Order of Man - August 16, 2024


Passivity is the Antithesis to Manliness ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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What does it mean to be a man? How can we be more assertive in the workplace, personally, professionally, and culturally? What are your boundaries, what will you tolerate, and what do you not tolerate?

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00:00:00.000 What are your boundaries?
00:00:01.860 What will you tolerate and what will you not?
00:00:04.400 We can look at this personally, professionally, and culturally.
00:00:07.660 So you need to consider how are you going to allow other people to treat you,
00:00:11.660 whether that's your kids or your wife.
00:00:14.020 Maybe you guys are getting into an argument and she's raising her voice
00:00:18.020 or maybe she's resorting to personal attacks and little jabs. 1.00
00:00:23.240 You have every right and I think a responsibility to say,
00:00:27.320 hey, I'm not going to be treated like this.
00:00:30.000 You're a man of action.
00:00:32.980 You live life to the fullest.
00:00:34.440 Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:37.360 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
00:00:41.840 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.
00:00:46.880 This is your life.
00:00:47.980 This is who you are.
00:00:49.380 This is who you will become at the end of the day.
00:00:51.980 And after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:56.080 Men passivity is the antithesis to masculinity.
00:01:01.160 I believe at the root and the core of what it means to be a man is to acknowledge what's going on around you,
00:01:07.980 to see the injustices, to see the problems that people are struggling with,
00:01:14.180 that you might be struggling with,
00:01:15.480 and then assert yourself in the most positive and effective ways possible to create change personally, professionally, and even culturally.
00:01:25.220 But if you look around in society today, we are with an abundance of men who are weak and timid and passive and cowardly.
00:01:34.720 And I think that part of the reason that the Order of Man movement over the past nine and a half years has had so much success
00:01:41.340 is because, in a way, I'm willing to say what so many men are thinking.
00:01:45.980 I can't tell you how often I get messages from men who say things like,
00:01:50.140 Oh, man, I really resonate with your message.
00:01:52.660 You're saying the things I've been thinking for a long time.
00:01:55.520 Well, guys, stop thinking about these things and start actively dealing with the issues that you see and are confronted with in your life.
00:02:03.520 Whether it's your own personal struggles you're dealing with,
00:02:06.900 whether it's professional and career aspirations and you're getting passed over for promotions,
00:02:11.000 or you're seeing something happen at the workplace that shouldn't be happening.
00:02:15.820 And even at the cultural and political level, when we look around and we see those people who will assert themselves,
00:02:21.660 but don't do it from a righteous place, a place of service towards other people.
00:02:27.960 Obviously, those are the policies and the things that are going to be passed and implemented in the society
00:02:33.300 because those people who are righteous, and I don't actually think you can be righteous unless you're willing to act,
00:02:39.620 but those people who have good thoughts and good ideas and want the best for themselves and the people they love and care about
00:02:45.820 and the rest of society aren't speaking up, aren't doing what they need to be doing.
00:02:50.980 And I understand that there's a risk when you're being assertive.
00:02:54.160 There's a risk of being ostracized from the group.
00:02:57.860 There's a risk of ruffling feathers and creating unnecessary contention and drama and personal and professional relationships.
00:03:05.400 There's a risk of financial loss.
00:03:07.840 There's a risk of losing your job.
00:03:09.640 There's a lot of risk that comes with this, but also at the core of what it means to be a man is a level of courage and boldness
00:03:16.580 and a willingness to do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said.
00:03:21.560 And I would argue that a lot of the reason that so many men are struggling today is because they're passive
00:03:26.680 and they're letting life pass them by.
00:03:29.320 They're getting passed over for promotions.
00:03:31.580 They're getting worked over by their significant other.
00:03:34.560 They're letting things happen culturally and societally and even at the city levels happen that aren't in their best interest.
00:03:42.600 And they're being railroaded by anybody who's willing to speak up.
00:03:46.520 Men, we need to be more assertive.
00:03:48.560 We need to be bold.
00:03:49.820 We need to be courageous.
00:03:50.760 And we need to speak up against injustices and things that we see wrong.
