends, negative influences, et cetera?

00:21:30.020 These are all things that have an impact on whether or not you're able to bring it on game

00:21:32.940 day.

00:21:33.140 So you've got to be able to dominate in that area.

00:21:35.480 So how do you do that if you've never had maybe a history of success or the ability to

00:21:40.500 dominate in any area of your life?

00:21:42.060 How do you start to change that?

00:21:43.640 And how do you even recognize that it needs to be changed?

00:21:45.540 Because sometimes we get stuck in our box and stuck in our ways.

00:21:47.980 We don't even see how we're behaving or the things that we're thinking and doing are

00:21:50.960 impacting our lives.

00:21:52.040 Man, and that's a great question, man.

00:21:53.820 It's it's funny because I just had this.

00:21:56.120 I had the first one with my kids just last week.

00:21:58.920 So I'm big on reality.

00:22:00.460 And so, as a matter of fact, I was listening to your to your podcast with Ryan Holiday

00:22:04.920 and I love his book.

00:22:05.780 You know, it's an enemy, by the way.

00:22:07.500 And he was talking he was quoting Robert Greene and Robert Greene's book, 50th Laws, one of

00:22:11.520 my favorite ever.

00:22:12.640 But Robert Greene said, stay tied to reality like a spider to its web.

00:22:17.060 So you've got to have systems set in place that keep you grounded in reality.

00:22:21.320 And so here's what I mean by that.

00:22:22.840 I have what I call ruthless self-evaluation.

00:22:24.740 I I'm constantly getting feedback, seeing myself objectively and watching my plans and

00:22:30.580 seeing how I show up.

00:22:32.120 And so I have accountability partners who I talk to twice a week.

00:22:35.720 I have surveys that I give to my wife and kids and they tell me how I'm doing.

00:22:39.320 There's specific questions that they ask to show me how I'm showing up.

00:22:42.580 And then with my kids just a couple of weeks ago or just last week, we sat down and did a

00:22:46.720 family reality check because I felt like there was a lot of things going on with my kids and

00:22:50.540 my family that's like, listen, y'all, we got to start owning our we got to start owning our 1.00

00:22:55.420 shit. 1.00

00:22:55.820 You see what I'm saying? 1.00

00:22:56.440 So if you over here crying and complaining, it's important that you know the role that

00:23:00.720 you play in this.

00:23:01.700 And I think that's important for for not just for kids, but for people in general.

00:23:06.040 So like you said, a lot of people get caught up in their little worlds and what their

00:23:10.140 little stories about what they think is is happening.

00:23:12.420 So that's why environment is so critical.

00:23:14.620 Get yourself a group of friends who will keep it real with you.

00:23:17.640 That's why all the top level CEOs, all the top performers have coaches.

00:23:21.820 They have an extra layer, many extra layers of accountability because they can't afford

00:23:26.640 to not be tied to reality.

00:23:28.460 I was learning about the Chicago Bulls.

00:23:30.760 They said that one of the reasons they were so successful in the 90s is that they were aggressive

00:23:35.480 learners.

00:23:36.080 They were humble, meaning they were humble enough to learn and they learn faster.

00:23:40.560 And that's why they're able to grow so much more exponentially than other people.

00:23:44.060 So Phil Jackson would come in the locker room right after a loss.

00:23:47.640 And he would say he would immediately own his mistakes.

00:23:50.820 He would own all of his mistakes and not for the sake of being falsely humble, but he would

00:23:54.700 do it so that other guys would feel comfortable doing and also so they can grow quicker.

00:23:59.120 So then the next game, they're able to correct those mistakes.

00:24:01.680 So I actually love and embrace feedback.

00:24:04.760 I like I encourage it.

00:24:06.120 I seek it out.

00:24:07.160 I preempt it.

00:24:08.140 I don't wait for people to give it to me.

00:24:09.860 I don't run from it and not scared from it because and everyone should read that book.

00:24:13.280 Ego is the enemy.

00:24:14.420 That was a that's a reality check. 0.99

00:24:16.300 That's a bitch slap in the face for any like I mean that I had anxiety when I was reading 0.98

00:24:21.000 that book and that's how I knew I needed to be reading it. 0.98

00:24:22.900 You know what I mean?

00:24:23.420 And so, yeah, it's a good point.

