Order of Man - Plant Your Feet and Square Your Shoulders to the Enemy ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.

00:00:10.480 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.220 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Brian Michler,

00:00:28.440 and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and the movement, The Order of Man. I want to

00:00:32.580 welcome you to what I consider to be the manliest podcast out there on the interwebs. I'm glad that

00:00:38.980 you're tuning in, whether you've been with us for four years now or you're just tuning in for the

00:00:43.840 first time. And you might be because we are growing. It is amazing how quickly and how exponentially that

00:00:49.880 the movement and the podcast and everything else that we're doing is growing. I think it's a

00:00:54.540 testament to the fact that this is much needed in society. I think there's a movement out there,

00:00:59.640 and it seems to be getting louder and louder to dismiss masculinity and the need for it in

00:01:05.420 modern times and modern society. And I think obviously that's the furthest thing from the

00:01:10.700 truth. I think more than ever, we need masculinity. We need men who are willing to step up as protectors

00:01:16.440 of themselves and their families and their communities and those who are unable to protect

00:01:20.160 themselves. Providers, not only financially, and of course that's a huge component, but

00:01:24.380 providers of emotional and mental support within the family unit. And then also presiders,

00:01:31.680 which is synonymous with leadership. It's about going out and serving those individuals who we want

00:01:37.000 to serve and we have an obligation or responsibility for. So that's what it means to be a man. Overarching,

00:01:42.820 general type definition. But at the end of the day, that is our responsibility and our obligation.

00:01:47.320 And what I'm doing here is giving you the tools and the conversations, the resources,

00:01:52.740 everything that you might need as a man to be this type of individual, a better father,

00:01:57.960 a better husband, a better business owner, community leader, whatever facet of life you're

00:02:01.720 showing up as. And as you know, if you've been with us for any amount of time, we've had just an

00:02:06.100 incredible, incredible lineup over the past several weeks. We had Chris Hogan on the podcast a couple of

00:02:11.200 weeks ago. Earlier this week, we had UFC bantamweight champion, TJ Dillashaw on the podcast.

00:02:17.740 Next week, the one and only David Goggins that will be released Tuesday. And then we've got

00:02:22.640 Donnie Vincent, an adventure, a hunter, a storyteller. It's incredible. Like I said,

00:02:28.000 so if you're not subscribed, make sure you get subscribed, tune into the show each and every

00:02:32.220 week. So you don't miss any of these, these incredible guests. I have got somewhat of a

00:02:37.240 short one for you today. I don't think it'll be real long. In fact, it's, it's a quote that I

00:02:41.020 wanted to share with you. And I wanted to break down this quote and talk with you about what I think

00:02:44.160 it means, uh, because I think I'm going to incorporate this as my, I don't know, my rallying

00:02:49.360 cry of sorts. And, uh, I think it's very indicative of what our responsibility is as men, not only in

00:02:55.560 ancient times, uh, but also in modern times. Although the way that we go about doing these

00:03:01.120 things has, has maybe changed. And the other thing that I wanted to mention too, is as I talk

00:03:05.060 about this quote, which I will hear in a minute, uh, it's important to know that it's our responsibility

00:03:09.580 as men to then also teach this to our children and specifically our boys. Now our daughters as well,

00:03:15.180 but specifically, I want to talk about boys because this is a show dedicated towards lifting up young

00:03:21.060 men, lifting up men, and just reclaiming and restoring masculinity. And in order to help our

00:03:28.560 young men, uh, it's important that we, as men who have gone before, and we, as men who understand what

00:03:34.840 it actually means to be a man, that we turn around and we offer a hand, we extend our hand and we teach

00:03:41.000 the boys in our families, in our neighborhoods, those boys that we are interacting with, we teach

00:03:47.080 them exactly what it means to be a man. Because if they go out into society and we let them figure it

00:03:53.400 out on their own, or we let other people dictate the tone of the conversation, we are doing them

00:03:58.540 and society as a whole, a huge disservice because there's a very, very clear misunderstanding

00:04:04.380 understanding of what our responsibility as men is. And I think it's important that we teach our,

