OoM 079： Presence, Claim, and Penetration with Satyen Raja
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Satyan Raja is the founder of the Warrior Sage Group of Companies, Ignite Passion Now, Harmony Integration Academy, the Find Yourself Journey, and the Unforgettable Challenge. Through these companies, Raja and his wife, Suzanne, have traveled the world, helping couples reignite their passion, find fulfillment and accomplishment, and improve their mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. His companies currently have over 10,000 successful grads, and as you ll hear in the interview, he is on his way to helping thousands more.
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Today we talk about something we have not yet covered on the Order of Man podcast,
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masculine and feminine energy, and how men can balance the two.
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My guest today, Satyan Raja, and I discuss using the understanding of energy to attract a spouse,
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raise your kids, and live more fully with who you are.
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We also talk about presence, claim, and penetration,
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and why every man needs to learn to master these skills.
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You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest.
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Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
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When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.
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At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
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Men, what's going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am your host and the founder of Order of Man.
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As always, I'm glad you're here with us again today.
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So if you're trying to improve your relationship with your wife or make a career change or even just get a promotion,
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if you want to connect with your kids, if you're trying to find a new hobby,
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building a band of brothers, or any of the thousands of other things that I know have been on your mind,
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Today, we're going to be taking things a little bit differently than we normally do.
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We're going to be talking about energy, and specifically, we're talking about today masculine and feminine energy,
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and why you and me as men have to understand this and how we can use energy to our advantage.
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But before I get too much into the show and introduce you to my guest,
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I do want to let you know that we just finished up, guys, our inaugural Order of Man uprising over the weekend.
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We had 20 guys fly in from all over the country to my hometown in southern Utah to learn some new skills,
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to gain some incredible resources on their journey to become better men.
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Now, I'm not going to be sharing too much, so don't worry about our next uprising for a while,
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but I do want to let you know that we are going to be releasing the dates for our next uprising later this week.
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This is going to be our spring event, and I promise you, based on the feedback that we got,
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I've already got a dozen or so messages on Facebook from guys who want to come to the next event,
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so make sure you stay tuned for that and jump on that quickly.
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As always, guys, I want you to know that I did put together some show notes for this show.
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You can find those at orderofman.com slash 079.
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And second, make sure you join our closed men's Facebook group for a deeper conversation about this show
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and any other topic that you want to discuss at facebook.com slash groups slash order of man.
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His name is Satyan Raja, and he is the founder of the Warrior Sage group of companies Ignite Passion Now,
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Harmony Integration Academy, the Find Yourself Journey, and the Unforgettable Challenge.
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Through these companies, Raja and his wife, Suzanne, have traveled the world,
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helping put a dent in the divorce rate by helping couples reignite their passion,
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find fulfillment and accomplishment, and improve their mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
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His companies currently have over 10,000 successful grads.
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And as you'll hear in the interview today, he is on his way to helping thousands more.
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Satyan, thanks for joining me on the show today.
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Hey, this is going to be a kind of a different topic.
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I think we're going to delve a lot more into the mindset, the masculine energy, the feminine energy,
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and that's something that we haven't really addressed on the podcast up to date.
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So I'm glad that you're on the show, and I'm glad we're going to be able to have the chance to talk about this today.
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This is really valuable, I've found in my own personal life, Ryan.
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And these insights I've picked up along the way, I'm happy to share them.
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And I think all the good brothers out there could get some good bells ringing in their mind
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when they hear some of the stuff that I've picked up the hard way, you know?
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If we can learn from you the things that you've experienced the hard way, that's easier for us.
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So we appreciate any time we can get any of that, right?
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So tell me a little bit about energy in the first place.
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I mean, when we talk about masculine energy, feminine energy, what are we talking about?
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And let's get a little bit more tangible with that so we can have some framework for this conversation today.
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So within all of us, whether we're men, women, regardless of our sexual preference or style,
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So I'll express what they mean to me, all right, from my context.
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The masculine energy within us is that energy that's always seeking a deeper breakthrough in life,
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to break through obstacles, to move beyond restriction, to move beyond limitation.
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That masculine energy is the energy of direction, the one that can stand up and above a circumstance,
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look over it with objective vision rather than just emotional craziness, right?
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Look at it from emotional detachment, if you will.
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And that part within us that can step out aside, that's the masculine energy, okay?
