Order of Man - September 17, 2021


Predator or Prey? | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES


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23 minutes

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188.95259

Word Count

4,504

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293

Misogynist Sentences

2

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2


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the difference between being a predator or a prey, and the 5 questions you can ask yourself to determine whether or not you are a Predator or a Prey. 1. Do you kill what you eat? 2. What do you feed on? 3. Who does it feed on and who does it graze upon? 4. What does it do to keep you alive and healthy? 5. Who is doing the dirty work?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.460 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan Michler.
00:00:27.900 I am the host and the founder of the Order of Man podcast and movement. Welcome here and welcome
00:00:34.040 back. If you're just new, you're not familiar with what we do, this is a podcast and a movement
00:00:39.520 designed to give you as men the tools and conversations and resources that you guys need
00:00:45.100 to thrive. Whether you're a husband or a father or an employee, employer, business owner, coach,
00:00:51.120 mentor, whatever, you want to thrive as a man. And we're trying to give you the tools through
00:00:57.740 this podcast, the conversations, and then our other events that we have and the Iron Council,
00:01:03.580 which is our exclusive brotherhood and all of the resources available. Anyways, today, guys,
00:01:08.540 I wanted to talk with you about Predator or Prey. This is a conversation that was sparked by one of
00:01:16.560 our Iron Council members had a really good idea and commentary, and I wish I could remember who it
00:01:23.240 was. I wrote it down, but I'm traveling. I'm in Detroit right now. I just had a great conversation
00:01:27.340 with Jason Wilson. A lot of you guys are familiar with him. And so, I'm here on the road. And so,
00:01:32.940 I didn't write it down. I wanted to give this guy credit, but he brought up some good points about
00:01:36.900 being a Predator or a Prey. So, we're going to talk about five questions that you can ask yourself
00:01:42.640 to determine whether or not you are Predator or Prey. Now, before I get into that, I just want to make
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00:02:37.120 All right. Anyways, with that said, let's get into the discussion. Again, we're talking about
00:02:42.680 Predator or Prey. Now, look guys, I realize this isn't the perfect analogy or metaphor.
00:02:48.900 Whatever it is. Maybe one of you guys can tell me the difference, but it's not the perfect analogy
00:02:52.740 or metaphor. Obviously, there's flaws in it, which is why it's just an analogy. But I want you guys to
00:02:58.880 consider for a second what it means to be a predator or a prey. I'm not going to define it too much. I'm
00:03:05.240 just going to go through these questions because I feel as if I go through these questions, then we'll
00:03:09.320 be getting to articulate and define where we fall on this scale and where maybe we should move and
00:03:15.700 consider. So, let's just get right into the questions. Number one, do you kill or do you
00:03:20.800 graze? Do you go out there and kill what you eat or do you simply graze upon what you eat?
00:03:28.600 And I also wrote in here, who's doing your dirty work? Are you in there getting the dirty work done
00:03:33.040 or are you relying on something just to be there and you're picking the low-hanging fruit
00:03:37.120 and whatever's available, then you're going to eat whatever's available or are you actively
00:03:42.000 going out, doing your dirty work, doing the work required, putting in the effort to kill what you
00:03:48.200 eat? And that's one of the primary differentiating factors between a predator and a prey is what do
00:03:54.340 you kill? What do you eat? What do you feed on and who does it and how does it get done? And are you
00:03:58.740 willing to do it yourself? Because I'll tell you, I've seen a lot of guys out there who, you know,
00:04:02.960 they barely get by and they kind of float and they kind of coast and they wait for different
00:04:07.280 welfare type programs and stimulus packages. Maybe they'll try to fly under the radar when it comes to
00:04:14.080 employment and do as little as possible so that maybe they get their paycheck and they don't get
00:04:19.920 fired. That's really a lot of these people's goals. And of course, that's not going to serve you
00:04:24.180 well. That's not you. You aren't interested in just barely coasting by. You're interested in killing
00:04:29.860 what you eat, going out there and performing and doing what needs to be required, what is required
00:04:35.440 in order to perform at your fullest. So again, question number one is, do you kill or do you
00:04:42.600 graze? Number two, are you reactive or are you responsive? Are you reactive or are you responsive?
00:04:50.920 Because if you look at the difference between a predator and a prey, I would say more than anything,