00:04:10.600 our boys how to do this. And the reason I bring this up is because in April, April 11th through

00:04:15.420 the 14th, to be exact, we are doing a legacy event. Now this is a father-son event. So if you are a

00:04:21.900 father of boys or a father figure, maybe you're an uncle or some sort of a mentor or a godfather,

00:04:28.220 whatever that actually may look like, I want to invite you out to this legacy event. We've got 20 spots

00:04:33.120 available. I think we're about halfway filled right now. And I know that we're going to fill

00:04:36.860 up on this thing. You and your boy between the ages of eight to 15, get to Las Vegas. That's all

00:04:42.520 you have to do. Get to Las Vegas. We're going to come down, pick you up in a shuttle, bring you up to

00:04:47.360 a cabin in the mountains of Southern Utah. And we're going to do some mental, physical, emotional

00:04:52.160 activities throughout a course of three and a half days that are all designed to push you,

00:04:58.120 test you, forge a deeper relationship and a bond with your son, create a code of conduct.

00:05:04.100 It's incredible. And we did this three, four, five or so months ago. Again, this is our second

00:05:09.980 legacy experience and we are updating it. We're adding some new features. We're adding some new

00:05:15.640 activities that are going to foster these types of bonds between men and their boys. So check it out.

00:05:20.520 It's called legacy. You can find it at order of man.com slash legacy. Again, that's order of man.com

00:05:25.940 slash legacy. All right, guys, let me get into the quote of today. And then I'm going to break

00:05:31.560 this down and talk with you about what I think it means. As I said earlier, I'm going to use this as

00:05:36.020 a, uh, as a rallying cry. And I don't quite frankly, I don't think this, although I'm trying

00:05:42.780 to think about how to word this, uh, the way that we go about stepping into the role of the quote that

00:05:47.220 I'm going to share with you here today, uh, may have changed. It's still, it's still is as applicable

00:05:52.140 today as it ever was when it was uttered thousands of years ago. And here it is. It's by Archie

00:05:57.900 Locus. And it says this, be brave. My heart, plant your feet and square your shoulders to the enemy.

00:06:04.920 Meet him among the man killing spears, hold your ground in victory. Do not brag in defeat. Do not

00:06:12.820 weep powerful. It's powerful. I don't know what it is about this quote. I do know what it is. I do

00:06:19.400 know what it is. I'm gonna share it with you. There's just something about these words and the

00:06:24.720 image that it conjures up in my mind that makes me feel like a man that wants me to be a man that

00:06:31.720 wants me to step up and engage this life in a way that I believe it's meant to be engaged.

00:06:39.180 And when I look around and I see, for example, a hundred men, I see an overwhelming majority of

00:06:45.720 those men who are living a life less than they're capable of living. They, they're good men for the

00:06:51.380 most part. They're honorable. Uh, but if we strip everything else away, I think they're just living

00:06:57.720 mediocre. I can see it in men's eyes and I know what it looks like because I've been there. I've been in

00:07:03.120 a position where I have felt inadequate. Uh, I have felt like I am not actually behaving like a man.

00:07:10.640 I felt inadequate. I felt that I am just producing less than I'm capable of. And this quote to me

00:07:16.840 speaks volumes about the way that we as men are meant to live our lives. And I talked about it a

00:07:22.660 second ago. It's for our families. It's for our businesses. It's for our communities. It's for

00:07:26.800 our countries. And it's for us. I found that over the past roughly four to five years as me taking this

00:07:34.480 journey and leading this movement of order of man is that as I begin to step up into the role of what

00:07:40.860 it means to be a man, my life is so much more fulfilled. It's so much more satisfying. There's

00:07:46.940 so much more purpose and significance and meaning behind not only what I'm doing, but the way that

00:07:51.420 I'm showing up and the way that I'm able to engage my community and the way I'm able to engage my

00:07:55.680 children and my wife and all of the people who are important to me. And it comes with stepping into

00:08:00.660 that role. I think there's a lot of people out there who would have us believe that we shouldn't

00:08:04.840 behave the way that deep down inside, we know we should be behaving. And when we step away from that

00:08:10.680 calling, and it is, I think it's calling to every man. When we step away from that, we know deep down

00:08:17.520 in our heart that we're leaving something on the table, that we're not living the life that we're fully

00:08:22.120 capable of living. And the reason this is so important is because we have become soft as a society.