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And I can even see this in the conversations I have with my wife, just where she tends to
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So the masculine within us, its highest virtue, its highest value is the seeking of greater
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freedom, freedom for yourself, freedom for your family, freedom for your society, freedom
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And ultimately, it's spiritual freedom, the freedom to be untouched, unperturbed by the
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things that are going on around you to hold that calm, grounded center of being.
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That's the ultimate expression of the masculine, the empty, free, steady, integral, on mission
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feeling that we get when we're in the groove, you know?
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Now, we all have that, whether we're men or women, okay?
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Now, the feminine side is also something that we all have.
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The feminine greatest value within us is the desire for love or connection to be flowing,
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to be in a natural receiving and giving space, for love to amplify, to magnify, okay?
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So the highest feminine value is how can we create more love?
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I want to find out what's going on in your world.
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So the values of connection and having love flow is number one for the feminine within
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So we have the masculine energy of direction and freedom.
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We have the feminine energy of reception and love, but they're not equal equal.
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And unfortunately, in today's society, there's a lot of ideas of pigeonholing, stereotyping,
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And I feel the more we try to push to be any stuck role, either the old role of the 1950s
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and earlier, or some type of new, interesting role, that's what gets us in trouble.
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And in my work, my philosophy is instead of trying to become something that we're not,
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In my own life, I would say I'm more 70% masculine at my core.
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That means I'm driven by purpose, by goals, by mission, by direction.
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If I'm at a party, if I'm celebrating, I love that.
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But after a while, I'm twiddling my thumbs and I go, okay, when are we going to do something
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There's also, you know, I would say about 30% of me is feminine, using this as my example,
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Your brother down the road may be 90% masculine, 10% feminine.
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Your other friend down the street may be, you know, 60% masculine and 40% feminine.
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If I'm more masculine at my core, like I am, you know, I'll give you an example.
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When I, when she was growing up, before I knew about this stuff, I was, I'm, I grow
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The masculine within us grows by loving challenge.
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The feminine within us grows by loving praise and acknowledgement.
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But because I'm more geared for the masculine, I would continuously challenge my daughter and
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The way you might, a son or something like that.
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That's my hardwiring, but that was backfiring because it may grow their, their masculine
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side and they may get tougher and stronger and so forth, but I'm crushing their feminine
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because I wasn't giving it enough praise, acknowledgement and tenderness and love.
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I mean, you're, you're talking about trying to fit people into holes where they may not
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necessarily belong and pigeonhole them into that.
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What is the downside of that individually and even collectively as a society?
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Well, you look, I'll give you the other example with my son, right?
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But if I over challenge him and I'm only 100% challenged, like full metal jacket, that
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Where it's like constant, you know, challenge up.
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I think what the downside is us as men, we need to find out where our natural resting position
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So pragmatically, that means seven, 70% of the time I'm on mission, 30% of the time I'm
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But if I overly nurture my feminine and only nurture my feminine, I'll end up being a flow
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just like a new age flowster going nowhere, having no direction, no goals, um, sort of lost
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And the, so if we go to either extreme or we go to the extreme of the other side of
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Balls to the wall, break, you know, break the rules, take, take prisoners, no prisoners, all
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There's power in that, but there's also a detriment and the detriment is the balancing
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It's going to hit you burnout, divorce, your kids are going to hate you or whatever, because
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I feel the value is, is knowing our true North center and then playing that out to its
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I mean, is this, is it a series of just understanding yourself, talking with yourself, meditation,
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or what does this actually look like to determine?
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So let me give you some ways that we all can check in with ourselves.
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If we're looking at movies throughout a year, okay.
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You're looking at the, and you were to track the movies you watch throughout the year.
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I like movies having to do with adventure challenge, you know, one man against an army, there's a
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Any movies that have to do with unsurmountable challenges, James Bond movies, things like that.
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Uh, uh, mission impossible, those type of movies, those type of thrillers, action, and you name
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That's always about breaking through an obstacle, sports movies, sports itself.
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You know, you've got, let's say football, you've got an opposite side of a team.
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They're trying to stop you from getting a ball through the other side, right?
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If I'm watching seven out of 10 movies, because you know, that's what happens to me.
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Seven out of 10, you know, I'm watching those type of movies three times out of 10, I'll
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sit down and I'll watch a romantic movie with my wife.