00:04:56.300 a predator is a very responsive and a prey is going to be more reactive. And what I mean by that is
00:05:04.780 what's the difference is that reaction is based on the action of others. So if you get a call from
00:05:12.000 an employee, then you're just reacting. If you get a call from your wife, you're reacting. If
00:05:15.340 something's going on with your kids, you're reacting. And so it's constant reaction and you're
00:05:19.040 never getting ahead of the curve. And this is a lot of issue with a lot of men. They aren't ever
00:05:24.020 willing to get out ahead or even capable of getting out ahead of the curve. And they always
00:05:29.000 feel like they're behind the eight ball because they are. They're just reacting over and over and
00:05:33.580 over and over and over and over again. Every situation that comes up, they're just reacting to
00:05:37.960 it versus being responsive, which is planning ahead, being calculated, going out and looking for
00:05:44.920 opportunities, looking for threats, looking for what might be wrong, looking for those opportunities
00:05:50.320 that could potentially present themselves today. That's what it means to be responsive.
00:05:54.300 And so the difference between a predator and a prey is that a predator is responsive,
00:05:58.720 right? A predator gets up and is actively going out and looking for food. That's what it does.
00:06:06.020 They're going to get up, they're going to go to the watering hole or wherever they've seen
00:06:09.940 activity in the past. They're going to formulate a plan. Even if it's instinctively,
00:06:14.420 they're going to formulate that plan. They're going to come up with a plan of attack and they're
00:06:17.780 going to respond to the environment based on what's around them. Okay. But a prey on the other
00:06:23.520 hand is going to be reacting. If something goes wrong, it's simply going to react just because
00:06:28.600 they see something go South. And so many men act like prey in this category and this, this question
00:06:33.900 and, and they're always behind guys and they always struggle. So you need to really consider that
00:06:41.880 maybe you ought to take a step back every once in a while and think about what you want out of your
00:06:46.940 life that you aren't so reactionary all the time. What is your daily plan? Do you have a daily plan?
00:06:54.760 What do you do every single morning before you get started with your day? I'm a huge, huge advocate
00:06:59.280 for having some sort of battle plan in the morning. Now we have a couple of resources available and you
00:07:05.320 can use those or use your own. I don't care. But what matters is that you're actually proactive.
00:07:11.400 You're responding to the environment. You're responding to situations. You're more thoughtful,
00:07:16.980 you're more calculated, uh, and you're going to achieve, I believe better results when you are
00:07:21.580 versus you're always reacting. You know, another thing about being reactive is it tends to be hyper
00:07:27.040 emotional. And I'm never wanting to tell you that you, you, you shouldn't tune into your emotions or
00:07:33.060 you shouldn't understand what it is. Your emotions are trying to teach you or, or tell you,
00:07:37.420 but if you're relying solely on the emotion, it's very reactive. And a lot of the times it can be,
00:07:45.400 uh, it can be to your detriment. You know, you can say things or do things that are not going to
00:07:51.200 serve you or other people. Well, uh, so, uh, uh, a responsive individual on the other hand might take
00:07:58.260 into consideration, uh, their emotions, but they aren't driven solely by their emotions. They can
00:08:04.760 keep a level head and a calmness and clarity because they've planned and they're ready for
00:08:09.580 what may happen. So again, question number one, predator or prey, do you kill or do you graze?
00:08:14.920 Number two, are you responsive or are you reactive? Number three, are you focused or easily distracted?
00:08:23.420 Think about a prey for a little bit. And I've spent a lot of time, a lot of hours,
00:08:28.300 not as much as some of you up in the tree stands, watching deer as I'm trying to hunt and kill and
00:08:35.420 do what I do as a, as a hunter. But it's very interesting to watch a deer, uh, graze or come
00:08:43.800 into a food plot or just, or, or wander by on the path. They're very, very distracted.
00:08:49.800 So they'll come into a food plot, for example, uh, and they'll graze on the food and they'll kind of,
00:08:55.200 you know, wander around, mosey around a little bit. And then the slightest little movement,
00:08:59.560 they're like pop up and they look around and they go back to grazing. Slightest little movement,
00:09:03.480 pop up, look around. Slightest little movement, pop up, look around over and over and over again.
00:09:08.360 It's almost comical. And you kind of have to try not to laugh because you know, you're in a tree
00:09:12.460 stand trying to be quiet. Uh, but, but that's what, that's what prey do. And that's what a lot of men do.