00:08:28.120 We are becoming weaker and weaker physically, mentally, emotionally. There's polar opposites in the way

00:08:35.740 that we communicate with each other. We can't have respectful conversations. We see crime rates. We see

00:08:42.600 violence. We see broken homes. We're seeing drug abuse and addiction. And a lot of this stems from

00:08:49.540 the lack of us being able to step up fully as men. So it's my job to help foster that, to give you the

00:08:57.560 tools and the resources and to encourage that, not only in myself, but in my boys and you, those of you

00:09:03.200 who are listening. So let's break this down. All right, again, Archie Locus, be brave my heart, plant your

00:09:08.160 feet and square your shoulders to the enemy. Meet him among the man-killing spears. Hold your ground. In

00:09:13.560 victory, do not brag. In defeat, do not weep. So let's break this down piece by piece. Be brave. Guys, we have

00:09:20.880 got to exhibit courage. Every single one of us faces fear. Every single one of us on a daily basis is

00:09:27.660 faced with some task or some order or some circumstance in which we're afraid. We're afraid

00:09:34.180 of looking foolish. We're afraid of rejection. We're afraid of the way that we might be perceived. We're

00:09:38.600 afraid of losing friends. We're afraid of failure. We are afraid. And I don't think this condition ever

00:09:44.540 goes away. I think the best that we can do as men is fortify ourselves, inoculate ourselves against

00:09:52.080 the fear by being brave, by stepping into what we're afraid of, by becoming familiar with the

00:09:57.160 very thing that may be holding us back. And the more that we can engage and the more that we can

00:10:01.600 step into that fear and the more that we can exhibit courage, the better off we're going to be,

00:10:06.320 the more successful we're going to be. If we spent our entire lives running from the things that

00:10:10.800 we're afraid of, we might live a pretty decent life, actually. That's the hard sell is that if

00:10:17.460 you run away from everything that you're afraid of, you can actually make it in this life. And

00:10:22.940 lying on your deathbed, you get to look back the last 60, 70, 80, 90, 100 years and wonder why the

00:10:29.600 hell you didn't do more. Why you didn't do more than you previously did. Why you didn't do all that

00:10:37.600 you were capable of doing. And I can tell you that the men that I've talked with who are, who are

00:10:42.380 elderly, who have lived some years, never once have I met one, someone who, who didn't have some

00:10:49.060 regret about the future. I should have done this. I should have done that. I should have taken this

00:10:53.340 risk. I should have went on that adventure. And I never want to be the person who says, I should

00:10:57.400 have, should have, should have, should have. And in order to not be that individual, in order to be

00:11:02.600 the individual who at the end of his life says, I did everything I possibly could, we have to exhibit

00:11:07.920 bravery. We have to be courageous. We have to do the things that we know we should be doing, despite

00:11:13.120 how we might feel about them. And the way that we do this is we tap into our hearts. This isn't

00:11:18.520 something a lot of men talk about because we're getting into that, that emotional territory. Guys,

00:11:24.860 it's critical that we tap into our hearts. Yes. It's easy for men to tap into our minds. It's easy for

00:11:31.240 us to be analytical and to pour over the data and to think our way out of things. But how often are

00:11:36.460 you feeling? The way that we feel is just as powerful, if not more powerful than the way that

00:11:42.560 we think it's another stimulus. It's another benchmark. It's another sensation that you can use

00:11:50.540 to dictate the tone of your life. Don't let it control you certainly, but don't be afraid to tap into

00:11:59.740 the power of the way you feel about things. It's a very, very powerful feeling. Next component of this

00:12:05.000 is plant your feet and square your shoulders to the enemy. How does an individual, how does a man

00:12:11.020 who's facing down some challenge or some fear, how does he plant his feet and why is that even

00:12:16.840 important? I think about construction and I think about building a building. The overall success from the

00:12:25.320 size and scope and height and sustainability of that building is rooted in the foundation of that

00:12:33.540 building. And when we're talking about planting our feet, we're not just talking about the action that

00:12:38.840 we do, which is to plant your feet, but we're talking about where, where are you planting your feet?