00:03:54.660 So what I'm going to do today is I'm going to share with you five steps that you can implement in your life today.
00:03:59.160 You can practice these things every single day of the week to ensure that you are being more assertive,
00:04:05.040 but you're doing it in an effective way.
00:04:07.300 There is a big push in modern masculinity type movements that you can be a dick, that you can be a jerk,
00:04:14.700 that you can just say whatever you want to say and it's quote unquote your truth and to hell with anybody else. 0.59
00:04:20.240 I don't believe that either.
00:04:22.020 I believe that there's a way to be assertive.
00:04:24.180 There's a way to be bold.
00:04:25.200 There's a way to articulate and share your ideas.
00:04:28.400 There's a way to stand up against injustice.
00:04:30.580 There's a way to push forward initiatives that serve you and other people in a very respectful way.
00:04:38.160 We don't need to bully people.
00:04:39.880 We don't need to railroad people in order to do this, but we do need to be assertive and we do need to be strong.
00:04:45.340 And we need to have the fortitude to stand on our own two feet and on our own ideals.
00:04:50.400 Let's break this down.
00:04:51.320 Number one, first and foremost, you have to know what your goals and your visions and your objectives are.
00:04:58.040 The reason that so many men are not assertive is because they don't know where they're going.
00:05:04.540 So it doesn't really matter if they're assertive or not, if they're assertive or passive,
00:05:08.900 if they're enacting their will or if they're allowing other people to enact their will against them.
00:05:14.740 It doesn't really matter.
00:05:16.460 If you don't know what direction you're heading, the current doesn't really matter.
00:05:21.060 It's going to take you here.
00:05:22.080 It's going to take you there.
00:05:23.140 Sometimes it's going to push you there.
00:05:24.720 Other times it's going to push you this way.
00:05:26.680 Guys, get very clear on what you want to accomplish in your life.
00:05:30.880 And I would give you these realms to consider.
00:05:34.460 Number one is personally.
00:05:37.340 What do you want to accomplish with your finances, with your relationships, with your physical fitness,
00:05:46.340 with the kind of man that you want to be?
00:05:48.560 Another one is spiritual.
00:05:50.380 What are your spiritual beliefs?
00:05:52.160 What is good?
00:05:54.760 What is righteous?
00:05:55.620 What is noble?
00:05:56.360 What is honorable?
00:05:57.920 What higher power do you worship?
00:06:00.540 What is the grander vision for you in your life?
00:06:03.040 Like if we're playing at this little micro level of anything I do doesn't matter and it's insignificant in the grand scheme of things,
00:06:10.220 then of course, whether you're passive or assertive doesn't really matter.
00:06:13.700 But if you know that your actions count in eternity, that you do have a part to play in a grand design,
00:06:21.600 then you're more likely to do the things that need to be done to push that agenda forward.
00:06:27.840 So we have financially, we have relationally, we have spiritually, we have emotionally, and we have mentally.
00:06:36.880 If you haven't thought about what you want to accomplish in each one of those realms,
00:06:41.840 then it doesn't, the rest of this podcast is moot.
00:06:44.320 It doesn't even matter.
00:06:46.300 That is the very first step.
00:06:48.160 If you want a great tool for utilizing this, you can go to orderaman.com slash 12weekbattleplanner
00:06:55.040 or just 12weekbattleplanner.com and that will take you to our app
00:06:59.460 and it's going to help you design and articulate not only a vision,
00:07:03.420 but an objective to accomplish the vision and tactics,
00:07:06.820 things that you can do on a daily basis that are going to drive you closer towards what you want.
00:07:11.600 Now, the reason a vision is so important when it comes to being assertive
00:07:14.600 outside of all the other little tactics I'm going to give you today
00:07:16.820 is because it serves as a powerful litmus test for what you are doing in your life.
00:07:21.340 And when you see things going wrong at work or you see things going wrong at the cultural level
00:07:26.660 or you see things going wrong in your church congregation,
00:07:29.700 you can look to your vision and know that what you see happening before you
00:07:34.260 is not in alignment with what your ultimate objective is
00:07:38.140 and you will learn to have the fortitude, the strength, and the courage
00:07:42.000 to stand up against what other people might be wanting to do to you or to other people.
