Purpose, Passion, and a Plan ｜ FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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Summary
In this episode of Field Notes, Ryan talks about the importance of being a man of action, and why you should have a purpose in life. He also talks about M42 Adventures, a group of men who are going to be hunting in South Africa in the fall.
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We don't want an easy life, as Bruce Lee would say.
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We pray for the strength to endure a more difficult one.
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And on the opposite end of the spectrum, you have people like David Goggins and other types
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of people who say, you just got to make life as hard as possible.
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It has to have purpose behind it, a reason for doing what it is you're doing.
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So a couple of questions that you can be asking yourself is number one, ask your skill on
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You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, and boldly chart your own path.
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When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, every time.
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You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong.
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This is who you will become at the end of the day.
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And after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
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Gentlemen, welcome to the Order of Man podcast.
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I'm your host and the founder of this movement, and I'm glad you're tuning in.
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Guys, I'm going to get into this conversation quickly, but before I do, I want to mention
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I just sat down with a friend of mine who helped me co-found, and we co-founded together, an
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There are so many men who reach out to me, and they ask about getting involved in hunting
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or other adventures that they've seen me participate in.
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And I thought that I would share some resources with you.
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We've got an African hunt coming up this fall, and I would love for you to be there on that
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hunt with me, with Rick, Trimmer, and with the other guys that are coming out, including
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And so one thing that we've done is we did a podcast.
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Rick and I did a podcast together with Paul, who is the owner of the ranch that we're going
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to be hunting in South Africa later in the fall.
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And we spent about an hour talking about the intricacies and the ins and outs and all the
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details and the safety and what animals we'll be seeing and what other activities that we'll
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Not only are we going to be hunting these African animals, but we're also going to do a tour
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We're actually going to go to an orphanage and donate some of the food that we've been hunting
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And then we also have a helicopter ride included in it.
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So if you're looking for the perfect package of hunting with good people and getting to
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see South Africa, including the safari, the orphanage, the helicopter ride, and everything
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else that we've included, but you're like wondering how much is it?
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What's the safety, like all of the details, then what I want you to do is go to m42adventures.com
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And you'll be able to listen to that podcast and learn a little bit more.
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And then you can email me, ryan at orderofman.com.
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If you have any additional questions, I will personally respond to each and every one of those
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And then email me if you have questions, dates, pricing, all that sort of thing at
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We have limited spots there with only two weeks of hunting to one week sessions.
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So you pick the first or the second week again, m42adventures.com slash Africa, and
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All right, guys, with that said, I want to tie into what I just shared with you with
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the subject of today's conversation, and that is purpose, passion, and a plan.
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These are three key factors that you need to live a fulfilling life.
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I was doing a little bit of research as I prepared for this conversation, and I pulled
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This is called the State of the Global Workplace, and this was for 2022.
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I imagine the numbers are not any better, probably worse.
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And here's what it says, just to pull a few quotes out of here.
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60% of people reported being emotionally detached at work and 19% as being miserable.
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One in five people who are working are miserable, and 60%, so that's significant as well, are emotionally
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Only 33% reported feeling engaged, and that's lower than what it was in 2020.
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In the U.S. specifically, 50% of workers reported feeling stressed at their jobs on a daily basis.
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41% as being worried, 22% as sad, and 18% as angry.
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Now, we as men talk a lot about not allowing emotions to dictate our actions, but that's
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We certainly feel and experience a broad spectrum and array of happiness and sad and mad and joyful
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And I imagine that if you're listening to this podcast, as I have been in the past, that you might
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For every three guys, two of you are emotionally detached at work, and 19% or 20% roughly are miserable.
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None of this leads to the kind of life that we've been talking about for the past nine
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I want you to have pride and satisfaction in your work and in your life.
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Odds are you spend between nine and 12 hours a day at work for five to six hours, excuse me,
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So you're spending a significant, in fact, the overwhelming majority of your waking hours
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So if that's the case, then I would hope that we would try to find something that's engaging
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mentally and physically and emotionally stimulating and gives us a deep sense of satisfaction
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because we're fulfilled in the work that we're doing.
