Order of Man - Prepare or Die ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart

00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.

00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life. This is who

00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,

00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan

00:00:27.400 Mickler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast and the movement that is Order

00:00:31.620 of Man. I want to welcome you, whether you've been here forever or you're just tuning in

00:00:35.940 for the very first time, which may be quite a few of you. We continue to grow, and this

00:00:39.600 mission of reclaiming and restoring masculinity is something that seems to be resonating deeply

00:00:44.160 with men throughout the entire country, throughout the entire world, and I'm honored that you're

00:00:50.120 here banded with us in reclaiming and restoring what it means to be a man. It's pretty interesting

00:00:55.000 to say the least, and at a minimum regarding what's going on in society with their thoughts

00:01:01.480 collectively on gender and sex and masculinity and femininity, and it's my goal to give every

00:01:09.220 man who's tuning in and listening the tools and the resources that they need to step up

00:01:14.060 and become more capable fathers, husbands, business owners, community leaders, et cetera,

00:01:18.760 et cetera, men in general. I had a really good opportunity last week to go to London and sit

00:01:24.740 down with my friend, Brian Rose on the London real podcast. So I was grateful that he allowed

00:01:28.540 me to do that. And it's good to be back stateside and it's good to be back here again, podcasting,

00:01:33.640 and hopefully you're getting the information that you want and need to be, become more of

00:01:38.460 that capable man we talked about. So anyways, with that said, I want to get into the discussion

00:01:43.300 today. Before I do, I just want to make a very quick mention of two of my show sponsors

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00:02:17.820 our first snow here in Maine and it's been kind of crazy and new to me. So you'll have to pardon

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00:03:12.280 again, we got our first snow, I've been using a lot of their exercise equipment in the

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00:03:37.000 about being prepared. Now I mentioned earlier, uh, that we had our very first snow here in

00:03:43.300 Maine. And although it's not a lot of snow, it's something new to me, something that I will

00:03:49.040 need to learn how to deal with as well as my family. Uh, and it got me thinking about this

00:03:53.500 morning as I woke up to quite a bit of snow on the ground, uh, again, relative to me, probably

00:03:57.680 not relative to Mainers, uh, what I have done as far as being prepared and maybe what I even 0.97

00:04:03.640 failed to do. And I think it's very, very important that we talk about being prepared,

00:04:08.480 that we talk about our role as providers and presiders and protectors of ourselves and our

00:04:14.400 families and those that we have a responsibility for. And I have seen so many men who have failed

00:04:21.040 to prepare adequately in their life. And I titled this prepare or die, uh, quite literally, it could

00:04:26.700 be death, uh, or it could just represent a very serious and grave concern or threat to your own

00:04:32.700 wellbeing or the wellbeing of those you have a responsibility for. So it is our responsibility.

00:04:37.700 It is important that we prepare and anticipate what's going to come up and be ready for those

00:04:42.460 things as they do. Uh, whether you're talking about battle as I did in the military, uh, whether

00:04:48.440 you're talking about going out into the workforce and, uh, trying to get new clients, whether you're

00:04:55.320 talking about your finances in a previous life, I was a financial advisor. I was pre beard and pre 0.55

00:05:00.760 order of man. Uh, I had to talk with people about being prepared all the time, prepared for

00:05:05.540 retirement, uh, prepared for unforeseen events that might pose a risk to their finances and wellbeing.

00:05:11.760 Uh, it could also be being prepared for potential medical conditions and problems that come up in

00:05:18.000 your physical health. Basically any aspect of your life where something could go wrong, which is

00:05:22.780 everywhere. It's your responsibility to be prepared for those events and those potential threats that

00:05:29.600 could, uh, expose some vulnerability in your plan and your approach to life. And again, those you have

00:05:36.740 responsibility for. So what I've done is I've listed out five different ideas and five different ways,

00:05:43.160 as I do most Friday field notes, uh, how you can be more prepared and how you can avoid some

00:05:48.380 catastrophic event or some, uh, dangerous situation, or at least putting yourself in, in a place of

00:05:56.100 vulnerability, which although is quite the buzzword these days, uh, we don't, we don't want to expose

00:06:02.600 vulnerabilities. We want to recognize them. And I'm actually going to talk with you about that today

00:06:06.440 only so we can feel them only so we can shore up those weaknesses. And that's what being prepared is

00:06:11.820 all about. It's about acknowledging your short, your, your shortcomings, your weaknesses, uh, the