00:24:24.900 You have to have that that that those systems set in place to make sure that you don't get

00:24:29.560 caught up in your own story.

00:24:31.080 And so that's that's one thing.

00:24:32.520 And then the next thing is just daily conditioning those those habits and thoughts.

00:24:35.920 And so I have many systems for this.

00:24:37.280 But one of the first things I do when when people come to me is we got to identify what

00:24:41.480 your ultimate vision is for you.

00:24:43.280 What is what how do you want to see yourself so that we can move in that direction?

00:24:47.620 Because too many people get caught up in doing a whole counseling thing where we're sitting

00:24:51.040 down and talking about our past and we'll do that.

00:24:53.480 However, it's more important to be pulling you towards some as opposed to just reflecting

00:24:58.820 on all the things that happened in the past or how you used to be.

00:25:01.460 I want to see you how you want to be.

00:25:03.060 And I'm going to hold you to that standard.

00:25:05.440 Interesting.

00:25:05.960 Yeah, I like that.

00:25:06.480 I want to jump back to your accountability partner for a minute, because I think a lot

00:25:09.320 of guys know that they need to have something like this.

00:25:11.260 When you say you've got accountability partners in your life, what does that actually look

00:25:14.440 like?

00:25:14.660 Are these buddies that you're hanging out with?

00:25:16.120 Are these professional type accountability partners?

00:25:18.840 What does that look like for you?

00:25:19.740 So for me, that looks like first off, I have a coach who I meet with three times a month

00:25:23.840 and he knows my goals.

00:25:25.380 He knows the things that I'm trying to do and he helps me get through that.

00:25:28.460 Secondly, I have two friends who I one I talk to twice a week and another I talk to once

00:25:33.480 a week.

00:25:33.820 And again, the most important thing with those friends is that they know what I'm trying

00:25:39.560 to do.

00:25:39.920 They know who I want to be and how I want to show up and that they see everything that's

00:25:44.600 going on in my life through that light.

00:25:46.620 And so we encourage each other.

00:25:49.160 That's big time.

00:25:49.980 But we also call each other out whenever we're struggling with something or we see emotional

00:25:55.820 weakness, if you will.

00:25:56.980 You know, and I give them full reign to do that.

00:25:59.060 And so that's the purpose.

00:26:00.380 That's one of the purposes of our relationship and our cause.

00:26:03.620 And so that's that's big time.

00:26:05.800 And again, these are things we hear about.

00:26:08.020 We always hear about it.

00:26:08.900 But there's a reason why everyone's talking about it.

00:26:11.900 And there's also a reason why a lot of you are not doing it.

00:26:14.800 You're scared to hear the truth.

00:26:16.500 When's the last time you sat down with your wife and asked her, how am I doing in X, Y,

00:26:22.040 and Z category?

00:26:23.080 How is our love life?

00:26:24.280 Rate me on a scale of one to 10.

00:26:26.100 And listen to the answer.

00:26:27.360 And feel your heart start beating fast.

00:26:29.320 And watch your ego show up.

00:26:31.280 That's the exact reason why you need to hear it.

00:26:33.680 When's the last time you asked your kids how you're showing up as a father?

00:26:37.440 How love do they feel on a daily basis?

00:26:39.300 If you don't know that, then you're not going to be able to get better.

00:26:41.440 That's gold that they can give you that you're not getting all because all for the sake of

00:26:46.280 your ego.

00:26:47.120 And so that's why it's really important.

00:26:48.340 And so also the surveys that I mentioned that some any father, any husband can do.

00:26:54.660 Survey your wife every week. 0.99

00:26:56.800 I'll have it automatically sent out.

00:26:58.680 Boomerang on Gmail.

00:26:59.940 You know what I mean?

00:27:00.300 Just have it sent out to the email.

00:27:02.040 Interesting, yeah.

00:27:02.560 And that way when you review it, you don't have to have your ego involved.

00:27:05.900 You can review it at your own pace.

00:27:07.780 You know, you can look at the answers and you can do with it what you want.

00:27:11.720 But do you want to get where you say you want to get?

00:27:15.500 If so, you have to deal with things as they are right now.

00:27:18.580 Don't run from the truth.

00:27:20.320 How do you check your ego?

