Order of Man - August 17, 2018


Patience is a Virtue, Passivity is Not ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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24 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Ryan talks about the importance of patience and how it can be the difference maker between being a man and being passive. He also discusses the benefits of being patient in the process of accomplishing your goals and dreams.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path.
00:00:06.020 When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.500 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong.
00:00:15.500 This is your life. This is who you are. This is who you will become.
00:00:19.760 At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
00:00:24.720 Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler, and I am the host and founder of this podcast, and frankly, this movement, The Order of Man.
00:00:33.820 I want to thank you for joining us. I'm glad that you're here, whether you're listening to us for the very first time or you've been with us for, man, more than three years now.
00:00:42.140 Either way, you have stumbled across the single greatest podcast available for men today, whether you're trying to be a better father, a husband, a business owner, a community leader, an employee.
00:00:52.920 Whatever facet of life you're showing up as, it's my job to give you the tools and the resources and the guidance and the direction to help you become a better man.
00:01:01.420 So on Tuesdays, if you don't already know, we release an interview show with the world's most successful men.
00:01:06.940 These are athletes, scholars, New York Times bestselling authors, entrepreneurs, warriors.
00:01:12.940 And then on Wednesday, we've got a new show, which just started this week.
00:01:16.220 It's our ask me anything that comes out on Wednesday.
00:01:19.320 And then of course, today, Friday for your Friday field notes, which is me.
00:01:24.120 You get to hear my thoughts and my ramblings and my ideas from throughout the week.
00:01:28.260 And I've got a good one lined up for you today.
00:01:30.580 But again, at the end of the day, my job is to help you be a better protector, a better provider, and a better presider, a leader inside the walls of your home and your community and your business and everywhere you're showing up as.
00:01:41.560 So I want to thank you for being here.
00:01:43.420 One quick announcement.
00:01:44.920 We have two more spots left, two spots left for our very first legacy event.
00:01:51.280 This is a father-son event.
00:01:52.700 It's for fathers and their boys between the ages of eight to 15.
00:01:57.340 And that's going to be held on September 20th through the 23rd of this year, 2018.
00:02:02.640 Look at it and consider it a rite of passage of sorts.
00:02:05.980 It's my goal, along with our team, to help you create the framework and forge new bonds and a relationship with your boy that's going to last well into him becoming a man and teach both you and him the tools that you need to help that transition take place in a world that seems to reject this idea of masculinity altogether.
00:02:26.240 So if you are interested in learning more about what it is, we're going to be doing over the three and a half days in the hills and the mountains of Southern Utah, go to order of man.com slash legacy again, order of man.com slash legacy to learn a little bit more and lock in one of those last two spots.
00:02:43.140 That's really the only announcement that I had today.
00:02:46.120 I want to get right into this conversation.
00:02:48.160 Uh, and it's one of being patient.
00:02:51.060 And if I look at one of my biggest weaknesses, it's this it's patience.
00:02:57.300 And so as much as I talk with you today, the things that I've been thinking about and some of the notes that I've written down as I'm having this conversation with you, uh, I think probably apply to me just as much as anybody else out there.
00:03:08.340 And that's what I really want to address is this idea of patience.
00:03:12.420 I think for any high achieving man, and I got to assume that to some degree you are a high achieving man, you have high aspirations and lofty goals and ambitions.
00:03:21.940 Otherwise, I don't really think that you'd be listening to this podcast, uh, but for any man out there who does have these worthy and lofty goals and visions and ideas about the future, I think it's very difficult for those types of people to be patient, to be patient in the process of allowing the actions that you're engaged with just to take place,
00:03:42.160 to play out and then to, uh, come to fruition, the results that we're after.
00:03:47.100 I've heard a lot of people talk about this.
00:03:48.660 My friend, Andy Frisilla over at MFCEO talks about, uh, aggressive patients.
00:03:52.920 I'm going to talk about what that looks like.
00:03:54.620 I've heard Jocko and many others talk about what they refer to as tactical patients, but I think at the end of the day, it all comes down to the same thing.
00:04:01.540 It's being patient, but not being passive.
00:04:05.060 And I want you to understand that there is a huge, huge difference between patience and passivity.