00:06:17.000 areas of potential threat, and then resolving them so that you can live a more fulfilling, more

00:06:22.080 sustainable, more fulfilled life for yourself and those under your care. So I'll jump right into

00:06:28.580 the five points that I had for you today. And hopefully this will make some sense. And hopefully

00:06:34.860 you'll take these five ideas into your life and be more prepared, uh, in, in regards to what you can

00:06:41.340 do to protect yourself and others. So the first one is accepting your role. Now I've talked about this

00:06:46.360 at length, that it's a man's job to be a protector, a provider, and a presider. It's very,

00:06:51.680 very important that we acknowledge and accept that as our role, because if we don't, and we

00:06:58.820 anticipate or hope that somebody else will do it for us, we put ourselves in an inferior position.

00:07:04.900 It's never a good idea. And it's not even a strategy to hope and pray that things are going

00:07:09.100 to work out the way that you would like them to. If we don't accept that responsibility, if we don't

00:07:15.320 realize that it is our job to do these things, then we are going to find ourselves in a position

00:07:21.000 that's less advantageous. And of course, uh, potentially dangerous and catastrophic to our

00:07:25.760 own wellbeing. So I realized that there's a lot of guys out there who don't fully want to accept

00:07:32.740 responsibility, uh, because there's a lot of reasons. I think a lot of guys have been led to

00:07:40.080 believe just in modern society that somehow they have been mocked and dismissed and ridiculed. And

00:07:46.360 they're, they're tired of that to a degree. And so they've decided to disengage altogether.

00:07:51.120 That's not a healthy approach to life. It's definitely not a, an approach that's going to

00:07:55.800 be fulfilling or rewarding or profitable for you. Uh, and I think it's a, it's an immature way to look

00:08:03.460 at things just because somebody may not appreciate entirely what it is you're doing. Doesn't mean that

00:08:08.600 you get to absolve yourself of the responsibility of doing it. Now you have to make decisions in your life

00:08:13.140 and you have to decide what's worth fighting for and what battles you're going to engage in,

00:08:17.340 which we've talked about at length, but ultimately you're going to be better off when you fully

00:08:22.960 embrace that you have been biologically designed, not societally constructed, but biologically designed

00:08:31.060 to protect yourself, your loved ones, your family, your friends, and those who are unable to protect

00:08:37.440 themselves that you have been biologically designed and hardwired to provide not only financially,

00:08:43.640 but provide the resources, the raw resources that you and your family and community members need to

00:08:49.820 thrive and to preside, to lead effectively. And the skillsets that you have, the masculine

00:08:56.140 characteristics and traits like strength and grit and, uh, emotional maturity and mental fortitude,

00:09:04.180 your ability to be decisive, your ability to take risks inherent as being a man are,

00:09:10.840 are a great qualifier for you presiding for you leading. And the sooner that we accept that,

00:09:17.560 the sooner we embrace that, uh, the more fully that we attempt to step into those roles,

00:09:22.900 the more fulfilled you're going to be. And ultimately you're going to realize that it is

00:09:26.700 your responsibility and it is your job to be prepared for financial challenges, health challenges,

00:09:33.840 challenges that may come up in the family, physical threats or altercations. Uh, for me,

00:09:39.400 when it comes to being here in Maine, the, the level of snow, I know that we're going to get is

00:09:43.880 being prepared for the winter and what threats that, that poses to me and my family safety.

00:09:50.420 So I have fully accepted that role. Now my family has a part to play. My wife certainly has some

00:09:56.920 responsibility in this, but ultimately the buck stops with me. And I feel like if I recognize that,

00:10:03.120 I acknowledge that I embrace that, then we're going to be more adequately prepared.

00:10:07.480 Number two is just realizing and anticipating that adversity is going to come up, that there

00:10:13.280 are going to be challenges and that you can't fully escape them. You can't fully recognize or

00:10:17.900 identify what those things are going to be ahead of time either. But if you acknowledge that adversity

00:10:22.520 is going to happen, you acknowledge that there is going to be trials and, and, and challenges,

00:10:27.540 and you try to anticipate what those things actually might be, then you set yourself up in a better

00:10:33.460 position to deal with the things that may actually come up. So I've been dealing with, uh,

00:10:39.740 getting the heating system up and running in our house. I've been dealing with just in case the power