00:07:48.420 Know what you want, stand on your own two feet,
00:07:51.560 and you will be more likely to be bold, courageous, and audacious.
00:07:55.840 Number two, what are your boundaries?
00:07:59.340 What will you tolerate and what will you not?
00:08:02.180 We can look at this personally, professionally, and culturally.
00:08:06.460 From a personal level, I was out at a restaurant the other night
00:08:10.380 and I watched this six, seven, eight-year-old child
00:08:15.600 completely berate his mother at the restaurant.
00:08:21.840 The father was there, the mom was there,
00:08:24.440 and the things that this child was saying and coming out of his mouth,
00:08:29.700 I can't, number one, I can't believe it.
00:08:32.820 Number two, I can't help but wonder, at least to some degree,
00:08:37.180 why the mom wouldn't stand up, why the dad wouldn't stand up. 1.00
00:08:42.020 Both of these people are very passive.
00:08:44.520 They're very weak in this perspective.
00:08:46.500 And I know I'm only catching a glimpse a moment in time,
00:08:48.760 so it's hard to really judge the entire scenario.
00:08:51.440 But these are people who clearly don't have any boundaries
00:08:54.080 about the way that they're going to be spoken to from their children.
00:08:58.600 That is not going to happen here.
00:09:00.300 So you need to consider how are you going to allow other people to treat you,
00:09:05.460 whether that's your kids or your wife.
00:09:08.660 Maybe you guys are getting into an argument and she's raising her voice
00:09:12.740 or maybe she's resorting to personal attacks and little jabs. 1.00
00:09:17.940 You have every right and I think a responsibility to say,
00:09:22.260 hey, I'm not going to be treated like this.
00:09:25.160 This is not going to be tolerated here.
00:09:28.060 I do not appreciate it and I will not allow you to speak to me like that.
00:09:33.540 And if you do, there's consequences.
00:09:35.240 And the consequences are we don't engage in these discussions
00:09:37.780 or the breakdown of our relationship.
00:09:42.680 But there's things that, guys, you have to be bold enough to say,
00:09:47.280 like, this is not acceptable.
00:09:49.280 Same thing on the professional front.
00:09:51.300 You know, just because you're in a professional environment
00:09:53.340 and let's say you're an employee and you're hired by a boss
00:09:56.340 and that boss is there to berate you and belittle you
00:09:58.800 or a coworker is berating and belittling you and putting you down.
00:10:02.240 You have every right and, like I said, a responsibility to stand up for yourself,
00:10:07.720 to ensure that people won't treat you that way.
00:10:11.820 And it's been said that we condition people to treat us a certain way.
00:10:15.480 And the other quote that comes to mind is we encourage what we tolerate.
00:10:20.540 If you tolerate that behavior from other people,
00:10:22.960 you might as well just encourage them for doing it.
00:10:25.000 Give them a little gold star for treating you like dog crap.
00:10:28.640 It's not acceptable.
00:10:31.020 And if we as men can't stand up when we see things going on like this that are wrong,
00:10:35.320 who's going to do it?
00:10:37.940 You know, a lot of men, even men who listen to this podcast,
00:10:40.960 like to complain about the degeneracy and the decline
00:10:44.280 and the moral bankruptcy that we see in society today.
00:10:47.720 And yet, how many of us are actually willing to stand up and say anything about it?
00:10:51.660 You know, I'll say things on social media that I think is pretty common sense
00:10:56.020 about the loss of decency, the loss of morals and principles in this country.
00:11:04.980 And it's few and far between when people stand up.
00:11:08.920 Now, there are people who stand up and agree with it.
00:11:11.060 But I'm wondering why millions and millions of people aren't saying more.
00:11:14.800 It's because we're cowardly and afraid.
00:11:16.300 And we're not willing to rock the boat.
00:11:19.200 Now, there is a great way to overcome your fear of rocking the boat.
00:11:23.800 Because as I said earlier, if you rock the boat,
00:11:26.200 you run into some potential consequences.