00:12:44.740 Is it on a, a solid foundational bedrock or is it on the sand, right? Loose under our feet. We can't

00:12:54.800 get our grip. We can't get our position. We can't get our stance and we can't get any bearing to

00:12:59.260 actually bear down and face what we're about to face. So how do you build a foundation? How do you

00:13:04.120 build the foundation under your feet so that you can plant those feet? The way that you do this is you

00:13:09.180 spend time thinking about it. What do you believe? Who are those individuals that believe like you?

00:13:15.180 What is your code of conduct? How will you behave when you're faced with a difficult circumstance

00:13:19.160 or a temptation that you may be faced with? What are those individuals who you admire and respect?

00:13:25.560 The men who have gone before you doing in their lives? How have they planted their feet? What do they

00:13:31.440 believe? What do they value? We can tap into all of that in order to create our foundation. Now we can't

00:13:37.040 rely upon somebody else's foundation, but we can use it. We can use it as a tool. We can use it as

00:13:42.480 leverage to create our own foundation to do what it is we know we need to be doing, to plant our feet

00:13:47.980 exactly where they need to be. And I believe that where our feet need to be is right between the

00:13:54.900 challenges that we may face, whether that's a divorce or a job loss or a bankruptcy or a lawsuit

00:14:04.760 or something significantly more violent, like a violent encounter or a natural disaster.

00:14:09.320 It's our job as men to plant our feet between that and the people that we have an obligation and

00:14:15.420 responsibility for. And if we're unsure and our feet are unsteady and we aren't on the solid

00:14:21.040 foundational bedrock that is the principles that we've adopted into our life, because we've seen other

00:14:26.200 men who have gone before and doing those things, we aren't going to be able to stand the way that we

00:14:30.420 need to stand guys. We've got to plant our feet. And it's not again, just about our actions.

00:14:35.560 It's about where we're planting our feet. Is that loose or is it solid? And then the next component

00:14:41.900 of that is square your shoulders to the enemy. Why? So you can see what you're dealing with.

00:14:46.960 What a lot of guys will do is they'll hide, they'll cower, they'll, they'll, they'll turn their head.

00:14:52.660 They'll, they'll bow their eyes so they don't see. And guys, you know, this as well as I do.

00:14:57.420 Ignorance is not a great strategy for dealing with life. And yet we do it all the time. We,

00:15:03.820 we, we laugh at our children when they're scared and they cover their eyes and they think just

00:15:08.160 because they cover their eyes, the threat goes away. And yet we as grown men, grown adults who

00:15:12.460 were supposed to take care of this stuff, do the very same thing. When we refuse to see that there's

00:15:17.640 a problem in society, when we refuse to see that there's some enemy and it may not be a physical

00:15:23.340 enemy. I mean, the odds of us having to go out and defend ourselves or our families or loved ones

00:15:28.080 against some sort of violent encounter is significantly lower than it's ever been.

00:15:32.240 I'm not talking about a physical enemy, but I'm talking about a battle. John Eldridge,

00:15:37.280 one of my favorite authors also has another quote that I love. He says, deep in his heart,

00:15:41.740 every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live and a beauty to rescue. Gentlemen,

00:15:47.140 what is your battle? What banner are you carrying? What fight are you willing to engage in? What hill

00:15:55.020 are you willing to die on? If you can't answer that question, when I say that, I think you've

00:16:00.300 got some work to do. I think you've got to turn inwards and really decide who you are. I think

00:16:05.980 you've got to turn outwards and decide what is wrong with the world. What do I, what do I see that I

00:16:10.520 need to address? What kind of man do I need to be in order to deal with that? And then open your eyes.