00:10:43.880 goes out and it has been known to go out around here that we have a backup generator. So our power

00:10:49.140 stays on and we can continue to get heat and water in the house. Um, you know, anticipating the

00:10:55.060 fact that I'm going to have to shovel off the driveways, uh, not only with a hand shovel,

00:10:59.440 but either a snowblower or a tractor or a plow, uh, which I have invested in because I realized

00:11:05.260 those are potential threats. I know a lot of guys are hesitant to invest in making sure they're

00:11:12.040 prepared, whether it's the tools, like I just shared with you, because you're in a situation where

00:11:15.580 it may snow and you need to protect yourself that way or food storage or investing for retirement

00:11:20.880 in the future. They're worried about investing those assets because they don't think that they'll

00:11:25.640 ever need to address them or that they're invincible, that they don't have to worry about,

00:11:30.640 uh, taking care of their health or even insurance because they're never going to get sick or injured

00:11:35.420 or hurt. And of course we know that this is an asinine thought, but we have this weird thing.

00:11:41.000 And I think it's, I think it's innately in men, maybe more generally in men that we were invincible

00:11:47.620 and we overestimate our abilities to keep ourselves and others safe. Did a great podcast earlier in

00:11:53.980 the week with James Yeager. Uh, and the quote that I used for the title of the podcast was we don't

00:11:59.180 rise to the level of our expectations. We fall to the level of our training. Well, we also fall to

00:12:04.020 the level of our preparation. And if you're not prepared for that rainy day, then you're going to

00:12:09.020 find yourself in a bad situation. And hopefully somebody else will be around to help you, to save you,

00:12:13.940 to rescue you. But do you want to rely on that? Of course you don't. So start thinking about in

00:12:18.720 your environment, what situations may come up. And as you begin to anticipate these, you're naturally

00:12:24.940 and inevitably going to start working plans in place to keep yourself from being in that position

00:12:30.820 of wanting when the day of reckoning comes the third component. And I think this will help us more

00:12:37.620 fully anticipate the adversity that's going to come up is that you have to, uh, recognize

00:12:43.820 or acknowledge authority. All right. There are authorities on the subject of the issues

00:12:50.300 that you're going to be dealing with, whether it's financially related, whether it's health

00:12:54.420 related, whether it's environmentally related, like we're dealing with the snow here. Uh, there

00:13:00.000 are authorities. There are people who have gone through this before. There are people who

00:13:04.140 are experts in the subject. And sometimes we, as men don't want to look to those experts because

00:13:09.500 we think that that may pose a risk to our fragile ego. Well, the greater risk is not to our ego.

00:13:15.720 The greater risk is that adversity that we're, we're potentially going to face. If we don't

00:13:21.140 acknowledge that there are authorities on the subject. So when somebody who's an authority speaks

00:13:26.480 to you about, uh, improving your situation, uh, keeping yourself protected and safe. And those

00:13:33.220 that you have an obligation for, you probably ought to be quiet and listen, acknowledge that

00:13:38.760 authority, uh, recognize it, do what that authority says. And you're going to put yourself in a better

00:13:44.980 position. Again, we have this tendency of overestimating our own abilities or underestimating

00:13:50.940 what might actually happen to us. And because we do that, we have a false sense of expectations

00:13:56.680 around what could potentially happen to us. So we have to learn as men to drop the ego,

00:14:03.620 drop the arrogance, drop the desire to be right all the time and to know everything and recognize

00:14:09.460 that there's other people who know more about you and I about subjects than we do. And it's okay that

00:14:15.620 we acknowledge those people. In fact, the more that we acknowledge those people, the more that

00:14:19.200 we position ourselves for winning, for success, for thriving and overcoming the, uh, the dangers

00:14:26.200 that we will inevitably faces as humans. So what I would challenge you to do when it comes to this

00:14:31.280 is look around in your own life and try to, try to figure out where there are some weaknesses and who

00:14:40.300 are the authorities regarding those weaknesses that you could reach out to who in your circle could

00:14:45.720 help you with, uh, the physical environment, who in your circle can help you with your finances, who in

00:14:51.140 your circle is the healthiest individual who will help you maintain or, or stay on track

00:14:56.120 or get your health back in order. Who are these people? These are the individuals that you need

00:15:01.280 to have in your inner circle. And I've got all of these checked off because I recognize that there's

00:15:06.440 people who know more than I do. I want to put myself in the best position. We don't know what we