00:04:11.060 Patience is allowing the work that you're doing, the right work, the right action, the right steps that you're taking to play out, to manifest themselves as the results that you're after.
00:04:22.680 Passivity on the other hand is letting everything go past you, not being assertive in what needs to be done and really just sitting back.
00:04:31.100 Maybe even being a little lazy in hoping and praying and wishing that somehow things are miraculously just going to turn out the way that you want.
00:04:41.980 And I see a lot of guys who confuse the two patients versus passivity.
00:04:46.540 Patience to me can still be assertive.
00:04:49.460 You can still be working.
00:04:51.080 You can still be taking action.
00:04:53.080 And in the meantime, you have a firm grasp or understanding that something will inevitably take place through the actions that you are taking.
00:05:02.440 So what I wanted to do today is I wanted to break down six strategies.
00:05:07.940 And this is usually how these Friday field notes go is I give you some tips or some pointers.
00:05:11.500 And I wanted to break down six strategies that you can use to exercise a little more patience, not passivity, assertiveness, but also patient and allowing those things to play out the way that you want them to.
00:05:24.280 Again, you can call it aggressive patience or tactical patience, whatever you want to refer to it as, but the underlying theme here is that you're taking action while you're allowing everything to work out the way that you would like it to.
00:05:37.400 All right.
00:05:37.700 So let's talk about this.
00:05:38.640 Number one, and what I'm actually going to be breaking down here is our battle plan.
00:05:43.500 If you're not familiar with the 12 week battle plan, this is a personal planning tool that I use, that I have developed, that I have taken from other strategies and tools that I've seen.
00:05:54.280 And honed it and refined it and fine tuned it and really made it work for me.
00:05:59.860 And it's also found, and I talk about it at length in the book, sovereignty, the battle for the hearts and minds of men, which is the book that I wrote and released in February of this year, 2018.
00:06:10.800 You can go to order of man.com slash sovereignty and pick up a copy of the book there, but I outline it there.
00:06:17.220 I wanted to outline it again here because man, we've just got so much positive feedback from those guys who are actually implementing the
00:06:24.280 battle plan in their lives.
00:06:25.800 And again, it comes back down to allowing them to be assertive in what it is they want, whether it's a relationship or a business or a career advancement or the health and nutrition and fitness that they're after.
00:06:38.000 But all the meantime, allowing them to be patient in allowing the results to take place.
00:06:42.340 So let's break this down.
00:06:43.280 All right.
00:06:43.540 Number one, I think it's very, very important that you have some sort of long-term vision.
00:06:48.220 And this isn't enough by itself because there's a lot of people out there who have a vision for the future and yet they do nothing about it.
00:06:56.360 They just hope and pray that somehow, some way, something will work out, that they'll get lucky or fortunate or make the right connection or somebody will hand them something that they're after without them having to do anything.
00:07:09.300 So yeah, long-term vision is important, but it's not the only thing.
00:07:12.860 I'm going to be breaking that down a little bit further, but you've got to start as Stephen Covey says, with the end in mind, if you don't have some worthy objective, some worthy goal, some lofty pursuit or endeavor, how are you going to know what to do?
00:07:29.480 You're not.
00:07:30.560 And even if you do take some action and move towards that thing, you don't really know what you're moving towards.
00:07:36.100 And there's nothing to even measure your progress against.
00:07:39.580 So the very first step in exercising some of this patience, this aggressive patience is having a vision, taking time out of every day and refocusing on that vision, getting that crystal clear in your mind.
00:07:54.680 And it's not about, oh, I hope this will work out one day.
00:07:57.300 No, you can feel it.
00:07:58.300 You can taste it.
00:07:59.080 You can experience it.
00:08:00.220 And the more that you ponder about it and think about it and live it out, I think the more successful you're going to be.
00:08:06.100 So number one, create that long-term vision.
00:08:09.680 This could be a year, three-year, five-year, 10-year vision.
00:08:13.280 And then we can start breaking it down after that.
00:08:16.200 And that's what we're going to do today.
00:08:17.140 We're going to reverse engineer this process of aggressive patience.
00:08:22.540 So number one, start with the end in mind, as Stephen Covey says, long-term vision.