00:16:16.100 The best part about squaring your shoulders to the enemy is you give yourself the widest possible

00:16:21.840 angle and view and perspective that you could. And the wider your view of the enemy and the

00:16:26.600 battlefield, the more successful you're going to be. But if you're turned sideways and you've got

00:16:31.120 one foot out and you've got one foot out the door and one foot in, and you're thinking about

00:16:34.860 your escape route and, and, and how you can tuck tail and run out of this situation, but still

00:16:40.260 save face, you will never be able to see all that you need to see in order to step into the role

00:16:45.280 that you were meant to step into. So plant your feet on something solid, make the decision to die

00:16:52.280 on that hill and square your shoulders to the enemy, because you're going to let that enemy know that

00:16:56.880 you're not afraid that you are going to face that individual that you are, or scenario that you are

00:17:03.700 adequately trained and prepared to do it. And you give yourself maximum perspective in order to see

00:17:10.900 everything that needs to be seen. So you can do what you need to do as a man. The next component,

00:17:16.860 meet him among the man killing spears. Now this is interesting because when I read this, what I hear

00:17:22.380 is you're not waiting. You're not waiting for the fight to be taken to you. You're not going to be

00:17:29.480 reactive to the situation in which you may find yourself. You're going to be proactive. You're going

00:17:35.740 to meet the enemy and the enemy is dangerous. The enemy is, could potentially even kill you.

00:17:44.560 You're going to go out there and you're going to be proactive. You're going to figure out what needs

00:17:48.220 to be done. You're going to go out there and you're going to acquire the tools and the resources and the

00:17:54.020 skill sets that you need to acquire in order to achieve what it is you're after. And this, this idea

00:18:00.020 of man killing spears, it could be as simple as going out and starting a business. You're not going

00:18:06.060 to be passive. You're not going to sit by and wait for the market to dictate what you should be doing.

00:18:10.120 You're going to enlist the help of others. You're going to create a business plan. You're going to

00:18:17.020 acquire the skillset. You're going to achieve some level of mastery and something that will help you

00:18:21.680 produce what it is you want to produce. And then you're actually going to engage. You're going to take

00:18:26.500 the first steps, not the last step or the second step in response to what somebody or something else

00:18:31.900 is happening around you. The first step, you're going to go into the fray, if you will. Next, hold

00:18:38.320 your ground. Guys, we are going to get beat up. All right. I do every single day as I talk about this

00:18:43.640 message. And even as I put this podcast out there, I know there's going to be people that are, that are

00:18:47.560 thinking, what the hell is Ryan talking about? There's people out there that don't understand whether

00:18:52.980 they don't want to, or they don't have the capacity to, or they think I'm just completely

00:18:57.300 out in left field. There are people every single day who dismiss what I do, who mock what I do,

00:19:03.700 who downplay what I do. And yet none of that will deter me from holding my ground because I've done

00:19:09.400 everything else. I feel like right first, I've planted my feet on a solid foundation. I've squared

00:19:14.980 my shoulders to what is actually happening out there in society. I have gone out and rather than being a

00:19:20.660 victim of what's happening to me, I decide to go out and face it. So I take myself from the

00:19:26.040 category of victim and put myself into something else entirely because I am proactive. And now as

00:19:33.060 I'm beat up and I'm battered and people are belittling what it is I'm doing and mocking what

00:19:40.500 it is I'm doing and trying to undermine what it is I'm doing, and maybe not even as devious,

00:19:44.780 they just don't understand. That does not deter me. What I think a lot of guys will do is at the

00:19:51.240 slightest sign of struggle or challenge or adversity or hardship, they'll say, well,

00:19:59.800 throw up my hands. This isn't for me. I guess it wasn't meant to be. If it was,

00:20:05.180 it was supposed to just be easy. And I think I talked about this on an Ask Me Anything earlier

00:20:09.160 in the week about this pursuit of happiness. I just want to be blissful. I just want everything

00:20:15.740 to be wonderful. Unicorns and fairy tales and magical lands. And look, guys, if that's what

00:20:22.540 you're looking for, you're selling yourself short. You're not living the type of life that you're

00:20:27.500 supposed to live. You're not engaged, anxiously engaged in a meaningful purpose-driven calling for

00:20:33.480 you, whether that's leading your family or leading your business or solving some problem or

00:20:38.700 injustice in the world. That's not how a man behaves. A man goes out on the world, figures out

00:20:44.820 what's wrong. Doesn't matter who or what or how the enemy is attacking him. He holds his ground with

00:20:50.120 every last breath. He looks for challenges because that's where most people turn around.