00:11:29.680 For example, if somebody's berating you at work
00:11:32.100 and you say something about it and you bring it up,
00:11:35.960 there is a very likely scenario where you could be reprimanded
00:11:40.880 or you could even lose your job.
00:11:43.760 Now, how do we overcome that?
00:11:46.060 By creating sovereignty for ourselves,
00:11:49.020 meaning financial abundance and prosperity, continuing to network.
00:11:52.860 If you had to leave that job for whatever reason,
00:11:55.180 voluntarily or involuntarily, you could go find another gig,
00:11:58.720 another job within the next 24 to 48 hours.
00:12:01.540 That leverage gives you power to say what needs to be said.
00:12:06.940 But if you're living paycheck to paycheck,
00:12:08.880 you don't have other connections, you don't have other resources,
00:12:11.440 you don't have any other opportunities,
00:12:13.560 there isn't some sort of abundance in your life,
00:12:15.900 you're going to be less likely to speak up because you need that job.
00:12:19.960 That's the only way you're putting the roof over your head
00:12:21.940 and the food on your table.
00:12:23.460 So men, all of the lessons that we teach and have taught
00:12:27.100 over the past nine and a half years,
00:12:28.680 they don't operate in a vacuum.
00:12:32.020 Everything is harmonious.
00:12:33.560 Everything works together.
00:12:34.560 So when I talk about sovereignty, having sovereignty in your life,
00:12:38.460 responsibility, freedom, liberty, medical sovereignty,
00:12:42.160 health-related sovereignty, financial sovereignty,
00:12:45.120 spiritual sovereignty, mental and emotional sovereignty,
00:12:48.360 meaning you don't let other people get the best of you.
00:12:50.400 When you have that kind of sovereignty,
00:12:52.300 you're more likely and more willing and more able
00:12:54.640 to do and say everything that needs to be said and done.
00:12:58.780 Number three, this is very, very important.
00:13:01.880 I see this all the time.
00:13:03.220 Men, we have to stop trying to make everyone happy.
00:13:08.400 It's not your job to make people happy.
00:13:12.080 And if you think you have enough power,
00:13:14.140 then those people need to do something about their own life.
00:13:17.200 I can't make people happy.
00:13:19.440 I can't make people mad.
00:13:21.220 I can't make people angry.
00:13:23.020 Those people decide to be that way.
00:13:25.520 And it's not my job to make everyone happy.
00:13:29.220 Number one, it's impossible.
00:13:30.680 Number two, I'm not willing to sacrifice my morals,
00:13:35.080 my moral compass, the things that I believe are right,
00:13:38.100 my ability and desire to speak up against injustices
00:13:40.880 because somebody else might have their panties 1.00
00:13:43.440 in a bunch over it.
00:13:44.620 That isn't something I'm willing to do.
00:13:46.840 And I've got very, very comfortable,
00:13:48.600 and it takes practice,
00:13:49.820 but I've got very, very comfortable knowing
00:13:51.660 that everything that I'm going to say,
00:13:54.020 in fact, the things that I'm saying today,
00:13:55.460 other people aren't going to be happy about it.
00:13:59.000 It's going to be scrutinized.
00:14:00.840 It's going to be ridiculed.
00:14:02.220 People are going to poke at it.
00:14:03.500 People are going to poke at me.
00:14:05.420 Like, that's just going to happen.
00:14:07.620 And that's not my responsibility.
00:14:10.260 I have a very small group of people
00:14:13.060 that I have a direct responsibility for.
00:14:15.420 And even those individuals,
00:14:16.600 it's not my job to make happy.
00:14:18.880 It's not my job, for example,
00:14:20.140 to make my kids happy or my girlfriend happy.
00:14:22.420 It's my job to show up in a very powerful way,
00:14:25.680 to serve them effectively,
00:14:27.200 to help them accomplish their own goals and desires.
00:14:30.260 But their happiness, that isn't a thing for me.
00:14:35.560 And so I can say what needs to be said.
00:14:38.180 When my kids are acting out,
00:14:39.420 I can discipline them
00:14:40.400 because I'm not worried about them being happy.
00:14:43.220 I'm worried about them being,
00:14:44.940 contributing members of society
00:14:46.300 and learning the lessons they need to learn
00:14:48.600 in order to live a good life.