00:27:21.800 Because I know like for me, I've gotten feedback and I tend to believe that I enjoy feedback

00:27:27.120 because like you, it helps me.

00:27:28.420 But I still notice my ego creeping in, even though I'm very aware of the fact that I need

00:27:32.360 that feedback.

00:27:33.160 What do you do personally to get past that stuff?

00:27:36.140 Hey, so that's a great question.

00:27:37.760 First is I understand and know that the ego is never going to leave.

00:27:42.800 So it's always going to be there.

00:27:43.920 So it's not like I'm just going to be at Jesus-like level.

00:27:47.620 That's what we all aspire to be.

00:27:49.740 But we are human and we have the ego.

00:27:51.680 So I don't really beat myself up over it.

00:27:53.500 I actually like it when I get to feel uncomfortable because that means that that's usually something

00:27:59.120 that I really need to hear.

00:28:00.140 So when my heart's beating and I don't want to hear the real truth or when I find myself

00:28:05.080 not wanting to read the survey responses that I give to my team advisors who listen to my

00:28:12.020 podcast each episode and tell me the things that they like that they don't like, I find

00:28:16.600 myself sometimes not wanting to check that because I'd like to believe that I have the

00:28:20.760 best podcast in the world, right?

00:28:22.300 But those are always good signs for me because that just means I need to do it.

00:28:26.360 So I guess the easy answer is just be quiet, I guess.

00:28:30.980 So when someone's talking to you, don't say anything.

00:28:34.160 So when my kids are, you know, you could feel your ego creep up, but I just be quiet.

00:28:38.320 I no longer say anything because as soon as I start defending myself, I always tell my

00:28:42.540 kids, when you find yourself defending yourself all the time, that's because you're weak. 0.52

00:28:46.160 That's a weak person.

00:28:47.500 You don't defend yourself.

00:28:48.540 Listen and then do with it what you want.

00:28:50.840 But Robert Green talks about this.

00:28:52.240 When you hear feedback, come from a place of strength and power because a lot of people

00:28:56.140 their self-worth is attached to their results.

00:28:59.700 And it's like, sure, listen, it doesn't make you a horrible person if you, you know, if

00:29:03.820 you, if someone didn't like your podcast or if someone returns the product that they bought

00:29:08.360 from you, that's, that doesn't mean anything.

00:29:09.900 All it means is that you can improve and you should love that and enjoy that and embrace

00:29:13.840 that.

00:29:14.120 So I hope that answers the question.

00:29:16.000 No, that makes a ton of sense.

00:29:17.280 So next, let's talk about how you tactically implement some of this advice.

00:29:20.440 So you're getting some feedback from your wife, your kids, people listening to the podcast,

00:29:24.000 your, your accountability partners, what do you do to tactically implement what it is

00:29:28.040 they're talking about?

00:29:28.780 Do you implement everything?

00:29:29.780 Do you decide, Hey, I like this.

00:29:31.320 I don't like that.

00:29:32.140 Give me a little bit of insight to that.

00:29:33.560 Right.

00:29:33.760 So I usually let my, my ultimate vision determine what I need to do.

00:29:38.620 So a great question for me is what does my ultimate vision in whatever category, right?

00:29:43.300 So let's say as a husband, what is my, I, I, first of all, you have to have an ultimate

00:29:47.320 vision.

00:29:47.660 So I have all my life broken into categories and I have visions.

00:29:51.060 I have what I call a G code was as a set of standards and my philosophy on how I should

00:29:56.060 approach that and an overall game plan with some goals, et cetera.

00:29:59.600 But it's what is my vision need me to become.

00:30:02.400 And so when you start to hear these patterns, like these same patterns that come up, then

00:30:06.940 you analyze them.

00:30:08.020 And then on a weekly basis, I have results.

00:30:10.280 I have goals set up around these certain categories and I just implement slowly.

00:30:14.340 Right.

00:30:14.740 And I like to communicate also with, I don't implement everything.

00:30:18.520 So I get a lot of feedback, you know, for example, with my podcast, I have my team of

00:30:22.460 advisors.

00:30:22.840 I get a bunch of feedback telling me, Oh, it'd be cool if you do this.

00:30:25.740 It'd be cool if you do that.

00:30:26.760 I just try to like, I like the quote.