00:15:11.340 don't know. And unless you're surrounding yourself with people who do know you're going to find

00:15:15.820 yourself in a bad way, acknowledge authority. Number four, don't waste time. I mean, we, when,

00:15:22.860 when the sun is shining, it's easy to think that everything's good and everything's wonderful and

00:15:27.960 nothing's ever going to happen. And we can coast and we can rest and we can take it easy. And if you

00:15:33.180 do that, then you have all of this time, which is a finite resource. You have all of this time that

00:15:39.380 you have, have frittered away that you've completely wasted. And that time could have been

00:15:45.800 used to protect yourself, to build up reserves, to save and invest money, to be exercising, to eat

00:15:52.360 right, to invest in the equipment that you need to keep yourself and your family safe. Don't waste

00:15:58.060 time. The best thing I've done with regards to not wasting time is that I have, and I've showed you

00:16:03.920 guys this before in some of the videos is I have these field notes that I keep everywhere. And I've

00:16:09.080 got over on this other desk, my battle planner every single day without fail. And every single

00:16:15.100 afternoon, I'm going through that battle planner and I'm looking at what needs to be done. I'm looking

00:16:21.420 at the priority of things. I'm looking at what my biggest accomplishments for the day will be.

00:16:25.720 I'm going through at the end of the day and recapping and seeing where I fell short, seeing what I got

00:16:30.260 done, seeing what I didn't get done so that I can be more effective the next day. Having a plan in

00:16:35.960 place will help you to be more efficient and know exactly what needs to be done. Sometimes men who

00:16:42.260 seem to waste more time than others, it's because they don't have a plan. They have no strategy or

00:16:48.420 system in place. And sometimes they don't even know what they need to do because they've got all

00:16:52.380 these ideas and things that need to get done bouncing around their brain, but they never

00:16:55.700 crystallize it by writing it down in a plan. And then when they don't know what to do,

00:17:01.060 they kind of think around and dink around and, and waste time when all they really had to do was

00:17:05.840 if they would have done some planning is look in their list and say, okay, now this is next. This

00:17:09.600 is next. This is next. This is next. And not only is it going to help you be more prepared for these

00:17:14.480 inevitable, if I can say that inevitable life experiences, but you're just going to feel better

00:17:21.540 about yourself. You're going to be more rewarded and more fulfilled. And ultimately you're going

00:17:25.740 to develop more confidence. One of the biggest questions I get from the guys inside of the

00:17:30.360 Facebook group and iron council is how, how they can build and develop confidence. We'll do things

00:17:38.180 with your life that you'd be confident about. If you're wasting more time than you need, you're not

00:17:42.700 going to be confident about that. And why should you be? You shouldn't, you shouldn't be satisfied

00:17:47.280 with wasting time. So if you feel like you're down or you don't have this level of confidence,

00:17:52.140 maybe you're just killing too much time. Maybe you don't have a plan or a purpose or direction

00:17:56.880 or a focus or clarity on what needs to be done. So eliminate the wasting of time by having a plan,

00:18:03.560 crystallizing what needs to be done, documenting it, working the plan, reviewing the plan, and then

00:18:08.820 doing it over and over and over again, every single day. That's how you avoid wasting time.

00:18:13.820 And the fifth component that I would share with you today is, is to kill procrastination.

00:18:19.920 All right. We, we have a tendency, of course, some more than others to procrastinate, to put things

00:18:25.540 off, to think that we have more time than we really do. You know, I thought about my life at age 38.

00:18:33.080 And I think about my kids who are 11, nine, six, and three. And in it, you see, you think you have so

00:18:40.200 much time, but then looking back, it's amazing how time, how quickly it goes. I mean, my 11 year old,

00:18:47.040 11 years is really, really strange to think about. I've been married for 15 years. We've been together

00:18:54.240 for 17. I mean, we're almost 20 years. I've been out of high school for 20 years. Time flies and goes

00:18:59.600 so fast and we have less time than we think. And when, when, when we procrastinate and put things off

00:19:06.040 and believe that we have time to do it tomorrow or the next day or the next day, what happens is we

00:19:11.640 get caught with our pants down. We get surprised, we get caught off guard. And of course, you know,

00:19:17.380 that's, that's at direct odds with our ability to protect, provide, preside, to be the men that

00:19:23.660 we're capable of becoming. So a lot of guys ask, how do you get rid of procrastination? How do you

00:19:29.160 kill that? How do you limit procrastination? Again, it comes back down to having a plan.