00:20:55.320 When the enemy is beating on you and you're getting beat up left and right, that's when you look left,

00:21:01.700 you look right, and you see everybody else retreating. Those are the weak individuals who

00:21:08.700 will never achieve anything in their life. Hold your ground, gentlemen. That barrage that you might

00:21:15.820 be dealing with, and it might be a divorce. It might be a job loss. It might be a lawsuit. Maybe 0.80

00:21:21.880 it's a medical condition. That barrage that's happening to you right now, it will pass. The

00:21:27.780 question is, what's going to break first? You or the barrage that you may be facing? Hold your ground.

00:21:34.760 Stay strong. Stay the course. Engage in the battle. Do whatever you can to keep going because it will

00:21:41.720 eventually let up and you will be the one who emerges victorious. And this last component of

00:21:47.420 this, and there's really kind of two components here, is in victory, do not brag. Guys, it's not

00:21:53.060 becoming to brag about who you are or how special you are or all the wonderful things that you've done in

00:21:59.660 life because you're only as good as your last at bat. I had a baseball coach who would tell me that.

00:22:04.540 You're only as good as your last at bat. And yet I see so many guys who are resting on the

00:22:08.940 accomplishments from nearly two decades ago. That's wonderful. But what have you done today?

00:22:15.180 What did you do today to emerge victorious in the way that a real man emerges victorious? 0.74

00:22:21.780 Did you wake up when the alarm went off? Did you get your ass into the gym? Did you sit down and have

00:22:28.780 that difficult conversation with an employee? Did you have a difficult conversation with your wife

00:22:35.620 or your children? Did you discipline them even though it's not comfortable the way they needed

00:22:39.620 to be disciplined so it would serve them? Did you nail the presentation that you've been fearful of?

00:22:45.140 What is it that you've done right now in order to achieve some level of victory in your life? And

00:22:51.520 guess what? That doesn't make you special. Understand that. I see so many men who want praise for doing

00:22:58.000 what they should be doing. You know, they show up to work on time for the entire year and they think,

00:23:03.720 well, I was here to work every day. I didn't miss a single day. Congratulations. You did your job.

00:23:09.460 We don't need to accept the praise because that's not why we're in the battle. We're not in it

00:23:15.040 for the glory of ourselves. We're in it for the glory of others. We're in it to serve others.

00:23:21.320 We're in it to lead others. And one of the best ways I've ever heard of leadership,

00:23:26.900 the definition of leadership, is an individual, or a leader I should say, is an individual who's

00:23:32.640 able to take somebody else to a place they could not have gone or even imagined on their own.

00:23:40.340 This is the victory that we should be after, not for us, but for our people.

00:23:43.660 And our people could be our families. It could be our coworkers. It could be your next door neighbor.

00:23:49.760 It could be churchgoers, any number of people that you want to lead. And when you're victorious,

00:23:56.480 you don't need to brag and boast about that. You need to celebrate that the fact that the team is

00:24:02.280 the thing that won, that your side won, not you. Sure, you may have been instrumental in that,

00:24:08.200 but we want to give credit to those other individuals and let them know that they came

00:24:12.780 along that path, that they contributed, that they helped out, that they rescued themselves.

00:24:17.720 And then the last component is in victory, excuse me, in defeat, do not weep.

00:24:22.840 Now, this one's interesting because I think there's a movement, especially to men, directed

00:24:30.340 at men, I should say, that says that we should be emotional. We should be in touch with our

00:24:38.120 sensitive side. And look, I'm here to tell you, I cry. I mean, there's moments where I've cried.