00:30:28.960 I can't remember who said it, but it's think big, act small.

00:30:32.400 So like it's, you can't implement everything, but act small and make sure that like you're

00:30:38.020 aware of it.

00:30:38.640 Just that awareness alone starts to, you'll, you'll find that when you start getting comfortable

00:30:42.960 hearing the feedback, you're going to become more aware.

00:30:45.460 And even in the situations that do come up, you're going to be able to do something about

00:30:48.760 it.

00:30:48.940 So I also like communicating with people really close to me, what my plans are to change.

00:30:54.500 That's another thing.

00:30:55.200 So we're talking about accountability partners, your kids, your wife, because they can hold

00:30:59.080 you accountable.

00:30:59.960 So for example, if I tell my wife, yo, every morning I'm working out at eight o'clock, she

00:31:03.960 should be able to call me if she, call me out.

00:31:05.920 If she sees that I'm still in my office at 830, you know what I mean?

00:31:08.780 Right, right.

00:31:09.360 And so that's just an example of some small things you can do to, uh, to implement it.

00:31:13.800 And then I have what I call target practice, which is a set of, a set of continuous practices

00:31:19.920 or, or habits, if you will, that I always want to monitor and keep up on.

00:31:24.560 And I check those off on a daily, weekly basis.

00:31:26.920 So I suggest anybody to do that.

00:31:28.580 It's just like, you know, success one-on-one, just identify the things that have to be done

00:31:32.460 consistently and make sure that you're doing them and have a system for doing that.

00:31:35.640 And that's what I call target practice.

00:31:36.880 Yeah, very cool.

00:31:38.220 I talk a lot about this because we talk, I think a lot of people talk about results and

00:31:41.380 goals.

00:31:41.940 Well, and I think that's important.

00:31:43.060 You've got to start with the end of mind, but the reality is if you just focus on the

00:31:45.800 few actions, maybe two, three, five actions that'll help yield the results, regardless

00:31:49.940 of worrying about it, that they'll just produce those results naturally.

00:31:53.640 I think you're going to have a lot more success.

00:31:55.240 Absolutely, man.

00:31:55.980 And it, and it is a balance, you know, cause I think I was caught up, you know, early on where

00:32:00.180 I would focus a lot on results and ignore some of these other things.

00:32:03.000 And that's where people get delusional a little bit.

00:32:04.700 It's like, you do have to bring it down to a granular level and say, all right, what

00:32:08.480 has to be done on a daily basis for me to consistently get those results?

00:32:11.800 So I agree 100%.

00:32:13.000 So what are the categories that you've broken it down to?

00:32:15.700 You said you've got different categories of life.

00:32:17.280 I've got categories that I use as well.

00:32:18.680 What are the categories you're talking about?

00:32:20.140 Man.

00:32:20.400 So I actually have 18 categories and I won't, I won't go into all of them, but yeah, go into

00:32:25.400 a few key categories.

00:32:26.520 Right.

00:32:26.660 So I have it personal and then business or in professional slash business.

00:32:30.300 Right.

00:32:30.480 So in my personal life, I have my marriage.

00:32:33.180 That's big time.

00:32:33.760 I used to have all of my relationships bagged into one.

00:32:37.040 And I was like, nah, my wife needs her own category. 1.00

00:32:39.160 So I got, I got my, my, my marriage.

00:32:41.260 I have what I call my Wolfpack category and that's my kids.

00:32:44.340 So that's me as a father and sort of in that role.

00:32:47.760 Other categories.

00:32:48.840 I have, I have lavish home and systems.

00:32:51.180 That's a, that's what I'm, I really liked that category.

00:32:53.140 It's basically a category for how I organize my life and my, my wardrobe and things like

00:32:58.140 that.

00:32:58.380 And just how my household is set up.

00:33:00.200 And that's really big time as a father as well.

00:33:02.280 Of course, you got money and finances and things like that.

00:33:04.300 You can't get away with not having that.

00:33:07.360 Let's switch other ones.

00:33:08.380 I want to do some noteworthy ones.

00:33:10.140 I have my friends in my, my power circle, if you will.

00:33:13.240 So that's just a couple of them to name a few.

00:33:15.460 Obviously in my business, you have, I have my coaching program.

00:33:18.340 I have my podcast and marketing and things like that.