00:19:33.580 If you have a plan in place and you know what you need to do, you're going to be less likely to

00:19:39.580 procrastinate. And also if you're excited about what you're doing, if you found meaning and purpose in

00:19:44.340 what you're doing, if you weren't excited about it, you weren't hopped up on it. Yeah. I mean,

00:19:48.480 of course, you're not going to, you're not going to be engaged and anxious to do it. And of course,

00:19:52.900 there's days where I feel like, you know, maybe I don't want to podcast or I don't want to send out

00:19:58.540 emails or do a social media post or any number of things that I need to do on a daily basis.

00:20:03.320 But I see my tasks, even the things that may be menial or seemingly insignificant. I see it in

00:20:10.600 the grand scheme of things, which is ultimately for me being the most capable husband, father,

00:20:17.580 community leader, leader of my business, friend, mentor, just man in general that I can be. And

00:20:26.260 because I can see all of the activities I do on a daily basis in the framework of the greater man that

00:20:31.300 I want to become, I am motivated. I am excited. And I have the discipline to go through and commit

00:20:37.320 and follow through on the things that I said I would do. So that's it guys. We can't not be prepared

00:20:44.400 and we can't hope and pray. That's not a plan. And we can't rely on other people to do it. Although

00:20:50.220 there may be somebody there who is willing to do it, who may rescue you. If you find yourself in a bad

00:20:55.200 situation, it's not a great strategy. In fact, it's an inferior strategy and it's one that will

00:21:01.080 expose you and the people you love to all kinds of financial, physical, mental, emotional, and

00:21:07.480 spiritual threat. And your job is to be the sentinel, to be the protector, the guardian against 0.89

00:21:14.600 those threats to keep your family safe. There's a quote and I, I'm going to butcher it, but he says,

00:21:21.440 the real man gains renown by standing between, uh, between the blows of fate and destruction

00:21:32.160 with equanimity. I butchered that. I know you can look it up because it's a great quote. And that's

00:21:38.460 your job. Your job is to stand between the blows of fate and ultimate destruction for the, for your

00:21:45.580 family and the people you care about with equanimity, which is confidence, clarity, focus,

00:21:53.080 boldness, courage, and all of those things can be fostered through these five steps. When it comes

00:21:58.740 to preparing yourself, your family, your loved ones, and those are who are incapable of fending for

00:22:03.820 themselves. Again, as a recap, number one, accept your role as the protector, the provider, the presider.

00:22:09.800 Number two is to anticipate the adversities that are going to come up, recognize what they are,

00:22:15.420 think about what they may be ahead of time. So you can prepare yourself. Number three is to

00:22:19.740 acknowledge that there is authority on these subjects, recognize the authority, do what the

00:22:24.500 authority says so that you can position yourself in a better, in a better spot. Number four, do not

00:22:29.560 waste time, have a plan, make a battle plan or a daily plan, whatever tool you want to use and don't

00:22:35.180 waste that time. And number five is kill that level of procrastination that all of us have a tendency

00:22:40.940 of falling into recognize that now's the time. There's no better time than doing it right now.

00:22:48.700 And even if it's something you don't want to do, I get it. Do it anyways, because it's important

00:22:54.420 because that's what's required of you as a man. Anyways, guys, I hope that helps. Please connect

00:23:00.820 with me. Let me know what you're doing in your own life to keep yourself prepared. Let me know how

00:23:06.680 you're preparing yourself. Let me know how you're implementing these five steps in order to be more

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00:23:28.380 at Ryan Mickler. My last name is spelled M I C H L E R. So I'll go ahead and leave you there

00:23:34.580 for the weekend. Have a great weekend. Remember it is your responsibility to protect, provide,

00:23:40.420 preside, and ultimately to prepare for the things that may come up. We'll be back on Tuesday for

00:23:45.580 another great interview. So make sure you subscribe to the show, subscribe to YouTube, connect with me

00:23:49.940 on Twitter and Instagram. And I just want to thank you for being in this battle to reclaim and restore

00:23:54.720 masculinity. We need it now more than ever. And please enlist yourself and other men into this

00:24:01.180 battle. All right, guys, get out there, take action, become the man you are meant to be.

00:24:06.020 Thank you for listening to the order of man podcast. You're ready to take charge of your life

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Prepare or Die ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

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