00:14:50.660 Man, we must get over this desire
00:14:53.360 to make everybody happy.
00:14:55.060 And instead, focus on your morals.
00:14:58.440 Focus on your principles.
00:15:00.520 Focus on what is right.
00:15:02.180 And then you can let the chips fall where they may.
00:15:04.320 And that leads to point number four,
00:15:06.280 is doing the right thing, period.
00:15:09.420 This is a very difficult thing to do
00:15:11.360 because everything that a man does and says
00:15:14.620 is measured with the potential consequence
00:15:17.800 for doing and saying the thing.
00:15:19.220 And I'm not saying that you need to go into it blind
00:15:21.520 and jump off the cliff and blow up the island
00:15:24.380 and make everybody unhappy and piss everybody off 0.93
00:15:27.460 and rile everybody up and to hell with the consequences. 0.67
00:15:30.440 That's not what I'm saying at all.
00:15:32.420 But what I am saying is that
00:15:33.880 when something is happening that's not right
00:15:36.080 and you need to bring it up,
00:15:38.340 maybe you inadvertently took advantage
00:15:42.060 of somebody financially.
00:15:43.380 Then make it right.
00:15:44.520 Maybe you said something to somebody
00:15:47.940 that you shouldn't have said
00:15:49.540 in a moment of anger or weakness.
00:15:50.940 Then make it right.
00:15:53.140 Maybe there's something that you've been withholding
00:15:55.620 or lying about to your spouse
00:15:57.380 and you've been afraid to tell them.
00:15:59.680 Make it right.
00:16:01.740 Maybe you see somebody else at work
00:16:03.960 mistreating somebody else.
00:16:05.560 And so you need to be doing the right thing
00:16:08.480 by saying that's not acceptable.
00:16:10.140 We will not tolerate that here.
00:16:13.060 And I know there's consequences.
00:16:14.460 I get it.
00:16:15.840 I'm not saying there aren't.
00:16:18.840 But what I'm saying is that
00:16:19.880 if we had more,
00:16:21.140 millions and millions of men
00:16:22.580 who were more focused on doing the right thing
00:16:25.700 for the right reason
00:16:27.280 than we are about the outcome,
00:16:29.680 the outcome would take care of itself.
00:16:33.080 People would be happier.
00:16:34.780 People would be more fulfilled.
00:16:36.580 People would be more profitable.
00:16:38.420 People would be more abundant.
00:16:40.260 People would be more free.
00:16:42.560 Bad ideas would get squashed.
00:16:44.600 Great ideas would get amplified.
00:16:48.300 Politicians who don't belong in office
00:16:49.880 would be ousted.
00:16:52.420 Terror and evil and degeneracy
00:16:55.420 would be routed out.
00:16:58.560 And it's going to take time
00:17:00.080 and it would take effort
00:17:01.540 and not everybody is on board with that.
00:17:04.100 But guys,
00:17:05.620 doing the right thing for the right reason
00:17:07.340 is enough.
00:17:08.100 And it's an eternal principle
00:17:10.700 that if you do the right thing
00:17:12.240 that everything else will fall in line.
00:17:14.360 Maybe not in the micro.
00:17:16.320 You know, if you do the right thing at work
00:17:17.800 and you tell a boss,
00:17:18.720 hey, I'm not going to do
00:17:19.600 what you're asking me to do
00:17:20.820 because it's immoral,
00:17:21.700 you're probably going to get fired.
00:17:22.800 So that's a real life consequence.
00:17:27.220 But in the long run,
00:17:28.420 what happens if you end up getting fired,
00:17:30.400 you leave that company,
00:17:31.220 you go work with a more reputable company.
00:17:33.780 You know, at some point,
00:17:35.080 that company that's doing shady things
00:17:37.020 is going to be caught
00:17:38.420 and those people are going to go down.
00:17:41.420 Well, you saved yourself from that situation
00:17:43.940 because you had the balls
00:17:45.620 to stand up and say what needed to be said.
00:17:48.140 And you put yourself into a better situation.