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But if I only watch those or I'm watching those 70% of the time, I wouldn't even be sitting
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If you're watching movies, you know, and 80% of them are love stories.
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So if the reality is you like 50, 50, then you're right in the middle.
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It has nothing to do whether you're straight or homosexual or bisexual.
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This is simply having to do with the energetic of challenge versus acknowledgement, freedom
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Because I imagine if somebody figures out that maybe they're like you, 70, 30, they, they
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may have a tendency or desire to say, well, no, I'm 90, 10, or I'm 10, zero.
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Because we've got all these weird imprints, right?
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For years, we had the first stage, what I call the masculine first stage imprint, first
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level, old school, I'm macho, whatever, you know, I'm a tough guy, right?
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What I say goes, it's the old school, you know, Archie Bunker type mindset, okay?
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That attracts the old school feminine style of, I can't do anything without you.
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So we need to move beyond codependency into the next level, which is independence.
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And independence is the feeling of, you know what, we're equal, I love you, we love each
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The next level is what I consider interdependence, where the masculine has, you know, so let
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The masculine in the first stage is a lot of spine, a lot of gusto, a lot of macho, but
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very little heart, very little consciousness and love, right?
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The second stage masculine's got a lot more heart, more connected, more open, more loving,
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more flowing, but they've lost their mission, their purpose, their balls and their direction
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This is what I'm proposing is that we cultivate our spine and our heart to become a modern conscious
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warrior, sage, a man of principle, a man of depth, a man of love, a man of clarity, all
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So, how do we do that if we have a tendency to be more of the warrior-like versus more
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of that, that, I don't know the right term, but the feeling or this, this person who may
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be directionless, like you say, how do you, how do you cultivate that?
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Well, if you're more in your feminine and a lot of us guys have been beaten down, we
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haven't had an opportunity to grow our masculine because let's say, for example, when we were
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young, okay, as an example, um, let's say a youngster and every time we try to make a
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decision or move towards a direction, our parents always said, don't do that, don't
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do that, you'll get hurt, don't do that, you'll get hurt.
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They were trying to overly coddle us or protect us for good reason, right?
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The feminine wants to see, see us get strong and survive.
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Our intentions are good in that situation, even though the outcome may not be.
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So, but what that does is atrophies our masculine direction.
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We never got to grow the muscle of choosing our own path, our own way, and come what may
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the lessons that come along with making our own decisions, right?
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Some of them are going to be bad and some of them are going to be good.
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That part in a lot of us men has been atrophied.
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And therefore, when we try to cultivate our masculine, we tend to go into this extreme
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The wisdom is, is to recognize that the masculine and feminine is within all of us.
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And we just have to come to our natural resting place.
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Look, here's another way to check out where are you more, are you more masculine, more feminine?
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In your sexual fantasies, you got to take a look at, do I enjoy in my sexual fantasies
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being the one who is the more claiming, the more dominant, the more, hey, you're mine.
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You know, more of the one who's the devourer, the one who's the Casanova, the one who's
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The feminine side within us is the one that loves to receive, take me, I'm yours, do with
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I'm talking about where there's love and trust and affection and affinity, right?
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By knowing that these energies are within us, like myself, like I said, I like to be the
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one who takes, you know, not takes as in ownership, but that feeling of your mind, beloved, you know,
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pinning up my lover against the wall, my beloved and making out with her or surprising her that
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I love when she does the same, but if she did it all the time, it wouldn't be a turn
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I like it once in a while and I like being more of the one doing that and her too.
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She likes jumping on me, grabbing me when I come home, but she doesn't like doing it all
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She likes being the one being taken, being followed, being a cooed and loved on, you
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Now I'm using rough numbers, but I know, I know.
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So how does this apply then when finding a spouse, finding a partner, finding a mate?
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Is this, are you naturally going to attract somebody who's opposite of you?
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So you're going to naturally attract someone who's the reciprocal energy.
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So if I'm 70, 30, 70 masculine, 30 feminine, I'm going to attract a partner who's 70 feminine
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You always attract your reciprocal in consciousness.
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And you've got to know that and know that you can't use the same methodology of motivation,
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the same mindset of motivated motivation to motivate your partner or to support them.
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You got, so for example, I've learned that I need to use far more praise, acknowledgement,
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tenderness, connection, eye contact, loving touch.