00:08:26.400 Now, number two, break this down.
00:08:29.500 All right.
00:08:29.740 If we look out five years, that's a really, really long time to commit to some endeavor.
00:08:37.520 I mean, I don't even know what I'm going to have for dinner tonight, let alone what I'm going to be doing over the next five years.
00:08:41.840 One of the questions people ask me all the time is, where do you see order of man in five years?
00:08:46.700 I don't know.
00:08:47.820 I don't know.
00:08:48.360 I've got some ideas.
00:08:49.300 I've got some thoughts.
00:08:50.480 Of course, I have a vision.
00:08:52.060 There's things that I think about, of course, but I really don't know because there's so much that's going to happen between now and then.
00:08:59.120 Think about technology and think about the political climate.
00:09:02.720 And again, so many variables for me to know exactly what's going to happen.
00:09:07.460 So what I do once I have this long-term vision is I then break it down into 12-week objectives.
00:09:15.140 You've got to break these down into smaller goals.
00:09:18.080 So maybe your 12-week objective is that you want to take the family on a vacation.
00:09:23.560 Maybe you've never been able to take them on a vacation.
00:09:25.840 All right, good.
00:09:26.440 Now we've got a 12-week objective in 90 days.
00:09:29.240 I want to take the family on this vacation.
00:09:32.100 Maybe it's you want to lose 30 pounds or you want to run a marathon or you want to run a Spartan race if it comes to health.
00:09:38.220 Maybe if it's with business is that you want to start making $1,000 a month in the next 90 days from a side business or a new venture.
00:09:46.460 Or maybe you want to secure a promotion or open the doors to your own shop.
00:09:50.380 I don't know what that looks like for you.
00:09:52.240 But once you have the long-term vision, you start working backwards into these smaller 12-week objectives.
00:10:00.580 And guys, I would suggest that if you don't right now or you can't right now write some of this stuff down,
00:10:06.800 that when you're in a better position to do that, that you go grab a notepad, you go back, you replay this podcast, and you write these things down.
00:10:15.400 So number one, long-term vision.
00:10:18.060 Number two, break it down into 12-week goals.
00:10:21.520 And you can have one, two, three, four 12-week objectives in different areas of your life.
00:10:27.340 I typically have four 12-week objectives.
00:10:30.940 One of them is personally, what do I want to accomplish?
00:10:34.000 I call that calibration.
00:10:35.760 Number two is connection.
00:10:37.240 So what's my 12-week objective for the relationships I have?
00:10:41.280 Number three is conditioning.
00:10:44.480 That's my physical fitness.
00:10:46.260 So are there events and activities and running and certain weights that I want to do and lifts and PRs?
00:10:53.200 That's my condition.
00:10:54.800 And then the last is contribution.
00:10:57.280 This could be monetary.
00:10:58.380 This could be a promotion.
00:11:00.040 It could be making more money or paying off debt.
00:11:03.460 It's just adding value to your business or your community or your family in general.
00:11:07.880 And those are the four areas that I focus on.
00:11:10.800 All right.
00:11:11.040 So again, number two is break those down into 12-week objectives.
00:11:15.700 Number three, this one to me is critical.
00:11:18.440 And I think the more that you focus on what I'm going to share with you next,
00:11:21.960 the more likely it is that you're going to be able to be patient
00:11:25.380 and allow the things to play out the way that they should, the way that they will.
00:11:29.660 And that is that you've got to come up with some tactics.
00:11:33.940 So many people out there, guys, they focus on the goal.
00:11:37.300 They focus on the vision.
00:11:38.580 They focus on what they want.
00:11:40.840 And while that's all fine and great, and you should do that,
00:11:43.460 if you're not focused on the daily tactics, the daily strategies
00:11:48.440 that will inevitably produce X, Y, and Z for you,
00:11:53.040 you are going to be less patient and you're probably going to throw in the towel.
00:11:56.920 And here's what I say a lot is that you probably have spent the past 10, 20, 30, 40,
00:12:03.400 maybe even 50 years in a certain pattern, beliefs, activities
00:12:08.600 that have got you to exactly where you are today.