00:33:21.120 But for anyone else, like there's no right or wrong in terms of how you set up your categories,

00:33:25.080 but you've got to have some sort of way to filter information so that like, before I

00:33:30.660 did this, it felt like in my mind, it was just all these papers.

00:33:33.440 Like my mind was an office or just papers everywhere.

00:33:35.720 But now it's like filed cabinets, you know, for when information comes at me, I can file

00:33:41.060 it in a certain way and it just feels so much better that way.

00:33:44.120 Yeah.

00:33:44.560 How do you, I mean, that's the key.

00:33:45.600 How do you balance all this?

00:33:46.440 Because I hear a lot of guys will say, I don't know how to balance between two categories,

00:33:49.680 like business and personal.

00:33:51.920 So how do you personally get some of this balance in your life?

00:33:55.020 So balance is an interesting word and I guess I'm still refining my philosophy and how I

00:33:59.900 look at it.

00:34:00.660 I'll say this because I, let me not, I don't want to act like I have the game figured out

00:34:04.360 by any, by any means.

00:34:05.560 Sure.

00:34:05.920 Right.

00:34:06.180 Yeah.

00:34:06.320 I believe in integration.

00:34:07.960 I believe that everything should be working together.

00:34:11.240 So when I say break your life into categories, I don't mean be so rigid and say like, oh, right

00:34:16.140 now I'm doing, I mean, there is going to be some of that and there has to be,

00:34:19.340 but it's, everything has just got to be attached to a higher purpose.

00:34:22.840 That's what I found.

00:34:23.620 So when I started doing this and I have a really strong purpose for all these different

00:34:27.760 categories and they all fit into this big scheme, this one big plan, I don't really

00:34:33.240 find it overwhelming, if you will.

00:34:35.800 Like if that makes sense, like it's just life and life gets messy.

00:34:39.340 It's not always going to be clean.

00:34:40.660 It's not always going to be going to be neat.

00:34:42.720 And so embracing that chaos, if you will, is the first thing that you have to do.

00:34:46.020 So it's almost like, stop trying to look for balance.

00:34:49.140 Instead, focus on integration, like focus on merging everything and having everything

00:34:53.920 work together as a machine.

00:34:55.160 It's almost like your body, right?

00:34:56.600 Like you can't do without your right hand.

00:34:58.440 So that's how one category in my life will be.

00:35:00.740 And then you got, you got your chest, you got your head, you got your brain, you got

00:35:03.580 your legs, your feet, everything serves a purpose and is all moving you in one direction.

00:35:08.500 So that's the analogy I like to use, if you will, that helps me because sometimes it does

00:35:12.820 feel, you know, sometimes one category needs more attention than the other.

00:35:16.560 And that's just a reality.

00:35:17.660 And then once you, but when you put the effort into developing the systems in the beginning,

00:35:21.880 and this takes time, this takes a lot of effort.

00:35:23.920 And that's why in my coaching program, I work with people on this and it's crazy the

00:35:28.380 breakthroughs that happen.

00:35:29.720 You know, Jay Abraham, the famous marketer, he always talks about this, optimize first,

00:35:34.620 then focus on innovation.

00:35:36.680 So a lot of us are looking for breakthroughs, but what you first have to do is optimize everything

00:35:40.660 that's going on.

00:35:41.360 So when he goes into a company, he focuses on making all the systems that are currently

00:35:45.580 running, making them work better, eliminate whatever doesn't need to be there.

00:35:49.320 Then you focus on breakthroughs.

00:35:51.140 And so that, that way of thinking helps me a lot because I might need a breakthrough in

00:35:55.220 one area while I'm consistently optimizing another.

00:35:58.640 You see what I'm saying?

00:35:59.120 Like, for example, I feel, I feel really great about the, where my relationships are headed,

00:36:04.620 you know, with my kids and with my wife.

00:36:06.280 Right.

00:36:06.560 And then there's other areas of my life that need breakthroughs.

00:36:09.020 And so I can, while consistently optimizing these other areas, I can focus on innovation

00:36:13.180 and creating a breakthrough in another category.

00:36:16.180 Yeah, no, I love it.

00:36:17.160 And we talk a lot about what I refer to as congruency.

00:36:20.300 I mean, there's, there's no hats, right?