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Still within my strength of being a man, but offer that as a gift, not as a weakness in
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me, but offer my strength of tenderness, my strength of connection, my strength of feeling,
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There's nowhere you need, like, you don't have to worry about anything.
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And when we do that, it evokes in our partner, her dropping into her feminine more.
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And when she drops into her feminine more, because she feels she can trust your masculine
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direction and steadiness of being and presence, man, it opens up her sexual energy.
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It opens up her devotion and her dedication to you and your mission.
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Yeah, this is actually something we talk a lot about through the work we're doing with
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Order of Man is that you have to step into that masculine role and you have to be fully
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yourself in order for you to allow or order in order for somebody else to be fully themselves.
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But when you own this masculine side within yourself, listen, the same thing that women
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find sexy, which is presence, is the same thing that other men find trustable, which
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If you're going to a business meeting, you're going to some type of position where you're
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in a position of influence, whether you're influencing your kids or influencing someone
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Well, if your eyes are all over the place, if you're jittery, you're shifting around, you
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can't keep gaze, you don't feel good about yourself and your body and your strength and
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It may not be consciously picked up right away, but the unconscious mind of the individual
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And you'll get less dollars, less pay, less opportunities.
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You'll push them away because you're not grounded in your masculine.
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Now, let's get back to my conversation with Sachin.
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Now, is this something, I'm going to just jump real quick back to the partner conversation.
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Is this something you even have to consciously think about, or is this going to happen naturally?
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At first, you've got to think about it like any game.
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I don't look at it as like something to take too seriously.
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So there's ways of growing our masculine energy.
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And that masculine energy grows through different ways, through loving challenge.
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Number one thing, I know you've got this order of man.
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Because I found that the number one thing that I can do to keep myself chiseled, to keep
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my pencil sharp, my sword at its most cleanest and sharp, is by being with other men of character.
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The other men of character who are all going somewhere with a collective intention, that's
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the best way to keep our masculine healthy, growing, and of service to our lives, our families,
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Because I imagine somebody who's listening to this is very focused on self-improvement,
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being aware, wanting to get better, wanting to be more of a man.
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And so they'll take advice and they'll say, I get this.
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I'm willing to work on these things, even though I may not be perfect.
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How do I let my wife know what I need out of the relationship?
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The old adage is that you've got to always start on yourself.
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So can I lay out a dynamic that I feel if I express it to you, all the guys are going
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to get this even more powerfully and then actually how to utilize this in real life?
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Okay, so I have this thing, what I call the PCP muscle, the masculine muscle that is most
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And here's an opportunity to flex it and to strengthen it.
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Now your posts, when I'm reading them, there's deep presence when you're in your videos and
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So presence is that feeling of you're right there with your lover.
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You're right there with your mission, whatever that is.
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Even if it's trying to find your mission, you're right there with it.
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You're vulnerable, yet you're grounded in your body.
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So presence is the undistractable, unperturbable center of being.
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We need to cultivate our ability to stand with our ladies, with our partners, our families
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Even if it's 20 minutes, 30 minutes, full Zen mastery, martial art focus where there's
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That is a huge gift that we can give to our feminine partners and the world at large.
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Before we get to the next one, I want to talk just real briefly on how maybe we can articulate
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some of that, how we can develop, because you're talking about muscles.
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So you're talking about growth and how we can do some of that in our own lives.
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So a way you can do this, you said, well, how can I bring this to my partner, right?
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Go tonight, bring her close to you before you hug and kiss her and say hello, or before
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you go off to work, as an example, in the morning, take a minute and hold her close to
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your body, let your arms go around her, and look her deep in the eyes without any words.
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See the part in her that is already full of love.
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She may be in a tense mode, she may be moody, she may be in a good mood, but who knows, right?
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The idea is, it doesn't matter what mood she is.
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You go in with deep, steady presence, make eye contact, stay there in silence, convey the
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message that I am here, hook or crook, I love you solidly, I'm going nowhere, I'm here to
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raise our mission, to take us even higher to life, purpose, God, truth, whatever moves
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You can convey this without words, you can convey it through the steadiness of your gaze,
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That's one thing that I advocate with all men is take a moment to do that with your kids,
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your family, show them who you are by steady, strong, relaxed gaze.