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Now, that's not to say that life is always going to be easy or that our work just because
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It's the purpose that allows you to get through those challenging and difficult times.
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There are certain days where I don't feel like showing up.
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I don't feel like stepping into whatever role that I'm trying to step into.
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And yet I do it because I can connect the work with the purpose and I can connect it
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And if you're not feeling that, then please listen to this formula and most importantly,
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Guys, your life as a man is supposed to be challenging.
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Sometimes I will hear guys say, I just want to be happy.
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And maybe we're debating semantics a little bit here so we can talk about this.
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But when I hear happy, I think of ignorant bliss, you know, sitting on the beach somewhere,
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sipping Mai Tais and, you know, just living life free of concern or worry.
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And I'm not actually interested in a life like that.
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I think it'd be very fun for a couple hours, maybe a couple days at most, and then I'm ready
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And I think most men can probably relate with that.
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As Bruce Lee would say, we pray for the strength to endure a more difficult one.
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And on the opposite end of the spectrum, you have people like David Goggins and other types
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of people who say, you just got to make life as hard as possible.
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I don't agree with that either, but you're not supposed to be miserable.
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So if Goggins and these other people are saying, hey, there's purpose in being uncomfortable,
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But life is not meant to just beat you up physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
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So a couple of questions that you can be asking yourself is number one, ask your scale on a
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scale from one to 10, do you have purpose in your life?
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And I don't care if you're an evolutionist, you're a creationist, it doesn't matter to me,
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but man, if you can't find what your purpose is in life, why you're here, for me, I'm spiritually
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And so I know that I have been called to be here, to show up powerfully, not that I'm
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I always fall short and I've been very open about that, but I'm here to show up powerfully
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And so I'm constantly trying to learn and put myself out there in uncomfortable situations
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and do new experiences like, for example, the Africa hunt I was talking about, because I
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think that's going to help me be the best man that I can possibly be so I can show up
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fully for my kids, my girlfriend, you guys who are listening, members of the Iron Council,
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I want to show up powerfully and fully for these people.
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Now, inevitably, life is going to present its fair share of challenges, and they are a challenge,
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But even in those moments of difficult times, I find the sense of purpose.
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And when times are challenging and difficult, I can drive through because I'm keenly aware
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So ask yourself, is the work you're doing now, does it feel like a job, or does it feel
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like it has some deep-seated sense of purpose behind it?
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And if you're figuring that you're on the side of no purpose, then what would bring you
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What experiences have you had in life that feel like injustices?
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What experiences do you have that make you uniquely qualified to address certain issues
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Guys, if we can begin to answer these questions and spend time on a daily basis thinking about
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the answers to these questions, then we're more likely to drive ourselves towards that
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You're not going to listen to this podcast and think, oh, man, Ryan was so right.
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And so tomorrow you wake up, and all of a sudden you find purpose.
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I started another podcast, which led to this podcast.
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I did it in my spare time as I was doing my other podcast, and gradually it grew into
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something very, very significant and powerful for me.
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But that only happened because I was willing to acknowledge that I wasn't fulfilled in what
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I was doing, even though I was making great money and providing for my family.
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And I knew that there were other things I was interested in, which leads me to my next
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Now, there's a lot of arguments about following your passion and that should that be what you
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But what I would suggest to you is that there's a lot of people making a lot of money doing
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things that maybe they're not so passionate about, or maybe they are, but there's so many
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There's so many different ways to provide for yourself and your family and your loved ones.
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And really, if you're going to pick one of those ways, it probably ought to be something
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The adage is, if you do something you love, you'll never have to work another day in your
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And while it's cute and fluffy, it's kind of reality.
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You know, a lot of times people believe that I'm just dinking around on social media.
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That's a verbatim quote, dinking around on social media.
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I mean, it's part of what I do, but I'm very intentional and deliberate about it, but I'm
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I want to give you the help and the resources and tools that you can use that I have used
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That's not to say that I have everything figured out.