00:12:12.080 You've got to give it time to play out.
00:12:14.520 If you're changing the course of your life, it's not going to change overnight.
00:12:18.520 So once you have the vision, once you have the 12-week objectives,
00:12:23.120 now in order to accomplish those 12-week objectives,
00:12:26.400 what is it that you can do on a daily basis every single day that will yield that result?
00:12:33.060 So let me give you a couple of examples.
00:12:35.020 If, for example, we talked about you wanted to take your family on vacation,
00:12:39.260 maybe the goal is that you need to save 20, 30, 40, $50 every single day
00:12:45.440 so that in 90 days you have enough money to be able to do the vacation.
00:12:50.120 If it's that you want to hit a new personal best with a particular lift
00:12:55.400 or you want to go run a 5K, let's say that.
00:12:58.300 You want to go run a 5K in 90 days or a marathon wherever you're at.
00:13:02.860 Well, then it's safe to assume that you probably ought to run every day.
00:13:07.160 And so that is the tactic.
00:13:08.600 I'm going to run at least 30 minutes every single day
00:13:12.560 or I'm going to cut out processed sugar so I can lose 30 pounds
00:13:16.700 so it's easier for me to run
00:13:19.160 or I'm going to get an hour of exercise
00:13:21.060 or I'm going to drink 100 ounces of water every single day.
00:13:25.540 These are objective.
00:13:27.460 These are simplified.
00:13:29.740 And these are things that you can literally check off a list and say,
00:13:33.860 yes, I ran.
00:13:35.800 Yes, I drank water.
00:13:36.680 Yes, I studied for that exam that I want to do in 90 days
00:13:41.120 and get that new credential at work or that degree or designation.
00:13:45.040 Yes, I saved my $50 today.
00:13:47.300 You can literally check these off and you should check these off.
00:13:50.220 And I don't care if that looks like it's on a calendar
00:13:52.020 or some sort of planner that you use,
00:13:54.360 but checking these things off and maintaining that consistency
00:13:58.040 and having the visual reminder of the tactics.
00:14:00.980 And I would recommend per objective.
00:14:03.460 So you've got four 12-week objectives.
00:14:06.100 I would recommend one to maybe two tactics
00:14:10.000 that you can focus on relentlessly, ruthlessly.
00:14:13.840 And when you're feeling like I'm just not patient,
00:14:15.940 I want this to play out a little bit more.
00:14:17.980 You can focus on those tactics.
00:14:20.860 You know exactly where to go.
00:14:22.120 So that's number three.
00:14:23.380 Number four, guys, you've got to have checkpoints along the way, guys.
00:14:26.720 If you don't have some sort of benchmark
00:14:29.040 or some sort of progress report for where you are,
00:14:32.580 it's very easy to become discouraged and throw in the towel
00:14:35.460 because you don't know where you are.
00:14:36.980 You don't know how far you've gotten and how far you've come.
00:14:39.740 You don't understand that stuff
00:14:41.180 because you don't have these checkpoints in place.
00:14:43.680 So if you've got a 12-week objective of paying off $10,000 of debt,
00:14:49.960 well, in 30 days, you should have $3,000 paid off.
00:14:54.200 And in 60 days, you should have a little over $6,000 paid off.
00:14:58.640 That lets you know that you're on the right track.
00:15:01.480 And through those small little victories, those small little wins,
00:15:05.300 you give yourself enough emotional and mental fuel
00:15:09.120 to be able to continue down the path.
00:15:11.580 See, most people never look back to see how far they've come.
00:15:15.760 All they do is look what's forward
00:15:17.360 and think about how much further they have to go.
00:15:20.060 And while, of course, there's value in looking down the road
00:15:22.540 and understanding what you need to do between now and then,
00:15:26.020 it's okay to look backwards
00:15:27.500 if you're using it as fuel to propel you forward.
00:15:31.480 If you're looking at backwards
00:15:32.640 and using it as an opportunity to beat yourself up,
00:15:35.320 that's not going to help you.
00:15:36.880 But if you're looking backwards and thinking,
00:15:38.580 man, look at this.
00:15:39.580 I paid off $3,000 in the last 30 days.