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And I'm sure, maybe not this exact scenario, because it would be a little awkward, but I'm
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sure you can use the same concept of presence, whether you're in a sales meeting with a client
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or even potentially in a confrontation or any situation that you find yourself in.
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Presence means being fully there rather than somewhere else.
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It's an ancient Zen principle that you got to put 100% into everything you do in every
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So if you're in vacation mode, do vacation mode.
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When you come back from work and you're home, cut off all the other work stuff and give your
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presence to your family, to your health, to your well-being.
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When you're in work mode, give your presence fully there without distraction.
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What makes us neurotic and crazy and full of frustration is when we're at work, we're
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When we're with our family, we're thinking about work that can't shut off.
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This is when guys get overstressed and overworked and they typically end up in my mind and what
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I've seen is, and even in my personal life, just exploding and unleashing.
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And it's usually on the people that we love the most.
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And obviously in a love relationship, it's beloved.
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When your feminine partner feels that you have this claim, not ownership, it's the claim
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of resoluteness, the claim of sureness, being steady.
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She's not thinking every week that, oh my God, is he going to be there?
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She should feel as well as your children, if you have kids, or your purpose, your mission.
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And I'm not going to make any excuses to anyone.
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That's a bold, it's the type of boldness that's birthed in our humility and in our gifts.
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How does somebody define what it is they're trying to claim and then articulate that as
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One of the things that you can ask yourself is what do I stand for?
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Another way to look at claim is asking yourself the simple question, what must I do today to
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love, to live, and to die completely without regret, without regret?
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What must I do today to love fully, to live fully, to die completely without regret?
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That, if you really ask that question with humbleness, with openness, and you really do what comes
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up from inside of you, like actually live from that place, your claim will be so strong that
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people are going to start respecting you to a whole other level, and opportunities aren't
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going to come to a whole other level, because you're emanating, you're radiating this transmission
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of someone who's in their body, they're not in their head, they're not daydreamers,
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So claim is someone who's willing to go out and get what is rightfully theirs, and to earn
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it, and not to beg for it, or hope for it, but to earn it through their actions, through
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This almost sounds like, to me, and we haven't gotten to the last component of this, but based
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on what you're talking about up to this point, it sounds a lot like somebody who might have
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quote-unquote the X factor, or the thing you just can't put your finger on, is that accurate,
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The X factors, all three of these combined, when you've got the PCP muscle firing full
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on, all fibers, man, it's like you become unstoppable, but not in a crazy way, you become
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You become like Archimedes, where with a lever, you can move the earth.
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And it almost seems like this can't be fabricated, this can't be faked.
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And I imagine, and just thinking about this in my own life, is I can see when men are
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trying to fabricate or fake this PCP muscle that you're talking about.
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Well, look, you know, I do martial arts, so learning anything at the beginning, there's
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also always going to be a bit of exaggeration time at the beginning, or where you're going
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to be a little stiff with a new learning, or practicing something, and you're not going
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Give yourself that space to just take this in and to grow.
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Obviously, there's the sexual connotation there.
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And penetration is also another way of saying execution.
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You just can't have presence, and you can't just say, okay, I'm here.
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You can't just claim, hey, I'm going to do this.
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Getting off your ass and activating, actualizing whatever goals, intentions, actions that need
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to be done on a daily basis to attain your biggest goals.
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So penetration is your willingness to take your gift and actually apply it and make it
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Now, in terms of partnership and relationship, penetration is that feeling that I'm already
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Rather than trying to get into her pants or get inside of her, it's that feeling that,
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you know, a lot of women, feminine people, they can't stand the feeling of this slimy,
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But if you already feel like you are already inside of her, your eyes, your soul, your body,
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your cock, your being, truly already making love with her, already merged with her.
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This is where this goes into the subtle dimension where you've got to feel like you're breathing
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So every time you're breathing in, you're filling up your lover's lungs, her belly,
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you're being the resuscitation, you're becoming sensitive and aware and totally tuned in to
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Having that willingness to penetrate with your subtle awareness, your perception,
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your intuition, your intuition, this is profound.
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And it turns the feminine on like crazy to feel like you are already in them psychologically,
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So does this have connotations though, outside of sexual connotations or even romantic
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So sexual and romantic penetration is that feeling of being dialed in to what someone's heart is
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Many times in life, it's hard to feel what other people are feeling.