00:09:17.900 They're so easily distracted. The bright, shiny object, the thing over here, the person yapping over
00:09:23.160 here. It's like constant distraction, constant, just all over the place going a million miles an
00:09:29.600 hour, but not really going anywhere because they're distracted. All right. But the prey on the other
00:09:34.820 hand is focused laser, like focus crystal clear on what that individual wants. Focus solely on that
00:09:45.640 objective is not going to be distracted by outside sources and outside factors, but is very clear and
00:09:53.960 intentional about what they want. And, and I would have you ask yourself, what are you, are you easily
00:10:00.580 distracted or can you focus for long and sustained periods of time? You know, and I've thought about
00:10:07.720 it in the context of this podcast and this movement, we've had a lot of tremendous success,
00:10:11.980 specifically over the past several months. And it would be easy to say, well, you know,
00:10:16.020 you, you got lucky or you're an overnight success. Well, I've been doing this for six years.
00:10:21.340 All right. It isn't luck. It isn't an overnight success. And there's nothing really all that special
00:10:26.840 about me or what we're doing. I'll tell you the only thing that's different from me or somebody who
00:10:31.260 may not be succeeding at the same level is that I'm very, very good at focusing my attention
00:10:37.040 on doing what needs to be done in order to drive the mission forward. And I can do it for long and
00:10:42.740 sustained periods of time. That's it. It's not some special, magical, mystical power or skillset
00:10:50.660 that I have. It's just that I'm hyper-focused and I can get things done because I realize how
00:10:56.220 important it is towards the long-term vision and the long-term mission. That's why I'm sitting here
00:11:01.520 in Detroit right now in a Airbnb house that I have after getting done, recording a podcast,
00:11:09.080 sitting here and recording another podcast for you guys, because I realized how important this work
00:11:14.560 is. And so I'm focused on getting that done. Are you focused or are you easily distracted?
00:11:20.060 All right. Number four, do you run towards hardship or do you run away?
00:11:25.940 Think about the relationship between predator and prey. All right. Prey is running away from
00:11:33.980 things. They're always running away from things. They don't want to get killed. They don't want to
00:11:37.780 get eaten. Understandable. And so what do they do? They run away. Predators on the other hand,
00:11:42.940 what do they do? They run towards. They're always running towards something. They're pursuing,
00:11:47.280 they're chasing, they're going after their prey, but that could be synonymous with their dream or their
00:11:54.200 goal or their ambition and objectives. Like, what are you going after? If you're prey,
00:11:59.600 you're running away from things. Basically, let me say that you're just, you're afraid of what might
00:12:08.160 happen. You don't put yourself in challenging situations. You let your ego get in the way
00:12:15.160 because you don't want to look like a fool. And so when anything even remotely challenging in your life
00:12:21.380 comes up, you run away from it. You cower and you, and you don't stay involved. A predator,
00:12:29.200 on the other hand, sees exactly what he wants and doesn't make any, any kind of weird expectations
00:12:36.280 about it not being hard. They know it's going to be hard, which is why the planning and the
00:12:39.880 responsiveness comes in. They know it's going to be hard and yet they still run towards it. So there
00:12:45.600 isn't some weird expectation. They know exactly what it is. And now they're moving towards their
00:12:52.380 goal, towards their desires, towards their objectives. Even in the face of difficulty
00:12:57.220 and challenge and adversity and struggle, they're running towards it. Which one are you? Are you
00:13:04.340 running away from challenges and hardship or are you running towards them so you can better,
00:13:09.480 make yourself better and more capable of achieving your goals and objectives? And the last one,
00:13:14.060 guys, here, the last question, and we'll recap these again. But the last question I wrote down
00:13:17.420 here is, do you play to win or not to lose? Because predators want to win at all costs. In fact,
00:13:28.340 they have to because they're hungry. They want to eat. And so they're willing to take risk. Now,
00:13:35.740 you don't need to be reckless and I'm not suggesting you should, but there's some risks that you need to
00:13:39.700 take. If you want to start that business, it's going to be risky to put some money up,
00:13:45.640 to take some time, to invest some time. If you want to grow and manage and build and develop and
00:13:51.780 strengthen your, the relationships you have with other people, then you're going to need to invest
00:13:57.020 your time and your energy and attention. And you're going to need to let them know that you care about
00:14:01.560 them and that this thing is important to you. That can be risky. You're putting, you're putting it all