00:15:42.140 I paid off $6,000 in the last 60 days.
00:15:45.060 That is an emotional win that will allow you to continue moving forward
00:15:49.860 when you get discouraged or your kid breaks their arm
00:15:53.660 and you have to pay a little bit more money
00:15:55.320 or, you know, that you have a flat tire
00:15:57.320 or something on the car goes out
00:15:59.000 and you've got to pay $500 or $1,000 or $2,000 to get that repaired.
00:16:03.680 That's discouraging.
00:16:05.220 And if you're not having these checkpoints in place
00:16:07.560 when those little things come up and they will,
00:16:09.960 they're going to deflate you and you're going to stop
00:16:12.460 and you're not going to have the patience to continue to propel yourself moving forward.
00:16:17.160 So guys, have some checkpoints in place.
00:16:19.340 So again, let's do a recap and then I'll get to these last two.
00:16:22.100 Number one, long-term vision.
00:16:24.120 Now we're working backwards into smaller.
00:16:26.600 Number two, three-month goals.
00:16:29.460 Now that we have our three-month goals,
00:16:31.300 we identify our tactics,
00:16:33.280 the one to two actions that we can take every day
00:16:36.820 that will produce the result.
00:16:38.380 And now that we have the tactics,
00:16:40.140 we identify what our checkpoints are.
00:16:42.460 To ensure that the work that we're doing
00:16:44.440 is putting us on the right path,
00:16:46.720 is moving us in the right direction.
00:16:49.460 Now, the last couple of things that I want to share with you
00:16:51.940 is you need to be doing after-action reviews.
00:16:56.400 So at the end of your day,
00:16:57.880 at the end of that three months,
00:16:59.660 that 90 days or 12 weeks,
00:17:01.180 at the end of every engagement and encounter
00:17:05.160 and experience and conversation that you're having,
00:17:08.240 you need to do an after-action review.
00:17:10.400 And if you haven't heard me talk about this before,
00:17:12.920 maybe you're just tuning in.
00:17:14.580 I've talked about this quite a bit at length.
00:17:16.140 Let me just recap what an after-action review is.
00:17:19.020 This is a process that you're going to implement in your life
00:17:22.360 that will allow you to objectively look at what you've done
00:17:26.700 and what you need to do moving forward.
00:17:30.300 So the other day,
00:17:31.040 I'll give you an example of what this looks like.
00:17:33.180 I went and picked up my son from football practice
00:17:36.920 and he looked tired.
00:17:38.440 He just looked beat down and I picked him up
00:17:40.380 and I said,
00:17:41.580 how are you doing, buddy?
00:17:42.160 He's like,
00:17:42.440 oh, dad, I'm so tired.
00:17:43.620 And I asked him how practice was.
00:17:45.080 And, you know,
00:17:45.540 usually that's the extent of the conversation for a lot of people.
00:17:48.120 But I said,
00:17:48.660 have you done your after-action review yet?
00:17:50.720 And he said,
00:17:51.060 I don't know what that is,
00:17:51.840 which was shocking because I talk about this all the time.
00:17:53.840 I'm surprised he didn't know.
00:17:55.640 But I said,
00:17:56.260 well,
00:17:56.400 an after-action review is an opportunity to evaluate how practice went
00:17:59.980 so that you can be better at the next practice.
00:18:01.820 So let's do this.
00:18:02.560 And he said,
00:18:02.860 yeah,
00:18:02.960 that sounds great.
00:18:04.400 And it's a series of five questions.
00:18:06.140 All right.
00:18:06.580 And the five questions are very,
00:18:07.660 very simply.
00:18:09.000 Number one,
00:18:10.080 what did you accomplish?
00:18:11.580 So for him,
00:18:12.380 when you went to practice,
00:18:13.620 did you have an objective?
00:18:15.060 Did you have a goal?
00:18:15.960 And if you did,
00:18:17.260 what is it that you wanted to accomplish?
00:18:19.680 Number two,
00:18:20.820 what did you not accomplish?
00:18:22.460 So you set out to do X,
00:18:24.120 Y,
00:18:24.360 and Z,
00:18:25.060 but you didn't get that accomplished.
00:18:27.040 We need to understand that.