00:17:51.420 Same thing with a spouse. 0.63
00:17:53.280 You know, if you're being mistreated
00:17:54.860 or abused by your spouse
00:17:56.700 and you say,
00:17:58.260 hey, I'm not going to tolerate this.
00:18:00.000 And that happens over and over
00:18:01.500 and over and over again.
00:18:02.680 And then one day you decide,
00:18:04.640 hey, I'm done here
00:18:05.680 because I'm not going to be treated like this.
00:18:07.640 Or maybe she decides she's done.
00:18:09.240 Or maybe she steps out on you
00:18:10.620 or whatever the case may be.
00:18:13.200 That marriage may end.
00:18:15.040 And that's horrible.
00:18:16.500 I've been in that boat.
00:18:17.500 It's something I don't wish on people.
00:18:19.840 But there's going to be a better relationship
00:18:21.880 that's going to come up
00:18:22.920 because you had the balls to be a man.
00:18:28.800 The things that we lose
00:18:30.360 when we do the right thing
00:18:31.660 are pale in comparison
00:18:35.000 to the things that we gain
00:18:37.340 by doing the right thing.
00:18:40.080 Do the right thing.
00:18:41.080 Number five, guys.
00:18:43.180 Last point that I have here
00:18:44.520 on being more assertive
00:18:45.680 is you just have to practice.
00:18:48.700 And like anything,
00:18:49.960 maybe you're going to try a new sport.
00:18:52.160 My two oldest boys
00:18:54.180 over the past couple of years
00:18:55.780 have gotten really into lacrosse.
00:18:58.460 And both of them played football
00:19:00.320 and baseball and basketball,
00:19:02.380 but never lacrosse.
00:19:03.620 And so for a while,
00:19:04.860 it was clunky.
00:19:05.780 It was awkward.
00:19:07.020 They'd bring their lacrosse sticks home
00:19:08.560 and try to keep the ball in the net
00:19:10.680 and try to pass
00:19:11.580 and try to shoot.
00:19:12.460 And it was ugly.
00:19:13.640 It was bad.
00:19:15.240 But that's because
00:19:16.060 they'd never done it before.
00:19:17.940 But they practiced
00:19:19.060 and they worked on it
00:19:20.920 and they drilled
00:19:21.700 and they played with the team
00:19:23.100 and they played games
00:19:24.040 and now they're better.
00:19:24.840 They're not as good as they could be,
00:19:26.060 but they're moving in that direction.
00:19:28.120 And it's the same thing
00:19:29.080 with being assertive.
00:19:31.060 It's going to feel scary.
00:19:32.660 It's going to feel uncomfortable.
00:19:34.860 You're going to feel
00:19:35.800 like you're being a jerk. 0.96
00:19:37.280 You're not going to feel
00:19:38.380 like this is going to be
00:19:39.480 a kosher thing
00:19:40.620 or a comfortable thing.
00:19:41.520 And it isn't.
00:19:43.120 Being assertive
00:19:43.900 is not even supposed
00:19:44.760 to be comfortable.
00:19:46.860 We wouldn't have to assert ourselves
00:19:48.980 in these situations
00:19:50.140 if all we were worried about
00:19:51.700 is comfort.
00:19:52.700 We're not worried about comfort.
00:19:54.240 We're worried about right and wrong,
00:19:57.360 moral and immoral,
00:19:58.880 ethical and unethical,
00:20:01.860 good versus evil.
00:20:03.860 And then we stand up
00:20:06.520 against those things
00:20:07.680 and we work to make our lives,
00:20:10.160 the lives of our children,
00:20:11.600 the lives of our significant others,
00:20:13.000 the lives of our community members
00:20:14.300 and the lives of the people
00:20:15.240 in this country better
00:20:16.340 because you had the courage
00:20:18.400 to stand up
00:20:19.220 and do and say
00:20:20.160 what needed to be done
00:20:21.520 and said.
00:20:23.360 It is not easy,
00:20:24.480 but if you practice it
00:20:25.800 in all ways,
00:20:27.140 speaking up,
00:20:28.340 speaking out,
00:20:29.580 sharing your ideas,
00:20:31.480 dissenting if you need to,
00:20:33.300 again,
00:20:33.800 not in a rude way,
00:20:34.940 not in a condescending way,
00:20:36.540 not to just ruffle feathers.