00:14:06.720 out on the line. You're putting your balls on the chopping block in a lot of instances when you do
00:14:10.340 these things. But are you playing to win? Because if you are, that's what you'll do.
00:14:17.380 You'll risk. You'll put it all out there because you realize what you can accomplish is greater than
00:14:23.560 the fear and the setback and the difficulty of struggling. But prey on the other hand, they play not
00:14:30.920 to lose, right? They're not going out there and living their best life. They're not. The kind of life
00:14:35.720 they're living is one of mediocrity, complacency, scraping the bottom of the barrel, just getting
00:14:45.400 by, living paycheck to paycheck, having a mediocre relationship, being slightly dissatisfied in your
00:14:54.040 work, being overweight. This is prey mentality. Like I'm just going to sit here and I'm just going to
00:15:01.040 graze on this food and you know, it's here. I don't have to work for it, but it's here. And so
00:15:05.700 like, I guess this is life. And they resign themselves to living that way.
00:15:11.660 They're satisfied, right? Where predator are hungry, prey are satisfied. They're content.
00:15:18.620 Are you? And if you are, then maybe you're more closer to the prey category than the predator
00:15:25.320 category. And I'll tell you, this is a sliding scale too, guys. Like if you're in the position
00:15:30.480 to write these down, I would suggest that you write this stuff down and then give yourself an honest
00:15:35.260 assessment about where you stand on each of these questions. And it's a sliding scale. You're not
00:15:38.460 going to be all predator on one side and all prey on the other. In fact, there's times where maybe
00:15:43.420 you need to shift the scale a little bit, but generally and overall, I think all of us would
00:15:51.340 say that we're working more towards becoming a predator, working towards making ourselves better
00:15:58.180 and more capable and living life to the fullest. So let's recap. Again, do, do an assessment and then
00:16:05.360 ask yourself how you can move further on the other side of the scale than maybe you currently are.
00:16:10.260 Number one, the first question, do you kill what you eat or do you simply graze upon what's there?
00:16:16.700 And who's doing your, your rough work? Who's doing your dirty work? Are you, you asking other people
00:16:22.640 to, to live your life, to, to, to manage your responsibilities, to hope that they're going to
00:16:28.060 take care of it? Or are you going all in and you're doing that work? And that's not to say you shouldn't
00:16:32.980 delegate. Don't misunderstand me. You should, but things are your responsibility. And so whether you
00:16:39.540 delegate that to somebody else or you get it done yourself, it's your responsibility. A predator knows
00:16:44.400 that it's his responsibility. A prey just kind of meanders and moseys along and hope everything's
00:16:49.640 there and turns out. And hopefully there's food in that plotter over there. And if not, well, I guess
00:16:54.980 I'm going to die. And that's kind of the prey mentality. Number two, are you responsive or are
00:17:00.740 you reactive? Are you thoughtful? Are you calculated? Are you cunning? Are you planning out your day? Are you,
00:17:09.420 you mapping out what you want to accomplish? Are you calculated in the way that you go about doing
00:17:14.280 that? Are you looking for opportunities? Are you trying to observe any potential threats?
00:17:21.160 Are you planning? What contingency plans do you have in place? Are you working with other people?
00:17:26.440 What assets do you need? What assets do you have? How do you deploy those assets most effectively?
00:17:31.720 Or are you just reactive? Like, oh shit, like this happened. I got to, I got to deal with this real
00:17:34.980 quick. Oh, my wife's having a bad day. Oh no, I got to deal with that. Oh, and then you get stressed
00:17:39.620 out and she's stressed out and everything goes worse. Or something bad happens. Oh, you know,
00:17:44.240 this is going bad. I'm just going to have a drink because like, I can't deal with this right now.
00:17:48.420 Okay. You can clearly see that's not going to serve you. And yet we all do it. I'm guilty of
00:17:54.080 these things as well. I'm guilty of moving over to the prey category more often than maybe I'd like
00:17:59.760 to admit, but I am trying to be thoughtful about it and you should as well. And that's the difference
00:18:03.900 between being responsive and being reactive is thoughtfulness versus just leading with entirely
00:18:10.340 with your emotions, which isn't really going to serve you well. Number three, are you focused
00:18:15.040 or are you easily distracted? Are you laser-like? Are you moving towards a clear, definitive goal
00:18:22.480 and solution? Are you looking for the problems that are there? Are you coming up with the solutions?
00:18:26.680 Again, are you deploying the right assets? Are you making the right moves? Or are you going towards a
00:18:32.440 path? And then you see something else. You're like, Oh, nevermind about that thing. I want this