00:18:28.360 Not again,
00:18:28.800 to beat ourselves up,
00:18:29.800 but to objectively look at it.
00:18:31.660 So that we can propel ourselves forward next time.
00:18:35.500 Number three,
00:18:36.820 where did you thrive?
00:18:38.660 Where did you succeed?
00:18:39.820 What did you do in practice that went really,
00:18:42.000 really,
00:18:42.340 really well?
00:18:43.600 And for me,
00:18:44.340 he said,
00:18:44.800 he was really good at exploding off of,
00:18:47.240 off of the ball.
00:18:48.540 And he was really good at,
00:18:50.260 with his stance.
00:18:51.040 He's been working on a stance.
00:18:52.340 So great.
00:18:53.120 Those are the things we need to double down on.
00:18:55.140 Number four,
00:18:56.140 what are the things that you did not do so well?
00:18:59.060 And he said,
00:18:59.720 well,
00:18:59.840 I had a hard time reading plays today.
00:19:01.860 I said,
00:19:02.400 good.
00:19:02.900 Now we know.
00:19:03.700 So then we can get into this last question.
00:19:06.640 What are you going to do moving forward?
00:19:09.680 What are you going to do next time?
00:19:11.800 And now he says,
00:19:12.900 well,
00:19:13.200 I'm going to be able to read plays better.
00:19:14.960 I'm going to try to keep my head up so I can look at the plays and understand
00:19:18.000 where those plays are coming from,
00:19:20.420 where they're going,
00:19:21.300 what the formations look like.
00:19:22.840 And this is a way to be better moving forward.
00:19:26.480 This is why it's so,
00:19:27.660 so critical that we do after action reviews,
00:19:29.960 after every experience that we have so that we can get better.
00:19:33.500 We can improve.
00:19:34.500 We can exercise patience because we know deep down inside that we're doing the
00:19:38.940 things that we need to do that will inevitably produce the results that we want.
00:19:43.720 So those are the five keys.
00:19:45.100 I'm going to give you one more as a,
00:19:46.260 as a bonus here in a minute,
00:19:47.300 but let me recap these.
00:19:48.560 Number one,
00:19:49.220 again,
00:19:49.500 long-term vision.
00:19:50.360 Number two,
00:19:51.800 break those down into 12 week objectives.
00:19:54.360 Number three,
00:19:55.440 the tactics,
00:19:56.260 the things that you can do on a daily basis that will produce the results.
00:19:59.420 Number four,
00:20:00.640 create the checkpoints.
00:20:01.560 And then number five,
00:20:02.740 having those after action reviews.
00:20:05.180 This is a way to be engaged.
00:20:07.700 This is a way to be assertive.
00:20:09.980 This is the way to move the needle or kick the ball down the field while you're
00:20:15.060 in a way waiting for the results to take place.
00:20:18.800 And guys,
00:20:19.240 this is just a formula.
00:20:20.440 All right.
00:20:21.180 It's,
00:20:21.460 it's information and action in will inevitably produce different results.
00:20:26.360 You've got to let these things play out.
00:20:28.700 You've been spending decades doing things that get you to where you are right now.
00:20:32.340 If you want something new,
00:20:34.000 give it some time,
00:20:35.820 be a little patient,
00:20:37.340 wait for it to happen,
00:20:38.540 but don't wait passively.
00:20:40.900 Don't hope it'll work.
00:20:42.300 Don't use hope and wishing and positive vibes as your strategy for improving your life.
00:20:50.360 Have a plan,
00:20:51.680 work the plan,
00:20:52.660 execute the plan,
00:20:53.620 review the plan,
00:20:54.460 and keep getting better every single day.
00:20:56.400 Now,
00:20:56.560 as a bonus,
00:20:57.180 here's what I'd share with you.
00:20:58.340 You've got to have mentors and coaches,
00:21:02.740 battle brothers,
00:21:03.320 as I like to call them.
00:21:04.440 These are people who are doing what you want to do.
00:21:07.440 And they may be a little further down the track.