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So the practice of penetration is softening the front surface of your body.
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If you can imagine the top athletes, let's say like a Michael Jordan or some athlete, okay?
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And they can see many things going on with their subtle awareness.
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You got to soften the front surface of your body, especially around your jaws, your throat,
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your chest, your belly, and then allow that place to be soft.
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And like a Tai Chi master is really feeling into the space or a fisherman is feeling the
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air and the scent of the air and the water and the wind and the flows, you're tuning into
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a higher level of awareness of that things around you.
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So penetration in terms of purpose and life value is the willingness to act in spite of
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fear and to move forward in life and to take the actions that are going to bring back results,
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How do you reconcile the process of penetration like you're talking about, softening in the
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How do you reconcile that with the idea of presence and wanting to be maybe even just
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In martial arts, you know, we have this idea of yin and yang.
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And when we bring both together, the masculine, the feminine.
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Claim says, beloved, I'm right next to you, with you.
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And we're going in that direction together for our better good.
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And penetration is, honey, you got nothing to worry about.
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It's a demeanor, a type of mindset you're going in into everything that you do.
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And so how do you continue to cultivate this muscle?
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I mean, because somebody is going to listen to this and they're going to say, hey, this
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is great that I really get what Satyaan is saying and I'm trying to practice this and
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I'm going to do it tomorrow and I'm going to do it the next day and then I'm going to
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forget and then it's not, it's going to become a distant memory.
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Are there any tactical type strategies, I guess you'd say, for lack of a better term,
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that we can implement on a daily basis to make sure that we're continuing to cultivate
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Well, we've simplified it, first of all, by calling it the PCP muscle, the presence,
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So you only got three things to worry about, right?
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And what I like to do every single morning, afternoon and evening, is I like to do a three
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And I just enter the, let's say, before I meet my wife, okay?
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Let's say I brush my teeth and blah, blah, blah, I get ready and whatever and I'm about
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I shut the rest of the world off and I say, I am here, world.
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And it's like that sense of you're not elsewhere.
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What will happen about some other topic in your life that's going on that you're worried
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So that's my first one minute of meditation, okay?
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Number two, with claim, I go, what I claim today is.
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Choose one thing you're going to claim today and claim it.
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You've got to find out where's one area that you've been holding back.
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It could be a conversation that you need to have.
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It could be a job that you need to make new rules around.
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It could be having a sit down and chat with your son about something that, you know, that
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needs to be handled in the house and find out where you are holding back a little in
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life and then say, okay, I'm going to penetrate this area.
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And number three, what I move forward in today is.
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I do that at least twice a day, morning, and then sometimes I'll do it in the afternoon.
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But I do it definitely in the morning and in the evening.
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And that PCP muscle, you know, you may not realize it, but you do this every day, this
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presence, claim penetration exercise, reminder to yourself.
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It's considered a mental, emotional workout for three minutes.
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You'll be like emanating this true man, this true warrior, this true wisdom, person of wisdom,
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And what's paradoxical about this, after a while, you won't give a shit about it.
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You'll do it because you just do it because it feels good.
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Well, Satya, and I know we're just scratching the surface on what we can talk about.
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And this has actually been a very fascinating discussion.
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Again, something that we haven't talked a whole lot about, but we are winding down on time.
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I want to ask you a couple additional questions as we do.
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And the first one, and I think we've talked a lot about this at this point already, but
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maybe to just to put a cap on it, is what does it mean to be a man?
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I'm going to come back to that original question I said.
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To me, what it means to be a man is asking oneself the question, what must I do today to love fully?
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You know, myself, my wife, my children, where would my country?
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What must I do today to love, to live, and to die fully and completely without regret?
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To me, asking that question and living the answer that comes up from within your soul,
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They want to know more about the work that you're doing and dive a little bit deeper into
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You'll be invited to our private community, and I'll find out all the workings that I have
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We'll make sure we link that up in the show notes so all the guys can check that out.
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I appreciate the work that you're doing and the conversation that you had with us today.
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I know this is going to help, again, a lot of guys with some of this stuff, understanding
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So again, I appreciate you coming on the show today.
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And you may want to listen to this again and take some notes, some pointers, and then
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When you live this PCP muscle, just even one day, it's going to catch on fire for you, okay?
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There you have it, man, Satya and Raja, teaching us the power of both the masculine and the
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