00:18:35.500 thing over here. A lot of you guys do it in the gym. Like I see people do this in the gym all the
00:18:39.480 time. They'll, they'll get on a workout program or they'll hire somebody and, and, and they'll do it
00:18:45.080 for like two weeks. If that, they're like, Oh, I'm not seeing results. And then they shift. It's like,
00:18:50.620 okay, well, you know, might, might've taken you two or three decades to get you to where you are
00:18:55.580 right now. What makes you think that in the next two weeks, you're going to have everything figured out.
00:18:59.500 And so they shift every two weeks shift, every two weeks shift. People do it with all sorts of
00:19:05.720 cars. And there's another thing, you know, stuff, consumerism. Oh, buy a new car, buy a new car,
00:19:11.460 buy a new car. Oh, this one's kind of dirty. I'll just buy a new one. It's like, well, hold on.
00:19:15.680 Like maybe, sure. Maybe you need a new car or maybe you just, you don't need a new car and because
00:19:22.100 you're focused on paying off debt, right? So you and your wife talked about paying off debt,
00:19:27.320 uh, six months ago and you've been doing good. You've been doing good. And you're like, Oh,
00:19:32.400 my car's kind of dingy. Like, I'd really like to have this cool new car. And so you go out and you
00:19:35.720 buy a truck and you go $50,000 in debt again. It's like, well, what the hell, man? I thought you
00:19:41.240 were, I thought you, I thought you had an objective, a goal you wanted to accomplish. And you did too.
00:19:46.120 And then you let yourself down. And that's a whole other conversation and rabbit hole that we can get
00:19:51.520 down with regards to letting yourself down and what that does to your, your psyche. So try not
00:19:56.900 to get distracted, be focused. That's why I take notes for this podcast. For example, I've got notes
00:20:03.400 right here in front of my phone. Like I don't have everything scripted and written out, but I've got
00:20:08.200 points that I want to talk with you about because I want to stay on track because I want to be focused
00:20:12.100 in this thing. All right. Number four, do you run towards hardship or away? Are you pursuing and
00:20:19.900 chasing what you want? Or are you running from the things that you don't want? Like, I don't want
00:20:24.600 to be uncomfortable. I don't want to be in hardship. I don't want to be in pain. So I'm going to run
00:20:31.720 away from all of those things. And at the slightest sign of adversity, I'm going to run or I'm going to
00:20:37.800 crumble. Or do you look for hardship today, right now in your training? And by the way, training is not
00:20:46.500 just physical. It's mental, it's emotional, physical. Sure. It's also spiritual. Are you
00:20:53.380 looking for challenging situations right now so that when it matters and when it counts, you'll be
00:20:59.660 ready to go? You never want to be thrust into an environment that you haven't trained for. Now that
00:21:05.220 happens. Sure. But the more you can train and get yourself better now, the more capable you are of
00:21:12.480 dealing with those hardships and those challenges down the road. So what do you do? Run away or run
00:21:17.320 towards? And the last one here, guys, do you play to win? Are you playing your life to win the best of
00:21:23.520 the best? Or are you playing not to lose? Playing it safe, no risk, no putting yourself out there,
00:21:31.780 no potential opportunity or reward as well. Or are you playing to win? Throw it all on the line,
00:21:36.640 put your balls on the chopping block, go after what you want and make it happen.
00:21:41.040 Those are the differences. Maybe you guys have some more thoughts. If you do share with me
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00:21:59.880 or copy the link, send them a text. It's a very simple way to not only spread the movement,
00:22:05.300 that's important, but also give people the resources they need. That's more important.
00:22:09.960 If you've got a guy in your life, whether it's your dad or your brother, a colleague,
00:22:13.500 a coworker, a neighbor, whoever that needs to know about this stuff, maybe you see that they're a
00:22:18.820 prey. Sometimes it's hard to point that out to somebody that you care about,
00:22:26.100 but maybe you could share this podcast as a resource for them. So do that. And then as always,
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00:22:55.420 predators, or at least we're working on becoming predators in, in many senses of the word. So if you
00:23:02.180 want to be around other guys who are working on the same things that you want to be working on,
00:23:06.480 then the iron council is a great, a great place for that. You can do that at order of man.com
00:23:10.600 slash iron council. All right, guys, we've got a killer lineup of podcast guests coming up over
00:23:16.300 the next couple of weeks. Uh, we've got Ben Shapiro next week. We've got Jason Wilson the
00:23:22.680 following week. We've got Jesse. It's literally the following week. Uh, and the hits will keep on
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