00:21:09.840 The reason this is so important is because as you're in the trenches and you're doing the thing
00:21:14.920 and you're battling and you're in the gym and you're running and you're having conversations
00:21:19.140 with your spouse and you're raising your family and you're working in your job,
00:21:23.180 it's going to become very easy to become discouraged if you're not seeing the results
00:21:28.500 as fast as you would like.
00:21:29.800 And also it's difficult to even know if you are moving the needle in the right direction,
00:21:34.360 because sometimes the progress is so small.
00:21:37.780 That you can't even see it,
00:21:39.240 that you can't even recognize it.
00:21:40.860 And having an objective third party who's already walked the path that you're on can come back and say,
00:21:47.140 have faith,
00:21:48.800 have a little discipline,
00:21:49.980 have a little dedication,
00:21:51.420 stay the course.
00:21:52.120 You're on the right path.
00:21:53.960 It's just going to take time because if you don't have that and you're not seeing the progress that you would like,
00:21:58.960 and you have these false expectations about what it'll take,
00:22:02.280 you're going to give up.
00:22:03.480 You're going to throw in the towel
00:22:04.580 because your expectations aren't legitimate.
00:22:07.800 So have a mentor,
00:22:09.640 have a coach,
00:22:10.560 have a battle brother,
00:22:11.740 have somebody by your side.
00:22:13.540 Who's cheering you on.
00:22:14.980 Who's rallying for you,
00:22:16.280 who wants to win,
00:22:17.560 who's willing to look back and say,
00:22:19.180 keep going.
00:22:20.140 You're doing what needs to be done,
00:22:21.500 or you're not doing what needs to be done.
00:22:23.620 Here's where you need to course.
00:22:24.660 Correct.
00:22:25.040 These types of people are invaluable in your life.
00:22:28.600 They're mentors,
00:22:29.640 they're coaches,
00:22:30.380 they're friends,
00:22:31.160 they're battle brothers,
00:22:32.520 they're people who care about you and they want to see you succeed.
00:22:35.580 And they have already succeeded themselves.
00:22:38.220 So guys,
00:22:39.120 that's it.
00:22:39.900 That's what I wanted to share with you.
00:22:42.180 Exercising aggressive patients,
00:22:43.940 exercising tactical patients,
00:22:45.540 however you want to look at it.
00:22:46.620 We don't want to be passive in life.
00:22:48.700 We don't want to wait for things and hope that things are going to work out.
00:22:51.580 We want to be actively working towards those things and being patient and
00:22:56.040 understanding that if we're doing the right things,
00:22:58.020 then inevitably those results will come to fruition.
00:23:03.380 So I hope that helps.
00:23:05.100 If you guys have any other tips or insights,
00:23:07.280 very active over on Twitter.
00:23:09.880 That's at order of man and Instagram connect with me there.
00:23:13.680 Cause that's where I'm most active.
00:23:14.900 And Instagram is at Ryan Mickler.
00:23:17.660 All right.
00:23:18.180 So Twitter is at order of man,
00:23:19.480 Instagram at Ryan Mickler.
00:23:20.760 Or I want to hear what else is working for you guys,
00:23:23.340 how you're making things work in your life,
00:23:24.820 how you're exercising tactical patients or aggressive patients and how this has
00:23:29.180 worked for you.
00:23:30.320 The more we share this stuff,
00:23:31.680 the better off all of us are going to be in as I do every week.
00:23:34.800 I just want to thank you for being on this journey.
00:23:37.260 One of the unintended benefits or unexpected,
00:23:40.440 I should say benefits of running this podcast and this movement is that I
00:23:44.480 become a better man.
00:23:45.560 That as I'm working through my patients issues,
00:23:48.160 I have been uplifted and inspired by you to keep going,
00:23:53.080 even when I don't see the progress that I would like.
00:23:56.820 So I truly,
00:23:58.120 truly thank you for that.
00:23:59.320 Make sure guys,
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00:24:11.720 All right.
00:24:12.060 You guys are getting value from this.
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00:24:18.480 Take two minutes.
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00:24:31.240 So I'll leave you there until next week,
00:24:33.820 guys,
00:24:34.540 take action,
00:24:36.100 exercise a little patience,
00:24:37.940 not passivity,
00:24:38.900 but patience and become the man that you are meant to be.
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