00:24:45.280 I cried when each one of my children are born. I've teared up when I've accomplished something

00:24:49.660 big. I cry. It's not something men don't do. Men cry. All right? We understand that. But that's

00:24:56.280 not what I'm talking about here. What I'm talking about here is that if you feel the need to weep

00:25:01.040 because you've lost, maybe it's because you haven't done all you said or thought you could do.

00:25:05.700 Maybe you left something out on that battlefield. Maybe you didn't fully commit. Maybe you didn't

00:25:10.760 fully prepare. And the reason that you're upset is because you didn't do it all. But I think it's

00:25:16.560 infinitely harder to be upset, to weep, to cry, to bitch, to moan about a loss when you 0.90

00:25:23.240 know you've poured every ounce of blood and sweat and tears into what you're trying to make

00:25:30.180 happen. Yeah, you're still going to be disappointed. And guess what? You should. We're not in this

00:25:35.180 thing called life to lose. So it should be discouraging. It should be disappointing. And

00:25:41.400 that should drive you to do something different in the future. But don't weep about it. Don't throw

00:25:47.320 a pity party. Don't do the whole, woe is me. I'm a victim. Everything's happening to me, around me,

00:25:53.340 and there's nothing I can do about it. No. Stand there, shoulders back, chest up, head high,

00:26:01.260 knowing that you did all you could possibly do to save that marriage or salvage the business

00:26:07.620 or get that client or get yourself in shape or connect with your children or any number of things

00:26:14.140 that you want to accomplish in life. Guys, I love this quote. As you can tell, I'm passionate about

00:26:19.040 it and I'm engaged about it because in the 25 words or whatever there is here, I think it speaks

00:26:24.800 volumes about the way that we as men should show up. And maybe this was written for a different time

00:26:29.700 and maybe the context was different. But I think if we look at it and we really evaluate and analyze

00:26:35.700 and ponder about what it says about the way that we as men should show up, I think it's very

00:26:40.840 applicable to today. I think if that more of us adopted this as our battle cry, we would see a

00:26:47.960 strengthening of men. And not only men, a strengthening of women, a strengthening of children,

00:26:54.520 a strengthening of society. If we go first, if we're willing to lead ourselves and lead others

00:26:59.240 the way that Archie Locus talked about in this quote. So with that said, let me read this to you

00:27:07.380 again. Be brave, my heart. Plant your feet and square your shoulders to the enemy. Meet him among

00:27:13.960 the man-killing spears. Hold your ground. In victory, do not brag. In defeat, do not weep.

00:27:22.620 Guys, take it to heart. We need you. We need all of you engaged in this battle. And make no

00:27:28.960 mistake. This is a battle. The enemy may not be present or visible, but if we can look at life

00:27:35.500 as a battle against everything that might come up, all of these difficult circumstances, and we can

00:27:42.600 engage ourselves the way that warriors engage themselves, we will live a much more rewarding,

00:27:47.940 satisfying, fulfilling. Note, I did not say happy because there will be added responsibility when you

00:27:53.280 take this to heart, but you'll be fulfilled, uplifted, motivated, inspired, and you'll be able to do that

00:27:58.760 in others. So again, as a reminder, guys, as I wind down today, think about the legacy event.

00:28:05.380 If you've got a son between the ages of eight and 15, this is going to be a great event.

00:28:10.220 I'm actually considering incorporating this phrase into the whole weekend and having each and every

00:28:16.300 one of the boys that are there memorize this, take it to heart, explain what it means, and start

00:28:21.100 living their life in accordance with the principles that I'm talking about today. Again,

00:28:25.160 that's orderofman.com slash legacy. And I'll go ahead and leave you guys there. I appreciate you

00:28:30.280 being on this path with me in the battle. If you will plant your feet, guys, square those shoulders

00:28:35.140 of the enemy, go out there, get it done, become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening

00:28:40.020 to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were

00:28:45.200 meant to be. We invite you to join the order and order of man.com.

Order of Man - January 18, 2019

Plant Your Feet and Square Your Shoulders to the Enemy ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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