00:20:37.840 There are people
00:20:38.260 who do that too.
00:20:39.900 They'll just argue
00:20:40.960 for the sake of arguing.
00:20:42.480 That doesn't serve anybody.
00:20:44.280 But if you're standing
00:20:45.040 on principles,
00:20:45.940 then you have every right
00:20:47.120 and I believe a responsibility
00:20:48.140 to share those things.
00:20:50.100 So guys,
00:20:50.500 what I'd love to see
00:20:51.160 is for you
00:20:52.440 to step up more fully.
00:20:53.960 If something's wrong
00:20:54.940 in your relationship
00:20:55.640 with your wife,
00:20:56.720 you should bring it up.
00:20:58.580 You should be more assertive now.
00:21:00.360 I know it's scary.
00:21:01.460 I know it's uncomfortable.
00:21:02.580 I know it's going
00:21:03.780 to ruffle feathers,
00:21:04.660 but I promise
00:21:05.180 if you kick the can
00:21:06.000 down the road,
00:21:06.580 it's not going to go well.
00:21:08.760 If you see something wrong
00:21:10.380 going at work
00:21:11.100 with another employee
00:21:13.160 or somebody taking credit
00:21:14.300 for something
00:21:14.740 they shouldn't take credit for
00:21:16.000 or some employee
00:21:17.800 mistreating another employee
00:21:19.720 or your boss
00:21:21.080 doing something wrong,
00:21:22.600 you have to stand up.
00:21:24.480 If you see politicians
00:21:25.860 doing what they shouldn't
00:21:26.920 be doing
00:21:27.460 and corruption
00:21:28.800 and abusing the system
00:21:30.840 and manipulating other people,
00:21:33.080 it's your responsibility
00:21:33.960 as a man to stand up.
00:21:35.220 We can make the world
00:21:35.960 a better place,
00:21:36.600 but it's going to take
00:21:37.360 millions of us
00:21:38.360 doing the right thing
00:21:39.400 for the right reasons
00:21:40.340 and having the strength
00:21:41.680 and courage
00:21:42.220 to be able to stand up
00:21:43.620 and be assertive
00:21:45.060 in our lives.
00:21:46.200 I hope that serves you guys.
00:21:47.580 I hope that helps.
00:21:48.640 Please let me know
00:21:49.260 if you have other tips
00:21:49.960 and strategies and ideas.
00:21:50.960 There's a lot of men
00:21:51.820 who are struggling with this.
00:21:54.500 There's a great resource
00:21:55.440 called No More Mr. Nice Guy
00:21:56.920 by Dr. Robert Glover.
00:21:58.660 He's been on the podcast
00:21:59.440 and a lot of you guys
00:22:00.580 are familiar with that book.
00:22:01.960 If you are one of these guys
00:22:02.980 who is a quote-unquote
00:22:03.880 nice guy,
00:22:04.880 not to be confused
00:22:05.740 with being kind,
00:22:06.820 certainly we want to be kind,
00:22:08.240 but if you're a nice guy,
00:22:10.280 then this is a great resource
00:22:12.020 for you.
00:22:12.640 No More Mr. Nice Guy
00:22:13.500 by Robert Glover.
00:22:15.500 All right, guys,
00:22:16.060 that's what I've got
00:22:16.620 for you today.
00:22:17.080 We'll be back next week
00:22:18.300 for an interview
00:22:19.140 and our Ask Me Anything.
00:22:20.420 Until then,
00:22:20.940 go out there,
00:22:21.460 take action,
00:22:22.440 be more assertive,
00:22:23.540 and become the man
00:22:24.540 you are meant to be.
00:22:29.280 Thank you for listening
00:22:30.180 to the Order of Man podcast.
00:22:32.260 If you're ready
00:22:32.640 to take charge of your life
00:22:33.880 and be more of the man
00:22:35.040 you were meant to be,
00:22:36.280 we invite you to join the order
00:22:37.620 at orderofman.com.