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Those of you who have been listening for any amount of time are keenly aware of my
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There was a guy on Instagram, a guy or a girl, I don't know.
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It's an anonymous account today talking about how I'm hypocritical and I'm prideful and all
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And look, there's times in the past where I have failed to live up to the expectation
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that I had for myself, just like all of us, but I'm trying to be real about that.
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And I'm trying to share things honestly and openly about things that work and even things
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It's not fun to talk with you about my struggles with alcohol abuse.
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It's not fun to talk about my battles and shortcomings within my failed marriage.
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And I do because I'm passionate about it because I don't want you to fall into the same
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And if I have things that you need to be aware of, then I have, at least I believe I have
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And if I have things that I think will help, then I have a moral obligation to share those
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So my question for you when it comes to passion is, what are you doing when time is moving
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What are you doing that people are constantly asking you for advice on?
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Especially if you don't think it's a superpower, but people come to you and say, hey, how do
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So that's a pretty good indicator that you know something or you're qualified in a way that
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Now, a lot of the times people will say, well, Ryan, like, so how do I find it?
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And this is one thing a lot of guys screw up is they think, like, for example, if I invited
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you on a hunt, we talked a lot about that African hunt with M42 Adventures.
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If I invited you on a hunt, you might say to me, yeah, I mean, I've been interested in
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Sometimes people say, because I'm not going to be able to commit that way.
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Well, I'm not asking you to commit to anything other than going on an experience.
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And that's what I did when I very first started hunting.
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I didn't commit to being a lifelong hunter, as I would describe myself now.
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And then I decided through that action that this is something I'm very passionate about.
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Or he sends down a dove for you to see and sends you a sign and says, this is now your
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And then actually be putting those things into practice.
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And before you know it, you're going to find yourself in a position where you're extremely
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passionate about the bulk of the time that you're spending.
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How are you going to make this purpose or this passion come to fruition?
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They don't spend any amount of time thinking about it.
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And what I need you to do is to actually come up with a plan.
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Now, I can give you what I have found to be the best use or the best tool for a plan.
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And I can tell you that every time I follow this to the T, it works.
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And every time I fail to follow this, then I detract and I get myself into trouble.
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If you're interested in this, you can go to the store, store.orderman.com,
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and you can pick up the 12-week battle planner.
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And we have all the videos, instruction, and everything else.
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I don't know other programs, but I do know this.
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And so that's why I talk about the 12-week battle plan.
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Also, there's a free resource that I have available to you.
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If you go to orderofman.com slash battle plan, that's going to help you navigate and map out
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an actual plan over 30 days that will help you accomplish your personal and professional goals,
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your goals with regards to physical fitness, with family, with faith, with friends, with money,
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And we lay out through a series of emails everything that you're going to need to be doing
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on a daily basis in order to build that plan over 30 days.
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The only question then remains, are you going to execute?
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And if you make it, you won't really know how to replicate it at future points in your life.
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I want you to have joy and satisfaction in your personal and professional life.
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And the best way that I found is this three-part trifecta of fulfillment.
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Knowing that God has a reason for me being here.
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If I'm not passionate, I'm going to do something else.
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And the last is making a plan so that I can move from wherever I am.
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The over 50% of people who are stressed and worried and sad and angry about their jobs.
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The people I want to serve will lead a better life.
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You want the dates, the pricing, everything else.
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And including, I think we've got 20, 25 other people signed up right now.
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Then you can go to, or you can email me at ryan at order of man.com.
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We're going to go do some charitable work with an orphanage.
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And then you have the option to hunt if that's something you're interested in as well.
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We'll be back next week for a great interview with a UFC future.
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I should say future UFC Hall of Famer for sure.
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And somebody that you're going to be very, very excited to hear from.
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Until then, go out there, take action, and become the man you are meant to be.
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Thank you for listening to the Order of Man podcast.
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You're ready to take charge of your life and be more of the man you were meant to be.
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