00:36:21.560 There's just your life.

00:36:22.320 And this is what you're talking about.

00:36:23.600 If you can find a way to be congruent between your work and your family life and your friendships

00:36:27.660 and the things that you do for activities, I think you're going to have a lot more success.

00:36:30.700 So you echo my sentiments exactly.

00:36:32.620 Absolutely, man.

00:36:33.280 I like that congruency.

00:36:35.000 So Nii, this has been awesome, man.

00:36:36.940 I can't tell you how valuable this has been.

00:36:38.580 And I hope guys are taking notes because there's been so much information.

00:36:41.420 We could talk about this stuff all day, but for the sake of time, your time, my time,

00:36:44.220 and everybody else, I'm going to cut it short right here.

00:36:46.360 But if someone wants to connect with you a little bit more, actually, before I get to

00:36:50.960 that, I'll give you an opportunity to share that.

00:36:52.880 But I want to ask you a question I ask all of my guests, and that is, what does it mean

00:36:56.840 to be a man?

00:36:58.120 To be a man, in one word, means to be decisive.

00:37:02.520 A man's got to be able to make decisions and also to be able to learn from those decisions.

00:37:07.160 I feel like a lot of men, we overthink, we're indecisive, we're waiting for things to be

00:37:11.960 certain, we're waiting for certainty.

00:37:14.160 We got to value clarity over certainty.

00:37:16.080 I read that in this really good book by Patrick Lencioni.

00:37:18.680 It talks about clarity over certainty.

00:37:20.100 So decide on what it is that you want and know that it's going to look ugly sometimes.

00:37:25.540 A true man, like a man doesn't run from that.

00:37:27.720 He embraces the chaos, he embraces the chaos that's in the jungle, but he decides, he's

00:37:32.940 moved forward, and he's decisive.

00:37:34.680 So all the men out there listening, make sure you focus on being decisive, make decisions,

00:37:38.680 and learn from those decisions.

00:37:40.320 I love it, man.

00:37:41.260 Well, how do we connect with you, learn more about what you're doing, and see what you

00:37:45.320 have to offer the world?

00:37:46.580 Oh, man, I appreciate it.

00:37:47.580 You can find me at imnotyou.com.

00:37:49.520 I also created a gift for your audience.

00:37:51.380 You can go to imnotyou.com forward slash order of man.

00:37:54.340 I got a great gift for you guys.

00:37:55.420 You can go out and check that out.

00:37:56.340 But you can find me on Instagram, Twitter, all of that.

00:37:59.140 It's all at Nii Shobo.

00:38:00.660 So N-I-Y-I-S-O-B-O. 1.00

00:38:02.740 Also, you can email me, niyi.sobo at gmail.com.

00:38:06.580 I read all my emails.

00:38:07.640 I don't always respond, but I love hearing from you guys and hearing your feedback, et

00:38:11.040 cetera.

00:38:11.320 So that's where you can find me.

00:38:12.940 Nii, I appreciate you, man.

00:38:14.120 I appreciate your energy and passion, enthusiasm for what you're doing.

00:38:16.780 I can see why you've made the transition to full time, and I can definitely see how you're

00:38:20.540 helping a lot of people.

00:38:21.420 So I want to let you know I appreciate you and your time and coming on the show today.

00:38:24.840 Yo, I appreciate it, man.

00:38:25.860 I had a blast.

00:38:28.160 There you have it, man.

00:38:29.060 Mr. Nii Shobo dropping some hard-earned knowledge on how to dominate in any environment.

00:38:33.960 We talked about a lot today, so make sure you go to orderofman.com slash 072 so you can

00:38:38.440 get all the notes and the links.

00:38:39.820 Also, remember our inaugural Order of Man Uprising, September 15th through the 18th, 2016.

00:38:45.340 This event will sell out.

00:38:46.780 We're bringing on new instructors and introducing them daily, and it's going to be an event unlike

00:38:51.740 any other, so go to orderofman.com slash uprising for all the details.

00:38:55.960 Guys, I look forward to talking to you on Friday, but until then, take action and live

00:38:59.460 manfully.

00:39:00.560 Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.

00:39:03.520 You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be?

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Order of Man - August 02, 2016

OoM 072： Dominate in Any Environment with Niyi Sobo

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